Speaker 1: Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with
Speaker 1: your hosts me Gia Judice.
Speaker 2: Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler.
Speaker 3: It's time to get dirty, dirty with some sorority lingo.
Speaker 4: We're calling this lingo bingo. We're not actually going to
Speaker 4: play bingo, but we want to talk about the lingo
Speaker 4: back by popular demand, because we did this earlier in
Speaker 4: the Dirty Rush series. We talked about the words, and
Speaker 4: so we've assembled a group, a panel, secret panel. We
Speaker 4: have young, we have old so I think our youngest
Speaker 4: is still in the sorority and our oldest is in
Speaker 4: their fifties. So we did not include the gramma generation,
Speaker 4: which we should, but we go. We span, you know,
Speaker 4: a good thirty forty years here. If you all were
Speaker 4: to think of one word that makes you think of
Speaker 4: your sorority, can you think of it?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Yes, yeah, it give it?
Speaker 4: Everybody give it.
Speaker 2: As a PII. The word boom just is PIPEI.
Speaker 4: If you listen to our song episode, you'll understand why
Speaker 4: anybody else it's not sisterhood in the bonds, mine's in
Speaker 4: the bonds. We always said that in the is that
Speaker 4: what yours was?
Speaker 7: I'm trying to think of a word. I I don't know,
Speaker 7: I just go to blue and blue. Honestly, I feel
Speaker 7: like that was really hammered home.
Speaker 4: Yeah, while we're on the topic, a lot of people
Speaker 4: don't understand that each so already has colors. So maybe
Speaker 4: the secret panel, why don't we go to the alpha,
Speaker 4: pi and the theta. What were your colors?
Speaker 8: Alpha?
Speaker 9: Fi?
Speaker 2: Maroon?
Speaker 10: I might have been maroon in silver, something little prian
Speaker 10: and a little accent, but mainly maroon marine.
Speaker 8: Our ours was block and gold.
Speaker 4: Oh you are black and gold.
Speaker 2: I was always jealous of beta colors. I was always this.
Speaker 11: Is sending me back to the song episode really quick.
Speaker 11: I'll just sing you an excerpt. We would do a
Speaker 11: take on black and yellow, and we'd be like black
Speaker 11: and yellow, black and yellow, black and yellow, black and yellow,
Speaker 11: and we would just sing that all around the house
Speaker 11: and it would be like, yeah, you know what it is,
Speaker 11: theta yellow.
Speaker 2: They did that when I was in college too.
Speaker 8: It was that one I enjoyed.
Speaker 2: What were you again, wine and blue?
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's not a great these color.
Speaker 2: Combinations, it's not good.
Speaker 3: I remember not liking our colors and being like, I
Speaker 3: wish I was a data just for the colors black
Speaker 3: and gold and what was what wasd.
Speaker 12: G bronze pink and blue?
Speaker 4: Bronze pink and blue.
Speaker 12: Pretty girl also a strange combination.
Speaker 4: I feel like Kappa's rocking here with the blue and blue.
Speaker 8: Yeah, that's classic yea time.
Speaker 4: So I'd like to go into some sorority lingo that
Speaker 4: resonates with the older generation and then see if it's
Speaker 4: still used by the younger people. Does anybody in this
Speaker 4: group know what snaps are or the silent?
Speaker 9: Did?
Speaker 4: Does that mean anything to anyone?
Speaker 12: Snaps?
Speaker 3: Snaps like like like snaps like Kudo's good job type,
Speaker 3: not quite clapping.
Speaker 4: Quite clapping. The way I think it's used is like
Speaker 4: in a rush meeting. If you're like, we loved you know, Mary,
Speaker 4: and everyone starts snapping, then you just don't even have
Speaker 4: to talk about it anymore.
Speaker 6: You're kind of an agreement.
Speaker 4: Yeah, did everybody use that?
Speaker 12: Yeah?
Speaker 4: We use that now. I'd like to know what everyone
Speaker 4: how they describe their chapter room. That seems to be
Speaker 4: something that people are like, what does that even mean?
Speaker 6: Are sucked?
Speaker 4: Why tell us more?
Speaker 13: It was so old it smelled, and the furniture was
Speaker 13: always pushed off to this like to the wall for
Speaker 13: I don't know, whatever dance rehearsal. You had to go
Speaker 13: through the patio to get out there. It's kind of
Speaker 13: like a detached It's interesting you.
Speaker 4: Bring up the furniture push to the walls because our
Speaker 4: arts also was all did anybody else.
Speaker 12: That used to fit all the members? And I think
Speaker 12: so maybe I didn't know that there was a chapter room.
Speaker 12: We always did it in our living room here, did
Speaker 12: you guys?
Speaker 11: Did you guys have a dedicated room just for chapter Yeah? Yes,
Speaker 11: oh we did the same thing just in our living
Speaker 11: room and there were girls sitting on the floor and
Speaker 11: it was a whole mess that was.
Speaker 4: On the floor for sure. But did you have composits?
Speaker 4: Do you guys know what composity?
Speaker 2: And that was for us.
Speaker 3: That was a big thing in when I was in college,
Speaker 3: is we would steal each other's composites like sororities and fraternities,
Speaker 3: like like we had like a Landakai and Sigma Qui.
Speaker 2: Composite at our house.
Speaker 4: And that frown on that like you could kind of
Speaker 4: get busted for that.
Speaker 2: I don't know, we all did it.
Speaker 3: It was like the fun thing to do, Like you
Speaker 3: would go to Lambda Kai house for like a party
Speaker 3: and steeler composite and like hang it up in your
Speaker 3: sority house.
Speaker 4: And did the houses like ours went back, like you
Speaker 4: could find years previous composites.
Speaker 6: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: If I go to SAE right now and I search hard,
Speaker 4: I can find the composite that features one of our
Speaker 4: panel members fathers and one of our panel members husbands
Speaker 4: on it, like it's still up.
Speaker 6: Did you know that?
Speaker 12: Yeah, we had. We have old composites that are just
Speaker 12: in our hallways. So I wonder how to look at
Speaker 12: far back?
Speaker 4: It goes yeah, like.
Speaker 12: I'm not not too far because we didn't have enough
Speaker 12: wall space.
Speaker 4: I wonder where all the old composites are stored. They
Speaker 4: must be somewhere.
Speaker 11: We had the same space problem the composites, where we
Speaker 11: only had so much wall space. So every year they
Speaker 11: kept them in this big closet and then they would
Speaker 11: rotate out which composits were hung on the wall each year,
Speaker 11: so it was always like the composites from five, ten,
Speaker 11: fifteen years ago, and then it was like I don't
Speaker 11: know how they did it actually, but they would change
Speaker 11: them every year.
Speaker 4: And they were framed in sort of very big, bulky,
Speaker 4: ugly brown frames anybody else lay yeah, just really not
Speaker 4: not sleek or chic frames in any way.
Speaker 13: Did you guys at KAPA and I don't know if
Speaker 13: the girls do this, but our meetings were like Robert's rules,
Speaker 13: like secretary call to order.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, they were formal, Okay, did everybody have that?
Speaker 4: Pretty much?
Speaker 13: So we had like a table where the president, vice
Speaker 13: president and all the chairs sat and they faced us
Speaker 13: like it was recular, and then a gavel.
Speaker 2: We would do roll call like see the name.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you had to wear a skirt in our era.
Speaker 6: Yeah, same, that's.
Speaker 4: Still a thing over there. A no, we have like
Speaker 4: a skirt.
Speaker 9: We have one formal chapter meeting, I'm pretty sure it's
Speaker 9: every first of the month, and then after that people
Speaker 9: are just rolling in our sub pants. And then the
Speaker 9: chapter room for us is like once it's it's chapter
Speaker 9: room on Mondays, and then after that that's just like
Speaker 9: TV hangout room because we have a great TV in
Speaker 9: the furniture.
Speaker 12: We just do movie there downstairs.
Speaker 4: There's a TV in that room now.
Speaker 9: And it's the thing that the chapter rooms like sacred
Speaker 9: because like people who are not Kapas are not allowed
Speaker 9: to go in there. So like we have like the
Speaker 9: TV room in Kappa, but then like the Kappas can
Speaker 9: have the chapter room to watch like movie nights in
Speaker 9: and stuff too, So that's interesting.
Speaker 2: So it's like a friend room.
Speaker 4: I like that you brought that up. I'm assuming for
Speaker 4: the houses that have chapter rooms only the Kappa can
Speaker 4: go in there, not guests or boyfriends or whatnot. But
Speaker 4: they turned it into a movie room.
Speaker 9: Now it's like a cute little TV face courtyard all that.
Speaker 6: Dad, It's nice.
Speaker 12: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Also, what I'd like to talk about is wearing your letters.
Speaker 4: So when I was at and I know at least
Speaker 4: one other person in this panel, nobody wore their letters.
Speaker 4: Like it was very much not done. I had not
Speaker 4: one bit of capa merch. You just would not wear that.
Speaker 4: You would not wear that on campus, You would not
Speaker 4: wear that at all. What about everybody else?
Speaker 11: A high school that was like the uniform like every
Speaker 11: soret you made merch that came out every three months probably,
Speaker 11: And there were sweatsuits and t shirts from different formals
Speaker 11: and events that we had all custom made. Everyone bought them,
Speaker 11: and that's.
Speaker 3: All you wore a class whoa yeah, same that was
Speaker 3: And it was like purses with like like book bags
Speaker 3: with like your letters on it, and you wore your sweaters.
Speaker 3: You had ten different type of sweaters like all the Yeah,
Speaker 3: and then we would make for every like philanthropy event
Speaker 3: or at any like date night or formal, we would
Speaker 3: make like a shirt and then we would give it
Speaker 3: to our dates and then they would wear, you know,
Speaker 3: like it was.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like a.
Speaker 4: Big memory of like south Sea shirts or something like that.
Speaker 6: But I think the guys made that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but w did you wear your letters?
Speaker 13: We didn't have any March like we maybe had a
Speaker 13: T shirt for Rush, but we didn't, not to the
Speaker 13: extent that it was.
Speaker 6: Yeah, what about.
Speaker 4: M, mom, M and lady H.
Speaker 10: I remember we had a really nice bid Day like
Speaker 10: each so already got a bid Day T shirt and
Speaker 10: you wore those on like the first day of classes
Speaker 10: or something like that. And ours was really good looking
Speaker 10: for back in the day. It looked like spearmint gum,
Speaker 10: kind of like that logo, but it was Bordeaux, not Maroon.
Speaker 8: I looked it up. It's Bordeaux. Excuse me.
Speaker 10: It was green and Bordeaux kind of Christmas vibes. But
Speaker 10: it looked really good, and so we that T shirt
Speaker 10: stamp stood out and then maybe a few more, but
Speaker 10: nothing like the kids these days, because yeah, well here
Speaker 10: has bags and bags and bags.
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's insane.
Speaker 11: Well, and when you get a big in your sorority,
Speaker 11: the three days leading up to it, they'll leave baskets
Speaker 11: at your door of all these custom water bottles with
Speaker 11: the letters and custom pens and damps and stuff like that.
Speaker 11: And then they also leave all their old T shirts
Speaker 11: that they don't want. So not only are you getting
Speaker 11: new T shirts all the time, you get these T
Speaker 11: shirts passed down from generations and that's literally all everybody
Speaker 11: wore along with every time there was a game day.
Speaker 8: Not to be confused with like your sorority pin that
Speaker 8: you get the special one.
Speaker 11: We would just have these circle pins made that you
Speaker 11: just close into your shirt and it would have your
Speaker 11: letters and that's my name days.
Speaker 8: And you give them to your mom to wear. Yeah,
Speaker 8: you give them.
Speaker 11: There's a parent's weekend one that you give to your parents.
Speaker 11: There's a siblings one that you give to your siblings.
Speaker 11: It's really interesting.
Speaker 4: One of our panelists which is holding up a sweatshirt
Speaker 4: with her KKG on there.
Speaker 7: I know, I think this was our last year of initiate,
Speaker 7: like as I was a senior our initiation sweatshirt.
Speaker 4: They and you are how old?
Speaker 8: H thirty five?
Speaker 4: Right, so this was a solid fifteen years ago.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's I mean the amount of stuff
Speaker 7: I had to get rid of like after because you
Speaker 7: just similar to others.
Speaker 4: It's just too much.
Speaker 12: It's overwhelming.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I've seen a lot of people like make blankets from
Speaker 7: all their stuff, which I think is really.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so to the people in college still and producer E.
Speaker 4: Did you all wear your letters?
Speaker 9: Yeah, some similar thing of like pass you pass it
Speaker 9: down to your little You have like new sweatsets that
Speaker 9: come out each semester. We have like the girls in
Speaker 9: the in the chapter that like design them for us,
Speaker 9: like we know that they're going to be cute. Like
Speaker 9: that was like the whole thing that like we always
Speaker 9: hear like people talk about was like that that used
Speaker 9: to not be cute, sorority merch, and like now it's
Speaker 9: like it's like normal, really cute.
Speaker 6: So that says that like you just always wear out nowadays.
Speaker 10: I think it's.
Speaker 4: Interesting because and w you can weigh in on this.
Speaker 4: I think we were in sororities at a school at
Speaker 4: the time when yes, it was cool, but also it
Speaker 4: was not cool. Do you know what I'm saying? Like
Speaker 4: it was cool, but also no, it.
Speaker 13: Wasn't that like it was not We always knew that
Speaker 13: we were not like the Salve, that's for sure, correct
Speaker 13: and I not. But even so, cow they weren't like
Speaker 13: they weren't wearing their letter. I mean, no one had merch.
Speaker 13: Like at UCLA all of our rival schools, we would
Speaker 13: be more like, oh, we're a great school. We would
Speaker 13: do our school letters and we'd go away games or
Speaker 13: they'd come to us.
Speaker 4: But I don't think walking onto campus during the nineties
Speaker 4: with your sorority stuff on, I feel like you would
Speaker 4: have got the stink eye or it just wasn't done.
Speaker 4: It was sort of like this is a part of
Speaker 4: being at college, but it's not a part of what
Speaker 4: you do on campus. Does that make sense.
Speaker 10: Yeah, Now it's in your face. It's much more in
Speaker 10: your face, and it makes me feel sad for the
Speaker 10: girls that didn't rush or didn't get a bit. I
Speaker 10: don't know, it feels like excluding la little bit, like
Speaker 10: when you see everybody's got their logo on all the time.
Speaker 13: Yeah, I'll have to say, in our day at our
Speaker 13: school with host a, we you could go, you could
Speaker 13: go to a party and legitimately not know who was
Speaker 13: in a sorority or not. I mean there's a lot
Speaker 13: of girls that we hung out with that I always
Speaker 13: thought they were kappas because they weren't in my sorority
Speaker 13: house and then come to find out they were never
Speaker 13: in a sorority.
Speaker 6: They just run our friend group.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I would say the majority I still were
Speaker 4: in the Greek system. Like, would you have dated a
Speaker 4: guy that wasn't in the Greek system? I did, but
Speaker 4: they weren't an athlete. Yeah, okay, I copy at that.
Speaker 4: If they weren't an athlete, I just don't that would
Speaker 4: have been I don't even know how I would know them.
Speaker 13: Well, the Greek system at our school made our little
Speaker 13: circle smaller because the school was so overwhelming. It was
Speaker 13: so big and you know urban.
Speaker 4: For the people on the panel, do you mostly do you?
Speaker 4: I just acted like we're all twenty years old, did you?
Speaker 4: Or do you mostly only date people in the Greek system?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 10: Mine was an athlete. Yeah, but he was the captain
Speaker 10: of the lacrosse team and that was like his fraternity,
Speaker 10: you know, like being That's what he always says, Like
Speaker 10: the team was kind of filled that for him. Plus
Speaker 10: we went to super small school with three fraternities, so
Speaker 10: that worked out for him for us.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I feel like the majority of people in authority
Speaker 11: would only go for fraternity guys. But then again, like
Speaker 11: I was saying earlier, just the southern thing to do
Speaker 11: is to go Greek.
Speaker 8: So I would say probably eighty percent of my school
Speaker 8: was in the Greek system.
Speaker 11: There were many houses and oh and that brings up
Speaker 11: another good point. Not only would you wear your letters
Speaker 11: if you ever shocked with a boy and he would
Speaker 11: give you a T shirt and then you would wear
Speaker 11: his letters, And that was like the biggest flux of
Speaker 11: all time.
Speaker 8: Everyone was jealous of you and they were like, I.
Speaker 4: Did get that bad, I'm getting that. I'm getting what
Speaker 4: you're putting down there, Like I would I get that?
Speaker 9: A and E?
Speaker 4: Do you did you do you mostly date within the
Speaker 4: Greek system or not at your schools?
Speaker 9: I didn't rush until my sophomore year, so like, I'm
Speaker 9: actually pretty the opposite where like I grew up athlete
Speaker 9: culture freshman year and like I wasn't even like technically
Speaker 9: allowed to get into like the frat parties because I
Speaker 9: wasn't in a sorority and I had had a bid
Speaker 9: to get in to the parties that the fraternities would
Speaker 9: give out to the sororities. So like, once I joined
Speaker 9: Greek life, I was like, I don't know anyone here.
Speaker 9: I just know my chapter and like that's it.
Speaker 5: I'm good with that.
Speaker 9: So but I would say, like, I think it's I
Speaker 9: think it kind of varies. Now I feel like I
Speaker 9: see a lot more Like there's a lot more athletes now,
Speaker 9: it's like more normal for athletes to be in Greek life.
Speaker 8: Now, I feel like I'm starting to see more of
Speaker 8: a mix.
Speaker 4: And producer. E.
Speaker 12: Yeah, I loved frat boys.
Speaker 6: I did love boys.
Speaker 12: I did.
Speaker 6: I like them a lot.
Speaker 4: I think my girls do. I think I still do.
Speaker 12: Yeah, I still do. I'm like, and what house each.
Speaker 4: Did you marry a fraternity boy or no?
Speaker 12: No, he was an athlete in college?
Speaker 4: Okay. See it seems very in that this is a
Speaker 4: recurring theme that if you weren't in the Greek system
Speaker 4: but you were an athlete, it's almost like a pass.
Speaker 4: None of us were like, no, I just met my
Speaker 4: husband or boyfriend in chemistry.
Speaker 6: Like it's I think.
Speaker 1: I think because fraternities in sports are communities, and it's
Speaker 1: kind of interesting when people are part of communities because
Speaker 1: it gives off other clues, like they're social, they have friends,
Speaker 1: they have passions, you know.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and athletes were always invited to our fraternity parties
Speaker 7: as well, like they could come.
Speaker 4: Totally and it was kind of like extra cool. Like
Speaker 4: I remember being at an SAE party and there was
Speaker 4: always a couple football players there and You're like, oh
Speaker 4: my gosh, so and So's here.
Speaker 13: Wow, well they it was easier for the athletes to
Speaker 13: be in fraternities in our day now, like they're just
Speaker 13: so focused on the sport they're not really allowed to
Speaker 13: be in fraternities. But yeah, so then though, you had
Speaker 13: your double threats. Yeah, the athletes and.
Speaker 4: Lady W Madam W. That is correct. If you were
Speaker 4: dating the guy that was in the fraternity and the athlete,
Speaker 4: I mean you were you were winning. That's what you
Speaker 4: call that's what you call a smoke.
Speaker 6: Yes, yeah, I mean you're.
Speaker 4: I'm getting in my mind a couple guys that then
Speaker 4: played professional football, and I'm just like like, I don't know,
Speaker 4: w if you're thinking of the same thing. But it's
Speaker 4: like there's a there was a couple guys that were
Speaker 4: fraternity guys cal football players that went into the NFL,
Speaker 4: and it's like, well that's the trifecta, Like you've just
Speaker 4: you've really won the lottery.
Speaker 6: I think with that, Yeah, well you could. I don't
Speaker 6: know I have.
Speaker 4: We had some Olympians too.
Speaker 13: A huh slash yeah, frat slash Olympian.
Speaker 12: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I tapped a lot of those. I married one and
Speaker 6: spent a lot of time with a lot of the others.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I had a lot of notches.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, those were the days. I'm trying to
Speaker 4: get those, get those back again. Okay, So I want
Speaker 4: to talk about something. Did everybody in this panel make
Speaker 4: it to the end? Did anyone have to deactivate?
Speaker 8: I dropped out?
Speaker 6: Oh god, I was dishonorably discharged. Wow.
Speaker 4: Okay, if you don't mind telling us your situations, it's anonymous.
Speaker 4: Why don't we begin with L and then we'll go
Speaker 4: to W.
Speaker 8: Okay, So, I mean mine was really not that big
Speaker 8: of a drama.
Speaker 11: Basically, what happened is the summer after my junior year,
Speaker 11: I was doing this internship that I absolutely loved, and
Speaker 11: I was coming up on senior year and they wanted
Speaker 11: me to come back and recruit, which meant that I
Speaker 11: would have had to go back to school two weeks early,
Speaker 11: move in early, all of that, and I would have
Speaker 11: had to stop my internship early because I wasn't blaming
Speaker 11: originally to go to recruitment.
Speaker 8: And I was like, oh, I'm gonna pass.
Speaker 11: I have this internship, but I didn't get it excused
Speaker 11: in time, which was like probably my bad. But anyways,
Speaker 11: they came back to me and they were like, if
Speaker 11: you don't come and recruit, we're gonna find you one
Speaker 11: thousand dollars.
Speaker 8: And I was like, a thousand dollars.
Speaker 11: I don't even feel like at first, being in Shorty
Speaker 11: is so much fun, it's so exciting, but I feel
Speaker 11: like as time goes on, you kind of phase out
Speaker 11: of like, at least for me, I kind of phased
Speaker 11: out of caring as much or wanting to be as
Speaker 11: involved as I was maybe sophomore year, you know. So
Speaker 11: I really thought about it and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 11: go recruit, which I didn't want to do. Pay a
Speaker 11: thousand dollars or drop out, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 11: gonna drop out and.
Speaker 4: This was your senior year. Did you drop out senior year?
Speaker 11: Yeah, this was right before my senior year started, So
Speaker 11: I just wasn't in it the last year of college,
Speaker 11: which ended up being fine because by then I was
Speaker 11: already established and how my friends and then I kind
Speaker 11: of just skipped out on chapter.
Speaker 4: Well, my question for you would be, do you consider
Speaker 4: yourself a FATA.
Speaker 11: See that's a tough question because in my mind, yes,
Speaker 11: because I went through initiation and I went through all
Speaker 11: the things, and I still have so many friends that
Speaker 11: were in it, and I absolutely did love it. But
Speaker 11: then on the other hand, I feel like it's maybe
Speaker 11: offensive to other people for me to call myself that
Speaker 11: because I kind of skipped out on the end.
Speaker 4: So I do technically, so we can explain to people
Speaker 4: listening technically to be considered and somebody keep me honest.
Speaker 4: A sorority alumna, I don't know how you say it.
Speaker 4: You have to make it the whole way. You can't
Speaker 4: you can't leave early or you lose your ability to
Speaker 4: be affiliated with the sorority. Does that Is that how
Speaker 4: everybody sort of feels?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 8: Correct, I think so too.
Speaker 11: So it's hard because having had that experience anytime someone's like,
Speaker 11: oh I was a theta, I'm like, oh I was too.
Speaker 8: And then I'm like, oh, could I say that?
Speaker 10: I don't know, And as Elle's mom, I was really
Speaker 10: nervous about her regretting it in the long run, and
Speaker 10: so I just said like we need to, you know,
Speaker 10: sort of do.
Speaker 8: Like highs and.
Speaker 10: Lows, like what's what's at stake here? And you were like,
Speaker 10: I'm not going to get to wear the cord at graduation.
Speaker 4: But you didn't think that's interesting.
Speaker 10: Yeah, you can record it graduation, which you didn't think
Speaker 10: it was a problem, and then there was maybe one
Speaker 10: other thing, but when you.
Speaker 8: Checked and balanced it out, like you were totally fine
Speaker 8: with your decision. Yeah, it doesn't seem like you regret it. No,
Speaker 8: I don't feel like I do. I really did enjoy
Speaker 8: it for the time that I did it. But then
Speaker 8: I was kind of like, well, I'm good.
Speaker 7: I was considering dropping out my senior year and the
Speaker 7: reason for financial reasons, and the reason I didn't was
Speaker 7: so that I could get the alumni status and have
Speaker 7: it for like networking possibilities for my career and things
Speaker 7: like that.
Speaker 5: So I did end up.
Speaker 7: I'm like, you kind of Like by senior year, I
Speaker 7: was a bit checked out of it, and it was like,
Speaker 7: I have a different life that's not centered around the Southrity.
Speaker 7: But because I wanted like those networking opportunities and things
Speaker 7: like that, I stuck it out till the end to
Speaker 7: be considered a a cap cap gamma.
Speaker 4: So I get that, what w what happened to you?
Speaker 5: You do?
Speaker 13: I guess I didn't admit it and actively like try
Speaker 13: to remove myself from the house. A bunch of us
Speaker 13: moved onto North Side senior year, like eight of us,
Speaker 13: and we would go to Monday night meetings, but we
Speaker 13: would get fined or I guess, I don't know. I
Speaker 13: think I didn't learn that. I was like, what do
Speaker 13: you call it? It's not like bad standing? Yeah, I
Speaker 13: called it live in them with bad standing. So I
Speaker 13: was able to join the alumni network, but I didn't
Speaker 13: actively leave. And then I have like thirty five hundred
Speaker 13: dollars worth of unpaid bills apparently that my dad.
Speaker 6: Didn't pay and I didn't.
Speaker 13: Yeah, I didn't learn of this until I went because
Speaker 13: you had to go online to write a letter of
Speaker 13: wreck huh for a couple of kids in our neighborhood girls.
Speaker 13: They were older than my girls and I didn't so
Speaker 13: I didn't learn of this until this is well before
Speaker 13: my girls were going to school, so I was a
Speaker 13: little nervous they wouldn't get into PIEVI. But I went
Speaker 13: to go online and they said, oh, we can't accept
Speaker 13: your whatever sorority number. Your name shows up as unpaid
Speaker 13: bills from nineteen ninety four. So like they knew my chapter,
Speaker 13: they knew my style. And this was like, you know
Speaker 13: that whatever chapter wherever? Where's headquarters for pipevis at Illinois?
Speaker 13: I can't remember, Yeah, but someone was keeping track on paper.
Speaker 13: So thirty five hundred dollars of bills my dad did
Speaker 13: not pay senior year because we moved out because he
Speaker 13: didn't think he needed to pay the bills.
Speaker 6: So wow, it's more of like it.
Speaker 4: Can you technically not so you cannot write recommendation letter.
Speaker 13: No, So that is a bad thing about being not
Speaker 13: being in good standing alumnus.
Speaker 11: I don't think that I could write it one. No,
Speaker 11: I think there's no way.
Speaker 4: I think the tough thing at our school was at
Speaker 4: the time, and it's different now. If you moved out,
Speaker 4: if you did not want to live in the house
Speaker 4: senior year, you had to deactivate because at the time
Speaker 4: you're required to live in the house. That is not
Speaker 4: the case other places. For me, I agree with h
Speaker 4: that there was something to being able to have it
Speaker 4: into eternity, you know, rather than not have it. So
Speaker 4: the others, e you made it the whole way.
Speaker 12: I made it. Yeah, we're good, paid, you're good. On
Speaker 12: the rec.
Speaker 6: Side, You're welcome.
Speaker 4: Two mother daughters here.
Speaker 6: Thanks daughters.
Speaker 4: Okay, let's do a speed round and I'm just gonna
Speaker 4: go through some of the young young things and have
Speaker 4: the young people tell us. We want to do some
Speaker 4: college lingo. So this is not sorority lingo, but this
Speaker 4: is just general college lingo. And i'd like the young
Speaker 4: ones too. In just a few words, explain what these are.
Speaker 12: Uh Riz parisma, sus, suspicialist.
Speaker 4: Sneaky link. This is a good one.
Speaker 12: I just learned your secret hookup.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 4: But tell me more about this. So a sneaky link
Speaker 4: is a fraternity boy.
Speaker 9: It can be anyone can be some guy that like
Speaker 9: you're gonna go have like a late night hookup with that,
Speaker 9: like you shouldn't that. You guys are like not saying
Speaker 9: anything about because he's not like, boyfriend, do you.
Speaker 4: Like makeout or whatever?
Speaker 12: No strengths attached, No strengths attached, Like that's the sneaky link.
Speaker 4: And do your sorority sisters know about your sneaky.
Speaker 9: Your friends know about your sneaky link, but like you
Speaker 9: don't want like outside people knowing about your sneaky link.
Speaker 12: Attached to sneaky link. Everyone I know would.
Speaker 14: Always have the thought of, like if something bad happened
Speaker 14: to their sneaky link, because you had like secret emotional
Speaker 14: connection to them, but no one else knew about it.
Speaker 12: So like I would always think, like.
Speaker 4: If your sneaky link died, you couldn't go to the funeral. Yeah, speak,
Speaker 4: you just have to be the woman in black with some.
Speaker 13: Yeah yeah, I mean We've got a term for that
Speaker 13: in our generation.
Speaker 6: I'll tell you when we get to our generation.
Speaker 4: Yeah I need to know. Okay, so remember situationship. Everybody
Speaker 4: knows I'm skipping that one. Crash out.
Speaker 8: Crash out is exactly how it says it. It's just
Speaker 8: like you're crashing out of something. You're just like, what's
Speaker 8: going on?
Speaker 4: When you and I were in the car the other day,
Speaker 4: did I crash out? When that woman.
Speaker 11: I would consider that a crash I would too, but
Speaker 11: it was like pretty valid crash out.
Speaker 4: I would say lower lower? What is Laura? I hear
Speaker 4: you guys say this all the.
Speaker 12: Time, like your secret backstory.
Speaker 9: Like that's like like you're like, whoa, I didn't know
Speaker 9: that about you.
Speaker 6: That's lore.
Speaker 5: That's a good one.
Speaker 4: Is this one? Bet? Bet?
Speaker 6: Bet?
Speaker 9: It's like saying okay, like like you could be like,
Speaker 9: let's hang out at five okay, bet?
Speaker 4: Oh so it's like you bet, yeah kind of so
Speaker 4: you guys are so busy that you had to shorten it.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 4: The Lulu, we all know what is?
Speaker 5: She ate?
Speaker 12: She ate?
Speaker 6: Like she this is my favorite from this generation. I love.
Speaker 6: I wish I would say.
Speaker 12: So, like, so good, that girl's a queen.
Speaker 11: She ate and lest no crumbs exactly see something.
Speaker 12: I feel like killed that and I.
Speaker 4: Feel like the other day. I ate and then I
Speaker 4: then I pooped the bucket like I ate, and then
Speaker 4: I yeah I did. I was doing so good. I ate,
Speaker 4: and then it was like I don't know what happened. Okay,
Speaker 4: what is low KEI versus high key?
Speaker 5: Another giddy?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 2: How do I explain that low keys? Like you say
Speaker 2: It's like.
Speaker 9: You could say, like, I'm kind of upset low key,
Speaker 9: and it's like, I'm not that upset, like semi like
Speaker 9: I'm semi upset, like I'm I'm low key upset right now.
Speaker 9: And then if it's like high key, it's like you
Speaker 9: high pretty upset, I'm up, I'm livid.
Speaker 4: Are you crashing out? If you're high.
Speaker 9: Key almost yes, you're you're pretty much there.
Speaker 4: It's the same thing when they say esthetic. Oh yeah,
Speaker 4: like it's so esthetic. That's not correct. They said, what's
Speaker 4: what aesthetic means? It has asthetic look, it's esthetically pleasing,
Speaker 4: but they use it completely wrong. So they'll just come
Speaker 4: into a room and say, it's so aesthetic. What whatever? POV.
Speaker 4: Let's talk about POV point of view, but what is that?
Speaker 4: But how would you use this?
Speaker 14: It's kind of like, listen to my story, I'm setting
Speaker 14: the scene point of view, POV.
Speaker 12: This is where we are.
Speaker 6: Wow?
Speaker 12: Does that make sense?
Speaker 9: You know someone will post and be like POV, I
Speaker 9: just fell on the ground and got her in front
Speaker 9: of everyone, and like they'll post a photo of it.
Speaker 6: It's like POV this.
Speaker 4: I will skip to the old generation now and we
Speaker 4: will look, we will bring this back. We will bring
Speaker 4: back lingo bingo in a few weeks. But I will
Speaker 4: rattle off the old generation language, which is terrifying that
Speaker 4: we're the old generation because there is another We got
Speaker 4: to get the grammas on. But I would like the
Speaker 4: old people to comment m W and me, and also
Speaker 4: the young ones to say, if they would ever use
Speaker 4: these things, that's tight.
Speaker 10: That reminds me of what they say. Now, that's lit.
Speaker 10: I think that's the new that's tight.
Speaker 6: That's not the definition of that's tight.
Speaker 4: Well, how would you say that's tight?
Speaker 12: And that's W's favorite word.
Speaker 4: Talk to me.
Speaker 15: W W would use it if I if you get
Speaker 15: pushed down a flight of stairs, you look at the
Speaker 15: person who did the pushing, you say, that's tight.
Speaker 8: That's true, mean kind of col's not cool.
Speaker 6: So that is true, low key, not good.
Speaker 4: Amazingly accurate. Obviously, we all use rad.
Speaker 2: You are the queen of rad Oh.
Speaker 4: I'll put it in a text back rad Oh.
Speaker 7: My husband quotes you all the time and he's like.
Speaker 8: In the in the words of a lady, g D lady.
Speaker 13: I think we use rad sarcastically now when we're like, oh,
Speaker 13: that is if someone does something stupid.
Speaker 6: We're like that was rad.
Speaker 4: Sometimes it slips out for me, it's just like cool
Speaker 4: rad Uh. Duh is one of my favorite ones that
Speaker 4: I think spans all generations. Do we agree?
Speaker 8: Yes?
Speaker 4: Yes, duh is just so great for sure?
Speaker 12: Oh wait, gen Z twist on it ready for this? Yeah, Laida?
Speaker 8: Oh it's French?
Speaker 4: How can you please use that in a sentence.
Speaker 14: Like and it comes with like the full body when
Speaker 14: you're when it's the way that you would say duh.
Speaker 12: Me and my friends go Lada, Okay, that might work.
Speaker 8: That's really good.
Speaker 4: Lame, which I think.
Speaker 6: That's the best. Yeah, it's the best word because it's
Speaker 6: it's very meh. It's like, yeah, it's lame.
Speaker 4: Stop being so lame, Like why wouldn't you text me back?
Speaker 4: It's so lame, Like, I don't I'm not even doing
Speaker 4: anything weird, Just text me back.
Speaker 6: Girls can be lame.
Speaker 13: Rooms are lame, Situations are lame.
Speaker 6: It's lame.
Speaker 4: Show is lame?
Speaker 6: Easy again? Another low key?
Speaker 4: Dinner is so lame.
Speaker 13: Yeah, dinner is always was. Monday night meals were always lame.
Speaker 4: Now the girls put sleep together on here is that
Speaker 4: something that only old people say?
Speaker 12: It feels weird? To say sleep together.
Speaker 6: We didn't say that, Amy.
Speaker 4: I'm not saying I said it, but I certainly did
Speaker 4: not say what the crass ladies of today say. I
Speaker 4: definitely did not. We would say did you do it?
Speaker 7: Well?
Speaker 6: You know what? Yeah, you are right.
Speaker 13: We didn't even say anything remotely like that. If you
Speaker 13: hooked up with someone or scam was another word that
Speaker 13: we used. It was always kissing and if there was,
Speaker 13: if there was sex, no one talked about it.
Speaker 4: That is accurate, Madam w. That is so accurate. There's
Speaker 4: so much less talking about it. Yep, and not. I'm
Speaker 4: not even saying it was shameful or not. It just
Speaker 4: was not talked about. The thing that's very confusing is
Speaker 4: when we say hooked up, you definitely were not talking
Speaker 4: about doing it.
Speaker 12: Yeah.
Speaker 6: It was just always just kissing.
Speaker 4: Maybe laying down, maybe laying down kissing, laying down kissing.
Speaker 6: Like it was getting together, hooking up, scamming.
Speaker 13: We're all about like the you could do that on
Speaker 13: the bus on the way to the.
Speaker 4: Total mixer scamming. Get together that was People would ask
Speaker 4: like did you get together?
Speaker 8: Did you hook up?
Speaker 4: But not sex, just did you make out?
Speaker 6: Yeah? But I don't think we ever young asked.
Speaker 7: By the time, were millennials hookup definitely meant sex?
Speaker 6: Yeah, it did not mean sex in our day.
Speaker 8: Now I feel like it means everything.
Speaker 11: And it's pretty mis because some people will be like, well,
Speaker 11: we hooked up, but they just meet in that day kiss,
Speaker 11: or some people.
Speaker 8: Will say, oh, we hooked up, and it'll mean sex,
Speaker 8: and but it's just kind of mysterious. It's like, oh,
Speaker 8: we hooked up. The lines are blurred.
Speaker 11: But also sometimes it's funny hearing the order generation you
Speaker 11: hook up in the sense of like getting together with friends.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, no, no, we do that all the time.
Speaker 4: I'd be like, do you want to hook up later?
Speaker 13: Yeah? That was My kids were so like over me
Speaker 13: asking them, And you can hook up with your friends
Speaker 13: after school, like surely not.
Speaker 12: I think what people are not just so strong.
Speaker 9: What people are more confused about now is when parents
Speaker 9: say like, oh, you're dating, and it's like, no, we're
Speaker 9: not dating. Like but then they'll be like, wait, you
Speaker 9: guys are going on dates, so that means that you're dating.
Speaker 9: That doesn't mean that you're dating though.
Speaker 2: Confusing.
Speaker 8: Yeah, the whole talking and dating dating.
Speaker 9: Has to be boyfriend, girlfriend, like you have the blamed
Speaker 9: labeled boyfriend girlfriend to be considered dating. If you're going
Speaker 9: on dates though, and there's no label, you guys are
Speaker 9: just talking and then that means you're just in a situationship.
Speaker 9: And that's where the situationship comes into play.
Speaker 4: So you can be going on dates with someone you're
Speaker 4: just talking to. Yes, makes no sense, just letting you know,
Speaker 4: no sense? And what is seeing each other? That's what
Speaker 4: I hear old people saying. Now we're seeing each other
Speaker 4: and I want to be like, please shut up.
Speaker 9: I feel like seeing each other as just you're talking
Speaker 9: to them like I'm talking to blah blah blah.
Speaker 12: But we don't even say that.
Speaker 4: It feels so old to me.
Speaker 12: It's like we don't say that. We don't say seeing
Speaker 12: each other.
Speaker 4: Do you say going steady?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 6: One says that that's from the fifties?
Speaker 4: Correct, that's what I'm saying that that is. I don't
Speaker 4: even correct, Thank you, m. I think going steady is
Speaker 4: in the fifties happy days era. Yeah, or that's the
Speaker 4: one above us. Now what about this one, which is
Speaker 4: a classic classic sorority term. We used rager. It was
Speaker 4: a rager that was.
Speaker 6: The only way to describe a party. Yes, are we
Speaker 6: gonna rage? Do you a rage? Let's rage?
Speaker 12: It sounds so cheesy.
Speaker 8: We we still use that.
Speaker 11: And to take it a step further, if it was
Speaker 11: a day party rather than a night party, it.
Speaker 4: Was a danger.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 4: We were very clever with that kid. We never used danger,
Speaker 4: but I wish we did.
Speaker 8: I love danger. The whole debate was danger or darty.
Speaker 8: I like dager.
Speaker 4: What's a darty? Same thing a day party? I like
Speaker 4: dayger though. That's a well.
Speaker 8: It's a good it's a good one.
Speaker 9: Wow.
Speaker 4: We are gonna need to bring this back in another
Speaker 4: month or so because I feel like we are going
Speaker 4: to have a lot more lingo bingo. And that is
Speaker 4: another episode of Dirty Rush The Truth about Sorority Life.