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Speaker 1: never told you a production of iHeartRadio. We're a bit

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Speaker 1: But this first one is about just Into Arderne, who's

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Speaker 1: and it sparked this whole conversation about burnout, because essentially

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Speaker 1: it well. And then she talked about like, hey, let's

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Speaker 1: It's got a whole section on their Wikipedia because when

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Speaker 1: and Bridget did this episode a while back because she

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Speaker 1: was one of Barry. She's the second world leader I

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Speaker 1: a whole conversation about that's and about pregnancy discrimination and

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Speaker 1: So please enjoy this classic episode. Hi, this is Annie

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Speaker 1: and this is a Bridget and you're listening to Steph Mom.

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Speaker 1: than usual. Just FBYI podcasting wall sick. I'm a professional.

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Speaker 1: Let's do this. You are a professional, Bridget, and another

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Speaker 1: And if you haven't heard, she gave birth in June

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Speaker 1: Every time I think about Janelle Money and Dirty Computer,

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Speaker 1: Janelle Money, how great is she? She's pretty great. I'm

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Speaker 1: glad that all of that's happening as well, and I'm

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