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Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. And you know what,

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Speaker 1: you never know. It could be yours, It could be

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Speaker 1: michaelapinhold on tight. We got it for you. Here. It

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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Thank you enough you subject my peace

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Speaker 1: and happiness is next door. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm fifty

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Speaker 1: one years old and I've been married nine years to

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Speaker 1: a miserable man. He owns a bar and he's drinking

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Speaker 1: half of his profits and then he comes home and

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Speaker 1: drink some more. I can't tolerate the mood swings and

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Speaker 1: the sloppy intimacy with him, so I've been aborting him

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Speaker 1: for the past few months because I have found something

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Speaker 1: better next door. There's a younger couple that moved next

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Speaker 1: to us, and they started out being very bothersome by

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Speaker 1: always calling me to ask a lot of questions about

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Speaker 1: the neighborhood. As a thank you, they invited me to

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Speaker 1: dinner one night. We sat around and listened to music

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Speaker 1: and had some drinks after we ate. They have a

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Speaker 1: small dog and he was being frisky and started hunting

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Speaker 1: my leg. So the man next door said he wished

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Speaker 1: he could do that. His wife said she would like

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Speaker 1: to see him try it, but it wasn't in a

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Speaker 1: mean spirited way, so I was confused. He told me

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Speaker 1: my legs look soft, and he asked me if he

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Speaker 1: could rub on them. I looked at his wife and

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Speaker 1: she gave me a thumbs up like it was fine.

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Speaker 1: So he rubbed them and his hand slipped up my thigh.

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Speaker 1: His wife got on the other side of me and

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Speaker 1: said my right leg was feeling left out. Needless to say,

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Speaker 1: that was a good night. From then on, we've they've

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Speaker 1: been my escape from everything that is troubling me in

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Speaker 1: my marriage. I can have one or both of them

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Speaker 1: whenever I go over for a visit since my husband

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Speaker 1: works long hours. They are my peace and happiness. The

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Speaker 1: three of us went to my husband's bar, and my

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Speaker 1: husband said we looked like a happy threesome. I think

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Speaker 1: he might be aware of what we're up to, but

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Speaker 1: he doesn't care since he and I haven't had sex lately.

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Speaker 1: Do you think he has a side piece too? Well,

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Speaker 1: it's funny you should ask, because anything is possible. And

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Speaker 1: he's doing all of that drinking for some reason. Either

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Speaker 1: he's miserable at home and in the marriage, or he

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Speaker 1: feels guilty for cheating and he's trying to cover it

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Speaker 1: up with the drinking. Something's going on, And that's what

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Speaker 1: you're feeling anyway, right that he had something going on.

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Speaker 1: But here's the thing. You need to stop acting like

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Speaker 1: you don't care because of what you got going on.

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Speaker 1: You care, or you wouldn't have written us. And that's

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Speaker 1: the problem. You're talking to us about your marital problems

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Speaker 1: and not him. I mean, is there a time when

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Speaker 1: he's not drunk or drinking so you guys can have

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Speaker 1: a conversation. Do you even know if he wants to

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Speaker 1: still be married to you? Do you guys communicate? Do

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Speaker 1: you still want to be married to him? I mean,

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Speaker 1: he's an alcoholic and you're having threesomes with the neighbors.

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Speaker 1: That's your answer right there. Your nine year marriage is

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Speaker 1: on life support. It's in major trouble and pretty much over.

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Speaker 1: You and your husband have grown miles apart for whatever

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Speaker 1: reason that you left out of the letter. So what

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Speaker 1: are you and him going to do about it? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you have some choices here. You can move on and divorce,

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Speaker 1: just divorce and move on, or you know, try and

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Speaker 1: fix this. It's not a lot that's fixable in this

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Speaker 1: marriage because of what both of you guys are doing.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I mean, I always believe in hope

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Speaker 1: you can try, but it looks over to me. It

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Speaker 1: looks over. You guys really need some help, Steve. The

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Speaker 1: only question in this letter is do you think he

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Speaker 1: don't care, You ain't got no problem you okay you

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Speaker 1: there's nothing about trying to save the marriage in this letter.

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Speaker 1: And you've stated at the subject my piece and happiness

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Speaker 1: is next door, and then at the end of the

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Speaker 1: from what all you seem to care about? You fifty one,

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Speaker 1: been married nine years to a miserable man. Now you

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Speaker 1: say he got a bar, he drank up half his

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Speaker 1: So your man is an alcoholic that owns a bar. Wow. Wow,

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Speaker 1: this is you can't win. First of all, if you're

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Speaker 1: He worked, he owned a ball. He owned the ball.

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Speaker 1: He round too much of it. He round people that

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Speaker 1: drink all the time. He can smell it. He got

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Speaker 1: no And secondly, he ain't went to get no help.

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Speaker 1: Now Shirley says he's drinking for a reason. Maybe he's

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Speaker 1: unhappy in his marriage, whatever the case. I know up

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Speaker 1: close alcoholics. Alcoholics, once they get hooked on that taste

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Speaker 1: of alcohol, you can create all the reasons you won't,

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Speaker 1: but they'll use any reason to drink. Then once they

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Speaker 1: it's an addictive thing. If you keep drinking, it's addictive.

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Speaker 1: If you're drinking to get high, it's addictive. If you

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Speaker 1: He's an alcoholic. Now. He got mood swings and sloppy intimates.

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Speaker 1: And so you'd have been avoiding in the past few months.

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Speaker 1: And because you'd have found something better next door, this

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Speaker 1: young couple have moved in. You should call you and

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Speaker 1: ask you all these questions bothering you all the time,

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Speaker 1: and finally, as a as a thank you, they invite

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Speaker 1: you to dinner. One night, y'all sitting up listening to music,

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Speaker 1: said he wished he could do that. Then his wife said,

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Speaker 1: in a mean spirit a way, so I was confused.

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Speaker 1: Then he said, your legs look soft, and ask me

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Speaker 1: gave the thumbs up. She rubbed him. She got on

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Speaker 1: say the other one looked lonely too, and now to

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Speaker 1: rest of it, all right, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Seed's response coming up. I'm talking to you woman who's

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Speaker 1: You're listening. She's married to what she says, is a

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Speaker 1: miserable man. He dreams all the time. He owns a bar.

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Speaker 1: He drinks at the bar. He's shrinking up all his profits.

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Speaker 1: Then he come home and he drinks some more. Your

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Speaker 1: swings and the sloppy intimacy he all over the place.

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Speaker 1: So now you're sick of it and got on your

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Speaker 1: the neighborhood. Kind of bothers him, so they as a

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Speaker 1: thank you for answering all their questions to invite you

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Speaker 1: to dinner. One night, fifty one year old lady go

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Speaker 1: over to half dinner. She's sitting up there. After dinner,

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Speaker 1: they listen to music and drinking. The dog, their little dog,

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Speaker 1: who is probably trained to do this, goes overstar humping

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Speaker 1: have got this dog involved. They didn't train this dog

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Speaker 1: is in on it, he is a conversation starter. Now

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Speaker 1: the husband on Q goals, I show wish I could

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Speaker 1: do that, And then the wife says, I want to

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Speaker 1: see you try, but it wasn't in a mean spirited way.

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Speaker 1: So he asked, could he rub my leg because they

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Speaker 1: look soft. The wife gave him a thumbs up. He

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Speaker 1: Needless to say, needless to say, what happen? Needless to say,

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Speaker 1: that was a good night. From then on, they've been

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Speaker 1: I can have one or both of them whenever I

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Speaker 1: long hours, they are my peace and happiness. Okay, now

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Speaker 1: right here, so far we don't have a problem. The

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Speaker 1: only problem you was having was your husband was drinking

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Speaker 1: and sloppy intimacy. You didn't fix that because you didn't

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Speaker 1: found this young couple next goord that don't do sloppy intimacy.

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Speaker 1: Matter of fact, they do full blown active intimacy. One two, three,

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Speaker 1: What you want, what you need? Come on over to

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Speaker 1: the house, flip it, Come on my turn, your turn tag,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm out. You're in that busy but you

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Speaker 1: Has got time to go downstair and get some water.

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Speaker 1: So since your husband worked long hours, they are your

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Speaker 1: The three of us went to my husband's bar. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: your husband said, we look like a happy threesome. Now

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Speaker 1: he don't care since he and I havn't asked sex. Lady,

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Speaker 1: here's the only question. Do you think he has a

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Speaker 1: you don't want him, You avoid me your question and

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Speaker 1: all this is does he have a side piece too?

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Speaker 1: What did you write us for? We don't know, and

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Speaker 1: you and I and we really don't care anything. You

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Speaker 1: get him some help. With that drinking. But you ain't

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Speaker 1: try to do that, so your help is next dope.

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Speaker 1: So now you have found some peace and happiness next

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Speaker 1: dough and the type of intimacy you won't And you

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Speaker 1: can go over there anytime you want to for a visit.

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Speaker 1: You can have warm both of them, all of them.

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Speaker 1: So you're just over there getting it. However you won't.

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Speaker 1: So now where we're at, So now you have rolled

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Speaker 1: us for what because I don't care. I don't care

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Speaker 1: about your marriage, because you don't care about your man

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Speaker 1: at all. Your peace and happiness is next dope. You

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Speaker 1: said it, Bam bam, thank you, ma'am. Hold where, thank

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Speaker 1: you sir? Here here I'll come. And then your damn

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Speaker 1: you gotta pull into a threesome by damn puppet. You

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Speaker 1: easy if all it took was a damn dog. It's

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Speaker 1: how to hump for treats, hump for treats. We shout

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Speaker 1: of new this here all the dinners and stuff I've

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Speaker 1: been buying my whole damn black loaning, helping, putting kids

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Speaker 1: rent paymenting, Gold Platinum Programs, Bronze program All I had

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