Speaker 1: Second date update. We have a guy named Arlow on
Speaker 1: the phone for a second date update, and Arlow, I
Speaker 1: saw your email and I read all about your date,
Speaker 1: and I think the most interesting part to me was
Speaker 1: that the girl got to your place early and you
Speaker 1: didn't let her in. That's true. I'm curious to hear
Speaker 1: about that. But first tell me what's the girl's name?
Speaker 1: Dina Dinah? Okay, Arlow, Before we get too far into this,
Speaker 1: do you know why she's not calling you back? Or
Speaker 1: are you totally mystified? Um? I think there could be
Speaker 1: a few things. Okay, okay, So we'll start at the beginning.
Speaker 1: When she arrived early for the date. How early is early? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She was at least fifteen minutes early. Okay, so that's
Speaker 1: not too early, bro, I thought you're talking about an hour.
Speaker 1: Was the date hanging out at your house or was
Speaker 1: she just meeting you there and you guys were going
Speaker 1: somewhere right exactly? We were meeting there and then go
Speaker 1: on out. Okay, okay, okay, but you would still plan
Speaker 1: for her to be come up to your apartment or whatever? Right?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I always run late, so I hate
Speaker 1: people that are early. So what did you say, would
Speaker 1: you tell her when she got there? I just said
Speaker 1: it like, hey, I'm sorry, I'm not ready. Do you
Speaker 1: mind coming back in a little bit? Coming back? Why
Speaker 1: don't you just say I'll be right down, give me five. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I wasn't really thinking it, just it just came out
Speaker 1: of my mouth. Okay, that is so you shut the
Speaker 1: door on her. Thanks? Do you have an appointment? Yeah?
Speaker 1: What did she say to this? To me, it sounded
Speaker 1: kind of like she didn't know what to say, but
Speaker 1: she'd stay Okay. Yeah, this is an interesting strategy. Keep
Speaker 1: the girl waiting before the date even starts. I don't
Speaker 1: make her in a really good mood. Yeah, it's not
Speaker 1: even waiting, it's sending her home. So was it like
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes later you guys then started your date or what? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She came back actually probably like a half hour later,
Speaker 1: which was you know, honestly, that was fine with me
Speaker 1: because I didn't need a little bit more time. Can
Speaker 1: I just say, what were you doing? Just had like
Speaker 1: a bunch of I had to do before I got
Speaker 1: don't ask a man what he was doing. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: we don't know. We have no idea asking all these
Speaker 1: questions just let us be. So what did you end
Speaker 1: up doing for the actual date? Harlow? So we had
Speaker 1: talked before about how much we like breakfast food, and
Speaker 1: I knew a little cafe down the street that served breakfast. Okay, win,
Speaker 1: that's a great date idea. Yeah. Yeah, So we're walking
Speaker 1: and she's quiet, we're not talking. I wasn't sure if
Speaker 1: obviously she could have been upset for the weight, or
Speaker 1: if she was just angry. I guess is what you
Speaker 1: would say. They're not starting things off very well. Did
Speaker 1: pancakes and bacon fix anything? Well? It was still like awkwardly,
Speaker 1: So I tried to break the ice by talking about
Speaker 1: bad dates, like a history of that, Like, I see,
Speaker 1: he's trying to make her remember other worst dates than
Speaker 1: this one so that this one comes off looking good.
Speaker 1: You know, I actually don't think it's bad. Like self
Speaker 1: deprecating humor can be really funny. It's right, it's all
Speaker 1: about delivery. So he's like, hey, at least I didn't
Speaker 1: stab you like some other dates. Right, Yeah, I made
Speaker 1: the last date wait too. Wow, Yeah, it's all about delivery.
Speaker 1: So yeah, this sounds really fun. Did she laugh? Yeah?
Speaker 1: She laughed at my story. What was your story? This
Speaker 1: one time I went out with this girl and when
Speaker 1: I met up with her, she was just like, I
Speaker 1: just want you to know that my dad's in the machia,
Speaker 1: so you better treat me right now. Oh wow, God.
Speaker 1: Do you think she was telling the truth or was
Speaker 1: she just trying to scare you into a good date? Well,
Speaker 1: the next day there was a horse's head in my
Speaker 1: bad Okay, you're funny, got some humor, all right? And
Speaker 1: it's good too, because like you're admitting, like I understand
Speaker 1: that things are not going the way I want them to, like,
Speaker 1: and that's a good thing to do. Yeah, all a
Speaker 1: woman wants us to admit that you're wrong sometimes. Yes.
Speaker 1: What was her story? She said something about like a
Speaker 1: date that she had with this guy where they were
Speaker 1: going to go to a concert, and when she got there,
Speaker 1: the guy he had a girlfriend that he invited, and
Speaker 1: then I guess the guy, to make matters worse, he
Speaker 1: asked the two of them to kiss. Yeah. Yeah, look
Speaker 1: at the guy in the room. Yeah. I thought you
Speaker 1: guys were supposed to be talking about bad days dates.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're getting things back on track on
Speaker 1: this date. Maybe, Yeah, you know it was good to
Speaker 1: kind of relate, I think, you know, I know obviously
Speaker 1: first dates are usually awkward. Anyways, and we got to talking,
Speaker 1: but then the food came out, and it was kind
Speaker 1: of bad timing because the food is so good that
Speaker 1: you just you didn't want to talk. All you want
Speaker 1: to do eat just scar Yeah. Plus she waited a
Speaker 1: really long time because of you. Yeah, she started. Okay,
Speaker 1: so how did this date end? So we finished eating,
Speaker 1: and after the check came out and all that, I
Speaker 1: asked her if she wanted to just come back in
Speaker 1: my place? Oh, like right then, yeah, like even longer,
Speaker 1: just to keep the date going, keep the awkward silence alive. Yeah, Hey,
Speaker 1: do you want to come back to my house to
Speaker 1: just not talk? Yeah? What did you say? That's really funny?
Speaker 1: He's charming. Well, she actually said she already had plans. Yeah,
Speaker 1: who makes plans after a date? Well, to be fair,
Speaker 1: it was thirty minutes later than it was supposed to
Speaker 1: be starting, so after two hours together. And sometimes you
Speaker 1: always make plans after a date. That way, one you
Speaker 1: can cut it off when it's like we've them wanting
Speaker 1: more type situation, or if it's bad, you have an
Speaker 1: excuse to get out totally. I always leave the night
Speaker 1: open because I know I'm getting I know, to the woman. Yeah, actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: makes sense though. All right, so she turned you down
Speaker 1: for that? Did you end it with a kiss, a hug, anything,
Speaker 1: just like a normal friendly hug? Okay, okay, well that's good.
Speaker 1: That's okay, at least completely. Normally that wouldn't be great
Speaker 1: at the end of the day. But you guys came
Speaker 1: a long way to get there, all right, So let's
Speaker 1: play a song. We are a little bit early here,
Speaker 1: so you're gonna have to wait thirty minutes. But then
Speaker 1: we'll come back and we'll call Dina and try and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. Okay, all right, hold on
Speaker 1: her low. Yeah. Look, I know I said i'd come
Speaker 1: back after the song to do your second date update,
Speaker 1: but I'm not quite ready yet. All right, I need
Speaker 1: a little extra time. Can you just hold please? Okay, Jeffrey,
Speaker 1: we don't we don't have time for this. Okay, I
Speaker 1: know it's funny, busy, Okay, I just hold on Lily
Speaker 1: like looking at just got a prep Just give me
Speaker 1: a second, you're prepping, all right, We're back your second
Speaker 1: date update? Arlow. Was I worth the wait, I could
Speaker 1: totally relate to not being ready. So the only man
Speaker 1: in the room that understands what Jeffrey just went through.
Speaker 1: Just to recap Arlow started his date on the wrong foot,
Speaker 1: we think, because the girl showed up to his place
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes early and he told her no, come back later.
Speaker 1: He was busy, so thirty minutes went by, and then
Speaker 1: the girl came back. They ended up having some awkward
Speaker 1: silence on the walk to the restaurant, talked about bad
Speaker 1: dates from their past, and then had a pretty quiet
Speaker 1: meal too. So he's not getting a call back, and
Speaker 1: we're going to try and help him figure out why. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be great. I'm trying to figure it out myself. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, I just think this one boils down to
Speaker 1: a bad first impression. Maybe she got home, she started
Speaker 1: thinking out of the date, and like that, stuff just
Speaker 1: kept popping in her mind. I also think if we
Speaker 1: can get you a second date, Arlo, the best advice
Speaker 1: I could give you would be to be fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: late to even out this whole nundrum. To be early no,
Speaker 1: because she was early, Okay the middle Please do not
Speaker 1: follow Jose's math, you know, just show up on time. Okay,
Speaker 1: there we go, let's move forward, all right. Are you
Speaker 1: ready to do this Harlow? Yeah, okay, I'm gonna call
Speaker 1: Dina right now and get your second date update. Actually,
Speaker 1: you know what, can just wait one more second? Hold? Please?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, sorry I had to readjust there. Okay,
Speaker 1: here we go, let's do your second date update. Hello. Hi,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for Dina. This is Dina. Hey Dina. My
Speaker 1: name is Jeffrey from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the Morning. How are you doing. Um, I'm okay, okay,
Speaker 1: it's good. That's good. That's a good start, Dina. We're
Speaker 1: hoping you have a second to chat with us a
Speaker 1: little bit. Sorry, what is it for. It's for a
Speaker 1: segment that we do on our show called a second
Speaker 1: date Update. That's where if you go out with someone
Speaker 1: and afterwards, if that person isn't calling you back, you
Speaker 1: can email us and we'll reach out to them for
Speaker 1: you to try and help you figure out the reason why.
Speaker 1: Oh great, Um, yeah, I really liked your response. It's
Speaker 1: more fun than it sounds, I promised, Dina. I mean,
Speaker 1: and it does mean that someone really liked you, so
Speaker 1: that's always a positive. You know they're going the extra
Speaker 1: mile to try to see you again. Yeah, that's fine, Fine,
Speaker 1: that's fine. Okay, Well, can I tell you a little
Speaker 1: bit about the guy who emailed us? His name is Arlow?
Speaker 1: Oh okay, not oh Rlow, it's a name. There were
Speaker 1: you hoping for somebody else? I was hoping not to
Speaker 1: have to talk about Harlow? Okay, okay. Well, Harlow emailed
Speaker 1: us and told us all about the day that you
Speaker 1: guys spent together, and he had a lot of nice
Speaker 1: things to say about you. And now he's a little
Speaker 1: bit confused about why you're not reaching out to him.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm surprised he's confused. I think it's kind
Speaker 1: of obvious. I mean, he told us that maybe he
Speaker 1: didn't make the best first impression, and there was some
Speaker 1: awkward silence and stuff in the beginning of the date.
Speaker 1: Is that all he said? No, he told us that
Speaker 1: you showed up fifteen minutes early, and he asked you
Speaker 1: if you could come back a little bit later. Did
Speaker 1: he tell you why? He said he was busy. I'm
Speaker 1: surprised that you came back because that is such a
Speaker 1: weird request. Instead of just saying, hey, can you wait
Speaker 1: five minutes. I'll be down in a minute. Yeah. If
Speaker 1: he had said that, it probably would have been better.
Speaker 1: But who he just made it so weird. How So
Speaker 1: I got there early and I came back like a
Speaker 1: half hour later, and when we actually met up and
Speaker 1: started talking, he was like, yeah, sorry about that. I
Speaker 1: just had to do what guys do. What does that mean?
Speaker 1: I hope it doesn't mean what I'm thinking. It means
Speaker 1: video games. My mind went either pooping, yeah, or something
Speaker 1: else in the bathroom. Oh, a different type of preparation
Speaker 1: before I date. I see what you're saying. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so I was like, well, I'm just gonna hope it
Speaker 1: was pooping. Yeah, it's not a good time when that's
Speaker 1: your best option exactly. Maybe he was nervous and like
Speaker 1: foot and mouth type of moment, right, I mean maybe,
Speaker 1: But my immediate reaction I was just like pooping and
Speaker 1: he was like, oh no, not that he did. He
Speaker 1: say it in that same tone that one. Yeah, d
Speaker 1: that tone is so creepy. Yeah it is, it is.
Speaker 1: I mean, where do you even go from there? At
Speaker 1: a conversation like you literally have just met someone. In
Speaker 1: the first five minutes, you're finding out a lot You're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's why the conversation was so awkward, and there was
Speaker 1: so much silence, Like I didn't know what to say
Speaker 1: after that. My god, it's a hard jumping off point
Speaker 1: for the conversation. I mean, what do you turn into?
Speaker 1: So you like bacon for dinner? Yeah? Wow? So are
Speaker 1: you saying From that moment on it just ruined it
Speaker 1: for you? And the day never got better. Um, at
Speaker 1: the end, it got a little better. We started having
Speaker 1: fun talking about a bad date path Okay, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I went out with this guy named Arlo One. Yeah awkward.
Speaker 1: Well I mean at least that's a good sign and
Speaker 1: maybe things were getting back on track. Um. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: then it came time to pay the bill and yeah,
Speaker 1: if I wanted to go back to his place, which
Speaker 1: I think personally it's just kind of creepy on a
Speaker 1: first date period, but it's the way he did it.
Speaker 1: He said, So I think I'm recovered from earlier. You
Speaker 1: want to go back to my place? Oh? No, anything,
Speaker 1: but what a charmer? Oh no, wonder you said no?
Speaker 1: I mean I didn't even say no. I just knew
Speaker 1: I was never going to see him again. Yeah, I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: I don't even know why he called us. If it
Speaker 1: sounds like he was just looking for a hook up
Speaker 1: that night, I don't know. I mean, look, Dina, maybe
Speaker 1: you'll never see him again, but you will have to
Speaker 1: hear him again because I need to tell you. He's
Speaker 1: been on the other line listening and he wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. He heard this, Yeah, he needed to
Speaker 1: hear it. This is a good lesson. Okay, harlow you there,
Speaker 1: I'm here. I love What are you doing? Don't oh,
Speaker 1: I was on the phone. I just mean, like, I
Speaker 1: will explain yourself, is what we're trying to say. So
Speaker 1: no one in the studio. Well, so you really did this.
Speaker 1: You actually told her or at least hinted at her
Speaker 1: what you were doing. I mean, you know, I wasn't
Speaker 1: gonna lie to you. Do You don't have to lie.
Speaker 1: You just don't bring up that specific activity. Could have
Speaker 1: just said I was busy. I was though, I was
Speaker 1: really busy. Okay, we get it. Manna. Are you even
Speaker 1: still there? Yeah, I'm here, and he's not making it better.
Speaker 1: So I mean, Arlo, I think you need to try
Speaker 1: saying something to Dina to get her to see you're
Speaker 1: not a horrible person. Horrible. Well you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: you're not some weirdo that that's telling girls what you're
Speaker 1: doing all the time. Yeah, yeah, you know. Listen, I'm
Speaker 1: a normal guy that does normal things, and I do
Speaker 1: normal guy things often. But okay, stop saying normal guy things.
Speaker 1: Amelia times also a normal guy, bro, just so you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate that. I know too much. It's
Speaker 1: not just the beginning of the day, it's how you
Speaker 1: ended it too, telling her you recovered, Like, what is that?
Speaker 1: In my defense, she already knew what I did before
Speaker 1: I already told her. Yeah. Yeah, so she's probably wondering
Speaker 1: if I'm ready to go, and yeah I was. I
Speaker 1: don't know, Dina, were you wondering that? Is that the
Speaker 1: thought you had? Is that what was going through your mind?
Speaker 1: We wasn't what was on my mind at all? Oh
Speaker 1: what was on your mind, Dina? Not that? Yeah? Shocking.
Speaker 1: Nobody could have guessed that room. It really feels like
Speaker 1: you guys are all piling on me right now, and
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel fair at all. I mean, this is
Speaker 1: what guys do. It's normal. It's I was just answering
Speaker 1: her question and trying to just be cool. We're not
Speaker 1: saying We're not saying the action wasn't normal. Okay, we're
Speaker 1: saying that the discussion was too much. Here it is
Speaker 1: and now I have images of things piling on top
Speaker 1: of each other. This is not good. We need to
Speaker 1: end this. Yeah, and let me just ask Dina, would
Speaker 1: you like to go out on another date with Arlo?
Speaker 1: Will pay for it? Let me yes? No? Yeah, Arla, man,
Speaker 1: you just go hang up, go do what guys do.
Speaker 1: Maybe you feel a little bit better think about us. No,
Speaker 1: please don't, no, no, please don't. Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the morning,