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Speaker 1: and the AD Counts. Good morning, This is Laura. Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the New Corner Office, the podcast where we share

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is about how to deal with feedback that

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Speaker 1: isn't entirely helpful. The good news is that it's possible

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Speaker 1: to make the person giving feedback feel heard without getting

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Speaker 1: terribly distracted yourself. The best response thank you for your feedback.

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Speaker 1: I'm writing that down. Thoughtful feedback is a wonderful gift.

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Speaker 1: Somebody has taken the time to analyze what you've done

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Speaker 1: can all remember transformative criticism and praise. We should do

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Speaker 1: what we can to welcome such feedback into our lives.

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Speaker 1: But sometimes feedback can be less helpful. Maybe it comes

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Speaker 1: person is offering the feedback in a mean spirited way. Though,

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Speaker 1: you want to make sure he or she knows that

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Speaker 1: feedback is still welcome and you value the person's thoughts

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Speaker 1: and time. Sometimes we can convey this embody language, but

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Speaker 1: when you work from home and maybe talking to the

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Speaker 1: person on the phone, this is a little more challenging.

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Speaker 1: Hence the phrase, thank you for your feedback, I'm writing

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Speaker 1: that down. Thanking the person is straightforward. You're not promising

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Speaker 1: to use the feedback, you're just acknowledging that it was received.

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Speaker 1: And as for saying I'm writing that down, well, this

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Speaker 1: is about showing the person that you're taking their thoughts seriously.

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Speaker 1: And since they probably can't actually see you, saying that

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Speaker 1: you are writing the feedback down will help the person

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Speaker 1: feel confident that you are paying attention. There's no actual

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Speaker 1: downside to writing down the thought. You're under no obligation

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Speaker 1: to refer to the thought later, well what's there the

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Speaker 1: council to write down what others say. May be familiar

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Speaker 1: to parents, Many of us have heard the advice to

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Speaker 1: show children we're taking their concerns seriously by recording them,

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Speaker 1: whether we do anything with the records or not. But

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Speaker 1: it turns out that it's validating to people of all

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Speaker 1: ages to know that what they say is being noted

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Speaker 1: and thus acknowledged and valued. So today, if someone offers

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Speaker 1: less than helpful feedback, try this response, thank you for

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Speaker 1: your feedback, I'm writing that down. It will give you

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Speaker 1: a ready way to acknowledge the person's thoughts without getting

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Speaker 1: distracted by them. You can appreciate the person even if

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Speaker 1: any particular comment doesn't do much for you. How do

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Speaker 1: you respond to less than helpful feedback. I'd love to

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Speaker 1: hear about it. You can let me know at Laura

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Speaker 1: at Laura Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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