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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. And you never know,

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Speaker 1: this one could be yours.

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Speaker 2: It could definitely be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 2: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject I think he perms his hair.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty nine year old divorced

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Speaker 1: woman and I was married to an older man that

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Speaker 1: went bald early, so I was the only female in

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Speaker 1: our household who had to worry about hair. I have

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Speaker 1: two sons that were blessed with a curly hair texture

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Speaker 1: so that they were not in the barbershop every week.

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Speaker 1: I've never had to deal with any man's hair issues,

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Speaker 1: and I'm almost ashamed to write to you guys this letter.

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Speaker 1: I'm dating a man that is fifty six years old

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Speaker 1: and he's from Detroit. Not to slam Detroit in any way,

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Speaker 1: but this brother's picture should be in the dictionary next

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Speaker 1: to the word soulful. That means we've been together for

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Speaker 1: a few months and we're at the spend the night

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Speaker 1: phase because it was pastime for us to start having sex.

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Speaker 1: The first time we had sex, he told me that

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Speaker 1: he had to go home immediately after we finished. He

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Speaker 1: said he didn't have any of his hair products with him,

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Speaker 1: so he had to go. I know just by looking

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Speaker 1: at him that his hair texture is not real and

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Speaker 1: he has some kind of product helping him to get

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Speaker 1: those curls. The roots don't match the ends, and it

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Speaker 1: looks like an afro with curly curls on the ends.

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Speaker 1: When he goes to the barbershop, he's there for long

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Speaker 1: periods of time. My first cousin just so happens to

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Speaker 1: go to the same barbershop, and he called me recently

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Speaker 1: cracking up. He said he's heard that my man is

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Speaker 1: still getting perms in twenty twenty three. I did not

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Speaker 1: want to believe it, but it makes sense. I sleep

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Speaker 1: in a bonnet and so does he. He won't shower

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Speaker 1: with me because he said I like it too hot

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Speaker 1: and the steam dries out his hair. Why is he

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Speaker 1: more concerned about his hair than I am about mine.

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Speaker 1: I know for a fact that he uses the hair

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Speaker 1: color that's just for men. But a perm, though, this

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Speaker 1: is the only thing that puts me on pause about him.

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Speaker 1: Should I ask if he has a perm? Who cares?

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is a whole strawberry letter about hair.

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Speaker 1: First your husband, who you said was older and went

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Speaker 1: bald early, then your two sons who you said were

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Speaker 1: blessed with curly hair, and now your man's hair, who

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Speaker 1: you suspect has a PERM and you're concerned about asking

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Speaker 1: if he has one. I'm not sure why you won't

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Speaker 1: just ask him, you know, I'm not sure about that,

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Speaker 1: or I'm not sure why his hair matters so much

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Speaker 1: in the first place. I mean, is his hair unattracted?

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Speaker 1: Is it greasy? Is it dirty? Does it stink? Does

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Speaker 1: it get on your pillowcases? Or is it simply because

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Speaker 1: he perms it and you're it's just not natural? Is

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Speaker 1: that it you'd like it to be natural? I'm not

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Speaker 1: real clear what your issue is. Because he wears a

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Speaker 1: bonnet that could be concerning. But how does he treat you?

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Speaker 1: Do you like him? And I would say the answer

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Speaker 1: to that one is yes, since you are sleeping with

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Speaker 1: him already. Hmm. So I just say, if you want

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Speaker 1: to know about his hair, just ask him. It's simple.

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Speaker 1: Just ask him about his hair. If he says, yes,

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Speaker 1: I purn my hair, then what then what are you

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Speaker 1: going to break up with him because you don't like perms?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean you know what, Steve.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I knew this letter was going to

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Speaker 3: be problems because she started off talking about the do

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Speaker 3: was from Detroit and not to slam Detroit anyway, But

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Speaker 3: this brother picture should be in a dictionary next to

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Speaker 3: the word soulful. I mean, I'm saying to be going

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Speaker 3: and what's the problem. Yeah, you don't understand. I used

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Speaker 3: to go to Detroit to dress. I went to Detroit

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Speaker 3: with the full intention of shopping city slickers, broad Wade,

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Speaker 3: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Jack.

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Speaker 3: Stayed right there. The Hatch stole Henry, the Hada, all

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Speaker 3: of them.

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Speaker 2: Shut How damn you that damn Detroit was everything.

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Speaker 3: A Be's Comedy kitchen, whoa Joe Lewis Arena, the Silver Dome,

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Speaker 3: the Fox, all JOKESSI, all of them. Detroit was everything

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Speaker 3: to me. The automobiles, show girl, GM.

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Speaker 2: Girl. You wrote the wrong brother with this letter.

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Speaker 3: I'm so mad about the Detroit statement and the picture

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Speaker 3: in the digital next to him, next to soulful And

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Speaker 3: what is the damn problem?

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Speaker 4: If your shoes don't match your hat, that's a problem.

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Speaker 4: Come right, yes, he say, it's a problem if your

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Speaker 4: parts ain't the same with at the knee and the

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Speaker 2: What what you got on?

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Speaker 1: That's the problem.

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Speaker 2: If you ain't.

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Speaker 3: Ever wear a crim Dulla silk set, what is wrong

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Speaker 3: with you?

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Speaker 2: You haven't lived.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we wear a linen short set with thick and

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Speaker 3: thives SOPs on with data.

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Speaker 2: Shoot, yes, yes, hell yeah, my Lesia suit match.

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Speaker 1: Yes, we love Detroit, Detroit based.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man at huh? How damn you?

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Speaker 3: The love our hell for that damn city is real?

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Speaker 3: Now that we got that out the way, Yeah, little

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Speaker 3: ragged as.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response he's

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Speaker 1: mad about Detroit though. We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the our

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject. I think he purns his hair.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on, we

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Speaker 1: have to recap the Strawberry letter for today. The subject

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Speaker 1: is I think he perms his hair.

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Speaker 2: Come on, I'm so hurt. I'm girl, that's sad. Look

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Speaker 2: on your thing? Can you see me? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You're gonna got of emotions? Are you talking to the

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Speaker 1: letter writer?

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Speaker 2: Now? I'm dating a man that's fifty six years old.

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Speaker 2: He's from Detroit.

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Speaker 3: Not to slam Detroit in any way, but the brother's

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Speaker 3: picture should be an addictionary next to the word soul.

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Speaker 3: I already have come to the conclusion that I not

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Speaker 3: only don't like this lady that wrote this letter, I'm

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Speaker 3: not going to say anything to help you either.

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Speaker 2: So what are you gonna do? That's how mad?

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Speaker 1: I am?

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Speaker 3: Not just Detroit for nothing? She trying to figure out

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Speaker 3: if her man got a hem or not. How the

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Speaker 3: hell you a woman and don't know a prime when

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Speaker 3: you see it? You just said his hair at the

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Speaker 3: roots is different from they are. The dude told you

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Speaker 3: he in the barbershop telling you your man still get permes.

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Speaker 3: You got on the bonnet, he got on the bonnet.

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Speaker 3: He let me just you can't get no better than

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Speaker 3: that boy from Detroit. You better latch o because at

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Speaker 3: least he won't you now.

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Speaker 2: Yes, he permes his hair.

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Speaker 3: Finally. Yes he looks like an old pimp. Yes, all

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Speaker 3: his clothes match. Yes, he's still slapping five on the

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Speaker 3: black side. Yes. Yes, he still uses phrases like brother

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Speaker 3: main blood Turkey, right on, what's happening with you? I'll

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Speaker 3: see your pimp, ah laesus, old school phrases.

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Speaker 2: Okay, lickety split, what happened? What happened? Lickety split? About

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Speaker 2: to jump off? It's fit to go down, don't play

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Speaker 2: with me.

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Speaker 3: He's doleful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's sold.

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Speaker 3: In his car when you get in the car. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: he got that double player in his car with the

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Speaker 3: CDs in it and the.

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Speaker 2: Eight track I still got ah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he got pillows in the back window of his

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Speaker 3: car and third dice hanging in the front. He got

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Speaker 3: a stern wheel, a white stern wheel.

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Speaker 2: Round white. Wow, who is this guy? He got velvet seats,

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Speaker 2: and yes, it's called a cutlass. Destroy baby. I know

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Speaker 2: you ain't never seen the roof like that because half

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Speaker 2: of it is vinyl. I know.

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Speaker 3: The rems is called truths. Yes, he got white walls. Yes,

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Speaker 3: your man got white walls. And outside the white walls,

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Speaker 3: got a gold stripe. Them his truths, baby, Yes, truths.

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Speaker 1: If you're pretty passionate about this letter acknowledgeable, you damn right.

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Speaker 2: That's a cat. Yes, and he got it on his

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Speaker 2: neck too, a Cadillac emblem on his neck. Whoa Oh

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Speaker 2: for the chain. He ain't no rapper, he ain't got

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Speaker 2: his name. Yes, for of them rings. Yes, they nuggets?

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Speaker 3: Yes? Is this Rosco?

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Speaker 2: They nuggets? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: You know exactly what they? Then yet them Jesus is jordashed? Yes, dans? Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you found a bag in his closet with men go

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Speaker 3: around on the yell. I know they don't make no

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Speaker 3: more square toe shoes, he still got them. And three

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Speaker 3: of his alligated shoes got four colors on them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, what what are those colors?

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Speaker 2: Lime?

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Speaker 3: Green, lemon, yellow, orange, and brown? Why put that on

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Speaker 3: with the brown soup? With the yellow jacket?

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Speaker 2: What with the green tie? What bagger?

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Speaker 3: That's Detroit brown hat with a yellow band on it?

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Speaker 2: Girls? Stop? So that's all I wanted to say. Okay,

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Speaker 2: but I don't care what his heir is.

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Speaker 3: I just wanted to give my love, my devotion and

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Speaker 3: all that I am to the second city in the

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Speaker 3: world that is meant more to me than Cleveland, Ohio.

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Speaker 3: That's that damn Detroit ninety two point three God damn mix.

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Speaker 1: Yes all right, hit us up on Instagram and Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey FM to comment on today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 2: You cannot a stand.

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Speaker 3: In the words of Downtown Tony Brown, stand you right

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Speaker 3: in front of that fist and knock your ass.

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Speaker 2: Over the can.

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