WEBVTT - Ep 198: Steve Harvey Really Ruined Dating 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:09.160 Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hey, guys, 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:13.640 welcome to another episode of Horry Blade Dczy on uh 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:16.159 this year, girl, Mandy be you already know what it is. 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:19.000 We are wrapping up this hell of a year. I'm 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:22.240 sitting next to my co host who goes by Wheezy, 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:24.239 and I am going to force her to have two 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:28.840 A K s right now. Think fast, Patty, and there 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:32.440 we go. So you really do have ak Hi guys, welcome, 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:37.680 I'm super do it. This will be a third one. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:45.239 Someone says something that was weepy on Patreon. Mandy misspelled 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:48.519 my name in a and she said, did you do 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:54.360 weepy on purpose? That was so funny? Oh, crying as 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:58.160 whole now. Anyways, y'all, somehow we did make it UM 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:02.400 to the end of twenty twenty. UM. I guess I 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:05.600 guess we'll start by saying, I guess let's let's start 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:10.520 by both saying one thing a piece that we completely 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:17.399 did not expect to do in UM business related, career related, 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:21.080 UM or horrible decisions related. That's fine, especially because we did, 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:23.479 as many of you guys know, how to cancel our tour, 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:25.319 which we thought we would be able to get back 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.040 up and run in by a fall and winter, and 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.320 it didn't happen. I still wanted to go to Atlanta. 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:32.880 Was really fine, we look will Matt check that Championshure 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.360 won't be fine. She literally was like me, we could 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:38.520 still do it, man, ain't how do they gonna how 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:40.399 are they gonna? Bring it back to the Horrible Decisions 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.479 live show where they caught COVID and I was like, no, bro, 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:44.880 the world is shutting down. And I think this was 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:46.680 right when NBA season. I said there's no way we 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:49.240 can do a live show and basketball ain't even playing 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:52.600 a whole. I just felt like, literally, I think that's 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:54.440 what what was like, No, bro, we can't do it. 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:55.960 Like I guess maybe we uz a k. I just 0:01:56.040 --> 0:02:00.240 feel like, but I just feel like we you know. 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:02.120 What actually made me the most sad was meet and 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.360 Greet That will change forever. That will Jesus and Merrill 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.080 had a virtual live show because they had a book tour. 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.160 They were supposed to come out and they did a 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:12.080 virtual meet and greet and I was like, we'd be 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:14.440 on I G Live and we do our patron Town 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:16.839 halls once a month. There's just no way. I think 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:21.919 I would feel awful charge someone for a goddamn zoom, 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:26.080 like hey, hey in there, like no ingrates are just 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.160 such a they're there. Don't take this the wrong way 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.920 for anybody listening. They are the most draining part of 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:35.240 the show because they are the most we give the 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:38.720 most energy in those right well, and as impasts or 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:40.960 like a lot of people share their stories and how 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:44.840 horrible decisions has effectively not only changed their lives but 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:46.880 their relationships. A lot of people will be with their 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:49.880 partners and so we're taking in do you remember the 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:53.720 autistic guy that met his girlfriend? It's like because we 0:02:53.800 --> 0:02:55.840 like gave red some homemail and he was like I 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.240 met her because like, dude, I know, there's just a 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.360 lot with Seriously, if you guys are looking on YouTube, 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:04.520 I'm wearing a huge bomber jacket because it's actually fairly cold. 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:08.160 Like I'm gonna get in these collar bones today a 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:10.880 bitches on a juice die bitch. I was like, I don't. 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:13.639 I'm gonna do three days, but I am going to 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:18.200 go back to what my diet was post surgery, So 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:22.120 back to liquid only super intake on protein shakes, water 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:26.800 and then soft foods, so salt foods being like boiled 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:31.320 at what happened? How wet is your ship? How? What 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:36.520 is my ship? My actual ships? Yes, well the protein 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.600 and the shakes make it solid, so I don't really 0:03:40.160 --> 0:03:43.240 I don't really have wet ship going on. Uh, like 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:48.360 you have loose ass? No? No, what's crazy? Is I mean? 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.600 I it's you know, it's crazy because I'm reading all 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.640 the reviews because it's my first time juicing and people 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:56.480 are like, oh my god, it was the hardest three 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:58.560 days of my life, and a lot of you. I 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:02.000 don't think I shared much of my journey postop, but 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:05.280 I did two and a half months of no solid 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.720 food for people that don't know your postop was what. Yeah, 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:10.520 so I had the gastric sleeve surgery. This was now 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.760 two years. Mandy was a bitch in the hospital, by 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.520 the way. She was such a bitch that she to 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:19.640 apologize to the nurse because, yeah, but they did something, 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:24.200 and listen, I'm eating if I'm a bit just because 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:26.640 you did something, because I'm really a nice person. Mandy 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:28.720 had to walk around? Was that it? Yeah, I didn't 0:04:28.720 --> 0:04:31.359 have to walk around. Mandy woke up and it was 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:34.120 so funny because Mandy woke up looked at me like, 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:37.960 I cannot believe you're here. But I just feel like 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:40.840 if I was alone and like having surgery, like you know, 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:43.400 so Mandy, they were like telling her to walk around. 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:46.240 So we took like one or two loops around and 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:47.839 I don't know what that lady told you to do, 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.520 but she was like, I'm gonna do it on my 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:52.880 own top. It's when I'm gonna do it. I was like, damn, Mandy, 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:56.040 she had her job and Mandy cannot tell you was sorry, right, 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:57.800 So the lady hands for water and ice chips, and 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.680 Mandy doesn't even look in the face. She was like, 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.960 I'm sorry for talking to you like that, ma'am. Because 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:06.360 I realized that was probably a little a little, but yeah, 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.400 I mean I was just coming out of surgery and yeah, 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:10.159 like all I wanted to do was lay in bed. 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.080 But after coming out of any type of surgery, they 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:14.479 don't want you to lay in bed because you could 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.520 get blood clots like a lot of things. And then yeah, 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:20.960 at this moment, I'm also noticing or realizing to myself, 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.599 I will not fucking be able to eat solid food 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:26.840 or drink liquor or do the things that I love 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:28.960 to do. Four months on it after this, so yeah, 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.719 I mean I woke up out of surgery just with 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.520 a huge reality shock. Um. But anyway, let's get back 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:37.360 to God damn it and the hellhole. This has been 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:41.000 happy become a little bit of quarantine thick uh in 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:44.400 the And I guess my butt has always been here 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:46.080 because you were like, oh my butts, I did lose 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:48.039 a little bit, but it's always been here. It was 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:52.080 never gone gone, just a little bit gone. Um. But 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:54.000 my man has met me since my ass has been 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:55.760 my ass, so he doesn't know how big it really 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:59.200 was at one point, so he's happy with it. I need, Yeah, 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:02.040 he's happy with it. Um. But yeah, I guess I'll 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:05.120 start um. I think again. This year has been a 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:08.080 lot for so many of us. Um. I guess something 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:10.719 that I would have never anticipated. Like I said, when 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:14.000 we stopped the tour that was in March and our last, 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:16.160 our very last live show was Orlando, and I was like, 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.800 which do you know the money we just are not 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.600 gonna see now because the tour ended and we had 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.920 to get into virtual you left to Mexico, and I 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.159 was just like Oh my god, is this really life? 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:28.719 I ended up getting a fucking cat, and I guess 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:31.680 one of the what is it the roses that grew 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.800 out of the concrete sidewalk was me, Yeah, starting a 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:37.599 new business. And I would have never thought that I 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:39.520 could do that. It's so weird because I have my 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.240 conference call set up on Tuesdays and Fridays now, and 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:46.880 I'm literally back into this corporate type of schedule that 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.880 I know we talked about feeling like we're we have 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.240 better sex now because we don't have those jobs. But 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.320 just a bit of that structure has really helped me 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:59.280 mentally over this year. That's actually why I wanted to 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:02.560 now that I'm back to New York. UM wanted to 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:07.760 uh start recording more frequently because something that came out 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:11.520 of quarantine for me, I guess was when I realized 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:14.440 touring was gone. I was like, Okay, my money is different. 0:07:14.800 --> 0:07:16.200 And some of you guys know I've been in like 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.200 comedy school and stuff like that, and I'm not saying 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.680 I'm that funny, but it was more so me trying 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:24.000 to understand jokes and what makes things funny. I noticed 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.240 even something on my other podcast that Eddie does is 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:29.560 he repeats stuff over and over, like, um, if there's 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:32.280 like a tagline to the joke, which is how funny 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:35.000 I was when Sophia came and I just kept saying 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:38.760 that that's a comedian. And Kevin Hart does it a 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.800 lot too, That's absolutely he repeats a lot of stuff. Um. 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:44.680 And so the repetition and learning that thing, that's something 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:48.000 I learned in comedy. So I learned it. But you 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.600 do like start to see patterns when you are in 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:53.280 this class and you're like, oh and more so I 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:57.400 wanted to do this because of writing. So there's something 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:00.760 that I um learned. Andy and I were touring in 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:03.520 l A and people were reaching out with me to 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:05.960 me to do TV stuff and I was like, I 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.480 like this, but some of it was very uncomfortable for me. Um. 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.280 They also require you very much and this is just 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.560 anybody that wants to get into influence for ship right, um, 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.080 and you do very well at this. They require a 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.560 serious scheduling with posting. Oh I'm big on but I 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:22.680 have my thing with that and even my social media 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.560 what I'm doing now even with my other brand. I 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.080 also have a marketing degree. So a part of it 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:31.800 is marketing. This is almost like what I did in 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.840 my classes. I took thirty credits focusing on marketing for 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.760 my for my second Bachelor's So I think it's also 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.040 just which is why even in the beginning, I was like, 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:42.880 but if you don't get your ass on Twitter, get 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.760 on Twitter, goot on Twitter. I understand the importance of 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:49.000 marketing on social mediacally. Yeah, I guess I like social 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:52.200 media for the genuinity and talking to people. And I 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.600 also don't know if I'm like, do I stop being 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:56.679 a real person if I and I know, when we 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:58.120 first started, I was like, why am I to do ads? 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.520 Why would I do ads? Like it ruins it? But like, 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.520 I just didn't like it. And so when I started 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.959 doing TV ship you might have heard on Sophia with 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:08.280 an F I got passed over first show that not 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:10.800 only did um everyone in the room say I was 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.200 better at than the other person, but it was simple 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:17.440 simply a social media thing. I mean, and I was like, 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:20.480 I don't ever want to be passed up for talent 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.719 versus cloud again. And so then I was like, well, 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:25.680 if I'm not going to try to get this cloud, 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:27.839 what am I gonna do? So I was like, well, 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:30.280 maybe I can just attribute to writing. So I started 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.320 doing punch up. If you guys don't know what punch 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.000 up is, it's a really cool job you get hired for. Basically, 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:36.520 they throw you in a room, make you sign N 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:40.439 d a's, and they either keep putting clips or scripts 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.400 in front of you and you rewrite the jokes. So, 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:46.240 for example, Mandy and Wheezy walk into a room and 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:50.000 they're about to have a discussion about touring. You have 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.360 to figure out when Mandy walks in the door and 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:54.680 sees Wheezy, what jokes she's gonna say. What they're gonna 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:57.120 say back and forth to each other when they're sitting down, 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:59.240 how they're gonna start talking about it. What's funny? What 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.320 do people know about Mandy and Wheezy that would make 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:03.400 it funny? Um? All kinds of ship like that, you 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:05.120 go back and forth, back and forth. Um. And it 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.160 was funny because one of the shows that I was 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.319 doing punch up for as a Black show, and there 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.040 was an Indian guy in there and he was like, 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:13.280 I really want to say the N word in this 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:15.680 and you guys can maybe write it out, but I 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:17.199 feel like it needs an N word. I was like, yeah, 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:18.960 my nigga, they need to say nigga and you know 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:22.080 other people like nigga would be hilarious. Yeah, I have 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.360 them say her nigga and like a ship like that. 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:29.160 Um and so did punch up. Then it started coming 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:31.599 into writing and um, I explored a little bit with 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:33.679 making our Horrible Decisions film and shout out to dentist. 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.600 I've learned a little bit about um filming and what 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:39.719 it takes to make stuff. And so then came m 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.960 fuse and you know, making a TV show. And I 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:48.160 think that I would have never before Quarantine sat and 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:51.640 thought about what I enjoyed, right Like, I like it 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:56.160 forced us to sit our asses down, which as a 0:10:56.200 --> 0:11:01.160 creative or an entrepreneur, or even someone who found themselves 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:03.880 being taken out of the office and getting into and 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:07.920 having to work remotely, you having that time in your 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:11.400 home to just think about what makes you happy, even 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.160 your space. I mean I redecorated, you know, my living room, 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.960 my my my, my bar area, like because you literally 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.040 just sit with yourself and the things that make you happy, 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:22.680 the things that bother you, and how you can improve 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.320 as a person. I would say, and I think just 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:29.640 discovering things like other ways to make money. N I 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:32.439 watched so many Amazon courses um with some dude that 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.480 got on my nerves. His name is Joshua Crisp. I 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:36.160 don't care if he hears this every in life. He 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.320 is so annoying, but paid for his course and he 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.360 was like, yeah, I was excited to learn about Amazon, 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:42.280 and I was like, I could never do this. E 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:44.760 commerce is really difficult. A lot of people make mad money. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:49.360 You're doing it when I tell you, girl, I uh 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:51.600 and all of the horror have I want to thank 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.280 all of y'all for for the support with Official box Owner. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:59.280 I'm actually coming out with my own product line, so 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.720 I will have bork ascids depositories, apple side of vinegar, gummies, uh, 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:06.199 feminine pH ye. I am working on my own CBD 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.680 lube like and I'm just like dealing with the manufacturers, 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.880 the labels, talking to people in China. The manufacturers for 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:14.959 those products are here in America. So you know what 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:18.680 made me not to do e commerce? You're going to laugh. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:21.880 Shout out to your our patrons. I love you. Patreon 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:25.600 merch people will write me and curse me out about 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.400 how I never sent them merch I look up their name. 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:30.800 I'm like, it was delivered. It probably just like you 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.360 know what I mean, Like people really like And I 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:35.200 saw a comment once where they were like, fuck you, 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.520 they're too busy, they don't do this. I mean, Mandy 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:41.240 when I tell you, I res real girl. Ups lost 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:44.080 twenty of my boxes. Oh I took. I was so upset. 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:46.320 People would act like it was my fault. And I'm like, 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:49.600 I spent hours and hours and hours and shoutouts to 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.760 a Vinnie who's helping us, But now I feel bad, niggd. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:54.800 You know what I'm saying, because he's reading the messages too, 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.840 and just mail is something that's out of your control. 0:12:56.920 --> 0:13:00.000 So yeah, um. From a Horrible Decisions perspective, I would 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:05.680 say I am really grateful for finally having merch and 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:09.880 simple thing to be grateful for. We do virtual town 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:14.200 halls on Patreon every month. I'm not saying that it's 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:16.120 obviously making up for a live show, because it's not 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:17.920 even close to a live show. We just do an episode. 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:20.160 But like when people get on there with their horrible 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:24.080 Decisions T shirts or know us so well like and 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.360 make their jokes with us, and they just know us 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:28.400 all too well, the fact that we could sit on 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:30.120 there and talk about things we wouldn't even mention on 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:34.320 the main episode, whether it be fears, finances, grieving. I 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:36.600 talked about me going through a lot of pain with 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:40.559 a sickness with family, Like, I just love that community 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.959 so much. And I'm sorry if you know there's ever 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:45.520 been a moment where you guys feel like we leave 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:47.640 something out because they pay for it. But I just 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.160 believe when people really want to contribute to your brand, 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.760 they do. And five dollars maybe a lot to some 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:54.880 or a little to to to others. But I just 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.480 love how much tighter that places and it's been very 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.920 a safe haven for horrible decisions for me. I'm good 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:02.840 for Patrion. What about you? I like that, UM horrible 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.559 decisions related Oh Jesus, I still want to kill your 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:09.520 kill you and punch you in your face everything every 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:14.000 fucking week. Um. Like I said, I think I'm just 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:18.520 grateful because this platform actually helped me with what I 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.840 consider my purpose. Um as far as, like I said, 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:27.040 getting into the feminine health conversation, uh something that's they're funny, 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:30.280 how it's too different purpose. We're completely different right now 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.400 with with where our journeys are taking us just from this, 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:37.400 but that I love. And it's, like I said, getting 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.160 into e commerce that's something I actually hated cost accounting 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.040 when I went to school for that. And so to 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:45.360 be in a space where I'm creating my own products 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:48.200 and dealing with my own shopify and I have a team, 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:52.080 and it's it's insane. Um. But also, like I said, 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:55.880 just that closeness to learning and continuing the conversation regarding 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.520 feminine hygiene as as it pertains and affects your sexual 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.720 health something even most recent I think that not only 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:05.840 through the conversations I'm having on periods this, but shout 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.440 out Olivia Dope, one of my co hosts on my 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:12.760 other podcast, she just went through fibroid removal surgery. Um. 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:14.640 And then my other really really close friend. I'm not 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.360 gonna put her name out there because it's something that 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:20.560 she's battling with. We've been communicating regarding her mammograms and 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.920 she has potentially uh something in her breast that could 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:28.280 be cancer early thirties and so, but she also has 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:32.200 a family history of breast cancer. And so having two 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:35.120 people that are fairly close to me right now experiencing 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:39.520 things within feminine, you know, health is just it's just 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:41.560 eye opening to the fact that we do have to 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:50.000 continue all that yet, even if it's at Charlotte Magagne. Yes, 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:52.720 that is a the biggest part of horrible decisions this year. 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:57.440 I do want to see it. Shout out to my heart. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:00.080 But Charlottagne has been trying to put us on to 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.000 something for a long for a very long time. That 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:04.160 is Charlemagne's and I think one thing that just really 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:07.240 elevates him in this game. He really I believe this. 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:08.920 I know a lot of people don't like Charlotta Magne, 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:11.160 but I really believe in my heart of hearts that 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:13.680 he does want to put people on. And I was 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:17.400 really drunk, but he actually got a drunk text for 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:22.120 me on Thanksgiving and I text him and I was like, Charlemagne, 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:24.000 I just really hope you're having a great thanks Giving 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.440 and I just want to say you were one of 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:28.000 the things that I'm very thankful for this year. I 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:30.640 was drunk, but he definitely got a drunk He definitely 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.040 got a drunk text. Yeah, he definitely uh text backs 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.600 and the thanks and thanks very much. I'm grateful for him. 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.360 I'm grateful for him not trying to funk us over 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.480 with cash even though he knew, like, you know, this 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.280 is a big media company. Tell me what you want, 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.360 tell me what you're fear for for and other than that, 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:45.480 our first time being on TV It's horrible decisions was 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:49.160 because of Charlottagne. So second time, what was her first time? 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:53.640 We got HBO and then we got on Vice. But 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:57.200 HBO is technically like premium television which people gotta pay for. 0:16:57.360 --> 0:17:00.080 Not everyone has HBO, but Vice is pretty much on 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.640 all cable networks. But yeah, like he got us on 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:08.400 there that I think I constantly, whether I even realize 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:10.359 it or not, when I go on Twitter, I'm like, 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.600 what's black owned this? Let me just tell you how 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:15.639 much black owns should ask for real estate agent, moving company, 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:23.720 tennis instructor, personal trainers, black trainers in Mexico, black cannabis companies, anything. 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.639 And I want to make sure that I'm pushing that 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:28.399 agenda because I talked about so much black ship that 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:30.159 I feel like I have to support it. Like I 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:33.359 feel like we can't do our jobs and tell people 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:35.520 to buy our black as merge or do anything if 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.320 we're not putting the same into the world. Black Friday, Nigga. 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:40.720 I was so lit. I got on Twitter and I 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:43.000 was like, I'm gonna just shop all black. Send me 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:45.879 all your stuff. People sent me Mandy, there was probably 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.159 like a hundred and forty lengths I brought black plants. 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:50.879 Shout out to Thornton Raised. I thought that was a 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:54.360 cool name. Candles. Black girls sell candles, Mandy. I don't 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:58.520 know if you know a candles. All the candles here, 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.960 they all do candles. I I did buy from two 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:07.240 black owned companies, actually black owned candle companies. Uh damn it. 0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:10.640 One is weight I believe. I met her on clubhouse 0:18:10.680 --> 0:18:14.800 and the other came from uh my other homegirl, Crystal, 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:17.080 and you would love it. It's called the Board which 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:21.359 she and she puts crystals and she has Prosperity candles 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.239 and things like that. She's actually Latina, but supported her 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.720 as well with her business. And yeah, they were super 0:18:26.760 --> 0:18:29.880 dope candles. So shout out to them. Well, y'all sell 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:33.480 glitter body buttered candles. Workout outfits. My god, that is 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:36.399 a black business. Which I have eight sets. At one 0:18:36.440 --> 0:18:38.240 point many I was like, let me just keep looking 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:42.119 like I'm like give away this ship. Not that that 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:43.760 anything is wrong with them. I just have too much. 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:46.360 But shout out to you guys, and I encourage all 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.200 of you when you're looking for anyone. I think it's 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:50.360 great for us to do that. UM Women on two 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:52.840 but black own first. So okay, yeah, yeah, let's go. 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:56.200 So we're gonna get into our Vanila sheets for this week. 0:18:56.880 --> 0:19:02.920 One Latina Legal last. So guys, this is what is 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:05.959 actually funny and and what also I thought about when 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:09.280 I read this UM Vanilla ship this week is we 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.040 did a Patreon episode on just I think Wild things 0:19:12.080 --> 0:19:14.000 there or it may actually have been a regular episode 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:16.840 where it talked about kind of how things worked for 0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:20.040 sex over centuries and back to b C. Well anyways, 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:26.840 A judge up over in Canada allowed annulment because the 0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:30.720 husband could not keep an erection. A Canadian judge a 0:19:30.800 --> 0:19:33.600 note a marriage because the husband was unable to maintain 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:37.000 erection long enough to have sex. The recent Supreme Court 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:40.560 of British Columbia decision details how a wife sought out 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.960 the annulment because her husband was unable to consummate their 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:47.080 marriage despite their attempts to have sex every month for 0:19:47.280 --> 0:19:50.600 almost a year after their wedding, dating back to August 0:19:51.720 --> 0:19:55.000 In British Columbia. A marriage is voidable where a claimant 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:59.040 has established their spouse lacks the capacity to consummate the marriage. 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:02.040 This is a sex This City episode? Is it really? Charlotte? 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:04.720 Here we go, Tray if you guys remember I know, 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:06.360 I guess that's another thing I do on this show. 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:09.720 Charlotte and Trey, who was her first husband, the rich doctor, 0:20:09.840 --> 0:20:11.760