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Speaker 1: KK on Steve HARVEYFM, says, I've always taken things to heart,

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Speaker 1: but lately it feels like even small instances where people

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Speaker 1: are inconsiderate or rude completely derail me. If someone is kurt, dismissive,

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Speaker 1: or slightly unkind, I'll repay it, replay it in my

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Speaker 1: head for days, and let it change my mood for

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Speaker 1: a lot longer than it should. Recently, a very brief

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Speaker 1: but unpleasant interaction with a customer service rep online stuck

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Speaker 1: with me all day, even though I know it shouldn't have.

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Speaker 1: It just shouldn't have mattered that much. I want to

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Speaker 1: be able to brush things off and not give strangers

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Speaker 1: so much power over how I feel. Here's a question

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Speaker 1: from KK. How do people learn to stop internalizing every

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Speaker 1: negative interaction when they're naturally sensitive?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: What I would suggest you probably not gonna be aby do.

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Speaker 3: I'll give it right back to you, so I'm not

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Speaker 3: gonna be the only one having to replay everything. We

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Speaker 3: all gonna have MEMORYX button on this altercation right here,

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Speaker 3: you on line?

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Speaker 4: So for instance, yeah, for instance, what do you want, sir?

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Speaker 4: Hurry up? I got other calls on the line.

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Speaker 2: No, what the hell you want?

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Speaker 3: You got other calls on the line, like you ain't

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Speaker 3: the only one could talk to him? Then click, yeah,

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Speaker 3: how about anybody else?

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Speaker 4: You feel better?

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Speaker 3: Sir?

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Speaker 4: Sir, you can't bring this back.

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Speaker 1: You don't have a receipt, and so I need to

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Speaker 1: help who's next in line?

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Speaker 2: Next?

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Speaker 3: It's back, but it's back though, tell all this what

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Speaker 3: I can't. You can't bring this back here? It is

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Speaker 3: right here. Now, let's get to getting this refund out here.

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Speaker 4: We don't do refunds, sir, We just do redit.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, no, no, you didn't take supervisor? Is that supervisor?

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Speaker 2: I like it?

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Speaker 3: Tom, who you're talking super I can talk to, but

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Speaker 3: I am the supervisor.

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Speaker 4: Put you in jug.

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Speaker 3: I wait, it's other stoves, you know. Make this your

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Speaker 3: last time to this hend.

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Speaker 4: So you just giving right back and just going by.

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Speaker 3: That that way you you can see when you replay

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Speaker 3: that you you you get to replace what you said

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Speaker 3: to them?

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Speaker 2: What is junior? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Here we are mean.

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna say this.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how to hide you because your attitude

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Speaker 3: is real stake in here, that's what that's what's really.

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Speaker 2: I know it is. I know it is, and I

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Speaker 2: stunk it on you.

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Speaker 1: Not.

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Speaker 3: Now, what you're gonna do about that? What you need

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Speaker 3: little man customer service?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? What about?

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Speaker 1: So that's how that's how she stops internalizing every negative interaction.

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Speaker 2: And that's why I told you that she's not gonna

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Speaker 2: do that. So I can't help her.

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Speaker 4: No, Can she just ignore it?

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Speaker 3: Though?

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Speaker 2: Just ignore it?

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Speaker 4: Don't behave you're rude.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna beave you because I can't ignore it.

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Speaker 4: All right? Sorry?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 4: We have time for another one quickly.

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Speaker 1: Shelle On Steve Harvey f M says, my boyfriend is

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Speaker 1: really jealous and is always accusing me of cheating, even

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Speaker 1: though I've never done anything to give him a reason

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Speaker 1: to think that. He'll question where I've been read way

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Speaker 1: too much into totally normal interactions and start arguments over

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Speaker 1: small stuff. I'm constantly having to defend myself and it's

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Speaker 1: getting exhausting. I wonder if this is justice intecurity. But

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Speaker 1: another part of me words is projection. And he's the

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Speaker 1: one cheating although I've never accused him. Is it unreasonable

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Speaker 1: for me to expect this to ever change?

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Speaker 3: Uh? No, If if you don't train a person how

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Speaker 3: to treat you, he'll treat you how you allow him to.

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Speaker 3: So if you don't do that, if you don't put

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Speaker 3: on some boundaries, he gonna keep doing what he's doing.

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Speaker 2: He could be right about the second part. It could

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Speaker 2: be him insecurity, but you know, or he's cheating. Well yeah,

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Speaker 2: thank you somebody.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, all right, all right, thank you. More of

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