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Speaker 2: That actually it was my birthday and Robock made it special,

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Speaker 2: but it might have come at the expense of Roboq's mom. Also,

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Speaker 2: we showed one of our birthday celebration selfies to a

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Speaker 2: friend last night and she started bawling, crying in the

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Speaker 2: middle of a restaurant. Also in this episode, just because

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Speaker 2: it is your birthday, that does not mean you're getting old.

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Speaker 2: Researchers now say aging is not gradual, it's sudden. There

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Speaker 2: are two particular birthdays in which we all age durstically.

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Speaker 2: And finally, I ask Robes two specific questions every single

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Speaker 2: morning before we get out of bed. I especially hated

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Speaker 2: her answer to one of those questions this morning, And

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Speaker 2: with that, everybody, welcome to this edition of Amy and TJ.

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Speaker 2: I love she has no idea about some of that.

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Speaker 2: That's why I always write the entry.

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Speaker 1: I love it when you say we're going to talk

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Speaker 1: about things that I have no idea what you're going

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Speaker 1: to say, or that we were even going to talk

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Speaker 1: about that. So this is going to be fun for all.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, you're now The one I did keep

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Speaker 2: from you for a reason is about the birthdays and

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Speaker 2: the research. There's research out there that shows we all

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Speaker 2: feel like we're getting older and we're aging, and it's

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Speaker 2: a slow process. There are two ages in particular that

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Speaker 2: research has now shown that you drop off and you

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Speaker 2: just age drastically. On two particular.

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Speaker 1: Birthdays, fifty because I kind of felt it, you've hit one. Yep, fifty,

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Speaker 1: I felt you hit one.

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Speaker 2: But I'll also tell you this, fifty is not one

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Speaker 2: of them. Oh okay, So if you you always don't

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Speaker 2: hit till fifty, then you've had you prolonged. You're doing

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Speaker 1: Well like this year, I've really felt it more than

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Speaker 1: I ever have. So okay, I can't wait to hear

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Speaker 1: really okay.

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Speaker 2: But the there are two questions I ask you every morning. Now.

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Speaker 2: The one is obvious and certainly it's we're in the

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Speaker 2: middle of our marathon training. So it's probably the most

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Speaker 2: annoying thing I say to you every single day, and

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Speaker 2: it's often the first thing I say.

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Speaker 1: You say, are you ready to run? You don't say

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Speaker 1: good morning, you look beautiful in the morning. Hey sweetheart,

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Speaker 1: how did you sleep? No, are you ready to run?

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Speaker 2: See you threw some things in that that made me

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Speaker 2: sound like a bad boyfriend. That was unnecessary. You don't

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Speaker 2: even ask you don't even ask me how I'm doing. No,

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Speaker 2: it's sweetheart, and you look beautiful. It's dark in here, sweetheart,

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Speaker 2: game see you. I assume you're beautiful because you were

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Speaker 2: last night. Hopefully nothing changed. But the other question I

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Speaker 2: because I don't look at a lot of headlines. I

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Speaker 2: a guaranteed question I ask you every day, which.

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Speaker 1: Is what's the latest with j low yep?

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Speaker 2: Every single day, because I don't I just got into

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Speaker 2: Oftentimes your answer is, well, I don't know. You give

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Speaker 1: Yes, I will either have seen it on Instagram or

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Speaker 1: we have said this. We don't believe the headline, so

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Speaker 1: So I've told you all of those things like from

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Speaker 1: And then still you have to infer you know why

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Speaker 1: But that's my only update I've been able to get.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I want to speak. I don't want to speak

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Speaker 2: when you have been giving me these updates, I roll

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I said it looks like they're headed for divorce,

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I didn't know about it last night. We

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Speaker 2: It's not but I was exhausted and I gotta I

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Speaker 1: That's not famn unusual.

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Speaker 1: They know what you know what because we have not

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Speaker 1: You have been invested, I am.

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Speaker 2: And I was going to incorporate some of what people

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Speaker 1: Do you know what? This all goes back to you

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Speaker 1: and I and actually George Dephnopolis. We're all sitting on

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Speaker 1: and you're like, this is such a great story seventeen

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Speaker 1: And I think unfortunately, when you want that so badly,

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Speaker 2: It's heartbreaking in my that's all. It was just from

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Speaker 2: We talk about everybody loves a love story, and they're

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Speaker 2: We just don't treat each other like human beings sometimes

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Speaker 1: That all takes work and time, and you're and it's

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Speaker 1: Then you have, ah, just having lived through that personally,

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Speaker 1: also said, when you know there's love there, but don't

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Speaker 2: You know, the I'm going kind of off. It's not

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Speaker 2: And and I say, Sabine. Yet people don't know. Sabine

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Speaker 2: is sitting in the room right now. We're recording this.

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Speaker 2: My daughter eleven year old, but she'll get it. Are

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Speaker 2: our latest fascination, happily ever after ninety day fiance, right,

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Speaker 2: I got it right. The scene we roll our eyes

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Speaker 2: and it's the saddest thing I've ever seen in a

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Speaker 2: My point is why even ask I feel like that

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00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,359
Speaker 2: was a compromise. It wasn't a compromise. I asked for

435
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 2: three layers, it's two. I asked her three flavors, and

436
00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 2: it's something that a five year ol wouldn't even ask for.

437
00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 1: But it was festive. Okay, next year, I promise you

438
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,119
Speaker 1: it will make you a three layer cake. And you

439
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 1: just but you didn't tell us like the flavors I did?

440
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:14,240
Speaker 1: You did chocolate? Oh okay, so fine, Okay, we'll do that.

441
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,719
Speaker 1: It'll be amazing and next year it's on.

442
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 2: I can't thank you enough though you all. Look you,

443
00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 2: all the effort you put in. You've been saying for

444
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:25,920
Speaker 2: about a month now, which is a little a little arrogant.

445
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 2: It was a little annoying. She kept saying, yeah, I

446
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,960
Speaker 2: nailed the birthday gifts. She was saying it for a

447
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 2: month and you did? You actually did? I don't want

448
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,360
Speaker 2: to the main one, I won't tell until we actually

449
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,119
Speaker 2: it's an experience.

450
00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:41,359
Speaker 1: Yes, that was the big The big gift was an

451
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 1: experienced gift, which those are my favorite gifts to give

452
00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:46,760
Speaker 1: because you can't return them. They don't get broken or

453
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,439
Speaker 1: lost or don't get scratches on it. You and you

454
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:50,480
Speaker 1: remember it forever.

455
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 2: This is a go and this was absolutely perfect. It's

456
00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 2: one and we will talk about it when it comes,

457
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,960
Speaker 2: and it's coming at the end of September, right, Yes,

458
00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 2: so we will. We will do it as we get closer.

459
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 2: But there was other stuff. One of them was the

460
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:04,760
Speaker 2: most one of the funniest things I've ever received. But

461
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,359
Speaker 2: it goes back to when were we in LA and

462
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 2: it's happened.

463
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 1: That was for the iHeart Radio Awards.

464
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 2: Was that what month. Yes, so something happened in March

465
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:15,280
Speaker 2: and you've delivered.

466
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 1: He delivered, So we searched. I guess it was Hollywood.

467
00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 1: Was it Rodeo Drive?

468
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, we'd have found it on Rodeo.

469
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:28,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, right on Hollywood. We went to on Marshals because

470
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 1: TJ thought he needed to stop.

471
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 2: Stop. Wait, wait, you're gonna say this is the wrong

472
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 2: way and get the wrong impression.

473
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say you needed a little extra

474
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 1: bling on your fit. I knew you you're gonna Okay,

475
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:41,959
Speaker 1: how would you describe it?

476
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 2: It's very simple. A lapel pen.

477
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 1: That's it.

478
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 2: Men, a lapel pen. It's not a it's not a

479
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:54,640
Speaker 2: complicated thing. But men are often dressed in very basic way.

480
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 2: You know, I'm fairly conservative dresser. I'm not gonna wear

481
00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 2: something just wow, very loud. So you just put a

482
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 2: hint of something, just a little lapel pen, a little flash.

483
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:07,639
Speaker 2: You can have a little diamond in it. If it's

484
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 2: a metal even better. But you didn't call it that.

485
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 2: During an taping of a podcast in La And it

486
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 2: was the funniest thing.

487
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 1: Up, I said that you were on the hunt for

488
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 1: a jeweled man broach that doesn't sound the same, and

489
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 1: it cracked us up. I was tremendously and so I remember,

490
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,160
Speaker 1: like I think the next day or two, I put

491
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 1: I always keep a list, like gifts for DJ and

492
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 1: when things pop up during the year, which is a

493
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 1: good thing to do because you always forget, I'm like,

494
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: this would make a great gift. I was like, find

495
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 1: a jeweled man broach.

496
00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 2: You know, let's stop. Get this. This is your public

497
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,640
Speaker 2: service announcement. Everybody's always stressed out about what to give

498
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 2: their significant other for their birthday or Christmas or anything.

499
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 2: It is so simple. All you gotta do is pay

500
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 2: attention to them three hundred and sixty four days out

501
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 2: of the year, and then when the birthday comes on,

502
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 2: you've nailed it. Just pay attention.

503
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,879
Speaker 1: I have a notes folder and it starts anew and

504
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 1: I write them down. And it has been amazing, Like

505
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: I knew something you really liked or someone you really

506
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: like to listen to, and so I thought checked to

507
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,880
Speaker 1: see all of that stuff. And so it worked out.

508
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 1: And I will tell you it is hard to find

509
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: a man's like a man.

510
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 2: Broach because they're not out there. They're called the elephants.

511
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 2: Do a different Google search.

512
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: Probously. I did the other search and I'm just saying

513
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: this for fun, but they aren't that easy to find, actually,

514
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: a bejeweled one. I could have gotten this simple one. Anyway,

515
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 1: thank you, David Yeerman. I did find one.

516
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: And it's nice. It's actually kind of perfect. And I

517
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 2: wore it out that day when we lunched and it

518
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,199
Speaker 2: was so you nailed it absolutely. But then the ultimate

519
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 2: gift was very good. The experience and the card was awesome.

520
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: Oh yes, can we talk about the card?

521
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: What about the card?

522
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: So last year I came over, I was all nervous.

523
00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,440
Speaker 1: I was gonna you know, ce Sabine. I was meeting

524
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,360
Speaker 1: TJ's parents. Oh yeah, and I think in the fluster

525
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: of bringing his gifts over, I left the card at

526
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: the apartment at my apartment, and so I had to

527
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:12,400
Speaker 1: give it to him the next day and he said, uh,

528
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: this is late. It's not my birthday, so it's just

529
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: gonna have to wait until next year when I open it.

530
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,880
Speaker 1: So he is held on to this card for an

531
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: entire year, and then you forgot to bring it to

532
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 1: your birthday celebration.

533
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: You know what. And I know this sounds petty, but

534
00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 2: I am petty. But I'm fun petty. I'm not I

535
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 2: like like certain types of petty, but this is a

536
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 2: petty I like. Right, you didn't give me this gift

537
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: on my birthday, so why the next day? The next

538
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 2: So what if you had not given me my birthday gifts?

539
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 2: Somebody doesn't give you a birthday gift on your birthday

540
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 2: and they give it to you four days later, you're

541
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 2: going to think one of them.

542
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: It's a belated birthday gift.

543
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 2: It's a blated gift. So you missed my birthday. So

544
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 2: that's the way I feel about the card. So now

545
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 2: we have a tradition that I and my petty ways

546
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 2: have set up that every year she gives me a

547
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 2: card on my birthday, that card won't be opened till

548
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 2: the following year, so it's a delay. So the card

549
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 2: she gave me on the birthday this year I will

550
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 2: open August nineteenth of twenty twenty five.

551
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:15,199
Speaker 1: Did you open?

552
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 2: I didn't?

553
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 1: You didn't open the belated one?

554
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 2: You know what I thought it was? You know, I

555
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:23,440
Speaker 2: thought that this might be a good moment to do it. Sabine,

556
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 2: can you help me out, please? Baby Sabine has the

557
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,679
Speaker 2: card that you gave me, Oh my god, for my

558
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:34,120
Speaker 2: birthday in twenty twenty three. You can see it has

559
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 2: not been opening. It's sealed, says TJ, has got little

560
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 2: hearts on it. I have not seen this card.

561
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: I don't know what it says.

562
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 2: You don't remember.

563
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 1: I have no idea where the card is. I have

564
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: no idea what it says.

565
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 2: Do we want to commit now to whether or not

566
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,880
Speaker 2: I should read it? You can, no matter what.

567
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: I mean, going, No matter what I mean, it's something.

568
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is hilarious.

569
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god, there's a whole letter in here. All right,

570
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 2: let me just read what the card itself, whoever made it,

571
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 2: says on the front. It's tough being both handsome and humble,

572
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 2: and yet somehow you manage both. Happy birthday. Now, there's

573
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 2: a lot of stuff in here that you wrote version.

574
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:27,119
Speaker 2: I see devilish sense of humor in here. Okay, deeper,

575
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 2: I fall in love with you the Yeah, I'm gonna

576
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 2: leave it there.

577
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: I have no idea what I wrote. And you know

578
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: what's so funny. I knew obviously that you hadn't read

579
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 1: my card from last year, So as I was writing

580
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 1: your card for this year, I got deeply concerned that

581
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: maybe I would feel the same sentiments and write similar things,

582
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:50,920
Speaker 1: and I thought he'll actually be able to compare them.

583
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 1: And I thought about that when I was writing, Okay,

584
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:53,919
Speaker 1: this is you.

585
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sorry, tradition is over. Okay, sorry you're writing something.

586
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 2: Thinking oh my god, No, I was.

587
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: Just like, what if I said the same thing last year,

588
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 1: because I don't know, but I don't think it's true.

589
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 2: Well, I won't know until next year, is the thing.

590
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: So also, just to continue the tradition, you gave me

591
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 1: two cards for my birthday this year, one to open

592
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,360
Speaker 1: now and one to open the next year. So I

593
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 1: have the card, and that's also stressful to make sure

594
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 1: you know where you put the card. To find the

595
00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 1: card a year later, I know you have it.

596
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 2: So I'm petty.

597
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,760
Speaker 1: And that you have a devilish sense of humor. Apparently

598
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 1: I was already.

599
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 2: Aware of that. But no, I do thank you for

600
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 2: what that was. And again, Analyse and Ava and Montgomery

601
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 2: and Nive love those girls, and again the friends have

602
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 2: become a part of the family with me over the

603
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 2: past couple of years. And it was it was a perfect,

604
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 2: perfect birthday, and I enjoyed it, every bit of it.

605
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 2: I love that and you and to be made it

606
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: made it really really special. So thank you for that.

607
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 2: I don't feel older because I haven't hit a particular

608
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 2: age that they say I'm supposed to feel older. Right,

609
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 2: I mentioned that the research says that there are two

610
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 2: particular ages that you just drop off. It's not gradual.

611
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 2: We don't age gradually. We age suddenly. Seriously, it's not

612
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 2: a gradual getting older. They say, at a molecular level,

613
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 2: there are two particular birthdays and ages. They have pinpointed

614
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 2: the day the birthdays that you drop off to a

615
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 2: point that there's a severe And I didn't tell you

616
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 2: this on purpose because I want anything.

617
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: Guess so obviously it's not fifty, because you've just told

618
00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: me that. So I'm going to guess. I'm going to

619
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: guess thirty, and then my next guess is going to be.

620
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 2: There are two ages, so thirty is one.

621
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: Thirty is one for mine, and and the other one

622
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 1: would be I would say like seventy.

623
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 2: Five, seventy five. A lot of people they've done research

624
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 2: on seventy five. That isn't what this research now. So

625
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 2: what would you say, Andy, Well, if the two ages

626
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 2: that research now shows people you drastically age at the

627
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 2: on a molecular level at these two particular ages. What

628
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 2: would you give.

629
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 4: Feel like forty is a big one because you're finally

630
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 4: out of like young, I don't know this category, and

631
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 4: then maybe like seventy, well okay.

632
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 2: He's closer. Okay, the two ages that they say you

633
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 2: drop off drastically in age forty four and sixty.

634
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:39,640
Speaker 1: Oh wow.

635
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: Research was done. Some of these researchers were out at Stanford,

636
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 2: but they show on a molecular level that there is

637
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 2: a drastic drop off in the behavior of your molecules

638
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 2: at those two particular ages. This study was done luck

639
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 2: they used over one hundred people and follow them for years.

640
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 2: But they are particular molecules that actually have to do

641
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 2: with keeping tissue together. And at forty four and at sixty,

642
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 2: this now explains how your skin is different. There is

643
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 2: muscle loss, there is or become heart issues because of that.

644
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 2: And they absolutely say that you the researchers, that you're

645
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 2: supposed to give like particular emphasis at these times to

646
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 2: your health. You're not supposed to disregard it in your thirties, clearly,

647
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 2: but you need to be giving particular attention to how

648
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 2: you behave at those ages. Another thing, your ability to

649
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:30,719
Speaker 2: metabolize caffeine and alcohol absolutely drop off at those two ages.

650
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: Oh wow, wow, But isn't the thing we all don't?

651
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 2: We all have somebody in our family. I can remember

652
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 2: my uncle Muhammed when I was a kid, saying no. No.

653
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 2: When I got old, I was in my thirties and

654
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 2: he said, man, how do you stay in shape? He said, Man,

655
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 2: when I hit forty just everything change. Oh yeah, how

656
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 2: don't you heart?

657
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: People say that absolutely yes. I mean, I'm I feel

658
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,959
Speaker 1: like I'm struggling running training for this marathon more than

659
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 1: I ever have before. And I ran my first marathon

660
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 1: at forty six. But I've no to shift. I'm like, WHOA,

661
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to do some things differently. I'm gonna

662
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: have to fuel differently. I'm gonna have to sleep differently.

663
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to make some changes because I'm not able.

664
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 1: I just don't think I'm able to physically do what

665
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 1: I could do even a few years ago. I have to.

666
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: It's not it's not huge, but it's enough for I've

667
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 1: noticed it.

668
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm glad I'm getting you now. On the upside here.

669
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: Well, you've already hit one of those.

670
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 2: I haven't. I haven't felt it yet.

671
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: You haven't.

672
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 2: I haven't felt that yet. But we were Ernie Hudson,

673
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 2: we were talking to not too long. The lack of

674
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 2: a better way to describe the black Okay, yes he

675
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 2: loves that, he said, seventy. But everybody can pinpoint when

676
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 2: I hit. He called it mister jiggles or something in

677
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 2: his stomach. Everybody has a thing when they hit. This

678
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 2: actually makes sense to a boom. It hits you at

679
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 2: one time instead of a gradual getting older.

680
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: Well that's good to know. And that actually almost made

681
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: me forget what I forgot this past week. Oh you're

682
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: going there, okay, of course, all right. Just wanted to

683
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: make sure I didn't want to forget what I forgot.

684
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 2: Why don't you just transition to it?

685
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: You could have just you know, I'm horrible transition. It

686
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: is not my strength.

687
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 2: So everybody's at fault here. About the birthdays, there were

688
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: so many talked about how much fun we had and

689
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 2: how much emphasis we put on the birthday, and so

690
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 2: much attention was on the cake that I had. That

691
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 2: wasn't what I asked for. But while she was so

692
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 2: busy doing all these things. What is it? You know,

693
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 2: a lot of Leo's. Your dad's birthday is August thirteenth,

694
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 2: your mom's the fifeenth, yes, fifteenth, right, and mine is

695
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 2: the nineteenth. I think we might be missing somebody. There

696
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 2: was a lot. Just that's a pretty good cluster people.

697
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: And all my daughter's friends, like you know, Ava's roommate Raye,

698
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: his birthday's August twenty second. Her best friend Ava Cluoso

699
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 1: is August thirteenth. There's just August is filled with lots

700
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: of birthdays. So folks.

701
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: On our trip out of town, while we were all

702
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 2: hanging out, having a good time, everybody's all smiles, family together,

703
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 2: taking pictures. It is a good sign. Oh my sweet Lord, baby,

704
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 2: baby Jesus. We forgot robots mom's birthday.

705
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 1: It was gutting and I've never forgotten it. I mean,

706
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 1: I had sent gifts to their house, but they were

707
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 1: traveling for their birthdays. I facetimed my dad. I was

708
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,399
Speaker 1: the first text he got that morning. I sent him

709
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: a happy birthday on mo Oji and just all Dad,

710
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna FaceTime you. And we did and it was lovely.

711
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: And my mom's birthday is two days later, so how

712
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 1: could I forget that? Well, we were all caught up

713
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: in the anticipation of celebrating DJ's birthday, and we were

714
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:44,720
Speaker 1: all traveling in the girls. No, it's all my fault.

715
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 1: And yeah, the girls were coming on trains and we

716
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: had the car, and there was so much coordination and excitement,

717
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 1: and I went to bed feeling so happy that we

718
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 1: just had a great night. And then I woke up

719
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: in the morning and I saw that my mom at

720
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: texted me at night where they were. This resort they

721
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 1: were at were very kind and wrote happy birthday and

722
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: rose petals on her bed, and she's like, isn't this

723
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: so sweet? Look what the resort did for me, which

724
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: meant when I woke up the next morning that I

725
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 1: completely missed her birthday. In my mind, it was Friday,

726
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 1: not Thursday, so I had my days mixed up. It

727
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 1: was just, yeah, I didn't make a million excuses, but

728
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:24,479
Speaker 1: I dropped the ball.

729
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: You know, it didn't It fell to odd because you'd

730
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 2: been talking to her all day. It's not like you

731
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 2: just didn't speak to your mom during the day. I

732
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 2: don't even know if that makes it.

733
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: Worse, it makes it worse. I was texting her and

734
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: I didn't say happy birthday, and I had done it

735
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: for my dad, so that it was just I and

736
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: then I just felt so bad. And then I was

737
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 1: texting her and I called her my dad. They were

738
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: in the middle of doing something and my dad the

739
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: first day, she said, was when he answered the phone,

740
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: and I thought, oh no, he dropped something, and I

741
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 1: like he was startled with the phone. He dropped anyway,

742
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 1: he said, I got to call you back, and so

743
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 1: that I had like thirty forty five minutes of feeling

744
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: total panic that I had just made them so upset.

745
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 1: I was just freaking out that I had forgotten her birthday.

746
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: But anyway, she was very lovely, very gracious, very kind.

747
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: She's like, all that matters is that you're calling me

748
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 1: now and I get to talk to you now, and

749
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 1: she was very sweet and forgiving. But I just that

750
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: feeling of someone forgetting your birthday as an awful feeling,

751
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 1: especially someone that close to you, and I hate that.

752
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: I possibly she claims I didn't, but I know it

753
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: had to sting, and I felt really awful about.

754
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 2: She was great, and that's one of those things you

755
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 2: were never you would were not going to be okay

756
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 2: until you talk to your mom and she let you

757
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: know she was okay. That was a bad when we

758
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,239
Speaker 2: had a rough hour or two anticipation because I think

759
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 2: you tried to facetimer once and she didn't answer.

760
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: Didn't answer. Oh, and my mom always answers, And I

761
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 1: was like, oh, no, she's.

762
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 2: Mad at me.

763
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: She's not answering the FaceTime, and then Evan Anna both

764
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: looked at me and said, Mom, we forgot her birthday too.

765
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,360
Speaker 1: So all of us did it, and we just felt awful,

766
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: like terrible.

767
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:59,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, kid and grandkids forgot the birthday. We were

768
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 2: all here, sell it right, celebrating the new guy. We

769
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 2: forgot mom and grand Yogi.

770
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I yes, but mom and dad both Happy birthday guys,

771
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 1: and I just I'll make it up next year. It's

772
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 1: going to be amazing.

773
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 2: Have you forgotten one before? Can you remember forgetting somebody's

774
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 2: birthday that was a big deal?

775
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 1: No, I really think that is the first time in

776
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 1: my life where I have forgotten. I mean my nephews.

777
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm scrambling at like nine pm to send them

778
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 1: an Amazon gift card because I have done that, but

779
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 1: I've I think I've always sneaked it in, and also

780
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: my mom has helped remind me. Sometimes I'll remind the girls.

781
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,879
Speaker 1: But I was I was wishing that. My dad, oh yeah,

782
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 1: texted me and said, remember it's your.

783
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:46,280
Speaker 2: Mom's Okay, okay, Papa Robach, if you're listening your daughter

784
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 2: for about ten minutes turned her anger to you, like,

785
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 2: why didn't like you?

786
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 1: You're genuinely made my dad not tell me like you

787
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: texted your mom today. It was not his fault, obviously,

788
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 1: I just would have been so grateful you done that.

789
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: That's all.

790
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 2: Okay, that's well. You every once in a while we

791
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: forget a birthday. I don't think I forgot you know what, either,

792
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 2: I've messed up and like said, have a birthday on

793
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 2: the wrong day before, okay, but early, Okay, that's better.

794
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,840
Speaker 2: It is better. But it wasn't a like I genuinely

795
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:20,240
Speaker 2: forgot your birth date, right, but I got it in early,

796
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 2: so it wasn't a belated I've done that. But somebody

797
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: that close to me, I don't think I had, right.

798
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: I mean, other people, I'm sure I have, but someone

799
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: that close to me, no, this is the first time.

800
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 2: And dudes don't care either way. There's no friend, a

801
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 2: guy friend of mine ever cared. I'm Miss Trick's birthday

802
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,399
Speaker 2: every year, you know what I'm saying. And he's never complained, right,

803
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 2: not one you get right, Hey cares.

804
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: But like if you forgot your mom's birthday, how would

805
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:43,720
Speaker 1: she react?

806
00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:51,720
Speaker 2: I don't know because I would never do such a thing.

807
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: I feel awful I do. I am going to make

808
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: it up. Next year. They're going to have an amazing

809
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 1: seventy second birthday. My mom is gonna whatever it is.

810
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 2: But Andy's gonna help us out here, folks, whore gonna

811
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 2: rat with? I know everybody is messed up a birthday

812
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 2: in some way, form or fashion, and there's always pressure

813
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 2: around birthdays, and when you get older, it seems a

814
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 2: little ridiculous, like what are we supposed to do? How

815
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 2: are we supposed to celebrate? Who are we supposed to celebrate?

816
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 2: So our super producer here, Andy, that you all are

817
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 2: familiar with, he has a list a dozen dues and

818
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:27,799
Speaker 2: don'ts for an adult birthday celebration. If you will, Andy, hell,

819
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 2: let's see if we screw these up for an adult

820
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 2: The dues and don'ts when you're celebrating an adult birthday.

821
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:38,800
Speaker 4: Yes, number one, do shift your birthday mindset from aging

822
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 4: to gratitude. Gratitude means having the privilege to age another year,

823
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,879
Speaker 4: So I should feel happy that you're able to get

824
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 4: another year.

825
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 2: You know what, a lot of people. I don't like

826
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 2: those folks who say it's my birthday, don't give me

827
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: anything that's not celebrat Oh I hate that.

828
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: Oh I get actually angry. In fact, I think I

829
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 1: have made a dinner awkward. When someone complained about getting older,

830
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 1: I said, it's a privilege to get older. What's the

831
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: alternative if you can't celebrate that? My god? Like, just

832
00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: rethink about what it means to get to your older

833
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 1: That is an amazing thing. You got another trip around

834
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: the sun and you have. I kind of look at

835
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: it as a reset too. You go, you reflect, and

836
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: then you say, what do I want this year? What

837
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 1: do I want to do better? You know that's it's

838
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 1: an opportunity instead of something being negative.

839
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 2: We reset for new years, right. Everybody wants to start

840
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 2: a new and all fresh. What use your birthday that?

841
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 1: I love it.

842
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 2: I'm with you. That's a definite. Don't do it. Don't

843
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 2: that's all gratitude do have gratitudes.

844
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:42,400
Speaker 4: Don't is stressing over sending reciprocal birthday wishes. It's not

845
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 4: take a penny, give a penny, don't keep score.

846
00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:47,919
Speaker 2: Oh I like that they sent me a birthday wish.

847
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 2: Now I have to send them up. That's a good one.

848
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 1: I love that.

849
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 2: That's a good one.

850
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 1: Uh.

851
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 4: This next one is do see if your office lets

852
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 4: you opt in or out of a birthday celebration, because many,

853
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 4: not all, may want to celebrate you, but if you

854
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,360
Speaker 4: don't want to be celebrated, make that clear with your office.

855
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 1: Yes, with the office cupcakes, and they make a big deal.

856
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: Some people get embarrassed by all the attention. I mean,

857
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,239
Speaker 1: I personally don't love it when I get a big

858
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: sombrero put on my head and the band comes out

859
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 1: singing Happy Birthday. That's not something I like at all.

860
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 1: Do you like it when the restaurant comes with the

861
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: big song and the clapping hand you know me right,

862
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 1: and the firework for a candle?

863
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 2: How many times in my life you think I would

864
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 2: have allowed that to happen?

865
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 1: Zero?

866
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 2: Okay, I will stop them at the kitchen door. Don't

867
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 2: even come out.

868
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: I know when we went out to lunch one time,

869
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: I think it was maybe it was the day before

870
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,840
Speaker 1: your birthday, and I thought, no, I'm not going to

871
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: do it.

872
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 2: Oh, you crossed your mind.

873
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: I laughed about how normally a lot of times I

874
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 1: would go to the waiter and say, hey, it's a birthday.

875
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 2: Did you consult with the meme?

876
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 1: I no, I knew you knew that.

877
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 2: I didn't get that.

878
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: I had a little thought pop in my head, and

879
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: I laughed, and then I thought, I actually think you'd

880
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 1: be mad. If I thought you would be like, you'd

881
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 1: laugh it off. But I thought, no, you would actually

882
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: be pissed mad. So I didn't.

883
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 4: All right, the next one, and I actually did this

884
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 4: one recently. Keep track of the birthdays for key people

885
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:24,720
Speaker 4: in your life. Mark special days on your iPhone or calendar. Yes,

886
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,399
Speaker 4: I deleted my Facebook, but before I did, I went

887
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 4: through the whole Facebook birthday list and made sure to

888
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 4: put all the people that I actually would care to

889
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 4: write happy birthday, to make sure to put those in

890
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:36,800
Speaker 4: my calendar as alert.

891
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: That's amazing, And I don't know why mine did not

892
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 1: pop up. That's such a good point, because maybe I

893
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: don't have my mom's birthday in.

894
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 2: My candy didn't tell you they didn't, you would need to.

895
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 1: You know, I have a question. Do you know how

896
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 1: to take birthdays off of your calendar?

897
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:51,839
Speaker 2: It seems like you figured it out right now.

898
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: I never put it off on. You know, when people

899
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 1: in and out of your life and then maybe you

900
00:42:57,920 --> 00:42:59,360
Speaker 1: don't want to have their birthday pop up?

901
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 2: How do you get I don't have that though. I

902
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 2: couldn't what people don't come in and out of my life.

903
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 2: They're here or they're not. No, that's no, there's no

904
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 2: in and out right.

905
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 1: But maybe at one point you wanted someone's birthday to

906
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: pop up on your calendar, and now you don't want

907
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: to see you show Okay, I actually genuinely need that direction.

908
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 2: And give yourself a couple on the alerts. You know,

909
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: get an alert a week ahead of time, a few

910
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 2: days ahead of time. That's that's perfect, that's very good.

911
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 4: The next one is don't ask people their age. It's

912
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 4: not polite. Don't do it period.

913
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 1: When you do that, I think after the twenty first

914
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: birthday you should not ask the age. It's fun up

915
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,839
Speaker 1: until twenty one, and then no one wants to tell you.

916
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: And what do you want to know?

917
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: Damn? Okay, even to me, it was like that was strong.

918
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:54,479
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I actually personally don't mind telling my age,

919
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: but I would.

920
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 2: All the time anyway. That's why though, So you don't

921
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:01,919
Speaker 2: care if anybody asks because you've put it out there, right, so.

922
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: But I respect that someone might not want to you

923
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: were okay?

924
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 2: But my issues people going off about like getting mad that.

925
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 2: So is it inappropriate and rude? Is my thing? Is

926
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 2: it actually rude or just I don't know.

927
00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: I think it's probably rude because I guess my question is,

928
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:19,839
Speaker 1: why do you want to know?

929
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 2: It's your birthday? What are you turning? That's a natural question.

930
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 2: I'm going to a concert tonight. Who are you saying?

931
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 2: That's kind of a natural follow up?

932
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 4: That's really rude?

933
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 2: Heading to a restaurant? Oh, where are you headed? What

934
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: kind of food?

935
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:35,880
Speaker 1: That's not a why do you want to know?

936
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 2: Go into a movie?

937
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 1: What are you saying?

938
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 2: None of your business.

939
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: Is not the same. Yeah, I think it's I think

940
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: it's mostly a female thing.

941
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,960
Speaker 2: There we go there it is, so we don't.

942
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 1: Want anyone to view us through the lens of our age.

943
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 2: Andy, do you care if somebody ask you your age?

944
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 3: Not?

945
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:57,400
Speaker 2: Really? Okay?

946
00:44:57,800 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: Yeah?

947
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, but how old are you thirty three? She just asked,

948
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 2: You just said, don't ask people.

949
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: They I did that on purpose.

950
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 2: Yea, it was hilarious. What you got next, Andy? I

951
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 2: mean thirty three year old Andy.

952
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 4: The next one says, do make it clear who's paying

953
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 4: for the celebration. If you're going out to a bar

954
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 4: or throwing a birthday party, the organizer should always clearly

955
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 4: convey financial details before the party. Do not let it

956
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 4: go unsettled.

957
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 1: So this has always been something where I have thrown

958
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: birthday parties, like for myself and in my opinion as

959
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: a grown ass woman, if I'm going out to a

960
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: bar whatever, I'm picking up the bill. That's how I

961
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: look at it.

962
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 2: But if you're the organizer, if you should be.

963
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 1: Correct, okay, correct, But if you're going out for a dinner,

964
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 1: you know a lot of times everybody will say you're

965
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: you're not throwing your credit card in? We got you

966
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 1: at your birthday and so yeah, but I don't know.

967
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 1: I just feel like, for me, the one rule is

968
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 1: if I'm throwing the party, I'm picking up the bill.

969
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 2: And my one rule would be if we're all going

970
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 2: out to dinner, no matter who organizes the birthday boy,

971
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 2: the birthday girl does not pay correct fairly right, Yeah.

972
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 4: The next one. Don't mention gifts on an invitation. Adult

973
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 4: birthdays do not or should not come with the obligation

974
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 4: of gifts, and you need to be aware that there

975
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 4: is no including a wish list.

976
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 1: That's I yeah, I agree with that. I think like

977
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,239
Speaker 1: what you're putting in a And by the way, if

978
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: you come, here's what I'd like.

979
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 4: No, I've seen one or two people really like adults.

980
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, like how old?

981
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 4: I mean three?

982
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: Like a link to here's what I'd like you to buy.

983
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:44,359
Speaker 4: Me, kind of like a suggested wish list. If you're

984
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 4: thinking of ideas, here's what I'm thinking.

985
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: Wow.

986
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, and all I wanted was a frickin cake and

987
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 2: I didn't get that.

988
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: Got a cake.

989
00:46:53,800 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 2: You're oh, don't all far me? Okay, yeah, see this

990
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 2: is why we don't have to There is no I

991
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 2: don't know anybody that's like me except for her.

992
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: Oh, you guys are exactly like And I would say

993
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: Annaly's is similar to the two of you, But no,

994
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: the two of you are two peas in a pod.

995
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 2: And that's why I don't like her. A lot of times.

996
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 2: Oh I love her I can't. I can't. I'm not

997
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 2: used to receiving what I'm used to.

998
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: So she equips right back, that is, and I applaud it.

999
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 4: Okay, go into the next one, don't or sorry, do

1000
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 4: let the birthday girl or guy design the guest list.

1001
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 4: So let your friend.

1002
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, you should have a say as to who comes

1003
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 1: to celebrate your birthday. Correct.

1004
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,799
Speaker 4: Yes. I did have an issue with that with one

1005
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 4: of my friends though, where they put us on a

1006
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 4: group text and then left the group text. They're like,

1007
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 4: this is who I want to invite, and then left

1008
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 4: the group text and we're like you all planned from here?

1009
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 4: Oh oh, which I don't know how I really felt

1010
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 4: about it. I mean, it went fine, but it was

1011
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 4: like kind of awkward in the moment because then everybody

1012
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 4: was just awkwardly scrambling. You don't know half these people

1013
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 4: who's taking lead. It's just kind of like, okay, why

1014
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 4: is not.

1015
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 1: Oh I was going to say, you were at one

1016
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: of my birthday parties. How about when someone who you

1017
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:15,439
Speaker 1: didn't invite and actually you said please, I only want

1018
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 1: I don't want because if you invite this one person,

1019
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 1: then it creates a whole other group of people who

1020
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: feel like they got excluded. So how about when that

1021
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: person comes to your birthday party uninvited? And TJ witnessed

1022
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 1: this time. It was my forty third birthdays and I

1023
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 1: still get hot thinking about it, thinking about it. Who

1024
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 1: goes to a birthday party they weren't invited to.

1025
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 2: Please everybody, if any indication of not to do it.

1026
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 2: This was eight years ago, and you heard her voice.

1027
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: She's still hot. And I remember this other.

1028
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: Group of people who I didn't and I was again

1029
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: I was paying for it. Oh I if I invited her,

1030
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: then they all had to come to right because she

1031
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 1: then I knew other people were going to find out

1032
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:02,439
Speaker 1: that she was at my birthday party.

1033
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 2: And then then they would say why wouldn't they?

1034
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 1: And then I just thought. And then the person who

1035
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 1: said they were bringing her, I said no, please don't,

1036
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,399
Speaker 1: and they came anyway. Yeah, how about that?

1037
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 2: Okay, whoever's birthday it is should be in charge. They

1038
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:17,280
Speaker 2: should only have exactly who they want in the spot.

1039
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 2: That's the bottom line. Okay.

1040
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 1: Yes.

1041
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 4: The next one is do tell people it's your birthday

1042
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 4: if you want them to know. No one is a

1043
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 4: mind reader. Remind people or put the big day on

1044
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 4: your outlook calendar to subtly get the word out.

1045
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 2: So if it's your you need to remind people is

1046
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 2: your birthday.

1047
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 4: They're saying that you can if you want to tell

1048
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 4: people to feel confident if you think someone may forget

1049
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:41,240
Speaker 4: or kind of like when my mom text.

1050
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 1: Text with the look at how nice this resort was

1051
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 1: to me, Yeah my birthday.

1052
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, mama Robak, this is your fault.

1053
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: No, well, actually she did what you're supposed to do.

1054
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: It's it's you gently remind me.

1055
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 2: It was like eleven o'clock at night. We need more

1056
00:49:56,800 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 2: than that. I'm kidding. I was just out our fault.

1057
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 2: But that's a weird one to remind people that's your birthday.

1058
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 1: If you want people to know what's your birthday, don't

1059
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,439
Speaker 1: expect them to remember, I guess is the point, right? Yeah?

1060
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 4: I think it helps with your clums not clumsy, but

1061
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 4: maybe not as like mindful type like it's your birthday week.

1062
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:17,399
Speaker 4: It's it's just nice to like put the word out

1063
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 4: in advance, like hey, it's my birthday this week or

1064
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:20,359
Speaker 4: what are we doing?

1065
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it lets people know that it's important to you.

1066
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:25,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1067
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:30,319
Speaker 1: I can't imagine you doing that. Yeah, it would feel

1068
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: it would feel sad, be like, it's my birthday today

1069
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 1: and I just walking up the people's saying, you guys free,

1070
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 1: anybody want to celebrate?

1071
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 2: I got you.

1072
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 4: But to that same point, I think it's kind of

1073
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 4: weird if somebody did do that but they didn't tell you,

1074
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 4: like a day or two and before, right, it'd be

1075
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 4: weird if all of a sudden it was like your

1076
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,800
Speaker 4: birthday today, and I'd be like, oh, that's okay.

1077
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 2: You You should not have to send a text on

1078
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 2: your own birthday. That should all be incoming.

1079
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's true. You should be reading text not

1080
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: sending them all right.

1081
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 4: The next one is don't assume how people plan to celebrate.

1082
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 4: Not everybody wants to go crazy on their birthday, but

1083
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 4: it's nice to check in to ask how the person

1084
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 4: celebrating their birthday actually wants to celebrate.

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00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:18,000
Speaker 2: That's perfect because we would probably be the opposite. You

1086
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 2: want a whole bunch of people around and jumping and

1087
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 2: yelling and screaming and all this.

1088
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 1: So if it's that, it's more like music dancing.

1089
00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 2: I just said jumping and yelling and screaming, that's what

1090
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 2: music is.

1091
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,360
Speaker 1: That's for white people.

1092
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 2: I didn't say that. I say you, I don't hang

1093
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:32,600
Speaker 2: out with any of other white people.

1094
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 1: Just not true.

1095
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:38,800
Speaker 2: Well, all the white people you bring around, I'm kidding.

1096
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 1: There's no other way to dance to living on a

1097
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 1: prayer other than to jump.

1098
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:45,240
Speaker 2: That's actually true.

1099
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my favorite song.

1100
00:51:57,480 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 4: The next one is do own it if you forget

1101
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 4: someone's birthday. Yep, you can apologize, but don't sweat it, okay, And.

1102
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 2: That's exactly what I told you. Yes, I said she's

1103
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,399
Speaker 2: going to be okay, that's nothing. There is no makeup there.

1104
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 2: You can't no do good nor just let it be

1105
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 2: what it is. I know you're upset, wait until you

1106
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 2: talk to her, and it's going to be fine. Yeah,

1107
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 2: that's true.

1108
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 4: And this last one is do think about how you

1109
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:26,320
Speaker 4: want to celebrate. If you're not a party animal, skip

1110
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 4: the huge bash, think about what you want your ideal

1111
00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 4: day to look like, and then invite some friends along.

1112
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:34,440
Speaker 2: That's it. I love that and I got that. That's

1113
00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 2: exactly exactly what I did. All I want to do

1114
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:39,920
Speaker 2: is be in the sun. I want to grill, I

1115
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 2: want to cook. I want to have good drinks and

1116
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 2: folks around me. I love. And that was it, but

1117
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 2: just laid I don't like going out necessarily on my birthday.

1118
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I loved. I loved the week. I loved

1119
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 1: the time we had with everyone, and I loved how

1120
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:59,800
Speaker 1: willing and happy you were surrounded by six girls. That

1121
00:53:00,280 --> 00:53:02,319
Speaker 1: is a lot for most guys. So I applaud you

1122
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 1: for I don't want to say tolerating it, but just

1123
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 1: you know that that is that is but that is

1124
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 1: a lot. That is a lot of women all in

1125
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 1: one space around you. But you were It was a

1126
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: blast from start to finish. It really was. And so

1127
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:21,800
Speaker 1: I loved what you requested because it just was perfect.

1128
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: It was perfect like every like the girls were even

1129
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:25,920
Speaker 1: saying last night and they were just saying how much

1130
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: fun they had and how great it was, and it

1131
00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 1: was just it was beautiful.

1132
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 2: So I thank you for it. I think it's being

1133
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 2: that's sitting over there for and then Elise and Neva

1134
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 2: and Montgomery and me for making a wonderful, wonderful trip.

1135
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 2: So and it was it was another chapter and page

1136
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:46,480
Speaker 2: turner for us in this whole saga and relationship and

1137
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 2: just family and life. It was a it was just

1138
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 2: another marker of a moment. And so I thank you

1139
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 2: for it. It was a great birthday. So thank you,

1140
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 2: I love you. I love you too, baby, and thank

1141
00:53:56,239 --> 00:54:01,759
Speaker 2: you Sabine. Wow, she just gave me deuces. She just

1142
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:02,880
Speaker 2: gave me deuces.

1143
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 1: I wonder where it's an attitude though, it's a way

1144
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 1: of living. Yeah, it's just fun.

1145
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 2: Okay, folks, you know where to find us on our

1146
00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:19,919
Speaker 2: official show page at Amy and TJ Podcast. We do

1147
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 2: have something really special coming up. I think in a

1148
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 2: couple of days. Our next episode is going to we

1149
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 2: have Sabine in the room now because she's not necessarily

1150
00:54:26,560 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 2: a guest on the show, even though she just wanted

1151
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 2: to keep talking over there. But we have another very

1152
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 2: special guest coming up on either tomorrow for our next

1153
00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 2: episode will feature a very special guest.

1154
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: Yes that's right, and stay tuned for that. But in

1155
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:43,280
Speaker 1: the meantime, you can find us on our official Instagram

1156
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 1: page Amy and TJ Podcast.

1157
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 2: Just for Embasis, we wanted to say it again.

1158
00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:49,879
Speaker 3: All right, I'm going to stop now, have a great

1159
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 3: day everyone.

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Speaker 2: Do you think