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Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 1: talked back. What's up, y'all? Le's your girl? A J.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to a new episode of We Talked Back. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for joining us. Hey, y'all list tam bam. I

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Speaker 1: love y'all. How So, it was been at the college's

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Speaker 1: homecoming this weekend, and we attended the masquerade ball on

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Speaker 1: Friday night. It was a lot of fun. Did you

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Speaker 1: enjoy yourself? Yeah, it was good. I like to see

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Speaker 1: all the people. Girl. You lying? Girl? You lying? Like

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Speaker 1: hey J. We got it to our section. A J

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Speaker 1: did not leave the section the whole time. She drank

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Speaker 1: her drink, kept her little crow mask on the whole

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Speaker 1: night and was cute and that was it. Meanwhile, I

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Speaker 1: was moving around. I was moving around. Okay, you didn't

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Speaker 1: You don't remember it? Did you not remember anybody or anything?

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Speaker 1: Why you wasn't mingling? I mean I spoke to the

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Speaker 1: people I knew, But I don't know what you don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. God the antisocial a little bit sometimes whatever, girl,

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Speaker 1: So let's get into can we get into the meeting

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Speaker 1: potatoes the right episode? Because I don't want to waste

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Speaker 1: time on this This is a very special episode, you guys. Yes,

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Speaker 1: that's who we got on our show. Guess you ain't

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Speaker 1: never gonna guess. It's our daddy's y'all. So would you'all

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Speaker 1: like to introduce yourselves? Please? Sure. I'm Bryant. I am

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Speaker 1: Tammy's daddy, my help from Chicago. I'm sixty one years

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Speaker 1: old and I have no idea why Dammy invited me

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Speaker 1: on here for advice on relationships. But here we go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna introduce yourself some all right from a little

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Speaker 1: shy type of person. But I told her that I

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Speaker 1: tried to do my bess and we appreciate you for that.

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Speaker 1: So sho man be bad at sneaky for me to watch.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna ask you this question, both of y'all.

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Speaker 1: How did y'all meet our mama's I knew it was ambush.

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Speaker 1: I met your mother at cop and uh I was

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Speaker 1: a freshman and I don't remember what exactly classification she

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Speaker 1: you know, she was older than me, very cute, very polite,

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Speaker 1: is history. She is a bad red bone Alleen University. So, so,

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Speaker 1: how you met my mama? Um? I met aske you

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Speaker 1: mom and Charlene to my brother. She used to always

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Speaker 1: say a word down the street that she was she

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Speaker 1: liked me, but I always used to go down the way.

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Speaker 1: You know. One day I met up and we started

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Speaker 1: a communicating and everything went from there. Okay, cool cool,

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Speaker 1: So all right, enough about them because you'll don't even

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Speaker 1: date them no more. So we need to gonna go

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Speaker 1: down that road, thank you. I'd like to establish first,

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Speaker 1: I did not have daddy issues. My parents were married

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Speaker 1: when I was conceived. Yeah, I had a daddy. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you still got a daddy time where I had. I

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Speaker 1: still got a daddy that was mad good. Twenty years

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Speaker 1: same here, twenty years has to cut off. Seems like

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Speaker 1: that's a good run. That's a good run, ye man.

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Speaker 1: So all right, give me daddy some advice on You

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Speaker 1: know me very well. You probably know me better than

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Speaker 1: any man out there. Why do you think I'm still single?

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Speaker 1: And be totally transparent? I think that you're still single because, uh,

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Speaker 1: you move too fast and U you don't take time

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Speaker 1: to cultivate a relationship. It's like you three strikes you out, um,

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Speaker 1: and that's always been you. You're very stubborn independent, and

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Speaker 1: things don't go your way. You out yeah, because these

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Speaker 1: thinkers be playing with me. Daddy, I hear this all

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Speaker 1: the time, trust you, and I give her the same advice,

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Speaker 1: take your time, just taking slow. You understand. You know,

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Speaker 1: guys out here have game, and you know one of

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Speaker 1: your biggest pet peeves is honesty. Um. But I also

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Speaker 1: feel like, you know, you may fall into that category

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Speaker 1: of uh, checking the content of a man's wallet instead

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Speaker 1: of checking his his character first. And then when you

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Speaker 1: be loaded, you you kind of left holding the bag.

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Speaker 1: You don't like it, so you you move on. I've

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Speaker 1: heard you say, oh oh, daddy, this is the one

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Speaker 1: and the first thing you go into is is where

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Speaker 1: I can't stand that, Nick. I like a man that

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Speaker 1: can provide that he what's wrong with that? But well,

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Speaker 1: And that's I wish I could like just love a

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Speaker 1: I just want more exactly. I gotta like you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it's always easy to like a broken nigga. I

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Speaker 1: don't want no broke nigger. What why don't you find

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Speaker 1: privileged to take certain privileges with the women that he needs,

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Speaker 1: especially if he thinks that that's all that after is

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Speaker 1: his money. You know, so that's a two way street.

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Speaker 1: You got a lot of men who lead with money, right,

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Speaker 1: So they lead with money, and then when I tell

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Speaker 1: that stelf representation, right. Everybody comes out with their best,

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Speaker 1: then you know a lot of guys kind of get like,

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Speaker 1: who was playing your life being before I met you?

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Speaker 1: You know, I kind of think that every guy I

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Speaker 1: want to help out a little you know, in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: but for some reason another, So it's hard an it

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Speaker 1: is going into relationship. Um, actually, litle bit tear me.

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Speaker 1: She is her mother's daughter. I understand a lot about that.

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Speaker 1: But she said, what does that mean exactly? Yeah? What

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Speaker 1: means that you know she will take too much trash? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I believe that. Yeah, it could be a problem

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Speaker 1: when it started. So we're not gonna get into your mother.

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Speaker 1: I mean we can't if you want to go there. No, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: Do you do you think I'm like mama? You know it,

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Speaker 1: y'all can't even stay in the same room me and

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Speaker 1: my mom. Yeah, okay, there's some truth to that. Very

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Speaker 1: is just like my mama. I'm very catering, I'm very nurturing.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna cook for you, I'm clean for you. You You

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Speaker 1: like all in all the the women womanly things that

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Speaker 1: a man thinks a woman should be like, Like, that's

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Speaker 1: my mom and I'm like her, But don't play with me.

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Speaker 1: That's just it. So a lot of dudes they want

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Speaker 1: and they don't want you to say nothing about it,

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Speaker 1: Like they just want you to shut the hell up,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not going to shut up. Do you agree

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Speaker 1: with that, Daddy? I agree with what aspect. That was

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Speaker 1: a whole lot. She just men want want women to

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Speaker 1: I don't agree with that. I think, like I said,

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Speaker 1: do what they they tell them sacks right. I mean,

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Speaker 1: everybody want their way. Everybody wants their way, and I

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Speaker 1: think sometimes, like Jerome said, it's so hard today in

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Speaker 1: relationships because of that very fact. Everybody wants their way.

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Speaker 1: Nobody wants to understand the other person, and nobody wants

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Speaker 1: to compromise. It's like my way or highway, especially with

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Speaker 1: it's the men too. It's like it's just like your

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Speaker 1: because their job. As soon as you die that job

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Speaker 1: or have your space field the next day, why I'm

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Speaker 1: don't care about me. Same things in relationships. Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: part is that women, we don't have a lot of

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Speaker 1: quality options out there, you know what I'm saying. Like,

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Speaker 1: But we don't have the option men be having like

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Speaker 1: because then that's when they put up with all those

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Speaker 1: All that ship, all that ship. I told you, I

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Speaker 1: start dumping. So yeah, all that ship you'll break to

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Speaker 1: the song said, well it's it's the obviousite. But if

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Speaker 1: a dude, right want man? A woman's only human just

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Speaker 1: like her. Man, can we go and see what this is?

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Speaker 1: How I feel like I'm in? Aman? Does He'll be like, okay, baby,

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Speaker 1: to the side check house and be like, man, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you what happened over there. It's stressing me

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Speaker 1: out over there. He'll talking about the side bit. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: now she got all amal for me. When he gonna

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Speaker 1: How do you know the guy that you win has

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Speaker 1: a side chick? How does he not know you got

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Speaker 1: you got the back door guy yourself? Like, let me

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Speaker 1: tell you you you talking to you guys, like, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you what this nigga says, and the side

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Speaker 1: guys sitting there talking about for real that's crazy. Yeah right, hey,

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Speaker 1: look but we can't leave but that side man a

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Speaker 1: woman like, at what point do you take for the side.

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Speaker 1: We can't do that for a side. They're gonna leave

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Speaker 1: us when we leave. O man, I don't know. It

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Speaker 1: takes two to play. So at one point in the relationship,

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Speaker 1: even if you got side people, do you feel like

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Speaker 1: and work on on just your relations exclusive relationship because

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Speaker 1: it seems like me everybody has no trust. So everybody

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Speaker 1: you know, keeping their options. So when did you close

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Speaker 1: them options and just work on My mama told me

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Speaker 1: that a man don't close his options to his pencil

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Speaker 1: This is all I got to say. Now they got

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Speaker 1: medicine for that. Stop writing. That's right, So you gotta

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Speaker 1: come up with another option. Hold on, tam, let's stay

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Speaker 1: some bills. Both of y'all have been married for twenty

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Speaker 1: Mr Hart. You just said that you know there's no

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Speaker 1: for a man than than for some reason to one,

425
00:27:55,880 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 1: you know, a woman is more forgiven. It still comes

426
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: back to the big C word, a big commitment, you know,

427
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 1: are you committed? Are you ready? And some people get

428
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 1: confused with love. You know, yeah to somebody, but the

429
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:18,920
Speaker 1: woman loved you. Someone think that dude be beating up

430
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 1: on him he loved them? Yeah, No, I know people

431
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: like that. This guy said that the woman he was

432
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: dealing with, if he didn't beat her, she wouldn't feel

433
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 1: like he loved her. Someone some people think that way.

434
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 1: That's that's crazy right there, And that's why you gotta

435
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: be That's why you got to know people background and

436
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: how they were raised first of all. Right, the only

437
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 1: way you can experience like some type of love or

438
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 1: that that type of feeling is by somebody putting in

439
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: hands with me or yelling custom screaming you got a problem.

440
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: We got some type of emotional trauma that you need

441
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: to unpack with the therapist. At that point hold on, tim,

442
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: let's stay and they'll I was gonna ask them, um,

443
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: what advice would they give two young men right now

444
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: who are looking for love or men that are in relationships.

445
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: The advice I would give this is to be honest.

446
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with that woman what your intentions are.

447
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: And if you express your intentions and they're noble, then

448
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 1: live up to it and save you a whole lot

449
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: of heartache and it and money, most importantly money. That's

450
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 1: my advice. I think both of them need to be honest.

451
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 1: The man and the woman need to be honest with

452
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 1: each other. UM, and and any relationship. What I do,

453
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: I try to stay on it, but facially my daughters.

454
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: I got three dogs, so I just try to listen

455
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 1: more than anything when they come to me and ask me,

456
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: you know, innions, especially if they're going with somebody. I

457
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: just I tried, basis, just listen to them that I

458
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: get something, and I don't try to get in bold man,

459
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: he don't say nothing. You hear me like you know

460
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 1: how I be talking to him. I'll go on on on.

461
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 1: It's probably sounding like my mom or whatever, like I'm

462
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: really needed some type of advice, like I really need

463
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: my daddy to help me through, like am I tripping? Like?

464
00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: Am I tripping on his man? Or is he tripping

465
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 1: on me? Like give me some type of something. And

466
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 1: he'd be like, baby, just do your best. I hear that,

467
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: that's like friend, but he was. I was working up

468
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: there Columbia with him, trying to help him get that

469
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 1: food truck together, and he used to expressing me all

470
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: the time. I tell him, I feel you to say,

471
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 1: I'm playing just you know, kind of ignore without giving

472
00:30:55,840 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: him any advice. So you've been thing was to stay

473
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: out of it. Yeah, like hes gonna stay out of

474
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 1: it like completely though, Yeah, I try to stay out

475
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 1: the way. I just feel like when I asked my

476
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: daddy for advice when I'm actually in a relationship, it's

477
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 1: always this is how you're sucking up, and let me

478
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 1: tell you, and I get mad. You can't tell that

479
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: man to go to bed. Remember that time I tried

480
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: to make my ex go to bed because I had

481
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 1: to go to bed. Yea, my ex used to make

482
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: me go to bed. It was lights out, like prison

483
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: TV off on me and everything. I couldn't even I

484
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: used to have my handphones on to meditate when he

485
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 1: would be complaining about being able to hear the meditation

486
00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: music on my headphone. Like at this point we need

487
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:49,080
Speaker 1: to sleep in step the bedrooms because god damn, that's controlling. Said,

488
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: Maybe I was being controlling too people sail phone right,

489
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 1: all that crazy. I don't do that. No, I never

490
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: do that. But you know, Tam, I mean you can't

491
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: be a bit the man in that time kids, all

492
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 1: of us. It was a long time ago, right, So

493
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: now look I'm out here. I've been breaking up for

494
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: the last year. So whatever I've been having going on

495
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: in life. But what kind of advice do you do

496
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 1: y'all have for y'all single? Uh, thirty something year old daughters?

497
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 1: As far as relationships, should we get into one? Should

498
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:39,959
Speaker 1: we just stay single and die that way? Like? What

499
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: should we do? No, you can't single. Single A long

500
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: time before I got married and a man, I used

501
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 1: to go out all the time. Um, when you're single,

502
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 1: you're single. I want to say, stay single and die,

503
00:32:55,760 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: But that is easier that way. Yeah, single people do

504
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: live longer. Yeah, you ain't saying the world when you

505
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: say life it's easy because that's where you'd be sitting here, Like,

506
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: I want a relationship. I want somebody. I wants some boy.

507
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: You get somebody, and it's like, why the hell did

508
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 1: I manifest this bullshit? But the real question is is

509
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 1: what do you want? I mean, that's that's that's the key.

510
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 1: What do you want? Yeah, because everybody go through that's

511
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: a single person, you know. I just just lonely, nobody

512
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 1: talking to you? Five six friends, you're talking. I want

513
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 1: somebody when it's cold, and I want to be single

514
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: when it's hot. That's what you want for real town? No, No,

515
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: I just want to season no boyfriends. Yeah, I am

516
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: tired of using my mama as emergency contact. Okay to

517
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: me too. No, I do want I do want something

518
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 1: real one day, but I'm not going to I waited

519
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: this long, so I'm not going to force it or

520
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 1: lay my standards down by the riverside at this point. So, daddy,

521
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: what's your advice? Well, I mean you you just say

522
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: that you I mean, keep your standards, but you gotta

523
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: continue to live your life. But whatever standards that you have,

524
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 1: you have to present the same standards as well. So

525
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: don't have expectations of someone that you're not gonna meet yourself.

526
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 1: That's fair advice. He's out there. The next one is

527
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 1: out there somewhere. Yeah, if you're listening, baby, I'm here

528
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:54,800
Speaker 1: girl talking. So Daddy, I'm surprised you didn't say anything

529
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 1: about my mouth. I'm surprised. I mean everybody knows about

530
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 1: that by now. I mean, you know, I don't need

531
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 1: to speak on that. No, I think you should for

532
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 1: our listeners. They don't know. They don't they don't know.

533
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. He don't. Well, I tell you she

534
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 1: has a mouth on her and she's always at a

535
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: mouth on her since she started learning to talk. You ever,

536
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: mad ast mama. She said she's her mama Donna. And

537
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 1: I actually told her when she said she was having

538
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 1: this show, and she said she was getting paid to talk,

539
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 1: I said, well, that's got to be a god sent occupation,

540
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 1: because that's definitely your gift. We're bore communicators shout. I mean,

541
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:05,240
Speaker 1: we always effective, but we are healthy. Yeah, because we're

542
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 1: being kind of so, I would tell you Tammy talks ship.

543
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: I'm working on it. Though. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's

544
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:20,760
Speaker 1: not so, and sometimes it's not meant to be funny,

545
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it can be just all right. Yeah,

546
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 1: I know, but I listen. I have been actively working

547
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: on that because it's sometimes I'll be thinking of some

548
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: shing I'm about to say and I don't say it,

549
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: and then I don't even say it, and I'd be like,

550
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: look at the growth in the name of Jesus, Holland,

551
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: Holland Luia, hold it back. You know what what I've

552
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: been I've been starting to do is I think, how

553
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:55,280
Speaker 1: would I be affected if someone said the same exact

554
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 1: words to me, and that are determined if I should

555
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: say it now. Sometimes I'd be like, fun that and

556
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:04,280
Speaker 1: I say it anyway. But there's a lot of times

557
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 1: where I just, you know, I think about how I

558
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: would feel and I don't say nothing. I just think

559
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 1: it well. As my dad U tell me, and I

560
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:17,439
Speaker 1: never understood until I got a little bit older. He said,

561
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: you got to know when the hole and know when

562
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:23,399
Speaker 1: the folks right, and that's where to live by. Yeah,

563
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 1: but if I get too quiet, it's really over. As

564
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 1: long as I'm yelling, we good. I think that's what

565
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:35,240
Speaker 1: most women, that's what most women are. A silent woman

566
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 1: is dead. Do you think Black women are not submissive

567
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: enough in comparison to other women? I don't know. I

568
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 1: don't have anything to compare with. H I've always known

569
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 1: black women, and uh, I love black women, and I

570
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 1: don't I don't think I would want to super submissive

571
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: woman because of the type of person that I am,

572
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: I would run all over. Yeah, so I need, I

573
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: need to be checked sometimes. So I like a strong

574
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:11,919
Speaker 1: black woman that voices her opinion and makes her standards known.

575
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: And I admire you about that, Tim, You should always

576
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 1: be that type of person. You don't compromise the lower

577
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: standards for anyone, especially a Maine Thank you daddy. So

578
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: we right. So basically keep talking ship no, no when

579
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:33,879
Speaker 1: to hold them and know when the okay. Yeah, I've

580
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:37,400
Speaker 1: only been a relationship with black people. It is I

581
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: never another national. I know my brother, you woman is now. Yeah,

582
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 1: I think you have to say a problem because you

583
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: can't steal with him. I hope your brother not listening

584
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 1: to this show. You know. His problem is he be

585
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: getting white women who who don't take ship like black women.

586
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: So he got the best of both worlds. That's the problem.

587
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:16,799
Speaker 1: He can't, I think to him. But he had asked

588
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: some bluffs the days. Uh. Yeah, he had a son

589
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: of Germany and he got contact with my family up

590
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 1: at Baltimore. So you finally touched with him after thirty

591
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:33,720
Speaker 1: some years. How nice is that? M So my uncle

592
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 1: was in a military child he got probably got returning

593
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 1: all over and over one in Germany. He don't know

594
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 1: because I didn't asked him before. You don't know about one.

595
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: I got a question, what's one piece of practical advice

596
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 1: you wish you knew sooner? I probably man married with

597
00:39:56,520 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: the one woman. Practically place stay married to one woman.

598
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: That set you back along way? Is now when you

599
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:12,280
Speaker 1: got to start? Yeah? I realized that what about your daddy?

600
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: You know, you just gotta keep going. It's cheaper to

601
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: keep him. Yeah, that's basically what he's said too. But

602
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:30,759
Speaker 1: you can't. You got to keep me, That's right. No.

603
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 1: I wish I would have been more a little bit

604
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 1: more open and more honest and try to understand my

605
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: woman instead of trying to command all the time. And

606
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 1: that's basically it. Yeah, so y'all listening out there. Stop

607
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 1: trying to command us and just listen some damn time. Ship.

608
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 1: I don't think I said that, he looks. So what

609
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:07,319
Speaker 1: I'm here herring is do what I'm saying. The time

610
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: work out you don't have no damn no, no input

611
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:15,720
Speaker 1: though you're listening. Imagine you got a man who like y'all,

612
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 1: like he listened, he listening, but he ain't got no

613
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 1: like there's no exchange right after that, that's just as

614
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: bad advice. Guys, just after listen woman talk talk, No,

615
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:40,479
Speaker 1: my daddy is definitely going to exchange. My mom talked

616
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: circles around you. We're gonna have their ass on here too. Yeah,

617
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: we're gonna have them next. That should be an interest

618
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 1: in show. I don't know about your mom, but that's

619
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 1: Sarah heart, Daddy. I need you alone together because oh no,

620
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:05,879
Speaker 1: no wait, sorry to start bringing up. Oh shit, it's

621
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: gonna get nasty. Oh it's gonna get ring. I know

622
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: I didn't call you. My mama called him my ball

623
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 1: head and met for a real cluck. But crazy thing is,

624
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: my mom and my dad are the best of friends

625
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:26,320
Speaker 1: to this day, best of friends. Right, This is true.

626
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:32,439
Speaker 1: Art didn't get alone pretty good too when I told

627
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 1: her the podcast, that's that's suicide. That's that's gonna be

628
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:56,800
Speaker 1: our Christmas episode. What your talking about your final show? Goodness? Well,

629
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 1: in a relationship, was there something that you always wanted

630
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 1: to do but never had the chance to do it.

631
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 1: That's an interesting question that I'm gonna let you fail out.

632
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 1: I think I didn't basically everything in the relationship. That

633
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 1: relationship calls for um because if you started, we didn't

634
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:21,240
Speaker 1: have anything with poets help. We worked together and accumulated.

635
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 1: But if we did accumulated, try to raise three daughters

636
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Speaker 1: the best we can. So um, I think that's about it.

637
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 1: And I left for me to really think that. I

638
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I wish I had, like I said, being

639
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:38,840
Speaker 1: more patient, but more understanding and more um I understand,

640
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: I said, I understanding, and the relationship you got to

641
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: have a d understanding each other. Everybody got and both

642
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: parties got to be able to communicate and talk. Once

643
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: you lose the communication and that left. That's a fact

644
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 1: that you I'm agree with drawne. I mean, I've been

645
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 1: saying that since since top for the show, that that communication,

646
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: fact and understanding is the key. You know. It's unfortunate

647
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 1: it took me so many years to realize that. But

648
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 1: so what I'm hearing is y'all telling us to wait

649
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 1: until me about sixty to get married. No, that is

650
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 1: not what your theory. That's what it sound like, Yeah,

651
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 1: I see. I was hoping you what what I think?

652
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 1: What drown and I are saying, don't wait until you

653
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 1: get that age to start realizing that communication and understanding

654
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:45,400
Speaker 1: and it's not always about your way of the highway

655
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: is as a key ingredient in a relationship. You got

656
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 1: to have some type of compromise and commitment with somebody

657
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:57,280
Speaker 1: that you actually really love and you want to take

658
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 1: that long walk down that road. I was hoping that

659
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: you were gonna say something like I wish that I

660
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 1: took your mother to Paris, or I took your mother

661
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: to the moon, or something that saddled it and lasted

662
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:11,800
Speaker 1: and pulled it down to her. That was the answer

663
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 1: I was looking for. Well, I wasn't exactly thinking that

664
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: in terms of I was thinking something else. But you know,

665
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 1: this is a PG show, But no, it ain't. Well,

666
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: I wanted to three something in my back right, so

667
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 1: I didn't want to do that. So but no, that

668
00:45:40,320 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: was you know, her friend Paula, Remember her friend Paula. Yeah,

669
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: goodness from Africa. He was Chicago, Illinois. That's closing up,

670
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,320
Speaker 1: all right, y'all. Thank you all for joining us today

671
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 1: for this lightning conversation. I need to shut up sometimes

672
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: I need to communicate and be understanding, and I need

673
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:34,160
Speaker 1: to wait till my nigga sixty five. That's all I got.

674
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 1: That's all I got from it on. We talked about

675
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: money earlier. Can we bring a broke nigger home? Like

676
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 1: y'all bring a man that you knew couldn't take care

677
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: of me to your house? Like, I'm not even gonna

678
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 1: ask that question because I know my daddy would look

679
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 1: at me like, what the hell? I already know what's home?

680
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 1: That is, if you don't get this brokenig up out

681
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:19,800
Speaker 1: of here right now, I'm asking about ten dollars for

682
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: gas to get my daughter home. You broke ass, I

683
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:40,279
Speaker 1: think my old daughter home. I put the dog on him.

684
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 1: He's gonna put mysk on uh. Yeah. So they got

685
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 1: higher standards for their daughters in their half, for the

686
00:47:55,920 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 1: women that they married, apparently. Yeah, well I understand, woman,

687
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 1: because as like I said, I got three girls and

688
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 1: I haven't understand. So I understand they got three three

689
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: girls too. Yeah, yeah, a little more protective of them.

690
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: Do you do you feel like fathers that are loving

691
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: to their daughters and their wives and should it be

692
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: that way. Yeah, I mean, I mean, your daughters are

693
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 1: your baby, so I don't know. But but the Bible says,

694
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 1: my daddy, that your wife should become your wife, and

695
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 1: your husband should come first, and then the children because

696
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: the children go on with their lives and your spouse

697
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:48,840
Speaker 1: is with you forever. Yeah, that's that's what the Bible says.

698
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:51,439
Speaker 1: But does it always work that way? It don't never

699
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:54,879
Speaker 1: work that way? So then why why y'all get mad?

700
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:57,919
Speaker 1: All right? So I saw where, uh they said, who

701
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 1: gets the biggest piece of chicken? The and who should

702
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: eat first? The kids or the daddy? Who do you

703
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 1: feel like I should eat first at the table the kids?

704
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: Like you know in the back of the old rap,

705
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 1: you see the rab got the big piece of chicken.

706
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,600
Speaker 1: You ain't lives wrote? My daddy said. When he was

707
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: a kid, he wanted to be a preacher because he

708
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:39,919
Speaker 1: always got the biggest piece of chicken standing the man.

709
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 1: That is so true. Women back then would be worshiping

710
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 1: the church and the reverend more than they worshiped the

711
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:49,439
Speaker 1: person who actually putting the food on the table. That's right.

712
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 1: M was the type of person like this here. Um,

713
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 1: my wife always I didn't mind cooking a little dinner,

714
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:02,799
Speaker 1: cleaning loans, you know, because she had a job. Well,

715
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 1: these men nowadays, we got to cook, we got to clean,

716
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:09,800
Speaker 1: and work, work, We got to raise kids, got to

717
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,320
Speaker 1: help you build a business. We got to do all

718
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: of these things and have sex on the man. Yeah,

719
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 1: all of that and be and be happy. Yeah, that's

720
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: that's fine. I have two job, guys, and not like that. Yeah,

721
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:29,839
Speaker 1: I had two jobs back in the day when I

722
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: was first up. Man, I still have to come on ticket,

723
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:39,040
Speaker 1: but this too. That's why I go to my second job.

724
00:50:41,960 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: And you was tired to wasn't you drawn like choice?

725
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 1: Pretty sure? Y'all wanted the business more than my mom.

726
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 1: You are no mama. You don't think like man. I

727
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:15,399
Speaker 1: don't know. I can't speak for my mom on that one, now,

728
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, it's trying to wrap it up. Yeah,

729
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: it's time for me to go. You know, some people know. Listen, guys,

730
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: thank y'all so much. I love you both for coming

731
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 1: on our show and being so transparent and honest with

732
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:41,439
Speaker 1: us and our listeners. Y'all helped us out a lot.

733
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:45,760
Speaker 1: We're both gonna have new husbands next year. Watch based

734
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:50,439
Speaker 1: on this. This enlightenment. We gotta speak. If we gotta

735
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,880
Speaker 1: meet them, we got to meet them soon, like this

736
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 1: next weekend. Let's go out again and get my fire

737
00:51:59,320 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 1: to juice from. I'm gonna pray for you and whoever

738
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: you need. Please, all right, y'all listen. If you guys

739
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode with our daddy's like our real daddy's,

740
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:18,759
Speaker 1: because you know, you can't choose your father, but you

741
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 1: can choose your daddy. Look, if y'all enjoyed this episode,

742
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: please tune in every Thursday on the I Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: app or wherever you get your podcasts at. This is

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748
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Speaker 1: for some interns, you guys. So if you're good with

749
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Speaker 1: social media, if you're good with graphic design, if you

750
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Speaker 1: have any skills, hit us up. We're looking for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we need some young people because alright, God bet y'all