WEBVTT - Changing Your Frequency with Ron Funches

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello listeners. It's Chelsea hand Job and Catherine.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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<v Speaker 3>We're sitting in my new house actually with a new setup,

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<v Speaker 3>with a new setup. We're trying to make a new setup.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything's everything's a work in progress here.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here in town. I've been here for two days.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>What was the same place for two whole days?

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<v Speaker 1>Two old days.

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<v Speaker 3>Tomorrow I'm going to Auburn, Washington to the Muckleshoot Casino

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<v Speaker 3>to perform. And then Friday night I have a show

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<v Speaker 3>and Santa Rosa at the Luther Burbank Center for the Arts.

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<v Speaker 1>There's still tickets for that show.

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<v Speaker 3>And then Santa Barbara Bawls August seventeenth, there are still

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<v Speaker 3>tickets for that show. And then my Vegas residency starts

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<v Speaker 3>on September first.

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<v Speaker 2>How exciting.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh September first, November two, and November thirtieth on my

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<v Speaker 3>first three dates.

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<v Speaker 1>Excellent.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, we're taking all my friends are trying to

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<v Speaker 3>turn it into a big party. I'll bet, so that's fun.

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<v Speaker 3>My friend Karen who runs my life, was like, they

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<v Speaker 3>want to know if you're bringing Doug to Vegas.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't really see that happening.

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<v Speaker 3>Why would Doug want to go to Vegas just to

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<v Speaker 3>urinate inside the hotel room. Maybe, but he's not interested

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<v Speaker 3>in going to Vegas, so I mean he's interested in me,

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<v Speaker 3>so that's good enough. But yeah, I'm not gonna put

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<v Speaker 3>him in that heat. That would be abusive. And everyone

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<v Speaker 3>knows how professional I am as a dog owner. They

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<v Speaker 3>may take drugs accidentally once in a while, but I

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<v Speaker 3>do not abuse these dogs.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's not intentional.

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<v Speaker 1>No, nothing is intentional, Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a really exciting guest today.

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<v Speaker 3>I know he's really funny and he has a very

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<v Speaker 3>very funny delivery. We've been having a lot of comedians

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<v Speaker 3>on because it's more fun, I think, Yeah, but we

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<v Speaker 3>still keep it mixed up. We have a really cool

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<v Speaker 3>doctor coming up that I'm excited about, whose book.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to read.

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<v Speaker 3>But today our guest has a podcast called Getting Better

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<v Speaker 3>and he is always on a constant journey to better himself.

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<v Speaker 3>So I love when a male comics are up to that.

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<v Speaker 3>And his TV show Loot isn't its second season which

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<v Speaker 3>now streams on Apple TV Plus. So please welcome actor

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<v Speaker 3>and stand up ron Funches. Okay, we're here with mister

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<v Speaker 3>Funches himself, mister Ron Funches is sitting right next to

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<v Speaker 3>me in my studio, face to face in what Sherman Oaks?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that where we are with the area.

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<v Speaker 4>I used to live in this area. I'm very familiar

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<v Speaker 4>with this area.

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<v Speaker 1>How build up this community?

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<v Speaker 4>I love this community. I love going to show my

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<v Speaker 4>nose Castle Park. If you're looking for a good way

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<v Speaker 4>to spend the day playing mini.

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<v Speaker 1>Golf, Oh are you good at mini golf?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm getting way better, way better than.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, Catherine.

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<v Speaker 3>I can hear those pages turning very loudly for some

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<v Speaker 3>reason in my ear.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a M S A R. What's it called?

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<v Speaker 3>A ms r ASSM? What is a ms r asm automatic?

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<v Speaker 3>Psycho Suki? Do you like that?

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<v Speaker 1>A M S R ASMR No?

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's gross. I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't it so weird? What everyone's into these days?

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<v Speaker 3>Like when people want to hear the sound of food

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<v Speaker 3>being chewed and certain types of food being cooked, You're like.

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<v Speaker 4>What, Yeah, a lot of kinks, a lot of weird, right, have.

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<v Speaker 3>Time to come up with kinks like that? Me sitting

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<v Speaker 3>around like what the fuck can I think about next?

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<v Speaker 3>And it's like I want to hear eggs hitting a

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<v Speaker 3>frying fan.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just stick to butts and boobs. I'm not I'm

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<v Speaker 4>cool with that.

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<v Speaker 3>How are buts and boobs working out for you?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>You know? It depends on the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 4>Sometimes you're happy with them, sometimes you're like they're going

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<v Speaker 4>to be the Definitely.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you been in a long term relationship?

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<v Speaker 4>I have. I've been married twice.

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<v Speaker 1>How long was each marriage?

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<v Speaker 4>One marriage was seven years and the other marriage was

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<v Speaker 4>two years?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so seven years and two years? And would you

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<v Speaker 3>get married for a third time?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so either. Quite frankly, I think you

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<v Speaker 3>might need to put a pin in it, Like, if

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<v Speaker 3>you can't figure it out twice, don't try the third time. Right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's embarrassing when people have more than.

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<v Speaker 1>Two ex wives, I think so. I mean two ex

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<v Speaker 1>wives isn't not embarrassing?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't. If anything, it makes me feel like

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<v Speaker 4>old school wealthy.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh oh right, right, yeah I can see that. Yeah

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<v Speaker 3>that's exactly what I thought when you said that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, yeah, like an oil bear.

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<v Speaker 3>What a mollifluous sounding voice you have. Thank you yes,

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<v Speaker 3>very you should do good night stories like on Calm, like.

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<v Speaker 1>That that meditation app. Do you meditate?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really, but I can.

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<v Speaker 4>I have a room for it. I don't use it.

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<v Speaker 1>You have a whole meditation room that you don't use.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm doing well. I have two xyves.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, well that meditation is paying off, right, they're

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<v Speaker 3>both meditating.

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<v Speaker 5>I bet.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so you do meditate? Oh okay, I thought you

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<v Speaker 3>were against meditation.

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<v Speaker 1>No reason.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you see the tassels on my shoe?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I know.

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<v Speaker 4>I thought that I'm gonna meditate?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, so that anytime it could happen.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, how did you get in touch with yourself to

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<v Speaker 3>start meditating?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay? Like my spiritual side where it does come from?

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<v Speaker 4>Probably living in Oregon. I moved around Oregon a bunch.

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<v Speaker 4>And if you do that, you're gonna meet a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of hippie women, wicking women, and people who do tarot

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<v Speaker 4>and crystals, and if you want to sleep with them,

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<v Speaker 4>you're going to be open and listen. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I usually you have to be open for sure

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<v Speaker 3>if you want to sleep with people.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you can't be closed off.

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<v Speaker 6>No, it doesn't work maybe once, yeah, yeah, but I'm

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<v Speaker 6>not you know, I'm not the like one night stand,

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<v Speaker 6>So I'm a charmer.

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<v Speaker 4>I got get you in and then you'd never want

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<v Speaker 4>to leave.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes time, though, to get the girl to come in. Right.

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<v Speaker 3>How long do you think it takes you to get

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<v Speaker 3>a woman to start to understand that it's going to

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<v Speaker 3>be better with you?

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<v Speaker 4>About probably two weeks, maybe three dates, four dates? If

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<v Speaker 4>I get you on a fourth date. Yeah, you'll know.

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<v Speaker 3>Rico Swase, I love it. Very confident in your own abilities.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I just know I'm a good person and self aware. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>you could do a lot worse than me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so that's how you got in touch with your

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<v Speaker 3>spirituality by hanging out with those women.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's cool totally. I mean, a terror reading is

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<v Speaker 4>why I got started in comedy. I had always want

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<v Speaker 4>to do it. I did a terror reading on a

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<v Speaker 4>Halloween party and the reader was just like, you want

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<v Speaker 4>to work in entertainment, You're waiting for it to come

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<v Speaker 4>to you. You need to put into work. And it

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<v Speaker 4>really like shook me and I you know, didn't listen

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<v Speaker 4>for about another year, but then I did.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, yeah I think that stuff. I got an

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<v Speaker 3>energy clearing yesterday and when I left there, I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, some of the stuff was like I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>feel any sort of overwhelming feeling, like I didn't feel

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<v Speaker 3>like energy was being released or moving around my body.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was disappointed on that aspect. But she had

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<v Speaker 3>done an energy clearing in my house, my new house,

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<v Speaker 3>and it needed one, so I thought she could do

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<v Speaker 3>an energy clearing on me too, And I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I think all of that matters is that you have

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<v Speaker 3>to believe what you're doing, right, Like, in order for

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<v Speaker 3>it to have an effect on you in a positive way,

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<v Speaker 3>you need to believe that it's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a big believer in the power of your thoughts,

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<v Speaker 4>and that's what I don't really subscribe to negative self talk.

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<v Speaker 4>I think our minds are much more powerful than we

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<v Speaker 4>give them credit for. And if you can create your

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<v Speaker 4>reality with your mind, and so if you believe in

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<v Speaker 4>certain things, I think that they are more likely to

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<v Speaker 4>happen for you to be true.

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<v Speaker 1>Right. So you don't believe in negativity, right.

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<v Speaker 6>I do believe in negativity, Yeah, practicing it, I don't like, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's there, I've seen it.

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<v Speaker 3>But you don't believe in practicing negativity? Like, you're not

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<v Speaker 3>into negative patterns of behavior. What would you say to people?

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<v Speaker 3>Because people listen to this podcast for like kind of

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<v Speaker 3>spiritual advice and regular life advice and like an outside perspective,

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<v Speaker 3>But one of the most common things is like, how

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<v Speaker 3>to get that negative voice out of your own head?

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<v Speaker 3>Not about other people, about yourself. Yeah, and what would

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<v Speaker 3>you say to that? How what has been your experience

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<v Speaker 3>with your negative voice?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, you just have to be very on top of

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<v Speaker 4>it and just immediately self correct is what I tried

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<v Speaker 4>to do. For me. It mostly comes up with eating

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<v Speaker 4>and overeating or doing something that I was like, Oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I shouldn't have eaten that, and I'll find myself being like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>you fat idiot, and then I'll stop myself and be like,

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<v Speaker 4>that's not going to make me feel better. You're working hard,

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<v Speaker 4>you're tired, you're beautiful, and you're worth the effort to

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<v Speaker 4>not have those things, and so you worth the effort

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<v Speaker 4>to go work out. So that's why you need to

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<v Speaker 4>do it, not because you're a big fat dummy, because

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<v Speaker 4>you're a beautiful, chubby stallion.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I love that. That's so cute.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's great. That's great advice.

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<v Speaker 3>For everybody, because you kind of have to start like

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<v Speaker 3>a love affair with yourself. Truly, you really have to

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<v Speaker 3>fall in love with yourself and be like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>these are the best things about me.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you feel like you're at your best and

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<v Speaker 1>you're pumping.

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<v Speaker 3>High and like the vibes are flowing, you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>there's no better, more grounded feeling than being like at

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<v Speaker 3>your best.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. So many people, I think, especially ladies that I know,

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<v Speaker 4>afraid to be selfish, and I think that it's always

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<v Speaker 4>given such a negative connotation. But I think taking care

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<v Speaker 4>of yourself, working out, putting your whatever quality things of

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<v Speaker 4>life that you need, like for me, like getting my

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<v Speaker 4>nails done, getting my feet done, And if you don't

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<v Speaker 4>do that, you don't have those selfish things for yourself,

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<v Speaker 4>you're not like able to do more for other people.

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<v Speaker 4>So I just believe you have to be selfish in

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<v Speaker 4>this world. Yeah, And sometimes we just put a negative

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<v Speaker 4>connotation on words that are actually good for us.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I agree with that.

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<v Speaker 3>Why do you think that women are particularly have such

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<v Speaker 3>a hard time being selfish?

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<v Speaker 5>Ah?

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<v Speaker 4>Because I think that culturally just always taught to give,

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<v Speaker 4>always taught to be a giver, always thought to be

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<v Speaker 4>a caretaker, look out for others before yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you got a confuse You're like, is that a

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<v Speaker 3>maternal instinct or is that just societal standards that have

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<v Speaker 3>been established over millennia. Because there is a maternal instinct,

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<v Speaker 3>but there has got to be a paternal instinct as well,

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<v Speaker 3>which some men seem to have and some men don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Seem to happen. Oh for sure, do you have a

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<v Speaker 1>paternal instinct?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean I've spent most of my life being

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<v Speaker 4>a dad. I've been a dad for twenty years so

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<v Speaker 4>and I have a twenty one year old and a

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<v Speaker 4>two year old now, and my best part of my

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<v Speaker 4>life is being a dad because it's nice to have

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<v Speaker 4>someone who cares about the base level of what I do.

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<v Speaker 4>They care more about making sure I take care of him,

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<v Speaker 4>that I spend time with him, that I push him

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<v Speaker 4>on the swing. He doesn't care about like specials or

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<v Speaker 4>shows that I'm on or things like that. I think

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<v Speaker 4>that that having that base level of love and also

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<v Speaker 4>responsibility has been a big balance for me and I

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<v Speaker 4>appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>And did it come naturally to you being paternal? Was

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<v Speaker 1>that a natural instinct of yours when you had both

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<v Speaker 1>of your children.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if I would call it natural. I

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<v Speaker 4>just think it was out of necessity, especially what my

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<v Speaker 4>older son. I had him so young, and it just

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<v Speaker 4>kind of shifted. Before I met him, I was just

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<v Speaker 4>kind of taking gravity bong hits and laying on floors

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<v Speaker 4>and not having any type of focus and just cruising

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<v Speaker 4>them through life. And he gave me focus. And then

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<v Speaker 4>eventually I had to get so custody of him when

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<v Speaker 4>he was an early teenager, and that I don't think

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<v Speaker 4>was as natural, where I had to kind of freak

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<v Speaker 4>out and figure out how I was going to balance

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<v Speaker 4>both trying to I mean, at that time, I just

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<v Speaker 4>started getting acting roles and stuff and figuring out how

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<v Speaker 4>I was going to do that and have him full

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<v Speaker 4>time and enroll him in school out here in LA

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<v Speaker 4>and stuff was very difficult, but I got help from

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<v Speaker 4>my mom and people.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, Yeah, that's tough stuff because you're doing like your

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<v Speaker 3>parenting for two people.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. Yeah, it is definitely, and it's always fun because

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's one of the most unassumed things when

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<v Speaker 4>it comes to male parenting. Whenever people who know I

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<v Speaker 4>have kids They're always are like, well, where where is

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<v Speaker 4>your older son? Like he's at home with me because

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<v Speaker 4>he lives with me, and I get it's not the normal,

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<v Speaker 4>but it's always seemed so dismissive when they're like just

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<v Speaker 4>when you were like, oh no, I'm to love being

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<v Speaker 4>a dad, and they just assume that means that I

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<v Speaker 4>see my son every two weeks or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and so what was your first big like what

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<v Speaker 3>do you remember your first big break in comedy being.

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<v Speaker 4>Conan O'Brien show, Just being on Conan grew up watching

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<v Speaker 4>Conan and loving his show and just did my first

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<v Speaker 4>set on that and hearing him laugh, hearing Andy laugh.

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<v Speaker 4>It was the first time I was like, oh I

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<v Speaker 4>can this is like my career. I could do this

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<v Speaker 4>for a career.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a pretty awesome career.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it, well stand up.

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<v Speaker 3>Alone, Like if you can make a living doing stand up,

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<v Speaker 3>it's amazing. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I like it. I don't like the club stuff so

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<v Speaker 4>far or currently, just because of the again, my two sons.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm trying to hopefully get into doing less work

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<v Speaker 4>for more money.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, who the fuck isn't I want to do

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<v Speaker 3>less work for more money.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm doing more work for less money.

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<v Speaker 4>It's how it seems to be going on. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hustling.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, me too, a lot of hustle. Yeah it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't really seem there's no end in sight.

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<v Speaker 4>No, you would, do you feel like you're headed towards something.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought i'd be retired when I turned forty. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>forty nine and I'm now hustling as much as I

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<v Speaker 3>ever was.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you just made me sad because I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>you're not retired, so there's no hope for me. Apparently

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<v Speaker 4>if you had a big old show, iconic and now

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<v Speaker 4>you're still working, guys, I gotta just give up that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know. I want to just sit on a

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<v Speaker 1>boat and let my skin fry.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, that's what I mentioned with just a bunch it

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<v Speaker 3>with my dog and some maybe a couple other people.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, On that.

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<v Speaker 1>Note, we're going to take a break and we'll be

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<v Speaker 1>right back with Rod Funshes.

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<v Speaker 7>Do you have what it takes to go through a

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<v Speaker 7>therapy session with Chelsea? We're looking for duos who would

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<v Speaker 7>like to join us for minisodes. That could be you

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<v Speaker 7>and a friend, your spouse, a co worker, a family member,

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<v Speaker 7>even your ex. We're looking for duos who have real

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<v Speaker 7>and occasionally lighthearted issues that they need to work out

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<v Speaker 7>in a therapy session with doctor Handler. Additionally, this week,

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<v Speaker 7>right in, if you have questions about fitness, it could

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<v Speaker 7>be something specific you're dealing with in your fitness routine,

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<v Speaker 7>how to maintain your motivation or get started with a new.

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<v Speaker 2>Routine, or questions you have on a.

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<v Speaker 7>Deeper level about your physical health and fitness. Right into

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<v Speaker 3>Com, and we're back with Ron funshes Oh quick break, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that was a real quick break.

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<v Speaker 2>Ready to take some questions.

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<v Speaker 1>We are ready to take some questions.

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<v Speaker 6>Ron.

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<v Speaker 1>When was do you remember meeting me?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I feel like it was just on your show.

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<v Speaker 4>Was the first time I met oh and Chelsea lately?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, because I don't remember us meetings. So I

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<v Speaker 3>was going to ask you. I just know you and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how we met.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't. I mean I could. I know that

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<v Speaker 4>because I see you sometimes around and you look at

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<v Speaker 4>me like you've never seen me in your las. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I saw you at the Netflix brunch and you came

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<v Speaker 4>out of the car with Sarah Silverman, and then I

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<v Speaker 4>hugged Sarah and then you turned and you looked at me,

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<v Speaker 4>and then you just turned and walked away.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounds about right.

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<v Speaker 4>It was right. It was highly accurate.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I say hello and goodbye.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of making more money while doing less.

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<v Speaker 1>That should be the name of this episode.

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<v Speaker 4>Ye.

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<v Speaker 7>Our first question comes from Sarah looking for a swift

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<v Speaker 7>kick in the ass, and I figured you were just

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<v Speaker 7>the bitch to do it. After twenty years together, I

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<v Speaker 7>recently discovered my husband has had a Snapchat girlfriend months

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<v Speaker 7>twenty months, twenty months like a toddler.

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<v Speaker 1>I love affairs, so I just love to hear about him.

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<v Speaker 4>Come on and get mad.

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<v Speaker 7>He communicated with her daily if he a text or

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<v Speaker 7>a snap and although I asked him about it often,

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<v Speaker 7>many red flags were present.

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<v Speaker 2>I just found out emotionally.

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<v Speaker 7>It's nice to finally get the truth and we are

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<v Speaker 7>moving toward a divorce. Financially, though I'm freaking out. I'm

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<v Speaker 7>not afraid to sacrifice or work hard. It just needs

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<v Speaker 7>some decent financial advice. I'm so annoyed with getting myself

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<v Speaker 7>into this situation in the first place. I have a

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<v Speaker 7>great lawyer, and I know I'll get child support and

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<v Speaker 7>a portion of his retirement. I just want to get

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<v Speaker 7>my power back by earning more money. I'll be a

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<v Speaker 7>third grade teacher next year and will be increasing my salary,

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<v Speaker 7>but I want to be more financially independent. Do any

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<v Speaker 7>of those TikTok trends work? I'm looking to make good

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<v Speaker 7>money as I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Get paid in summer.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh my god, I have three daughters that are watching.

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<v Speaker 7>It's important I get this right. Sarah.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, it sounds like she wants to go on only

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<v Speaker 3>and is looking for someone to give.

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<v Speaker 4>Her the premission. Yeah, which I don't recommend. I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like the bottom is falling out on the OnlyFans economy.

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<v Speaker 4>If anything, I think she wants to be just a

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<v Speaker 4>true independent, high end escort that you can make good

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<v Speaker 4>money away from your home while having fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Fun is for funches is the root word of funches

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<v Speaker 1>is fun?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Also, just invest some of her money. You know,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going through the same thing, going through my divorce,

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<v Speaker 4>and I've tried to just hustle and work hard and

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<v Speaker 4>make as much money as possible. And then also, since

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<v Speaker 4>I work in our business, I'm investing in AI and

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<v Speaker 4>things that are trying to kill our business to hedge

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<v Speaker 4>my bets.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh that's smart, very smart. I know I should be

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<v Speaker 3>better about investing. I'm just gonna bite me in the ass.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to get some somebody to help me.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You're going through a very difficult divorce.

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<v Speaker 3>You talk about it a lot on your podcast, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>So are you allowed to talk about a divorce while

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<v Speaker 3>it's happening?

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<v Speaker 4>I thought that were currently Yeah, until they tell me otherwise,

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<v Speaker 4>and as long as I say things that I have

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<v Speaker 4>text that I can back up.

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<v Speaker 1>What what is the problem? Just just acrimonious divorce.

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<v Speaker 4>It just to you sometimes even though you were like okay,

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<v Speaker 4>I love this person jumping in at the end, then

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<v Speaker 4>you were like, oh wait a minute, not what I

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<v Speaker 4>thought this was. And we got a just fully men

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<v Speaker 4>in black neuralizer this whole thing and act like I

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<v Speaker 4>never met you in.

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<v Speaker 1>My life life. Oh that's rough.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Yeah, that sounds like it will be a long

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<v Speaker 3>legal issue, especially if you continue talking about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably there's gotta be some about not talking.

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<v Speaker 3>There isn't current legal cases or no, maybe not until

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<v Speaker 3>they tell you to stun right to give you a gaggod.

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<v Speaker 4>I can ask me, it's gonna go along no matter

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<v Speaker 4>what I say.

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<v Speaker 1>It's yeah, yeah, right.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm sorry to hear that you seem to be

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<v Speaker 3>in good spirits though you don't let those things really

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<v Speaker 3>get you.

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<v Speaker 4>Down to it on occasion, I do, Yeah, if I

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<v Speaker 4>had a depression off of it from it, for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>It feels weird to talking about this recently with Andy Richter.

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<v Speaker 4>I think for everyone you have this thing you build

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<v Speaker 4>up like, Okay, I know what my next day is

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<v Speaker 4>going to be, like, I know what my next month

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<v Speaker 4>is going to be like. And for me, I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I hopefully I know what my next fifteen to fifteen

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<v Speaker 4>years is going to look like. And I'm gonna come

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<v Speaker 4>home and see my son and my wife, and I'm

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<v Speaker 4>gonna go out and do shows and be a fun dad.

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<v Speaker 4>And then you come and you realize like, oh, this

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<v Speaker 4>is not sustainable or possible to maintain, and it's you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like a death. So it's been very difficult. And

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<v Speaker 4>then you throw in and being like, oh did I

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<v Speaker 4>even maybe I was an idiot and I didn't do

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<v Speaker 4>enough research on this person and just believe the words

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<v Speaker 4>that they said instead of like, I guess, but it

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<v Speaker 4>feels weird to be like, maybe I need to google

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<v Speaker 4>everybody before you talk to them.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Does Google tell you that these people are like their

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<v Speaker 3>personalities aren't going to mesh with yours?

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<v Speaker 1>Not really. That's actually what AI is going to hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>be good for.

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<v Speaker 3>It could be a better predictor of the future, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>based on past events, because that's what we're really missing.

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<v Speaker 3>We need to know be able to tell the future,

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<v Speaker 3>that's what we're missing in society. If that would calm

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of people down or rile a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>people up, Yeah, and even split, I would say, would

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<v Speaker 3>you want to know.

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<v Speaker 1>What's about to happen? Would you want to know that?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I guess that's why I do terror readings,

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<v Speaker 4>so sure, yeah, but.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to hint, you know what I mean? That's

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<v Speaker 1>more of like not foreboding.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's like a carrot you know, like a little

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<v Speaker 3>carrot stick saying like, oh, good things could be coming

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<v Speaker 3>down the pike.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not definite, but it's a possibility.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, But else tells you bad things are common?

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<v Speaker 1>Does I never get anything bad? They never tell me

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<v Speaker 1>anything bad?

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<v Speaker 4>But I don't know if you're using a person.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I just don't have any bad vibes.

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<v Speaker 7>I know the person that you use gave very bad

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<v Speaker 7>news to one of my friends. Okay, he told her

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<v Speaker 7>she's going to break both of her ankles during her lifetime.

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<v Speaker 1>Wonderful, that's a really nicetime.

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<v Speaker 7>I know. At the same time, that's too long to know,

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<v Speaker 7>it's too long.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too long.

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<v Speaker 7>So she feels like she can't do anything fun or risky.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, I would do everything fun and risky.

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<v Speaker 1>I would do it, go overweight, break away, and then

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Then she breaks her wrists and she's like, oh shit,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm still good.

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<v Speaker 7>But so first, Sarah, I feel like, you know, she

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<v Speaker 7>said she doesn't work during the summers because she's a teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like the obvious answers, go get a summer job.

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<v Speaker 7>But Ron, I wonder if you have some wisdom around,

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<v Speaker 7>like balancing spending some of that time with her kids

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<v Speaker 7>versus making a little extra cash during the summer. If

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<v Speaker 7>she like goes and gets a job, what should she prioritize?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I think you you gotta first of all, slow

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<v Speaker 4>down and then realize what you're going to get accurately

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<v Speaker 4>from your lawyers, you know, so you can pay a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit financially knowing what you're gonna get. And then

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<v Speaker 4>I think especially I don't know how old those kids are,

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<v Speaker 4>but they sound at least that they would be able

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<v Speaker 4>to know what's going on, So I think they certainly

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<v Speaker 4>would need some time together and maybe a little bit

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<v Speaker 4>more of a focus on them as opposed to there's

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<v Speaker 4>more ways to take care of your kids besides just

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<v Speaker 4>making sure that they have everything that they need finance anciently,

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<v Speaker 4>you also need to be there for them mentally and

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<v Speaker 4>make sure that they know through this transition that they're

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<v Speaker 4>taking care of and that they're the priorities for both

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<v Speaker 4>of you.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I mean the same thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I would say that, like this is kind of a

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<v Speaker 3>sensitive time in your life that you want to be

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<v Speaker 3>there for your kids in a transitional period. So while

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<v Speaker 3>you are excited about making more money, like just hold

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<v Speaker 3>on a second, slow down, like Ron said, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>and make sure your kids are okay, and then once

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<v Speaker 3>you know that they are and that they feel safe

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<v Speaker 3>and secure, then you can go off and get another job.

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<v Speaker 1>But how I think she was asking what that job is.

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<v Speaker 7>Going to be Yeah, I feel like waiting tables is

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<v Speaker 7>a good way to like she can work a couple

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<v Speaker 7>days a week and like make some bank.

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<v Speaker 1>Just go wait.

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<v Speaker 7>Tables at like the most expensive restaurant you can find

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<v Speaker 7>in your town.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, also, I feel like we got we nobody even

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<v Speaker 4>taken any time for actual grief here. And that's one

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<v Speaker 4>thing that I know. I fell into that track because

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<v Speaker 4>I was the saying thing. I'm like, oh, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>going to get my standard of live in. I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>to work and work and fill these things up. And

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<v Speaker 4>then that grief hits you like a ton of bricks

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<v Speaker 4>and you're in a hotel eating two foot long subway

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<v Speaker 4>sandwich is crying and you you don't want to be there.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, it's not it's fun. Now that I said it,

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<v Speaker 4>it kind of sounds so delicious. Yeah, it doesn't sound

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<v Speaker 4>too bad. But you know, you're not a robot, so

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<v Speaker 4>you gotta have some time for yourself as well and

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<v Speaker 4>be okay with the grief process.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so okay, good luck. We'll tell her to fill

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<v Speaker 3>us in with whatever whatever does happen. I want to

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<v Speaker 3>know we'd like an update. I love updates because you know,

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<v Speaker 3>when people it's nice when people right back in and

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<v Speaker 3>say they did whatever we told them to do or

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<v Speaker 3>they do whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so nice when people change their lives.

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<v Speaker 4>I love. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I love to have people get stuck, don't you think?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, my podcast we do that a lot. People were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I want started therapy or got out of a toxic relationship,

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<v Speaker 4>or a guy told me he didn't kill himself, and

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice, Wow, changing lives.

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<v Speaker 7>We had one of those where you know it, Chelsea

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<v Speaker 7>recommends gratitude journaling a lot, and this person was like,

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<v Speaker 7>I was at my lowest. Things were really terrible, and

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<v Speaker 7>I like started gratitude journaling that weekend and it basically

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<v Speaker 7>saved me.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I've been doing it. Yeah, before bed and in

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<v Speaker 4>the morning when I stress out wondering about my own stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>I used to be like, wait, what am I thankful for?

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<v Speaker 4>What am I grateful for? Didn't you do these five things?

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<v Speaker 4>And then it calms me down. It work.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you write the full sentence I am grateful for

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<v Speaker 3>a grapefruit? Or do you write like, make a list.

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<v Speaker 3>I have read the list.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a list guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm going to start doing the list because I

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<v Speaker 3>am grateful writing at fifty times in the morning is

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<v Speaker 3>fucking annoying. Yeah, I want to write it once and

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<v Speaker 3>then write everything get excited about what I'm grateful for.

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<v Speaker 3>But it does change your frequency for sure, gratitude journaling,

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<v Speaker 3>which is a sentence I never thought would come out

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<v Speaker 3>of my mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>What's next, Catherine?

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<v Speaker 7>Our next question comes from Sam Sam Jay, not Sam Jay,

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<v Speaker 7>although we're Sam Jay soon. Oh good, Sam, says, Dear Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm a twenty six year old man gay, but I

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<v Speaker 7>realized that's a given since I'm writing into the fucking

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<v Speaker 7>Chelsea Handler podcast. My boyfriend thirty two, and I have

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<v Speaker 7>been together over a year now, and for about the

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<v Speaker 7>first seven months, our sex life was everything. We had

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<v Speaker 7>great physical chemistry, had similar sex drives, mine was probably more,

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<v Speaker 7>and we couldn't get enough of each other. I understand

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<v Speaker 7>that sex lives can fade over time naturally, but I

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<v Speaker 7>don't think that's the case here. I recently started a

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<v Speaker 7>new anxiety medication that has been a total life changer,

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<v Speaker 7>except for the fact that I have no sex drive.

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<v Speaker 7>Sex feels like a burden. Recently, I barely want to

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<v Speaker 7>engage at all. Obviously, this is impacting my boyfriend, his

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<v Speaker 7>sex drive has remained the same, and now I'm leaving

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<v Speaker 7>him completely unsatisfied. Is my sex life doomed simply because

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<v Speaker 7>I needed to get my anxiety under control? Is my

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<v Speaker 7>boyfriend going to end up resenting me? Should I just

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<v Speaker 7>suck it up and have sex more often? My doctor

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<v Speaker 7>thinks I should stay on the medication for now. So

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<v Speaker 7>I'm just unsure how to save this relationship. Thanks Sam, Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Sam's got a cocktail.

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<v Speaker 5>During the day.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like a lot of margarita. It fucking sure

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<v Speaker 1>looks like one.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah during the workday too for me.

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<v Speaker 3>So, Hi, Sam, this is our special guest ron Funches today.

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<v Speaker 3>So say hello to wait, sorry to hear about your

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<v Speaker 3>most recent sex drive diminishment.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yep.

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<v Speaker 3>Isn't there anything you can take to offset the medication

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<v Speaker 3>that you're taking for your sex drive, like a testosterone

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<v Speaker 3>type of something or other?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I haven't looked into testosterone. I guess the other

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<v Speaker 5>thing is like I I also have ADHD, So I

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<v Speaker 5>feel like I'm like like popping pills every day, like

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<v Speaker 5>so many pills a day that it's kind of like,

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<v Speaker 5>at what point do I you know it's how many

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<v Speaker 5>is too much? That's kind of the billum I have.

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<v Speaker 5>But I guess testosterone would be would be fine and

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<v Speaker 5>something that I could look into.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I would say, so unless you what's the deal

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<v Speaker 3>with your boyfriend and you are you able to like

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<v Speaker 3>you're not having as much sex.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it was dwindling already because just like long term

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<v Speaker 5>relationships to like three times a week, but now it's

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<v Speaker 5>like once a month, and it's it's because of me,

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<v Speaker 5>Like I just am always kind of pushing him off

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<v Speaker 5>and he gets like It's not like I haven't told

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<v Speaker 5>him why, and I'm very transparent. He's been great, but

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<v Speaker 5>it's just kind of like I know that this is

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<v Speaker 5>an important part of relationships, so I've been eager to

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<v Speaker 5>fix it. But also I just got some bad anxiety

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<v Speaker 5>under control, so it's not really like I want to

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<v Speaker 5>switch the medication.

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<v Speaker 1>I see. Okay, so are you in love with your boyfriend?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yep, for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I would ask about then some testosterone, because it's

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<v Speaker 3>it's totally cool for somebody to have to like acclimate

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<v Speaker 3>and go into a new medication and the partner to

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<v Speaker 3>have to be compassionate and understanding about that. But I

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<v Speaker 3>would be working towards a goal where you're going to

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<v Speaker 3>be having sex more than once a month, because you're

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<v Speaker 3>talking about two games and that's not the staying exactly right,

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<v Speaker 3>So somebody's gonna have to get fucked sooner than later.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, agreed, do.

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<v Speaker 1>You think right?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, I'm by a guy gift fuck for sure. But also,

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<v Speaker 4>what is your partner's actual thoughts about this? Ben? Have

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<v Speaker 4>you guys communicated about this a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, we've communicated about it a ton. I mean, he's

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<v Speaker 5>been really patient. It's frustrating. I think it's frustrating for

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<v Speaker 5>both of us. It's frustrating for him because he is

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<v Speaker 5>not on medication, so he's extremely horny and I am

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<v Speaker 5>on I am previously horny, so I get it. But

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<v Speaker 5>I'm also just like not in the mood and it's

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<v Speaker 5>been frustrating because I feel bad. I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 5>just like constantly pushing him off, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 5>him to like gain resentment from that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>I think anyone would gain resentment from constant rejection from

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<v Speaker 3>your partner, because that's how it comes across. At some point,

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<v Speaker 3>whether he can get you know, it'll come through as that. So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>find out about the testosterone. I'm sure you're not the

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<v Speaker 3>only person. You know, there's not enough.

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<v Speaker 1>Gay men are not going to settle with not being

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<v Speaker 1>able to have sex, like that's not going to stay.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's got to be a medicine out there that.

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<v Speaker 3>Will help you, you know, that will cooperate with whatever

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<v Speaker 3>antidepressants you're on or anti anxiety meds and your ADHD meds,

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<v Speaker 3>and you'll figure out a way, but definitely work towards

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<v Speaker 3>zacchol so that you can, you know, get back on track.

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<v Speaker 4>I just wonder about in the meantime, is there other

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<v Speaker 4>forms of intimacy that you can practice or surprises that

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<v Speaker 4>you can give, or ways to know to offset that rejection,

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<v Speaker 4>to make them know that your partner know although you

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<v Speaker 4>know you're verbally saying it's not you and they and

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<v Speaker 4>they know, but still foster a thing of intimacy, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>through other love languages, so that they're just still this

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<v Speaker 4>while you're working through it, that that love is still

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<v Speaker 4>being shown.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yeah, yeah, for sure, I have been. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>we're super cuddly, We've been doing all the romantic things.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm trying to pick up more around the apartment. So

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<v Speaker 5>just little things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And is that romantic to him?

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<v Speaker 5>I learned that the hard way was getting resentful for that.

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<v Speaker 4>Ask what's going on here? He's like, you don't do

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<v Speaker 4>the dishes.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, okay, let me pick up.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you could tell that the love is there for sure,

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<v Speaker 4>So I and I know that the anxiety is the

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<v Speaker 4>big reason for all of this. So I think, most

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<v Speaker 4>of all, don't don't stress yourself out about this. This

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<v Speaker 4>is a temporary problem and that can be a you know,

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<v Speaker 4>big part of your love story if you guys working

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<v Speaker 4>through this. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>No, it's a good point. And testosterone, that's a that's

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<v Speaker 5>also another good point. I don't really know.

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<v Speaker 3>I's just like, that's what they give you to make

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<v Speaker 3>you horny, or testosterone. I've been prescribed that before. It's

0:29:40.600 --> 0:29:43.880
<v Speaker 3>basically for muscle mass and sex drive. Testosterone.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, that'll be great for my muscle mass and hopefully

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<v Speaker 5>some extra truest hair.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, exactly, all right, Well you can get a prescription

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<v Speaker 3>for that.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not a real doctor, and though I want to be.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'll tell my doctor that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, tell my doctor, tell your doctor.

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<v Speaker 4>I say, hello, Well that sounds great.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Take care Sam.

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<v Speaker 4>Bye. Thank you.

0:30:05.720 --> 0:30:07.200
<v Speaker 1>I love how sensitive you are.

0:30:07.400 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

0:30:08.040 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 3>You have a nice sensibility about you. You know, you

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:13.120
<v Speaker 3>have a lot of qualities and characteristics that I find

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<v Speaker 3>so attractive in gay men.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you.

0:30:16.040 --> 0:30:19.280
<v Speaker 3>You know like you like to listen. I find gay

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<v Speaker 3>men to be very good listeners.

0:30:21.840 --> 0:30:24.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I can see that, sometimes very mean.

0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:28.160
<v Speaker 3>They could be cattie, very bitchy, bitchy, bitchy, bitch. You're

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<v Speaker 3>not bitchy though, you know?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

0:30:30.200 --> 0:30:31.760
<v Speaker 1>Or do you? Are you bitch on the side?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, No, I don't think so. Very chill.

0:30:36.160 --> 0:30:39.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I wouldn't go well with that voice. Yeah, bitchiness.

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<v Speaker 3>What's next, Catherine, Well, next, we have an email.

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<v Speaker 7>This email comes from Ashley, and this is kind of

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<v Speaker 7>about gaming.

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<v Speaker 1>Gaming. Who the emails about gaming? Do you game?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, great? Perfect? I'm like great, you can feel.

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<v Speaker 4>This happy too.

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<v Speaker 7>So Ashley is thirty one, and she says, Dear Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 7>my boyfriend is in his early forties. He loves Japanese

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<v Speaker 7>culture and is devoted to a video game where you

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<v Speaker 7>play as Japanese high school girls who fight. I'm kind

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<v Speaker 7>of creeped out by the fact that they're high schoolers

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<v Speaker 7>dressed in a sexy schoolgirl uniform. Even if they're just cartoons.

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<v Speaker 7>He says, it's just a game, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 7>there's a provocative nature to the design of the characters.

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<v Speaker 7>He spends money on the game, too, not a ton,

0:31:27.240 --> 0:31:29.720
<v Speaker 7>but it's a good chunk of change for us. It

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<v Speaker 7>just feels childish to be playing video games at all

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<v Speaker 7>at his age, but I can get over it because

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<v Speaker 7>it's his hobby. Am I overreacting about this teenage fantasy?

0:31:37.280 --> 0:31:39.280
<v Speaker 7>Or is a game just a game? Ashley?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it's right in the middle for this one, for sure. This, Yeah,

0:31:45.720 --> 0:31:49.360
<v Speaker 4>it's a fair amount to unpack. I'll start globally. If

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<v Speaker 4>he's forty one playing games, that's a okay. That means

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<v Speaker 4>he's grew up in the eighty during the game In time,

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<v Speaker 4>people who are always like, oh, real men don't play games,

0:31:59.080 --> 0:32:02.160
<v Speaker 4>It's like, yeah, because you fifty and sixty, they didn't

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<v Speaker 4>have games, so you would not have been able to play.

0:32:08.800 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 4>But now where the people who grew up with those games,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's not a thing that you just like put away.

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<v Speaker 4>Do I feel like perhaps his taste in games should

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<v Speaker 4>be a little different probably probably a little bit bold

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<v Speaker 4>to feel that you could play that game in front

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<v Speaker 4>of your wife and not have any issues. So I

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<v Speaker 4>would just be like, maybe he needs to play that

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<v Speaker 4>game while she's in bed or asleep, or play a

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<v Speaker 4>different game that doesn't have Japanese school girls. There's plenty

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<v Speaker 4>of great fight in games that do. I can't actually

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<v Speaker 4>think of the one that does so to me, it

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<v Speaker 4>is very sexual.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I mean, on the one hand, it's sort of

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<v Speaker 7>like their cartoon characters.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 7>But at the same time, it's a little it's a

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<v Speaker 7>little on the creepy edge.

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<v Speaker 3>As soon as I hear about gaming, my mind shuts off.

0:32:59.320 --> 0:33:02.720
<v Speaker 1>I just care even hear anything about it. I don't care.

0:33:03.400 --> 0:33:06.200
<v Speaker 1>I can't answer the question. Obviously. That was for Ron Funcher.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm glad that you're here for this because I don't

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<v Speaker 3>fucking know what to do about that.

0:33:12.680 --> 0:33:14.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't care. I don't think I could date a

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<v Speaker 1>man that played video games.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow, you just talking to me about being open.

0:33:21.880 --> 0:33:24.440
<v Speaker 3>I don't think I could. I really don't, because when

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<v Speaker 3>are they playing them? Like every night? Yeah, Sarah plays

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of video games. You play with her?

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<v Speaker 1>Call of Duty?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Yes, I play games all the time and still

0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:39.280
<v Speaker 4>will fucking make you come so hard?

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<v Speaker 2>Should we move on to our next color?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I just climbaxed, Mallory says.

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<v Speaker 7>Dear Chelsea, Hi, I'm writing to you on how to

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<v Speaker 7>get my shit together. I'm currently a married, thirty nine

0:34:01.880 --> 0:34:04.320
<v Speaker 7>year old mom of three, so naturally I'm coming to

0:34:04.360 --> 0:34:07.239
<v Speaker 7>you for advice. I have two biological children that are

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<v Speaker 7>seven and five, and my husband and I just finished

0:34:10.160 --> 0:34:12.799
<v Speaker 7>the adoption process for our first foster child, a two

0:34:12.880 --> 0:34:13.279
<v Speaker 7>year old.

0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:15.879
<v Speaker 2>That process alone took a lot out of us.

0:34:16.160 --> 0:34:18.319
<v Speaker 7>I love being a mom, and although it has never

0:34:18.360 --> 0:34:21.120
<v Speaker 7>come naturally to me, I truly feel proud of myself

0:34:21.239 --> 0:34:24.000
<v Speaker 7>so far for doing a decent job raising them in

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<v Speaker 7>the process.

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<v Speaker 2>However, I feel like I've lost myself a little bit.

0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:29.520
<v Speaker 7>I suffer from anxiety and finally took care of it

0:34:29.560 --> 0:34:31.840
<v Speaker 7>a year and a half ago by starting therapy followed

0:34:31.840 --> 0:34:34.879
<v Speaker 7>by an anti anxiety medicine that truly changed my life

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<v Speaker 7>in such a positive way.

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<v Speaker 1>Attire on the show today A lot of medicine.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah yeah, But one thing I have completely lost motivation

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<v Speaker 7>for is to exercise, take care of myself, eat well,

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<v Speaker 7>and just fucking relax.

0:34:47.239 --> 0:34:47.600
<v Speaker 2>Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 7>I know you work out religiously have a bang in

0:34:49.640 --> 0:34:51.399
<v Speaker 7>bod because of it, and I figure you have got

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<v Speaker 7>your life routines and rituals totally together.

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<v Speaker 2>I plan to work out.

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:58.440
<v Speaker 7>I Meanwhile, then when that blissful two hour nap time

0:34:58.480 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 7>comes around, I find myself bone ass tired and end

0:35:01.360 --> 0:35:03.600
<v Speaker 7>up scrolling on the couch or doing household chores I've

0:35:03.600 --> 0:35:07.319
<v Speaker 7>put off instead. I'm a procrastinator to the extreme. I

0:35:07.360 --> 0:35:09.200
<v Speaker 7>want to end my thirties and the best shape of

0:35:09.200 --> 0:35:11.200
<v Speaker 7>my life. But how do I get started? How do

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<v Speaker 7>I put my mental exhaustion aside and focus on me

0:35:14.040 --> 0:35:16.040
<v Speaker 7>when I want to take a big old nap instead?

0:35:16.560 --> 0:35:19.319
<v Speaker 7>How can I change my mentality? An FYI, The one

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<v Speaker 7>ritual I do every evening when my husband gets home

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:24.640
<v Speaker 7>is taking a long, hot shower, smoking a joint, and

0:35:24.680 --> 0:35:28.680
<v Speaker 7>listening to the Dear Chelsea podcast before bedtime. Heaven Mallory,

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<v Speaker 7>and she's joining us here.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Mallorie, Hi, I'm so happy to be here. This

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:34.480
<v Speaker 2>is so exciting.

0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:36.800
<v Speaker 1>I love you, guys. This is our special guest who's

0:35:36.800 --> 0:35:42.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna make you come. Ron Fuch's gret that wonderful just

0:35:42.000 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 1>made both of us come. So Actually, I can't speak

0:35:44.680 --> 0:35:47.840
<v Speaker 1>for Catherine. That's not professional. What a nice morning.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry work Chelsea.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so you want to get in shape, that's basically

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:54.719
<v Speaker 1>what you're saying. You want to just get your shit together.

0:35:54.800 --> 0:35:58.080
<v Speaker 1>We'll get your fucking shit together. Then, I know, I don't.

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<v Speaker 8>Know what my problem is. I have no motivation, and

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<v Speaker 8>then when I have time, I just like want to

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<v Speaker 8>take a nap.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, welcome to the rest of the fucking This

0:36:06.760 --> 0:36:09.040
<v Speaker 1>guy's playing video games every time he wants to take

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:11.280
<v Speaker 1>a nap. Or do you take a nap?

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<v Speaker 3>Sounds like it sounds like it with your video game schedule,

0:36:15.680 --> 0:36:16.040
<v Speaker 3>you have.

0:36:15.960 --> 0:36:18.360
<v Speaker 1>Twenty minutes to set aside. Start with twenty minutes a

0:36:18.440 --> 0:36:22.440
<v Speaker 1>day and fucking do some stupid pelletson class or some

0:36:22.520 --> 0:36:25.920
<v Speaker 1>aerobics class. What are you into like bloates, yoga, yoga?

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<v Speaker 8>And I really would like to get stronger. It's like

0:36:28.239 --> 0:36:31.600
<v Speaker 8>wanted do I have? I have everything I need? I

0:36:31.680 --> 0:36:34.400
<v Speaker 8>do have time, Like there's times when my kids are napping.

0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:37.319
<v Speaker 3>I have a lot of kids, but we'll stop having

0:36:37.400 --> 0:36:39.359
<v Speaker 3>kids also, And I just don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>What my problem is.

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<v Speaker 8>And even my husband is so sweet and he's always

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<v Speaker 8>like I'll watch the kids. I'll be like, well, I'm

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:47.000
<v Speaker 8>not feeling that good, or like I need to eat,

0:36:47.080 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 8>or like you need to just like I don't know

0:36:48.160 --> 0:36:49.040
<v Speaker 8>what my problem is.

0:36:49.040 --> 0:36:49.840
<v Speaker 2>Is there a secret?

0:36:50.000 --> 0:36:51.920
<v Speaker 3>No, there isn't a secret. You just have to fucking

0:36:51.960 --> 0:36:54.600
<v Speaker 3>get over yourself and do it. There's no secret. You

0:36:54.640 --> 0:36:57.200
<v Speaker 3>have to say to yourself, I'm stronger than my emotions,

0:36:57.239 --> 0:36:59.480
<v Speaker 3>and I'm going to work out for twenty minutes today.

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<v Speaker 1>And the more you were after you do it for

0:37:01.080 --> 0:37:02.200
<v Speaker 1>three days, you're going to want.

0:37:02.040 --> 0:37:04.120
<v Speaker 3>To do it on day number four and day number five,

0:37:04.400 --> 0:37:06.320
<v Speaker 3>you're going to want to start getting stronger and feeling

0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:08.240
<v Speaker 3>better about yourself because it's going to give you energy.

0:37:08.400 --> 0:37:10.399
<v Speaker 3>You're not gonna gets tired during the day as long

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:12.640
<v Speaker 3>as you exercise for twenty minutes and don't take it

0:37:12.760 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 3>out of your nap time, get up twenty minutes earlier,

0:37:15.280 --> 0:37:17.960
<v Speaker 3>or you can take a nap after you work out

0:37:18.000 --> 0:37:19.440
<v Speaker 3>for twenty minutes. You're not gonna want to take a

0:37:19.520 --> 0:37:20.759
<v Speaker 3>nap after you work out for twenty minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>You're right, that's so true.

0:37:22.200 --> 0:37:23.879
<v Speaker 8>I just need something to kick my butt into doing

0:37:23.920 --> 0:37:24.560
<v Speaker 8>it and.

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<v Speaker 3>That yeah, okay, that's okay obviously, now, we're done already,

0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:32.560
<v Speaker 3>this is already called ourselves. This is amazing. Wow, this

0:37:32.719 --> 0:37:36.080
<v Speaker 3>is the quickest remedy ever. Thank you for this opportunity.

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<v Speaker 7>I feel like I was very in this position, and

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<v Speaker 7>for me, it just took like if you can afford it,

0:37:41.360 --> 0:37:43.480
<v Speaker 7>like getting a trainer. I go early in the morning,

0:37:43.520 --> 0:37:44.880
<v Speaker 7>which I never thought I was going to be a

0:37:44.920 --> 0:37:48.160
<v Speaker 7>morning person working out, but like we only do strength.

0:37:48.239 --> 0:37:51.720
<v Speaker 7>I do my cardio elsewhere. But it's like thirty minutes.

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<v Speaker 7>It's like the laziest possible thing, thirty minutes. I started

0:37:54.719 --> 0:37:56.560
<v Speaker 7>with twice a week, I do three times a week now,

0:37:56.920 --> 0:37:58.520
<v Speaker 7>and it's like if I didn't have the other person

0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:00.560
<v Speaker 7>waiting for me and knowing I was going to like burn.

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<v Speaker 7>You know, however much money on that trainer that session,

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<v Speaker 7>I yeah, never know.

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<v Speaker 2>I just will never know. That's a really good idea.

0:38:07.760 --> 0:38:08.680
<v Speaker 2>That's a really good point.

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<v Speaker 8>I don't like disappointing people, So that's a good.

0:38:13.560 --> 0:38:15.320
<v Speaker 4>That's what I would ring them in a hundred percent.

0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:18.080
<v Speaker 4>Especially if you got the husband who wants to watch

0:38:18.120 --> 0:38:20.400
<v Speaker 4>the kids while you go out, take advantage and go

0:38:20.560 --> 0:38:21.320
<v Speaker 4>do a class.

0:38:21.640 --> 0:38:23.640
<v Speaker 3>You're right, that's gonna be good for the whole family.

0:38:23.840 --> 0:38:25.279
<v Speaker 3>You're gonna be in a much better Yeah.

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<v Speaker 8>It's such a nicer person when I get exercise, So

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<v Speaker 8>you're right, it will be good for everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Goodbye, but thank you.

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<v Speaker 7>I love you guys.

0:38:33.160 --> 0:38:36.600
<v Speaker 1>Okay, bye. That sounded like she really wanted to talk

0:38:36.640 --> 0:38:36.840
<v Speaker 1>to me.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:38:39.840 --> 0:38:41.720
<v Speaker 1>I was like, excuse me, this isn't a problem.

0:38:41.840 --> 0:38:43.759
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and you're also like, you're you seem pretty fit.

0:38:46.680 --> 0:38:48.719
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, I was gonna say, get up

0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:50.279
<v Speaker 1>and show us your body, but then I was like,

0:38:50.320 --> 0:38:52.600
<v Speaker 1>I can't. I don't think I can say that because

0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:55.560
<v Speaker 1>she looked great. Yeah, I'm like, let's see what condition

0:38:55.719 --> 0:38:57.120
<v Speaker 1>your body's She looked.

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<v Speaker 4>Fine, husband's gonna be happy. It'll be good time exactly.

0:39:02.200 --> 0:39:04.120
<v Speaker 7>And I think she won't get as tired as well,

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<v Speaker 7>like in the late afternoon as she does that in

0:39:06.000 --> 0:39:06.400
<v Speaker 7>the morning.

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<v Speaker 2>But let's take a quick break and we'll come back

0:39:08.719 --> 0:39:11.560
<v Speaker 2>to wrap up. But I would love for Ron for

0:39:11.680 --> 0:39:13.080
<v Speaker 2>you to tell us a little bit about your like.

0:39:13.200 --> 0:39:16.400
<v Speaker 7>Jiu jitsu journey that you have been on and how

0:39:16.480 --> 0:39:19.279
<v Speaker 7>that's helped your mental health and physical nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, Okay, we'll take a break and we'll be right back,

0:39:25.800 --> 0:39:29.919
<v Speaker 3>and we're back with Ron funches Hi Hi, I read

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<v Speaker 3>that you speak jiu jitsu.

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<v Speaker 4>You landed that playing very well. I do speak jiu jitsu. Yes,

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<v Speaker 4>I've been taking jiu jitsu for about sixteen months or

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<v Speaker 4>so once I another separation divorce spurred thing where I

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to take control of my health and also had

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<v Speaker 4>some anger issues and was like I should be I

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<v Speaker 4>need to be able to choke someone in a positive area.

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<v Speaker 4>And so then I started it and fell very scared

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<v Speaker 4>and just drug myself every day and just sweated a

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<v Speaker 4>bunch and did not know what I was doing at all.

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<v Speaker 4>But now I love it. It's so spiritual, it's so fun.

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<v Speaker 4>I had at pilates this year. I just try to

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<v Speaker 4>add a new thing every year to my health goals.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's And so who got you into jiu jitsu?

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<v Speaker 4>Freddy Prince Junior got me in the jiu ju?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he lives behind me.

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<v Speaker 3>Freddie Prince and Sarah Michelle Gello. I keep hearing about

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<v Speaker 3>them in my neighborhood, but I don't see them. So

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<v Speaker 3>he got you into jiu jitsu?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because everybody else I knew that jiu jitsu were

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<v Speaker 4>like super like type of dudes and comedians that I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, all right, whatever, I don't want to like

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<v Speaker 4>getting to the USC. Yeah, you know, although Joe's actually

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<v Speaker 4>he was a big part of the school that I

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<v Speaker 4>go to. They love him there, so he's done a

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<v Speaker 4>lot for that school. But I never had heard the

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<v Speaker 4>spiritual aspects of it are the parts about just building confidence,

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<v Speaker 4>And now I love that. Like I'll never plan to

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<v Speaker 4>compete or get into a cage, but I like, I

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<v Speaker 4>like going two three times a week.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, I'm glad that doesn't conflict with your gaming schedule.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it makes me a full rounded person. I can

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<v Speaker 4>beat you in Mortal Kombat, and if you get mad

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<v Speaker 4>at me, I'll put you in an arm bar or

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<v Speaker 4>choke the shit out of you.

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<v Speaker 1>What other spiritual components of jiu jitsu are there? Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>So many. I mean just lessons that I learned from

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<v Speaker 4>talking to my professor. Like one time he had me

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<v Speaker 4>in this hole and he's like, there's two ways you

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<v Speaker 4>can get out of this. He's like, you can disengage

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<v Speaker 4>or you have to go through me, and you're gonna

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<v Speaker 4>get probably some rug burn, you're gonna get your ear

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<v Speaker 4>scuffed up, but you're going to make it through. And again,

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<v Speaker 4>while I'm going through all this stuff. It's just nice

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<v Speaker 4>to have someone be like, well, the only way you

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<v Speaker 4>lose is if you stop moving, and like, as long

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<v Speaker 4>as you keep moving, as long as you you might

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<v Speaker 4>get a little rug burn, you might get your cheeks

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<v Speaker 4>scraped up, but you're gonna get out of this. And

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<v Speaker 4>those are the type of things that I need to

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<v Speaker 4>hear and make me feel good. And so it's just

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of stuff just about balance, about movement, about

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<v Speaker 4>some of our human natural human reactions to stress or

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<v Speaker 4>to fear only cause us more harm. And to be

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<v Speaker 4>able to like stay calm and lean into things, just

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<v Speaker 4>go through things. And you know, again, I need that.

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<v Speaker 3>It must be easy to do as or when, especially

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<v Speaker 3>when you have children, it must be you have more

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<v Speaker 3>motivation to really have your act together in terms of

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<v Speaker 3>reactive behavior and reacting to different situations, right, because there's

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<v Speaker 3>such a sense of responsibility to demonstrate how to handle

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<v Speaker 3>those kinds of situations.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and just my overall health with having sons twenty

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<v Speaker 4>years apart, I'm like, I want to be an active

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<v Speaker 4>dad for both my kids, and so I have to

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<v Speaker 4>be you know, I'm go I need to be in

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<v Speaker 4>shape when I'm fifty and we need to be in

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<v Speaker 4>shape when I'm sixty, so I have to start now again,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, just turn it on.

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<v Speaker 6>Well.

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<v Speaker 3>Plus it's hard because you're busy making so many women

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<v Speaker 3>come all the time, so it's like one right now,

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<v Speaker 3>just me, yeah, just dear Chelsea Power Couple.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Ron Funches. What a delightful early afternoon soiree.

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<v Speaker 4>I enjoyed it.

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<v Speaker 3>Lude Yeah, yes, thank you for being here. I have

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<v Speaker 3>to change my underwear now, yeah yeah, yeah, it's like soaker.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So upcoming shows that I have you guys, I'll be

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<v Speaker 3>in Auburn, Washington on August first, and then Santa Rosa,

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<v Speaker 3>California for my second show August second.

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<v Speaker 1>August seventeenth is the Santa Barbara Bowl. You do not

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<v Speaker 1>want to miss that.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I will be all over Maine, Charlotte, North Carolina, Charleston,

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<v Speaker 3>South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to Saint Louis and

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<v Speaker 1>Kansas City.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I will be in Las Vegas performing at

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<v Speaker 3>the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. My first three

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<v Speaker 3>dates in Vegas our September first, Labor Day weekend, and

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<v Speaker 3>then November second, and November thirtieth.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming to.

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<v Speaker 3>Brooklyn, New York at the King's Theater on November eighth,

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<v Speaker 3>and I have tickets on sale throughout the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the year in December, so if you're in a city

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<v Speaker 3>like Philadelphia or Bethlehem or San Diego or New Orleans

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<v Speaker 3>or Omaha, check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, if you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an

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