Speaker 1: Hello, Hello listeners. It's Chelsea hand Job and Catherine.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 3: We're sitting in my new house actually with a new setup,
Speaker 3: with a new setup. We're trying to make a new setup.
Speaker 3: Everything's everything's a work in progress here.
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 1: I'm here in town. I've been here for two days.
Speaker 1: It's crazy.
Speaker 2: What was the same place for two whole days?
Speaker 1: Two old days.
Speaker 3: Tomorrow I'm going to Auburn, Washington to the Muckleshoot Casino
Speaker 3: to perform. And then Friday night I have a show
Speaker 3: and Santa Rosa at the Luther Burbank Center for the Arts.
Speaker 1: There's still tickets for that show.
Speaker 3: And then Santa Barbara Bawls August seventeenth, there are still
Speaker 3: tickets for that show. And then my Vegas residency starts
Speaker 3: on September first.
Speaker 2: How exciting.
Speaker 3: Oh September first, November two, and November thirtieth on my
Speaker 3: first three dates.
Speaker 1: Excellent.
Speaker 3: So yeah, we're taking all my friends are trying to
Speaker 3: turn it into a big party. I'll bet, so that's fun.
Speaker 3: My friend Karen who runs my life, was like, they
Speaker 3: want to know if you're bringing Doug to Vegas.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't really see that happening.
Speaker 3: Why would Doug want to go to Vegas just to
Speaker 3: urinate inside the hotel room. Maybe, but he's not interested
Speaker 3: in going to Vegas, so I mean he's interested in me,
Speaker 3: so that's good enough. But yeah, I'm not gonna put
Speaker 3: him in that heat. That would be abusive. And everyone
Speaker 3: knows how professional I am as a dog owner. They
Speaker 3: may take drugs accidentally once in a while, but I
Speaker 3: do not abuse these dogs.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's not intentional.
Speaker 1: No, nothing is intentional, Chelsea.
Speaker 2: We have a really exciting guest today.
Speaker 3: I know he's really funny and he has a very
Speaker 3: very funny delivery. We've been having a lot of comedians
Speaker 3: on because it's more fun, I think, Yeah, but we
Speaker 3: still keep it mixed up. We have a really cool
Speaker 3: doctor coming up that I'm excited about, whose book.
Speaker 1: I want to read.
Speaker 3: But today our guest has a podcast called Getting Better
Speaker 3: and he is always on a constant journey to better himself.
Speaker 3: So I love when a male comics are up to that.
Speaker 3: And his TV show Loot isn't its second season which
Speaker 3: now streams on Apple TV Plus. So please welcome actor
Speaker 3: and stand up ron Funches. Okay, we're here with mister
Speaker 3: Funches himself, mister Ron Funches is sitting right next to
Speaker 3: me in my studio, face to face in what Sherman Oaks?
Speaker 1: Is that where we are with the area.
Speaker 4: I used to live in this area. I'm very familiar
Speaker 4: with this area.
Speaker 1: How build up this community?
Speaker 4: I love this community. I love going to show my
Speaker 4: nose Castle Park. If you're looking for a good way
Speaker 4: to spend the day playing mini.
Speaker 1: Golf, Oh are you good at mini golf?
Speaker 4: I'm getting way better, way better than.
Speaker 1: Hey, Catherine.
Speaker 3: I can hear those pages turning very loudly for some
Speaker 3: reason in my ear.
Speaker 1: It's like a M S A R. What's it called?
Speaker 3: A ms r ASSM? What is a ms r asm automatic?
Speaker 3: Psycho Suki? Do you like that?
Speaker 1: A M S R ASMR No?
Speaker 4: I think it's gross. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: Isn't it so weird? What everyone's into these days?
Speaker 3: Like when people want to hear the sound of food
Speaker 3: being chewed and certain types of food being cooked, You're like.
Speaker 4: What, Yeah, a lot of kinks, a lot of weird, right, have.
Speaker 3: Time to come up with kinks like that? Me sitting
Speaker 3: around like what the fuck can I think about next?
Speaker 3: And it's like I want to hear eggs hitting a
Speaker 3: frying fan.
Speaker 4: I'm just stick to butts and boobs. I'm not I'm
Speaker 4: cool with that.
Speaker 3: How are buts and boobs working out for you?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: You know? It depends on the day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know what you're saying.
Speaker 4: Sometimes you're happy with them, sometimes you're like they're going
Speaker 4: to be the Definitely.
Speaker 1: Have you been in a long term relationship?
Speaker 4: I have. I've been married twice.
Speaker 1: How long was each marriage?
Speaker 4: One marriage was seven years and the other marriage was
Speaker 4: two years?
Speaker 3: Okay, so seven years and two years? And would you
Speaker 3: get married for a third time?
Speaker 4: I don't think so.
Speaker 3: I don't think so either. Quite frankly, I think you
Speaker 3: might need to put a pin in it, Like, if
Speaker 3: you can't figure it out twice, don't try the third time. Right,
Speaker 3: it's embarrassing when people have more than.
Speaker 1: Two ex wives, I think so. I mean two ex
Speaker 1: wives isn't not embarrassing?
Speaker 4: No, I don't. If anything, it makes me feel like
Speaker 4: old school wealthy.
Speaker 3: Oh oh right, right, yeah I can see that. Yeah
Speaker 3: that's exactly what I thought when you said that.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, like an oil bear.
Speaker 3: What a mollifluous sounding voice you have. Thank you yes,
Speaker 3: very you should do good night stories like on Calm, like.
Speaker 1: That that meditation app. Do you meditate?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 1: Oh really, but I can.
Speaker 4: I have a room for it. I don't use it.
Speaker 1: You have a whole meditation room that you don't use.
Speaker 4: I'm doing well. I have two xyves.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well that meditation is paying off, right, they're
Speaker 3: both meditating.
Speaker 5: I bet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you do meditate? Oh okay, I thought you
Speaker 3: were against meditation.
Speaker 1: No reason.
Speaker 4: Do you see the tassels on my shoe?
Speaker 1: Oh I know.
Speaker 4: I thought that I'm gonna meditate?
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so that anytime it could happen.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Now, how did you get in touch with yourself to
Speaker 3: start meditating?
Speaker 4: Okay? Like my spiritual side where it does come from?
Speaker 4: Probably living in Oregon. I moved around Oregon a bunch.
Speaker 4: And if you do that, you're gonna meet a lot
Speaker 4: of hippie women, wicking women, and people who do tarot
Speaker 4: and crystals, and if you want to sleep with them,
Speaker 4: you're going to be open and listen. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I usually you have to be open for sure
Speaker 3: if you want to sleep with people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't be closed off.
Speaker 6: No, it doesn't work maybe once, yeah, yeah, but I'm
Speaker 6: not you know, I'm not the like one night stand,
Speaker 6: So I'm a charmer.
Speaker 4: I got get you in and then you'd never want
Speaker 4: to leave.
Speaker 1: It takes time, though, to get the girl to come in. Right.
Speaker 3: How long do you think it takes you to get
Speaker 3: a woman to start to understand that it's going to
Speaker 3: be better with you?
Speaker 4: About probably two weeks, maybe three dates, four dates? If
Speaker 4: I get you on a fourth date. Yeah, you'll know.
Speaker 3: Rico Swase, I love it. Very confident in your own abilities.
Speaker 6: Well, I just know I'm a good person and self aware. Yeah,
Speaker 6: you could do a lot worse than me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's how you got in touch with your
Speaker 3: spirituality by hanging out with those women.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's cool totally. I mean, a terror reading is
Speaker 4: why I got started in comedy. I had always want
Speaker 4: to do it. I did a terror reading on a
Speaker 4: Halloween party and the reader was just like, you want
Speaker 4: to work in entertainment, You're waiting for it to come
Speaker 4: to you. You need to put into work. And it
Speaker 4: really like shook me and I you know, didn't listen
Speaker 4: for about another year, but then I did.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, yeah I think that stuff. I got an
Speaker 3: energy clearing yesterday and when I left there, I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: you know, some of the stuff was like I didn't
Speaker 3: feel any sort of overwhelming feeling, like I didn't feel
Speaker 3: like energy was being released or moving around my body.
Speaker 3: So I was disappointed on that aspect. But she had
Speaker 3: done an energy clearing in my house, my new house,
Speaker 3: and it needed one, so I thought she could do
Speaker 3: an energy clearing on me too, And I was like,
Speaker 3: I think all of that matters is that you have
Speaker 3: to believe what you're doing, right, Like, in order for
Speaker 3: it to have an effect on you in a positive way,
Speaker 3: you need to believe that it's true.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I'm a big believer in the power of your thoughts,
Speaker 4: and that's what I don't really subscribe to negative self talk.
Speaker 4: I think our minds are much more powerful than we
Speaker 4: give them credit for. And if you can create your
Speaker 4: reality with your mind, and so if you believe in
Speaker 4: certain things, I think that they are more likely to
Speaker 4: happen for you to be true.
Speaker 1: Right. So you don't believe in negativity, right.
Speaker 6: I do believe in negativity, Yeah, practicing it, I don't like, Yeah.
Speaker 4: But it's there, I've seen it.
Speaker 3: But you don't believe in practicing negativity? Like, you're not
Speaker 3: into negative patterns of behavior. What would you say to people?
Speaker 3: Because people listen to this podcast for like kind of
Speaker 3: spiritual advice and regular life advice and like an outside perspective,
Speaker 3: But one of the most common things is like, how
Speaker 3: to get that negative voice out of your own head?
Speaker 3: Not about other people, about yourself. Yeah, and what would
Speaker 3: you say to that? How what has been your experience
Speaker 3: with your negative voice?
Speaker 4: Oh, you just have to be very on top of
Speaker 4: it and just immediately self correct is what I tried
Speaker 4: to do. For me. It mostly comes up with eating
Speaker 4: and overeating or doing something that I was like, Oh,
Speaker 4: I shouldn't have eaten that, and I'll find myself being like, oh,
Speaker 4: you fat idiot, and then I'll stop myself and be like,
Speaker 4: that's not going to make me feel better. You're working hard,
Speaker 4: you're tired, you're beautiful, and you're worth the effort to
Speaker 4: not have those things, and so you worth the effort
Speaker 4: to go work out. So that's why you need to
Speaker 4: do it, not because you're a big fat dummy, because
Speaker 4: you're a beautiful, chubby stallion.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love that. That's so cute.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 1: That's great. That's great advice.
Speaker 3: For everybody, because you kind of have to start like
Speaker 3: a love affair with yourself. Truly, you really have to
Speaker 3: fall in love with yourself and be like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: these are the best things about me.
Speaker 1: And when you feel like you're at your best and
Speaker 1: you're pumping.
Speaker 3: High and like the vibes are flowing, you're like, oh,
Speaker 3: there's no better, more grounded feeling than being like at
Speaker 3: your best.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So many people, I think, especially ladies that I know,
Speaker 4: afraid to be selfish, and I think that it's always
Speaker 4: given such a negative connotation. But I think taking care
Speaker 4: of yourself, working out, putting your whatever quality things of
Speaker 4: life that you need, like for me, like getting my
Speaker 4: nails done, getting my feet done, And if you don't
Speaker 4: do that, you don't have those selfish things for yourself,
Speaker 4: you're not like able to do more for other people.
Speaker 4: So I just believe you have to be selfish in
Speaker 4: this world. Yeah, And sometimes we just put a negative
Speaker 4: connotation on words that are actually good for us.
Speaker 1: Right, I agree with that.
Speaker 3: Why do you think that women are particularly have such
Speaker 3: a hard time being selfish?
Speaker 5: Ah?
Speaker 4: Because I think that culturally just always taught to give,
Speaker 4: always taught to be a giver, always thought to be
Speaker 4: a caretaker, look out for others before yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you got a confuse You're like, is that a
Speaker 3: maternal instinct or is that just societal standards that have
Speaker 3: been established over millennia. Because there is a maternal instinct,
Speaker 3: but there has got to be a paternal instinct as well,
Speaker 3: which some men seem to have and some men don't.
Speaker 1: Seem to happen. Oh for sure, do you have a
Speaker 1: paternal instinct?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I've spent most of my life being
Speaker 4: a dad. I've been a dad for twenty years so
Speaker 4: and I have a twenty one year old and a
Speaker 4: two year old now, and my best part of my
Speaker 4: life is being a dad because it's nice to have
Speaker 4: someone who cares about the base level of what I do.
Speaker 4: They care more about making sure I take care of him,
Speaker 4: that I spend time with him, that I push him
Speaker 4: on the swing. He doesn't care about like specials or
Speaker 4: shows that I'm on or things like that. I think
Speaker 4: that that having that base level of love and also
Speaker 4: responsibility has been a big balance for me and I
Speaker 4: appreciate that.
Speaker 1: And did it come naturally to you being paternal? Was
Speaker 1: that a natural instinct of yours when you had both
Speaker 1: of your children.
Speaker 4: I don't know if I would call it natural. I
Speaker 4: just think it was out of necessity, especially what my
Speaker 4: older son. I had him so young, and it just
Speaker 4: kind of shifted. Before I met him, I was just
Speaker 4: kind of taking gravity bong hits and laying on floors
Speaker 4: and not having any type of focus and just cruising
Speaker 4: them through life. And he gave me focus. And then
Speaker 4: eventually I had to get so custody of him when
Speaker 4: he was an early teenager, and that I don't think
Speaker 4: was as natural, where I had to kind of freak
Speaker 4: out and figure out how I was going to balance
Speaker 4: both trying to I mean, at that time, I just
Speaker 4: started getting acting roles and stuff and figuring out how
Speaker 4: I was going to do that and have him full
Speaker 4: time and enroll him in school out here in LA
Speaker 4: and stuff was very difficult, but I got help from
Speaker 4: my mom and people.
Speaker 3: Wow, Yeah, that's tough stuff because you're doing like your
Speaker 3: parenting for two people.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, it is definitely, and it's always fun because
Speaker 4: I think it's one of the most unassumed things when
Speaker 4: it comes to male parenting. Whenever people who know I
Speaker 4: have kids They're always are like, well, where where is
Speaker 4: your older son? Like he's at home with me because
Speaker 4: he lives with me, and I get it's not the normal,
Speaker 4: but it's always seemed so dismissive when they're like just
Speaker 4: when you were like, oh no, I'm to love being
Speaker 4: a dad, and they just assume that means that I
Speaker 4: see my son every two weeks or something.
Speaker 1: Uh interesting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and so what was your first big like what
Speaker 3: do you remember your first big break in comedy being.
Speaker 4: Conan O'Brien show, Just being on Conan grew up watching
Speaker 4: Conan and loving his show and just did my first
Speaker 4: set on that and hearing him laugh, hearing Andy laugh.
Speaker 4: It was the first time I was like, oh I
Speaker 4: can this is like my career. I could do this
Speaker 4: for a career.
Speaker 1: It's a pretty awesome career.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love it, well stand up.
Speaker 3: Alone, Like if you can make a living doing stand up,
Speaker 3: it's amazing. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I like it. I don't like the club stuff so
Speaker 4: far or currently, just because of the again, my two sons.
Speaker 4: So I'm trying to hopefully get into doing less work
Speaker 4: for more money.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, who the fuck isn't I want to do
Speaker 3: less work for more money.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm doing more work for less money.
Speaker 4: It's how it seems to be going on. I don't know,
Speaker 4: I don't like it.
Speaker 1: I'm hustling.
Speaker 4: Yeah, me too, a lot of hustle. Yeah it is.
Speaker 1: It doesn't really seem there's no end in sight.
Speaker 4: No, you would, do you feel like you're headed towards something.
Speaker 3: I thought i'd be retired when I turned forty. I'm
Speaker 3: forty nine and I'm now hustling as much as I
Speaker 3: ever was.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you just made me sad because I was like,
Speaker 4: you're not retired, so there's no hope for me. Apparently
Speaker 4: if you had a big old show, iconic and now
Speaker 4: you're still working, guys, I gotta just give up that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. I want to just sit on a
Speaker 1: boat and let my skin fry.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's what I mentioned with just a bunch it
Speaker 3: with my dog and some maybe a couple other people.
Speaker 4: Okay, On that.
Speaker 1: Note, we're going to take a break and we'll be
Speaker 1: right back with Rod Funshes.
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Speaker 3: that was a real quick break.
Speaker 2: Ready to take some questions.
Speaker 1: We are ready to take some questions.
Speaker 6: Ron.
Speaker 1: When was do you remember meeting me?
Speaker 4: I mean I feel like it was just on your show.
Speaker 4: Was the first time I met oh and Chelsea lately?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Oh okay, because I don't remember us meetings. So I
Speaker 3: was going to ask you. I just know you and
Speaker 3: I don't know how we met.
Speaker 4: No, I don't. I mean I could. I know that
Speaker 4: because I see you sometimes around and you look at
Speaker 4: me like you've never seen me in your las. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I saw you at the Netflix brunch and you came
Speaker 4: out of the car with Sarah Silverman, and then I
Speaker 4: hugged Sarah and then you turned and you looked at me,
Speaker 4: and then you just turned and walked away.
Speaker 1: That sounds about right.
Speaker 4: It was right. It was highly accurate.
Speaker 1: That's how I say hello and goodbye.
Speaker 2: Speaking of making more money while doing less.
Speaker 1: That should be the name of this episode.
Speaker 4: Ye.
Speaker 7: Our first question comes from Sarah looking for a swift
Speaker 7: kick in the ass, and I figured you were just
Speaker 7: the bitch to do it. After twenty years together, I
Speaker 7: recently discovered my husband has had a Snapchat girlfriend months
Speaker 7: twenty months, twenty months like a toddler.
Speaker 1: I love affairs, so I just love to hear about him.
Speaker 4: Come on and get mad.
Speaker 7: He communicated with her daily if he a text or
Speaker 7: a snap and although I asked him about it often,
Speaker 7: many red flags were present.
Speaker 2: I just found out emotionally.
Speaker 7: It's nice to finally get the truth and we are
Speaker 7: moving toward a divorce. Financially, though I'm freaking out. I'm
Speaker 7: not afraid to sacrifice or work hard. It just needs
Speaker 7: some decent financial advice. I'm so annoyed with getting myself
Speaker 7: into this situation in the first place. I have a
Speaker 7: great lawyer, and I know I'll get child support and
Speaker 7: a portion of his retirement. I just want to get
Speaker 7: my power back by earning more money. I'll be a
Speaker 7: third grade teacher next year and will be increasing my salary,
Speaker 7: but I want to be more financially independent. Do any
Speaker 7: of those TikTok trends work? I'm looking to make good
Speaker 7: money as I don't.
Speaker 1: Get paid in summer.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I have three daughters that are watching.
Speaker 7: It's important I get this right. Sarah.
Speaker 3: Wow, it sounds like she wants to go on only
Speaker 3: and is looking for someone to give.
Speaker 4: Her the premission. Yeah, which I don't recommend. I feel
Speaker 4: like the bottom is falling out on the OnlyFans economy.
Speaker 4: If anything, I think she wants to be just a
Speaker 4: true independent, high end escort that you can make good
Speaker 4: money away from your home while having fun.
Speaker 1: Fun is for funches is the root word of funches
Speaker 1: is fun?
Speaker 4: Okay, Also, just invest some of her money. You know,
Speaker 4: I'm going through the same thing, going through my divorce,
Speaker 4: and I've tried to just hustle and work hard and
Speaker 4: make as much money as possible. And then also, since
Speaker 4: I work in our business, I'm investing in AI and
Speaker 4: things that are trying to kill our business to hedge
Speaker 4: my bets.
Speaker 3: Oh that's smart, very smart. I know I should be
Speaker 3: better about investing. I'm just gonna bite me in the ass.
Speaker 3: I'm going to get some somebody to help me.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You're going through a very difficult divorce.
Speaker 3: You talk about it a lot on your podcast, right, Yeah,
Speaker 3: So are you allowed to talk about a divorce while
Speaker 3: it's happening?
Speaker 4: I thought that were currently Yeah, until they tell me otherwise,
Speaker 4: and as long as I say things that I have
Speaker 4: text that I can back up.
Speaker 1: What what is the problem? Just just acrimonious divorce.
Speaker 4: It just to you sometimes even though you were like okay,
Speaker 4: I love this person jumping in at the end, then
Speaker 4: you were like, oh wait a minute, not what I
Speaker 4: thought this was. And we got a just fully men
Speaker 4: in black neuralizer this whole thing and act like I
Speaker 4: never met you in.
Speaker 1: My life life. Oh that's rough.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, that sounds like it will be a long
Speaker 3: legal issue, especially if you continue talking about it.
Speaker 1: Probably there's gotta be some about not talking.
Speaker 3: There isn't current legal cases or no, maybe not until
Speaker 3: they tell you to stun right to give you a gaggod.
Speaker 4: I can ask me, it's gonna go along no matter
Speaker 4: what I say.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, yeah, right.
Speaker 3: So I'm sorry to hear that you seem to be
Speaker 3: in good spirits though you don't let those things really
Speaker 3: get you.
Speaker 4: Down to it on occasion, I do, Yeah, if I
Speaker 4: had a depression off of it from it, for sure.
Speaker 4: It feels weird to talking about this recently with Andy Richter.
Speaker 4: I think for everyone you have this thing you build
Speaker 4: up like, Okay, I know what my next day is
Speaker 4: going to be, like, I know what my next month
Speaker 4: is going to be like. And for me, I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I hopefully I know what my next fifteen to fifteen
Speaker 4: years is going to look like. And I'm gonna come
Speaker 4: home and see my son and my wife, and I'm
Speaker 4: gonna go out and do shows and be a fun dad.
Speaker 4: And then you come and you realize like, oh, this
Speaker 4: is not sustainable or possible to maintain, and it's you know,
Speaker 4: it's like a death. So it's been very difficult. And
Speaker 4: then you throw in and being like, oh did I
Speaker 4: even maybe I was an idiot and I didn't do
Speaker 4: enough research on this person and just believe the words
Speaker 4: that they said instead of like, I guess, but it
Speaker 4: feels weird to be like, maybe I need to google
Speaker 4: everybody before you talk to them.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Does Google tell you that these people are like their
Speaker 3: personalities aren't going to mesh with yours?
Speaker 1: Not really. That's actually what AI is going to hopefully
Speaker 1: be good for.
Speaker 3: It could be a better predictor of the future, you know,
Speaker 3: based on past events, because that's what we're really missing.
Speaker 3: We need to know be able to tell the future,
Speaker 3: that's what we're missing in society. If that would calm
Speaker 3: a lot of people down or rile a lot of
Speaker 3: people up, Yeah, and even split, I would say, would
Speaker 3: you want to know.
Speaker 1: What's about to happen? Would you want to know that?
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess that's why I do terror readings,
Speaker 4: so sure, yeah, but.
Speaker 1: You want to hint, you know what I mean? That's
Speaker 1: more of like not foreboding.
Speaker 3: But that's like a carrot you know, like a little
Speaker 3: carrot stick saying like, oh, good things could be coming
Speaker 3: down the pike.
Speaker 1: It's not definite, but it's a possibility.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But else tells you bad things are common?
Speaker 1: Does I never get anything bad? They never tell me
Speaker 1: anything bad?
Speaker 4: But I don't know if you're using a person.
Speaker 1: Maybe I just don't have any bad vibes.
Speaker 7: I know the person that you use gave very bad
Speaker 7: news to one of my friends. Okay, he told her
Speaker 7: she's going to break both of her ankles during her lifetime.
Speaker 1: Wonderful, that's a really nicetime.
Speaker 7: I know. At the same time, that's too long to know,
Speaker 7: it's too long.
Speaker 1: It's too long.
Speaker 7: So she feels like she can't do anything fun or risky.
Speaker 7: I'm like, I would do everything fun and risky.
Speaker 1: I would do it, go overweight, break away, and then
Speaker 1: like yeah.
Speaker 4: Then she breaks her wrists and she's like, oh shit,
Speaker 4: I'm still good.
Speaker 7: But so first, Sarah, I feel like, you know, she
Speaker 7: said she doesn't work during the summers because she's a teacher.
Speaker 2: I feel like the obvious answers, go get a summer job.
Speaker 7: But Ron, I wonder if you have some wisdom around,
Speaker 7: like balancing spending some of that time with her kids
Speaker 7: versus making a little extra cash during the summer. If
Speaker 7: she like goes and gets a job, what should she prioritize?
Speaker 4: Well, I think you you gotta first of all, slow
Speaker 4: down and then realize what you're going to get accurately
Speaker 4: from your lawyers, you know, so you can pay a
Speaker 4: little bit financially knowing what you're gonna get. And then
Speaker 4: I think especially I don't know how old those kids are,
Speaker 4: but they sound at least that they would be able
Speaker 4: to know what's going on, So I think they certainly
Speaker 4: would need some time together and maybe a little bit
Speaker 4: more of a focus on them as opposed to there's
Speaker 4: more ways to take care of your kids besides just
Speaker 4: making sure that they have everything that they need finance anciently,
Speaker 4: you also need to be there for them mentally and
Speaker 4: make sure that they know through this transition that they're
Speaker 4: taking care of and that they're the priorities for both
Speaker 4: of you.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean the same thing.
Speaker 3: I would say that, like this is kind of a
Speaker 3: sensitive time in your life that you want to be
Speaker 3: there for your kids in a transitional period. So while
Speaker 3: you are excited about making more money, like just hold
Speaker 3: on a second, slow down, like Ron said, you know,
Speaker 3: and make sure your kids are okay, and then once
Speaker 3: you know that they are and that they feel safe
Speaker 3: and secure, then you can go off and get another job.
Speaker 1: But how I think she was asking what that job is.
Speaker 7: Going to be Yeah, I feel like waiting tables is
Speaker 7: a good way to like she can work a couple
Speaker 7: days a week and like make some bank.
Speaker 1: Just go wait.
Speaker 7: Tables at like the most expensive restaurant you can find
Speaker 7: in your town.
Speaker 4: Well, also, I feel like we got we nobody even
Speaker 4: taken any time for actual grief here. And that's one
Speaker 4: thing that I know. I fell into that track because
Speaker 4: I was the saying thing. I'm like, oh, I'm not
Speaker 4: going to get my standard of live in. I'm going
Speaker 4: to work and work and fill these things up. And
Speaker 4: then that grief hits you like a ton of bricks
Speaker 4: and you're in a hotel eating two foot long subway
Speaker 4: sandwich is crying and you you don't want to be there.
Speaker 4: I mean, it's not it's fun. Now that I said it,
Speaker 4: it kind of sounds so delicious. Yeah, it doesn't sound
Speaker 4: too bad. But you know, you're not a robot, so
Speaker 4: you gotta have some time for yourself as well and
Speaker 4: be okay with the grief process.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so okay, good luck. We'll tell her to fill
Speaker 3: us in with whatever whatever does happen. I want to
Speaker 3: know we'd like an update. I love updates because you know,
Speaker 3: when people it's nice when people right back in and
Speaker 3: say they did whatever we told them to do or
Speaker 3: they do whatever.
Speaker 1: It's so nice when people change their lives.
Speaker 4: I love. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love to have people get stuck, don't you think?
Speaker 4: Yeah, my podcast we do that a lot. People were like, oh,
Speaker 4: I want started therapy or got out of a toxic relationship,
Speaker 4: or a guy told me he didn't kill himself, and
Speaker 4: I was like, that's.
Speaker 1: Nice, Wow, changing lives.
Speaker 7: We had one of those where you know it, Chelsea
Speaker 7: recommends gratitude journaling a lot, and this person was like,
Speaker 7: I was at my lowest. Things were really terrible, and
Speaker 7: I like started gratitude journaling that weekend and it basically
Speaker 7: saved me.
Speaker 4: Oh I've been doing it. Yeah, before bed and in
Speaker 4: the morning when I stress out wondering about my own stuff.
Speaker 4: I used to be like, wait, what am I thankful for?
Speaker 4: What am I grateful for? Didn't you do these five things?
Speaker 4: And then it calms me down. It work.
Speaker 3: Do you write the full sentence I am grateful for
Speaker 3: a grapefruit? Or do you write like, make a list.
Speaker 3: I have read the list.
Speaker 4: I'm a list guy.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm going to start doing the list because I
Speaker 3: am grateful writing at fifty times in the morning is
Speaker 3: fucking annoying. Yeah, I want to write it once and
Speaker 3: then write everything get excited about what I'm grateful for.
Speaker 3: But it does change your frequency for sure, gratitude journaling,
Speaker 3: which is a sentence I never thought would come out
Speaker 3: of my mouth.
Speaker 1: What's next, Catherine?
Speaker 7: Our next question comes from Sam Sam Jay, not Sam Jay,
Speaker 7: although we're Sam Jay soon. Oh good, Sam, says, Dear Chelsea,
Speaker 7: I'm a twenty six year old man gay, but I
Speaker 7: realized that's a given since I'm writing into the fucking
Speaker 7: Chelsea Handler podcast. My boyfriend thirty two, and I have
Speaker 7: been together over a year now, and for about the
Speaker 7: first seven months, our sex life was everything. We had
Speaker 7: great physical chemistry, had similar sex drives, mine was probably more,
Speaker 7: and we couldn't get enough of each other. I understand
Speaker 7: that sex lives can fade over time naturally, but I
Speaker 7: don't think that's the case here. I recently started a
Speaker 7: new anxiety medication that has been a total life changer,
Speaker 7: except for the fact that I have no sex drive.
Speaker 7: Sex feels like a burden. Recently, I barely want to
Speaker 7: engage at all. Obviously, this is impacting my boyfriend, his
Speaker 7: sex drive has remained the same, and now I'm leaving
Speaker 7: him completely unsatisfied. Is my sex life doomed simply because
Speaker 7: I needed to get my anxiety under control? Is my
Speaker 7: boyfriend going to end up resenting me? Should I just
Speaker 7: suck it up and have sex more often? My doctor
Speaker 7: thinks I should stay on the medication for now. So
Speaker 7: I'm just unsure how to save this relationship. Thanks Sam, Oh.
Speaker 2: Sam's got a cocktail.
Speaker 5: During the day.
Speaker 1: I was like a lot of margarita. It fucking sure
Speaker 1: looks like one.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah during the workday too for me.
Speaker 3: So, Hi, Sam, this is our special guest ron Funches today.
Speaker 3: So say hello to wait, sorry to hear about your
Speaker 3: most recent sex drive diminishment.
Speaker 1: Yes, yep.
Speaker 3: Isn't there anything you can take to offset the medication
Speaker 3: that you're taking for your sex drive, like a testosterone
Speaker 3: type of something or other?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I haven't looked into testosterone. I guess the other
Speaker 5: thing is like I I also have ADHD, So I
Speaker 5: feel like I'm like like popping pills every day, like
Speaker 5: so many pills a day that it's kind of like,
Speaker 5: at what point do I you know it's how many
Speaker 5: is too much? That's kind of the billum I have.
Speaker 5: But I guess testosterone would be would be fine and
Speaker 5: something that I could look into.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say, so unless you what's the deal
Speaker 3: with your boyfriend and you are you able to like
Speaker 3: you're not having as much sex.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was dwindling already because just like long term
Speaker 5: relationships to like three times a week, but now it's
Speaker 5: like once a month, and it's it's because of me,
Speaker 5: Like I just am always kind of pushing him off
Speaker 5: and he gets like It's not like I haven't told
Speaker 5: him why, and I'm very transparent. He's been great, but
Speaker 5: it's just kind of like I know that this is
Speaker 5: an important part of relationships, so I've been eager to
Speaker 5: fix it. But also I just got some bad anxiety
Speaker 5: under control, so it's not really like I want to
Speaker 5: switch the medication.
Speaker 1: I see. Okay, so are you in love with your boyfriend?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yep, for sure.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would ask about then some testosterone, because it's
Speaker 3: it's totally cool for somebody to have to like acclimate
Speaker 3: and go into a new medication and the partner to
Speaker 3: have to be compassionate and understanding about that. But I
Speaker 3: would be working towards a goal where you're going to
Speaker 3: be having sex more than once a month, because you're
Speaker 3: talking about two games and that's not the staying exactly right,
Speaker 3: So somebody's gonna have to get fucked sooner than later.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, agreed, do.
Speaker 1: You think right?
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm by a guy gift fuck for sure. But also,
Speaker 4: what is your partner's actual thoughts about this? Ben? Have
Speaker 4: you guys communicated about this a lot.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we've communicated about it a ton. I mean, he's
Speaker 5: been really patient. It's frustrating. I think it's frustrating for
Speaker 5: both of us. It's frustrating for him because he is
Speaker 5: not on medication, so he's extremely horny and I am
Speaker 5: on I am previously horny, so I get it. But
Speaker 5: I'm also just like not in the mood and it's
Speaker 5: been frustrating because I feel bad. I feel like I'm
Speaker 5: just like constantly pushing him off, and I don't want
Speaker 5: him to like gain resentment from that.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3: I think anyone would gain resentment from constant rejection from
Speaker 3: your partner, because that's how it comes across. At some point,
Speaker 3: whether he can get you know, it'll come through as that. So, yeah,
Speaker 3: find out about the testosterone. I'm sure you're not the
Speaker 3: only person. You know, there's not enough.
Speaker 1: Gay men are not going to settle with not being
Speaker 1: able to have sex, like that's not going to stay.
Speaker 1: So there's got to be a medicine out there that.
Speaker 3: Will help you, you know, that will cooperate with whatever
Speaker 3: antidepressants you're on or anti anxiety meds and your ADHD meds,
Speaker 3: and you'll figure out a way, but definitely work towards
Speaker 3: zacchol so that you can, you know, get back on track.
Speaker 4: I just wonder about in the meantime, is there other
Speaker 4: forms of intimacy that you can practice or surprises that
Speaker 4: you can give, or ways to know to offset that rejection,
Speaker 4: to make them know that your partner know although you
Speaker 4: know you're verbally saying it's not you and they and
Speaker 4: they know, but still foster a thing of intimacy, you know,
Speaker 4: through other love languages, so that they're just still this
Speaker 4: while you're working through it, that that love is still
Speaker 4: being shown.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, for sure, I have been. I mean,
Speaker 5: we're super cuddly, We've been doing all the romantic things.
Speaker 5: I'm trying to pick up more around the apartment. So
Speaker 5: just little things like that.
Speaker 1: And is that romantic to him?
Speaker 5: I learned that the hard way was getting resentful for that.
Speaker 4: Ask what's going on here? He's like, you don't do
Speaker 4: the dishes.
Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, let me pick up.
Speaker 4: Well, you could tell that the love is there for sure,
Speaker 4: So I and I know that the anxiety is the
Speaker 4: big reason for all of this. So I think, most
Speaker 4: of all, don't don't stress yourself out about this. This
Speaker 4: is a temporary problem and that can be a you know,
Speaker 4: big part of your love story if you guys working
Speaker 4: through this. Yeah.
Speaker 5: No, it's a good point. And testosterone, that's a that's
Speaker 5: also another good point. I don't really know.
Speaker 3: I's just like, that's what they give you to make
Speaker 3: you horny, or testosterone. I've been prescribed that before. It's
Speaker 3: basically for muscle mass and sex drive. Testosterone.
Speaker 5: Well, that'll be great for my muscle mass and hopefully
Speaker 5: some extra truest hair.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, all right, Well you can get a prescription
Speaker 3: for that.
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1: You're not a real doctor, and though I want to be.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll tell my doctor that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tell my doctor, tell your doctor.
Speaker 4: I say, hello, Well that sounds great.
Speaker 5: Thank you guys so much.
Speaker 1: Take care Sam.
Speaker 4: Bye. Thank you.
Speaker 1: I love how sensitive you are.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 3: You have a nice sensibility about you. You know, you
Speaker 3: have a lot of qualities and characteristics that I find
Speaker 3: so attractive in gay men.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 3: You know like you like to listen. I find gay
Speaker 3: men to be very good listeners.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can see that, sometimes very mean.
Speaker 3: They could be cattie, very bitchy, bitchy, bitchy, bitch. You're
Speaker 3: not bitchy though, you know?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Or do you? Are you bitch on the side?
Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I don't think so.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I don't think so. Very chill.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't go well with that voice. Yeah, bitchiness.
Speaker 3: What's next, Catherine, Well, next, we have an email.
Speaker 7: This email comes from Ashley, and this is kind of
Speaker 7: about gaming.
Speaker 1: Gaming. Who the emails about gaming? Do you game?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Okay, great? Perfect? I'm like great, you can feel.
Speaker 4: This happy too.
Speaker 7: So Ashley is thirty one, and she says, Dear Chelsea,
Speaker 7: my boyfriend is in his early forties. He loves Japanese
Speaker 7: culture and is devoted to a video game where you
Speaker 7: play as Japanese high school girls who fight. I'm kind
Speaker 7: of creeped out by the fact that they're high schoolers
Speaker 7: dressed in a sexy schoolgirl uniform. Even if they're just cartoons.
Speaker 7: He says, it's just a game, but I feel like
Speaker 7: there's a provocative nature to the design of the characters.
Speaker 7: He spends money on the game, too, not a ton,
Speaker 7: but it's a good chunk of change for us. It
Speaker 7: just feels childish to be playing video games at all
Speaker 7: at his age, but I can get over it because
Speaker 7: it's his hobby. Am I overreacting about this teenage fantasy?
Speaker 7: Or is a game just a game? Ashley?
Speaker 4: Oh, it's right in the middle for this one, for sure. This, Yeah,
Speaker 4: it's a fair amount to unpack. I'll start globally. If
Speaker 4: he's forty one playing games, that's a okay. That means
Speaker 4: he's grew up in the eighty during the game In time,
Speaker 4: people who are always like, oh, real men don't play games,
Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, because you fifty and sixty, they didn't
Speaker 4: have games, so you would not have been able to play.
Speaker 4: But now where the people who grew up with those games,
Speaker 4: and it's not a thing that you just like put away.
Speaker 4: Do I feel like perhaps his taste in games should
Speaker 4: be a little different probably probably a little bit bold
Speaker 4: to feel that you could play that game in front
Speaker 4: of your wife and not have any issues. So I
Speaker 4: would just be like, maybe he needs to play that
Speaker 4: game while she's in bed or asleep, or play a
Speaker 4: different game that doesn't have Japanese school girls. There's plenty
Speaker 4: of great fight in games that do. I can't actually
Speaker 4: think of the one that does so to me, it
Speaker 4: is very sexual.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, on the one hand, it's sort of
Speaker 7: like their cartoon characters.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 7: But at the same time, it's a little it's a
Speaker 7: little on the creepy edge.
Speaker 3: As soon as I hear about gaming, my mind shuts off.
Speaker 1: I just care even hear anything about it. I don't care.
Speaker 1: I can't answer the question. Obviously. That was for Ron Funcher.
Speaker 3: I'm glad that you're here for this because I don't
Speaker 3: fucking know what to do about that.
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't think I could date a
Speaker 1: man that played video games.
Speaker 4: Wow, you just talking to me about being open.
Speaker 3: I don't think I could. I really don't, because when
Speaker 3: are they playing them? Like every night? Yeah, Sarah plays
Speaker 3: a lot of video games. You play with her?
Speaker 1: Call of Duty?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Yes, I play games all the time and still
Speaker 4: will fucking make you come so hard?
Speaker 2: Should we move on to our next color?
Speaker 1: Yes, I just climbaxed, Mallory says.
Speaker 7: Dear Chelsea, Hi, I'm writing to you on how to
Speaker 7: get my shit together. I'm currently a married, thirty nine
Speaker 7: year old mom of three, so naturally I'm coming to
Speaker 7: you for advice. I have two biological children that are
Speaker 7: seven and five, and my husband and I just finished
Speaker 7: the adoption process for our first foster child, a two
Speaker 7: year old.
Speaker 2: That process alone took a lot out of us.
Speaker 7: I love being a mom, and although it has never
Speaker 7: come naturally to me, I truly feel proud of myself
Speaker 7: so far for doing a decent job raising them in
Speaker 7: the process.
Speaker 2: However, I feel like I've lost myself a little bit.
Speaker 7: I suffer from anxiety and finally took care of it
Speaker 7: a year and a half ago by starting therapy followed
Speaker 7: by an anti anxiety medicine that truly changed my life
Speaker 7: in such a positive way.
Speaker 1: Attire on the show today A lot of medicine.
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, But one thing I have completely lost motivation
Speaker 7: for is to exercise, take care of myself, eat well,
Speaker 7: and just fucking relax.
Speaker 2: Chelsea.
Speaker 7: I know you work out religiously have a bang in
Speaker 7: bod because of it, and I figure you have got
Speaker 7: your life routines and rituals totally together.
Speaker 2: I plan to work out.
Speaker 7: I Meanwhile, then when that blissful two hour nap time
Speaker 7: comes around, I find myself bone ass tired and end
Speaker 7: up scrolling on the couch or doing household chores I've
Speaker 7: put off instead. I'm a procrastinator to the extreme. I
Speaker 7: want to end my thirties and the best shape of
Speaker 7: my life. But how do I get started? How do
Speaker 7: I put my mental exhaustion aside and focus on me
Speaker 7: when I want to take a big old nap instead?
Speaker 7: How can I change my mentality? An FYI, The one
Speaker 7: ritual I do every evening when my husband gets home
Speaker 7: is taking a long, hot shower, smoking a joint, and
Speaker 7: listening to the Dear Chelsea podcast before bedtime. Heaven Mallory,
Speaker 7: and she's joining us here.
Speaker 2: Hi, Mallorie, Hi, I'm so happy to be here. This
Speaker 2: is so exciting.
Speaker 1: I love you, guys. This is our special guest who's
Speaker 1: gonna make you come. Ron Fuch's gret that wonderful just
Speaker 1: made both of us come. So Actually, I can't speak
Speaker 1: for Catherine. That's not professional. What a nice morning.
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry work Chelsea.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you want to get in shape, that's basically
Speaker 1: what you're saying. You want to just get your shit together.
Speaker 1: We'll get your fucking shit together. Then, I know, I don't.
Speaker 8: Know what my problem is. I have no motivation, and
Speaker 8: then when I have time, I just like want to
Speaker 8: take a nap.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, welcome to the rest of the fucking This
Speaker 1: guy's playing video games every time he wants to take
Speaker 1: a nap. Or do you take a nap?
Speaker 3: Sounds like it sounds like it with your video game schedule,
Speaker 3: you have.
Speaker 1: Twenty minutes to set aside. Start with twenty minutes a
Speaker 1: day and fucking do some stupid pelletson class or some
Speaker 1: aerobics class. What are you into like bloates, yoga, yoga?
Speaker 8: And I really would like to get stronger. It's like
Speaker 8: wanted do I have? I have everything I need? I
Speaker 8: do have time, Like there's times when my kids are napping.
Speaker 3: I have a lot of kids, but we'll stop having
Speaker 3: kids also, And I just don't know.
Speaker 2: What my problem is.
Speaker 8: And even my husband is so sweet and he's always
Speaker 8: like I'll watch the kids. I'll be like, well, I'm
Speaker 8: not feeling that good, or like I need to eat,
Speaker 8: or like you need to just like I don't know
Speaker 8: what my problem is.
Speaker 2: Is there a secret?
Speaker 3: No, there isn't a secret. You just have to fucking
Speaker 3: get over yourself and do it. There's no secret. You
Speaker 3: have to say to yourself, I'm stronger than my emotions,
Speaker 3: and I'm going to work out for twenty minutes today.
Speaker 1: And the more you were after you do it for
Speaker 1: three days, you're going to want.
Speaker 3: To do it on day number four and day number five,
Speaker 3: you're going to want to start getting stronger and feeling
Speaker 3: better about yourself because it's going to give you energy.
Speaker 3: You're not gonna gets tired during the day as long
Speaker 3: as you exercise for twenty minutes and don't take it
Speaker 3: out of your nap time, get up twenty minutes earlier,
Speaker 3: or you can take a nap after you work out
Speaker 3: for twenty minutes. You're not gonna want to take a
Speaker 3: nap after you work out for twenty minutes.
Speaker 2: You're right, that's so true.
Speaker 8: I just need something to kick my butt into doing
Speaker 8: it and.
Speaker 3: That yeah, okay, that's okay obviously, now, we're done already,
Speaker 3: this is already called ourselves. This is amazing. Wow, this
Speaker 3: is the quickest remedy ever. Thank you for this opportunity.
Speaker 7: I feel like I was very in this position, and
Speaker 7: for me, it just took like if you can afford it,
Speaker 7: like getting a trainer. I go early in the morning,
Speaker 7: which I never thought I was going to be a
Speaker 7: morning person working out, but like we only do strength.
Speaker 7: I do my cardio elsewhere. But it's like thirty minutes.
Speaker 7: It's like the laziest possible thing, thirty minutes. I started
Speaker 7: with twice a week, I do three times a week now,
Speaker 7: and it's like if I didn't have the other person
Speaker 7: waiting for me and knowing I was going to like burn.
Speaker 7: You know, however much money on that trainer that session,
Speaker 7: I yeah, never know.
Speaker 2: I just will never know. That's a really good idea.
Speaker 2: That's a really good point.
Speaker 8: I don't like disappointing people, So that's a good.
Speaker 4: That's what I would ring them in a hundred percent.
Speaker 4: Especially if you got the husband who wants to watch
Speaker 4: the kids while you go out, take advantage and go
Speaker 4: do a class.
Speaker 3: You're right, that's gonna be good for the whole family.
Speaker 3: You're gonna be in a much better Yeah.
Speaker 8: It's such a nicer person when I get exercise, So
Speaker 8: you're right, it will be good for everybody.
Speaker 1: Goodbye, but thank you.
Speaker 7: I love you guys.
Speaker 1: Okay, bye. That sounded like she really wanted to talk
Speaker 1: to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, excuse me, this isn't a problem.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're also like, you're you seem pretty fit.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I was gonna say, get up
Speaker 1: and show us your body, but then I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't. I don't think I can say that because
Speaker 1: she looked great. Yeah, I'm like, let's see what condition
Speaker 1: your body's She looked.
Speaker 4: Fine, husband's gonna be happy. It'll be good time exactly.
Speaker 7: And I think she won't get as tired as well,
Speaker 7: like in the late afternoon as she does that in
Speaker 7: the morning.
Speaker 2: But let's take a quick break and we'll come back
Speaker 2: to wrap up. But I would love for Ron for
Speaker 2: you to tell us a little bit about your like.
Speaker 7: Jiu jitsu journey that you have been on and how
Speaker 7: that's helped your mental health and physical nice.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, Okay, we'll take a break and we'll be right back,
Speaker 3: and we're back with Ron funches Hi Hi, I read
Speaker 3: that you speak jiu jitsu.
Speaker 4: You landed that playing very well. I do speak jiu jitsu. Yes,
Speaker 4: I've been taking jiu jitsu for about sixteen months or
Speaker 4: so once I another separation divorce spurred thing where I
Speaker 4: wanted to take control of my health and also had
Speaker 4: some anger issues and was like I should be I
Speaker 4: need to be able to choke someone in a positive area.
Speaker 4: And so then I started it and fell very scared
Speaker 4: and just drug myself every day and just sweated a
Speaker 4: bunch and did not know what I was doing at all.
Speaker 4: But now I love it. It's so spiritual, it's so fun.
Speaker 4: I had at pilates this year. I just try to
Speaker 4: add a new thing every year to my health goals.
Speaker 1: And that's And so who got you into jiu jitsu?
Speaker 4: Freddy Prince Junior got me in the jiu ju?
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 1: I think he lives behind me.
Speaker 3: Freddie Prince and Sarah Michelle Gello. I keep hearing about
Speaker 3: them in my neighborhood, but I don't see them. So
Speaker 3: he got you into jiu jitsu?
Speaker 4: Yeah, because everybody else I knew that jiu jitsu were
Speaker 4: like super like type of dudes and comedians that I
Speaker 4: was like, all right, whatever, I don't want to like
Speaker 4: getting to the USC. Yeah, you know, although Joe's actually
Speaker 4: he was a big part of the school that I
Speaker 4: go to. They love him there, so he's done a
Speaker 4: lot for that school. But I never had heard the
Speaker 4: spiritual aspects of it are the parts about just building confidence,
Speaker 4: And now I love that. Like I'll never plan to
Speaker 4: compete or get into a cage, but I like, I
Speaker 4: like going two three times a week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'm glad that doesn't conflict with your gaming schedule.
Speaker 4: No, it makes me a full rounded person. I can
Speaker 4: beat you in Mortal Kombat, and if you get mad
Speaker 4: at me, I'll put you in an arm bar or
Speaker 4: choke the shit out of you.
Speaker 1: What other spiritual components of jiu jitsu are there? Oh?
Speaker 4: So many. I mean just lessons that I learned from
Speaker 4: talking to my professor. Like one time he had me
Speaker 4: in this hole and he's like, there's two ways you
Speaker 4: can get out of this. He's like, you can disengage
Speaker 4: or you have to go through me, and you're gonna
Speaker 4: get probably some rug burn, you're gonna get your ear
Speaker 4: scuffed up, but you're going to make it through. And again,
Speaker 4: while I'm going through all this stuff. It's just nice
Speaker 4: to have someone be like, well, the only way you
Speaker 4: lose is if you stop moving, and like, as long
Speaker 4: as you keep moving, as long as you you might
Speaker 4: get a little rug burn, you might get your cheeks
Speaker 4: scraped up, but you're gonna get out of this. And
Speaker 4: those are the type of things that I need to
Speaker 4: hear and make me feel good. And so it's just
Speaker 4: a lot of stuff just about balance, about movement, about
Speaker 4: some of our human natural human reactions to stress or
Speaker 4: to fear only cause us more harm. And to be
Speaker 4: able to like stay calm and lean into things, just
Speaker 4: go through things. And you know, again, I need that.
Speaker 3: It must be easy to do as or when, especially
Speaker 3: when you have children, it must be you have more
Speaker 3: motivation to really have your act together in terms of
Speaker 3: reactive behavior and reacting to different situations, right, because there's
Speaker 3: such a sense of responsibility to demonstrate how to handle
Speaker 3: those kinds of situations.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and just my overall health with having sons twenty
Speaker 4: years apart, I'm like, I want to be an active
Speaker 4: dad for both my kids, and so I have to
Speaker 4: be you know, I'm go I need to be in
Speaker 4: shape when I'm fifty and we need to be in
Speaker 4: shape when I'm sixty, so I have to start now again,
Speaker 4: you know, just turn it on.
Speaker 6: Well.
Speaker 3: Plus it's hard because you're busy making so many women
Speaker 3: come all the time, so it's like one right now,
Speaker 3: just me, yeah, just dear Chelsea Power Couple.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Ron Funches. What a delightful early afternoon soiree.
Speaker 4: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 3: Lude Yeah, yes, thank you for being here. I have
Speaker 3: to change my underwear now, yeah yeah, yeah, it's like soaker.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: So upcoming shows that I have you guys, I'll be
Speaker 3: in Auburn, Washington on August first, and then Santa Rosa,
Speaker 3: California for my second show August second.
Speaker 1: August seventeenth is the Santa Barbara Bowl. You do not
Speaker 1: want to miss that.
Speaker 3: And then I will be all over Maine, Charlotte, North Carolina, Charleston,
Speaker 3: South Carolina.
Speaker 1: I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to Saint Louis and
Speaker 1: Kansas City.
Speaker 3: And then I will be in Las Vegas performing at
Speaker 3: the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. My first three
Speaker 3: dates in Vegas our September first, Labor Day weekend, and
Speaker 3: then November second, and November thirtieth.
Speaker 1: I'm coming to.
Speaker 3: Brooklyn, New York at the King's Theater on November eighth,
Speaker 3: and I have tickets on sale throughout the end of
Speaker 3: the year in December, so if you're in a city
Speaker 3: like Philadelphia or Bethlehem or San Diego or New Orleans
Speaker 3: or Omaha, check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.
Speaker 7: Okay, if you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an
Speaker 7: email at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and
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