1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,480 Speaker 1: The Nicky Glaser podcast. 2 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:08,480 Speaker 2: Glaser Post. 3 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 3: Here's Nikki. Hello, here I am, It's Sneakey Glaser Podcast. 4 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 3: My my mic was up too much. Oh wait, I'm 5 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 3: trying to down. Sorry that was for me. My my 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 3: headphones are too loud. Sorry I didn't appear on Scream 7 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:26,759 Speaker 3: when that was happening. Jump Scare. It's the show. Welcome, 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 3: Anya and Brian and Noah are all here, and we're 9 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 3: still all in California. And then Noah is still in 10 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 3: New York. Yeah, my god, you've been there so long. 11 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 3: Why are you again? I was like realized the other day. 12 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:40,600 Speaker 3: I don't know why exactly you're there. 13 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 4: Well, I originally came here for Anya's wedding, and then 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:48,199 Speaker 4: at the same time I was helping my dad. He 15 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 4: had to move and I'm in his new house right now, 16 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:52,880 Speaker 4: like from a chair to the couch or something. 17 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 3: No. 18 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: No, it's just like our parents, A good daughter. 19 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 3: Holding his hand, walking him along. Yeah. 20 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 4: No, he has like so much crap and I don't know. 21 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 3: I just stayed to help me. I think it was 22 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 3: a mistake though. Nice. It's really my parents know that 23 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 3: I'm not gonna do I'll hire I will pay money 24 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 3: to hire people to do that, but I can't. That's 25 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 3: what I should have done. I should I should have 26 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 3: done that. You're right, so in that respect, you do 27 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 3: wish that you would have just like spent some coin 28 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 3: to have someone else do it. 29 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 4: Yes, because the amount of screaming at me that happened 30 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 4: was just inappropriate. 31 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, throwing out did you throw out things that he wanted? 32 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 3: Or were you no? 33 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 4: Like he he yelled at me and then I just 34 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 4: gave up on it even yelled great time for clearing 35 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 4: He's he's very like my dad is very stubborn, and 36 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,320 Speaker 4: I realize if I come visit like annually, he'll just 37 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 4: get more and more stubborn as the years go by. 38 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 4: And there was no like changing anything. Everything that went 39 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 4: from one house had to go into the next house 40 00:01:57,760 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 4: in the same way and the same quant. 41 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 3: I'm guessing he's moving because he has to, because this 42 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 3: guy doesn't like change, so he's being forced to move. No, 43 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 3: did he want He's not. He wanted to. 44 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 4: Oh, he wants more space so that he can accumulate 45 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:13,519 Speaker 4: more crowd. 46 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,239 Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, some. 47 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,640 Speaker 6: Sort of film moving situation or like I remember in 48 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,239 Speaker 6: college and even all the way up when I was 49 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 6: living in New York. It was like asking a friend 50 00:02:26,919 --> 00:02:29,680 Speaker 6: to help you move or like uh, and then you 51 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 6: give them pizza and you have a fucking pizza party. 52 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 6: And then I learned like, it's like two hundred and 53 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 6: fifty dollars to pay professional movers to move shit for you. 54 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 6: I mean, how much would it cost a task grabit 55 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 6: to have that to get that shit done for you? 56 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 2: And then it's it's like so little. 57 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 6: Like when I was like twenty two years old, I 58 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 6: was like, it must cost five thousand dollars to have 59 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 6: movers come and help you move things, and it's like, no, 60 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 6: it's not. 61 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 2: It's like two hundred dollars. 62 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 3: It's like the hotel mini bar. There's like always a 63 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 3: meme about like who grew up in a time where 64 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 3: you thought, if you like ate a couple things, you 65 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 3: would bankrupt your family and end up on the streets. 66 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 3: And I still have that anxiety of like if I 67 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 3: try to move things around to put like a hummus in, 68 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 3: I'm like the censors will know and I Am going 69 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 3: to be in a shelter tomorrow because I moved to 70 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 3: Jack Daniel's mini bottle. Yeah, there's all these things that 71 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 3: we'd like attribute, it's going to be so much we 72 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 3: don't even like check. Yeah, it's moving as hell. Listen, 73 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 3: these are all life lessons. You'll do it right, Christian, 74 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 3: move into your place. 75 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. 76 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 3: But he This is what I love about my boyfriend. 77 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 3: There are like whenever, whenever I'm like, oh, you know, 78 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 3: is this going to be the right thing forever for us, 79 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 3: I'm like, I have a boyfriend who would never ask 80 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 3: me to lift a finger to help him in any way, 81 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 3: Like he does everything himself and hates to put me 82 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 3: out in any way. Which I'm very much like that 83 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 3: too with him, Like I don't like to put him out, 84 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 3: but he protects me from bullshit because he knows that 85 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 3: that is such an anxiety for me. Of like, you know, 86 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 3: if we ever moved into a house together, he's going 87 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 3: to deal with the guy to come over and fix 88 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 3: our dishwasher. He's going to deal with the guy like 89 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 3: there's I'll never have to do anything that's like a 90 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 3: solid agreement between us. Is like I get stressed out 91 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 3: by those things. He protects me from them, and then 92 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 3: I don't know really what I do for him, but 93 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:23,039 Speaker 3: I make him laugh. I I have to like reassess 94 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 3: what I offer my friend, I think, because he really 95 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 3: does do a lot for me. And the other night, God, 96 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 3: there was something. There's some meme I sent him. Let 97 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 3: me just look it up because it was so cute. Oh, 98 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 3: I also want to get to this letter I got 99 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 3: from a bestie. 100 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:38,359 Speaker 2: Last night. 101 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 3: I was at the laugh Factory and oh, a bestie. 102 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 3: I was on my way there. I was doing three 103 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 3: sets and I was looking at my phone in a 104 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:47,840 Speaker 3: stoplight and a bestie wrote me and was like, I'm 105 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 3: at the laugh Factory. I'm going to see you. I 106 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 3: have a letter for you. It's okay if I can't 107 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 3: give it to you, but I'm here. And I was like, oh, fine, 108 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 3: just go to the bathroom and find me because you'll 109 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 3: see me walk in. It's very it's a conspicuous like 110 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 3: you have to be kind of conspicuous there because there's 111 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:04,039 Speaker 3: no where to like really hide when you enter. And 112 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 3: so when I got there, she was in the bathroom 113 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 3: waiting for not waiting for me, but she was just 114 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 3: in the bathroom, I think, And then I opened the 115 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 3: I went into the bathroom. I think she first went 116 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 3: in there because she had anxiety about crowd work, because 117 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 3: the guy on stage at the time was doing crowd work. 118 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 3: Because then my friend Jermaine Fowler, another comedian, said there 119 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 3: was a girl in the bathroom hiding from CrowdWork, and 120 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 3: then you came in and I heard you walk into 121 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 3: the bathroom and her go, oh my god. So she 122 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 3: like started crying as soon as I walked in. She 123 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 3: was washing her hands and she just didn't expect to 124 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 3: see me. And she was wearing a Nikki Glazer podcast 125 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 3: t shirt and she's like and her eyes were welling up, 126 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 3: and she was so cute and so sweet, and I 127 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 3: just like, I was just so freaking touched. And then 128 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 3: she gave me a letter and I said that I 129 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 3: would read it, and I haven't yet, and now I'm 130 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 3: reading it. Okay, So the meme that I sent, I 131 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 3: sent him a couple of things that are really funny 132 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 3: that because Chris has a segment on his podcast called 133 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 3: the Best Thing I Saw Yesterday, and they all just 134 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 3: share like memes or tweets or something that they saw 135 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 3: on the internet or even if they saw their real lives. 136 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 3: And I sent He sometimes reads one that I sent him, 137 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:05,840 Speaker 3: and one is a bumpersigre. I don't know if you 138 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 3: guys saw it was like on the internet a lot 139 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 3: the past couple of days, and it's a bumper secret 140 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 3: that says Helen Keller Denier. And then like one of 141 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 3: those non smoking signs that has like a red circle 142 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 3: with a cross, and that cross it says, ain't no way. 143 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 1: I saw that in skipttastic because I didn't get it, 144 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 1: and I still don't get it. I don't understand the question, 145 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: and I won't respond to it. 146 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 3: Okay, R Bryan, would you like to explain it? Then, 147 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 3: as I look for this other. 148 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 6: Tweet, I believe the way I interpret this piece of 149 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 6: art is that people are saying that there's an imaginary 150 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 6: group of people who deny that Helen Keller could have 151 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 6: possibly been deaf, dumb, and blind and still been alive 152 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 6: and wrote things. And then the basically the slogan is 153 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 6: a is what would be a slogan for those people? 154 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 6: Ain't no way that she could have done all those 155 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 6: things and been deaf, done blind. She was faking that. 156 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,719 Speaker 6: Being deaf, dumb, and blind just a more succinct way to. 157 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 3: Say that it's not real. There's no one that's a 158 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 3: Helen Keller Denier. It's a joke. 159 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 6: Yes, it's like a satirization of people like like Holocaust deniers. 160 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 3: And landers flat earthers. Yeah, yeah, and then okay, here's 161 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 3: the here's the meme. Oh sorry, what was your next question? 162 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry? 163 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 3: You love and I love analyzing. 164 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: Okay, what why the red crossout sign? 165 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 3: Well that I think that's just bad graphics because they're 166 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 3: making fun of people who don't know how to actually 167 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:38,679 Speaker 3: put together because usually all those people moon landing people 168 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 3: flat earthers, they don't really know how to present an 169 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 3: argument in a graph like they usually use, Like they 170 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 3: probably don't have a they don't pay a lot for 171 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 3: good graphics. 172 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 2: They don't have a creative suite on. 173 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 3: Their Yeah, so let me pross. It doesn't even make sense. 174 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: The sign says ain't no way or whatever. 175 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 3: Okay, so the sign says Helen Keller denier and fought 176 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 3: on the bumper cigar and on the side it's a 177 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 3: non smoking sign, and in that non smoking sign says 178 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 3: ain't no way, and it's crossed out. That does not 179 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 3: make sense. It doesn't make sense, but that they're making 180 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:09,440 Speaker 3: fun of people who don't know how to make things. 181 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 6: This isn't funny in that instance, and it ain't no 182 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 6: way is a satirical making fun of flat earthers, moonlighting 183 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,679 Speaker 6: people because they rarely have any evidence. So that person's 184 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 6: argument is. 185 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: Just showing stupid people are Yes. 186 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 2: That's all comedy, isn't it. 187 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's just making fun of people being dumb. 188 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: I feel like there's something either awry with my brain 189 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 1: or other people because to me, this isn't funny at all. 190 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 1: But I want to laugh. 191 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 3: Well, okay, let me just make you laugh about it. Okay. 192 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 3: There's a group of people out there that are like, 193 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 3: join together and they don't believe they're big thing that 194 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 3: they make bumper stickers over, and they get together in 195 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:51,520 Speaker 3: groups and talk about and spread misinformation about is that 196 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 3: Helen Keller is not is faking it? That's really no, 197 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 3: this is it's a joke, satire. It's making fun of 198 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 3: flats like people who believe in this big or like yes, 199 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 3: and so you have something outrageous and then there there 200 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 3: there's their tagline is just this empty phrase of ain't 201 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 3: no way, which the word ain't implies they're kind of 202 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 3: stupid because you don't say ain't unless that it's like, 203 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 3: I mean, you can say ain't all you want, but 204 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 3: you wouldn't say that. If you were like a group 205 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:22,800 Speaker 3: of people coming together to be like, what's our statement, 206 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 3: you would put ain't in it and then crossing out 207 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 3: ain't no way doesn't make any sense. It's just like 208 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,679 Speaker 3: a bad graphic choice. And so it just kind of 209 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:33,840 Speaker 3: hammers up, like, look at how bad this like the 210 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 3: the art is on this. Yes, I remember saying it. 211 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 3: It's like using comic sands almost. So okay, here's the 212 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 3: meme that I was looking for. Yeah, I love this. 213 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 3: It reminds me of my favorite segment on my old 214 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 3: favorite podcast, what was that called? It was with PJ 215 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 3: Vote and uh, another guy from but they used to 216 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,680 Speaker 3: do this thing called yes, yes, no or something in 217 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 3: this remember that and remember that I don't hate what 218 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 3: people say that member that And it was about the 219 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 3: one guy that was like an older man would be 220 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 3: like they would they would he would bring a tweet 221 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 3: that he saw and he would be like, I don't 222 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 3: know what this means, but it has twenty thousand likes 223 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 3: and you know, five thousand retweets and it made no 224 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 3: sense and they would break it down because it would 225 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 3: be some very specific reference and they would like teach 226 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 3: you how to understand meme culture. And it's like it 227 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 3: was interesting. So this one was. 228 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 6: And yeah, and also we got to give a shout 229 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 6: out to Tony Zarit. Then he's the king of this 230 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:32,719 Speaker 6: satirizing meme culture Helen Keller thing. 231 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 3: I'm honestly, he probably did. He's the one that does 232 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:36,960 Speaker 3: the best job of it. Where you go, is this 233 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 3: real or is he? Oftentimes people think he's legit. Tony's 234 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:43,559 Speaker 3: zarat Z a r e t if you want to 235 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 3: follow someone who is like satirizing memes and idiots. Okay, 236 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:50,440 Speaker 3: so this one is the one I was talking about. 237 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 3: It's a it's a body like floating and above it. 238 00:10:54,400 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 3: It says the feminism leaving my body. When my night 239 00:10:57,840 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 3: stand water cup is empty. 240 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: You want your friend to get it? 241 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And that's always what happens. Like when I'm 242 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 3: in bed, I'll just be like, I won't even say 243 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 3: a thing. I'll just be like, oh, I forgot my 244 00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 3: charter in the living room and I don't. And Chris 245 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 3: can be in deep r em sleep and he will 246 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 3: still and he will have worked a twenty four hour 247 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:21,959 Speaker 3: shift like sometimes his and he will still go get 248 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 3: it for me. Even if I've been in laying in 249 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 3: bed all day, like he is always that that's a 250 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 3: very sweet thing about him. 251 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 6: But anyway, creative power, the power of memes is amazing. 252 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 6: I was at your hotel a couple of weeks ago 253 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 6: and we were playing what do you Mean? 254 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 2: The game what do you Mean? 255 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 6: And at first I think all of us were like, 256 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 6: wait a second, this isn't going to be fun, like 257 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 6: these these aren't funny, And then we started playing what 258 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 6: do you Mean? 259 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 2: And then five minutes later we're like, this is fucking hysterical. 260 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 2: Memes are so funny. 261 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,719 Speaker 3: So funny, just a dog looking sideways. Yeah, And then 262 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 3: it's a really fun game. It's called what do you Mean? 263 00:11:57,440 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 3: And it has all these meme pictures and you pick 264 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:01,559 Speaker 3: a picture, and then every person has like a deck 265 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 3: of phrases like that are funny things like when your 266 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 3: boss calls you in and tells you you've been spending 267 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 3: too much time in the bathroom at work or something like. 268 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 3: It has those kinds of things, and then you have 269 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 3: a deck of them, and for every picture that gets 270 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 3: put up, you put the best phrase for that meme, 271 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 3: and then the person who picked the meme picture has 272 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 3: to vote on which one's the funniest. And so you 273 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 3: read all of these in conjunction with the picture which 274 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 3: is being posed on this little it has a little 275 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:30,839 Speaker 3: easel it comes with, and you look at the picture 276 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,320 Speaker 3: and read these things and it's really really funny and 277 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,200 Speaker 3: we had a good time playing it. But uh, okay, 278 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:39,679 Speaker 3: so yeah, last night this girl came and she was 279 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:41,719 Speaker 3: really sweet and she gave me a letter, which we'll 280 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 3: read later because we're gonna do fan thras. But yeah, 281 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 3: I went. Oh I wanted to say. This weekend, Brian 282 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 3: and I hung out with We went to a pool party. 283 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 3: What yeah, we I did something social I saw. I 284 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:01,719 Speaker 3: guess it was like last week. I went and did 285 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 3: a set and Tim Dillon was there, who I'm quite 286 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 3: obsessed with right now. I'm going through a Luis k 287 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 3: slash Tim Dillon, just like obsession where it's like all 288 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 3: I listen to and in his podcast about Lizzo, can 289 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 3: I just give a shout out you guys finish this one, 290 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:20,960 Speaker 3: but then go listen to that one. It's so fucking 291 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 3: funny his take on the Lizo thing. And again he 292 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:26,840 Speaker 3: is like the Tony Zarit person we're talking about he's 293 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 3: like these like mocking meme things, like he's not really 294 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:32,960 Speaker 3: serious when he says that Lizzo needs to become thin 295 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:37,960 Speaker 3: and leave the fatties behind, leave the pigs in the barn, 296 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 3: abandon them. They've turned on you. He's like, his whole 297 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 3: point is that you were the queen of the fatty 298 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 3: fatty boom batties, and he's fat so he can say this, 299 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 3: and so I'm just paraphrasing. I don't believe this. I 300 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 3: don't call people fats. But he says you need to 301 00:13:55,840 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 3: leave them behind, get thin, go on Rogan. He has 302 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 3: this whole pr plan for her that is completely ridiculous 303 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:08,080 Speaker 3: and totally a joke. But when he said leave the 304 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 3: pigs in the barn, and really you need to abandon 305 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 3: the hogs and have first, it's just it's so it's 306 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 3: so harsh that it's so funny because you just go, 307 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:19,680 Speaker 3: this is an insane person, but he's so funny. Anyway, 308 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 3: I ran into him at the improv and he uh, 309 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 3: he was like, Oh, you got great beaches out there 310 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:28,880 Speaker 3: where you're staying. And I was like, oh, you go 311 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 3: to the beach. He's like, yeah, body surf And I 312 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 3: was like let's go to the beach. So we all 313 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 3: we came up with an idea to go meet at 314 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 3: a beach. And then the day came and he was like, 315 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 3: we could either you're doing a text exchange with some 316 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 3: other people and we could either go to the beach 317 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 3: and you could come to my house. And he's right 318 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 3: off a road and it's a long road. And he 319 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,080 Speaker 3: also so he I go, let's go to your house 320 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:57,320 Speaker 3: because I just want to go to and sit by 321 00:14:57,320 --> 00:15:00,200 Speaker 3: your pool. It sounds way more fun. And and then 322 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 3: I got over to his house on Saturday, which I did. 323 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 3: I've gone to Sunday, I've gone to Taylor's with the 324 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:07,200 Speaker 3: night before. I did not want to go get up 325 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 3: and drive an hour to go to a pool party. 326 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 3: I was like, what am I doing? Being this is 327 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 3: like a social thing. What am I doing? 328 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 1: Good for me? 329 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:18,000 Speaker 3: Rest I know good for me? And most people are 330 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 3: like I'd love a pool party, and I'm like exhausted 331 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 3: by it, And but ended up being very, very fun. 332 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 3: I knew it would be as as everything I dread, 333 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 3: and when I got there, every. 334 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 1: Was in Los Angeles. It's a city full of lonely people, 335 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 1: so it's almost like doing service by showing up at 336 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 1: a party because everybody's like dying for a pool in summer. 337 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: And then everyone in la is dying for a friend. 338 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 6: Do you think so? 339 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:50,560 Speaker 1: Yes, it's the loneliest city I've ever lived in. 340 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:52,960 Speaker 2: New York City's lonelier people. 341 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,160 Speaker 1: You walk outside and you're not alone. In New York. 342 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: You're like friends with the bagel guy who's yelling at. 343 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:02,680 Speaker 6: It's so sad because you're surrounded by people and yet 344 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 6: you still feel lonely. 345 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. 346 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 2: I seen the main high maintenance. 347 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 6: Every episode is a characterization of someone in New York 348 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 6: City feeling lonely. 349 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 3: And that's not having a weak guy deliver weed. 350 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 6: And that's your friend, and that's your friend, and you're 351 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 6: going through something and he's the only one that's listening 352 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 6: to your problems. 353 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 3: But in New York, on you. 354 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: Though, there's this I remember living in New York. I've 355 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 1: told this story before. I'll tell it quickly. I was 356 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: there for a couple of weeks and I was walking 357 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 1: down the street and there was an old man shuffling 358 00:16:30,920 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: down the street trying to get his arm into his 359 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 1: sleeve of his coat, and he was hunched over and 360 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 1: I'm just walking beside him for like ten or twenty paces, 361 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 1: and I just grabbed his coat and put it on 362 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: his arm. I never would do that anywhere else, but 363 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 1: in New York City because we're all together, crammed together, 364 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: you have this odd sense that we're all a family, 365 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 1: and so you don't have as many like walls or 366 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: boundaries up. 367 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:56,640 Speaker 3: But you guys stepped over four homeless people on that 368 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 3: twenty steps. You literally the old man and I just 369 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 3: leap over old people that are homeless and dying on 370 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:04,959 Speaker 3: the street that you have to ignore. 371 00:17:06,240 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 6: Probably good the reason he had his jacket undone. He's 372 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 6: probably dumped a bunch of chemicals into the Hudson River 373 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 6: just before that finance bro party. 374 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 3: In New York, you do not deal with people that 375 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 3: are struggling because it's constantly around you, and you would 376 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,120 Speaker 3: never get to where you're going if you addressed every 377 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 3: person that needed help in some way with a stroller, 378 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 3: with their jacket, with money, with you know. And I've 379 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 3: helped many people in the New like old women cross 380 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 3: streets and stuff like that. But I think you become 381 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 3: because it's all around you suffering, and you go, how 382 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 3: are these people affording to live or even be how 383 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 3: do they even get to Manhattan from wherever they came from? 384 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 3: Like it's so expensive to even spend three hours in Manhattan. 385 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 3: So I'm these people trudging along. I just don't I 386 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 3: don't get where they're all coming from. It's a strange city. 387 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: But people look to each other more in New York. 388 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 1: I'm on the street always to people are like, hey, 389 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: where's this? Where's that? 390 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:04,359 Speaker 3: Oh? 391 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:07,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, like how do I get to this? Stop? Think 392 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 1: about when you're in New York you talk to talking. 393 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:13,680 Speaker 3: About cars versus not cars. As I think what you're saying, 394 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:15,879 Speaker 3: because people in La would probably talk to each other, 395 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 3: they're just in cars. 396 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:19,480 Speaker 1: So exactly in New York, you're on the subway, you're 397 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: on the street, You're like. 398 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:23,159 Speaker 3: No one talking to each other on the subway on 399 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 3: you literally no one. You can get raped on the 400 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:27,000 Speaker 3: way and talk. Watch you get. 401 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:29,719 Speaker 1: Rid on the subway you don't talk, but waiting stander effect, 402 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,119 Speaker 1: waiting or on the stairs or on the way in 403 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: you talk. French family just was like, how do you 404 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:42,120 Speaker 1: do this metro card to meet family? 405 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:46,640 Speaker 3: Talking chorus? 406 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 2: A metro card is not talking and that's the talking. 407 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 3: If you're a lonely thing. 408 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:55,800 Speaker 1: We had a lonely persision about where they went that day. 409 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,119 Speaker 6: If you're a lonely person and then you're not going 410 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:01,320 Speaker 6: to go to your therapist. I was feeling lonely, but 411 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:03,199 Speaker 6: then a French family asked me how to use the 412 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 6: metro card. 413 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:05,719 Speaker 2: I feel less alone. 414 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 1: I'll just speak for myself. I've lived in both cities. 415 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:12,479 Speaker 1: I was very lonely in LA and because I'm in 416 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 1: my car, like you said, you're isolated. And in New 417 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: York City, I immediately felt like I don't care if 418 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:19,879 Speaker 1: I'm alone all day. I'm at the movie theater I met. 419 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:22,199 Speaker 6: I agree with that. I do agree with that. I 420 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 6: mean I want I just said quickly. I love New 421 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,879 Speaker 6: York City. It is far superior to LA. Go ahead 422 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:29,920 Speaker 6: your but. 423 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:31,879 Speaker 3: I will say the thing that I've noticed about LA 424 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 3: before we go to break is that if you need 425 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,719 Speaker 3: to get in the next lane, people will let you, 426 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:40,679 Speaker 3: no matter what. It's the greatest thing about this city. 427 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 3: I will never back down from it. I have noticed 428 00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:45,639 Speaker 3: that people are generous. If you've oh, fuck I forgot 429 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:47,800 Speaker 3: my exit, you are never gonna have to lean on 430 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 3: your horn and be like fuck you. You saw that 431 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:51,919 Speaker 3: I'm there. It would take you two seconds to just 432 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 3: like let me in. Yes, my Amazon boxes are here. 433 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:57,360 Speaker 3: They were looking for them yesterday. So one signed off 434 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 3: called his name was Red Canyon or something and Red 435 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:04,800 Speaker 3: Ranch you can just leave it here, thank you so much. Uh, 436 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:07,080 Speaker 3: but we couldn't find who Red Ranch was, and we 437 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:08,760 Speaker 3: thought maybe it was the name of this place. Anyway, 438 00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 3: everyone in La lets you in. Everyone in La lets 439 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 3: you in in traffic. They are so generous when it 440 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 3: comes to being like cool, I don't care if you 441 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 3: cut me off. Like, no one's freaking out here. The 442 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 3: road whereage is like less here and. 443 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, well they all they let you in. 444 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 6: It goes. 445 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 2: They're all drunk. 446 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:28,560 Speaker 3: No one's stone. We'll come back with more after this. 447 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 2: We're back. 448 00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:34,239 Speaker 3: I don't know if La is all drunk. They're all 449 00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 3: maybe hi driving. 450 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:36,920 Speaker 2: Everyone drunk drives out here. 451 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 6: It's like it's like I'm here and the OC especially 452 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 6: forget about it. 453 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 1: I did so really drunk driving. 454 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 3: And there's so many self driving cars now that you 455 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 3: could kind of do it. I think that will that 456 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,919 Speaker 3: be a thing when you can just be drunk and 457 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,199 Speaker 3: get in your car and just press go and then 458 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 3: it just takes you home and. 459 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:53,360 Speaker 5: Why not. 460 00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 2: The only thing you might do in the wrong place. 461 00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:02,439 Speaker 2: Oh fuck, talk me to a fucking in and out burger. 462 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: So did you body? Oh no, you didn't. 463 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:07,159 Speaker 3: Yeah so Tim dillan. But yeah, So we all go 464 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,080 Speaker 3: to the house for the pool party. Invite Brian because 465 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 3: Brian hasn't seen Tim Dillon in like over maybe eight 466 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 3: years when they used to do a podcast. You guys 467 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 3: do that podcast, so Brian was Tim was Brian's sidekick 468 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:21,880 Speaker 3: on his podcast. So I wrote Tim, and I go, hey, 469 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 3: can I invite Brian Frangie? He is my podcast sidekick 470 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,520 Speaker 3: now and I heard you used to be his? Isn't 471 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 3: that crazy? And he wrote back yes, and I was like, 472 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 3: uh oh, like am I Like why is it? But 473 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,119 Speaker 3: I could just tell that it was like he just 474 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,040 Speaker 3: looked down on his phone when he's probably in conversation 475 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:39,439 Speaker 3: with someone else and was just like yes. And then 476 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:41,359 Speaker 3: he wrote me back later he was like, I love Brian. 477 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 3: I was like, okay, good, Like it wasn't just like 478 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 3: a yes, but he was so excited to see Brian. 479 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 3: And then Brian and Ally came over and uh we 480 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,439 Speaker 3: all hung out by Tim Dillon's pool and it was 481 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:55,719 Speaker 3: very hot, and we watched his Tim Dillon's assistant struggled 482 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,159 Speaker 3: to put off a So Tim Dillan, I guess that 483 00:21:58,160 --> 00:21:59,840 Speaker 3: morning was like, oh shit, I have no one bre 484 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 3: and it's hot as fuck out here and people are 485 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:04,679 Speaker 3: gonna come over and be outside. So he sent his 486 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 3: assistant to go to like home depot to get an umbrella. 487 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 3: And then the assistant just had to assemble this gigantic 488 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,680 Speaker 3: outdoor umbrella while we just all sat and watched him 489 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 3: struggle in the blazing heat. And yeah, and then Tim. 490 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,639 Speaker 2: And also one of the hottest guys I've ever seen. 491 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 3: That's so funny. Yeah, he's a good looking guy, but 492 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 3: I wouldn't have described him that way. But yeah, he 493 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 3: was fit. He was a fit guy. Sorry, wrong room. 494 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 3: I think. No, you're okay, You're okay. 495 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, he was just trying out a new chriacter. What 496 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: if he were just like doing a monologue. 497 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:45,919 Speaker 3: Well, I'm just connecting with people in La dropping up 498 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:47,560 Speaker 3: is just someone. 499 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: Walking by your window. I have no idea who these 500 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:49,679 Speaker 1: people are. 501 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 3: Well, there's like a something going on here that people 502 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:55,920 Speaker 3: in the next two rooms next to me are doing 503 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 3: some kind of production thing, and so they keep wondering 504 00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 3: up here, thinking that they're like with like gaffing tape, 505 00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,239 Speaker 3: ready to walk in my room, and I go no, no, 506 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 3: no no, And they sometimes they walk in they go, 507 00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,159 Speaker 3: oh my god, they're just so scared. 508 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: Oh I didn't realize you were like, buy a door. 509 00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:12,399 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'm right by a door. It's right here. 510 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,439 Speaker 3: In fact, i'm looking at it right now. I look 511 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:18,720 Speaker 3: at that fucking door. Uh yeah. So we had a 512 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,439 Speaker 3: pool party and it was fun, and Brian brought his 513 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,760 Speaker 3: wife over. First time I've seen them as a husband 514 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:27,719 Speaker 3: and wife together. She is amazingly perfect teeth. They were 515 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 3: as white as the beautiful sun dress outfit she was wearing, 516 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:35,600 Speaker 3: which was also gorgeous. She's ethereal. Tim Dillon had lots 517 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 3: of nice things to say about her. He was just like, God, 518 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,719 Speaker 3: she's a keeper. I forget what I said. What did 519 00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 3: he say to you? 520 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 2: He thought she was twenty four? 521 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:47,160 Speaker 3: Oh, god's amazing, and how old twenty five? 522 00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,399 Speaker 6: Yeah she's twenty five, so you know, yeah, he was 523 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:53,679 Speaker 6: off by a year. Really embarrassing. Wait, connect, it was 524 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 6: really fun. 525 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 3: How is it. 526 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,959 Speaker 1: Being married for you? Is it any different from dating? 527 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 1: Do you feel any to friend? 528 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:02,879 Speaker 2: I guess. 529 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:06,119 Speaker 6: You know, there are occasions when I you know, like 530 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 6: at this pool party or whatever. I mean, when you 531 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 6: say someone's your wife, you get a little bit more 532 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 6: credibility there. But also just like it is nice. Yeah, 533 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 6: it is nice too. You get a balance out of 534 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 6: a handshake, which is really an incredible feeling, but you 535 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,400 Speaker 6: get every once in a while, I catch myself going 536 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,440 Speaker 6: like that's my wife to myself, like, oh, that's my wife, 537 00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,200 Speaker 6: and I'm pretty happy about it, Whereas when it was 538 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:33,640 Speaker 6: my girlfriend, I never did that. 539 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,280 Speaker 2: So I think there is something about this. 540 00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:40,719 Speaker 6: Like uh, pride of having uh this person be your 541 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:41,439 Speaker 6: partner forever. 542 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 2: That is wasn't there before? 543 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 3: That's cute, that's sweet. Anya, you can speak to this 544 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,160 Speaker 3: as well. How has that it been for you to say, 545 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,240 Speaker 3: my husband, have you been in? 546 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: Seems happier? 547 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:59,160 Speaker 3: Okay, so that answered how you feel like Matt seems happier. 548 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:02,200 Speaker 1: No, No, I just noticed that, and it was striking. 549 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:06,119 Speaker 1: I was like, he seems happier. What's going on? I 550 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: mean it might be related to something else, but that's 551 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,639 Speaker 1: and then I'm I ask I guess because I didn't 552 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 1: feel the thing that everyone's like, it's different. 553 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,399 Speaker 3: It's like people never say it's different, they're just saying 554 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,040 Speaker 3: it's the same. I hear mostly, I would say ninety 555 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 3: percent of the time, I hear it's just the same, 556 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 3: especially if the people were living together before. 557 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,280 Speaker 1: Maybe I've only heard a couple of people say it's different, 558 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,119 Speaker 1: and that stuck in my head. So I'm like, I 559 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,639 Speaker 1: wonder how it's different, but it is. I'm noticing a 560 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:38,320 Speaker 1: very subtle difference of like slightly more tenderness towards one 561 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 1: another or this like slight. It's not respect, it's just 562 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,399 Speaker 1: like protectiveness. Yeah, Like I guess we're gonna I'm gonna 563 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 1: like take care of like We're gonna look after one 564 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:53,480 Speaker 1: another till we're old forever like this. So there's this 565 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,400 Speaker 1: new attitude of like all of a sudden, we're talking 566 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: about like long term things, you know, where we weren't 567 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 1: so much for And it's just like I don't know, 568 00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:03,520 Speaker 1: a weird a sweet. 569 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,919 Speaker 6: Or maybe it's like she's going to take care of 570 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,679 Speaker 6: me when I'm old, so I better be nice to 571 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 6: her now or else. 572 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 3: She's gotta we got to keep her bone health stable. 573 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: Supplements a night. 574 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, if I. 575 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 6: If I mean to her now when I'm in a 576 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,439 Speaker 6: wheelchair and can't think she's going to be switching out 577 00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 6: my pills and hitting with a ruler and ship. 578 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 3: We're like you I look at sometimes like you know, 579 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 3: the way my parents eat, Like you think about the 580 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 3: way your parents eat or the way the things they do, 581 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,399 Speaker 3: and I'm just like, we need to keep you around. 582 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,719 Speaker 3: Like when you start to think about someone's demise or 583 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 3: like the long term, like towards the end where you're like, 584 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,679 Speaker 3: we want to prolong this, you start to kind of 585 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,000 Speaker 3: nitpick about little things about them, Like I think that 586 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 3: if christ and I got married, I might start to 587 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:56,480 Speaker 3: be like, let's look into other food alternatives for you 588 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 3: so that you you know, because or we should talk 589 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 3: about like when you are in a coma, like can 590 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:06,160 Speaker 3: I date other people because we need a plan or whatever. 591 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 3: You know that's a joke obviously, but it's like I 592 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:11,600 Speaker 3: saw a thing last night that said the more you 593 00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:13,680 Speaker 3: hang out with your mom, the longer she's gonna live. 594 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 3: And I was like, oh God, I need to start 595 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 3: hanging out with my mom more, because yeah, I just 596 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 3: want them. And then I was listening to this other 597 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,359 Speaker 3: podcast when I went to sleep, Sam Harris with Peter 598 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:30,080 Speaker 3: Atiya Atiya Tila, and he was talking about longevity and 599 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:33,040 Speaker 3: he is like he's working this guy, this doctor. All 600 00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:34,679 Speaker 3: he does is work on how to get people to 601 00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,400 Speaker 3: live longer. And there was just like, I don't even 602 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,439 Speaker 3: want to say it. This just such a bummer. But 603 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 3: it's like, if you break your hip after the age 604 00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 3: of sixty, you have a like ninety percent chance of 605 00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 3: dying twenty years earlier than you would have if you 606 00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 3: didn't break your hip. So everything is about don't break 607 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 3: your femur, don't if old people. And that's why you 608 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 3: need bone strength, because the only way to break your 609 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 3: hip really or the most common ways falling and those 610 00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,880 Speaker 3: statistics are wrong. But it's something outrageous like that, where 611 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:09,120 Speaker 3: it's like your chances of living longer are just cut 612 00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 3: so severely from if you wouldn't have bread broken your femur. 613 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 3: So the goal when you get older is to protect 614 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,280 Speaker 3: your femur because it is the biggest indicator of if 615 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 3: you're gonna have a long life or not, if you're 616 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,200 Speaker 3: going to reach like your nineties or one hundreds, which 617 00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,000 Speaker 3: not everyone wants to do. Maybe, but so the whole. 618 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 1: Thing is like, yeah, I didn't know I guess the. 619 00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:34,640 Speaker 3: Top of your your pelvis, like at your hip, anything 620 00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 3: around there. You yeah, any big bone you're I forget 621 00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 3: what it's called, but he had some really long name 622 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:41,719 Speaker 3: for what it is when you break that area, if 623 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 3: you break a hip. Pretty much I think was the 624 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 3: thing you which is a common old person thing, but 625 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,960 Speaker 3: it's all from falling and so the whole thing is 626 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 3: like oh, and he said, this was a very interesting thing. 627 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 3: He said, so it's all about protecting your muscles, like 628 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 3: make sure you have you eat a lot of protein, 629 00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:58,680 Speaker 3: and if you're a vegan, you find a way to 630 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,880 Speaker 3: get that in because it's gonna be for you, which 631 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 3: I don't think I don't agree with. I think it's 632 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 3: actually very easy. It's just a way for people to 633 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,200 Speaker 3: get to not go vegan. It's like protein, where do 634 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:08,440 Speaker 3: I get it? It's like if you heard of a 635 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 3: p But anyway, so he said that you need a 636 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:16,720 Speaker 3: lot of protein, you need to do muscle strengthening things 637 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 3: and that he was like, no person. He was like, Sam, 638 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 3: how many human beings do you think have lived in 639 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 3: the history of human beings? And he's like, I think 640 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,520 Speaker 3: it's around something like ninety billion people, you know, since 641 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 3: the dawn of humanity, and he said, I don't think 642 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 3: one of those people on their deathbed, if they were 643 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 3: in their old age, would wish they had less muscles. 644 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 3: Not one. He was like, it's always the thing when 645 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 3: you get older, you're gonna wish you had more of 646 00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:46,680 Speaker 3: is musculature. And so it just made me I'm trying 647 00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,520 Speaker 3: to hire a personal trainer for my mom because it's 648 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 3: just not some She's never once worked out consistently in 649 00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,240 Speaker 3: her life in any way, not for a week, not 650 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,720 Speaker 3: for a you know, like she's walked in stuff, but 651 00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:59,720 Speaker 3: walking doesn't build muscles like you know. She needs upper bodies. 652 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,280 Speaker 3: She needs actual like resistance training. I'm projecting too because 653 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,280 Speaker 3: I need it too, But at least I have had 654 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 3: some sort of idea of what that is. So I'm like, 655 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 3: maybe she could if I said maybe if I just 656 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,160 Speaker 3: pay a trainer, and she's like, I don't want you 657 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 3: to do that, and I'm like, well, then I'm going 658 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,160 Speaker 3: to pay him anyway, and if you don't show up, 659 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 3: it's a waste of money. 660 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:19,040 Speaker 2: Mind. 661 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 3: I think that's the only way I can get her 662 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,959 Speaker 3: to go. I don't know. I just want my parents 663 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,080 Speaker 3: to have les. 664 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,240 Speaker 4: I had one. Well, I still have one. He's just 665 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:30,080 Speaker 4: back in Arizona. And it's great because you have someone 666 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,360 Speaker 4: who is motivating you, who is teaching you how to 667 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 4: work out in a way where you don't injure yourself. 668 00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 4: And it's also it gives like accountability, like he's showing up, 669 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 4: so I have to show up. Yes, And I'm all 670 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:47,640 Speaker 4: for coaching. Therapist just gets someone to help motivate you 671 00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:49,560 Speaker 4: do good stuff. I know. 672 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:52,840 Speaker 3: I don't just get her on board though. Nikki is 673 00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 3: so much money. It's like, well, I would pay that 674 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 3: for you not to die ten years sooner. So what 675 00:30:58,560 --> 00:30:59,320 Speaker 3: is the difference. 676 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:04,120 Speaker 1: Okay, Shelton's going to be at the gym helpt her workout. 677 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 6: Well, my mom the same way. She never worked out 678 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 6: her entire life. She just didn't want to do it. 679 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 6: And then recently she's she's truly living her renaissance right now. 680 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:19,360 Speaker 6: She moved into a community in Florida of older over 681 00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:24,360 Speaker 6: sixty five people and made a group of friends, and 682 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,959 Speaker 6: now she exercises more than she ever has in her 683 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:31,400 Speaker 6: entire life. And it's because her group of friends do 684 00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 6: exercise related activities. They play pickleball, they go swimming, they 685 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 6: go on walks, and I think for someone like your mom, 686 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 6: one of the only ways to get her to exercise 687 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,720 Speaker 6: in that way consistently is to connect it with something 688 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 6: that's not just your exercising. 689 00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 3: I don't know about that, because, well, the thing is 690 00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,920 Speaker 3: my mom. I think the only way is to motivate 691 00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 3: her by otherwise your daughter is wasting money, because that 692 00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 3: is her truest, biggest fear in life is that her 693 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 3: daughter is yours f what on that she does. But 694 00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 3: I'm talking about, like, my mom needs to do more 695 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 3: than just play tennis or pickleball. She needs to do 696 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 3: actual weight resistance training. Like how do you get women 697 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,120 Speaker 3: doing that. She's not gonna go to like pool classes 698 00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:19,840 Speaker 3: where she's with the floaties doing exercise in the water 699 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 3: because the soula respect of it. My mom doesn't do that. 700 00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 1: Would she go with you? Would she might be motivated 701 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,560 Speaker 1: by hanging out with her daughters. 702 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, but I don't have time to go to Okay, 703 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,960 Speaker 4: get another reality show, right, you're both working out. That's 704 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 4: like the theme of the reality show. 705 00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,360 Speaker 3: I think that's a good idea. I think my mom 706 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,960 Speaker 3: made her Yeah, and she was like, I'm making twelve 707 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 3: hundred bucks a day for an appearancing. I'll do it. 708 00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,120 Speaker 3: I'll do whatever you need me to do, and look 709 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 3: at my tries. But this pool party was fun and 710 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,760 Speaker 3: it was a weird group of people. Milo Mannheim was 711 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,880 Speaker 3: there from Dancing with the Stars. He was on the 712 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 3: season that I was on, and it was good to 713 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,360 Speaker 3: see him again because I haven't seen him since then. 714 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 3: And he did a movie with Tim so Tim knew Milow. 715 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,320 Speaker 3: And then Milo brought another friend who was this eighteen 716 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 3: year old kid who was like, so like, it's such 717 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,480 Speaker 3: an old I hate to say old soul, but he was. 718 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 3: I thought, he's like maybe twenty five at the young garage. 719 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 3: My wife Yeah, yeah? And then who else was there? 720 00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 3: You guys? And then aunt Andrew Colin was there. That 721 00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:28,000 Speaker 3: was fun. And then who else? Oh, David Spade came 722 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,240 Speaker 3: by and then he sent me a text later and 723 00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:31,440 Speaker 3: was like, I didn't know it was gonna be Twinka 724 00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:35,160 Speaker 3: Paloose up in there. I had to duck out because 725 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,160 Speaker 3: there were a lot of like young hot guys. 726 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,360 Speaker 1: David is at one point almost. 727 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,720 Speaker 3: David is a twang. But he made me laugh so hard. 728 00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 3: He gets there, he walks, there's like a three year 729 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,280 Speaker 3: old there right when David arrives. I don't know what happened. Oh, 730 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 3: Carlisle was there, but like a girl woman came over 731 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 3: that Tim nose and she had like a tiny baby 732 00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,560 Speaker 3: kid that was playing in the pool. And as soon 733 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 3: as David walks in, he says to me, you didn't 734 00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 3: tell me he was gonna be here and points to 735 00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,000 Speaker 3: the baby like he has beef with him. And I 736 00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:02,719 Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, shit, I didn't know. I 737 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:07,000 Speaker 3: forgot totally about you guys. Oh and then Tim goes, 738 00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,279 Speaker 3: He goes, yeah, Dave goes, me and that baby have 739 00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:11,799 Speaker 3: have beef. And I was like, I'm so sorry, and 740 00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 3: Tim goes, yeah, they dated the same girl. But David 741 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,000 Speaker 3: just came in and was like, that's I told. I 742 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,040 Speaker 3: told him later, I'm like, I know that it wasn't 743 00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:23,600 Speaker 3: your scene because he thought it was gonna be like 744 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:25,520 Speaker 3: more comics and he didn't really know the comics that 745 00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:28,319 Speaker 3: were there, and which was fun. He had fun, but 746 00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:31,120 Speaker 3: he he was like, it was you know, it was 747 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,439 Speaker 3: a little twink fest up in there, And I said, yeah, 748 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,359 Speaker 3: but I knew it wasn't far out of your way 749 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:36,799 Speaker 3: to go, and I wanted to see you. I just 750 00:34:36,800 --> 00:34:38,359 Speaker 3: wanted you to come in and like say, a couple 751 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:39,960 Speaker 3: of singers and leave, and that's exactly what he did. 752 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,280 Speaker 3: He kind of like circled around and then Brian noted 753 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 3: that he immediately like he was like all right, I'm leaving, 754 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 3: and then like left. There was no like pretense of 755 00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 3: like I don't think I'm gonna go. It was just 756 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,840 Speaker 3: boom gone, which is uh. I love that style. 757 00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:56,440 Speaker 2: He stood up. 758 00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,600 Speaker 6: We were talking and then he stood up. There was 759 00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,600 Speaker 6: as soon as there was like a a pause in 760 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,920 Speaker 6: the conversation, he stood up and said all right, see 761 00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 6: you guys later, and then he left it and there 762 00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,560 Speaker 6: was no production about it where he went by to 763 00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:09,919 Speaker 6: each person, Nice to meet you, good to see you. 764 00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:12,200 Speaker 2: Oh, I'll see you next Wednesday or whatever. 765 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:17,759 Speaker 3: It wasn't rude, and we also felt like, yeah, like 766 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,239 Speaker 3: if I was him, I also would get out of here. 767 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,680 Speaker 3: We're all looking for that exit as well. Now I 768 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 3: really wasn't. I was having a good time, but it 769 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:30,600 Speaker 3: was Yeah, it was fun, and any other things to 770 00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 3: say about it. Brian, it's interesting. 771 00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:34,839 Speaker 6: When you go to a party like that and you're 772 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:38,560 Speaker 6: looking around, you don't know very many people, but you 773 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:44,239 Speaker 6: know that each person here is either rich, successful, famous, 774 00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 6: or combination of the three and so. And then what's 775 00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:50,080 Speaker 6: interesting is that everyone else reciprocates that to you. When 776 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,000 Speaker 6: they look at you, they're like, what is this guy's deal? 777 00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 6: There must be a reason he's at Tim Dillon's house. 778 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 6: And so everyone treats each other with a little bit 779 00:35:56,920 --> 00:36:00,160 Speaker 6: more respect than you would at a different party that 780 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 6: I've I've been to other parties like that, and it's 781 00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:04,200 Speaker 6: like that aren't in Hollywood or whatever, and people are like, 782 00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:05,759 Speaker 6: I don't give a fuck about you. 783 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:09,880 Speaker 3: Ye when there's vacation that this person could be a producer, 784 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,680 Speaker 3: I don't know. I ever know, you never know. That's 785 00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 3: a really good point. 786 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,760 Speaker 4: I don't stay from the point that Anya was making 787 00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 4: about how lonely it is is, because then it's like. 788 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,480 Speaker 3: No, there's no question, la as lonely as fuck. I 789 00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,719 Speaker 3: just don't think that New York connections are real and like, 790 00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,080 Speaker 3: and I don't think that people actually help as much 791 00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 3: on the street. I think Anya gets approached because she's 792 00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:33,120 Speaker 3: a nice looking girl that has like an open, shiny, 793 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 3: kind demeanor. But I don't think most people are like 794 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:39,040 Speaker 3: really talking to each other in New York streets in 795 00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 3: fact there's not a lot of eye contact. No, what 796 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,120 Speaker 3: you don't you agree that people kind of just like 797 00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,279 Speaker 3: you have to be immune to everything going around you. 798 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 3: If you address everything that needs help, you wouldn't get anywhere. Yes, 799 00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,720 Speaker 3: but like I guess in a way I agree with Anya. 800 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 3: It is easy to connect because there's like all these 801 00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 3: like New York characters, yeah, that you see on a 802 00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,719 Speaker 3: regular basis, and they talk your ear off when you 803 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 3: get their whole life story and vice versa. I al 804 00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,040 Speaker 3: wants talk to someone on the subway? Am I like 805 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,960 Speaker 3: anti social? I've never heard I get the. 806 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:13,640 Speaker 1: Submary like it's too weird. Work on the street waiting 807 00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:14,400 Speaker 1: to cross. 808 00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,200 Speaker 3: For talk to someone and no. 809 00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:17,120 Speaker 6: People will come. 810 00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,399 Speaker 1: Up to you and be like, I'm n yu. Were 811 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 1: doing a survey for a class coming in. 812 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,640 Speaker 3: That's not talking and that's like doing a survey. 813 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,520 Speaker 2: Well, it is come up to me. 814 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,240 Speaker 6: Will come up to me in LA and they say, 815 00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:33,719 Speaker 6: would you like to take five minutes for the environment, 816 00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:35,920 Speaker 6: And I say no, I'm sorry. 817 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 1: But they're working. 818 00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 2: That's not going to make me less lonely. 819 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:41,000 Speaker 6: We have to remember where the conversation began, which is 820 00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:46,279 Speaker 6: are you which city is Lonelier? And Anya is giving 821 00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,239 Speaker 6: a bunch of examples of solicitors trying to get money. 822 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:57,479 Speaker 1: For Here's my hypothesis. New York feels more like a 823 00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:01,839 Speaker 1: family of people crammed in together, and therefore there are 824 00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:06,520 Speaker 1: fewer boundaries and fears about approaching someone. There. Very often 825 00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,560 Speaker 1: on the street, I'll say, you look. 826 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,920 Speaker 3: Stock, I'm stuck on a ship with a bunch of people. 827 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:13,720 Speaker 3: It's crowded in LA. 828 00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,680 Speaker 1: Everyone's in their own bubble. It's more isolated. 829 00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:18,719 Speaker 3: Yes, I agree with any on this. 830 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 2: I also agree with an on this. 831 00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 3: It's the illusion of like when you walked when you're 832 00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:24,680 Speaker 3: in New York and I'm depressed and I'm like, I'm 833 00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,279 Speaker 3: so alone. I can walk down the street and I'm 834 00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:29,319 Speaker 3: surrounded by people, which gives the illusion and does give 835 00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,920 Speaker 3: you the feeling like you're connected to people. You're in 836 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,720 Speaker 3: this organism that is like working together, and you're walking 837 00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,440 Speaker 3: by people on the street. You can smell people, you 838 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 3: can hear people's conversations. In LA. You get in your 839 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 3: car and you're still in this bubble and you there's 840 00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,319 Speaker 3: not a lot of witnessing other people. It feels yeah, 841 00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,080 Speaker 3: I get that, I think, but I think it is 842 00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,239 Speaker 3: the illusion. Even though it does work to make you 843 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,960 Speaker 3: feel more connected, it's still not actual connection, which I 844 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,360 Speaker 3: think is the difference between our arguments. But I do 845 00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,800 Speaker 3: agree with you, like you you can feel less alone 846 00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 3: in New York because there's just so many people around 847 00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:03,719 Speaker 3: all the time. Yeah. Yeah, And the thing about the 848 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,200 Speaker 3: parties in LA is interesting that yeah, everyone there. I 849 00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:08,600 Speaker 3: didn't know why everyone. 850 00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,680 Speaker 2: Was there and was like, yeah, isn't that fascinating? 851 00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:12,440 Speaker 6: And then you're just like it's like when I went 852 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,839 Speaker 6: to the WGA meeting and I would or or if 853 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,000 Speaker 6: I'm on the picket line I start talking to someone, 854 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:20,640 Speaker 6: it's like, well, I have to secretly go onto IMDb 855 00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:22,480 Speaker 6: and see what they did, just to make sure I'm 856 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,160 Speaker 6: not embarrassing myself by not knowing who this person. Like 857 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,200 Speaker 6: I didn't know who Miley was. And then after I 858 00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 6: got after I got home, I was like, let me 859 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 6: look this guy up. And I was like, oh man, 860 00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:31,520 Speaker 6: he did all these things. 861 00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:32,680 Speaker 2: Yeah like that. 862 00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,200 Speaker 3: It's weird though, because I was like, why didn't I 863 00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,160 Speaker 3: introduce him as he's from Zombies and he was on 864 00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,400 Speaker 3: dancing starts. I just I sometimes I forget to introduce 865 00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,960 Speaker 3: and to give contextualize everyone and I should have done that. 866 00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:46,960 Speaker 6: I don't think he wanted that. I think he was 867 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,880 Speaker 6: downplaying it because he has tattoos on his foot, a 868 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:51,920 Speaker 6: tattoo for each project he's done. 869 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:53,120 Speaker 2: Yes, I know this about me. 870 00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,680 Speaker 3: IMDb is on his foot. 871 00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,280 Speaker 6: Basically, yeah, he has a he has a little tiny 872 00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:01,160 Speaker 6: tattoo on his foot for each project he's done. He's 873 00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:04,160 Speaker 6: got twenty seven, a little twenty seven for being on 874 00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:06,200 Speaker 6: season twenty seven of Dancing with the Stars. 875 00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:09,600 Speaker 3: He doesn't have twenty seven credits yet, He's just yeah, he's. 876 00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:11,520 Speaker 2: The number twenty seven. And so I asked him. 877 00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:14,080 Speaker 6: I was like, what to each of the things on 878 00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:17,840 Speaker 6: your foot mean? And that was basically like saying what's 879 00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,560 Speaker 6: your credits essentially, which I think some people will. 880 00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:22,759 Speaker 2: I didn't know. I was just like, what are those things? 881 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:28,520 Speaker 6: And he's like, oh, just a little something for each project? 882 00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:29,480 Speaker 1: Is wrong? 883 00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 3: Is oh, yeah, he keeps trinkets. But yeah. His mom 884 00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:41,000 Speaker 3: is what's his name, what's her last her first name Mannheim. 885 00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:45,400 Speaker 3: She was on the Private Practice Cameron Marylynd. Cameron Cameron 886 00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:48,600 Speaker 3: Manheim is his mom, and she wanted a baby The 887 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,680 Speaker 3: Story of Them. He was on my last show on 888 00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:53,960 Speaker 3: Serious and you may have heard the story, but his 889 00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:55,680 Speaker 3: mom it's the coolest story. I had him tell it 890 00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,319 Speaker 3: again to everyone there. But his mom knew she wanted 891 00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:01,440 Speaker 3: a kid, and she to this. She was hanging out 892 00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,160 Speaker 3: with Marcia gay Harden, who was a friend of hers, 893 00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:04,759 Speaker 3: and Marsha gay Harden was like, I go to this 894 00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,359 Speaker 3: pottery class. You've got to go. The teacher is so hot. 895 00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 3: So she brings Cameron to the class and Cameron's like, 896 00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,680 Speaker 3: oh my god, this teacher is so fucking foxy. And 897 00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:15,080 Speaker 3: she went up to him after the class and was like, 898 00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:18,200 Speaker 3: if I'm not pregnant by the time I'm thirty five, 899 00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:19,839 Speaker 3: would you want to have a baby with me, and 900 00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:21,800 Speaker 3: said something like that to him, just kind of joking. 901 00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 3: He's like, well, I'm gay, but yeah, I'll do that. 902 00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,840 Speaker 3: And so they they would see each other at parties 903 00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:29,600 Speaker 3: throughout the years and that was just their running joke. 904 00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,520 Speaker 3: She was in her twenties when she made this first offer, 905 00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:34,560 Speaker 3: and they'd always see each other, and then it got 906 00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,440 Speaker 3: to be the time she's thirty five and she saw 907 00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:38,759 Speaker 3: him and was like, I actually would do it, and 908 00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:41,719 Speaker 3: he's like the stunning, tall, handsome guy, and so she 909 00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:43,359 Speaker 3: got his sperm and they made a baby and it's 910 00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 3: Milo Manheim. 911 00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:48,080 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is amazing. I love all that. 912 00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,200 Speaker 1: That is so what a great Worsion story. Does he 913 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:52,040 Speaker 1: know it's sad? 914 00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,680 Speaker 3: He yeah, he does. He has a relationship with his dad, 915 00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,480 Speaker 3: but he was just like his But his mom was 916 00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,479 Speaker 3: just like, I'm I'm not gonna it sucks that women 917 00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,640 Speaker 3: have to like wait to find a good man to do, 918 00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,520 Speaker 3: like if they want to be moms, Like they've got 919 00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,240 Speaker 3: to have all this these ducks in a row beforehand. 920 00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:11,279 Speaker 3: I like that she just like took the reins and 921 00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,879 Speaker 3: was like, I'm ready to do this. Let's all that guy. 922 00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:17,480 Speaker 3: Allow would like it makes sense with a woman's egg. 923 00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,680 Speaker 3: I'd be like that girl, let's use it. Yes, if 924 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:21,640 Speaker 3: I wanted to do it. 925 00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:24,080 Speaker 2: Can I quickly? I want? 926 00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:24,279 Speaker 1: I do. 927 00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 6: Want to give a shout out to a bestie. This 928 00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:30,960 Speaker 6: is a besty shout out. Uh I learned. I learned yesterday. 929 00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,200 Speaker 6: Yesterday was Rob Stern's birthday. Happy birthday. Rob and I 930 00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,680 Speaker 6: did another social event that's two in the same fucking week, 931 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,120 Speaker 6: which is pretty rare. We went to dinner for his 932 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:43,200 Speaker 6: birthday at Moon Shadows, that restaurant on the Malibu Coast. 933 00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:44,399 Speaker 2: Have ever been to Moonshadows? 934 00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:46,080 Speaker 3: Oh my god, you had to drive up to Malibu. 935 00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:50,439 Speaker 6: Yes, I did, well, half an hour shorter, but yeah, 936 00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:54,799 Speaker 6: I went to the moon Shadows and this, and then 937 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,040 Speaker 6: there's this couple that are friends with me and Rob 938 00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,520 Speaker 6: and I didn't know this, but the whole time this 939 00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:04,080 Speaker 6: uh uh one of my friend's wives, Liz Galalless, is 940 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,600 Speaker 6: a bestie and she was a bestie before I was 941 00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:08,560 Speaker 6: on the show. So then I was like, well, so 942 00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,120 Speaker 6: then when I came on with a rude awakening and 943 00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,319 Speaker 6: she said no, but uh yeah, Liz Galalless, shout out there, 944 00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:18,400 Speaker 6: she's a bestie and I knew. It's it's so crazy 945 00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:22,040 Speaker 6: and amazing meeting people who are like, I was a 946 00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:25,560 Speaker 6: bestie and I knew you the whole I knew you before, 947 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,719 Speaker 6: and I was a bestie before and then you were 948 00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:30,560 Speaker 6: suddenly on the fucking podcast. 949 00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:36,480 Speaker 3: Yeah that is so wid Yeah nice, so cool. It 950 00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:40,560 Speaker 3: is so nice to Yeah, it's when people are busties. 951 00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:45,080 Speaker 3: It just warms my heart and is a different Sometimes 952 00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,920 Speaker 3: I'm shocked from different levels fandom. 953 00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:51,880 Speaker 1: Like I know some kid people that are besties, but 954 00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,160 Speaker 1: I think that they're kid mm hmm. 955 00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:58,880 Speaker 3: But they're I don't have cuz it's actually cool. 956 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:03,360 Speaker 1: I thought they were okay, but they're besties, so I'm like, oh, 957 00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:03,920 Speaker 1: you know what. 958 00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,319 Speaker 3: They can't be Yeah, so they're cool without you. 959 00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:11,200 Speaker 1: But they like sometimes in their lives. I just yes, 960 00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:15,000 Speaker 1: in their lives, they say they sort of make some choices. 961 00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:17,160 Speaker 1: But then I'm like, oh, I love you now because 962 00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:18,319 Speaker 1: I know you're a bestie. 963 00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,000 Speaker 3: Is this like choices you see on Instagram? Like this 964 00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,080 Speaker 3: is how we diagnose ka Now, yeah, let's go. Let's 965 00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,280 Speaker 3: go to break and come back and maybe we'll discuss 966 00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:28,759 Speaker 3: a little bit more. But we got to get to 967 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,000 Speaker 3: fans with Thracks talking about busties. Let's do that when 968 00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:35,440 Speaker 3: we get back. Right for this, all right, let's just 969 00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:37,680 Speaker 3: get into it. Let's get to fan thracks. Haven't done 970 00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:46,600 Speaker 3: it in a while. Time to get to bestie mail 971 00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:51,319 Speaker 3: and voicemail. Noah, let's let's just get right into it. 972 00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,719 Speaker 4: Okay, Well, I'm gonna start off with Kelly because this 973 00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:56,440 Speaker 4: seems kind of urgent. 974 00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:57,360 Speaker 3: Kelly. 975 00:44:57,480 --> 00:45:01,359 Speaker 5: Okay, hey guys, longtime bestie. I wanted to get your 976 00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:05,640 Speaker 5: opinion on a situation. My car was broken into this 977 00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:09,239 Speaker 5: morning and it's my own fault. I left it unlocked 978 00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:14,320 Speaker 5: for the first time in years, but they took out. 979 00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,719 Speaker 5: I had a big bag of dry cleaning full of 980 00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:20,880 Speaker 5: all of my favorite sweaters, and one of them was 981 00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,920 Speaker 5: this vintage sweater that I'm just like, I can't replace 982 00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:29,160 Speaker 5: it and I'm looking everywhere for it. But how would 983 00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:32,520 Speaker 5: you handle the situation? How would you get over it? 984 00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:34,680 Speaker 5: What would you say to yourself? Would you just say 985 00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:37,640 Speaker 5: that it's gone and it doesn't matter, I need to 986 00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,719 Speaker 5: get over it, or just how would you guys deal 987 00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:45,600 Speaker 5: with the situation? Cope with the loss of your favorite sweaters? 988 00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,000 Speaker 5: I am trying to my favorite smart all right, thank 989 00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:49,840 Speaker 5: you bye. 990 00:45:50,520 --> 00:45:55,239 Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. That sucks so much. I can tell 991 00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:56,920 Speaker 3: how much that sweater means to her. 992 00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,839 Speaker 2: Do you guys have a car broken into? Is such? 993 00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,520 Speaker 4: It so violating? 994 00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:06,120 Speaker 6: Violating? It's like, this is my little personal car. I 995 00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,600 Speaker 6: don't want people valet parking my car because I don't 996 00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:11,120 Speaker 6: want people in there. But like when someone just busts 997 00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,400 Speaker 6: into your fucking car and takes something from you, it 998 00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,760 Speaker 6: just feels sold her fault. 999 00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,400 Speaker 3: We all leave our cars unlocked, sometimes that doesn't mean 1000 00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,439 Speaker 3: someone gets to go into it. So it's like it's 1001 00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,080 Speaker 3: so not your fault. You're allowed, you should be allowed 1002 00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:25,920 Speaker 3: to leave your car unlocked. In no way is that 1003 00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:27,879 Speaker 3: your fault. Don't let anyone tell you that it is. 1004 00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:29,279 Speaker 3: You should be able to leave your car un locked 1005 00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:34,320 Speaker 3: and not have someone take your fucking dry cleaning bags. 1006 00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:38,000 Speaker 6: So annoying fault of a violent and selfish society. 1007 00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:43,160 Speaker 4: You can up so many like violations through stealing, like 1008 00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:47,200 Speaker 4: the stealing of someone's security, the stealing of someone's objects. 1009 00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,840 Speaker 4: You know that the stealing of someone's life. It's like 1010 00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:54,080 Speaker 4: stealing is so I don't know, it just it's so wrong. 1011 00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:57,040 Speaker 6: Yes, you just take something from someone and then it's 1012 00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:58,759 Speaker 6: theirs and there's nothing you can do about it. 1013 00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,160 Speaker 1: And the person I isn't gonna even value these sweaters 1014 00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:02,480 Speaker 1: at all. 1015 00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:06,440 Speaker 3: No, No, it's like they probably got to I mean, 1016 00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:08,560 Speaker 3: I don't even want to say what it probably became 1017 00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:12,120 Speaker 3: of these sweaters. But how I'm having I'm having a 1018 00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:16,280 Speaker 3: hard time emphasizing right now because I don't have any 1019 00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,080 Speaker 3: sweaters that mean that much to me, But I'm trying 1020 00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:20,960 Speaker 3: to think of something that would mean that much to 1021 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:24,239 Speaker 3: me if it got stolen. I'm having trouble conjuring anything 1022 00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,280 Speaker 3: because I just don't know that I get that attached 1023 00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,640 Speaker 3: to Do you have anything like but me, me, your 1024 00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:32,279 Speaker 3: grandma or anything like that. No, And I guess what 1025 00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,360 Speaker 3: I would say, And the reason I think I don't 1026 00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:38,840 Speaker 3: is because I guess and this probably won't bring comfort. 1027 00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:40,680 Speaker 3: So I'm sorry if this is just like the wrong 1028 00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:44,160 Speaker 3: thing to say. But we die eventually, and you can't 1029 00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:46,520 Speaker 3: take it with you no matter what. Like, at some 1030 00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:51,560 Speaker 3: point you and that sweater will be not as one separated. Yeah, 1031 00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:53,440 Speaker 3: and it just happens sooner than you want it to. 1032 00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:55,680 Speaker 3: But it was always going to be that way in 1033 00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:59,120 Speaker 3: the end. And yes, it could be passed down to 1034 00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:02,799 Speaker 3: the generation and stay within with people that you love, 1035 00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,840 Speaker 3: but even they would eventually pass on and the sweater, 1036 00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:08,520 Speaker 3: the sweater will eventually be alone in a landfill some 1037 00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,680 Speaker 3: day and there will be no humans around to to 1038 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:13,640 Speaker 3: take care of it or be with it and that 1039 00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,239 Speaker 3: wearing it. Maybe I also think that I guess I 1040 00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,320 Speaker 3: do have a take, which is when I do lose. 1041 00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:23,560 Speaker 3: Sometimes I lose things I guess that I've spent a 1042 00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:26,640 Speaker 3: lot of money on and I just feel so stupid 1043 00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:29,800 Speaker 3: and so mad at myself, what a waste, And I'm 1044 00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:33,319 Speaker 3: so angry and how dumb I was. You know, there's 1045 00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:36,680 Speaker 3: a story of me spilling the water on the laptop 1046 00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:39,479 Speaker 3: that I literally had just opened and bought and spent 1047 00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:41,640 Speaker 3: thousands of dollars on and I spilled water on it. 1048 00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:46,840 Speaker 3: And my therapist, my my abusive therapist, doctor, my abusive 1049 00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,759 Speaker 3: She told me, and I'll repeat it again, is that 1050 00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:53,759 Speaker 3: don't punish yourself because it sounds like part of your 1051 00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,120 Speaker 3: sadness is like I'm it was my fault, like I 1052 00:48:57,280 --> 00:48:59,239 Speaker 3: did this, and like how stupid I was to leave 1053 00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:03,719 Speaker 3: that valuable thing, my car door open when I knew 1054 00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:07,320 Speaker 3: that vintage sweater was inside, Like I deserve this or something. 1055 00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:11,520 Speaker 3: The punishment is losing the sweater. It's already happened. Don't 1056 00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:15,799 Speaker 3: pile on the punishment like you you already got the punishment, 1057 00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:19,320 Speaker 3: you know, like you don't need to punish yourself anymore, 1058 00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:22,160 Speaker 3: and like suffer with thinking how stupid I am. Don't 1059 00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:24,279 Speaker 3: tell people about it that are going to double down 1060 00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:26,160 Speaker 3: on that. I know that when I spilled water on 1061 00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,279 Speaker 3: my computer, I called my mom instantly because I knew 1062 00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:31,480 Speaker 3: she would go, why would you have a glass of 1063 00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:38,120 Speaker 3: water compete? Like cutting? Why would I do just punish, punish, 1064 00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,240 Speaker 3: So the punishment is already done. You lost your sweater. 1065 00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:43,759 Speaker 3: That's like that would be a severe punishment to you 1066 00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,000 Speaker 3: if you you know, if you killed someone, someone could go, well, 1067 00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:47,640 Speaker 3: I'm gonna take your sweater, and that's what you get 1068 00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:50,080 Speaker 3: for killing someone. So it's already in and of itself 1069 00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,719 Speaker 3: a punishment. So back off in that way. And then 1070 00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,080 Speaker 3: in terms of dealing with the loss of it, I 1071 00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,080 Speaker 3: don't know that I am ready to speak on that. 1072 00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,560 Speaker 3: Can you guys maybe share some stuff? 1073 00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,880 Speaker 1: It sounds like what's her name, we don't know, Kelly, 1074 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,760 Speaker 1: Kelly Kelly. It sounded like you were sort of fishing 1075 00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:09,400 Speaker 1: or like dancing around the idea of maybe trying to 1076 00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:12,200 Speaker 1: get them back, if that's what you need to do. 1077 00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:13,200 Speaker 3: Try. 1078 00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,120 Speaker 1: My first thought was like, oh, you're never getting those 1079 00:50:16,120 --> 00:50:16,719 Speaker 1: sweaters back. 1080 00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,520 Speaker 3: Not to be harsh, but I think she meant like 1081 00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:21,320 Speaker 3: poshmark finding the same sweater elsewhere. 1082 00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:25,880 Speaker 1: I see, Yeah, sure, but my hunches that these sweaters 1083 00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:27,840 Speaker 1: mean something to you. So my first thought was, like, 1084 00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,160 Speaker 1: write about this rite about everything that comes up for you. 1085 00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:34,839 Speaker 1: Is it like like what Nikki's saying, Like, God, I'm 1086 00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:38,680 Speaker 1: so stupid or I feel violated, like Brian was saying, 1087 00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:40,640 Speaker 1: is it. Oh, the sweater meant so much to me. 1088 00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:42,400 Speaker 1: I had all these great memories, or I'll never Like, 1089 00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:44,200 Speaker 1: I have a blazer that I would be kind of 1090 00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,479 Speaker 1: shattered if I lost, but not because it means something 1091 00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:49,000 Speaker 1: to me. It's just the perfect color, it's the perfect 1092 00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,720 Speaker 1: cut I wear all the time. It's like dressy, it's casual, 1093 00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,839 Speaker 1: and I've never found one like it, so that would 1094 00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:58,000 Speaker 1: annoy me. But like, right about what's coming up for you? 1095 00:50:58,080 --> 00:50:59,960 Speaker 1: And then here's the thing I've been working on lately. 1096 00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,560 Speaker 1: Let yourself feel all the feelings and don't do the 1097 00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:05,920 Speaker 1: shortcut too well. I just have to get over this, 1098 00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:08,560 Speaker 1: and you know, just get over it, like really let 1099 00:51:08,560 --> 00:51:12,040 Speaker 1: yourself feel the feelings, and then this cool thing happens 1100 00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:14,319 Speaker 1: where they do kind of wash over you. I've had 1101 00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,480 Speaker 1: this recently. I just disappointed somebody and they let me know, 1102 00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:20,960 Speaker 1: and I was like proud of myself because I let 1103 00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:24,279 Speaker 1: myself feel what came up, which was like fuck you 1104 00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:27,280 Speaker 1: for being mad at me, fuck you for like telling 1105 00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,080 Speaker 1: me I disappointed you. I get really angry and I'm 1106 00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:33,040 Speaker 1: not used to feeling that way. And then I was 1107 00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:35,960 Speaker 1: able to move from that through like it's kind of 1108 00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:39,719 Speaker 1: annoying that they told me I disappointed them, and then 1109 00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,400 Speaker 1: it's like, I don't know if I really like this person. 1110 00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,480 Speaker 1: And then I was like, well, they have a point. 1111 00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:48,319 Speaker 1: I did do something not that nice, and then I 1112 00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:51,080 Speaker 1: got around to compassion, and then once I was neutral, 1113 00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:53,879 Speaker 1: I was able to act from there, so I would 1114 00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:56,919 Speaker 1: That's my advice is like, write about all this, let 1115 00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:59,640 Speaker 1: yourself feel everything, and don't judge yourself for whatever you 1116 00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:02,360 Speaker 1: might be feeling, and then yeah, maybe you'll find a 1117 00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:02,840 Speaker 1: new sweater. 1118 00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:03,040 Speaker 3: Wait. 1119 00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:08,120 Speaker 6: So well, if you want also right now, if you're 1120 00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:11,680 Speaker 6: feeling like you'll never get your sweaters back, and it's 1121 00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:15,000 Speaker 6: just so sudden, if you want an off ramp from hope, 1122 00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,000 Speaker 6: because now your hope's been entirely dashed, you can give 1123 00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:21,840 Speaker 6: yourself little pellets of hope like a hamster, and it'll 1124 00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,880 Speaker 6: slowly snuff out the hope over time. So, for example, 1125 00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:29,000 Speaker 6: now your sweater's gone, you can believe, which I don't 1126 00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:31,960 Speaker 6: think this will work out, but you can believe maybe 1127 00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,919 Speaker 6: the thief will post the sweater on Craigslist and try 1128 00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,160 Speaker 6: to sell it, or maybe the thief will donate the 1129 00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:40,360 Speaker 6: sweater to Salvation Army to get money for it, and 1130 00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:42,399 Speaker 6: I can try to look on Craigslist. I can try 1131 00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:45,319 Speaker 6: to look at the Salvation Army, and maybe I'll be 1132 00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:47,680 Speaker 6: able to buy back that sweater at some point. So 1133 00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:49,959 Speaker 6: keep looking at those things for the next couple of months, 1134 00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:52,720 Speaker 6: and then slowly the hope of you getting the sweater 1135 00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:56,440 Speaker 6: will decrease, but at the same time, your acceptance of 1136 00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,960 Speaker 6: losing the sweater will increase, so that by the time 1137 00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:02,280 Speaker 6: you lose all you'll be ready to accept that it's gone. 1138 00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:07,680 Speaker 3: I like that. I think another thing I would recommend. 1139 00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:09,600 Speaker 3: And maybe this is like too soon, because sometimes when 1140 00:53:09,640 --> 00:53:12,200 Speaker 3: people's dogs die, I'm like, get another dog, and so 1141 00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:15,160 Speaker 3: they're like, I'm not ready for that. But sometimes I'm like, 1142 00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:18,080 Speaker 3: but I think it would actually help. I think you 1143 00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:20,520 Speaker 3: should get a new sweater. I think you should treat 1144 00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:24,920 Speaker 3: yourself as a thing. You stop this. It's my fault. 1145 00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,480 Speaker 3: I lost my sweater. Feel victimized by it, Feel like 1146 00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:30,640 Speaker 3: this bad thing happened to me. I deserve a fucking treat, 1147 00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:33,520 Speaker 3: Like if you you know, you deserve some compassion, you 1148 00:53:33,560 --> 00:53:36,640 Speaker 3: deserve something nice for yourself because you were victimized. This 1149 00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:40,040 Speaker 3: wasn't your fault. So go and you spend more money 1150 00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:42,120 Speaker 3: than you probably should, and you treat yourself to something 1151 00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,719 Speaker 3: you've wanted forever that can replace that sweater now and 1152 00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:48,279 Speaker 3: become your new vintage sweater that is your new most 1153 00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:51,319 Speaker 3: sacred and prize possession, something you really love and and 1154 00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,120 Speaker 3: maybe it's gonna take a lot of time to find 1155 00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:55,719 Speaker 3: that thing, but now this opens up a space in 1156 00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,279 Speaker 3: your closet for something new that can that can be 1157 00:53:58,320 --> 00:53:59,239 Speaker 3: that important to you. 1158 00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:00,600 Speaker 2: It's not opportunity. 1159 00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:02,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, that goes hand in hand with what I was 1160 00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:07,400 Speaker 1: just thinking about, too, which is a lack mentality versus 1161 00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:11,319 Speaker 1: an abundance mentality. Sorry, a rape, But I come from 1162 00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:12,520 Speaker 1: this a lot. I don't know if this is what 1163 00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,880 Speaker 1: you're upset about, Kelly, but baby, it is like I 1164 00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,120 Speaker 1: spent all this money on these sweaters. Now they're all gone, 1165 00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:18,839 Speaker 1: and I don't have any money. We don't know where 1166 00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:23,120 Speaker 1: you're coming from, Financia. So for me, that's where Like 1167 00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:26,319 Speaker 1: I was on a trip recently and it was expensive 1168 00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:29,880 Speaker 1: and the trip got kind of fucked up for me, 1169 00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:31,960 Speaker 1: like one of the days was going to be fucked up, 1170 00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,680 Speaker 1: and I was so upset about this, and a friend 1171 00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,360 Speaker 1: was like, you really sound like you're in this lack mentality. 1172 00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,520 Speaker 1: What if you were in this mentality of like it 1173 00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:41,640 Speaker 1: doesn't matter, I still have eight more great days of 1174 00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:44,320 Speaker 1: this trip because one of the nine days was fucked 1175 00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:47,520 Speaker 1: with and I'm trying to do that more. Just be like, 1176 00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:50,759 Speaker 1: what if I had this attitude of like you can't 1177 00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,839 Speaker 1: take stuff away from me, or like Nikki's saying, like 1178 00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:55,000 Speaker 1: what if I had the money to buy more sweaters? 1179 00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:57,480 Speaker 1: Like what would that look like? I don't know. 1180 00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,040 Speaker 3: And even if it's like you don't have the money, 1181 00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:01,399 Speaker 3: just go to Goodwill and a new vintage sweater that 1182 00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:03,880 Speaker 3: you can ascribe some sort of meaning to. That is 1183 00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:06,000 Speaker 3: like you're giving a sweater a home that wouldn't have 1184 00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:09,560 Speaker 3: one before because you're so that something gets a chance 1185 00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:11,880 Speaker 3: because you got this stolen for you. That would have 1186 00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:14,720 Speaker 3: just sat and rotted and that sweater could you could 1187 00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,719 Speaker 3: even think about the history of that sweater and how 1188 00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,719 Speaker 3: that may have been stolen from someone and now you're 1189 00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:21,520 Speaker 3: giving it a good home or something like. 1190 00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:24,960 Speaker 1: That, and probably somebody needs that sweater. The person that 1191 00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:29,399 Speaker 1: stole even though it sucks, they needed to steal that. 1192 00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:30,920 Speaker 1: It needed to happen. 1193 00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,240 Speaker 3: And it was always going to happen. Yes, you parking 1194 00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:38,080 Speaker 3: your car where you did, leaving the thing. There's that's 1195 00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:40,359 Speaker 3: where the free will. No free will sets me free. 1196 00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:43,520 Speaker 3: It was always this is determinism. Things are always they're 1197 00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:45,560 Speaker 3: already set in stone of how they're going to happen 1198 00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:49,560 Speaker 3: because of physics. It's things are are going to end 1199 00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:50,799 Speaker 3: up the way they are going to end up, and 1200 00:55:50,840 --> 00:55:52,319 Speaker 3: nothing you can do is going to change that. So 1201 00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:54,000 Speaker 3: it was always going to be this way. It wasn't 1202 00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:58,240 Speaker 3: your fault. You're not stupid, you're not foolish. Everyone gets 1203 00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:01,359 Speaker 3: burglarized at some point. You can't really avoid it. 1204 00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:02,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 1205 00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,480 Speaker 6: I mean I lost my wallet because I left my 1206 00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:05,719 Speaker 6: stupid fanny pack open. 1207 00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:07,920 Speaker 2: I mean, how is dumb? Was that? But you know what? 1208 00:56:08,520 --> 00:56:12,719 Speaker 2: He moved someone? Now there's someone, uh with my w 1209 00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:13,480 Speaker 2: G A card. 1210 00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:16,799 Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, I got this letter last night from I 1211 00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:19,480 Speaker 3: hope that helped you. Uh, Kelly. I got this letter 1212 00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,319 Speaker 3: from Kelsey last night and I'm reading through it and 1213 00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:25,880 Speaker 3: it's there's nothing. Well, I'll just say she says all 1214 00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,359 Speaker 3: these very nice things. She said, buckle up. I'm giving 1215 00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:29,800 Speaker 3: you this letter because I'm too afraid of how I 1216 00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:31,680 Speaker 3: will actually react when I meet you. Well, I saw 1217 00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:35,799 Speaker 3: you meet me and you were ridiculous get it together. No, 1218 00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:38,160 Speaker 3: you were so sweet. I made it made my night. 1219 00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:40,560 Speaker 3: Also what made me night at the laugh Factory was 1220 00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:42,480 Speaker 3: a table of what I'm guessing were gay men who 1221 00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:44,200 Speaker 3: were like As I was walking up, they were like, 1222 00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:46,479 Speaker 3: we love you, we love you, we love you so much. 1223 00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:49,319 Speaker 3: And it was like, just when gay men love me, 1224 00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:55,359 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, it means so much, especially sweet women and 1225 00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:58,959 Speaker 3: gay men. It's got, it's it's it's it's the best 1226 00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:02,239 Speaker 3: because gay men have great taste. I think it's a. 1227 00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:05,759 Speaker 1: New Taylor Swift song on the next album, Taste Game, 1228 00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:07,640 Speaker 1: Sweet game Man. 1229 00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:11,360 Speaker 3: So she said, since discovering you randomly one day in 1230 00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:14,640 Speaker 3: two thousand and eight through my YouTube, I'll go, my 1231 00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:16,840 Speaker 3: life has changed for the better. She didn't say, algo, 1232 00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:18,560 Speaker 3: I did. My life has changed for the better. You 1233 00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:20,440 Speaker 3: have taught me to laugh more, be less hard on myself, 1234 00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:23,360 Speaker 3: sing more, create healthy boundaries, how not to be play 1235 00:57:23,400 --> 00:57:26,760 Speaker 3: guitar more, meditate with Sam Harris, be more prospective, work 1236 00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:28,760 Speaker 3: on myself, forgive my parents, be brave enough to go 1237 00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:31,320 Speaker 3: to things alone, no free will. And most importantly, you 1238 00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:34,440 Speaker 3: made me the swifty I am today. And then she 1239 00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:36,320 Speaker 3: goes on to say you are my tailor, I'd say 1240 00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:38,440 Speaker 3: you're my Taylor Swift, but you're not. You're my nicky Glazer. 1241 00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:40,400 Speaker 3: And anybody who is friends me knows how much weight 1242 00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:43,280 Speaker 3: that carries. This is just like, it's so nice. I 1243 00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:45,040 Speaker 3: am right there with you, playing my guitar and singing 1244 00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:47,360 Speaker 3: with you and Anya. I'm just reading excerpts. You're like 1245 00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:49,480 Speaker 3: my sister I always wanted and I've never even met 1246 00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:51,240 Speaker 3: you before. How is that possible? How are you able 1247 00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:53,320 Speaker 3: to capture the hearts of all as beesties through a screen? 1248 00:57:53,600 --> 00:57:55,520 Speaker 3: That is what makes you so special. I think it's 1249 00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:57,360 Speaker 3: how you can make us feel special and less alone 1250 00:57:57,400 --> 00:57:58,920 Speaker 3: just through your words. It's a gift all of us 1251 00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:00,800 Speaker 3: benefit from. I really need to hear this. Thank you 1252 00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,080 Speaker 3: so much. Also, thanks to you, I'm now a huge 1253 00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:05,160 Speaker 3: fan of comedy in general. I now actively listen to 1254 00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:08,880 Speaker 3: about twelve or more podcasts hosted by other comedians. Oh yes, 1255 00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:11,480 Speaker 3: my boyfriend has tells me I have a sickness. I'm 1256 00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,160 Speaker 3: a fan of all these comedians and have gone to 1257 00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:14,840 Speaker 3: see most of them live, and I would have never 1258 00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:16,320 Speaker 3: discovered them if it had not been for you and 1259 00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:18,600 Speaker 3: your podcast. So thank you for bringing so much lefter 1260 00:58:18,640 --> 00:58:22,680 Speaker 3: and joined to my life. Final thought. This is hers, 1261 00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:24,880 Speaker 3: but we'll make it ours too. Final thought. I really 1262 00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:26,480 Speaker 3: hope to get to the end of this letter. I 1263 00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:28,640 Speaker 3: know it's probably really uncomfortable to hear these things about yourself, 1264 00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:29,960 Speaker 3: but I hope you can accept these words into your 1265 00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,040 Speaker 3: heart because you deserve to hear them. This is so 1266 00:58:32,200 --> 00:58:34,439 Speaker 3: nice and you are addressing exactly the feelings I'm having. 1267 00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:36,320 Speaker 3: I have so much more to say, but I believe 1268 00:58:36,360 --> 00:58:37,920 Speaker 3: you Your time is valuable and I don't want to 1269 00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,040 Speaker 3: take up any more of it. I've bombarded you enough 1270 00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:41,480 Speaker 3: with my feelings. At this point, all I have to 1271 00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:43,400 Speaker 3: say is I love you, Nikki and Noah and Anya 1272 00:58:43,480 --> 00:58:45,480 Speaker 3: and Brian and all the besties out there. Don't be 1273 00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:48,920 Speaker 3: cu And just a reminder of what one million people 1274 00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:53,800 Speaker 3: died in nine and eleven joke of ours from way 1275 00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:56,560 Speaker 3: back in the day. So that is so nice. Thank you, Kelsey. 1276 00:58:56,600 --> 00:58:59,280 Speaker 3: That really touched my heart, and I'll try to remember 1277 00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:03,160 Speaker 3: it on days where I feel WHOA, We're worthless, because 1278 00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:06,640 Speaker 3: that always creeps into I was Actually I texted Anya 1279 00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:11,800 Speaker 3: this morning about because I've been I think the listening 1280 00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:14,200 Speaker 3: to Louie a lot has inspired me to like really 1281 00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:17,120 Speaker 3: try to delve into these jokes that I have and 1282 00:59:17,160 --> 00:59:21,040 Speaker 3: like try to really actually find the truth in things 1283 00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,240 Speaker 3: that are just maybe just a little thought I have, 1284 00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:26,720 Speaker 3: but like, no, let's cover every angle and maybe prove 1285 00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:30,000 Speaker 3: a thesis like and that can't really be argued, which 1286 00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:33,760 Speaker 3: is always my favorite thing. And I'm really struggling with 1287 00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:35,720 Speaker 3: the idea of why people want to have kids. I 1288 00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:38,360 Speaker 3: just you know, it started here where I asked Noah 1289 00:59:38,440 --> 00:59:41,240 Speaker 3: one day, like why would you want it? Because Noah, 1290 00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:44,040 Speaker 3: Noah would like children, and I just want especially when 1291 00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:47,120 Speaker 3: my best friends want something I don't want I and 1292 00:59:47,160 --> 00:59:51,480 Speaker 3: everyone knows, like I'm very interested in like I'm bothered 1293 00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,520 Speaker 3: by the fact I don't want things. And I say 1294 00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:55,640 Speaker 3: this on stage, I'm like, I'm not approaching this kid 1295 00:59:55,680 --> 00:59:58,800 Speaker 3: thing like a Chelsea Handler vibe, which is Chelsea Handler's vibe, 1296 00:59:58,840 --> 01:00:00,520 Speaker 3: which I totally agree with her as well, and I 1297 01:00:00,600 --> 01:00:03,240 Speaker 3: fucking love her take on not wanting kids and being 1298 01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,640 Speaker 3: child free and childless, but hers is more like I 1299 01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:10,240 Speaker 3: did the right thing. Your life kind of sucks that 1300 01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:12,160 Speaker 3: you have kids, And I like that angle because it 1301 01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,400 Speaker 3: really I send them those clips to Anya all the 1302 01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:17,000 Speaker 3: time because we're both child free people. And she's gone 1303 01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:19,040 Speaker 3: right now because she decided to go have kids. She 1304 01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:22,640 Speaker 3: we just lost her. But she's like, actually I'm out 1305 01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:25,760 Speaker 3: of that, Nikki. So she's in labor right now. But 1306 01:00:27,200 --> 01:00:29,400 Speaker 3: Chelsea Handler has more of like a just like why 1307 01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,360 Speaker 3: would you do it? Like I'm living the best life. 1308 01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:33,320 Speaker 3: I'm smoking weed every day. I can do whatever you want, 1309 01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:35,680 Speaker 3: I can sleep till noon. Mine is more like, yes, 1310 01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:37,560 Speaker 3: I can do all those things. I get that, but like, 1311 01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:40,440 Speaker 3: what am I not getting about this one? To have kids? 1312 01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:43,160 Speaker 3: Clearly there's something about this that I'm missing out on. 1313 01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:48,320 Speaker 3: And so I've been like investigating it in every way. 1314 01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:51,640 Speaker 3: And I know that we have kids to prosper our species. 1315 01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:56,040 Speaker 3: That's the number one reason, because every species does. And 1316 01:00:56,080 --> 01:00:59,200 Speaker 3: then there's the emotional thing of like Noah said, I 1317 01:00:59,240 --> 01:01:01,560 Speaker 3: want to see the world through a child's eyes, and 1318 01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:03,040 Speaker 3: that gets a laugh in my set because I go 1319 01:01:03,120 --> 01:01:04,680 Speaker 3: my one friend Noah says, I would like to see 1320 01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:06,960 Speaker 3: the world through my child's eyes, and I go go 1321 01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:11,720 Speaker 3: to Burning Man like I just to do some asset, 1322 01:01:11,880 --> 01:01:13,760 Speaker 3: like I think you'll get that experience. So then it 1323 01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:18,400 Speaker 3: gets a let of drugs, but you want a lifetime 1324 01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:23,080 Speaker 3: of them and then uh, And then I explored, like 1325 01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,520 Speaker 3: I think, but I think the answer is and there's 1326 01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:29,040 Speaker 3: no shade here whatsoever. But I think the true answer 1327 01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:32,600 Speaker 3: is that people want meaning in their lives and they 1328 01:01:32,680 --> 01:01:36,280 Speaker 3: don't have meaning. At some point in adulthood, you find 1329 01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,840 Speaker 3: a career, you pursue that career, you do that career, 1330 01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:41,320 Speaker 3: you find a husband, you get the husband, and things 1331 01:01:41,400 --> 01:01:44,120 Speaker 3: kind of just settle down and you feel like, what 1332 01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:46,360 Speaker 3: the what's the point of me being here? What am 1333 01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:49,400 Speaker 3: I here for? And I struggle with that all the time. 1334 01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:51,760 Speaker 3: That's like why I have suicidal thoughts. It's like, what's 1335 01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:54,200 Speaker 3: the point of me? Like if I didn't exist, who 1336 01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:57,480 Speaker 3: would care? And I think that instead of people letting 1337 01:01:57,520 --> 01:02:01,160 Speaker 3: those suicidal thoughts in, they go let me find meaning 1338 01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:03,840 Speaker 3: in the form of being a mother. And I woke 1339 01:02:03,960 --> 01:02:06,320 Speaker 3: up this morning too, I opened my Instagram and the 1340 01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:09,200 Speaker 3: first thing that pops up is this do you know 1341 01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:16,360 Speaker 3: Bobby what's her name? Bobby out out and off? Wait 1342 01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:18,240 Speaker 3: where is it? I sent it to Anya hold on 1343 01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:23,200 Speaker 3: once again? Bobby altof She's that girl that talks like 1344 01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:25,720 Speaker 3: this and it yeahs rappers and it's just very like. 1345 01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:28,600 Speaker 4: My good podcast or something like that. Yeah, like the 1346 01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,840 Speaker 4: very good podcast she interviewed Drake and Bed and one viral. 1347 01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,520 Speaker 3: Oh yeah yeah, and she's just like, are you heading 1348 01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:34,760 Speaker 3: on me? 1349 01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:36,160 Speaker 2: Why? 1350 01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:39,200 Speaker 3: And she's just so chill and so cool. But she's 1351 01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:41,680 Speaker 3: a mom, she's a young mom. But this quote I 1352 01:02:41,680 --> 01:02:44,920 Speaker 3: woke up to, I guess it's from her Cosmopolitan interview, 1353 01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:46,680 Speaker 3: and she said, there are times when I think that 1354 01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:48,919 Speaker 3: if I didn't have my kids, I wouldn't be here. 1355 01:02:49,640 --> 01:02:51,520 Speaker 3: When I don't feel like the world needs me or 1356 01:02:51,520 --> 01:02:53,000 Speaker 3: that I have a place here. I know that my 1357 01:02:53,080 --> 01:02:55,560 Speaker 3: kids need me, and it got cut off by the 1358 01:02:55,920 --> 01:03:00,400 Speaker 3: the thing, but that answers it for me. People feel 1359 01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:03,920 Speaker 3: worthless if they don't have a purpot like she wouldn't 1360 01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:05,960 Speaker 3: be here if she had kids. If that tells me 1361 01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,760 Speaker 3: she would be dead if she wouldn't be here, right, 1362 01:03:08,960 --> 01:03:11,720 Speaker 3: I don't think she's talking about Cosmopolitan magazine. I wouldn't 1363 01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:15,280 Speaker 3: be here. She means I wouldn't be alive. Therefore she 1364 01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:21,440 Speaker 3: probably was a little bit. She's referencing I'm guessing unliving, 1365 01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:23,360 Speaker 3: which is the way that you're supposed to say it. 1366 01:03:23,400 --> 01:03:25,600 Speaker 3: Right now, even though. 1367 01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:27,880 Speaker 4: I really like that, I don't know if I agree 1368 01:03:27,880 --> 01:03:29,960 Speaker 4: with that though, because what do you know it means 1369 01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:34,440 Speaker 4: why wouldn't be here when when parents say like, oh, 1370 01:03:34,480 --> 01:03:38,600 Speaker 4: my children are my life or comments like that, I 1371 01:03:38,600 --> 01:03:42,520 Speaker 4: think it just puts the onus on the children, you know, 1372 01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:46,520 Speaker 4: it's it's I don't know, there's just something without that I. 1373 01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:48,640 Speaker 3: Don't I don't think it's because I would be like 1374 01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:51,000 Speaker 3: my mom would have killed herself if I didn't exist, 1375 01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:54,840 Speaker 3: and therefore my mom really didn't have worth without me. Well, 1376 01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:57,680 Speaker 3: that's a lot of fucking pressure. And also, if I 1377 01:03:57,960 --> 01:03:59,360 Speaker 3: grow up and I don't really want to talk to 1378 01:03:59,440 --> 01:04:01,320 Speaker 3: my mom on the phone every day anymore and I 1379 01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:04,120 Speaker 3: don't really need her, is she gonna kill herself? Which 1380 01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:07,000 Speaker 3: is a lot of people's concerns that have overbearing mothers. 1381 01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:09,640 Speaker 3: And I'm not saying this woman's overbearing or that this 1382 01:04:09,760 --> 01:04:12,000 Speaker 3: was a wrong thing to say. It just gave me 1383 01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:17,040 Speaker 3: insight into exactly why I think people do do have kids. 1384 01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:20,400 Speaker 3: I think I'm getting it now. It's because they need 1385 01:04:20,520 --> 01:04:24,680 Speaker 3: another they want a purpose in life, and that is 1386 01:04:24,720 --> 01:04:27,640 Speaker 3: the instinct. Because my argument is that animals were the 1387 01:04:27,680 --> 01:04:31,720 Speaker 3: only species that tries for kids. Other species just have 1388 01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,880 Speaker 3: kids and they're like, whoa I just had? Like they 1389 01:04:34,920 --> 01:04:37,480 Speaker 3: don't relate having sex to like we're gonna make a 1390 01:04:37,520 --> 01:04:40,600 Speaker 3: baby bird. They don't think of it. I really don't 1391 01:04:40,600 --> 01:04:43,120 Speaker 3: think birds know that inside their egg is a little bird. 1392 01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:45,680 Speaker 3: It's just the instinct pops up. Oh the bird comes out, 1393 01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:47,440 Speaker 3: and they go, oh, I gotta feed this thing. It's 1394 01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:50,720 Speaker 3: all instinct. It's not like they're like animals are fucking like, oh, 1395 01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:53,160 Speaker 3: we gotta try for kids. They don't know. They're just 1396 01:04:53,200 --> 01:04:55,920 Speaker 3: fucking because it feels good or because it's the instinct. 1397 01:04:56,120 --> 01:04:58,680 Speaker 3: We're the only animals that go, I'm gonna fuck so 1398 01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:02,080 Speaker 3: that I can have kids. Kids are like just a 1399 01:05:02,120 --> 01:05:06,680 Speaker 3: thing that shows up for almost like predator. It's the 1400 01:05:06,680 --> 01:05:07,840 Speaker 3: thing you have to deal with. 1401 01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:13,040 Speaker 6: Monitoring their theirlation cycles the month. 1402 01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:17,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, can I just goly weird to have like a 1403 01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:19,480 Speaker 3: it's a new thing to want to have kids. 1404 01:05:19,800 --> 01:05:23,080 Speaker 4: Can I just go back to what we were saying about, 1405 01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:25,240 Speaker 4: like kids give me meaning, give my life. 1406 01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:26,080 Speaker 3: Yeah. 1407 01:05:26,160 --> 01:05:31,480 Speaker 4: I think the the correct approach, or you know, or 1408 01:05:31,520 --> 01:05:34,120 Speaker 4: the one that doesn't like put any burden on children 1409 01:05:34,440 --> 01:05:39,400 Speaker 4: is kids gave our relationship a meaning. Because I remember 1410 01:05:39,440 --> 01:05:43,960 Speaker 4: seeing a statistic that like if you don't have like 1411 01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:47,240 Speaker 4: a big change in your relationship, like every four years, 1412 01:05:48,200 --> 01:05:50,720 Speaker 4: you're it's more likely that your relationship will fall apart. 1413 01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:53,280 Speaker 4: So you know, if the changes, Oh we're going to 1414 01:05:53,360 --> 01:05:55,760 Speaker 4: move in together, or we're going to get engaged and 1415 01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:58,640 Speaker 4: get married, we're going to have on this special together. 1416 01:05:58,720 --> 01:06:01,640 Speaker 6: What's the specistic it's saying, Man, if you don't have 1417 01:06:01,680 --> 01:06:04,080 Speaker 6: a big change every four years, you're gonna break up. 1418 01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:07,760 Speaker 3: I totally need to agree. We needs a big kind 1419 01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:12,840 Speaker 3: of impact to shi people need big announcements, like Instagram 1420 01:06:12,960 --> 01:06:15,360 Speaker 3: is just a microcosm of a bigger thing, which is 1421 01:06:15,400 --> 01:06:18,920 Speaker 3: like we all before Instagram, we still needed like a 1422 01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:22,800 Speaker 3: thing to look forward to humans, like we need things 1423 01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:25,280 Speaker 3: to look forward to in life. And when you get 1424 01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:27,040 Speaker 3: to be a certain age and you've been working a 1425 01:06:27,120 --> 01:06:29,240 Speaker 3: job that and you're not gonna get a promotion and 1426 01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:31,600 Speaker 3: you're not gonna pursue a new career and your house 1427 01:06:31,640 --> 01:06:33,560 Speaker 3: is the way it's gonna be and you can't afford, 1428 01:06:33,680 --> 01:06:36,000 Speaker 3: like you gotta bring something into the shake it up 1429 01:06:36,000 --> 01:06:36,480 Speaker 3: a little bit. 1430 01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:38,200 Speaker 2: I think that's statistics flawed. 1431 01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:40,880 Speaker 6: I think that statistics flawed, and it's it's it's skewed 1432 01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:44,840 Speaker 6: by the fact that just most relationships are not good ones, 1433 01:06:45,040 --> 01:06:48,680 Speaker 6: and so they break up before four eight years happen, 1434 01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:51,640 Speaker 6: and then then they're trying to everything. 1435 01:06:51,320 --> 01:06:54,040 Speaker 3: Has to apply it to like one, Like, I'm sure that's. 1436 01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:57,080 Speaker 6: True too, But there's plenty of examples of couples who 1437 01:06:57,160 --> 01:07:00,720 Speaker 6: have been married for sixty years and like they haven't 1438 01:07:00,760 --> 01:07:03,360 Speaker 6: had a big change since their kids went to college, 1439 01:07:03,800 --> 01:07:05,760 Speaker 6: and like, well, what happened? What about those thirty years 1440 01:07:05,760 --> 01:07:07,560 Speaker 6: where there's no changes happening where they're. 1441 01:07:07,400 --> 01:07:11,440 Speaker 4: Just kind of my parents' marriage fell apart when you know, 1442 01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:14,320 Speaker 4: like the empty nest syndrome, Yeah, because nothing. 1443 01:07:14,640 --> 01:07:16,680 Speaker 2: So a big change happened and then they broke up. 1444 01:07:16,680 --> 01:07:17,640 Speaker 2: So that goes against that. 1445 01:07:17,640 --> 01:07:21,680 Speaker 3: Study, right, But I think it's like it's it's not 1446 01:07:21,760 --> 01:07:25,160 Speaker 3: a distraction for it's not something to work on together, 1447 01:07:25,240 --> 01:07:27,720 Speaker 3: whereas an empty nest is a big change in a 1448 01:07:27,760 --> 01:07:29,920 Speaker 3: way that it's like a deficit. It's not like adding 1449 01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:35,840 Speaker 3: forces project. Yes, I think that there's no Everyone knows 1450 01:07:35,840 --> 01:07:38,720 Speaker 3: that people have kids because they're bored in their relationships. 1451 01:07:38,760 --> 01:07:40,240 Speaker 3: We all know that's a bad reason to have kids, 1452 01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,120 Speaker 3: and that people do do that, like, let's save the 1453 01:07:42,160 --> 01:07:44,320 Speaker 3: relationship by bringing a new kid, like a new thing 1454 01:07:44,400 --> 01:07:48,120 Speaker 3: for us to deflect our boredom with each other. Onto, yes, 1455 01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,040 Speaker 3: but I'm just trying to I want to do a 1456 01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:52,880 Speaker 3: set where I cover. I want to be able to 1457 01:07:52,880 --> 01:07:55,680 Speaker 3: go to the audience and have every reason that people 1458 01:07:55,720 --> 01:07:57,960 Speaker 3: have kids and have a thing to say about it 1459 01:07:58,120 --> 01:08:00,520 Speaker 3: and not being like and that's a shitty reason, because 1460 01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,880 Speaker 3: I don't think these are shitty reasons. I even last night, 1461 01:08:03,920 --> 01:08:06,920 Speaker 3: I said, I get why you have kids. You're bored 1462 01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:09,720 Speaker 3: and your life is meaningless without them, which is not 1463 01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:12,080 Speaker 3: a bad thing. That's why I do comedy. My life 1464 01:08:12,120 --> 01:08:15,200 Speaker 3: is fucking meaningless without doing another season of f Boy. 1465 01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:17,960 Speaker 3: That's why I pursue projects. It's not enough for I 1466 01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:20,000 Speaker 3: have a weekend off and I have no purpose in 1467 01:08:20,040 --> 01:08:21,559 Speaker 3: my life. If I have a day off of work, 1468 01:08:21,840 --> 01:08:24,400 Speaker 3: I want to kill myself because I'm like, what is 1469 01:08:24,439 --> 01:08:27,000 Speaker 3: the point of my life? So I don't begrudge anyone 1470 01:08:27,040 --> 01:08:30,519 Speaker 3: having kids to fulfill that void. But you have to 1471 01:08:30,560 --> 01:08:32,880 Speaker 3: admit that's why you're doing it. That's what I want 1472 01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:35,240 Speaker 3: people to have to admit. It's like, you're not doing 1473 01:08:35,280 --> 01:08:38,800 Speaker 3: this because you've always like, I just don't know that. 1474 01:08:39,400 --> 01:08:41,519 Speaker 3: I think people are just scared to admit the real 1475 01:08:41,560 --> 01:08:43,720 Speaker 3: reason they do things. People are scared admit they have 1476 01:08:43,760 --> 01:08:45,720 Speaker 3: low self esteem. People are scared to and this is 1477 01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:49,120 Speaker 3: a separate issue. People are scared to admit that they're insecure. 1478 01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:51,519 Speaker 3: People are scared to admit they're bored. People are scared 1479 01:08:51,560 --> 01:08:54,479 Speaker 3: to admit my life really doesn't have meaning outside of 1480 01:08:54,520 --> 01:08:58,599 Speaker 3: this one thing. I think I'm more I've been I've 1481 01:08:58,640 --> 01:09:01,439 Speaker 3: been doing it for many years on stage of admitting 1482 01:09:01,439 --> 01:09:05,400 Speaker 3: my flaws. So I'm just more and in therapy, more 1483 01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:07,479 Speaker 3: able to do that than most people. But I want 1484 01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:09,920 Speaker 3: to get people to a place where they can stop 1485 01:09:09,960 --> 01:09:12,639 Speaker 3: putting themselves on a pedestal for having kids and start 1486 01:09:12,720 --> 01:09:14,920 Speaker 3: realizing what it really is is that you're not some 1487 01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:17,760 Speaker 3: sort of hero. You are in my and actually you 1488 01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:19,759 Speaker 3: are a hero in my eyes because you're loving something 1489 01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:22,040 Speaker 3: so much that can ruin your life if anything happens 1490 01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:24,080 Speaker 3: to it. I think that is completely brave. I would 1491 01:09:24,120 --> 01:09:27,080 Speaker 3: never I think it is up there with free solo 1492 01:09:28,240 --> 01:09:32,360 Speaker 3: climbing in terms of a risk because you're toddler. We 1493 01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:34,000 Speaker 3: all know toddlers like to get into shit, and if 1494 01:09:34,040 --> 01:09:36,880 Speaker 3: you don't watch it with like a hawkeye, your life 1495 01:09:36,880 --> 01:09:39,120 Speaker 3: could be over. Your toddler could just like run off 1496 01:09:39,160 --> 01:09:41,080 Speaker 3: with your life in its hands and ruin your life. 1497 01:09:41,080 --> 01:09:43,360 Speaker 3: Completely if something happens to it, or if something just 1498 01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:47,519 Speaker 3: like unlucky befalls, disease, whatever, like, you're taking a huge risk. 1499 01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,960 Speaker 3: So I really give it up to parents for that reason. 1500 01:09:50,000 --> 01:09:55,240 Speaker 3: But don't delude yourself into thinking that you are some 1501 01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:57,960 Speaker 3: like martyr or like better person than me. That's what 1502 01:09:58,040 --> 01:10:00,000 Speaker 3: I kind of want to strip away is like parents, 1503 01:10:00,000 --> 01:10:02,240 Speaker 3: I think like they're better than people who. 1504 01:10:02,240 --> 01:10:06,640 Speaker 6: Have a different little approach is that it's less of 1505 01:10:06,760 --> 01:10:10,120 Speaker 6: just like the reason why you decided to have kids 1506 01:10:10,760 --> 01:10:14,760 Speaker 6: is not valid versus, why are you think you're better 1507 01:10:14,800 --> 01:10:17,240 Speaker 6: than me because you had kids or why does that 1508 01:10:17,280 --> 01:10:18,240 Speaker 6: make you superior. 1509 01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:20,160 Speaker 3: I don't think most people think they're better than me 1510 01:10:20,200 --> 01:10:21,920 Speaker 3: because they have kids. I think there are a few 1511 01:10:21,920 --> 01:10:24,280 Speaker 3: people that do. But I also want to strip away 1512 01:10:24,280 --> 01:10:25,960 Speaker 3: the idea that even if you don't think you're better 1513 01:10:25,960 --> 01:10:27,800 Speaker 3: than me, the reason you think you had kids is 1514 01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:30,639 Speaker 3: kind of not the reason you think like you because 1515 01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:33,040 Speaker 3: I have so much love to give and I've always 1516 01:10:33,080 --> 01:10:36,000 Speaker 3: wanted to be a mother. No, there is an insecurity 1517 01:10:36,040 --> 01:10:38,439 Speaker 3: deep down in you that you're not enough unless you 1518 01:10:38,560 --> 01:10:40,240 Speaker 3: put more life on this planet, and that you have 1519 01:10:40,320 --> 01:10:42,240 Speaker 3: a job. And we all come from a place of 1520 01:10:42,280 --> 01:10:44,679 Speaker 3: that I just happen to have a job that has 1521 01:10:44,800 --> 01:10:49,639 Speaker 3: not yet become too boring that I need something else. 1522 01:10:49,800 --> 01:10:52,360 Speaker 3: I think that if my I definitely think that I 1523 01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:54,839 Speaker 3: could have kids if I get bored with my life. 1524 01:10:55,000 --> 01:10:58,320 Speaker 3: And maybe that is not everyone's perspective. People are, please 1525 01:10:58,600 --> 01:11:00,600 Speaker 3: write to me and say that is if you have 1526 01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:02,320 Speaker 3: a perspective on why you had kids, that is I 1527 01:11:02,360 --> 01:11:04,240 Speaker 3: haven't touched on yet. I want to hear it because 1528 01:11:04,240 --> 01:11:06,280 Speaker 3: I want to hear every single side of why you 1529 01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,599 Speaker 3: want to have kids, because I'm trying, in a very 1530 01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:12,479 Speaker 3: slightly autistic way to understand another side of human beings 1531 01:11:12,520 --> 01:11:15,720 Speaker 3: that I don't understand, and I want I just want 1532 01:11:15,760 --> 01:11:18,080 Speaker 3: to get it. Like I I get frustrated when I 1533 01:11:18,200 --> 01:11:19,800 Speaker 3: you know, I've felt this way about why do you 1534 01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:22,519 Speaker 3: like hiking? Why do people like to go see things 1535 01:11:22,520 --> 01:11:24,920 Speaker 3: that they could google image? I just want to why 1536 01:11:24,920 --> 01:11:26,880 Speaker 3: do you like cooking when you could order out food? 1537 01:11:27,360 --> 01:11:29,439 Speaker 3: And I understand that some people cook because it's cheaper, 1538 01:11:29,479 --> 01:11:31,240 Speaker 3: but like some people don't, some people like to cook 1539 01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:33,360 Speaker 3: even if they can afford to order out. I like 1540 01:11:33,400 --> 01:11:37,080 Speaker 3: to understand people's motivations, So send in yours if you 1541 01:11:37,160 --> 01:11:40,600 Speaker 3: have one, and or if if I've hit it on 1542 01:11:40,640 --> 01:11:41,960 Speaker 3: the nail on the head. Please send that to me 1543 01:11:42,000 --> 01:11:45,760 Speaker 3: as well. But yeah, when people say they have so 1544 01:11:45,840 --> 01:11:50,559 Speaker 3: much love to give, that's why I hike. 1545 01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:52,639 Speaker 2: I hike because I have so much love to give. 1546 01:11:54,400 --> 01:11:57,200 Speaker 3: But like, is it have the love you have for 1547 01:11:57,280 --> 01:12:00,920 Speaker 3: a dog? There's nothing in me that goes man, I 1548 01:12:00,960 --> 01:12:04,559 Speaker 3: want something more like it's just so there's so much 1549 01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:06,000 Speaker 3: love there. I had to give my dogs to my 1550 01:12:06,080 --> 01:12:07,840 Speaker 3: parents to get them away from me. I love them 1551 01:12:07,840 --> 01:12:11,360 Speaker 3: too much. Like it's too strong. But I think it's 1552 01:12:11,360 --> 01:12:13,400 Speaker 3: like a drug. Love is like a drug. People want 1553 01:12:13,400 --> 01:12:16,400 Speaker 3: a stronger one. Give me something that's like, Okay, I 1554 01:12:16,439 --> 01:12:18,640 Speaker 3: want this dog to like talk, now, Okay, what's the 1555 01:12:18,760 --> 01:12:20,160 Speaker 3: what's the version of that? That's a baby? 1556 01:12:20,320 --> 01:12:20,519 Speaker 2: You know. 1557 01:12:20,640 --> 01:12:23,240 Speaker 3: Like, I think people want love, and there's nothing wrong 1558 01:12:23,280 --> 01:12:27,120 Speaker 3: with that, but I think that I just want a 1559 01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:29,479 Speaker 3: reason for it, and I and people give me too 1560 01:12:29,560 --> 01:12:31,560 Speaker 3: vague of reasons for having kids, and I feel like 1561 01:12:31,640 --> 01:12:35,799 Speaker 3: it's it ends up sounding like when people describe mushroom trips. 1562 01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:37,439 Speaker 3: I just don't. I'm like, I guess I gotta do 1563 01:12:37,479 --> 01:12:38,800 Speaker 3: it to understand it. 1564 01:12:39,439 --> 01:12:41,320 Speaker 6: That's the problem with kids, though, is once you do 1565 01:12:41,400 --> 01:12:44,120 Speaker 6: it to understand it, then that's the only way you're 1566 01:12:44,120 --> 01:12:45,600 Speaker 6: going to know whether or not you want it to 1567 01:12:45,680 --> 01:12:46,240 Speaker 6: do that trip. 1568 01:12:46,320 --> 01:12:47,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all you do time. 1569 01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:49,640 Speaker 6: Yeah, it's only you do shrooms like and then you 1570 01:12:49,680 --> 01:12:52,639 Speaker 6: have to raise those shrooms for the next twenty years 1571 01:12:52,640 --> 01:12:54,679 Speaker 6: while they slowly suck away your lively. 1572 01:12:55,240 --> 01:12:58,000 Speaker 3: I respect it mad respect to parents out there, because 1573 01:12:58,040 --> 01:13:00,559 Speaker 3: you were locking yourself into a thing that you could 1574 01:13:00,600 --> 01:13:04,000 Speaker 3: maybe not like and that you might have made a 1575 01:13:05,000 --> 01:13:06,920 Speaker 3: just was like, we'll see if we like this, and 1576 01:13:07,360 --> 01:13:09,240 Speaker 3: shut up to mostly men who are the ones that 1577 01:13:09,400 --> 01:13:12,280 Speaker 3: like get stuck being parents and don't really have a 1578 01:13:12,360 --> 01:13:15,160 Speaker 3: choice whether or not they're going to be parents. Yeah, 1579 01:13:15,160 --> 01:13:18,080 Speaker 3: I would wear condoms. I mean, the fact that men 1580 01:13:18,120 --> 01:13:21,479 Speaker 3: ever don't wear condoms is so insane to me because 1581 01:13:21,479 --> 01:13:23,720 Speaker 3: at least as a woman in the state I am 1582 01:13:23,760 --> 01:13:25,720 Speaker 3: in right now, I think in California, you can still 1583 01:13:25,760 --> 01:13:28,519 Speaker 3: get abortions. I get to decide whether that I become 1584 01:13:28,560 --> 01:13:32,320 Speaker 3: a parent. Men do not. They just have to do it. 1585 01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:34,600 Speaker 6: Then the well, men get to decide whether or not 1586 01:13:34,640 --> 01:13:35,479 Speaker 6: they stick around. 1587 01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:39,160 Speaker 3: Well, men can you know, run the world and decide 1588 01:13:39,160 --> 01:13:41,639 Speaker 3: whether or not women keep their babies or what. But yeah, 1589 01:13:41,680 --> 01:13:43,160 Speaker 3: men can just but they still have to pay, they'll 1590 01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:45,720 Speaker 3: get hunted down and they'll still be a parent. They'll 1591 01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:47,920 Speaker 3: still have to live knowing they abandon their child the 1592 01:13:47,920 --> 01:13:49,920 Speaker 3: rest of their life. We've really gotten into it. We 1593 01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:52,559 Speaker 3: lost Anya, but maybe for good reason in this last time. 1594 01:13:52,760 --> 01:13:55,000 Speaker 3: Thank you guys so much for listening to the show 1595 01:13:55,040 --> 01:13:57,120 Speaker 3: this week. We will be back next week, you know 1596 01:13:57,160 --> 01:13:59,840 Speaker 3: we will. Thank you for your call, Kelly, Thank you 1597 01:13:59,880 --> 01:14:03,760 Speaker 3: for your letter, Kelsey Dobeka And did you just tell 1598 01:14:03,800 --> 01:14:05,040 Speaker 3: me why you wanted have kids? 1599 01:14:05,600 --> 01:14:05,640 Speaker 6: M