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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello listeners. It's Chelsea hand Job and Catherine.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 3: We're sitting in my new house actually with a new setup,

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Speaker 3: with a new setup. We're trying to make a new setup.

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Speaker 3: Everything's everything's a work in progress here.

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Speaker 2: It's true.

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Speaker 1: I'm here in town. I've been here for two days.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: What was the same place for two whole days?

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Speaker 1: Two old days.

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Speaker 3: Tomorrow I'm going to Auburn, Washington to the Muckleshoot Casino

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Speaker 3: to perform. And then Friday night I have a show

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Speaker 3: and Santa Rosa at the Luther Burbank Center for the Arts.

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Speaker 1: There's still tickets for that show.

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Speaker 3: And then Santa Barbara Bawls August seventeenth, there are still

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Speaker 3: tickets for that show. And then my Vegas residency starts

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Speaker 3: on September first.

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Speaker 2: How exciting.

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Speaker 3: Oh September first, November two, and November thirtieth on my

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Speaker 3: first three dates.

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Speaker 1: Excellent.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, we're taking all my friends are trying to

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Speaker 3: turn it into a big party. I'll bet, so that's fun.

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Speaker 3: My friend Karen who runs my life, was like, they

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Speaker 3: want to know if you're bringing Doug to Vegas.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't really see that happening.

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Speaker 3: Why would Doug want to go to Vegas just to

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Speaker 3: urinate inside the hotel room. Maybe, but he's not interested

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Speaker 3: in going to Vegas, so I mean he's interested in me,

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Speaker 3: so that's good enough. But yeah, I'm not gonna put

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Speaker 3: him in that heat. That would be abusive. And everyone

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Speaker 3: knows how professional I am as a dog owner. They

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Speaker 3: may take drugs accidentally once in a while, but I

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Speaker 3: do not abuse these dogs.

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's not intentional.

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Speaker 1: No, nothing is intentional, Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: We have a really exciting guest today.

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Speaker 3: I know he's really funny and he has a very

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Speaker 3: very funny delivery. We've been having a lot of comedians

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Speaker 3: on because it's more fun, I think, Yeah, but we

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Speaker 3: still keep it mixed up. We have a really cool

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Speaker 3: doctor coming up that I'm excited about, whose book.

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Speaker 1: I want to read.

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Speaker 3: But today our guest has a podcast called Getting Better

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Speaker 3: and he is always on a constant journey to better himself.

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Speaker 3: So I love when a male comics are up to that.

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Speaker 3: And his TV show Loot isn't its second season which

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Speaker 3: now streams on Apple TV Plus. So please welcome actor

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Speaker 3: and stand up ron Funches. Okay, we're here with mister

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Speaker 3: Funches himself, mister Ron Funches is sitting right next to

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Speaker 3: me in my studio, face to face in what Sherman Oaks?

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Speaker 1: Is that where we are with the area.

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Speaker 4: I used to live in this area. I'm very familiar

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Speaker 4: with this area.

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Speaker 1: How build up this community?

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Speaker 4: I love this community. I love going to show my

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Speaker 4: nose Castle Park. If you're looking for a good way

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Speaker 4: to spend the day playing mini.

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Speaker 1: Golf, Oh are you good at mini golf?

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Speaker 4: I'm getting way better, way better than.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Catherine.

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Speaker 3: I can hear those pages turning very loudly for some

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Speaker 3: reason in my ear.

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Speaker 1: It's like a M S A R. What's it called?

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Speaker 3: A ms r ASSM? What is a ms r asm automatic?

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Speaker 3: Psycho Suki? Do you like that?

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Speaker 1: A M S R ASMR No?

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Speaker 4: I think it's gross. I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: Isn't it so weird? What everyone's into these days?

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Speaker 3: Like when people want to hear the sound of food

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Speaker 3: being chewed and certain types of food being cooked, You're like.

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Speaker 4: What, Yeah, a lot of kinks, a lot of weird, right, have.

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Speaker 3: Time to come up with kinks like that? Me sitting

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Speaker 3: around like what the fuck can I think about next?

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Speaker 3: And it's like I want to hear eggs hitting a

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Speaker 3: frying fan.

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Speaker 4: I'm just stick to butts and boobs. I'm not I'm

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Speaker 4: cool with that.

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Speaker 3: How are buts and boobs working out for you?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 4: You know? It depends on the day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know what you're saying.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes you're happy with them, sometimes you're like they're going

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Speaker 4: to be the Definitely.

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Speaker 1: Have you been in a long term relationship?

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Speaker 4: I have. I've been married twice.

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Speaker 1: How long was each marriage?

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Speaker 4: One marriage was seven years and the other marriage was

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Speaker 4: two years?

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Speaker 3: Okay, so seven years and two years? And would you

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Speaker 3: get married for a third time?

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Speaker 4: I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: I don't think so either. Quite frankly, I think you

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Speaker 3: might need to put a pin in it, Like, if

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Speaker 3: you can't figure it out twice, don't try the third time. Right,

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Speaker 3: it's embarrassing when people have more than.

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Speaker 1: Two ex wives, I think so. I mean two ex

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Speaker 1: wives isn't not embarrassing?

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Speaker 4: No, I don't. If anything, it makes me feel like

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Speaker 4: old school wealthy.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh right, right, yeah I can see that. Yeah

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Speaker 3: that's exactly what I thought when you said that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, like an oil bear.

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Speaker 3: What a mollifluous sounding voice you have. Thank you yes,

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Speaker 3: very you should do good night stories like on Calm, like.

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Speaker 1: That that meditation app. Do you meditate?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Oh really, but I can.

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Speaker 4: I have a room for it. I don't use it.

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Speaker 1: You have a whole meditation room that you don't use.

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Speaker 4: I'm doing well. I have two xyves.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well that meditation is paying off, right, they're

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Speaker 3: both meditating.

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Speaker 5: I bet.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you do meditate? Oh okay, I thought you

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Speaker 3: were against meditation.

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Speaker 1: No reason.

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Speaker 4: Do you see the tassels on my shoe?

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Speaker 1: Oh I know.

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Speaker 4: I thought that I'm gonna meditate?

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, so that anytime it could happen.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Now, how did you get in touch with yourself to

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Speaker 3: start meditating?

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Speaker 4: Okay? Like my spiritual side where it does come from?

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Speaker 4: Probably living in Oregon. I moved around Oregon a bunch.

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Speaker 4: And if you do that, you're gonna meet a lot

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Speaker 4: of hippie women, wicking women, and people who do tarot

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Speaker 4: and crystals, and if you want to sleep with them,

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Speaker 4: you're going to be open and listen. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I usually you have to be open for sure

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Speaker 3: if you want to sleep with people.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't be closed off.

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Speaker 6: No, it doesn't work maybe once, yeah, yeah, but I'm

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Speaker 6: not you know, I'm not the like one night stand,

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Speaker 6: So I'm a charmer.

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Speaker 4: I got get you in and then you'd never want

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Speaker 1: It takes time, though, to get the girl to come in. Right.

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Speaker 3: How long do you think it takes you to get

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Speaker 3: be better with you?

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Speaker 4: About probably two weeks, maybe three dates, four dates? If

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Speaker 4: I get you on a fourth date. Yeah, you'll know.

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Speaker 3: Rico Swase, I love it. Very confident in your own abilities.

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Speaker 6: Well, I just know I'm a good person and self aware. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: you could do a lot worse than me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's how you got in touch with your

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Speaker 3: spirituality by hanging out with those women.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's cool totally. I mean, a terror reading is

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Speaker 4: why I got started in comedy. I had always want

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Speaker 4: to do it. I did a terror reading on a

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Speaker 4: Halloween party and the reader was just like, you want

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Speaker 4: to work in entertainment, You're waiting for it to come

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Speaker 4: to you. You need to put into work. And it

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Speaker 4: really like shook me and I you know, didn't listen

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Speaker 4: for about another year, but then I did.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, yeah I think that stuff. I got an

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Speaker 3: energy clearing yesterday and when I left there, I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: So I was disappointed on that aspect. But she had

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Speaker 3: done an energy clearing in my house, my new house,

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Speaker 3: I think all of that matters is that you have

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Speaker 3: to believe what you're doing, right, Like, in order for

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Speaker 3: it to have an effect on you in a positive way,

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Speaker 3: you need to believe that it's true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I'm a big believer in the power of your thoughts,

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Speaker 4: and that's what I don't really subscribe to negative self talk.

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Speaker 4: I think our minds are much more powerful than we

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Speaker 4: give them credit for. And if you can create your

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Speaker 1: Right. So you don't believe in negativity, right.

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Speaker 6: I do believe in negativity, Yeah, practicing it, I don't like, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But it's there, I've seen it.

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Speaker 3: But you don't believe in practicing negativity? Like, you're not

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Speaker 3: into negative patterns of behavior. What would you say to people?

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Speaker 3: Because people listen to this podcast for like kind of

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Speaker 3: But one of the most common things is like, how

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Speaker 3: Not about other people, about yourself. Yeah, and what would

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Speaker 4: Oh, you just have to be very on top of

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Speaker 4: it and just immediately self correct is what I tried

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Speaker 4: and overeating or doing something that I was like, Oh,

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Speaker 4: that's not going to make me feel better. You're working hard,

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Speaker 4: to go work out. So that's why you need to

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Speaker 4: do it, not because you're a big fat dummy, because

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Speaker 4: you're a beautiful, chubby stallion.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I love that. That's so cute.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: That's great. That's great advice.

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Speaker 3: For everybody, because you kind of have to start like

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Speaker 3: a love affair with yourself. Truly, you really have to

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Speaker 3: fall in love with yourself and be like, oh my god,

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Speaker 3: these are the best things about me.

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Speaker 1: And when you feel like you're at your best and

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Speaker 3: High and like the vibes are flowing, you're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: there's no better, more grounded feeling than being like at

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So many people, I think, especially ladies that I know,

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Speaker 4: given such a negative connotation. But I think taking care

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Speaker 4: you're not like able to do more for other people.

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Speaker 4: So I just believe you have to be selfish in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and so what was your first big like what

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Speaker 1: It's a pretty awesome career.

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Speaker 1: I love it, well stand up.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, who the fuck isn't I want to do

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm doing more work for less money.

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Speaker 4: It's how it seems to be going on. I don't know,

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Speaker 4: I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: I'm hustling.

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Speaker 4: No, you would, do you feel like you're headed towards something.

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Speaker 3: I thought i'd be retired when I turned forty. I'm

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you just made me sad because I was like,

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's what I mentioned with just a bunch it

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Speaker 7: Do you have what it takes to go through a

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Speaker 3: Com, and we're back with Ron funshes Oh quick break, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Ready to take some questions.

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Speaker 1: We are ready to take some questions.

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Speaker 6: Ron.

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Speaker 1: When was do you remember meeting me?

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Speaker 4: I mean I feel like it was just on your show.

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Speaker 4: Was the first time I met oh and Chelsea lately?

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, because I don't remember us meetings. So I

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Speaker 3: I don't know how we met.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't. I mean I could. I know that

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Speaker 4: because I see you sometimes around and you look at

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Speaker 4: I saw you at the Netflix brunch and you came

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Speaker 1: That sounds about right.

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Speaker 4: It was right. It was highly accurate.

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Speaker 1: That's how I say hello and goodbye.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of making more money while doing less.

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Speaker 1: That should be the name of this episode.

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Speaker 4: Ye.

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Speaker 7: Our first question comes from Sarah looking for a swift

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Speaker 1: I love affairs, so I just love to hear about him.

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Speaker 4: Come on and get mad.

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Speaker 7: He communicated with her daily if he a text or

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Speaker 7: It's nice to finally get the truth and we are

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Speaker 1: Get paid in summer.

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Speaker 7: Oh my god, I have three daughters that are watching.

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Speaker 7: It's important I get this right. Sarah.

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Speaker 3: Wow, it sounds like she wants to go on only

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Speaker 4: Her the premission. Yeah, which I don't recommend. I feel

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Speaker 4: If anything, I think she wants to be just a

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Speaker 1: Fun is for funches is the root word of funches

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Speaker 4: Okay, Also, just invest some of her money. You know,

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Speaker 4: I'm going through the same thing, going through my divorce,

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Speaker 4: I work in our business, I'm investing in AI and

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Speaker 3: Oh that's smart, very smart. I know I should be

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Speaker 3: I'm going to get some somebody to help me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: You're going through a very difficult divorce.

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Speaker 3: You talk about it a lot on your podcast, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: So are you allowed to talk about a divorce while

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Speaker 4: I thought that were currently Yeah, until they tell me otherwise,

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Speaker 1: What what is the problem? Just just acrimonious divorce.

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Speaker 4: It just to you sometimes even though you were like okay,

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Speaker 1: My life life. Oh that's rough.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, that sounds like it will be a long

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Speaker 3: legal issue, especially if you continue talking about it.

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Speaker 3: There isn't current legal cases or no, maybe not until

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Speaker 4: I can ask me, it's gonna go along no matter

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Speaker 3: So I'm sorry to hear that you seem to be

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Speaker 4: Down to it on occasion, I do, Yeah, if I

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Speaker 4: It feels weird to talking about this recently with Andy Richter.

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Speaker 4: I think for everyone you have this thing you build

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Speaker 4: I hopefully I know what my next fifteen to fifteen

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Speaker 4: gonna go out and do shows and be a fun dad.

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Speaker 4: And then you come and you realize like, oh, this

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Speaker 4: is not sustainable or possible to maintain, and it's you know,

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Speaker 4: it's like a death. So it's been very difficult. And

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Speaker 4: then you throw in and being like, oh did I

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Speaker 4: even maybe I was an idiot and I didn't do

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Speaker 4: enough research on this person and just believe the words

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Speaker 4: that they said instead of like, I guess, but it

456
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Speaker 4: feels weird to be like, maybe I need to google

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Speaker 4: everybody before you talk to them.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Does Google tell you that these people are like their

460
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Speaker 3: personalities aren't going to mesh with yours?

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Speaker 1: Not really. That's actually what AI is going to hopefully

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Speaker 1: be good for.

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Speaker 3: It could be a better predictor of the future, you know,

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Speaker 3: based on past events, because that's what we're really missing.

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Speaker 3: We need to know be able to tell the future,

466
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Speaker 3: that's what we're missing in society. If that would calm

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Speaker 3: a lot of people down or rile a lot of

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Speaker 3: people up, Yeah, and even split, I would say, would

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Speaker 3: you want to know.

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Speaker 1: What's about to happen? Would you want to know that?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I guess that's why I do terror readings,

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Speaker 4: so sure, yeah, but.

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Speaker 1: You want to hint, you know what I mean? That's

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Speaker 1: more of like not foreboding.

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Speaker 3: But that's like a carrot you know, like a little

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Speaker 3: carrot stick saying like, oh, good things could be coming

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Speaker 3: down the pike.

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Speaker 1: It's not definite, but it's a possibility.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, But else tells you bad things are common?

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Speaker 1: Does I never get anything bad? They never tell me

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Speaker 1: anything bad?

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Speaker 4: But I don't know if you're using a person.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I just don't have any bad vibes.

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Speaker 7: I know the person that you use gave very bad

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Speaker 7: news to one of my friends. Okay, he told her

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Speaker 7: she's going to break both of her ankles during her lifetime.

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Speaker 1: Wonderful, that's a really nicetime.

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Speaker 7: I know. At the same time, that's too long to know,

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Speaker 7: it's too long.

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Speaker 1: It's too long.

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Speaker 7: So she feels like she can't do anything fun or risky.

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Speaker 7: I'm like, I would do everything fun and risky.

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Speaker 1: I would do it, go overweight, break away, and then

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Speaker 1: like yeah.

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Speaker 4: Then she breaks her wrists and she's like, oh shit,

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Speaker 4: I'm still good.

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Speaker 7: But so first, Sarah, I feel like, you know, she

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Speaker 7: said she doesn't work during the summers because she's a teacher.

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Speaker 2: I feel like the obvious answers, go get a summer job.

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Speaker 7: But Ron, I wonder if you have some wisdom around,

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Speaker 7: like balancing spending some of that time with her kids

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Speaker 7: versus making a little extra cash during the summer. If

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Speaker 7: she like goes and gets a job, what should she prioritize?

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Speaker 4: Well, I think you you gotta first of all, slow

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Speaker 4: down and then realize what you're going to get accurately

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Speaker 4: from your lawyers, you know, so you can pay a

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Speaker 4: little bit financially knowing what you're gonna get. And then

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Speaker 4: I think especially I don't know how old those kids are,

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Speaker 4: but they sound at least that they would be able

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Speaker 4: to know what's going on, So I think they certainly

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Speaker 4: would need some time together and maybe a little bit

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Speaker 4: more of a focus on them as opposed to there's

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Speaker 4: more ways to take care of your kids besides just

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Speaker 4: making sure that they have everything that they need finance anciently,

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Speaker 4: you also need to be there for them mentally and

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Speaker 4: make sure that they know through this transition that they're

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Speaker 4: taking care of and that they're the priorities for both

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Speaker 4: of you.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean the same thing.

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Speaker 3: I would say that, like this is kind of a

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Speaker 3: sensitive time in your life that you want to be

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Speaker 3: there for your kids in a transitional period. So while

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Speaker 3: you are excited about making more money, like just hold

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Speaker 3: on a second, slow down, like Ron said, you know,

525
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Speaker 3: and make sure your kids are okay, and then once

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Speaker 3: you know that they are and that they feel safe

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Speaker 3: and secure, then you can go off and get another job.

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Speaker 1: But how I think she was asking what that job is.

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Speaker 7: Going to be Yeah, I feel like waiting tables is

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Speaker 7: a good way to like she can work a couple

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Speaker 7: days a week and like make some bank.

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Speaker 1: Just go wait.

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Speaker 7: Tables at like the most expensive restaurant you can find

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Speaker 7: in your town.

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Speaker 4: Well, also, I feel like we got we nobody even

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Speaker 4: taken any time for actual grief here. And that's one

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Speaker 4: thing that I know. I fell into that track because

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Speaker 4: I was the saying thing. I'm like, oh, I'm not

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Speaker 4: going to get my standard of live in. I'm going

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Speaker 4: to work and work and fill these things up. And

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Speaker 4: then that grief hits you like a ton of bricks

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Speaker 4: and you're in a hotel eating two foot long subway

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Speaker 4: sandwich is crying and you you don't want to be there.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not it's fun. Now that I said it,

545
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Speaker 4: it kind of sounds so delicious. Yeah, it doesn't sound

546
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Speaker 4: too bad. But you know, you're not a robot, so

547
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Speaker 4: you gotta have some time for yourself as well and

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Speaker 4: be okay with the grief process.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so okay, good luck. We'll tell her to fill

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Speaker 3: us in with whatever whatever does happen. I want to

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Speaker 3: know we'd like an update. I love updates because you know,

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Speaker 3: when people it's nice when people right back in and

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Speaker 3: say they did whatever we told them to do or

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Speaker 3: they do whatever.

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Speaker 1: It's so nice when people change their lives.

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Speaker 4: I love. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I love to have people get stuck, don't you think?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my podcast we do that a lot. People were like, oh,

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Speaker 4: I want started therapy or got out of a toxic relationship,

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Speaker 4: or a guy told me he didn't kill himself, and

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Speaker 4: I was like, that's.

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Speaker 1: Nice, Wow, changing lives.

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Speaker 7: We had one of those where you know it, Chelsea

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Speaker 7: recommends gratitude journaling a lot, and this person was like,

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Speaker 7: I was at my lowest. Things were really terrible, and

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Speaker 7: I like started gratitude journaling that weekend and it basically

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Speaker 7: saved me.

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Speaker 4: Oh I've been doing it. Yeah, before bed and in

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Speaker 4: the morning when I stress out wondering about my own stuff.

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Speaker 4: I used to be like, wait, what am I thankful for?

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Speaker 4: What am I grateful for? Didn't you do these five things?

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Speaker 4: And then it calms me down. It work.

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Speaker 3: Do you write the full sentence I am grateful for

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Speaker 3: a grapefruit? Or do you write like, make a list.

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Speaker 3: I have read the list.

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Speaker 4: I'm a list guy.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm going to start doing the list because I

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Speaker 3: am grateful writing at fifty times in the morning is

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Speaker 3: fucking annoying. Yeah, I want to write it once and

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Speaker 3: then write everything get excited about what I'm grateful for.

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Speaker 3: But it does change your frequency for sure, gratitude journaling,

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Speaker 3: which is a sentence I never thought would come out

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Speaker 3: of my mouth.

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Speaker 1: What's next, Catherine?

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Speaker 7: Our next question comes from Sam Sam Jay, not Sam Jay,

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Speaker 7: although we're Sam Jay soon. Oh good, Sam, says, Dear Chelsea,

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Speaker 7: I'm a twenty six year old man gay, but I

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Speaker 7: realized that's a given since I'm writing into the fucking

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Speaker 7: Chelsea Handler podcast. My boyfriend thirty two, and I have

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Speaker 7: been together over a year now, and for about the

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Speaker 7: first seven months, our sex life was everything. We had

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Speaker 7: great physical chemistry, had similar sex drives, mine was probably more,

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Speaker 7: and we couldn't get enough of each other. I understand

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Speaker 7: that sex lives can fade over time naturally, but I

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Speaker 7: don't think that's the case here. I recently started a

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Speaker 7: new anxiety medication that has been a total life changer,

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Speaker 7: except for the fact that I have no sex drive.

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Speaker 7: Sex feels like a burden. Recently, I barely want to

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Speaker 7: engage at all. Obviously, this is impacting my boyfriend, his

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Speaker 7: sex drive has remained the same, and now I'm leaving

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Speaker 7: him completely unsatisfied. Is my sex life doomed simply because

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Speaker 7: I needed to get my anxiety under control? Is my

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Speaker 7: boyfriend going to end up resenting me? Should I just

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Speaker 7: suck it up and have sex more often? My doctor

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Speaker 7: thinks I should stay on the medication for now. So

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Speaker 7: I'm just unsure how to save this relationship. Thanks Sam, Oh.

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Speaker 2: Sam's got a cocktail.

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Speaker 5: During the day.

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Speaker 1: I was like a lot of margarita. It fucking sure

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Speaker 1: looks like one.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah during the workday too for me.

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Speaker 3: So, Hi, Sam, this is our special guest ron Funches today.

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Speaker 3: So say hello to wait, sorry to hear about your

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Speaker 3: most recent sex drive diminishment.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yep.

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Speaker 3: Isn't there anything you can take to offset the medication

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Speaker 3: that you're taking for your sex drive, like a testosterone

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Speaker 3: type of something or other?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I haven't looked into testosterone. I guess the other

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Speaker 5: thing is like I I also have ADHD, So I

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Speaker 5: feel like I'm like like popping pills every day, like

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Speaker 5: so many pills a day that it's kind of like,

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Speaker 5: at what point do I you know it's how many

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Speaker 5: is too much? That's kind of the billum I have.

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Speaker 5: But I guess testosterone would be would be fine and

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Speaker 5: something that I could look into.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say, so unless you what's the deal

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Speaker 3: with your boyfriend and you are you able to like

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Speaker 3: you're not having as much sex.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was dwindling already because just like long term

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Speaker 5: relationships to like three times a week, but now it's

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Speaker 5: like once a month, and it's it's because of me,

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Speaker 5: Like I just am always kind of pushing him off

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Speaker 5: and he gets like It's not like I haven't told

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Speaker 5: him why, and I'm very transparent. He's been great, but

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Speaker 5: it's just kind of like I know that this is

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Speaker 5: an important part of relationships, so I've been eager to

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Speaker 5: fix it. But also I just got some bad anxiety

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Speaker 5: under control, so it's not really like I want to

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Speaker 5: switch the medication.

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Speaker 1: I see. Okay, so are you in love with your boyfriend?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yep, for sure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would ask about then some testosterone, because it's

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Speaker 3: it's totally cool for somebody to have to like acclimate

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Speaker 3: and go into a new medication and the partner to

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Speaker 3: have to be compassionate and understanding about that. But I

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Speaker 3: would be working towards a goal where you're going to

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Speaker 3: be having sex more than once a month, because you're

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Speaker 3: talking about two games and that's not the staying exactly right,

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Speaker 3: So somebody's gonna have to get fucked sooner than later.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, agreed, do.

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Speaker 1: You think right?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I'm by a guy gift fuck for sure. But also,

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Speaker 4: what is your partner's actual thoughts about this? Ben? Have

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Speaker 4: you guys communicated about this a lot.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we've communicated about it a ton. I mean, he's

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Speaker 5: been really patient. It's frustrating. I think it's frustrating for

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Speaker 5: both of us. It's frustrating for him because he is

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Speaker 5: not on medication, so he's extremely horny and I am

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Speaker 5: on I am previously horny, so I get it. But

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Speaker 5: I'm also just like not in the mood and it's

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Speaker 5: been frustrating because I feel bad. I feel like I'm

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Speaker 5: just like constantly pushing him off, and I don't want

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Speaker 5: him to like gain resentment from that.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: I think anyone would gain resentment from constant rejection from

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Speaker 3: your partner, because that's how it comes across. At some point,

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Speaker 3: whether he can get you know, it'll come through as that. So, yeah,

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Speaker 3: find out about the testosterone. I'm sure you're not the

670
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 3: only person. You know, there's not enough.

671
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 1: Gay men are not going to settle with not being

672
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: able to have sex, like that's not going to stay.

673
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: So there's got to be a medicine out there that.

674
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Speaker 3: Will help you, you know, that will cooperate with whatever

675
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 3: antidepressants you're on or anti anxiety meds and your ADHD meds,

676
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 3: and you'll figure out a way, but definitely work towards

677
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 3: zacchol so that you can, you know, get back on track.

678
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Speaker 4: I just wonder about in the meantime, is there other

679
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 4: forms of intimacy that you can practice or surprises that

680
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 4: you can give, or ways to know to offset that rejection,

681
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 4: to make them know that your partner know although you

682
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 4: know you're verbally saying it's not you and they and

683
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 4: they know, but still foster a thing of intimacy, you know,

684
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Speaker 4: through other love languages, so that they're just still this

685
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 4: while you're working through it, that that love is still

686
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Speaker 4: being shown.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, for sure, I have been. I mean,

688
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 5: we're super cuddly, We've been doing all the romantic things.

689
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 5: I'm trying to pick up more around the apartment. So

690
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 5: just little things like that.

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Speaker 1: And is that romantic to him?

692
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Speaker 5: I learned that the hard way was getting resentful for that.

693
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 4: Ask what's going on here? He's like, you don't do

694
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Speaker 4: the dishes.

695
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, let me pick up.

696
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 4: Well, you could tell that the love is there for sure,

697
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 4: So I and I know that the anxiety is the

698
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 4: big reason for all of this. So I think, most

699
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 4: of all, don't don't stress yourself out about this. This

700
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 4: is a temporary problem and that can be a you know,

701
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 4: big part of your love story if you guys working

702
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 4: through this. Yeah.

703
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 5: No, it's a good point. And testosterone, that's a that's

704
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:33,239
Speaker 5: also another good point. I don't really know.

705
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Speaker 3: I's just like, that's what they give you to make

706
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 3: you horny, or testosterone. I've been prescribed that before. It's

707
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 3: basically for muscle mass and sex drive. Testosterone.

708
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Speaker 5: Well, that'll be great for my muscle mass and hopefully

709
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Speaker 5: some extra truest hair.

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00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, all right, Well you can get a prescription

711
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Speaker 3: for that.

712
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Speaker 4: Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 1: You're not a real doctor, and though I want to be.

714
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll tell my doctor that.

715
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, tell my doctor, tell your doctor.

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Speaker 4: I say, hello, Well that sounds great.

717
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 5: Thank you guys so much.

718
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Speaker 1: Take care Sam.

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Speaker 4: Bye. Thank you.

720
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Speaker 1: I love how sensitive you are.

721
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 4: Thank you.

722
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 3: You have a nice sensibility about you. You know, you

723
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: have a lot of qualities and characteristics that I find

724
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 3: so attractive in gay men.

725
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 4: Thank you.

726
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 3: You know like you like to listen. I find gay

727
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 3: men to be very good listeners.

728
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can see that, sometimes very mean.

729
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 3: They could be cattie, very bitchy, bitchy, bitchy, bitch. You're

730
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 3: not bitchy though, you know?

731
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Speaker 4: No?

732
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: Or do you? Are you bitch on the side?

733
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Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.

734
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Speaker 1: I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I don't think so. Very chill.

736
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't go well with that voice. Yeah, bitchiness.

737
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Speaker 3: What's next, Catherine, Well, next, we have an email.

738
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Speaker 7: This email comes from Ashley, and this is kind of

739
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Speaker 7: about gaming.

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Speaker 1: Gaming. Who the emails about gaming? Do you game?

741
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 4: Oh?

742
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 1: Okay, great? Perfect? I'm like great, you can feel.

743
00:30:58,160 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 4: This happy too.

744
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 7: So Ashley is thirty one, and she says, Dear Chelsea,

745
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 7: my boyfriend is in his early forties. He loves Japanese

746
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 7: culture and is devoted to a video game where you

747
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 7: play as Japanese high school girls who fight. I'm kind

748
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 7: of creeped out by the fact that they're high schoolers

749
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 7: dressed in a sexy schoolgirl uniform. Even if they're just cartoons.

750
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Speaker 7: He says, it's just a game, but I feel like

751
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Speaker 7: there's a provocative nature to the design of the characters.

752
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 7: He spends money on the game, too, not a ton,

753
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 7: but it's a good chunk of change for us. It

754
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 7: just feels childish to be playing video games at all

755
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Speaker 7: at his age, but I can get over it because

756
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 7: it's his hobby. Am I overreacting about this teenage fantasy?

757
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 7: Or is a game just a game? Ashley?

758
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 4: Oh, it's right in the middle for this one, for sure. This, Yeah,

759
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 4: it's a fair amount to unpack. I'll start globally. If

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Speaker 4: he's forty one playing games, that's a okay. That means

761
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Speaker 4: he's grew up in the eighty during the game In time,

762
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 4: people who are always like, oh, real men don't play games,

763
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Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, because you fifty and sixty, they didn't

764
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 4: have games, so you would not have been able to play.

765
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 4: But now where the people who grew up with those games,

766
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 4: and it's not a thing that you just like put away.

767
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 4: Do I feel like perhaps his taste in games should

768
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 4: be a little different probably probably a little bit bold

769
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 4: to feel that you could play that game in front

770
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Speaker 4: of your wife and not have any issues. So I

771
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 4: would just be like, maybe he needs to play that

772
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 4: game while she's in bed or asleep, or play a

773
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 4: different game that doesn't have Japanese school girls. There's plenty

774
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 4: of great fight in games that do. I can't actually

775
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 4: think of the one that does so to me, it

776
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 4: is very sexual.

777
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, on the one hand, it's sort of

778
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 7: like their cartoon characters.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

780
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 7: But at the same time, it's a little it's a

781
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 7: little on the creepy edge.

782
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 3: As soon as I hear about gaming, my mind shuts off.

783
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 1: I just care even hear anything about it. I don't care.

784
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: I can't answer the question. Obviously. That was for Ron Funcher.

785
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 3: I'm glad that you're here for this because I don't

786
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 3: fucking know what to do about that.

787
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't think I could date a

788
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 1: man that played video games.

789
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 4: Wow, you just talking to me about being open.

790
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 3: I don't think I could. I really don't, because when

791
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 3: are they playing them? Like every night? Yeah, Sarah plays

792
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 3: a lot of video games. You play with her?

793
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: Call of Duty?

794
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, Yes, I play games all the time and still

795
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 4: will fucking make you come so hard?

796
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 2: Should we move on to our next color?

797
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 1: Yes, I just climbaxed, Mallory says.

798
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Speaker 7: Dear Chelsea, Hi, I'm writing to you on how to

799
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Speaker 7: get my shit together. I'm currently a married, thirty nine

800
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 7: year old mom of three, so naturally I'm coming to

801
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,239
Speaker 7: you for advice. I have two biological children that are

802
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 7: seven and five, and my husband and I just finished

803
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 7: the adoption process for our first foster child, a two

804
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 7: year old.

805
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:15,879
Speaker 2: That process alone took a lot out of us.

806
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 7: I love being a mom, and although it has never

807
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 7: come naturally to me, I truly feel proud of myself

808
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 7: so far for doing a decent job raising them in

809
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 7: the process.

810
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 2: However, I feel like I've lost myself a little bit.

811
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Speaker 7: I suffer from anxiety and finally took care of it

812
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 7: a year and a half ago by starting therapy followed

813
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,879
Speaker 7: by an anti anxiety medicine that truly changed my life

814
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:35,919
Speaker 7: in such a positive way.

815
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 1: Attire on the show today A lot of medicine.

816
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, But one thing I have completely lost motivation

817
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,439
Speaker 7: for is to exercise, take care of myself, eat well,

818
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 7: and just fucking relax.

819
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Speaker 2: Chelsea.

820
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Speaker 7: I know you work out religiously have a bang in

821
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,399
Speaker 7: bod because of it, and I figure you have got

822
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 7: your life routines and rituals totally together.

823
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 2: I plan to work out.

824
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 7: I Meanwhile, then when that blissful two hour nap time

825
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 7: comes around, I find myself bone ass tired and end

826
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 7: up scrolling on the couch or doing household chores I've

827
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 7: put off instead. I'm a procrastinator to the extreme. I

828
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 7: want to end my thirties and the best shape of

829
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 7: my life. But how do I get started? How do

830
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 7: I put my mental exhaustion aside and focus on me

831
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 7: when I want to take a big old nap instead?

832
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:19,319
Speaker 7: How can I change my mentality? An FYI, The one

833
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 7: ritual I do every evening when my husband gets home

834
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 7: is taking a long, hot shower, smoking a joint, and

835
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 7: listening to the Dear Chelsea podcast before bedtime. Heaven Mallory,

836
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 7: and she's joining us here.

837
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: Hi, Mallorie, Hi, I'm so happy to be here. This

838
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 2: is so exciting.

839
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 1: I love you, guys. This is our special guest who's

840
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: gonna make you come. Ron Fuch's gret that wonderful just

841
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 1: made both of us come. So Actually, I can't speak

842
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: for Catherine. That's not professional. What a nice morning.

843
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry work Chelsea.

844
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 1: Okay, so you want to get in shape, that's basically

845
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: what you're saying. You want to just get your shit together.

846
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 1: We'll get your fucking shit together. Then, I know, I don't.

847
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 8: Know what my problem is. I have no motivation, and

848
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 8: then when I have time, I just like want to

849
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 8: take a nap.

850
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, welcome to the rest of the fucking This

851
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: guy's playing video games every time he wants to take

852
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 1: a nap. Or do you take a nap?

853
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 3: Sounds like it sounds like it with your video game schedule,

854
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 3: you have.

855
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 1: Twenty minutes to set aside. Start with twenty minutes a

856
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: day and fucking do some stupid pelletson class or some

857
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 1: aerobics class. What are you into like bloates, yoga, yoga?

858
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 8: And I really would like to get stronger. It's like

859
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 8: wanted do I have? I have everything I need? I

860
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 8: do have time, Like there's times when my kids are napping.

861
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 3: I have a lot of kids, but we'll stop having

862
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,359
Speaker 3: kids also, And I just don't know.

863
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 2: What my problem is.

864
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 8: And even my husband is so sweet and he's always

865
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 8: like I'll watch the kids. I'll be like, well, I'm

866
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 8: not feeling that good, or like I need to eat,

867
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 8: or like you need to just like I don't know

868
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 8: what my problem is.

869
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 2: Is there a secret?

870
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 3: No, there isn't a secret. You just have to fucking

871
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 3: get over yourself and do it. There's no secret. You

872
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 3: have to say to yourself, I'm stronger than my emotions,

873
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 3: and I'm going to work out for twenty minutes today.

874
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 1: And the more you were after you do it for

875
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 1: three days, you're going to want.

876
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 3: To do it on day number four and day number five,

877
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,320
Speaker 3: you're going to want to start getting stronger and feeling

878
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,240
Speaker 3: better about yourself because it's going to give you energy.

879
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 3: You're not gonna gets tired during the day as long

880
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 3: as you exercise for twenty minutes and don't take it

881
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 3: out of your nap time, get up twenty minutes earlier,

882
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 3: or you can take a nap after you work out

883
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 3: for twenty minutes. You're not gonna want to take a

884
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 3: nap after you work out for twenty minutes.

885
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 2: You're right, that's so true.

886
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:23,879
Speaker 8: I just need something to kick my butt into doing

887
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:24,560
Speaker 8: it and.

888
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 3: That yeah, okay, that's okay obviously, now, we're done already,

889
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: this is already called ourselves. This is amazing. Wow, this

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Speaker 3: is the quickest remedy ever. Thank you for this opportunity.

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Speaker 7: I feel like I was very in this position, and

892
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Speaker 7: for me, it just took like if you can afford it,

893
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Speaker 7: like getting a trainer. I go early in the morning,

894
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Speaker 7: which I never thought I was going to be a

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Speaker 7: morning person working out, but like we only do strength.

896
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Speaker 7: I do my cardio elsewhere. But it's like thirty minutes.

897
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Speaker 7: It's like the laziest possible thing, thirty minutes. I started

898
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Speaker 7: with twice a week, I do three times a week now,

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Speaker 7: and it's like if I didn't have the other person

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Speaker 7: waiting for me and knowing I was going to like burn.

901
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Speaker 7: You know, however much money on that trainer that session,

902
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Speaker 7: I yeah, never know.

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Speaker 2: I just will never know. That's a really good idea.

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Speaker 2: That's a really good point.

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Speaker 8: I don't like disappointing people, So that's a good.

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Speaker 4: That's what I would ring them in a hundred percent.

907
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Speaker 4: Especially if you got the husband who wants to watch

908
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Speaker 4: the kids while you go out, take advantage and go

909
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Speaker 4: do a class.

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Speaker 3: You're right, that's gonna be good for the whole family.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna be in a much better Yeah.

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Speaker 8: It's such a nicer person when I get exercise, So

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Speaker 8: you're right, it will be good for everybody.

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Speaker 1: Goodbye, but thank you.

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Speaker 7: I love you guys.

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Speaker 1: Okay, bye. That sounded like she really wanted to talk

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Speaker 1: to me.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like, excuse me, this isn't a problem.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're also like, you're you seem pretty fit.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I was gonna say, get up

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Speaker 1: and show us your body, but then I was like,

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Speaker 1: I can't. I don't think I can say that because

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Speaker 1: she looked great. Yeah, I'm like, let's see what condition

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Speaker 1: your body's She looked.

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Speaker 4: Fine, husband's gonna be happy. It'll be good time exactly.

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Speaker 7: And I think she won't get as tired as well,

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Speaker 7: like in the late afternoon as she does that in

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Speaker 7: the morning.

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Speaker 2: But let's take a quick break and we'll come back

931
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Speaker 2: to wrap up. But I would love for Ron for

932
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Speaker 2: you to tell us a little bit about your like.

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Speaker 7: Jiu jitsu journey that you have been on and how

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Speaker 7: that's helped your mental health and physical nice.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, Okay, we'll take a break and we'll be right back,

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Speaker 3: and we're back with Ron funches Hi Hi, I read

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Speaker 3: that you speak jiu jitsu.

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Speaker 4: You landed that playing very well. I do speak jiu jitsu. Yes,

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Speaker 4: I've been taking jiu jitsu for about sixteen months or

940
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 4: so once I another separation divorce spurred thing where I

941
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Speaker 4: wanted to take control of my health and also had

942
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Speaker 4: some anger issues and was like I should be I

943
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 4: need to be able to choke someone in a positive area.

944
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Speaker 4: And so then I started it and fell very scared

945
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Speaker 4: and just drug myself every day and just sweated a

946
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Speaker 4: bunch and did not know what I was doing at all.

947
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Speaker 4: But now I love it. It's so spiritual, it's so fun.

948
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Speaker 4: I had at pilates this year. I just try to

949
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Speaker 4: add a new thing every year to my health goals.

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Speaker 1: And that's And so who got you into jiu jitsu?

951
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 4: Freddy Prince Junior got me in the jiu ju?

952
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Speaker 5: Oh.

953
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Speaker 1: I think he lives behind me.

954
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Speaker 3: Freddie Prince and Sarah Michelle Gello. I keep hearing about

955
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Speaker 3: them in my neighborhood, but I don't see them. So

956
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:27,919
Speaker 3: he got you into jiu jitsu?

957
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Speaker 4: Yeah, because everybody else I knew that jiu jitsu were

958
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 4: like super like type of dudes and comedians that I

959
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 4: was like, all right, whatever, I don't want to like

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00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 4: getting to the USC. Yeah, you know, although Joe's actually

961
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Speaker 4: he was a big part of the school that I

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Speaker 4: go to. They love him there, so he's done a

963
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 4: lot for that school. But I never had heard the

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Speaker 4: spiritual aspects of it are the parts about just building confidence,

965
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Speaker 4: And now I love that. Like I'll never plan to

966
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Speaker 4: compete or get into a cage, but I like, I

967
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 4: like going two three times a week.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'm glad that doesn't conflict with your gaming schedule.

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Speaker 4: No, it makes me a full rounded person. I can

970
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 4: beat you in Mortal Kombat, and if you get mad

971
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 4: at me, I'll put you in an arm bar or

972
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Speaker 4: choke the shit out of you.

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Speaker 1: What other spiritual components of jiu jitsu are there? Oh?

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Speaker 4: So many. I mean just lessons that I learned from

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00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:22,880
Speaker 4: talking to my professor. Like one time he had me

976
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 4: in this hole and he's like, there's two ways you

977
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 4: can get out of this. He's like, you can disengage

978
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,720
Speaker 4: or you have to go through me, and you're gonna

979
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 4: get probably some rug burn, you're gonna get your ear

980
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 4: scuffed up, but you're going to make it through. And again,

981
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 4: while I'm going through all this stuff. It's just nice

982
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 4: to have someone be like, well, the only way you

983
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 4: lose is if you stop moving, and like, as long

984
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 4: as you keep moving, as long as you you might

985
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 4: get a little rug burn, you might get your cheeks

986
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 4: scraped up, but you're gonna get out of this. And

987
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 4: those are the type of things that I need to

988
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 4: hear and make me feel good. And so it's just

989
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 4: a lot of stuff just about balance, about movement, about

990
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:03,360
Speaker 4: some of our human natural human reactions to stress or

991
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 4: to fear only cause us more harm. And to be

992
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 4: able to like stay calm and lean into things, just

993
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Speaker 4: go through things. And you know, again, I need that.

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Speaker 3: It must be easy to do as or when, especially

995
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: when you have children, it must be you have more

996
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 3: motivation to really have your act together in terms of

997
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 3: reactive behavior and reacting to different situations, right, because there's

998
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 3: such a sense of responsibility to demonstrate how to handle

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00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 3: those kinds of situations.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and just my overall health with having sons twenty

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Speaker 4: years apart, I'm like, I want to be an active

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Speaker 4: dad for both my kids, and so I have to

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Speaker 4: be you know, I'm go I need to be in

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Speaker 4: shape when I'm fifty and we need to be in

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Speaker 4: shape when I'm sixty, so I have to start now again,

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00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 4: you know, just turn it on.

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Speaker 6: Well.

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Speaker 3: Plus it's hard because you're busy making so many women

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Speaker 3: come all the time, so it's like one right now,

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Speaker 3: just me, yeah, just dear Chelsea Power Couple.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Ron Funches. What a delightful early afternoon soiree.

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Speaker 4: I enjoyed it.

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Speaker 3: Lude Yeah, yes, thank you for being here. I have

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Speaker 3: to change my underwear now, yeah yeah, yeah, it's like soaker.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So upcoming shows that I have you guys, I'll be

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Speaker 3: in Auburn, Washington on August first, and then Santa Rosa,

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Speaker 3: California for my second show August second.

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Speaker 1: August seventeenth is the Santa Barbara Bowl. You do not

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Speaker 1: want to miss that.

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Speaker 3: And then I will be all over Maine, Charlotte, North Carolina, Charleston,

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Speaker 3: South Carolina.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to Saint Louis and

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Speaker 1: Kansas City.

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Speaker 3: And then I will be in Las Vegas performing at

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Speaker 3: the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. My first three

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Speaker 3: dates in Vegas our September first, Labor Day weekend, and

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Speaker 3: then November second, and November thirtieth.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to.

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Speaker 3: Brooklyn, New York at the King's Theater on November eighth,

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Speaker 3: and I have tickets on sale throughout the end of

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Speaker 3: the year in December, so if you're in a city

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Speaker 3: like Philadelphia or Bethlehem or San Diego or New Orleans

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Speaker 3: or Omaha, check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 7: Okay, if you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an

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Speaker 7: email at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and

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Speaker 7: be sure to include your phone number. Dear Chelsea is

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Speaker 7: edited and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law

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Speaker 7: and be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler

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