Speaker 1: Talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 1: who talks back. I'm so tired of being out. I'm
Speaker 1: so tired. Won't you help me kirt just this so
Speaker 1: that your kid. Sorry, y'all listen, Thank you for tuning
Speaker 1: in for a new episode that we talked back and
Speaker 1: show dedicated to you niggas and these holes. A. It's
Speaker 1: your co host A J. Holiday. Hey, y'all, I love
Speaker 1: y'all once again. This week gets me tambion. I'm tired
Speaker 1: as fuck, y'all tired, but I still love y'all and
Speaker 1: I'm here for y'all every week. So thank you for coming, coming,
Speaker 1: coming to Lie, coming to damn Lie. That's what I
Speaker 1: do best. Okay, Hey girl, what's up? Y? I'm trying
Speaker 1: to get my damn energy up to and I'm papa
Speaker 1: little corner of an addie and they ain't working either.
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck is happening. I have
Speaker 1: rice today. That might be what it is that rice
Speaker 1: to be swelling your ass up. It's almost like grits.
Speaker 1: I need a nap, I need I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's because mercury is in retrograde I
Speaker 1: don't even really know what that means, but I'm blaming
Speaker 1: everything in my life on that right now. I believe
Speaker 1: so tired, I believing that. I think it's because I
Speaker 1: just I really be like go go go, go, go
Speaker 1: spe raised or go like all day every day, like
Speaker 1: just going, going going. I went to Florida this past
Speaker 1: weekend to work a wedding, and then I came back
Speaker 1: and then was I guess it was a time difference
Speaker 1: to maybe that's why I'm so tired? What part of
Speaker 1: who do you want to the West Side? I wasn't destined? Destined,
Speaker 1: Oh they might be an hour behind right down Mountaintown.
Speaker 1: They are so And then you know, it was working
Speaker 1: in things can be people crazy that time line. That's
Speaker 1: if you cross the ocean, you have jet lag, not
Speaker 1: just like a little small time difference like that girl
Speaker 1: mercury and retrograde. And I was in a different time zone,
Speaker 1: sucking retarded and I'm tired, and we'll how was the
Speaker 1: wedding you did? It was beautiful as a beach wedding.
Speaker 1: It was very lovely. They looked to be in so
Speaker 1: in love and happy. So I'm happy for them. And
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm doing hair for a wedding can
Speaker 1: be hectic sometimes because brides just be all over the
Speaker 1: place and their bridesmaids, and if it's not really organized,
Speaker 1: it can be a real stressful experience. But this wasn't
Speaker 1: too bad, so I was grateful for that. I didn't
Speaker 1: get to hang out like I wanted to, just because
Speaker 1: you know, I was there as the help. I wasn't.
Speaker 1: Really there's to just go lay on the beach all day.
Speaker 1: So did you get somebody it in? Though I did
Speaker 1: not get that I was invited to the wedding. But
Speaker 1: I typically when I do brides, I stay with them
Speaker 1: to the moment they walk out. So when they go
Speaker 1: walk out, that's when I go get dressed. So I
Speaker 1: usually just go to the reception. I don't you typically
Speaker 1: make it to the way. Yeah that sounds about right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I end up like I've never been in a wedding,
Speaker 1: done a wedding where I didn't end up like a
Speaker 1: kind of honorary bridesmaid, not in a dress. But I'm
Speaker 1: doing ship that is not hair related, like I'm helping pinship.
Speaker 1: I'm helping like I don't know. I always end up
Speaker 1: doing that for some reason. So I was putting bitches
Speaker 1: guard belts on on her thigh, like you know, all
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff, you know, just that seems like a
Speaker 1: scary job with black women on their wedding day and
Speaker 1: their hair. Yeah, everybody, it is, it is. It can
Speaker 1: be stressful, but I have thank God, I've never had
Speaker 1: a bride that was not satisfied with what I did
Speaker 1: for them. So we jumped. Who's gonna get jumped? All
Speaker 1: the bites in their bridesmaids and a and the and
Speaker 1: that this part was. I was the only scheduled I
Speaker 1: was only hired to do curls, curl her hair and
Speaker 1: stalid on the day of the wedding, but her hair
Speaker 1: did not come in time for her hair appointment, so
Speaker 1: I ended up having to do a whole soul in
Speaker 1: the night before the wedding. God damn, I know what
Speaker 1: if you would have planned to come the same day
Speaker 1: or something early and it would have been up we
Speaker 1: would have been up dust thirty in the morning. Thing
Speaker 1: in training Aamn shame. He got to be more carefully.
Speaker 1: He's Goddamn hair companies. You gotta realize. I hate to
Speaker 1: talk to you about black people, but even they boutiques
Speaker 1: and ship. You got a seven day processing and then
Speaker 1: they finally ship your ship out. That's how they time
Speaker 1: from trying them exactly. That's why you know, I do
Speaker 1: want to support people, clothing companies and boot boutiques the ship,
Speaker 1: but you know i'd be on Ali expressing Ali baba too.
Speaker 1: I know how much you pay for that thing, and
Speaker 1: I just don't feel right give you all my fucking
Speaker 1: money when I know I can go straight to the
Speaker 1: source and get that ship for twenty dollars and I
Speaker 1: can get them into all colors, all lengths or whatever
Speaker 1: it is that I'm ordering. So I do want to
Speaker 1: support small businesses, but I do not want to feel
Speaker 1: like I'm getting finessed. So this past weekend I went
Speaker 1: to this comedic store in Charleston, and you know, to
Speaker 1: get like to see how much the sea moss was
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. This nigg is selling like four
Speaker 1: ounces of c moss for like or some ship like that,
Speaker 1: Like I could buy a whole pound. So now in
Speaker 1: my mind, like, yes, I want to support small business,
Speaker 1: but like if this nigger had four ounces a weed
Speaker 1: and charging meters astronomical amount of money for it, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't buy it. You know what I'm say, ain't so
Speaker 1: it's the same thing. So I don't want to feel
Speaker 1: like I'm being finessed. Even if you are, you don't
Speaker 1: want to feel like it. You know, I don't want
Speaker 1: to know that I mean finesse shame. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: do much other than that. This weekend chilled out. My
Speaker 1: car is in the body shop, so bitch. I've been
Speaker 1: riding my bike to the gym every day, so I
Speaker 1: have been doing that. You was out here like Bamby.
Speaker 1: Remember that episode of Love and Hip Hop with Ben
Speaker 1: we rolle her bike the scrape House. I see that ship.
Speaker 1: But how bad you gotta be? You was out there.
Speaker 1: You was out here like Jody on the bit all
Speaker 1: we here. I love riding bike, y'all. Okay, I'm a
Speaker 1: certified spinsh structor. Bitch, I'm getting on a bike if
Speaker 1: I don't do nothing else. I ride my bike a lot.
Speaker 1: I like. I like wearing my bike too. Yeah, that
Speaker 1: was something that I didn't pick up until pandemic, though honestly,
Speaker 1: I was not riding bikes before. No, I'm a grown
Speaker 1: naswarman dog. I went outside with no bike. I got
Speaker 1: a bike just because it wasn't shipped else to do.
Speaker 1: During the pandemics, I went about a bike and I
Speaker 1: almost got Let me tell you, Let me just tell
Speaker 1: you this story, but let me tell your story. Me
Speaker 1: and the nigga who bought the bike. He lived out
Speaker 1: in the country, right, So we was riding our bikey,
Speaker 1: this is the first day I got on this bike.
Speaker 1: We're riding through eastover South Carolina, which is the country, y'all.
Speaker 1: And bitch, we ride past some trailers and three pit
Speaker 1: bulls come running full speed to and I had on
Speaker 1: red leggings, right, bright red leggings. I knew they've seen
Speaker 1: that big chunk of ass, but I'm gonna bite this
Speaker 1: bit and I'm talking about that. Came running towards me
Speaker 1: full speed. Bitch. I paddled for my life, get me,
Speaker 1: get me, he said. He slowed down, he said, just
Speaker 1: keep paddling, baby, and he pulled his puss out and
Speaker 1: shot them dogs and killed them dogs right there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he sure did kill them dogs where they really coming.
Speaker 1: They were coming viciously coming towards me. I was scared
Speaker 1: for my life for real. And he shot him and
Speaker 1: then we stopped killed three dogs dead, and then well
Speaker 1: that's what happened, and let me tell you. Then we
Speaker 1: rolled down the street a little bit and we stopped
Speaker 1: and call the police. We called the police, and we
Speaker 1: wait for the police to come. And then he went
Speaker 1: back with the police to the trailer and knocked on
Speaker 1: the owner's door and told him what happened. And the
Speaker 1: owner was like, you know, people don't typically come around
Speaker 1: this part. You know, nobody is ever over here. And
Speaker 1: those dogs are trained to his hat, you know, they see.
Speaker 1: So he went out in the woods and found him.
Speaker 1: They was all dead in the woods. Damn, that's fucked up.
Speaker 1: How fucked up. I was minding my damn business. They
Speaker 1: was about to eat my ass up. That nigga saved me.
Speaker 1: I was like, put your out, He saved my life.
Speaker 1: Just a love to be rescued. Say what we got
Speaker 1: going on in stupid internet news today, chack girl, A
Speaker 1: lot of stupid ship period, period, period girl. I do
Speaker 1: not want to hear that sound in my fucking air.
Speaker 1: I feel like that bit is doing a magic spell
Speaker 1: on y'all niggas. Why the fun can a white woman
Speaker 1: blow up acting black? But if it was a black
Speaker 1: woman doing the same ship, Oh, she gets like that
Speaker 1: we're gonna say the same ship. She get on this
Speaker 1: a nap, but you are shelling sharing the hell out
Speaker 1: of that bullshit. It's she gonna work around get a
Speaker 1: million dollars off y'all, exactly every time, every time, every
Speaker 1: time she ran out. She can't even sing a song
Speaker 1: because she ran out of breath for the last party.
Speaker 1: But a video saying it while she was in the mirror,
Speaker 1: like Chloe did a video like I don't want to
Speaker 1: hear that ship. Don't say that ship to me because
Speaker 1: it's just retardation. At this point, what the fun is that?
Speaker 1: Did you see that other video she had like a
Speaker 1: wig that looked like George Washington or something. No, I
Speaker 1: did not. I'm still yo, why do we constantly let
Speaker 1: these get these people shine? I'm just confused, man. We
Speaker 1: just need to start doing some worright. We need to
Speaker 1: start filming and just start doing some really ignorant ship
Speaker 1: so we can just blow all the way. I don't
Speaker 1: want to blow. I have integrity. I don't want to
Speaker 1: blow up in that way. I don't. I'll do it.
Speaker 1: I'll do it for us. I have integrity. But I
Speaker 1: wanted the bag period of period, all money ain't good money.
Speaker 1: I'm cool, cool, Well I'm gonna spend it and see
Speaker 1: which when I get after I spend. Do you think
Speaker 1: shouting do your thing? I can't do it. I'm a
Speaker 1: real nigga. Okay, you ain't gonna never catch me doing
Speaker 1: no stupid ass ship for the check ever. Ever, let's
Speaker 1: just depend on how stupid is how stupid is it?
Speaker 1: You know? Is it gonna set our raised back? I
Speaker 1: don't want to do that, but if you don't, if
Speaker 1: it's just all funny games, I can. I can do it. Girl.
Speaker 1: You see how Tory Lanes asked done uh sucker punch
Speaker 1: August Susina or he says he got sucker punch punch.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but well that picture, if y'all saw
Speaker 1: that picture, he looked like he got more to sucker
Speaker 1: point that nigga looked dizzy as that picture of him.
Speaker 1: Why would he post that picture? I do not know.
Speaker 1: It is beyond me why he would post that picture
Speaker 1: because I guess he's about to soothe and right, you
Speaker 1: want to make sure everybody sees all the evidence of
Speaker 1: what happened. Tory Lanes. You got pen and charges already
Speaker 1: for shooting Mega stallion and your ass think this ship
Speaker 1: is cute. I'm sure he has the syndrome. Why are
Speaker 1: you beating somebody up because they say, hey, do you
Speaker 1: that's what it sounds like. That's what it sounds like.
Speaker 1: What shot low was mad about? What I remember? I
Speaker 1: remember because he shot him out. I remember that mention.
Speaker 1: My city didn't save my name. Oh shame, short man
Speaker 1: syndrome Another thing. M y'all niggas got something to prove.
Speaker 1: I like short men, though they'd be mean. Though. I'll
Speaker 1: tell you that short men do be mean. Tarm man
Speaker 1: be mean too. You think so it's the medium height
Speaker 1: ones that know how to act. I don't know. B
Speaker 1: sixth one right, six one is medium height. That's like
Speaker 1: I felt like five ten to six one to six
Speaker 1: ft to six ft six one is tall? You think so?
Speaker 1: I like six one now? M that's tall? Yeah know
Speaker 1: my thing. I like short men now, but sixth one
Speaker 1: is the max, and I think sixth one is like good.
Speaker 1: Anything taller than that is usually dumb. Yeah, anything taller
Speaker 1: than that. I'm at dick height and he feels like
Speaker 1: I suck his dick all the time. And short equals mean.
Speaker 1: The niggas just disgruntled. Hi niggas, it's fucking mad Tory
Speaker 1: Lanes as a guy there, woman and man beat it's
Speaker 1: something wrong with him. It is something wrong with him, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't think he got it all because there's no
Speaker 1: way like you in court essentially to me fighting for
Speaker 1: your life and you around here as salt and people.
Speaker 1: You hit him first, he even hits you back, even
Speaker 1: get the opportunity to. So you assaulted him. He got
Speaker 1: bruises on his arm legs. Evidently you might have knocked
Speaker 1: him out. Did you at least pitched the bitch shape? Look?
Speaker 1: Did you see blue face Done done sucked out Christian
Speaker 1: rock Daddy? And I saw the video and I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is this is they're doing a TV show And
Speaker 1: then it later came out that they're doing a show
Speaker 1: for zeus. So do you think his fate his daddy
Speaker 1: through the first place? It was around him when it happened.
Speaker 1: Did you see the video? They were like real professional
Speaker 1: cameras around him. So it may not have been fake
Speaker 1: because you know this is reality TV that they're doing,
Speaker 1: but they did it maybe like that that TV ship
Speaker 1: put the battery in your back. So even if the
Speaker 1: dad the dad did rock his ass first. Now he
Speaker 1: did do that. He did connect because I thought he
Speaker 1: just swam out. He connected. Yeah, he definitely connect because
Speaker 1: but he's not the Mario coins and the cigarettes out
Speaker 1: his daddy ass always. I seen, I literally seen coys
Speaker 1: and cigarettes all over the ground. So ghetto man, y'all
Speaker 1: beating each other family members up. Remember she beat his
Speaker 1: mom up? Right, y'all just need to letting them people
Speaker 1: go on with their life because they don't want you
Speaker 1: all help and they don't want you all to be
Speaker 1: a part of it, clearly, And I need people to
Speaker 1: stop comparing them to Bobby and Whitney. Okay, never know
Speaker 1: how how is that Bobby and Whitney? That is you?
Speaker 1: That's why stop playing with Whitney. Okay, stop, just stop it.
Speaker 1: I don't even like when people talk about Whitney Houston. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because nobody was beating to Houston ass outside, So you're right,
Speaker 1: there's anything. She probably was jumping on Bobby Brown ass. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Why uh? I posted about this a couple of times.
Speaker 1: Why are white people upset that Coy Bailey is playing
Speaker 1: the litteral mermaid, a mythological creature? For one white people
Speaker 1: are upset because they are feeling their supremacy slip away
Speaker 1: from them, and it's hard to be the supreme to
Speaker 1: leave your the supreme being and then the snatch from you.
Speaker 1: Do you really think they feel like something's being taken
Speaker 1: from them because the character Disney characters are being changed
Speaker 1: to black or you know how they had seventy years
Speaker 1: of all white characters and now one character is black
Speaker 1: and they're like, but seems like they're they're less upset
Speaker 1: when they change the characters to homosexuals. You could be gay,
Speaker 1: but do not change change these characters. That's because because
Speaker 1: white people are also gay, but they could never be black.
Speaker 1: Do you understand what I'm saying? Okay, so the representation
Speaker 1: for them you can have, But I wonder if the
Speaker 1: character was black gay character where they be mad, just
Speaker 1: mad at the black Partri can eat all the pussy
Speaker 1: she want, but she cannot be black while she does it. Yo,
Speaker 1: let me not talk about the content. Character and Gucci stupid,
Speaker 1: So I don't see what the problem is. Like, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's be clear, y'all changed Jesus Christ to a whole
Speaker 1: white man for our whole lives and like before our lives,
Speaker 1: Like what the funk a y'all really mad about the
Speaker 1: Little Mermaid being black when mermaids are black, let's talk
Speaker 1: about that. Wasn't time Cruise the last Samurai, the last Samurai.
Speaker 1: I ain't got time yo, if y'all don't get the
Speaker 1: funk over it. And I saw I saw some really
Speaker 1: mean posts and how they're making the character look means,
Speaker 1: motherfucker's real nasty. They had her out here looking like
Speaker 1: Cynthia Doll with a mermaid tail with a box of Newports,
Speaker 1: like they're just so hateful, so nasty. And you know
Speaker 1: when you think about uh deities like give me y'all,
Speaker 1: and um, there's a couple of them that were these
Speaker 1: water beings, black people, the normal tribe. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, that dog on tribe talk about mermaids and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. That doesn't come from your culture, even
Speaker 1: if you know they try to tie um, the Little
Speaker 1: Mermaid back to Ireland and stuff like that. Check out
Speaker 1: the Irish people were because they weren't white. They weren't
Speaker 1: white people, and we just talked about skin tone. At
Speaker 1: some point, skin tone didn't even matter because everybody was
Speaker 1: black at one point, yes, or just different shades of black,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just care. Well when I come back a couple of times,
Speaker 1: I feel like, well, the society will be in a
Speaker 1: place where they'll be looking at their history holograms because
Speaker 1: it won't be books no more, to be like a
Speaker 1: hologram or something like that, and they'll be like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, can you believe that humans were? Are you
Speaker 1: going about their skin color? That is so ghetto? Ghetto.
Speaker 1: I think it's something that seems primitive to you, you know,
Speaker 1: something that like what's going on learning how to make fire?
Speaker 1: You know, like we made fire? I think I hope,
Speaker 1: I hope that's how they look at racism. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's a sasst fair shot. We just gotta have something
Speaker 1: to fight about, you know. I feel like people just
Speaker 1: gotta have something to be mad about. That's the duke
Speaker 1: all always be like what y'all fake care about the day?
Speaker 1: That is just the truth. My fucking's don't be really
Speaker 1: this upset about stuff? How does it affect your life?
Speaker 1: That's how I start to look at things. This does
Speaker 1: this really affect my existence? Because if it doesn't, why
Speaker 1: am I giving it? So much energy, like even the
Speaker 1: white people not liking uh them a little mur may
Speaker 1: being a black woman now, like I don't give a
Speaker 1: funk like that don't affect my day to day life.
Speaker 1: Y'all could just be fucking mad. And I hope you know,
Speaker 1: I hope y'all can't even work today because you're just
Speaker 1: so upset The Mermaid is black and I can't wait
Speaker 1: me too. I'm going I'm gonna go a couple of
Speaker 1: times the original Little Mermaid tapes just for all the
Speaker 1: tickets y'all don't buy, I'm gonna buike extra, so don't
Speaker 1: worry about it. That's what I'm not about to do
Speaker 1: because regardless of what, even if it's black faces, because
Speaker 1: there's the other part of that, y'all make Little Mermaid
Speaker 1: black because y'all know black people will show up, so
Speaker 1: that's them also getting that black dollar, okay, because this
Speaker 1: is not a black production, regardless of what. Though there's
Speaker 1: black characters, there's not a it's not a black production.
Speaker 1: So just like with anything else, this is just money making. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's all it is. Yep, And we gonna help. We're
Speaker 1: gonna come out just like we came out for a Conda.
Speaker 1: We're gonna act stupid. We're gonna pull up in droves.
Speaker 1: We're probably gonna be dressed like the Little Mermaid cotton
Speaker 1: up to Yeah, I'm gonna come in the Mermaid costume.
Speaker 1: All you're gonna see it's a bunch of uh orange
Speaker 1: red hair. Because we're gonna come support this movie. That
Speaker 1: is just it's not a black production. But nevertheless, I
Speaker 1: support What about this goddamn but this bushop bitch, the
Speaker 1: same nigger, this bishop, this bishop, white hand out out
Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. I believe the one who got robbed a
Speaker 1: couple of months ago. Supply this bullshop, this bushop, excuse
Speaker 1: this book, this bishop, this bishop? Sorry why he choked
Speaker 1: that lady like yoked her? Ask because she came up
Speaker 1: on stage. He's trying to say that she was actually
Speaker 1: like a plant there by two YouTubers that he's soing
Speaker 1: forty million dollars. What is he suing him for slander? Yeah, yep,
Speaker 1: well you giving him amo right now, choking bitches on
Speaker 1: TV on live video. Stupid, we see you grab her.
Speaker 1: Who's still going to his church. His congregation probably grew
Speaker 1: from those couple of months ago. Do you think so well, yeah,
Speaker 1: if period of period, stop saying that Jesus Christ, and
Speaker 1: I'm sure his congregation group. Girl, I'm sick of these people. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm sick of these people. I don't know who the
Speaker 1: hell Bishop Lamar white Head, He's caught on camera giving
Speaker 1: his sermon on Sunday when a woman in the congregation
Speaker 1: interrupted him. So, yeah, this person probably was sent there
Speaker 1: to just just disturb what the funk they had going on,
Speaker 1: and he yoked her ass up when she came up
Speaker 1: on stage, rightfully, So I wonder if you got arrested
Speaker 1: for it, though rightfully he yoked her. Why are why
Speaker 1: are you running up on a man? On to she was?
Speaker 1: She was trying to tack him. That's what it looked
Speaker 1: like to me. If if I'm up there preaching, the
Speaker 1: preachers preaching, I didn't invite you to come walk up
Speaker 1: on me, Why are you coming up here? What if
Speaker 1: she wanted some prayer? When if she was in there,
Speaker 1: did you hear her arguing with him from in the
Speaker 1: congregation like she was, They was going back and forth
Speaker 1: and then she walked up there. That's what I missed exactly. No,
Speaker 1: you don't walk up on nobody, man, sit your way
Speaker 1: in he went toward her, where he said, all I
Speaker 1: see it was him going towards her with his hands out.
Speaker 1: Likely she started it, you can't be putting your hands
Speaker 1: on people, right, But yeah, girl, the church's gone wild, y'all. Alright, guys,
Speaker 1: we'll be right back after this commercial break period. Alright.
Speaker 1: So I saw this video over the weekend and it
Speaker 1: kind of my spirit and I want to talk to
Speaker 1: you about an a j and with you guys listening. Uh,
Speaker 1: there was a woman and she was sitting in her car,
Speaker 1: and she seemed her spirit seemed very melancholy, and she
Speaker 1: was discussing how she was about to have surgery, and
Speaker 1: she realized that she was forty seven and that she
Speaker 1: was unmarried and she was alone, and that her mom
Speaker 1: and her sister had to take care of her, and
Speaker 1: how she had let so much of her life go
Speaker 1: by and she had not found someone to love and
Speaker 1: to love her, and uh, it was kind of sad
Speaker 1: listening to it, and it was also very scary for
Speaker 1: me getting older and knowing that I am still very
Speaker 1: unmarried without kids. She didn't express that she had children
Speaker 1: or not, but and it made me think about, like,
Speaker 1: what what would that look like for me. And I
Speaker 1: did a little bit of research and I saw that,
Speaker 1: you know, the number of women that are, you know,
Speaker 1: growing older and they're not coupled, is the numbers growing.
Speaker 1: So it's very real that I could possibly be her
Speaker 1: age forty seven and by myself. And if that's the case,
Speaker 1: I wanted to find the positives instead of lamenting over
Speaker 1: what that would be like. I wanted to find positive
Speaker 1: ways to be old bitch by yourself. You know, the
Speaker 1: thing about that is if you talk to older women
Speaker 1: who have been married before, they are happy now being single.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. They're not looking for the
Speaker 1: new relationships. They realize it's less stressful when you only
Speaker 1: have to worry about yourself, and they're content. So I
Speaker 1: can tell you about to have surgery. I think that
Speaker 1: you know, her having that surgery may here realize like, damn,
Speaker 1: I don't have anybody to take care of me. But
Speaker 1: the thing is that may be an assumption that a
Speaker 1: woman who's never been married before, that's an assumption you're
Speaker 1: making that your husband would actually even be the type
Speaker 1: of man that would take care of you, because that
Speaker 1: is a woman's characteristic. You know what I'm saying there
Speaker 1: are men women who are married that if they themselves
Speaker 1: get sick, they're gonna be I'm ship Creek and so
Speaker 1: with a husband because he can't take care of himself.
Speaker 1: So you probably would still have to lean on your
Speaker 1: mom or your sister. Even if you had a husband
Speaker 1: at home, They're not gonna be able or equipped to
Speaker 1: take care of you how a woman would be able to.
Speaker 1: But some men are Some men are very good at nurturing.
Speaker 1: They can get you the things you need, you know,
Speaker 1: like just go, You still have to give direction. Do
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying. You'd have to be in
Speaker 1: pain somewhere, laying down and still got to give him
Speaker 1: direction on what you need. That's not a girl. You
Speaker 1: don't know though, because you ain't been in either situations yet.
Speaker 1: I'm just telling you I've seen married women. I can
Speaker 1: I've had all right, so I remember, all right, So
Speaker 1: you guys, I have multiple sclerosis. And when I first
Speaker 1: got diagnosed, I could not walk. I didn't even we
Speaker 1: didn't even know what was going on with me yet.
Speaker 1: But I was just in the hospital they admitted me,
Speaker 1: and I could not walk anymore, and it was just
Speaker 1: really scary. And my boyfriend at the time. He would
Speaker 1: literally get off work, go home, change his clothes, and
Speaker 1: come to that hospital and sleep in my hospital bed
Speaker 1: next to me every single night for two weeks. And
Speaker 1: I know he was so tired because he would get
Speaker 1: up early in the morning so he could go get
Speaker 1: ready for work again. And he did that every day
Speaker 1: for two weeks, and I think that was the most
Speaker 1: I ever felt loved before. And it was just like
Speaker 1: that small little bit of just being there. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping in this tiny hospital bed, and this is
Speaker 1: in Europe, so I don't know if you know about
Speaker 1: the health care system there is free but then also
Speaker 1: feil free. So it's like six of us in one room.
Speaker 1: You know, it's not like I had my own bedroom.
Speaker 1: It's like six beds in this one room. And it's
Speaker 1: all kind of people like hell, you know, all kind
Speaker 1: of ship going on. It's a miserable experience. And he
Speaker 1: endured that with me, and I feel like he was
Speaker 1: definitely the type that would be someone that would be
Speaker 1: very caring in that aspect. Now, the other ship wasn't
Speaker 1: always the best, but that part he was a good
Speaker 1: He would have been a good person for that you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so just having somebody there rather rather not they can
Speaker 1: take care of you. Yeah, that's a plus. It's definitely
Speaker 1: a plus. And then you know that intimacy, like even
Speaker 1: when you being sick, that a man can give your
Speaker 1: mam a camp, right, it's just you prefer for the
Speaker 1: man to be there to rub your back up and
Speaker 1: ship like that, even instead of your mama, even though
Speaker 1: your mama gonna do it for you. I'm not afraid
Speaker 1: to be alone. And I think that's one thing that um,
Speaker 1: women period need alone need to learn is how to
Speaker 1: be loan. I know. I looked at some articles and
Speaker 1: to me, they were more so talking about like younger people,
Speaker 1: like when you're in your twenties maybe early thirties, and
Speaker 1: you know, being having time to do things for yourself,
Speaker 1: having times, having time to think. You know, that's why
Speaker 1: an older a younger person, when you get older, it's
Speaker 1: like you kind of already know what you want. Um,
Speaker 1: that may be a reason why people end up single
Speaker 1: because now you've spent so much time you you've actually
Speaker 1: spent too much time to yourself that now just the
Speaker 1: thought of somebody else gets stressful for you. Like the
Speaker 1: thought of having to share space with somebody else that part.
Speaker 1: So I've been single since two thousand sixteen, and I
Speaker 1: think if I did, like get in a serious relationship
Speaker 1: and we had to like cohabitate, that would be a
Speaker 1: huge adjustment for me. I need my own my own
Speaker 1: room and bathroom. I know that about me now, Like
Speaker 1: I do want to I don't want to live with
Speaker 1: a man in an apartment and it would have to
Speaker 1: be a house. And I need my own room and bathroom.
Speaker 1: If I can't have my own room, I at least
Speaker 1: need my own bathroom. Now, I do want to sleep
Speaker 1: with the man every night, right, But I just want
Speaker 1: us to have our own separate space, you know, because
Speaker 1: you just want to then go to your own room. No,
Speaker 1: I want to sleep like tonight, we sleep in my
Speaker 1: of course, my room would probably be nicer than his,
Speaker 1: and my bedding would probably be really plush. So of
Speaker 1: course he's gonna want to sleep in my room every night, right,
Speaker 1: But just to have the option to like have your
Speaker 1: own space like during the day and ship like that.
Speaker 1: I want to hear you now go to your room
Speaker 1: to go to his room. I'm like laying back on
Speaker 1: the bed kicking at him to get out of my room.
Speaker 1: Get out of my room, and close my damn door
Speaker 1: behind you. I don't think I would want I my
Speaker 1: own room. I think I would obviously want a house
Speaker 1: with more rooms in it, but I think I would
Speaker 1: want our room to be our room and this is
Speaker 1: our space, and then he can get out and go
Speaker 1: so to the man cave when I'm upset with him,
Speaker 1: and that's it. So that's your room, and you want
Speaker 1: him to have his own separate room, his man cave, right.
Speaker 1: I don't want no bad I don't want no bead
Speaker 1: in there. I want him to be uncomfortable when he
Speaker 1: has to sleep there. Nigga keeping table nigger so he
Speaker 1: can think about his choices. I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think I need my own I definitely need my
Speaker 1: own bathroom. So even if it's like I said, if
Speaker 1: it's not a separate bedroom, I need my own bathroom. Okay,
Speaker 1: because men can get kind of sketchy. I've actually had
Speaker 1: some pretty cleaning, but man, some niggas can get kind
Speaker 1: of sketchy with the bathroom up keep, and I an't
Speaker 1: got on time to be yelling at no grown ass
Speaker 1: man like nigga. If you don't if you don't right,
Speaker 1: clean up after yourself. Because I'm not your mama. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna be your mama. I will be your mom.
Speaker 1: I don't. I like. I like that. I like baby,
Speaker 1: and my niggas like, come here, lay on my titty
Speaker 1: and let me hold you and dirt you you and
Speaker 1: love you like a like a child. Girl. No, these
Speaker 1: are grown asth man and that's the problem right there.
Speaker 1: Baby don't need that and are coddled way more than women.
Speaker 1: Nobody caddles black women in that way. Black men have
Speaker 1: been are always being coddled. You don't need a coddle her, nigga,
Speaker 1: come in and turn into a whole baby for me.
Speaker 1: Come and lay your mama lab So what's the most
Speaker 1: terrifying thing to you about being single? What are you
Speaker 1: most Because we can go through all the benefits, but
Speaker 1: let's look what are we afraid of being single? I'm afraid.
Speaker 1: My biggest fear of being single is I just feel
Speaker 1: like it would be such a travesty to never have
Speaker 1: life beyond my own, to never I'm so amazing. I
Speaker 1: need to recreate myself. That's how I feel like I
Speaker 1: need something. I need another me out here living and thriving.
Speaker 1: That would that's one of my that's my greatest fear.
Speaker 1: And then also, like I said, I have MS, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need somebody to take care of me when
Speaker 1: ship gets rough and I ain't got nobody. You know,
Speaker 1: that should gonna be real, real one day. But if
Speaker 1: you keep focusing on the money, you can always have
Speaker 1: a nurse or somebody. You could pay for somebody to
Speaker 1: be that. Men think that the things, the things that
Speaker 1: women do are replaceable. They can I can pay somebody
Speaker 1: to cook, I could pay somebody to clean up. I
Speaker 1: could pay somebody to do all these things. I could
Speaker 1: pay somebody to fuck. But for women is like we
Speaker 1: don't see things like that. But you can't outsource all
Speaker 1: those things. And yeah, and and that would probably be
Speaker 1: the second option. But it's different when you're paying somebody
Speaker 1: and somebody's doing it out of love. You know that
Speaker 1: love can turn into resentment. They gotta take care of
Speaker 1: you too long. Yeah, that's very true. I want me
Speaker 1: a note Can I just get Ryan Gosselin to come
Speaker 1: over here and be like, what do you want? Like
Speaker 1: the notebook? I want to notebook kind of love? I
Speaker 1: don't know child. I don't know what is your greatest
Speaker 1: fear of being uh by yourself? Okay, so I do
Speaker 1: want to have a kid, at least one. And maybe
Speaker 1: this is even selfish when I get old, like I
Speaker 1: don't want to be an old ass lady seventy with
Speaker 1: no offspring, nobody to help you out a little bit,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But that that's the same
Speaker 1: thing I said, just a different person. Yeah, exactly. Look,
Speaker 1: so either man or a kid, I need one of them.
Speaker 1: But then I don't want the kid without the man,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So I want a family
Speaker 1: more than I just want a kid, right, So I
Speaker 1: would like to have a child and the man, and
Speaker 1: then the child would have to take care of both
Speaker 1: of us or at least like facilitate the caregiving, like
Speaker 1: find the people to do it when you get old,
Speaker 1: like I guess maybe I'm thinking about remember I had
Speaker 1: the old lady to live with me, and I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about all the things that I had to do for
Speaker 1: her that she just can't do because times change, Like
Speaker 1: everything is gonna internet. You can't expect this eighty something,
Speaker 1: you old lady to be able to use the internet
Speaker 1: in that way, she could barely use your cell phone.
Speaker 1: So just somebody there to help me with those type
Speaker 1: of things. Being young and getting sick and needed somebody
Speaker 1: take care of you, you got access to more people.
Speaker 1: But when you get old like that and your your
Speaker 1: your mom is gone, your daddy gone, your siblings might
Speaker 1: be gone, friends gone, like, you need a younger person,
Speaker 1: right because even now, even your doctor appointments, you have
Speaker 1: to confirm on the APPY. Yeah, so it's trying to
Speaker 1: check my chart to see what your results are. Like,
Speaker 1: it's not set up for old people to be able
Speaker 1: to do by them exactly. So it's really real that
Speaker 1: you are a baby twice so I feel like, um,
Speaker 1: that's when I would be more concerned about it. And
Speaker 1: that's why the relationship I would need would need to
Speaker 1: be facilitated now. So it's either the relationship but a
Speaker 1: husband or your child for when you get seventy eighty,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be around time like nine, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: need somebody. You're gonna need somebody around. So that's Micaelthern.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, man, I don't want um.
Speaker 1: I just hate when people would be like, oh, y'all
Speaker 1: y'all been just gonna die with your dogs. You're gonna
Speaker 1: die with your cats, You're gonna die alone. No woman
Speaker 1: has to die alone because there is somebody out here, somebody.
Speaker 1: You could pick somebody and have a baby with him.
Speaker 1: You could pick somebody and get married. Like I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure every woman has at least one nigga that's willing
Speaker 1: to married him right now. You know, he may not
Speaker 1: look the best, he may not smell the best, But
Speaker 1: there's somebody, you know what I'm saying. There is somebody
Speaker 1: for everybody. But I don't nobody want to fund with
Speaker 1: stinky Joey. But she she might be a stinky Jane
Speaker 1: and they go together. Why are you stinky trying to
Speaker 1: be with somebody who's not first get you a stinky nigga.
Speaker 1: But even you think it's all about balance. You make
Speaker 1: me smell better. Yeah, So it's somebody for everybody. You
Speaker 1: just gotta find that person. I could be married right
Speaker 1: now if I wanted to be, I couldn't. But I
Speaker 1: think a lot of more, a lot more people, especially
Speaker 1: our generation, we're putting like happiness over everything. We say
Speaker 1: that it's not the other person responsibility to make you happy.
Speaker 1: But if somebody can make you sad, they can definitely
Speaker 1: make you happy. So no, yes, it is my job
Speaker 1: to to to make myself happy. But yeah, I feel
Speaker 1: like you can contribute to other people's happiness. I would
Speaker 1: not want to be in a relationship. It's more terrifying
Speaker 1: to me to be in the wrong relationship than to
Speaker 1: be by myself. The piece you get from being the
Speaker 1: step number. But see that's w Yeah, take care of yourself.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. What I find in relationships
Speaker 1: is that even if you could be somebody who goes
Speaker 1: to the gym all the time, it's like all that
Speaker 1: should go out the window when you get into relationship.
Speaker 1: You're no longer focusing on your personal goals. You're not
Speaker 1: focusing on your personal health. It's like you always having
Speaker 1: to take somebody else ship into consideration every day your life.
Speaker 1: Like if I want to go on like a fucking
Speaker 1: vegan diet for the rest of this year, if I
Speaker 1: got a whole family I'm responsible for, I can't because
Speaker 1: it's gonna be even hard. Like I'm preparing food for
Speaker 1: them to eat that I'm not and I can't eat.
Speaker 1: They could just be vegans too, in a perfect world,
Speaker 1: that's what you know, because the mama is responsible for
Speaker 1: the nutrition of the family. So in a perfect world,
Speaker 1: that's how it would be. But it don't always be
Speaker 1: like that. So now it's just hard to focus on
Speaker 1: your personal goals when you're in a relationship. It just
Speaker 1: is because this other person needs some of your time.
Speaker 1: The relationship requires time, requires all of these things outside
Speaker 1: of you. I found a list of ten reasons why
Speaker 1: it's great living alone in your forties and fifties, just
Speaker 1: for anybody who's feeling sad about getting older. I e
Speaker 1: me all right here, here's here's the list. One You'll
Speaker 1: gain an independent routine, which is great for your health.
Speaker 1: So basically you ain't got nobody else to worry about,
Speaker 1: so you can do exactly what you want, when you
Speaker 1: want to, and how you want to do it. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think that applies right now. We don't have to
Speaker 1: wait till we're in our forties and fifties for that, right. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Single people are healthier than they're married counterparts, That's what
Speaker 1: I was just saying. Yeah, So, like even if you
Speaker 1: have like a certain gym routine, like you having to
Speaker 1: work in all of these people because I think that
Speaker 1: people who have children and families younger in life, they're
Speaker 1: just now getting to do those things because now the
Speaker 1: kids are finally older, so they kind of sacrificed earlier
Speaker 1: in life, so now they can chill see us having
Speaker 1: kids and families later on. I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: gonna be like what would you rather do you rather
Speaker 1: had just funny and twenties and they're worry about the
Speaker 1: ship with you in the thirties, or do all this
Speaker 1: ship now and now I'm now I get to live
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. Um, well, I guess it
Speaker 1: ain't an option no more for me. But with me,
Speaker 1: like the ship that my friends who had kids young
Speaker 1: had to endure, I don't think it will have to
Speaker 1: endure the same because we got more money now, you know,
Speaker 1: like like I could have a nanny in this bit
Speaker 1: changing diapers, right, And it's just like I think you
Speaker 1: you do, and that with more options the older you get, Um,
Speaker 1: you might enjoy your relationship better and at an older
Speaker 1: age because you, like I said, like both parties trying
Speaker 1: to know what they want and know what they don't.
Speaker 1: So you find somebody that matched that fly right, and
Speaker 1: then you have understanding of your emotional intelligence when you're
Speaker 1: old to even raise the kids properly. Right, So I
Speaker 1: think that more healthy relationship. To people who have kids younger,
Speaker 1: it's like a struggle the majority of the time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because they're growing up with their kids, you know. Um
Speaker 1: number three, you can develop your own hobbies and interests. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you want to do those things with somebody else, right,
Speaker 1: I like to be alone, but I like to be
Speaker 1: alone with somebody else, Like I like to do all
Speaker 1: this that I like to do, but with one other
Speaker 1: person at least. Well, you can't be alone with somebody
Speaker 1: else because then you're no longer at all. Exactly. Single
Speaker 1: people often enjoy better friendships. Mm hmm. I mean, do
Speaker 1: you have a choice? You know? Is like exactly. Let's see,
Speaker 1: what does it say? Living alone, by no means has
Speaker 1: to mean you're lonely. In fact, often exiting a relationship
Speaker 1: enables friendships to really blossom. All right, so it says
Speaker 1: not now is the time to re establish links with
Speaker 1: old friends and reach out to new ones. Living alone
Speaker 1: means you can invite people for the weekend to visit,
Speaker 1: stay out late. So it's just all selfish stuff, Okay,
Speaker 1: got it. Yeah, like y'all reach it with this one.
Speaker 1: Who else you gonna hang out exactly? Mask bitches. I
Speaker 1: don't want that either. But I also don't want to
Speaker 1: be in a relationship where my partner got a problem
Speaker 1: with all my friends. So I went and pick somebody
Speaker 1: like that either, who doesn't want you to have friends? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: that's not healthy. You'll have a greater sense of freedom.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel that I like to feel not
Speaker 1: single in it. Maybe I like to be single in
Speaker 1: the relationship. Maybe you can't. I ain't gonna be single
Speaker 1: in a relationship. It's like I don't like to feel
Speaker 1: smothered or I don't like to feel like I got
Speaker 1: just the same way Manfield. They don't want to have
Speaker 1: to always answer a bunch of questions and stuff like that, Like,
Speaker 1: just trust that I'm doing the right thing and lead
Speaker 1: me to hell alone because I ain't stalking and stressing you.
Speaker 1: So I do like to feel free in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I am a commitment type person. I do want to
Speaker 1: be in a committed relationship, but I also don't want
Speaker 1: to feel like I'm in prison in the relationship. Mm hmm,
Speaker 1: I get that. So I would like to maintain a
Speaker 1: certain level of freedom while in a union. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: the same guy that I told you all about that
Speaker 1: was like laying in my hospital bed next to me
Speaker 1: for two weeks straight and You're like, oh, he was
Speaker 1: so sweet. What happened to him? He also was the
Speaker 1: same type that would get mad if I said anything
Speaker 1: nice about a man, not my man, just any man
Speaker 1: I was. I could be like, oh, that's he's a
Speaker 1: nice guy. That's a good person for your boyfriend to
Speaker 1: be hanging out with. I had a conversation with my
Speaker 1: friend like that, and this nigga totally blew up. Why
Speaker 1: are you saying other nas nice? That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: See and look, I uh. I was in the story
Speaker 1: yesterday and I was on the phone my friend and
Speaker 1: as I'm checking out, I was like, okay, thanks babe,
Speaker 1: I said babe to the cashier, right, Like I just
Speaker 1: I always call people baby, babe, man or women. That's
Speaker 1: just how it just comes out. It's not like I'm
Speaker 1: just really calling this man a baby, right, And I said,
Speaker 1: I said, oh, let me not do that, because you
Speaker 1: might not you might have a problem with that. He
Speaker 1: was like, I don't care nothing about that, said Okay,
Speaker 1: that's my my previous trauma. Then could be because in
Speaker 1: my last relationship, I had gotten in multiple arguments because
Speaker 1: I said baby to somebody like not like. I don't
Speaker 1: like that either though. Yeah, but see I think I
Speaker 1: get that from my mom. She called everybody baby babe.
Speaker 1: That's just it's just in my vocabulary. I don't mean
Speaker 1: this person as my baby, like I would say to
Speaker 1: my significant other. So for mane, but those are things
Speaker 1: that you have baby. I don't like when we like
Speaker 1: a server, I don't want you calling her baby. See
Speaker 1: that's the thing that a man can't do that. It's
Speaker 1: just a double standard thing. It's like a older person
Speaker 1: talking to a younger person type thing, because that's usually
Speaker 1: when I would saying that. If it's like a younger person,
Speaker 1: they just this, it's a kid, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: But you know, in relationships, you don't know something's a
Speaker 1: problem until it's a problem. That's just it. So I
Speaker 1: didn't know it was a problem, and so it was
Speaker 1: a problem. I don't like. I don't I don't want
Speaker 1: you giving other women pet names. But you can say
Speaker 1: somebody's a nice person and that not be a problem.
Speaker 1: I won't be like, why you called that a bitch? Nice?
Speaker 1: You know that is crazy? That's crazy, right, Like you
Speaker 1: want to suck his dick, don't you? Right? What men,
Speaker 1: that's why mind go directly to you sucking somebody dick.
Speaker 1: They just obsessed with that because I said somebody was nice. Alright.
Speaker 1: Number seven, It will help you be more creative. I
Speaker 1: guess solitude, Yeah, go ahead, I guess you got time
Speaker 1: to sit down and do things that you want to do. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see that. Mm hmmm. Says solitude enables you
Speaker 1: to think deeply, and it's crucial for introspective, creative thoughts
Speaker 1: to come into fruition. Being alone is often a prequisite
Speaker 1: for those sparky ideas you might otherwise never have had. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend this weekend and he
Speaker 1: and I, uh, he went to a wedding in Baltimore
Speaker 1: and his friend, the girl that he's dating. Basically she
Speaker 1: went like on a little trip by herself, and I
Speaker 1: was like, she ain't by herself. She got some nigger
Speaker 1: with her, like sucking with him. But he was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: she you know. He basically was trying to say, you know,
Speaker 1: it's the ship that you would do, like go out
Speaker 1: be by yourself to talk to the trees and ship
Speaker 1: like that. She was like, that's what she's doing. So
Speaker 1: he's okay with her, like traveling, going on a low
Speaker 1: trip alone to get her mind right. M hm. Most
Speaker 1: men won't won't be okay with that, not in a
Speaker 1: real relationship, Like where are you going? Right? I don't
Speaker 1: even sound right in the room in the room. They
Speaker 1: don't live together, nothing like that, they're just you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: So I don't know. That might not be something you
Speaker 1: could do while you in a relationship with a man,
Speaker 1: go on vacation by yourself, going a long weekend get
Speaker 1: away by yourself. Now you I've seen uh men and
Speaker 1: like married couples with children and they all live in
Speaker 1: the house. Let their wife go on a staycation to
Speaker 1: a hotel down the street, you know, like you go
Speaker 1: there and relax, drink some champagne, just enjoy your solitude
Speaker 1: away from us. I've seen that. But you're getting on
Speaker 1: a plane to go somewhere and sit by yourself. Sit
Speaker 1: your ass down, all right. The next one says, you
Speaker 1: actually might be less lonely. It might sound odd, but
Speaker 1: single people could actually turn out to be far less
Speaker 1: lonely than those in relationships. This is because, as a
Speaker 1: general rule, singles tend to have a wider social have
Speaker 1: wider social circles in support systems, as opposed to those
Speaker 1: in relationships, who often only have one person they feel
Speaker 1: they can confide and rely on. Wow, that's true. And look,
Speaker 1: that's something I think about, like imagine, and I think
Speaker 1: a lot of relationships fail because it is you can't
Speaker 1: expect your significant other to be your all. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. They can't be your best friend for real,
Speaker 1: like how you're real bed like as a woman, right,
Speaker 1: your man can't be your best friend. How your actual
Speaker 1: female friend is your best friend? He can't be that
Speaker 1: for you. So I believe that even in relationships, you
Speaker 1: gotta have that that that thing outside of your relationship.
Speaker 1: You have to think it's important to him at least
Speaker 1: one person that is not in your relationship that you
Speaker 1: can confide in. Yes, and that's for a man I want. Yeah, yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying, because I mean, sometimes when you're
Speaker 1: having a problem, how do I talk to the problem
Speaker 1: about the problem. Well, you can't, you can't. Look, I
Speaker 1: don't it's important not to look at your person as
Speaker 1: the problem. There's an issue within the relationship, and y'all
Speaker 1: need to detect that a problem together. What if he
Speaker 1: keeps shipping on the toilet, that is his problem, That
Speaker 1: is a problem he's creating. Why the problem is the
Speaker 1: ship and the ship came out of him. That's his ship.
Speaker 1: That's y'all ship. No nigger is no what he ain't
Speaker 1: did not make me ship? Okay, so that my ship.
Speaker 1: But if you sat down on that toilet, oh my god, girl,
Speaker 1: that's the problem. The problem is not the man. But
Speaker 1: first of all, while some new people coming up with
Speaker 1: we're going to attack the problem, not each other. Motherfucker's
Speaker 1: be the people making the problem. What are we talking about,
Speaker 1: y'all delusion? It sounds good, It sounds good. Okay, we
Speaker 1: two We got here is the problems. Attack the problem
Speaker 1: and not each other. But how does that even work
Speaker 1: when it's somebody causing the problem. Do you see what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? Yeah, but he's causing the problem. Let's work
Speaker 1: on this problem together. But what if the problem is
Speaker 1: him cheating? When he's making that conscious decision to cheat,
Speaker 1: So we have to realize, find out if we are
Speaker 1: in it together and you want to stay with this
Speaker 1: nigga knowing that he cheats, then you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: find a way to find out why he's cheating and
Speaker 1: does he want to be in and then he wants
Speaker 1: to be in this relationship knowing that something that you
Speaker 1: don't want. That's the problem. This is a Western civilization,
Speaker 1: that problem whatever. And number ten the last one. You'll
Speaker 1: sleep more soundly now, I agree with that one. Just
Speaker 1: get a king's eyes bad. I don't see how people
Speaker 1: are married and they have a queen's size bad in
Speaker 1: their house. How that's too close because I like to
Speaker 1: cuddle and ship like that. But we already know when
Speaker 1: you get kind of hot in the middle of night,
Speaker 1: get the funk off me. I don't like falling to
Speaker 1: sleep on nobody, like my last nick of the same
Speaker 1: one I was talking about the whole episode. He um,
Speaker 1: that's my only point of reference, right. Um. He would
Speaker 1: like me to sleep on him, and like he would
Speaker 1: fall asleep, and when I would move, even though he
Speaker 1: would sleep, his arm would get tight when I try
Speaker 1: to move. Hell, that nigga was fucking demon. He didn't
Speaker 1: want you. I could not move if you awake. He
Speaker 1: couldn't be awake. I could not move. What the hell?
Speaker 1: In his sleep he would snatch his arm would go
Speaker 1: tight like a fist, would go tight around me. Like
Speaker 1: how then m hmm. He was like subconsciously and consciously insecure.
Speaker 1: But I snore, so I don't know even know if
Speaker 1: you want me up under you like that when I sleep,
Speaker 1: you ain't gonna get no rest. That he's freight train
Speaker 1: next to you. See now, I wouldn't sleep with you.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be with a man who's snore
Speaker 1: too loud because every night I'm gonna be rushing trying
Speaker 1: to go to sleep. For you, I go to your
Speaker 1: own room. Since you got one, I had one, Nigga.
Speaker 1: He was like, before we were to lay down, he's like,
Speaker 1: you like astronauts. I was like what, He's like, I'm
Speaker 1: about to show you. And he put that motherfucking space
Speaker 1: helmet on so he could breathe that night looking like
Speaker 1: a motherfucking astronaut. Bit that's so stupid. Do something. Don't
Speaker 1: get up in here. It sounding like dark Vader because
Speaker 1: I'm going to home. If I have that option, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna get into a long term relationship with somebody
Speaker 1: who snore is crazy. One thing about me is I'm
Speaker 1: asleep and you're not about. Yes, I have to sleep well, man,
Speaker 1: if I don't my days to be fucked up. Ship.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm dragging right now today. Shoot, I got
Speaker 1: dunk because of my story. And really it wasn't like
Speaker 1: that yet. We were just starting to finally like spending
Speaker 1: night with each other. And I just remember waking myself
Speaker 1: up with the sound of my story and I woke
Speaker 1: up and I looked at him and he was just
Speaker 1: staring at me, like I really want you to go
Speaker 1: the funk home. That's how he looked at he was looking.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm so sorry, but I was only
Speaker 1: snoring because his pillows was the size of a thing
Speaker 1: as a piece of paper. Like where you get these
Speaker 1: thin ass, fucking raggedy ass pillows. Man, You don't have
Speaker 1: no like y'all asleep on a goddamn piece of ply
Speaker 1: board cardboard box? Yes, what is that with? You're betting
Speaker 1: I had. I had to fold that pillow four times
Speaker 1: to just have a little piece of height on it, girl, Like,
Speaker 1: and I literally buy your ship for your house so
Speaker 1: I can be comfortable when I get there, like, why
Speaker 1: you got these old ass pillows, nigger, get you some
Speaker 1: new pillows, please, sir. Well. In conclusion, look y'all, it's okay.
Speaker 1: If you do find yourself by yourself in your forties
Speaker 1: and fifties, there are ways to be fulfilled and not
Speaker 1: be sad about it. And I hope this list helps
Speaker 1: any of our listeners who feel lonely or feel alone. Like, girl,
Speaker 1: it's okay, you got friends, and if you don't have
Speaker 1: friends out there, you have friends that we talked back.
Speaker 1: Oh girl, ain't nothing like that dead girl. Period up,
Speaker 1: period up. Don't be doing that ship and not recording.
Speaker 1: We ain't giving that bitch no motherfucking notoriety over here.
Speaker 1: As we talk back, I was just agreeing with your
Speaker 1: dick comments that don't say just say I agree, just
Speaker 1: say I agree, girl. But again, I'm not afraid to
Speaker 1: be alone and ship. If this is if this is
Speaker 1: how my life's supposed to be there, so fucking being okay.
Speaker 1: I have I enjoy the company of men for sure.
Speaker 1: If I get married today and tomorrow, that would be great.
Speaker 1: If I don't, I'm not gonna die because of it. Obviously,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna live longer. So hey, we'll see I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be one of them fine as because listen, honey, the
Speaker 1: sixty year olds that's on Instagram, dumb bitch is fine.
Speaker 1: The fifty and sixty year olds, like they've been spending
Speaker 1: the last decade building a six pack. They could have
Speaker 1: any one of these young niggas if they wanted them.
Speaker 1: They can definitely, like they got options. You always have options,
Speaker 1: Let's be clear. But I don't know. I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: be alone, all right, y'all. Hit him with that hit
Speaker 1: him with that thing. You hit them with that thing. Listen.
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