Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to another episode of Horry Blade Dczy on uh
Speaker 1: this year, girl, Mandy be you already know what it is.
Speaker 1: We are wrapping up this hell of a year. I'm
Speaker 1: sitting next to my co host who goes by Wheezy,
Speaker 1: and I am going to force her to have two
Speaker 1: A K s right now. Think fast, Patty, and there
Speaker 1: we go. So you really do have ak Hi guys, welcome,
Speaker 1: I'm super do it. This will be a third one.
Speaker 1: Someone says something that was weepy on Patreon. Mandy misspelled
Speaker 1: my name in a and she said, did you do
Speaker 1: weepy on purpose? That was so funny? Oh, crying as
Speaker 1: whole now. Anyways, y'all, somehow we did make it UM
Speaker 1: to the end of twenty twenty. UM. I guess I
Speaker 1: guess we'll start by saying, I guess let's let's start
Speaker 1: by both saying one thing a piece that we completely
Speaker 1: did not expect to do in UM business related, career related,
Speaker 1: UM or horrible decisions related. That's fine, especially because we did,
Speaker 1: as many of you guys know, how to cancel our tour,
Speaker 1: which we thought we would be able to get back
Speaker 1: up and run in by a fall and winter, and
Speaker 1: it didn't happen. I still wanted to go to Atlanta.
Speaker 1: Was really fine, we look will Matt check that Championshure
Speaker 1: won't be fine. She literally was like me, we could
Speaker 1: still do it, man, ain't how do they gonna how
Speaker 1: are they gonna? Bring it back to the Horrible Decisions
Speaker 1: live show where they caught COVID and I was like, no, bro,
Speaker 1: the world is shutting down. And I think this was
Speaker 1: right when NBA season. I said there's no way we
Speaker 1: can do a live show and basketball ain't even playing
Speaker 1: a whole. I just felt like, literally, I think that's
Speaker 1: what what was like, No, bro, we can't do it.
Speaker 1: Like I guess maybe we uz a k. I just
Speaker 1: feel like, but I just feel like we you know.
Speaker 1: What actually made me the most sad was meet and
Speaker 1: Greet That will change forever. That will Jesus and Merrill
Speaker 1: had a virtual live show because they had a book tour.
Speaker 1: They were supposed to come out and they did a
Speaker 1: virtual meet and greet and I was like, we'd be
Speaker 1: on I G Live and we do our patron Town
Speaker 1: halls once a month. There's just no way. I think
Speaker 1: I would feel awful charge someone for a goddamn zoom,
Speaker 1: like hey, hey in there, like no ingrates are just
Speaker 1: such a they're there. Don't take this the wrong way
Speaker 1: for anybody listening. They are the most draining part of
Speaker 1: the show because they are the most we give the
Speaker 1: most energy in those right well, and as impasts or
Speaker 1: like a lot of people share their stories and how
Speaker 1: horrible decisions has effectively not only changed their lives but
Speaker 1: their relationships. A lot of people will be with their
Speaker 1: partners and so we're taking in do you remember the
Speaker 1: autistic guy that met his girlfriend? It's like because we
Speaker 1: like gave red some homemail and he was like I
Speaker 1: met her because like, dude, I know, there's just a
Speaker 1: lot with Seriously, if you guys are looking on YouTube,
Speaker 1: I'm wearing a huge bomber jacket because it's actually fairly cold.
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna get in these collar bones today a
Speaker 1: bitches on a juice die bitch. I was like, I don't.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do three days, but I am going to
Speaker 1: go back to what my diet was post surgery, So
Speaker 1: back to liquid only super intake on protein shakes, water
Speaker 1: and then soft foods, so salt foods being like boiled
Speaker 1: at what happened? How wet is your ship? How? What
Speaker 1: is my ship? My actual ships? Yes, well the protein
Speaker 1: and the shakes make it solid, so I don't really
Speaker 1: I don't really have wet ship going on. Uh, like
Speaker 1: you have loose ass? No? No, what's crazy? Is I mean?
Speaker 1: I it's you know, it's crazy because I'm reading all
Speaker 1: the reviews because it's my first time juicing and people
Speaker 1: are like, oh my god, it was the hardest three
Speaker 1: days of my life, and a lot of you. I
Speaker 1: don't think I shared much of my journey postop, but
Speaker 1: I did two and a half months of no solid
Speaker 1: food for people that don't know your postop was what. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I had the gastric sleeve surgery. This was now
Speaker 1: two years. Mandy was a bitch in the hospital, by
Speaker 1: the way. She was such a bitch that she to
Speaker 1: apologize to the nurse because, yeah, but they did something,
Speaker 1: and listen, I'm eating if I'm a bit just because
Speaker 1: you did something, because I'm really a nice person. Mandy
Speaker 1: had to walk around? Was that it? Yeah, I didn't
Speaker 1: have to walk around. Mandy woke up and it was
Speaker 1: so funny because Mandy woke up looked at me like,
Speaker 1: I cannot believe you're here. But I just feel like
Speaker 1: if I was alone and like having surgery, like you know,
Speaker 1: so Mandy, they were like telling her to walk around.
Speaker 1: So we took like one or two loops around and
Speaker 1: I don't know what that lady told you to do,
Speaker 1: but she was like, I'm gonna do it on my
Speaker 1: own top. It's when I'm gonna do it. I was like, damn, Mandy,
Speaker 1: she had her job and Mandy cannot tell you was sorry, right,
Speaker 1: So the lady hands for water and ice chips, and
Speaker 1: Mandy doesn't even look in the face. She was like,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry for talking to you like that, ma'am. Because
Speaker 1: I realized that was probably a little a little, but yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I was just coming out of surgery and yeah,
Speaker 1: like all I wanted to do was lay in bed.
Speaker 1: But after coming out of any type of surgery, they
Speaker 1: don't want you to lay in bed because you could
Speaker 1: get blood clots like a lot of things. And then yeah,
Speaker 1: at this moment, I'm also noticing or realizing to myself,
Speaker 1: I will not fucking be able to eat solid food
Speaker 1: or drink liquor or do the things that I love
Speaker 1: to do. Four months on it after this, so yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I woke up out of surgery just with
Speaker 1: a huge reality shock. Um. But anyway, let's get back
Speaker 1: to God damn it and the hellhole. This has been
Speaker 1: happy become a little bit of quarantine thick uh in
Speaker 1: the And I guess my butt has always been here
Speaker 1: because you were like, oh my butts, I did lose
Speaker 1: a little bit, but it's always been here. It was
Speaker 1: never gone gone, just a little bit gone. Um. But
Speaker 1: my man has met me since my ass has been
Speaker 1: my ass, so he doesn't know how big it really
Speaker 1: was at one point, so he's happy with it. I need, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's happy with it. Um. But yeah, I guess I'll
Speaker 1: start um. I think again. This year has been a
Speaker 1: lot for so many of us. Um. I guess something
Speaker 1: that I would have never anticipated. Like I said, when
Speaker 1: we stopped the tour that was in March and our last,
Speaker 1: our very last live show was Orlando, and I was like,
Speaker 1: which do you know the money we just are not
Speaker 1: gonna see now because the tour ended and we had
Speaker 1: to get into virtual you left to Mexico, and I
Speaker 1: was just like Oh my god, is this really life?
Speaker 1: I ended up getting a fucking cat, and I guess
Speaker 1: one of the what is it the roses that grew
Speaker 1: out of the concrete sidewalk was me, Yeah, starting a
Speaker 1: new business. And I would have never thought that I
Speaker 1: could do that. It's so weird because I have my
Speaker 1: conference call set up on Tuesdays and Fridays now, and
Speaker 1: I'm literally back into this corporate type of schedule that
Speaker 1: I know we talked about feeling like we're we have
Speaker 1: better sex now because we don't have those jobs. But
Speaker 1: just a bit of that structure has really helped me
Speaker 1: mentally over this year. That's actually why I wanted to
Speaker 1: now that I'm back to New York. UM wanted to
Speaker 1: uh start recording more frequently because something that came out
Speaker 1: of quarantine for me, I guess was when I realized
Speaker 1: touring was gone. I was like, Okay, my money is different.
Speaker 1: And some of you guys know I've been in like
Speaker 1: comedy school and stuff like that, and I'm not saying
Speaker 1: I'm that funny, but it was more so me trying
Speaker 1: to understand jokes and what makes things funny. I noticed
Speaker 1: even something on my other podcast that Eddie does is
Speaker 1: he repeats stuff over and over, like, um, if there's
Speaker 1: like a tagline to the joke, which is how funny
Speaker 1: I was when Sophia came and I just kept saying
Speaker 1: that that's a comedian. And Kevin Hart does it a
Speaker 1: lot too, That's absolutely he repeats a lot of stuff. Um.
Speaker 1: And so the repetition and learning that thing, that's something
Speaker 1: I learned in comedy. So I learned it. But you
Speaker 1: do like start to see patterns when you are in
Speaker 1: this class and you're like, oh and more so I
Speaker 1: wanted to do this because of writing. So there's something
Speaker 1: that I um learned. Andy and I were touring in
Speaker 1: l A and people were reaching out with me to
Speaker 1: me to do TV stuff and I was like, I
Speaker 1: like this, but some of it was very uncomfortable for me. Um.
Speaker 1: They also require you very much and this is just
Speaker 1: anybody that wants to get into influence for ship right, um,
Speaker 1: and you do very well at this. They require a
Speaker 1: serious scheduling with posting. Oh I'm big on but I
Speaker 1: have my thing with that and even my social media
Speaker 1: what I'm doing now even with my other brand. I
Speaker 1: also have a marketing degree. So a part of it
Speaker 1: is marketing. This is almost like what I did in
Speaker 1: my classes. I took thirty credits focusing on marketing for
Speaker 1: my for my second Bachelor's So I think it's also
Speaker 1: just which is why even in the beginning, I was like,
Speaker 1: but if you don't get your ass on Twitter, get
Speaker 1: on Twitter, goot on Twitter. I understand the importance of
Speaker 1: marketing on social mediacally. Yeah, I guess I like social
Speaker 1: media for the genuinity and talking to people. And I
Speaker 1: also don't know if I'm like, do I stop being
Speaker 1: a real person if I and I know, when we
Speaker 1: first started, I was like, why am I to do ads?
Speaker 1: Why would I do ads? Like it ruins it? But like,
Speaker 1: I just didn't like it. And so when I started
Speaker 1: doing TV ship you might have heard on Sophia with
Speaker 1: an F I got passed over first show that not
Speaker 1: only did um everyone in the room say I was
Speaker 1: better at than the other person, but it was simple
Speaker 1: simply a social media thing. I mean, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't ever want to be passed up for talent
Speaker 1: versus cloud again. And so then I was like, well,
Speaker 1: if I'm not going to try to get this cloud,
Speaker 1: what am I gonna do? So I was like, well,
Speaker 1: maybe I can just attribute to writing. So I started
Speaker 1: doing punch up. If you guys don't know what punch
Speaker 1: up is, it's a really cool job you get hired for. Basically,
Speaker 1: they throw you in a room, make you sign N
Speaker 1: d a's, and they either keep putting clips or scripts
Speaker 1: in front of you and you rewrite the jokes. So,
Speaker 1: for example, Mandy and Wheezy walk into a room and
Speaker 1: they're about to have a discussion about touring. You have
Speaker 1: to figure out when Mandy walks in the door and
Speaker 1: sees Wheezy, what jokes she's gonna say. What they're gonna
Speaker 1: say back and forth to each other when they're sitting down,
Speaker 1: how they're gonna start talking about it. What's funny? What
Speaker 1: do people know about Mandy and Wheezy that would make
Speaker 1: it funny? Um? All kinds of ship like that, you
Speaker 1: go back and forth, back and forth. Um. And it
Speaker 1: was funny because one of the shows that I was
Speaker 1: doing punch up for as a Black show, and there
Speaker 1: was an Indian guy in there and he was like,
Speaker 1: I really want to say the N word in this
Speaker 1: and you guys can maybe write it out, but I
Speaker 1: feel like it needs an N word. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: my nigga, they need to say nigga and you know
Speaker 1: other people like nigga would be hilarious. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: them say her nigga and like a ship like that.
Speaker 1: Um and so did punch up. Then it started coming
Speaker 1: into writing and um, I explored a little bit with
Speaker 1: making our Horrible Decisions film and shout out to dentist.
Speaker 1: I've learned a little bit about um filming and what
Speaker 1: it takes to make stuff. And so then came m
Speaker 1: fuse and you know, making a TV show. And I
Speaker 1: think that I would have never before Quarantine sat and
Speaker 1: thought about what I enjoyed, right Like, I like it
Speaker 1: forced us to sit our asses down, which as a
Speaker 1: creative or an entrepreneur, or even someone who found themselves
Speaker 1: being taken out of the office and getting into and
Speaker 1: having to work remotely, you having that time in your
Speaker 1: home to just think about what makes you happy, even
Speaker 1: your space. I mean I redecorated, you know, my living room,
Speaker 1: my my my, my bar area, like because you literally
Speaker 1: just sit with yourself and the things that make you happy,
Speaker 1: the things that bother you, and how you can improve
Speaker 1: as a person. I would say, and I think just
Speaker 1: discovering things like other ways to make money. N I
Speaker 1: watched so many Amazon courses um with some dude that
Speaker 1: got on my nerves. His name is Joshua Crisp. I
Speaker 1: don't care if he hears this every in life. He
Speaker 1: is so annoying, but paid for his course and he
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I was excited to learn about Amazon,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I could never do this. E
Speaker 1: commerce is really difficult. A lot of people make mad money.
Speaker 1: You're doing it when I tell you, girl, I uh
Speaker 1: and all of the horror have I want to thank
Speaker 1: all of y'all for for the support with Official box Owner.
Speaker 1: I'm actually coming out with my own product line, so
Speaker 1: I will have bork ascids depositories, apple side of vinegar, gummies, uh,
Speaker 1: feminine pH ye. I am working on my own CBD
Speaker 1: lube like and I'm just like dealing with the manufacturers,
Speaker 1: the labels, talking to people in China. The manufacturers for
Speaker 1: those products are here in America. So you know what
Speaker 1: made me not to do e commerce? You're going to laugh.
Speaker 1: Shout out to your our patrons. I love you. Patreon
Speaker 1: merch people will write me and curse me out about
Speaker 1: how I never sent them merch I look up their name.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it was delivered. It probably just like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like people really like And I
Speaker 1: saw a comment once where they were like, fuck you,
Speaker 1: they're too busy, they don't do this. I mean, Mandy
Speaker 1: when I tell you, I res real girl. Ups lost
Speaker 1: twenty of my boxes. Oh I took. I was so upset.
Speaker 1: People would act like it was my fault. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I spent hours and hours and hours and shoutouts to
Speaker 1: a Vinnie who's helping us, But now I feel bad, niggd.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because he's reading the messages too,
Speaker 1: and just mail is something that's out of your control.
Speaker 1: So yeah, um. From a Horrible Decisions perspective, I would
Speaker 1: say I am really grateful for finally having merch and
Speaker 1: simple thing to be grateful for. We do virtual town
Speaker 1: halls on Patreon every month. I'm not saying that it's
Speaker 1: obviously making up for a live show, because it's not
Speaker 1: even close to a live show. We just do an episode.
Speaker 1: But like when people get on there with their horrible
Speaker 1: Decisions T shirts or know us so well like and
Speaker 1: make their jokes with us, and they just know us
Speaker 1: all too well, the fact that we could sit on
Speaker 1: there and talk about things we wouldn't even mention on
Speaker 1: the main episode, whether it be fears, finances, grieving. I
Speaker 1: talked about me going through a lot of pain with
Speaker 1: a sickness with family, Like, I just love that community
Speaker 1: so much. And I'm sorry if you know there's ever
Speaker 1: been a moment where you guys feel like we leave
Speaker 1: something out because they pay for it. But I just
Speaker 1: believe when people really want to contribute to your brand,
Speaker 1: they do. And five dollars maybe a lot to some
Speaker 1: or a little to to to others. But I just
Speaker 1: love how much tighter that places and it's been very
Speaker 1: a safe haven for horrible decisions for me. I'm good
Speaker 1: for Patrion. What about you? I like that, UM horrible
Speaker 1: decisions related Oh Jesus, I still want to kill your
Speaker 1: kill you and punch you in your face everything every
Speaker 1: fucking week. Um. Like I said, I think I'm just
Speaker 1: grateful because this platform actually helped me with what I
Speaker 1: consider my purpose. Um as far as, like I said,
Speaker 1: getting into the feminine health conversation, uh something that's they're funny,
Speaker 1: how it's too different purpose. We're completely different right now
Speaker 1: with with where our journeys are taking us just from this,
Speaker 1: but that I love. And it's, like I said, getting
Speaker 1: into e commerce that's something I actually hated cost accounting
Speaker 1: when I went to school for that. And so to
Speaker 1: be in a space where I'm creating my own products
Speaker 1: and dealing with my own shopify and I have a team,
Speaker 1: and it's it's insane. Um. But also, like I said,
Speaker 1: just that closeness to learning and continuing the conversation regarding
Speaker 1: feminine hygiene as as it pertains and affects your sexual
Speaker 1: health something even most recent I think that not only
Speaker 1: through the conversations I'm having on periods this, but shout
Speaker 1: out Olivia Dope, one of my co hosts on my
Speaker 1: other podcast, she just went through fibroid removal surgery. Um.
Speaker 1: And then my other really really close friend. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna put her name out there because it's something that
Speaker 1: she's battling with. We've been communicating regarding her mammograms and
Speaker 1: she has potentially uh something in her breast that could
Speaker 1: be cancer early thirties and so, but she also has
Speaker 1: a family history of breast cancer. And so having two
Speaker 1: people that are fairly close to me right now experiencing
Speaker 1: things within feminine, you know, health is just it's just
Speaker 1: eye opening to the fact that we do have to
Speaker 1: continue all that yet, even if it's at Charlotte Magagne. Yes,
Speaker 1: that is a the biggest part of horrible decisions this year.
Speaker 1: I do want to see it. Shout out to my heart.
Speaker 1: But Charlottagne has been trying to put us on to
Speaker 1: something for a long for a very long time. That
Speaker 1: is Charlemagne's and I think one thing that just really
Speaker 1: elevates him in this game. He really I believe this.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people don't like Charlotta Magne,
Speaker 1: but I really believe in my heart of hearts that
Speaker 1: he does want to put people on. And I was
Speaker 1: really drunk, but he actually got a drunk text for
Speaker 1: me on Thanksgiving and I text him and I was like, Charlemagne,
Speaker 1: I just really hope you're having a great thanks Giving
Speaker 1: and I just want to say you were one of
Speaker 1: the things that I'm very thankful for this year. I
Speaker 1: was drunk, but he definitely got a drunk He definitely
Speaker 1: got a drunk text. Yeah, he definitely uh text backs
Speaker 1: and the thanks and thanks very much. I'm grateful for him.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for him not trying to funk us over
Speaker 1: with cash even though he knew, like, you know, this
Speaker 1: is a big media company. Tell me what you want,
Speaker 1: tell me what you're fear for for and other than that,
Speaker 1: our first time being on TV It's horrible decisions was
Speaker 1: because of Charlottagne. So second time, what was her first time?
Speaker 1: We got HBO and then we got on Vice. But
Speaker 1: HBO is technically like premium television which people gotta pay for.
Speaker 1: Not everyone has HBO, but Vice is pretty much on
Speaker 1: all cable networks. But yeah, like he got us on
Speaker 1: there that I think I constantly, whether I even realize
Speaker 1: it or not, when I go on Twitter, I'm like,
Speaker 1: what's black owned this? Let me just tell you how
Speaker 1: much black owns should ask for real estate agent, moving company,
Speaker 1: tennis instructor, personal trainers, black trainers in Mexico, black cannabis companies, anything.
Speaker 1: And I want to make sure that I'm pushing that
Speaker 1: agenda because I talked about so much black ship that
Speaker 1: I feel like I have to support it. Like I
Speaker 1: feel like we can't do our jobs and tell people
Speaker 1: to buy our black as merge or do anything if
Speaker 1: we're not putting the same into the world. Black Friday, Nigga.
Speaker 1: I was so lit. I got on Twitter and I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna just shop all black. Send me
Speaker 1: all your stuff. People sent me Mandy, there was probably
Speaker 1: like a hundred and forty lengths I brought black plants.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Thornton Raised. I thought that was a
Speaker 1: cool name. Candles. Black girls sell candles, Mandy. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you know a candles. All the candles here,
Speaker 1: they all do candles. I I did buy from two
Speaker 1: black owned companies, actually black owned candle companies. Uh damn it.
Speaker 1: One is weight I believe. I met her on clubhouse
Speaker 1: and the other came from uh my other homegirl, Crystal,
Speaker 1: and you would love it. It's called the Board which
Speaker 1: she and she puts crystals and she has Prosperity candles
Speaker 1: and things like that. She's actually Latina, but supported her
Speaker 1: as well with her business. And yeah, they were super
Speaker 1: dope candles. So shout out to them. Well, y'all sell
Speaker 1: glitter body buttered candles. Workout outfits. My god, that is
Speaker 1: a black business. Which I have eight sets. At one
Speaker 1: point many I was like, let me just keep looking
Speaker 1: like I'm like give away this ship. Not that that
Speaker 1: anything is wrong with them. I just have too much.
Speaker 1: But shout out to you guys, and I encourage all
Speaker 1: of you when you're looking for anyone. I think it's
Speaker 1: great for us to do that. UM Women on two
Speaker 1: but black own first. So okay, yeah, yeah, let's go.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get into our Vanila sheets for this week.
Speaker 1: One Latina Legal last. So guys, this is what is
Speaker 1: actually funny and and what also I thought about when
Speaker 1: I read this UM Vanilla ship this week is we
Speaker 1: did a Patreon episode on just I think Wild things
Speaker 1: there or it may actually have been a regular episode
Speaker 1: where it talked about kind of how things worked for
Speaker 1: sex over centuries and back to b C. Well anyways,
Speaker 1: A judge up over in Canada allowed annulment because the
Speaker 1: husband could not keep an erection. A Canadian judge a
Speaker 1: note a marriage because the husband was unable to maintain
Speaker 1: erection long enough to have sex. The recent Supreme Court
Speaker 1: of British Columbia decision details how a wife sought out
Speaker 1: the annulment because her husband was unable to consummate their
Speaker 1: marriage despite their attempts to have sex every month for
Speaker 1: almost a year after their wedding, dating back to August
Speaker 1: In British Columbia. A marriage is voidable where a claimant
Speaker 1: has established their spouse lacks the capacity to consummate the marriage.
Speaker 1: This is a sex This City episode? Is it really? Charlotte?
Speaker 1: Here we go, Tray if you guys remember I know,
Speaker 1: I guess that's another thing I do on this show.
Speaker 1: Charlotte and Trey, who was her first husband, the rich doctor,
Speaker 1: they could never fucking have sex because he could not
Speaker 1: get it up. So Carrie said, you need to put
Speaker 1: like a liquor like take stamps, put him around his dick. Wait,
Speaker 1: stamps like postage. I think she says stamps. I don't
Speaker 1: know why I remember stamps and basically something that will
Speaker 1: like tightly steal around his penis and if it breaks
Speaker 1: at night, you know, he can get it up and
Speaker 1: it's all a mental thing and it's not like physical.
Speaker 1: It was something like that because remember that, because they
Speaker 1: were trying to talk about how not getting it up
Speaker 1: is it physical? Like what the funk is it? Let
Speaker 1: me ask you, how long would you go if you're
Speaker 1: dating a guy that you really really did like you
Speaker 1: would give him three months to get his dick card
Speaker 1: before you leave him I'm already into him before I
Speaker 1: break up with him. You're you're into him, You're you're
Speaker 1: you're dating now, you're maybe exclusive, you really like him.
Speaker 1: Maybe if you start, you start having sex. Okay, you're
Speaker 1: not exclusive because you're not exclusive to anyone. But but however,
Speaker 1: I'm exclusive to I heart radio. However, how long do
Speaker 1: you give a partner? Have I already sucked him? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it also didn't go well because he couldn't stay hard.
Speaker 1: How how long do you give him someone else? If
Speaker 1: I can suck someone else as long as it takes. Really, Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I wonder because if I'm that into you, I
Speaker 1: could think right now, if I'm that into you, and
Speaker 1: I know the butterfly feeling, you can't stop thinking about them,
Speaker 1: like you're smiling when you see each other, Like I
Speaker 1: could maybe a year and a half, two years, really,
Speaker 1: if I could get dick somewhere else. This couple went
Speaker 1: not behold on because then I don't only want to
Speaker 1: fuck you, if that's what I'm saying to see. So
Speaker 1: it's crazy, But the husband decided to tell the court
Speaker 1: that he blamed his former wife for her impotence and
Speaker 1: impotence Oh sorry, I mean Okay, what it's currently And
Speaker 1: he claims that he is currently having sex with someone else,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh wait, wait, wait, wait wait,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, said again, he blamed his ex wife for
Speaker 1: her impotence, and he sucked because she filed for she
Speaker 1: was able to get, and apparently now he's getting hard
Speaker 1: with someone else. I think, I don't know. I feel
Speaker 1: like I would feel some way, but I also would
Speaker 1: think he lying because Nik, we tried for it. You
Speaker 1: I tried all my life and you didn't motherfucking get hard.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's her, you think, so I'm gonna tell you, well,
Speaker 1: I don't blame the woman. We are not going to
Speaker 1: do that. I'm only gonna tell you this one thing.
Speaker 1: By her, I mean the person. I may have said
Speaker 1: this on the show. I've had public floor therapy. Remember
Speaker 1: that I was in a relationship where I was emotionally
Speaker 1: and physically abused. It was a very difficult relationship for me,
Speaker 1: and I loved this person very much. I was very
Speaker 1: young and I could not have sex with him without pain.
Speaker 1: The very next person I had sex with, the doorman
Speaker 1: yep from Club twenty three. When I tell you nothing,
Speaker 1: I mean Mandy. I remember having sex with him, you
Speaker 1: might have been with me. I remember you telling me, though,
Speaker 1: like how much like how good? I told everybody. I
Speaker 1: couldn't believe it. Yeah, like you told him had a
Speaker 1: big dick too. He was a good he was good
Speaker 1: in bed. There was nothing wrong with his sex. It
Speaker 1: was so connected to to mental So maybe, yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: there was something mental. I don't know, but I just
Speaker 1: can't believe. Still wouldn't believe that work. I had to
Speaker 1: go to the doctor who was giving me public floor therapy,
Speaker 1: and I said, I know he's paying for it, but
Speaker 1: I need to say this. I don't think what you're
Speaker 1: doing even need to be done. No more pussy ain't
Speaker 1: broke broken bussy. And she said that this is very common.
Speaker 1: She told me, like I, you don't need public floor therapy,
Speaker 1: you need therapy therapy. I believe it. Ian. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: y'all we are actually now going to get just because
Speaker 1: I thought it was only right. I know, we got
Speaker 1: rid of this segment uh this year, I believe because
Speaker 1: we ran out of fucking king or so we thought,
Speaker 1: or so we thought. So I'm gonna get into our
Speaker 1: kink of the week. And before I get into the
Speaker 1: kink of the week. It comes from answering actually a
Speaker 1: question that was sent into us. So, guys, I am
Speaker 1: gonna get a little bit into a homemail right now,
Speaker 1: early on into the show so that we can get
Speaker 1: to our kink of the week. But the the subject
Speaker 1: matter is tampon turn on First off, love y'all, thank
Speaker 1: you for helping me find new ship for my sex life.
Speaker 1: Been with my man for ten years and we started
Speaker 1: when we were seventeen, so having to grow mentally and
Speaker 1: sexually together has been quite the journey. But hearing real
Speaker 1: women breaks it down is an amazing thing. For instance,
Speaker 1: my toy and my pleasure with it should not make
Speaker 1: you feel some type of way. It's helps so much
Speaker 1: that he's recently surprised me with a new one. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I have a friend who was telling with me how
Speaker 1: her boyfriend loved watching her take her tampons out. He
Speaker 1: would want to go into the bathroom with her and
Speaker 1: it turned him the funk on. He would get upset
Speaker 1: when she wouldn't let him watch. I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: you guys have talked about this yet or heard anything
Speaker 1: like it. I was like, oh, this is some horrible
Speaker 1: decision ship that Weezy I'm just gonna change up the words.
Speaker 1: Would love it's that research, but I think you really quickly. No,
Speaker 1: don't say it. Let me look at it, show me.
Speaker 1: Just flip to her email because I need to know
Speaker 1: what color she is Spanish Latina for sure. Well, bitch,
Speaker 1: this is your people. What the fucking spaghetti? And they
Speaker 1: blow because I don't like it. I don't liking it's
Speaker 1: I don't like blood. I don't like blood. I just
Speaker 1: will funk on my period nasty anyways, guys, because I'm
Speaker 1: a feminist and I'm not gonna let anything stop us here. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're telling me that pussy, believe it, and let me
Speaker 1: tell you scissors. I love you to death. Girl. I
Speaker 1: know I'm moved on with a new person. But what
Speaker 1: I'm saying is when you give a funk about somebody,
Speaker 1: I didn't see the blood at all. I didn't even
Speaker 1: see it just became invisible. I didn't put it in
Speaker 1: my mouth. And anyways, like this kink actually, y'all is
Speaker 1: referred to it says menophilia. Mentophilia is a sexual paraphilia
Speaker 1: in which an individual, always mostly male, surrise sexual arousal
Speaker 1: from menstruating females such individuals are also aroused by the smell, image, taste,
Speaker 1: and or feel of the blood expelled during I think
Speaker 1: that you a menophilia, because I think that you do
Speaker 1: get a little aroused by knowing a bit leading that
Speaker 1: out there. Shout out to my bitch, Christen our net.
Speaker 1: That's my dog. We had her on here lesbian shake
Speaker 1: and she fucking she said she likes the rainbow kisses
Speaker 1: said she just likes the massacre of this disgusting that
Speaker 1: is some white people, that is some white people should see.
Speaker 1: I got some white friends, Mandy, don't anyway, I really don't. Really,
Speaker 1: I have no white friends. Hold on, let me think
Speaker 1: really really hard. Right now, you've got a white friend,
Speaker 1: think of someone, maybe you've worked with the Jason Well,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think work friends with Sory. That
Speaker 1: he doesn't count. He Rory is white. Worry knows he's white.
Speaker 1: He knows he's white, But is he really he'd be
Speaker 1: actually claiming Irish, So I don't even claiming that's definitely
Speaker 1: may ask. Okay, yeah, so no, so if he is
Speaker 1: not white, she's Latina. I don't know. I don't, but
Speaker 1: I don't have white friends. Damn, my mama, shout out
Speaker 1: to Tammy anyway, she's on some orry time. I meant,
Speaker 1: I learned how to cook call of greens called the
Speaker 1: black kind. What's your mom? Do you know? What do
Speaker 1: you mean? What is she white? All of them crackers
Speaker 1: mixed with ship? No, you don't they like this part
Speaker 1: of your Europe, this part of no. Because that is
Speaker 1: why at the end, when the world ends, I will
Speaker 1: still be here because I didn't send them in my
Speaker 1: DNA to track me and do all this other ship. Um,
Speaker 1: I know that's why you're not gonna live. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have to do this by myself once the world come
Speaker 1: back to life. Anyway, my dumbask was like, why am
Speaker 1: I African and Asian? But then Israel? See by by anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: I dude, I I did have a hord dirt for
Speaker 1: this week before we get into our horrible decision, which
Speaker 1: you guys clearly know what it is going to be
Speaker 1: by the title of this show. But anyway, let's get
Speaker 1: into our hord derve. For those of you who are
Speaker 1: listening for the very first time, our hord derve is
Speaker 1: where we give a sex tip. And while I think
Speaker 1: I have shared multiple different tips. There was actually a
Speaker 1: full article, which you can find in the description of
Speaker 1: this episode. The hord Dirt for this week is how
Speaker 1: to finger someone with acrylic nails. Y'all know, I love
Speaker 1: my motherfucking acrylics and I don't know if it's from
Speaker 1: Ohtown female. Why she said because she lives in the Bronx.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, and the Bronx be hooking me up
Speaker 1: with their Ryan Stones. Uh what wh I don't do that.
Speaker 1: I don't sound like from fucking Europe. Okay, you know
Speaker 1: your ma, but you're making in Irish sometimes to get up,
Speaker 1: you know, like when you're trying to do what I
Speaker 1: said just from that's so weird. I don't know. That's awful, alright, guys.
Speaker 1: So again, you guys can find this article in the
Speaker 1: description of this episode. It does come from Vice dot Com.
Speaker 1: There's multiple um tips in there. However, I wanted to
Speaker 1: share one of the best ones that I found because
Speaker 1: I actually has to do with the position that your
Speaker 1: partner isn't so the best position for beginners is to
Speaker 1: have your partner on their back with their hips lifted
Speaker 1: with a sturdy pillow. This gives you the room to
Speaker 1: explore their body with a relaxed hand and allows the
Speaker 1: perfect angle for you to use the paths of your
Speaker 1: fingers to stroke. This is a great starting point for
Speaker 1: the newly be clawed um. Once you have confidence in
Speaker 1: your abilities, though, you can pull off any position as
Speaker 1: long as you're mindful of your hands. What's crazy is
Speaker 1: that's definitely a thing for me. I would suggest, actually,
Speaker 1: these nails have caused me issues because I decided to
Speaker 1: put rhinestones on my points are my index and my
Speaker 1: ring finger and fingering somebody with your pinky is just
Speaker 1: not as much fun, nor are your thumbs. So if
Speaker 1: you're gonna put rhinestones on your acrylic nails, I would
Speaker 1: suggest to at least leave your pointer with no rhinestones
Speaker 1: so that they don't From this conversation, because I have
Speaker 1: one really good tip for acrylic nails. Here you go,
Speaker 1: what don't finger me with them? No, I am going
Speaker 1: to find a finger cover like a finger condom or
Speaker 1: something that's basic cover or some speed. Yours are rounded
Speaker 1: more than I do, So there almond shaped fingered me
Speaker 1: with acrylic nails. You guys definitely should ask your nailed
Speaker 1: technician to give you almond shaped acrylic nails. If you
Speaker 1: want to finger your partner someone, it wasn't venus. See
Speaker 1: you I even getting fingered with cylic nails. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: she didn't put her fingers inside of me. She just
Speaker 1: rubbed you a little click with the acrylic nails. Did
Speaker 1: you feel the acrylics? No, but what you think it
Speaker 1: wasn't It might add a little different texture, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, like people have ribbed scissors. Once had
Speaker 1: acrylic nails and she almost put them in me, and
Speaker 1: I said something. She started laughing because I was like,
Speaker 1: and I think we have a video of it. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I remember we were with the videos. To me,
Speaker 1: your natural nails right now are just about as long
Speaker 1: as my acrylic Nailsman, Okay, maybe not. They just look long.
Speaker 1: You are long as nails in post. No put my
Speaker 1: nail next year nail No man either, No they yes,
Speaker 1: look how long your nail beds are. Look, they're the
Speaker 1: same people every time. I'm just saying, every time I
Speaker 1: go into a nail place, they always said they have
Speaker 1: my nail bad. They loved why because they have Oh
Speaker 1: you have long one sex? No, yeah, I don't have
Speaker 1: long nail bed. This is a lot of room for
Speaker 1: them to play, and just to let you know, why
Speaker 1: did I do that accent? Because that's how they sounded
Speaker 1: my nail place. I ain't say who it was. I say,
Speaker 1: no affity. We know they like to do we know then,
Speaker 1: No they're not being me. It's called you me Now
Speaker 1: I'm doing with you any way. Anyway, guys, my Chinese
Speaker 1: by you meet child, I hate you so much. Anyways, Guys,
Speaker 1: we are going to get into our horrible decision, and
Speaker 1: our horrible decision has to do with dating and why
Speaker 1: the funk We should never ever ever listen to Steve
Speaker 1: Harvey because he indeed has been the number one demise
Speaker 1: of the dating community. So I wanted to go through
Speaker 1: a lot of you as well as myself, for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: all decided to read his book Act like a Woman,
Speaker 1: Think like a man back when we were very in
Speaker 1: our early primary days of getting into this dating life.
Speaker 1: This is well before dating accident. Well his daughter took
Speaker 1: after it. She did not, which is why she is
Speaker 1: all these different men. She's thinking like a man, but
Speaker 1: she's not acting like a lady. How facts, I just
Speaker 1: really feel like you think Lorie Harvey took Steve Harvey's
Speaker 1: uh things, But I'm sorry, I ain't no way future
Speaker 1: waited no ninety days. I'll tell you that. Oh I
Speaker 1: forgot about Yeah, So let's let's let's let's go down
Speaker 1: there and we are going to pretty much dispel all
Speaker 1: of the myths. I would say that Steve Harvey put
Speaker 1: out into the universe regarding dating. So we're gonna start
Speaker 1: with um one thing that he says. So, Steve Harvey
Speaker 1: believes that a man must achieve a minimum in the
Speaker 1: three areas to feel like he is fulfilling his man duties.
Speaker 1: Before he figures out how to achieve his minimum goals
Speaker 1: in those areas, he will be too busy for a relationship.
Speaker 1: I want to give you those three uh those three things.
Speaker 1: He says that a man has to know who he is,
Speaker 1: his title, what he does, how he gets the title,
Speaker 1: and the reward he gets, which is how much he makes.
Speaker 1: So pretty much, Steve Harvey believes that if a man
Speaker 1: does not have these three answers, he will not have
Speaker 1: enough time or be too busy to focus on you.
Speaker 1: I actually disagree with this. The only reason I disagree, Okay, dummy,
Speaker 1: I dated a man with a lot of time on
Speaker 1: their hands who told me that he knew he couldn't
Speaker 1: fully commit to me or didn't feel as deserving in
Speaker 1: the moment because he didn't feel like his ship was
Speaker 1: all the way together okay, And he was like, I
Speaker 1: feel like us being together for real is going to
Speaker 1: require me to do more, to hold you down more,
Speaker 1: and I can't do that to you if I'm not
Speaker 1: there myself. He also told me that he felt like
Speaker 1: a hypocrites, like I know the man things a man
Speaker 1: should be doing to a woman for a woman, and
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not there yet right now, an like
Speaker 1: he was too busy for me I had the time.
Speaker 1: I feel like that was a very working class comment
Speaker 1: that he made, which I dun't I also want to
Speaker 1: agree with. I was about to say, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I disagree with a lot because you could be working, Mandy.
Speaker 1: You just said it last week that you worked seventy
Speaker 1: something hours, and I mean, yes, true was nine five.
Speaker 1: But it wasn't like you didn't make enough or weren't
Speaker 1: an equal enough partner at that moment in time. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I believe that. I think there's another misconception,
Speaker 1: very much so with um shout out to be Simone.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know, you know, we know her. But
Speaker 1: when she said that a boss ship or nine to
Speaker 1: five or whatever, I don't believe necessary. I think entrepreneurial
Speaker 1: ventures don't necessarily equate to time. You could be way
Speaker 1: more busy as a quote unquote boss. Yeah, you can
Speaker 1: have a way less time for somebody. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, It still still find time to date. Well.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why I wanted to dispel this
Speaker 1: because I truly believe that a man will make time
Speaker 1: for what and who he wants to make time for.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of CEOs that have marriages, I
Speaker 1: know a lot of athletes, clearly I'll know that, but
Speaker 1: they still find time to not only have relationships, but
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of side chicks at the same time.
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is pretty much though, I don't
Speaker 1: believe that a man once he has the money or
Speaker 1: or doesn't have the money, that he he won't have
Speaker 1: the time or be too busy for you. So I
Speaker 1: just wanted to say that I agree, you agree, Okay.
Speaker 1: So I mean, there's the one thing that the busiest
Speaker 1: man I ever dated, I will never forget it. He
Speaker 1: was very busy. He was an exact um. We didn't
Speaker 1: even fuck. We were just kind of meeting and get
Speaker 1: you get to know each other. He was an exact
Speaker 1: at a huge network, big big TV network and he
Speaker 1: was in New York on a on a layover to
Speaker 1: go to London. He extended his layover another two hours. UH.
Speaker 1: Uber me to meet him in Queens where JFK is
Speaker 1: at a dinner. He was like, I found the nicest
Speaker 1: place that I could to take you out, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he do make time for what you want to make
Speaker 1: time for. I disagree with this. One of the other
Speaker 1: things I wanted to get into, uh and this actually
Speaker 1: relates to a recent episode we had. Steve Harvey believes
Speaker 1: that there are only three things that every man needs.
Speaker 1: They need love, they need loyal support, and they need sex.
Speaker 1: And we've got too. However, I do want to get
Speaker 1: into what he says regarding that h He said that
Speaker 1: love means to make him feel like he's special, like
Speaker 1: he's a king. Loyal support means that you will stand
Speaker 1: by his side no matter what happens. And sex, well,
Speaker 1: Steve says men can only go a month without it,
Speaker 1: and if you start rationing out sex, he'll be looking
Speaker 1: for it elsewhere. I want to go against this because
Speaker 1: I do believe that as women, we can actually give
Speaker 1: those three things to a man and he will still
Speaker 1: not feel for filled in a relationship and may still
Speaker 1: seek out any of these three things for from someone else.
Speaker 1: Did you agree and disagree? Um? My psychic told me
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ, here we go. What the fuck? She was right?
Speaker 1: She told me that I don't have the ability to
Speaker 1: make men feel emotionally safe, and for that they will
Speaker 1: always feel I can't remember the words she used, but
Speaker 1: she said something in regards to like like, they'll never
Speaker 1: know I'm theirs and they'll never be comfortable. She says,
Speaker 1: you have a very hard time with that. You're too open,
Speaker 1: You're too free, even in a monogamous aspect, You're too
Speaker 1: Look at this person, she's cute this even if you
Speaker 1: won't sux someone else, She's like, that is just who
Speaker 1: you are. And when you can't make someone feel emotionally safe,
Speaker 1: they may never all the way fully either commit or
Speaker 1: just emotionally safe. Is that the same as uh security
Speaker 1: emotionally in a relationship? Or don't that's the word used.
Speaker 1: But but I remember her saying that to me in
Speaker 1: terms of past lovers, and I was like, wow, I
Speaker 1: could see that she's like men when there with women
Speaker 1: like you, She's like, whether they tell you that or not,
Speaker 1: you have to date the most confident motherfucker. They always
Speaker 1: may have a little feeling in them like would she
Speaker 1: will she? I know you've got other options ship like that?
Speaker 1: Um and and and specifically, um what he said, That's
Speaker 1: why I kind of agreed to making someone feel like
Speaker 1: a king. I do believe that gender roles slightly take
Speaker 1: place in this. I believe when you have some antiquated
Speaker 1: ideals when it comes to men and women, that men
Speaker 1: generally feel like, oh, like she is mine, or you
Speaker 1: know she is good to me, or this is what
Speaker 1: a girl is supposed to do for me. Um. Specifically,
Speaker 1: hospital Dick would always tell me his favorite thing about
Speaker 1: me was that I was so nurturing. I'm always asking
Speaker 1: what he wants to eat, this, this, that before you
Speaker 1: go to work, and we're making this let me do that,
Speaker 1: And it's something in me. I think I do that
Speaker 1: with friends too. I think I think the reason why
Speaker 1: that's a big thing that man why I said I
Speaker 1: disagree with this and we've talked about it a lot,
Speaker 1: is because she well, not only that, it's because of
Speaker 1: that third one sex like, you could fuck your man
Speaker 1: every night, and it doesn't mean that that's necessarily gonna
Speaker 1: keep him from getting it elsewhere. It doesn't. So even
Speaker 1: outside of rationing sex, you could also give them all
Speaker 1: the sex they want. You could take a man to
Speaker 1: a sex club and it still doesn't mean that he
Speaker 1: won't still want outside sex. I mean, and that's the
Speaker 1: thing that why I wanted to disagree with this, because
Speaker 1: I don't but what did he say? This is for
Speaker 1: a commitment? No, this yeah, this is for keeping your
Speaker 1: your partner happy or or having a relationship and the
Speaker 1: things you should do in order to keep I still
Speaker 1: think these are I also wanted to say, uh. Steve
Speaker 1: Harvey also decided to create the blanket excuse that men
Speaker 1: of all time have been using as to why they cheat.
Speaker 1: Steve Harvey said that men cheat because men can have
Speaker 1: sex without emotions, which means he can love you and
Speaker 1: still cheap for the simple act of sex. And I
Speaker 1: wanted to dispel this because I hate the fact that
Speaker 1: they still continue to act as though women cannot have
Speaker 1: emotionless sex. Old Bay is this person. I hate what
Speaker 1: he swears to god man because he read fucking Steve
Speaker 1: Harvey's book Bitch. Now, he ain't that toxic, but uh.
Speaker 1: Basically he was like, look like, whatever makes you happy,
Speaker 1: makes you happy. Cool, but there is no way that
Speaker 1: you could funck like I fuck. He's like, I could
Speaker 1: suck a bitch and that they need anything else nothing.
Speaker 1: He's like, you cannot do this. He's like, no matter
Speaker 1: how much you try to act like you can't, you
Speaker 1: are not that person. But I'm that he swell, I
Speaker 1: am that nigga. Like we still like, I've had a
Speaker 1: ton of emotionless sex because I liked how I felt
Speaker 1: in the moment of sex, but it didn't make me
Speaker 1: like the person any much more. I remember some of
Speaker 1: the some of the best sex that I had with
Speaker 1: was with some of the most toxic fucking niggas that
Speaker 1: I did not ever see myself being with, and it
Speaker 1: didn't make me like them anymore because we had great sex.
Speaker 1: So that this idea, maybe women you just don't maybe
Speaker 1: your mental doesn't need to be stimulate stimulated. No, but but,
Speaker 1: but but I think that even as a woman, if
Speaker 1: you do if you're not seeking mental stimulation and you're
Speaker 1: just seeking a funk. As women, you have me thinking
Speaker 1: that you can bro because the the problem is if
Speaker 1: you're seeking emotional or some sort of mental or some
Speaker 1: sort of affection from a person. Yes, I understand that,
Speaker 1: but there are women out here and a lot the
Speaker 1: more we open these conversations about sex, there's a ton
Speaker 1: of women that just want to fill an orgasm, or
Speaker 1: just want to feel sex, or doesn't want another boy.
Speaker 1: Only reason I agree on that part is well for myself.
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody else out there you can
Speaker 1: agree to Old Bays argument. I'm like, I can do
Speaker 1: this because if I have an emotional connection with you,
Speaker 1: I could do it, right. I kind of like when
Speaker 1: I'm single, I can't really. I don't fuck to fuck
Speaker 1: easy because I think that component is something I associate
Speaker 1: with nan. However, if I already have it, like, that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, I'm Mary partner now I can suck anybody.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. If I don't have a can,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, then that's where that's where, And I
Speaker 1: think that's where a lot of women who are single sexing.
Speaker 1: I will say that's where I feel like they find
Speaker 1: single sexes out there, single sexes out there. The difficulty
Speaker 1: where you find is because you are still finding. You're
Speaker 1: still searching for that emotional connection to a partner more
Speaker 1: so than you are just the sex. So I want
Speaker 1: to say that before we get out of why Steve
Speaker 1: Harvey could suck a dick? Is the ninety day rule
Speaker 1: Women should abstain from sex for the first ninety days
Speaker 1: after meeting a man. Uh, And he pretty much ties
Speaker 1: um this ninety day rule to pretty much how a
Speaker 1: woman will be valued and looked at to a man
Speaker 1: as far as their worth and and kind of uh
Speaker 1: looking into the future as to if this is a
Speaker 1: person that has his episodes. No, but I'm just saying
Speaker 1: he's ruined the way we think about it. Do we
Speaker 1: have a podcast? However? How many times did we all
Speaker 1: went to dating thinking that we couldn't funk a man
Speaker 1: on the first night, or the first week, or by
Speaker 1: the second date because he would think that we are
Speaker 1: just so awful and hose that weren't wiping material. I'll
Speaker 1: be honest, my boardner. Now some men think that, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna and I'm gonna blame Steve Harvey for that.
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is I'm now with not only
Speaker 1: someone who's mature, I think we're more mature. And how
Speaker 1: we go about with talking about real quick, keep it
Speaker 1: real and two doesn't matter. Oh, tell the truth. What's
Speaker 1: your birthday monthly rock? Hey, we didn't know, right. Next time,
Speaker 1: we'll ask for it on your W nine form. Okay, seriously,
Speaker 1: tell the truth. It's okay. When a girl sucks you
Speaker 1: on the first night, do you think she's a home
Speaker 1: even if you're still date or do you think there's
Speaker 1: this little piece of you? I love it? They kens
Speaker 1: depends on the person. Listen, we get to no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. What I'm saying no, no, no no. Why
Speaker 1: do you want him to change his answer? Bitch? He
Speaker 1: told you how he feels. I don't believe he doesn't judge.
Speaker 1: So I will tell you well, and that's it. Only
Speaker 1: don't believe because Benson is very sex forward. He does
Speaker 1: this show. He's very point my point, which is why
Speaker 1: he went and judge. But but even my partner, So
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. So, So I did have
Speaker 1: sex with my current boyfriend the very first time we met.
Speaker 1: Um and honestly, surprisingly it cost him really nothing because
Speaker 1: it was fucking lockdown. So we went hiking and then
Speaker 1: we got fucking autos Compollo from uptown and he came
Speaker 1: over and it was just you don't need a dick
Speaker 1: though that doesn't count, you know, but it's not because
Speaker 1: why why I'm saying this is because not only are
Speaker 1: we we in such a great relationship now, in such
Speaker 1: a good space. He continued to see me for the
Speaker 1: first twenty days after we fucked so and the thing
Speaker 1: is too, when he was coming over, we weren't sucking.
Speaker 1: Every time we were playing, you know, we were eating.
Speaker 1: We we went back to the park. And so this
Speaker 1: idea that I wasn't worthy of his time or of
Speaker 1: being a girlfriend because I sucked him on the first date,
Speaker 1: it is not what I experienced. I know. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying so I don't believe in this. Also, I'll be
Speaker 1: honest to the first the last boyfriend, if we go
Speaker 1: back to high school. Not only did I fun him
Speaker 1: on the first night that we actually spent time together,
Speaker 1: I met him through his brother that I was fucking
Speaker 1: and he still wiped me. That was wild. That was
Speaker 1: super wild. It was a step brother. It was through marriage.
Speaker 1: I also want to just say I don't believe that
Speaker 1: it matters because it's chemistry. I just do not believe
Speaker 1: that men don't have it in their head. Well, and
Speaker 1: that's fine. I think we have a lot of time. Actually, Benson,
Speaker 1: when he walked in here, he said, I did think
Speaker 1: that before horrible decisions. I think that men that are open,
Speaker 1: much like Benson, or that he's the only guy we
Speaker 1: could talk to, obviously don't care. But I mean, me
Speaker 1: and my partner went to a sex club. This is
Speaker 1: why I just don't think that men are as a forward.
Speaker 1: This is why women women No. I think Steve Harvey
Speaker 1: made that dog ask. It's dumb as fun. But that's
Speaker 1: why I feel like, that's why I love this this
Speaker 1: podcast so much, because we're opening the doors to the
Speaker 1: facts that there are different types of men, Black men,
Speaker 1: specifically that when they're open, when they're free, and when
Speaker 1: they could sit and have mature conversations about sex, they're
Speaker 1: not going to judge you or look at you as
Speaker 1: a whole because you enjoy having sex, or maybe you're
Speaker 1: so attracted to them that you want to suck them
Speaker 1: the first night. And I I love that kind of
Speaker 1: that's what this pot has done. I mean again, I
Speaker 1: sunk my man the first night and we're fucking great
Speaker 1: seven months later, and it has been used or thrown
Speaker 1: in my face either at me either. So that's the thing.
Speaker 1: I think, you just have to go into having the
Speaker 1: conversations and you really need to know the person I
Speaker 1: guess you're laying down with before you lay down with them.
Speaker 1: I agree. Um, I think when I think back the people,
Speaker 1: the last two people I fucked, No man, Obey was
Speaker 1: like third, you are we going by the last dicks?
Speaker 1: You've been sucking quite a few bitches at it and
Speaker 1: they're sprinkled in there. I first night's sister that you
Speaker 1: want is the first night? But want to make a
Speaker 1: nigg away trash because you just don't think like that trash.
Speaker 1: That is trash. You're not even respecting the other woman
Speaker 1: by sucking her on the first night. What type of
Speaker 1: respectful feminists are you? Should we? I kind of want
Speaker 1: to make our home mail. Well it's a whole confession. Okay,
Speaker 1: before we end this episode, I want to talk make
Speaker 1: a casting call for horrible decisions about guess we want
Speaker 1: this year? Oh? I like that Okay, so this is guys.
Speaker 1: You guys per usual will be getting the very last
Speaker 1: episode of this year will be a recap of Wheezy
Speaker 1: and Eyes, and you'll have to call it lazy bitch.
Speaker 1: People like recaps and whenever people. We also have a
Speaker 1: lot of new crack is listening to us. Maybe I
Speaker 1: love calling them that. It's get your in word in there.
Speaker 1: You guys listen to music and I'm know where it
Speaker 1: was like, don't believe me, just watch n Ni nigked,
Speaker 1: so you know it's crazy. Four years later, I will
Speaker 1: say at the top of my my list is still
Speaker 1: a man who openly enjoys to get pegged. I think
Speaker 1: we've talked about. We've had other women come on and
Speaker 1: talk about we had the mistake they do it. That
Speaker 1: was a top ten. No, that was a funny episode.
Speaker 1: It was it was I don't want a white girl,
Speaker 1: specifically a fat white girl dating a black guy. Us.
Speaker 1: I'm no shade to a big white I just want
Speaker 1: you to tell us why niggas love you. Why you
Speaker 1: think I really want a fat white girl and a
Speaker 1: black guy that you're currently dating. I'm sorry, I just
Speaker 1: want it. I also want a sugar daddy sugar baby
Speaker 1: duo need we need a real sugar daddy. Goddamn, we've
Speaker 1: tried two times now a lit sugar baby. And this
Speaker 1: is no disrespect by the way to anybody that's a
Speaker 1: sugar baby that UM has another job. No disrespect. When
Speaker 1: I say lit, I apologize. When I say a lit
Speaker 1: sugar baby, I mean a lot of years in the
Speaker 1: game and you are solely living off of sugar a ship.
Speaker 1: I want you on this show. I want UM anybody
Speaker 1: that has created anything, any kind of application for hooking up,
Speaker 1: any kind of sexual application, and anybody that works on
Speaker 1: a website. I think this would be super dope. I
Speaker 1: want to talk about like the Laws and Ship. We
Speaker 1: had teased it a little bit with sex Nor. I
Speaker 1: think you brought her on. That was a great idea.
Speaker 1: I want to talk a little bit more about that.
Speaker 1: UM one of my favorite people we've had on UM.
Speaker 1: I damn, I wish Mandy was there. Ali triple X
Speaker 1: shout out to our homegirl Ali from Madam to Mommy,
Speaker 1: I would love another Madam when specifically is maybe worked
Speaker 1: in a brothel, UM, I want to talk about someone
Speaker 1: that's worked in a brothel as well. I think I
Speaker 1: would be someone that is a messus that gives hand chops. Uh.
Speaker 1: There's a girl who wrote us called the handicap Ho.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you saw her email. I think
Speaker 1: we're gonna have her on a Patreon episode. Um, if
Speaker 1: there's anyone else with disabilities that we can have, I
Speaker 1: would definitely love love that, um especially uh what what
Speaker 1: does it Douce bigelowle male jigglo that movie. Even with
Speaker 1: him dating all these different women that were paying for
Speaker 1: his time, a lot of them had disabilities. Remember the
Speaker 1: one she had to tie her hair because she kept
Speaker 1: falling asleep. I would not collect. I would just like
Speaker 1: to know. I would just like to know again how
Speaker 1: people with with those certain um disabilities get through dating,
Speaker 1: finding the confidence to meet people new, introducing their disability
Speaker 1: to people, and what that's like. Uh. So I would
Speaker 1: like that a doctor who does vagina stuff okay, uh
Speaker 1: laby a plastic vaginal rejuvenation. I want you to come
Speaker 1: on and talk about that the O shot specifically. I'm
Speaker 1: not eve gonna say what it is because it's fucking wild.
Speaker 1: It is you trying to give me to do that?
Speaker 1: I said, you said no, I am not having a
Speaker 1: shot that you were doing a ton of ship for
Speaker 1: research purposes? Is it just for the horrible decisions that
Speaker 1: you do those things? No? No, no, no no. I
Speaker 1: we need this on horrible decisions. I myself, I'm not
Speaker 1: getting an O shot, but why not? You want to
Speaker 1: get a shot into my clip? I come enough? Why not?
Speaker 1: I'm good? So anyway that I'm trying to think of more.
Speaker 1: I know we're on the way out of here, but
Speaker 1: like you, guys also have lit ass ideas. We still
Speaker 1: have not had a lesbian couple of Christen brought a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: but that didn't count. I want um, I really want
Speaker 1: Sydney and Snoop on here. I want them to talk
Speaker 1: about their sex. I would love for them to talk
Speaker 1: about who top to bottoms um. I know they've talked
Speaker 1: about using a strap and making strap jokes. I think
Speaker 1: that'd be really fun. Plus they're black. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: think of some other ship that we need on here.
Speaker 1: I want a grandma who fucks anybody who's old, who
Speaker 1: doesn't only hands we need. I feel like I would
Speaker 1: like someone really old on here to talk about what
Speaker 1: and not what senior sex is like talking about Amanda
Speaker 1: one moment when she said, old, I am not discussing.
Speaker 1: I do not want anyone that like, like y'all know
Speaker 1: exactly who she is too. Also, I actually have to
Speaker 1: throw him in the recap for the year because we
Speaker 1: had a whole lot of feedback from that motherfucker bitch.
Speaker 1: He said that because I was like I'm doing. I
Speaker 1: was done the whole time. I was just like anyone else,
Speaker 1: this is the longest hour, and a good Asian, man,
Speaker 1: I want a good Asian. You had a cash on
Speaker 1: here and he Asian. Come on, man, But that was
Speaker 1: a while. That's a little bit. I want to talk
Speaker 1: about Asian fetishizing. Actually, if you're an Asian escort, right, well, no,
Speaker 1: if we get Asians on here, I want to know they're, uh,
Speaker 1: why they like coming to cartoons so much? Because and
Speaker 1: and and that's more Japanese or anyone's saying. I just
Speaker 1: want you guys to know that I was not that.
Speaker 1: I was just saying, that's all you like to come
Speaker 1: about this sionally. Now we're anime characters. But no, you
Speaker 1: probably live in l A. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's what Asians being. We got a whole China town here.
Speaker 1: My niggas got a little Asians dog Davey fucking data
Speaker 1: little Asians. That's the pussy I'm throwing right there. Jesus Christ. Well,
Speaker 1: guys know you just gave a whole list my nigga.
Speaker 1: We're good. I want to give our hole confession for
Speaker 1: this week again. If y'all have hope confessions or homemail
Speaker 1: to send us, make sure you reach out to us
Speaker 1: on Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one
Speaker 1: comes from a listener of ours who wanted to give gratitude.
Speaker 1: Her title is the Abortion Episode. I do want to
Speaker 1: shout out to uh the ladies who joined us for
Speaker 1: that episode. That was maybe last year that we had
Speaker 1: the abortion episode. But it says, hey, girls, I recently
Speaker 1: got into the show, so I've been going through a
Speaker 1: ton of episodes and was drawn to the abortion one.
Speaker 1: Ship those were white women too, we have had quit.
Speaker 1: I just remembered like the professionals were white. Uh. I
Speaker 1: want to thank you so much for having such an
Speaker 1: open and honest conversation about a topic that is so
Speaker 1: often avoided. I recently had an abortion, which is why
Speaker 1: I listened to the episode. I don't have any close
Speaker 1: friends that have had one, girl, they just at tell you,
Speaker 1: uh we all had one. Uh So, I haven't been
Speaker 1: able to really talk about it the way I want to.
Speaker 1: I had an especially tough time because I experienced significant
Speaker 1: pain after and at You're a trip to the hospital
Speaker 1: in the second middle of the night. I had to
Speaker 1: get a second d n C by the first one
Speaker 1: apparently wasn't fully successful. Oh darn that sucks. The pain
Speaker 1: surrounding this experience was awful, But what was more awful
Speaker 1: was having no one in my circle I could relate to.
Speaker 1: So again, thank you both a lot for this episode.
Speaker 1: And of course I won't say your name, but thank
Speaker 1: you so much. And again that's again one of the
Speaker 1: blessings and things that I like so much about this
Speaker 1: show is yes, with some wild as crazy as taking hose. Now,
Speaker 1: we aren't the we aren't the you know wild nobody
Speaker 1: on this point. I'm just saying, oh, this is Bigga
Speaker 1: own it. I let him know what it is. He
Speaker 1: it's like he owns it. And then a second I've done,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't believe. But anyways, we are giving
Speaker 1: hope to all hose out there that there is hope.
Speaker 1: Uh So, I do want to say, while I'm glad
Speaker 1: and grateful for our vulnerability and and ways of opening
Speaker 1: up about the things that we've experienced throughout our sexual journeys,
Speaker 1: also adding in those educational, um and much needed episodes
Speaker 1: and conversations like the abortion one. I actually recently said
Speaker 1: on I G Live, like, uh so, I've been having
Speaker 1: stomach issues all you guys know, and I think I
Speaker 1: talked about shooting my brains. I don't like the first episode.
Speaker 1: So anyway, all my stomach issues. Someone who's like, well,
Speaker 1: maybe you're pregnant, and I was like, I'd get abortion
Speaker 1: right first thing I said. And then I was like,
Speaker 1: I wonder if I had an abortion, if I would
Speaker 1: come on the show and talk about it, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I think I would. Um, it's weird though, because right
Speaker 1: now it would take me time. Yeah, I was about
Speaker 1: to say it would take me time. I wouldn't just
Speaker 1: be like, guys, just so you know, the abortion cl
Speaker 1: this weekend, Like, I don't think that's how I would.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why I thought about it. There's
Speaker 1: so much I've talked about having an abortion. Right I'm older,
Speaker 1: everybody probably thinks I shouldn't because I'm already now. I
Speaker 1: would probably I would love the person I would have
Speaker 1: an abortion with or whatever. But if I had one,
Speaker 1: would I really come on the show. I think I would,
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you why. I think that every abortion
Speaker 1: story that we hear about or talk about, it's a
Speaker 1: young thing. It is, and I think mine would be
Speaker 1: one percent of life choice thing. And I also think
Speaker 1: that I get vulnerable enough I would want to talk
Speaker 1: about my experience, particularly because I was so out of
Speaker 1: it and maybe just too emotional, Like this would be
Speaker 1: a very level headed, understanding thing if I did it.
Speaker 1: If right, I never thought about I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: The abortion conversation does come up a dumb mistake, but
Speaker 1: that would be a good way to bring it. I
Speaker 1: think I would really come on. I'm not pregnant yet.
Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, she just ain't decide what she wanted
Speaker 1: to talk about it on the show, but I yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I would come in here. I will try
Speaker 1: not to make jokes about it because it is a
Speaker 1: very serious thing, and I would talk about my experience
Speaker 1: down to my wait time and everything. I would just
Speaker 1: be totally open. I'd be open about the type that
Speaker 1: I had about my recovery time. If I'm still wearing
Speaker 1: the pad um, just everything I think Because of the
Speaker 1: pad I wouldn't have remembered that. That seems like a
Speaker 1: very vivid um. I remember that part. Did you do
Speaker 1: a pill? No, they went in with the vacuum, so
Speaker 1: like I remember leaking because I started my period right after,
Speaker 1: So that's why I remember. But and some people that
Speaker 1: while you remember, have a great day. Okay, I'm just like, No,
Speaker 1: I think it would be an abortion in Mexico many No,
Speaker 1: that's why you keep coming back here. Wow, you have
Speaker 1: to come and get it back here. Okay, guys that
Speaker 1: I don't know. Actually we don't talk that much about her.
Speaker 1: No fucking abortion in a country round speaking language. You
Speaker 1: want to keep it? Oh we got a little bit out,
Speaker 1: No already, guys. I do want you guys once again,
Speaker 1: we are going to leave you off with another five
Speaker 1: minute bonus clip from our patreon. If you're all caught up,
Speaker 1: that's patreon dot com back slash horrible decisions. You do
Speaker 1: want to think if you're getting clips, it's because we're
Speaker 1: doing late editing and we don't always add it to YouTube.
Speaker 1: Stop saying that. We say We're gonna give you a clip.
Speaker 1: We not. You're the minority. Most people listen on the audio.
Speaker 1: You are the reason how that we change our clothes. However,
Speaker 1: I will say, just listen to the audio. If we're
Speaker 1: ever missing any clip, and if you want to clip
Speaker 1: that bad good patreon dot com slash horrible decision to
Speaker 1: listen to the red thank you. I don't know what
Speaker 1: she was referring to about that, because people will be
Speaker 1: yelling about us not having Patreon clips at the end
Speaker 1: of the YouTube. Oh That's what I'm talking about it know, well,
Speaker 1: any who Vincent feeling like baby meaning the tool anyway? Uh,
Speaker 1: but no, I did want to before we get out
Speaker 1: of here. I do just want to send prayers, wishes
Speaker 1: and positivity to anyone where COVID has affected you this awful,
Speaker 1: awful year. I do want you guys to go into
Speaker 1: one with more hope. There is a vaccine out here.
Speaker 1: I don't know what that means if we're really about
Speaker 1: to you know, remember, I don't know what white people
Speaker 1: to listen to this show. Look up the Tuskegee Experiment.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not an anti vaxer. Shout out to
Speaker 1: Jamila from good mom's bad choices you have, but it
Speaker 1: is scary, but I do. Just again want to send
Speaker 1: positive vibes to anyone in which lost someone uh due
Speaker 1: to COVID and this awful, awful, awful virus um and
Speaker 1: also shout out to everyone who has caught the virus
Speaker 1: and healed successfully. I know not everyone is as lucky.
Speaker 1: I want to thank all of you guys for tuning
Speaker 1: into us during this year, through the ups and downs,
Speaker 1: through COVID, through the Black Lives Matter process, through going
Speaker 1: virtual and sticking back with us. We appreciate y'all and
Speaker 1: again continue listening to us. Shout out we are on
Speaker 1: I Hard, shout out to the Black Effect podcast, and
Speaker 1: again thank you all for tuning in to yet another
Speaker 1: episode of Horrible Decisions. Thank you guys. Hey guys, I've
Speaker 1: been listening to Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and
Speaker 1: I thought you might have some advice or could relate
Speaker 1: to the current problem that I have. First off, long
Speaker 1: story short, I recently in the last two years came
Speaker 1: out as by It's been crazy trying to be true
Speaker 1: to myself because in my background, my mom was highly
Speaker 1: against the idea of a woman being with anyone else
Speaker 1: but a but a man. But when I came out
Speaker 1: as BY, I started experimenting with three simes, guys, girls
Speaker 1: all that, and then one day I started realizing I
Speaker 1: keep thinking about a threesome with two men who were
Speaker 1: either by or gay or whatever. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: try it, and I did, and I loved it. So
Speaker 1: now I'm into that a lot, and I never knew
Speaker 1: it before. Fast forward to last year, my X and
Speaker 1: I got back together. We've been on and off for
Speaker 1: seven years. I had no intention of going back after
Speaker 1: he was so upset about me coming out to him
Speaker 1: is by during the last time we broke up. But nevertheless,
Speaker 1: here we are. I do love him. Our sex has
Speaker 1: been amazing. I just wish he was more open to
Speaker 1: the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm not even asking
Speaker 1: for him to try a threesome with another man. I
Speaker 1: know that's a far as stress stretch, but damn, can
Speaker 1: I watch you another girl? Can we fuck this girl together?
Speaker 1: I have needs. I can't deny my sexuality, and it's
Speaker 1: sad as hell, but I take it slow because I
Speaker 1: know I just should have been open from a jump,
Speaker 1: and I've always known I was into both. I was
Speaker 1: afraid because I was so shameful. My question is, do
Speaker 1: you think there are any ways I can introduce the
Speaker 1: idea successfully to have a threesome. I definitely don't want
Speaker 1: to just bring it up bluntly like I have in
Speaker 1: the past, because he'll probably think he's gonna have to
Speaker 1: compete with a woman. Um. Sorry, it's lengthy with the
Speaker 1: story needed context until I figured out I'll be watching
Speaker 1: porn of all the things I wish I could try.
Speaker 1: So now see why you brought shout on Patreon. I'm
Speaker 1: so sick of he's goddamn how do I get a threesome?
Speaker 1: Of my partner questions? No, this one's a little bit
Speaker 1: different because it's just she's just announcing that she's bisexual.
Speaker 1: So I think it's a reverse right. It's normally men
Speaker 1: trying to bring women in on a threesome. And I
Speaker 1: had a situation with hospital dick and with the Jesus
Speaker 1: dude I dated where they really felt like and believed
Speaker 1: that other women were just as bad as other men.
Speaker 1: In my head, fucked up. I have a sex podcast.
Speaker 1: I was like, but it's just a bit I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to suck another nigga, and I will say this
Speaker 1: if there is any ladies listening to the podcast. I
Speaker 1: know we don't often talk about men saying no to threesomes,
Speaker 1: but I do believe, and both men that told me
Speaker 1: no have big dicks. I don't think it's a confidence issue.
Speaker 1: I truly believe it has to do with where someone
Speaker 1: feels like they stand with you. Hear me out. I
Speaker 1: don't think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they
Speaker 1: know who the funk they are to you, Like, I
Speaker 1: think there's a reason that people that go to swing
Speaker 1: as resorts have been together forever and they're old as fuck. Like,
Speaker 1: I don't think that, especially you, being on and off
Speaker 1: seven years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom
Speaker 1: makes sense when they don't even know what the funk
Speaker 1: they have going on with you. And maybe you could
Speaker 1: say he knows you well or whatever, but like, on
Speaker 1: and off for seven years, on and off a lot,
Speaker 1: and it sounds like you're more off and on for
Speaker 1: a nigga did not know you've been by the whole time.
Speaker 1: And if you mean then that, to me, is you
Speaker 1: coming from a completely emo place. Because niggas are okay
Speaker 1: with threesomes before they know where you stand with them,
Speaker 1: like clearly. But I'm saying that I'm talking about in
Speaker 1: case where men don't your boyfriend a man I've had
Speaker 1: a threesome with, These aren't the men were talking about.
Speaker 1: We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable and where
Speaker 1: where it comes from maybe right, So I mean that's
Speaker 1: where I'm putting my input in. And I know we
Speaker 1: can all talk about men we funk that I've had
Speaker 1: a threesome with. But I'm curious to know what y'all
Speaker 1: think as far as a man who is not not
Speaker 1: a man who is, but a man who's not. I mean,
Speaker 1: I just think it could come for um a lot
Speaker 1: more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such as
Speaker 1: their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean I did
Speaker 1: have someone early on that I was talking to and
Speaker 1: well this wasn't recent at all. You know who I'm
Speaker 1: talking about, but he actually did not like the fact
Speaker 1: that I liked other women and didn't feel like he
Speaker 1: would ever really care for me to be with another
Speaker 1: woman and came to me like, if I feel like
Speaker 1: you have to bring in another woman to the bedroom
Speaker 1: or that you want to play with women, it's because
Speaker 1: you don't feel fully satisfied with me, And so I
Speaker 1: think that outside of religion, outside of what the relationship is,
Speaker 1: a man could have some insecurities if you want to
Speaker 1: bring someone in the room at all, like and I
Speaker 1: think that that's really where a lot of that stems from.
Speaker 1: It's more so him a man feeling inadequate to please
Speaker 1: you fully and that's why you're seeking someone else. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's article I read because when you try to like
Speaker 1: search advice about this, it's all about women asking my
Speaker 1: boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do.
Speaker 1: There's this article on bold dot com. It's Bold with
Speaker 1: the Athian and it says my boyfriend and I try
Speaker 1: to have a threesome and it destroyed us. And there's
Speaker 1: something really interesting about this. She says. At first, I
Speaker 1: was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe I
Speaker 1: should have told him I was nervous, but I just
Speaker 1: wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like if
Speaker 1: someone is telling you know before it's even happening, like
Speaker 1: this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end so
Speaker 1: badly if you all don't know where you stand. And
Speaker 1: I think that Honestly, it's better left undone than trying
Speaker 1: to funk someone else with someone that doesn't want to
Speaker 1: do it. Like, you know, we hear about men kind
Speaker 1: of coercing women into threesomes so much, and I think
Speaker 1: that as women, we've got to really respect fucking boundaries.
Speaker 1: And if you've got to fund someone else that bad
Speaker 1: and you're that you're kinks are that important, then girl
Speaker 1: in the game, you