Speaker 1: Second date up date.
Speaker 2: If I've learned anything from reading countless dating blogs, they
Speaker 2: all say the absolute worst thing you can do is
Speaker 2: be open to trying new things.
Speaker 3: No, they don't. That's the opposite of what they all say.
Speaker 2: New experiences should scare you and you need to avoid
Speaker 2: them at all costs.
Speaker 1: Instead of reading.
Speaker 3: The anti therapy blogs.
Speaker 2: Again, you know, you need to stick to the places
Speaker 2: that you've already been and people you already know, and
Speaker 2: nothing bad can ever happen people.
Speaker 3: Okay, Jeff, what is how you end up in? Like
Speaker 3: my hometown? Dat you?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 2: Supports it as one of our listeners didn't take that advice,
Speaker 2: thank god, And he's some sort of modern renaissance man
Speaker 2: decided to try something new and look where it landed
Speaker 2: him right here on our show, which I'm guessing is
Speaker 2: another new experience for him that he's never done before.
Speaker 3: So yikes, we're the low point.
Speaker 1: We are, Alvin, welcome to your new lifelove.
Speaker 4: Awesome, glad to be here. This is my first time
Speaker 4: ever doing that.
Speaker 3: Now, are you feeling shame or excitement?
Speaker 4: No, definitely excitement. I don't I'm not feeling shame.
Speaker 2: Okay, We're going to change that by the end of
Speaker 2: the segment. But you said that you tried something new
Speaker 2: for your dating life.
Speaker 1: What was that?
Speaker 4: Have you ever heard of a red envelope party?
Speaker 3: What is that? What's a red envelope party?
Speaker 4: Well, it's like a like a dating event that people
Speaker 4: put on. And there was at this fancy house and
Speaker 4: you went by yourself.
Speaker 3: You didn't bring a friend.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, this was a friend hooked me up with this,
Speaker 4: but I went by myself. Yeah. And then you scan
Speaker 4: like a QR code and you fill out a questionnaire
Speaker 4: that's like about your interests and your values.
Speaker 3: You know what kind of person you are a dating profile, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, just a brief little thing like that, and
Speaker 4: then once you do the questionnay. I went side the
Speaker 4: house and it was had the vibe of like a
Speaker 4: slanky private members club. It was fancy furniture and well
Speaker 4: stocked bar, chandeliers, the whole you know, chandelier that is rich. No, no, people,
Speaker 4: you get a house full of single people and you're
Speaker 4: only allowed to talk to one person that they give
Speaker 4: you a motive?
Speaker 1: Is that the rule?
Speaker 4: No? No, You're you're supposed to mingle and drink and
Speaker 4: have a good time. That's what I was doing. About
Speaker 4: like an hour into it, maybe a little more, a
Speaker 4: waiter came around with a silver tray and on the
Speaker 4: tray were red envelopes and you find the one that
Speaker 4: had your name on it, and that has inside the
Speaker 4: person that you are supposed to meet once, but we'd
Speaker 4: already hung out from I'm guessing.
Speaker 3: The whole point is so that you go around the
Speaker 3: room and actually try to find the other person. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's more about talking to other person, I mean my
Speaker 3: guess anyway.
Speaker 2: And the fact that it's on a silver tray makes
Speaker 2: me believe whatever is on it is like and so,
Speaker 2: who was the person whose name was in your envelope?
Speaker 4: My envelope had the name Natalie in it.
Speaker 3: Okay, had you already met? Why are you laughing?
Speaker 2: I thought he said he had his own name in
Speaker 2: his envelope.
Speaker 3: Did you had you already met Natalie or do you
Speaker 3: have to go find her?
Speaker 4: I had actually met her, and she was like obviously
Speaker 4: on there to date. So I'm looking around, you know,
Speaker 4: looking at all the ladies, and she was like top
Speaker 4: of my list.
Speaker 3: Oh you're like yes, like he read envelope, that's nice.
Speaker 4: There was a total yes, just bump.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so you went and tracked her down. How
Speaker 1: did that go?
Speaker 4: It was great. We were having a really good time
Speaker 4: and she was laughing a lot and I was laughing.
Speaker 3: Oh that's a good sign because she could have been
Speaker 3: disappointed when she saw your name.
Speaker 4: No, no, she seemed cool and she was, you know,
Speaker 4: kept encouraging us to go back to the bar. And so, yeah,
Speaker 4: we did drink a bit. I admit it. I definitely
Speaker 4: was feeling a buzz nice.
Speaker 3: Okay, but you're you know, you're doing it together her
Speaker 3: and it's a party scene, like it seems appropriate.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it was appropriate amount And I was not alone,
Speaker 4: you know, it was everybody was having a good time,
Speaker 4: and she was having a good time. You know, like
Speaker 4: I said, we were laughing a lot.
Speaker 1: These are all positive reviews.
Speaker 2: Is there anything in your mind that like was like
Speaker 2: a low moment of the night or something that could
Speaker 2: have gone wrong?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes there was.
Speaker 3: Oh he's laughing now.
Speaker 4: It's not the worst. But like, we had been sitting
Speaker 4: for a while and we stood up and we walked
Speaker 4: outside and it was pretty warm, and I definitely had
Speaker 4: like a head rush and I kind of fell into
Speaker 4: a bush.
Speaker 2: Oh and this was in front of Natalie.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I was walking with her.
Speaker 3: You may have but she may have looked a little sloppy.
Speaker 4: Yeah you know, yeah I looked sloppy. I didn't like
Speaker 4: fall over, Like I was just so hammered that I
Speaker 4: was just like passing out. But you know, I definitely
Speaker 4: leaned into it hard, let's put it that way.
Speaker 1: Confident lean into a bush.
Speaker 4: But she helped me out of it. But like, I'm
Speaker 4: a pretty big guy, so she couldn't really do it.
Speaker 4: So this guy like kind of stepped over and kind
Speaker 4: of helped me too.
Speaker 1: Gave you a hand.
Speaker 2: Not your proudest moment, but it's probably not like a
Speaker 2: total deal break for you.
Speaker 1: So how did it end that night? But with you
Speaker 1: and Natalie?
Speaker 4: Well, at the end of the party, I asked her
Speaker 4: if she wanted to go up to have some food,
Speaker 4: you know, soak up the alcohol, right, And she said
Speaker 4: she wanted to hang back and find this friend that
Speaker 4: she came with. And I don't know that's it. Then.
Speaker 4: I haven't heard back from her. I mean I got
Speaker 4: her her her number, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Exactly, have you called her or nothing?
Speaker 4: I texted her once. I don't want to be the
Speaker 4: dude who's stending multiple texts what definitely like damn, I
Speaker 4: went to all that trouble and thought it was a
Speaker 4: good connection and then just seem weird that nothing has
Speaker 4: come since then.
Speaker 2: Maybe she confidently leaned on the same bush and is
Speaker 2: trapped inside of it right now waiting for somebody to
Speaker 2: come pick her out. So we're gonna call, We'll see
Speaker 2: if she answers, and try and get you your second
Speaker 2: date update fancy edition.
Speaker 1: Coming up right after this second date update.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna need to set the scene here for any
Speaker 2: listeners just joining us. We picture well dressed men and
Speaker 2: women sitting on ornate couches, sitting on gimlets, mingling together.
Speaker 1: Red envelope party.
Speaker 2: Old people.
Speaker 1: It's fancy.
Speaker 3: It does feel like something that happened in Jeff's neighborhood. Girls. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: a lot of ask.
Speaker 2: On gimlets and mint julips.
Speaker 1: What's a red envelope party?
Speaker 2: I'm still not one hundred percent sure I get the idea,
Speaker 2: But one of our listeners, Alvin, attended one the other
Speaker 2: night where he went to a house in an upscale neighborhood.
Speaker 2: They have you fill out a dating survey and then later,
Speaker 2: based on the answers to your questionnaire, they bring you
Speaker 2: a red envelope on a silver platter with the name
Speaker 2: of the person that you matched with and are supposed
Speaker 2: to meet that night. Yes, and the name of Alvin's
Speaker 2: person was Natalie, So they met up, had a great
Speaker 2: time there until he fell into a bush outside.
Speaker 3: I didn't ruin the night, It was just a memory.
Speaker 3: The thing is he remembers it, so he wasn't too
Speaker 3: dry exactly.
Speaker 2: The problem is now Natalie is ghosting. So Brooke, take
Speaker 2: a break from putting your reservation and at the red envelope.
Speaker 1: Hoalse and what how do you feel about it?
Speaker 3: My hometown was more like bush light and you'd wrestle
Speaker 3: a pig, you know.
Speaker 1: They started.
Speaker 3: The problem is is it's a singles party, so she
Speaker 3: could have easily just met somebody else that night. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Like that's the whole point in the red envelope is
Speaker 3: so you go around and.
Speaker 2: Oh you're talking about before the envelopes were handed out, Yes, yea,
Speaker 2: and like.
Speaker 3: The friend that she had to find at the end
Speaker 3: of the party air quotes was probably the person she
Speaker 3: was talking to before him.
Speaker 2: Alvin, did you notice Natalie speaking with any other guys.
Speaker 4: I mean, I did notice her speaking with other guys,
Speaker 4: not like you know, I'm sure.
Speaker 3: That's what the point is. That's like asking you. It's
Speaker 3: not like they signed a contract that you could only
Speaker 3: go out with this person in the red envelope.
Speaker 2: You don't know who's in the red envelope for the
Speaker 2: first hour jet it's a red envelope with a red
Speaker 2: flag attached to.
Speaker 1: I'm worried, but let's call Natalie here and see what
Speaker 1: she has to say. Here we go, Hello, Hey, is
Speaker 1: this Natalie?
Speaker 5: Yes, this is Natalie. Who is this?
Speaker 2: My name is jeff and I'm part of a radio
Speaker 2: show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning. We're all
Speaker 2: here eager to talk to you.
Speaker 4: What.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we actually were given your phone number by one
Speaker 2: of our listeners that went out.
Speaker 1: It was kind of on a sort of a date.
Speaker 3: Met you at a dating party.
Speaker 2: Yeah, singles, And this segment is called second Date Update
Speaker 2: because we're trying to get you two back together and
Speaker 2: figure out if there's maybe chemistry or if if.
Speaker 1: You feel the same way.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Brooke. But this guy's name is Alvin.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, oh my god.
Speaker 2: Remember him from the Red On Remember him, right, I do,
Speaker 2: I do remember him.
Speaker 5: I'm just surprised.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Describe like what that party was like
Speaker 3: for you.
Speaker 1: Also, if it's one of those parties, you don't have
Speaker 1: to describe too much.
Speaker 5: So I just I had never been to one, So
Speaker 5: I don't know what to tell you about it because
Speaker 5: I didn't stay.
Speaker 3: You didn't say, well, I don't say he stayed very
Speaker 3: long either? Did you meet somebody else? Is that what
Speaker 3: it come down to, which is totally fine, that's the
Speaker 3: whole point of the party, right, success for you?
Speaker 5: Well, I've had friends who have done these parties, Like
Speaker 5: I was really just trying to to experience it and
Speaker 5: leave because my friends who've done his parties, they say
Speaker 5: that you should leave by midnight if you don't want to.
Speaker 5: You know that it can get pretty crazy, let's put
Speaker 5: it that way. And I was just trying to get
Speaker 5: out of there.
Speaker 3: Is it really actually one of those I think?
Speaker 1: Can you elaborate? What do you know what happens at midnight?
Speaker 5: I heard that they open up these like other rooms
Speaker 5: for activities after midnight, and I just that's not really
Speaker 5: my damn. Like each one apparently has a theme.
Speaker 3: I don't know, are you not calling Alvin back because
Speaker 3: you think he stayed, or are you not calling him
Speaker 3: like I don't understand why you still or the fact
Speaker 3: that he was at that party.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I think I made the assumption that
Speaker 5: he's been to more than one, maybe a bunch of these,
Speaker 5: and that's not really my thing. I'm not into that
Speaker 5: after midnight.
Speaker 2: If you think that you're making an assumption there, I
Speaker 2: don't know if it's fair to jump to a full
Speaker 2: conclusion until we actually talked to Alvin himself.
Speaker 3: Because he seems like such an innocent guy him.
Speaker 2: And you don't even have to wait because Alvin is
Speaker 2: on the other line right now, listening to this conversation
Speaker 2: from a secret room in your studio.
Speaker 3: Don't say that.
Speaker 4: Yes I'm here.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, what is happening?
Speaker 4: Natalie?
Speaker 3: Did I die? Did you say after midnight?
Speaker 1: Alvin? Do you know what she's talking about with the
Speaker 1: extra rooms that open up? Yes?
Speaker 4: I do?
Speaker 1: You do you? And you're laughing?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 4: Bro? Well yeah, I mean she laughed, and like I said,
Speaker 4: I was kind of feeling it, you know, and I
Speaker 4: was like, all here.
Speaker 3: Well, assumption.
Speaker 1: I'm afraid to go into any more details of what
Speaker 1: actually happens. Did you partake or are you just enjoying
Speaker 1: the view?
Speaker 4: Brother, I was just enjoying the view.
Speaker 3: Why in the world would you contact a radio show
Speaker 3: if this is the type of event that you want to.
Speaker 2: Why did you You didn't mention any of this to us?
Speaker 4: True, you guys asked me to talk about the date part.
Speaker 4: That's the part that I was interested in talking with
Speaker 4: you guys about the rest of the party. In the
Speaker 4: event and stuff is like another story.
Speaker 2: Okay, well sure, but it's a pretty important detail.
Speaker 1: I think to bring up, like the.
Speaker 4: Story end when Natalie left, like afterwards, that was just on.
Speaker 3: This, you know, Okay, we don't need to I mean,
Speaker 3: is this making you feel better or worse? Natalie?
Speaker 5: I mean I don't like the idea of him watching
Speaker 5: other people? Yeah, I don't like. Why does he want
Speaker 5: to contact me.
Speaker 4: Because you were not interested in Like I was thinking
Speaker 4: about you the whole rest of the night, Like that's
Speaker 4: all I want other people.
Speaker 5: Thinking of me.
Speaker 2: That's so, well, why do you have the party?
Speaker 3: You're not into that type of people, Like, Natalie, what
Speaker 3: are you doing? That's actually but sometimes you don't know
Speaker 3: until you try it.
Speaker 5: Right now, Yeah, I was trying to just do something
Speaker 5: outside of the box because I'm not super adventurous, but
Speaker 5: I definitely have boundaries as far as not wanting to
Speaker 5: participate in the late night activities.
Speaker 4: Okay, you guys are going to sound like I'm some
Speaker 4: kind of total freaker's into like the wild. This is
Speaker 4: the first time, just like Natalie, the first time I
Speaker 4: ever went to one of these things.
Speaker 3: Were some of us are jealous, like a podcast about
Speaker 3: these crazy How.
Speaker 1: Long were you there?
Speaker 4: So like like three, a little after three, like three
Speaker 4: thirty something?
Speaker 1: You watched for three hours.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'll only really actually watched like this one
Speaker 4: room called the ascot room. That's the only one that
Speaker 4: I the ascot room. You know what ascots are like
Speaker 4: those ties like scarves.
Speaker 1: It's actually a smart idea, Sila.
Speaker 4: Pretty creative.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, that's so gross. I don't what I
Speaker 5: say to that.
Speaker 2: Well, look, he didn't use one of the ascots. He
Speaker 2: just watched people with the ascots.
Speaker 5: Oh no, But I like, oh no, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 5: I don't know why I shouldn't have pulled you out
Speaker 5: of that bush. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Different meanings before I ask officially Alvin, is there anything
Speaker 2: else that you want to say to Natalie, like a
Speaker 2: like a final plea.
Speaker 1: Maybe I just.
Speaker 4: Want to say, like I thought we had a good
Speaker 4: turn before, and it's not like like I said, I'm
Speaker 4: not like into that scene. That's not like my place
Speaker 4: and my people or something. And you got to admit
Speaker 4: we were having a good time at least I think
Speaker 4: we were good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, and he obviously his intentions was to
Speaker 3: meet one person.
Speaker 5: Okay, Well, I just need to know are you going
Speaker 5: to go to the next one.
Speaker 4: I mean, if you wanted to go with me to
Speaker 4: one of those, that would be cool, but I'm not
Speaker 4: going to be going by myself.
Speaker 3: Well I was a little soon to say that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's not too soon to ask if we
Speaker 2: can facilitate another meet up between.
Speaker 1: The two of you. We have a red envelope party
Speaker 1: over at Chili.
Speaker 3: I'm going to see you in the baby bedroom.
Speaker 5: That's what I was going to say, as long as
Speaker 5: there aren't extra rooms being opened up after.
Speaker 1: Okay, you're open to it.
Speaker 5: You know what I am, because like I said, I'm
Speaker 5: trying to be adventurous. And it sounds like he went
Speaker 5: and he committed to the experience, but it doesn't sound
Speaker 5: like it's something that he does all the time.
Speaker 3: Oh my.
Speaker 1: Janitor's classes gradus. You got yourself another day?
Speaker 4: Yes, but I really am.
Speaker 3: Is it gonna be so sweet when you guys tell this
Speaker 3: story when you met?
Speaker 2: Yeah, everybody has red as Scots in the wedding party.
Speaker 4: No, just on honeymoon night.
Speaker 3: They can watch freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: That's weird.
Speaker 2: Just opened my email and got an invite to a
Speaker 2: black envelope party. They say they provide you with a
Speaker 2: free wheelchair if you attend.
Speaker 1: Does anybody know what this is? Yeah, dude, jeff you
Speaker 1: know what. I'm just gonna accept it that night. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stay after hours and just see what happens. I
Speaker 1: think you'll be fine than Yeah.
Speaker 2: Is anybody else shocked that Natalie said yes to the
Speaker 2: second date offer.
Speaker 1: I am a little bit and still shot.
Speaker 3: He called into a radio station after attend something like that.
Speaker 3: I know that is like, it's beyond me.
Speaker 1: Here's my theory and it's a total theory. She is still.
Speaker 3: Slightly in the back of her head.
Speaker 1: In the weirdest way. Interested. She showed up to the party,
Speaker 1: looked around, she left. She knows what happened, and she
Speaker 1: knows what happened after.
Speaker 2: And she still said, well, she's looking for somebody to
Speaker 2: be her shirpa, to help like guide her to me
Speaker 2: to the post midnight activity. Yeah, could just be the Hey,
Speaker 2: he's honest, he said, he just watched Yeah, okay for
Speaker 2: four hours.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's good.
Speaker 3: When do you become an expert? How many hours do
Speaker 3: you have to get in?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Is that how that works?
Speaker 1: You're an expert? Do they kick you out?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You would think if you're a first timer at one
Speaker 2: of these, you'd leave after ten minutes.
Speaker 1: But yeah, he soaked it up.
Speaker 3: Nothing shakes this guy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyway, we need to go, but make sure to
Speaker 2: listen to any of our second dates. Wherever you get
Speaker 2: your podcasts, they're available at Brook and Jeffrey. You can
Speaker 2: always email the show to We'll try and call that
Speaker 2: person who's not calling you back.