1
00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:09,160
Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hey, guys,

2
00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:13,640
Speaker 1: welcome to another episode of Horry Blade Dczy on uh

3
00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,159
Speaker 1: this year, girl, Mandy be you already know what it is.

4
00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,000
Speaker 1: We are wrapping up this hell of a year. I'm

5
00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:22,240
Speaker 1: sitting next to my co host who goes by Wheezy,

6
00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:24,239
Speaker 1: and I am going to force her to have two

7
00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:28,840
Speaker 1: A K s right now. Think fast, Patty, and there

8
00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:32,440
Speaker 1: we go. So you really do have ak Hi guys, welcome,

9
00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:37,680
Speaker 1: I'm super do it. This will be a third one.

10
00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:45,239
Speaker 1: Someone says something that was weepy on Patreon. Mandy misspelled

11
00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,519
Speaker 1: my name in a and she said, did you do

12
00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:54,360
Speaker 1: weepy on purpose? That was so funny? Oh, crying as

13
00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:58,160
Speaker 1: whole now. Anyways, y'all, somehow we did make it UM

14
00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:02,400
Speaker 1: to the end of twenty twenty. UM. I guess I

15
00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:05,600
Speaker 1: guess we'll start by saying, I guess let's let's start

16
00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:10,520
Speaker 1: by both saying one thing a piece that we completely

17
00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:17,399
Speaker 1: did not expect to do in UM business related, career related,

18
00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:21,080
Speaker 1: UM or horrible decisions related. That's fine, especially because we did,

19
00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,479
Speaker 1: as many of you guys know, how to cancel our tour,

20
00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:25,319
Speaker 1: which we thought we would be able to get back

21
00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,040
Speaker 1: up and run in by a fall and winter, and

22
00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,320
Speaker 1: it didn't happen. I still wanted to go to Atlanta.

23
00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:32,880
Speaker 1: Was really fine, we look will Matt check that Championshure

24
00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:36,360
Speaker 1: won't be fine. She literally was like me, we could

25
00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,520
Speaker 1: still do it, man, ain't how do they gonna how

26
00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,399
Speaker 1: are they gonna? Bring it back to the Horrible Decisions

27
00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,479
Speaker 1: live show where they caught COVID and I was like, no, bro,

28
00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:44,880
Speaker 1: the world is shutting down. And I think this was

29
00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:46,680
Speaker 1: right when NBA season. I said there's no way we

30
00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,240
Speaker 1: can do a live show and basketball ain't even playing

31
00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,600
Speaker 1: a whole. I just felt like, literally, I think that's

32
00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:54,440
Speaker 1: what what was like, No, bro, we can't do it.

33
00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:55,960
Speaker 1: Like I guess maybe we uz a k. I just

34
00:01:56,040 --> 00:02:00,240
Speaker 1: feel like, but I just feel like we you know.

35
00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:02,120
Speaker 1: What actually made me the most sad was meet and

36
00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:05,360
Speaker 1: Greet That will change forever. That will Jesus and Merrill

37
00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:07,080
Speaker 1: had a virtual live show because they had a book tour.

38
00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,160
Speaker 1: They were supposed to come out and they did a

39
00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:12,080
Speaker 1: virtual meet and greet and I was like, we'd be

40
00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,440
Speaker 1: on I G Live and we do our patron Town

41
00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:16,839
Speaker 1: halls once a month. There's just no way. I think

42
00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:21,919
Speaker 1: I would feel awful charge someone for a goddamn zoom,

43
00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:26,080
Speaker 1: like hey, hey in there, like no ingrates are just

44
00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,160
Speaker 1: such a they're there. Don't take this the wrong way

45
00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,920
Speaker 1: for anybody listening. They are the most draining part of

46
00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:35,240
Speaker 1: the show because they are the most we give the

47
00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,720
Speaker 1: most energy in those right well, and as impasts or

48
00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,960
Speaker 1: like a lot of people share their stories and how

49
00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:44,840
Speaker 1: horrible decisions has effectively not only changed their lives but

50
00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:46,880
Speaker 1: their relationships. A lot of people will be with their

51
00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,880
Speaker 1: partners and so we're taking in do you remember the

52
00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,720
Speaker 1: autistic guy that met his girlfriend? It's like because we

53
00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:55,840
Speaker 1: like gave red some homemail and he was like I

54
00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,240
Speaker 1: met her because like, dude, I know, there's just a

55
00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:00,360
Speaker 1: lot with Seriously, if you guys are looking on YouTube,

56
00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:04,520
Speaker 1: I'm wearing a huge bomber jacket because it's actually fairly cold.

57
00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:08,160
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna get in these collar bones today a

58
00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,880
Speaker 1: bitches on a juice die bitch. I was like, I don't.

59
00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:13,639
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do three days, but I am going to

60
00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:18,200
Speaker 1: go back to what my diet was post surgery, So

61
00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:22,120
Speaker 1: back to liquid only super intake on protein shakes, water

62
00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:26,800
Speaker 1: and then soft foods, so salt foods being like boiled

63
00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:31,320
Speaker 1: at what happened? How wet is your ship? How? What

64
00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:36,520
Speaker 1: is my ship? My actual ships? Yes, well the protein

65
00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,600
Speaker 1: and the shakes make it solid, so I don't really

66
00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,240
Speaker 1: I don't really have wet ship going on. Uh, like

67
00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:48,360
Speaker 1: you have loose ass? No? No, what's crazy? Is I mean?

68
00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,600
Speaker 1: I it's you know, it's crazy because I'm reading all

69
00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,640
Speaker 1: the reviews because it's my first time juicing and people

70
00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:56,480
Speaker 1: are like, oh my god, it was the hardest three

71
00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,560
Speaker 1: days of my life, and a lot of you. I

72
00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:02,000
Speaker 1: don't think I shared much of my journey postop, but

73
00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:05,280
Speaker 1: I did two and a half months of no solid

74
00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,720
Speaker 1: food for people that don't know your postop was what. Yeah,

75
00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:10,520
Speaker 1: so I had the gastric sleeve surgery. This was now

76
00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,760
Speaker 1: two years. Mandy was a bitch in the hospital, by

77
00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,520
Speaker 1: the way. She was such a bitch that she to

78
00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:19,640
Speaker 1: apologize to the nurse because, yeah, but they did something,

79
00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:24,200
Speaker 1: and listen, I'm eating if I'm a bit just because

80
00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,640
Speaker 1: you did something, because I'm really a nice person. Mandy

81
00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,720
Speaker 1: had to walk around? Was that it? Yeah, I didn't

82
00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:31,359
Speaker 1: have to walk around. Mandy woke up and it was

83
00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:34,120
Speaker 1: so funny because Mandy woke up looked at me like,

84
00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:37,960
Speaker 1: I cannot believe you're here. But I just feel like

85
00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:40,840
Speaker 1: if I was alone and like having surgery, like you know,

86
00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,400
Speaker 1: so Mandy, they were like telling her to walk around.

87
00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:46,240
Speaker 1: So we took like one or two loops around and

88
00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:47,839
Speaker 1: I don't know what that lady told you to do,

89
00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,520
Speaker 1: but she was like, I'm gonna do it on my

90
00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,880
Speaker 1: own top. It's when I'm gonna do it. I was like, damn, Mandy,

91
00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:56,040
Speaker 1: she had her job and Mandy cannot tell you was sorry, right,

92
00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:57,800
Speaker 1: So the lady hands for water and ice chips, and

93
00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,680
Speaker 1: Mandy doesn't even look in the face. She was like,

94
00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,960
Speaker 1: I'm sorry for talking to you like that, ma'am. Because

95
00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:06,360
Speaker 1: I realized that was probably a little a little, but yeah,

96
00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:08,400
Speaker 1: I mean I was just coming out of surgery and yeah,

97
00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,159
Speaker 1: like all I wanted to do was lay in bed.

98
00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,080
Speaker 1: But after coming out of any type of surgery, they

99
00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:14,479
Speaker 1: don't want you to lay in bed because you could

100
00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,520
Speaker 1: get blood clots like a lot of things. And then yeah,

101
00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,960
Speaker 1: at this moment, I'm also noticing or realizing to myself,

102
00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,599
Speaker 1: I will not fucking be able to eat solid food

103
00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:26,840
Speaker 1: or drink liquor or do the things that I love

104
00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:28,960
Speaker 1: to do. Four months on it after this, so yeah,

105
00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:30,719
Speaker 1: I mean I woke up out of surgery just with

106
00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,520
Speaker 1: a huge reality shock. Um. But anyway, let's get back

107
00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:37,360
Speaker 1: to God damn it and the hellhole. This has been

108
00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,000
Speaker 1: happy become a little bit of quarantine thick uh in

109
00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:44,400
Speaker 1: the And I guess my butt has always been here

110
00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:46,080
Speaker 1: because you were like, oh my butts, I did lose

111
00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:48,039
Speaker 1: a little bit, but it's always been here. It was

112
00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:52,080
Speaker 1: never gone gone, just a little bit gone. Um. But

113
00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,000
Speaker 1: my man has met me since my ass has been

114
00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:55,760
Speaker 1: my ass, so he doesn't know how big it really

115
00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:59,200
Speaker 1: was at one point, so he's happy with it. I need, Yeah,

116
00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,040
Speaker 1: he's happy with it. Um. But yeah, I guess I'll

117
00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:05,120
Speaker 1: start um. I think again. This year has been a

118
00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:08,080
Speaker 1: lot for so many of us. Um. I guess something

119
00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,719
Speaker 1: that I would have never anticipated. Like I said, when

120
00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:14,000
Speaker 1: we stopped the tour that was in March and our last,

121
00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,160
Speaker 1: our very last live show was Orlando, and I was like,

122
00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:18,800
Speaker 1: which do you know the money we just are not

123
00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:21,600
Speaker 1: gonna see now because the tour ended and we had

124
00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:23,920
Speaker 1: to get into virtual you left to Mexico, and I

125
00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,159
Speaker 1: was just like Oh my god, is this really life?

126
00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,719
Speaker 1: I ended up getting a fucking cat, and I guess

127
00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,680
Speaker 1: one of the what is it the roses that grew

128
00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:35,800
Speaker 1: out of the concrete sidewalk was me, Yeah, starting a

129
00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:37,599
Speaker 1: new business. And I would have never thought that I

130
00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,520
Speaker 1: could do that. It's so weird because I have my

131
00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,240
Speaker 1: conference call set up on Tuesdays and Fridays now, and

132
00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:46,880
Speaker 1: I'm literally back into this corporate type of schedule that

133
00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,880
Speaker 1: I know we talked about feeling like we're we have

134
00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:52,240
Speaker 1: better sex now because we don't have those jobs. But

135
00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:55,320
Speaker 1: just a bit of that structure has really helped me

136
00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:59,280
Speaker 1: mentally over this year. That's actually why I wanted to

137
00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:02,560
Speaker 1: now that I'm back to New York. UM wanted to

138
00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:07,760
Speaker 1: uh start recording more frequently because something that came out

139
00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,520
Speaker 1: of quarantine for me, I guess was when I realized

140
00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,440
Speaker 1: touring was gone. I was like, Okay, my money is different.

141
00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:16,200
Speaker 1: And some of you guys know I've been in like

142
00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,200
Speaker 1: comedy school and stuff like that, and I'm not saying

143
00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm that funny, but it was more so me trying

144
00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:24,000
Speaker 1: to understand jokes and what makes things funny. I noticed

145
00:07:24,040 --> 00:07:26,240
Speaker 1: even something on my other podcast that Eddie does is

146
00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,560
Speaker 1: he repeats stuff over and over, like, um, if there's

147
00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,280
Speaker 1: like a tagline to the joke, which is how funny

148
00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,000
Speaker 1: I was when Sophia came and I just kept saying

149
00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,760
Speaker 1: that that's a comedian. And Kevin Hart does it a

150
00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,800
Speaker 1: lot too, That's absolutely he repeats a lot of stuff. Um.

151
00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:44,680
Speaker 1: And so the repetition and learning that thing, that's something

152
00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:48,000
Speaker 1: I learned in comedy. So I learned it. But you

153
00:07:48,080 --> 00:07:50,600
Speaker 1: do like start to see patterns when you are in

154
00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:53,280
Speaker 1: this class and you're like, oh and more so I

155
00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:57,400
Speaker 1: wanted to do this because of writing. So there's something

156
00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,760
Speaker 1: that I um learned. Andy and I were touring in

157
00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:03,520
Speaker 1: l A and people were reaching out with me to

158
00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:05,960
Speaker 1: me to do TV stuff and I was like, I

159
00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,480
Speaker 1: like this, but some of it was very uncomfortable for me. Um.

160
00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:10,280
Speaker 1: They also require you very much and this is just

161
00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:13,560
Speaker 1: anybody that wants to get into influence for ship right, um,

162
00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:16,080
Speaker 1: and you do very well at this. They require a

163
00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:19,560
Speaker 1: serious scheduling with posting. Oh I'm big on but I

164
00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:22,680
Speaker 1: have my thing with that and even my social media

165
00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:25,560
Speaker 1: what I'm doing now even with my other brand. I

166
00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,080
Speaker 1: also have a marketing degree. So a part of it

167
00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,800
Speaker 1: is marketing. This is almost like what I did in

168
00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:35,840
Speaker 1: my classes. I took thirty credits focusing on marketing for

169
00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:38,760
Speaker 1: my for my second Bachelor's So I think it's also

170
00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,040
Speaker 1: just which is why even in the beginning, I was like,

171
00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:42,880
Speaker 1: but if you don't get your ass on Twitter, get

172
00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,760
Speaker 1: on Twitter, goot on Twitter. I understand the importance of

173
00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:49,000
Speaker 1: marketing on social mediacally. Yeah, I guess I like social

174
00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,200
Speaker 1: media for the genuinity and talking to people. And I

175
00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,600
Speaker 1: also don't know if I'm like, do I stop being

176
00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:56,679
Speaker 1: a real person if I and I know, when we

177
00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:58,120
Speaker 1: first started, I was like, why am I to do ads?

178
00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,520
Speaker 1: Why would I do ads? Like it ruins it? But like,

179
00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:03,520
Speaker 1: I just didn't like it. And so when I started

180
00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:05,959
Speaker 1: doing TV ship you might have heard on Sophia with

181
00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,280
Speaker 1: an F I got passed over first show that not

182
00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:10,800
Speaker 1: only did um everyone in the room say I was

183
00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,200
Speaker 1: better at than the other person, but it was simple

184
00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:17,440
Speaker 1: simply a social media thing. I mean, and I was like,

185
00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:20,480
Speaker 1: I don't ever want to be passed up for talent

186
00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,719
Speaker 1: versus cloud again. And so then I was like, well,

187
00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:25,680
Speaker 1: if I'm not going to try to get this cloud,

188
00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:27,839
Speaker 1: what am I gonna do? So I was like, well,

189
00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,280
Speaker 1: maybe I can just attribute to writing. So I started

190
00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,320
Speaker 1: doing punch up. If you guys don't know what punch

191
00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:35,000
Speaker 1: up is, it's a really cool job you get hired for. Basically,

192
00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:36,520
Speaker 1: they throw you in a room, make you sign N

193
00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:40,439
Speaker 1: d a's, and they either keep putting clips or scripts

194
00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,400
Speaker 1: in front of you and you rewrite the jokes. So,

195
00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:46,240
Speaker 1: for example, Mandy and Wheezy walk into a room and

196
00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:50,000
Speaker 1: they're about to have a discussion about touring. You have

197
00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:52,360
Speaker 1: to figure out when Mandy walks in the door and

198
00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,680
Speaker 1: sees Wheezy, what jokes she's gonna say. What they're gonna

199
00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,120
Speaker 1: say back and forth to each other when they're sitting down,

200
00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,240
Speaker 1: how they're gonna start talking about it. What's funny? What

201
00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:01,320
Speaker 1: do people know about Mandy and Wheezy that would make

202
00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,400
Speaker 1: it funny? Um? All kinds of ship like that, you

203
00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,120
Speaker 1: go back and forth, back and forth. Um. And it

204
00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,160
Speaker 1: was funny because one of the shows that I was

205
00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:09,319
Speaker 1: doing punch up for as a Black show, and there

206
00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,040
Speaker 1: was an Indian guy in there and he was like,

207
00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:13,280
Speaker 1: I really want to say the N word in this

208
00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,680
Speaker 1: and you guys can maybe write it out, but I

209
00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:17,199
Speaker 1: feel like it needs an N word. I was like, yeah,

210
00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:18,960
Speaker 1: my nigga, they need to say nigga and you know

211
00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:22,080
Speaker 1: other people like nigga would be hilarious. Yeah, I have

212
00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:25,360
Speaker 1: them say her nigga and like a ship like that.

213
00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:29,160
Speaker 1: Um and so did punch up. Then it started coming

214
00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,599
Speaker 1: into writing and um, I explored a little bit with

215
00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:33,679
Speaker 1: making our Horrible Decisions film and shout out to dentist.

216
00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:36,600
Speaker 1: I've learned a little bit about um filming and what

217
00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:39,719
Speaker 1: it takes to make stuff. And so then came m

218
00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:42,960
Speaker 1: fuse and you know, making a TV show. And I

219
00:10:43,040 --> 00:10:48,160
Speaker 1: think that I would have never before Quarantine sat and

220
00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,640
Speaker 1: thought about what I enjoyed, right Like, I like it

221
00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:56,160
Speaker 1: forced us to sit our asses down, which as a

222
00:10:56,200 --> 00:11:01,160
Speaker 1: creative or an entrepreneur, or even someone who found themselves

223
00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,880
Speaker 1: being taken out of the office and getting into and

224
00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:07,920
Speaker 1: having to work remotely, you having that time in your

225
00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,400
Speaker 1: home to just think about what makes you happy, even

226
00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:14,160
Speaker 1: your space. I mean I redecorated, you know, my living room,

227
00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:17,960
Speaker 1: my my my, my bar area, like because you literally

228
00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,040
Speaker 1: just sit with yourself and the things that make you happy,

229
00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:22,680
Speaker 1: the things that bother you, and how you can improve

230
00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:25,320
Speaker 1: as a person. I would say, and I think just

231
00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:29,640
Speaker 1: discovering things like other ways to make money. N I

232
00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:32,439
Speaker 1: watched so many Amazon courses um with some dude that

233
00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:34,480
Speaker 1: got on my nerves. His name is Joshua Crisp. I

234
00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,160
Speaker 1: don't care if he hears this every in life. He

235
00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:38,320
Speaker 1: is so annoying, but paid for his course and he

236
00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:40,360
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I was excited to learn about Amazon,

237
00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,280
Speaker 1: and I was like, I could never do this. E

238
00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,760
Speaker 1: commerce is really difficult. A lot of people make mad money.

239
00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:49,360
Speaker 1: You're doing it when I tell you, girl, I uh

240
00:11:49,679 --> 00:11:51,600
Speaker 1: and all of the horror have I want to thank

241
00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,280
Speaker 1: all of y'all for for the support with Official box Owner.

242
00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:59,280
Speaker 1: I'm actually coming out with my own product line, so

243
00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:03,720
Speaker 1: I will have bork ascids depositories, apple side of vinegar, gummies, uh,

244
00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:06,199
Speaker 1: feminine pH ye. I am working on my own CBD

245
00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,680
Speaker 1: lube like and I'm just like dealing with the manufacturers,

246
00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,880
Speaker 1: the labels, talking to people in China. The manufacturers for

247
00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:14,959
Speaker 1: those products are here in America. So you know what

248
00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,680
Speaker 1: made me not to do e commerce? You're going to laugh.

249
00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:21,880
Speaker 1: Shout out to your our patrons. I love you. Patreon

250
00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:25,600
Speaker 1: merch people will write me and curse me out about

251
00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,400
Speaker 1: how I never sent them merch I look up their name.

252
00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, it was delivered. It probably just like you

253
00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:33,360
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like people really like And I

254
00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:35,200
Speaker 1: saw a comment once where they were like, fuck you,

255
00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:37,520
Speaker 1: they're too busy, they don't do this. I mean, Mandy

256
00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:41,240
Speaker 1: when I tell you, I res real girl. Ups lost

257
00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:44,080
Speaker 1: twenty of my boxes. Oh I took. I was so upset.

258
00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,320
Speaker 1: People would act like it was my fault. And I'm like,

259
00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:49,600
Speaker 1: I spent hours and hours and hours and shoutouts to

260
00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:52,760
Speaker 1: a Vinnie who's helping us, But now I feel bad, niggd.

261
00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:54,800
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because he's reading the messages too,

262
00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:56,840
Speaker 1: and just mail is something that's out of your control.

263
00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,000
Speaker 1: So yeah, um. From a Horrible Decisions perspective, I would

264
00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:05,680
Speaker 1: say I am really grateful for finally having merch and

265
00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,880
Speaker 1: simple thing to be grateful for. We do virtual town

266
00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:14,200
Speaker 1: halls on Patreon every month. I'm not saying that it's

267
00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:16,120
Speaker 1: obviously making up for a live show, because it's not

268
00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:17,920
Speaker 1: even close to a live show. We just do an episode.

269
00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,160
Speaker 1: But like when people get on there with their horrible

270
00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:24,080
Speaker 1: Decisions T shirts or know us so well like and

271
00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:26,360
Speaker 1: make their jokes with us, and they just know us

272
00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:28,400
Speaker 1: all too well, the fact that we could sit on

273
00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:30,120
Speaker 1: there and talk about things we wouldn't even mention on

274
00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:34,320
Speaker 1: the main episode, whether it be fears, finances, grieving. I

275
00:13:34,320 --> 00:13:36,600
Speaker 1: talked about me going through a lot of pain with

276
00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:40,559
Speaker 1: a sickness with family, Like, I just love that community

277
00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,959
Speaker 1: so much. And I'm sorry if you know there's ever

278
00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:45,520
Speaker 1: been a moment where you guys feel like we leave

279
00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:47,640
Speaker 1: something out because they pay for it. But I just

280
00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:50,160
Speaker 1: believe when people really want to contribute to your brand,

281
00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:52,760
Speaker 1: they do. And five dollars maybe a lot to some

282
00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:54,880
Speaker 1: or a little to to to others. But I just

283
00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:57,480
Speaker 1: love how much tighter that places and it's been very

284
00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:59,920
Speaker 1: a safe haven for horrible decisions for me. I'm good

285
00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,840
Speaker 1: for Patrion. What about you? I like that, UM horrible

286
00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,559
Speaker 1: decisions related Oh Jesus, I still want to kill your

287
00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:09,520
Speaker 1: kill you and punch you in your face everything every

288
00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:14,000
Speaker 1: fucking week. Um. Like I said, I think I'm just

289
00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:18,520
Speaker 1: grateful because this platform actually helped me with what I

290
00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:21,840
Speaker 1: consider my purpose. Um as far as, like I said,

291
00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:27,040
Speaker 1: getting into the feminine health conversation, uh something that's they're funny,

292
00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:30,280
Speaker 1: how it's too different purpose. We're completely different right now

293
00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:33,400
Speaker 1: with with where our journeys are taking us just from this,

294
00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:37,400
Speaker 1: but that I love. And it's, like I said, getting

295
00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:40,160
Speaker 1: into e commerce that's something I actually hated cost accounting

296
00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:43,040
Speaker 1: when I went to school for that. And so to

297
00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:45,360
Speaker 1: be in a space where I'm creating my own products

298
00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:48,200
Speaker 1: and dealing with my own shopify and I have a team,

299
00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:52,080
Speaker 1: and it's it's insane. Um. But also, like I said,

300
00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:55,880
Speaker 1: just that closeness to learning and continuing the conversation regarding

301
00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,520
Speaker 1: feminine hygiene as as it pertains and affects your sexual

302
00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:02,720
Speaker 1: health something even most recent I think that not only

303
00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:05,840
Speaker 1: through the conversations I'm having on periods this, but shout

304
00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:08,440
Speaker 1: out Olivia Dope, one of my co hosts on my

305
00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:12,760
Speaker 1: other podcast, she just went through fibroid removal surgery. Um.

306
00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:14,640
Speaker 1: And then my other really really close friend. I'm not

307
00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:16,360
Speaker 1: gonna put her name out there because it's something that

308
00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:20,560
Speaker 1: she's battling with. We've been communicating regarding her mammograms and

309
00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:23,920
Speaker 1: she has potentially uh something in her breast that could

310
00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:28,280
Speaker 1: be cancer early thirties and so, but she also has

311
00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:32,200
Speaker 1: a family history of breast cancer. And so having two

312
00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:35,120
Speaker 1: people that are fairly close to me right now experiencing

313
00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:39,520
Speaker 1: things within feminine, you know, health is just it's just

314
00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:41,560
Speaker 1: eye opening to the fact that we do have to

315
00:15:41,560 --> 00:15:50,000
Speaker 1: continue all that yet, even if it's at Charlotte Magagne. Yes,

316
00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:52,720
Speaker 1: that is a the biggest part of horrible decisions this year.

317
00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:57,440
Speaker 1: I do want to see it. Shout out to my heart.

318
00:15:58,320 --> 00:16:00,080
Speaker 1: But Charlottagne has been trying to put us on to

319
00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:02,000
Speaker 1: something for a long for a very long time. That

320
00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:04,160
Speaker 1: is Charlemagne's and I think one thing that just really

321
00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:07,240
Speaker 1: elevates him in this game. He really I believe this.

322
00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:08,920
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people don't like Charlotta Magne,

323
00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:11,160
Speaker 1: but I really believe in my heart of hearts that

324
00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:13,680
Speaker 1: he does want to put people on. And I was

325
00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:17,400
Speaker 1: really drunk, but he actually got a drunk text for

326
00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:22,120
Speaker 1: me on Thanksgiving and I text him and I was like, Charlemagne,

327
00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:24,000
Speaker 1: I just really hope you're having a great thanks Giving

328
00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:25,440
Speaker 1: and I just want to say you were one of

329
00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,000
Speaker 1: the things that I'm very thankful for this year. I

330
00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:30,640
Speaker 1: was drunk, but he definitely got a drunk He definitely

331
00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:33,040
Speaker 1: got a drunk text. Yeah, he definitely uh text backs

332
00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:35,600
Speaker 1: and the thanks and thanks very much. I'm grateful for him.

333
00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:37,360
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for him not trying to funk us over

334
00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:39,480
Speaker 1: with cash even though he knew, like, you know, this

335
00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:41,280
Speaker 1: is a big media company. Tell me what you want,

336
00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:43,360
Speaker 1: tell me what you're fear for for and other than that,

337
00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,480
Speaker 1: our first time being on TV It's horrible decisions was

338
00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:49,160
Speaker 1: because of Charlottagne. So second time, what was her first time?

339
00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:53,640
Speaker 1: We got HBO and then we got on Vice. But

340
00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:57,200
Speaker 1: HBO is technically like premium television which people gotta pay for.

341
00:16:57,360 --> 00:17:00,080
Speaker 1: Not everyone has HBO, but Vice is pretty much on

342
00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,640
Speaker 1: all cable networks. But yeah, like he got us on

343
00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:08,400
Speaker 1: there that I think I constantly, whether I even realize

344
00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,359
Speaker 1: it or not, when I go on Twitter, I'm like,

345
00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:12,600
Speaker 1: what's black owned this? Let me just tell you how

346
00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,639
Speaker 1: much black owns should ask for real estate agent, moving company,

347
00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:23,720
Speaker 1: tennis instructor, personal trainers, black trainers in Mexico, black cannabis companies, anything.

348
00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:25,639
Speaker 1: And I want to make sure that I'm pushing that

349
00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:28,399
Speaker 1: agenda because I talked about so much black ship that

350
00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:30,159
Speaker 1: I feel like I have to support it. Like I

351
00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:33,359
Speaker 1: feel like we can't do our jobs and tell people

352
00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:35,520
Speaker 1: to buy our black as merge or do anything if

353
00:17:35,560 --> 00:17:38,320
Speaker 1: we're not putting the same into the world. Black Friday, Nigga.

354
00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:40,720
Speaker 1: I was so lit. I got on Twitter and I

355
00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,000
Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna just shop all black. Send me

356
00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:45,879
Speaker 1: all your stuff. People sent me Mandy, there was probably

357
00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:49,159
Speaker 1: like a hundred and forty lengths I brought black plants.

358
00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:50,879
Speaker 1: Shout out to Thornton Raised. I thought that was a

359
00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:54,360
Speaker 1: cool name. Candles. Black girls sell candles, Mandy. I don't

360
00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:58,520
Speaker 1: know if you know a candles. All the candles here,

361
00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,960
Speaker 1: they all do candles. I I did buy from two

362
00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:07,240
Speaker 1: black owned companies, actually black owned candle companies. Uh damn it.

363
00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:10,640
Speaker 1: One is weight I believe. I met her on clubhouse

364
00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:14,800
Speaker 1: and the other came from uh my other homegirl, Crystal,

365
00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:17,080
Speaker 1: and you would love it. It's called the Board which

366
00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,359
Speaker 1: she and she puts crystals and she has Prosperity candles

367
00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:24,239
Speaker 1: and things like that. She's actually Latina, but supported her

368
00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:26,720
Speaker 1: as well with her business. And yeah, they were super

369
00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:29,880
Speaker 1: dope candles. So shout out to them. Well, y'all sell

370
00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:33,480
Speaker 1: glitter body buttered candles. Workout outfits. My god, that is

371
00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:36,399
Speaker 1: a black business. Which I have eight sets. At one

372
00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,240
Speaker 1: point many I was like, let me just keep looking

373
00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:42,119
Speaker 1: like I'm like give away this ship. Not that that

374
00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:43,760
Speaker 1: anything is wrong with them. I just have too much.

375
00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,360
Speaker 1: But shout out to you guys, and I encourage all

376
00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,200
Speaker 1: of you when you're looking for anyone. I think it's

377
00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:50,360
Speaker 1: great for us to do that. UM Women on two

378
00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:52,840
Speaker 1: but black own first. So okay, yeah, yeah, let's go.

379
00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:56,200
Speaker 1: So we're gonna get into our Vanila sheets for this week.

380
00:18:56,880 --> 00:19:02,920
Speaker 1: One Latina Legal last. So guys, this is what is

381
00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:05,959
Speaker 1: actually funny and and what also I thought about when

382
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:09,280
Speaker 1: I read this UM Vanilla ship this week is we

383
00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 1: did a Patreon episode on just I think Wild things

384
00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:14,000
Speaker 1: there or it may actually have been a regular episode

385
00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,840
Speaker 1: where it talked about kind of how things worked for

386
00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:20,040
Speaker 1: sex over centuries and back to b C. Well anyways,

387
00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:26,840
Speaker 1: A judge up over in Canada allowed annulment because the

388
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:30,720
Speaker 1: husband could not keep an erection. A Canadian judge a

389
00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,600
Speaker 1: note a marriage because the husband was unable to maintain

390
00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:37,000
Speaker 1: erection long enough to have sex. The recent Supreme Court

391
00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:40,560
Speaker 1: of British Columbia decision details how a wife sought out

392
00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,960
Speaker 1: the annulment because her husband was unable to consummate their

393
00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:47,080
Speaker 1: marriage despite their attempts to have sex every month for

394
00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:50,600
Speaker 1: almost a year after their wedding, dating back to August

395
00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 1: In British Columbia. A marriage is voidable where a claimant

396
00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:59,040
Speaker 1: has established their spouse lacks the capacity to consummate the marriage.

397
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 1: This is a sex This City episode? Is it really? Charlotte?

398
00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:04,720
Speaker 1: Here we go, Tray if you guys remember I know,

399
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,360
Speaker 1: I guess that's another thing I do on this show.

400
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,720
Speaker 1: Charlotte and Trey, who was her first husband, the rich doctor,

401
00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 1: they could never fucking have sex because he could not

402
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,240
Speaker 1: get it up. So Carrie said, you need to put

403
00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,880
Speaker 1: like a liquor like take stamps, put him around his dick. Wait,

404
00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,920
Speaker 1: stamps like postage. I think she says stamps. I don't

405
00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:21,920
Speaker 1: know why I remember stamps and basically something that will

406
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:25,000
Speaker 1: like tightly steal around his penis and if it breaks

407
00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,440
Speaker 1: at night, you know, he can get it up and

408
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,640
Speaker 1: it's all a mental thing and it's not like physical.

409
00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,520
Speaker 1: It was something like that because remember that, because they

410
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,560
Speaker 1: were trying to talk about how not getting it up

411
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 1: is it physical? Like what the funk is it? Let

412
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 1: me ask you, how long would you go if you're

413
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,840
Speaker 1: dating a guy that you really really did like you

414
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 1: would give him three months to get his dick card

415
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:50,119
Speaker 1: before you leave him I'm already into him before I

416
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: break up with him. You're you're into him, You're you're

417
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:56,800
Speaker 1: you're dating now, you're maybe exclusive, you really like him.

418
00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 1: Maybe if you start, you start having sex. Okay, you're

419
00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:04,880
Speaker 1: not exclusive because you're not exclusive to anyone. But but however,

420
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:10,000
Speaker 1: I'm exclusive to I heart radio. However, how long do

421
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:13,640
Speaker 1: you give a partner? Have I already sucked him? Yeah,

422
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:16,120
Speaker 1: but it also didn't go well because he couldn't stay hard.

423
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 1: How how long do you give him someone else? If

424
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 1: I can suck someone else as long as it takes. Really, Yeah,

425
00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:27,280
Speaker 1: So I wonder because if I'm that into you, I

426
00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:31,040
Speaker 1: could think right now, if I'm that into you, and

427
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: I know the butterfly feeling, you can't stop thinking about them,

428
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 1: like you're smiling when you see each other, Like I

429
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,720
Speaker 1: could maybe a year and a half, two years, really,

430
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,160
Speaker 1: if I could get dick somewhere else. This couple went

431
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 1: not behold on because then I don't only want to

432
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 1: fuck you, if that's what I'm saying to see. So

433
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:51,280
Speaker 1: it's crazy, But the husband decided to tell the court

434
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 1: that he blamed his former wife for her impotence and

435
00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 1: impotence Oh sorry, I mean Okay, what it's currently And

436
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 1: he claims that he is currently having sex with someone else,

437
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh wait, wait, wait, wait wait,

438
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, said again, he blamed his ex wife for

439
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: her impotence, and he sucked because she filed for she

440
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 1: was able to get, and apparently now he's getting hard

441
00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: with someone else. I think, I don't know. I feel

442
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 1: like I would feel some way, but I also would

443
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 1: think he lying because Nik, we tried for it. You

444
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 1: I tried all my life and you didn't motherfucking get hard.

445
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 1: Maybe it's her, you think, so I'm gonna tell you, well,

446
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: I don't blame the woman. We are not going to

447
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:38,439
Speaker 1: do that. I'm only gonna tell you this one thing.

448
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 1: By her, I mean the person. I may have said

449
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,080
Speaker 1: this on the show. I've had public floor therapy. Remember

450
00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:48,120
Speaker 1: that I was in a relationship where I was emotionally

451
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 1: and physically abused. It was a very difficult relationship for me,

452
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:52,920
Speaker 1: and I loved this person very much. I was very

453
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 1: young and I could not have sex with him without pain.

454
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,320
Speaker 1: The very next person I had sex with, the doorman

455
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 1: yep from Club twenty three. When I tell you nothing,

456
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 1: I mean Mandy. I remember having sex with him, you

457
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: might have been with me. I remember you telling me, though,

458
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 1: like how much like how good? I told everybody. I

459
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: couldn't believe it. Yeah, like you told him had a

460
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:22,640
Speaker 1: big dick too. He was a good he was good

461
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 1: in bed. There was nothing wrong with his sex. It

462
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 1: was so connected to to mental So maybe, yeah, maybe

463
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: there was something mental. I don't know, but I just

464
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 1: can't believe. Still wouldn't believe that work. I had to

465
00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:39,120
Speaker 1: go to the doctor who was giving me public floor therapy,

466
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: and I said, I know he's paying for it, but

467
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 1: I need to say this. I don't think what you're

468
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: doing even need to be done. No more pussy ain't

469
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: broke broken bussy. And she said that this is very common.

470
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 1: She told me, like I, you don't need public floor therapy,

471
00:23:53,720 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 1: you need therapy therapy. I believe it. Ian. Yeah, so

472
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: y'all we are actually now going to get just because

473
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,719
Speaker 1: I thought it was only right. I know, we got

474
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: rid of this segment uh this year, I believe because

475
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 1: we ran out of fucking king or so we thought,

476
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 1: or so we thought. So I'm gonna get into our

477
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 1: kink of the week. And before I get into the

478
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: kink of the week. It comes from answering actually a

479
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 1: question that was sent into us. So, guys, I am

480
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: gonna get a little bit into a homemail right now,

481
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 1: early on into the show so that we can get

482
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 1: to our kink of the week. But the the subject

483
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 1: matter is tampon turn on First off, love y'all, thank

484
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: you for helping me find new ship for my sex life.

485
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,679
Speaker 1: Been with my man for ten years and we started

486
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 1: when we were seventeen, so having to grow mentally and

487
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: sexually together has been quite the journey. But hearing real

488
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: women breaks it down is an amazing thing. For instance,

489
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 1: my toy and my pleasure with it should not make

490
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 1: you feel some type of way. It's helps so much

491
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 1: that he's recently surprised me with a new one. Anyway,

492
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:00,439
Speaker 1: I have a friend who was telling with me how

493
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: her boyfriend loved watching her take her tampons out. He

494
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,080
Speaker 1: would want to go into the bathroom with her and

495
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: it turned him the funk on. He would get upset

496
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: when she wouldn't let him watch. I'm not sure if

497
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 1: you guys have talked about this yet or heard anything

498
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: like it. I was like, oh, this is some horrible

499
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 1: decision ship that Weezy I'm just gonna change up the words.

500
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 1: Would love it's that research, but I think you really quickly. No,

501
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 1: don't say it. Let me look at it, show me.

502
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 1: Just flip to her email because I need to know

503
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:33,080
Speaker 1: what color she is Spanish Latina for sure. Well, bitch,

504
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 1: this is your people. What the fucking spaghetti? And they

505
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: blow because I don't like it. I don't liking it's

506
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: I don't like blood. I don't like blood. I just

507
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: will funk on my period nasty anyways, guys, because I'm

508
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 1: a feminist and I'm not gonna let anything stop us here. Okay,

509
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: you're telling me that pussy, believe it, and let me

510
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 1: tell you scissors. I love you to death. Girl. I

511
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 1: know I'm moved on with a new person. But what

512
00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,679
Speaker 1: I'm saying is when you give a funk about somebody,

513
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: I didn't see the blood at all. I didn't even

514
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 1: see it just became invisible. I didn't put it in

515
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: my mouth. And anyways, like this kink actually, y'all is

516
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 1: referred to it says menophilia. Mentophilia is a sexual paraphilia

517
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: in which an individual, always mostly male, surrise sexual arousal

518
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: from menstruating females such individuals are also aroused by the smell, image, taste,

519
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 1: and or feel of the blood expelled during I think

520
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: that you a menophilia, because I think that you do

521
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:44,200
Speaker 1: get a little aroused by knowing a bit leading that

522
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:46,879
Speaker 1: out there. Shout out to my bitch, Christen our net.

523
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: That's my dog. We had her on here lesbian shake

524
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: and she fucking she said she likes the rainbow kisses

525
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: said she just likes the massacre of this disgusting that

526
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: is some white people, that is some white people should see.

527
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 1: I got some white friends, Mandy, don't anyway, I really don't. Really,

528
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: I have no white friends. Hold on, let me think

529
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 1: really really hard. Right now, you've got a white friend,

530
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: think of someone, maybe you've worked with the Jason Well,

531
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think work friends with Sory. That

532
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 1: he doesn't count. He Rory is white. Worry knows he's white.

533
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 1: He knows he's white, But is he really he'd be

534
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:32,360
Speaker 1: actually claiming Irish, So I don't even claiming that's definitely

535
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: may ask. Okay, yeah, so no, so if he is

536
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 1: not white, she's Latina. I don't know. I don't, but

537
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: I don't have white friends. Damn, my mama, shout out

538
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 1: to Tammy anyway, she's on some orry time. I meant,

539
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 1: I learned how to cook call of greens called the

540
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: black kind. What's your mom? Do you know? What do

541
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 1: you mean? What is she white? All of them crackers

542
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: mixed with ship? No, you don't they like this part

543
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: of your Europe, this part of no. Because that is

544
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 1: why at the end, when the world ends, I will

545
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 1: still be here because I didn't send them in my

546
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: DNA to track me and do all this other ship. Um,

547
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: I know that's why you're not gonna live. I'm gonna

548
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:21,679
Speaker 1: have to do this by myself once the world come

549
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: back to life. Anyway, my dumbask was like, why am

550
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 1: I African and Asian? But then Israel? See by by anyways, guys,

551
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 1: I dude, I I did have a hord dirt for

552
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: this week before we get into our horrible decision, which

553
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: you guys clearly know what it is going to be

554
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: by the title of this show. But anyway, let's get

555
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: into our hord derve. For those of you who are

556
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: listening for the very first time, our hord derve is

557
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: where we give a sex tip. And while I think

558
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: I have shared multiple different tips. There was actually a

559
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: full article, which you can find in the description of

560
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: this episode. The hord Dirt for this week is how

561
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: to finger someone with acrylic nails. Y'all know, I love

562
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 1: my motherfucking acrylics and I don't know if it's from

563
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: Ohtown female. Why she said because she lives in the Bronx.

564
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, and the Bronx be hooking me up

565
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: with their Ryan Stones. Uh what wh I don't do that.

566
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: I don't sound like from fucking Europe. Okay, you know

567
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: your ma, but you're making in Irish sometimes to get up,

568
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: you know, like when you're trying to do what I

569
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 1: said just from that's so weird. I don't know. That's awful, alright, guys.

570
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 1: So again, you guys can find this article in the

571
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 1: description of this episode. It does come from Vice dot Com.

572
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 1: There's multiple um tips in there. However, I wanted to

573
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: share one of the best ones that I found because

574
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 1: I actually has to do with the position that your

575
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: partner isn't so the best position for beginners is to

576
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: have your partner on their back with their hips lifted

577
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 1: with a sturdy pillow. This gives you the room to

578
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: explore their body with a relaxed hand and allows the

579
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: perfect angle for you to use the paths of your

580
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: fingers to stroke. This is a great starting point for

581
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: the newly be clawed um. Once you have confidence in

582
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: your abilities, though, you can pull off any position as

583
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: long as you're mindful of your hands. What's crazy is

584
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 1: that's definitely a thing for me. I would suggest, actually,

585
00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: these nails have caused me issues because I decided to

586
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: put rhinestones on my points are my index and my

587
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: ring finger and fingering somebody with your pinky is just

588
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: not as much fun, nor are your thumbs. So if

589
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 1: you're gonna put rhinestones on your acrylic nails, I would

590
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 1: suggest to at least leave your pointer with no rhinestones

591
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: so that they don't From this conversation, because I have

592
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 1: one really good tip for acrylic nails. Here you go,

593
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: what don't finger me with them? No, I am going

594
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: to find a finger cover like a finger condom or

595
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: something that's basic cover or some speed. Yours are rounded

596
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 1: more than I do, So there almond shaped fingered me

597
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 1: with acrylic nails. You guys definitely should ask your nailed

598
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: technician to give you almond shaped acrylic nails. If you

599
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 1: want to finger your partner someone, it wasn't venus. See

600
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: you I even getting fingered with cylic nails. No, no, no,

601
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 1: she didn't put her fingers inside of me. She just

602
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 1: rubbed you a little click with the acrylic nails. Did

603
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: you feel the acrylics? No, but what you think it

604
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 1: wasn't It might add a little different texture, you know

605
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,479
Speaker 1: what I mean, like people have ribbed scissors. Once had

606
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: acrylic nails and she almost put them in me, and

607
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 1: I said something. She started laughing because I was like,

608
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: and I think we have a video of it. Oh

609
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: my god, I remember we were with the videos. To me,

610
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: your natural nails right now are just about as long

611
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: as my acrylic Nailsman, Okay, maybe not. They just look long.

612
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: You are long as nails in post. No put my

613
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: nail next year nail No man either, No they yes,

614
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 1: look how long your nail beds are. Look, they're the

615
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: same people every time. I'm just saying, every time I

616
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: go into a nail place, they always said they have

617
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 1: my nail bad. They loved why because they have Oh

618
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: you have long one sex? No, yeah, I don't have

619
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: long nail bed. This is a lot of room for

620
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: them to play, and just to let you know, why

621
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: did I do that accent? Because that's how they sounded

622
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: my nail place. I ain't say who it was. I say,

623
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: no affity. We know they like to do we know then,

624
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 1: No they're not being me. It's called you me Now

625
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm doing with you any way. Anyway, guys, my Chinese

626
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 1: by you meet child, I hate you so much. Anyways, Guys,

627
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 1: we are going to get into our horrible decision, and

628
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 1: our horrible decision has to do with dating and why

629
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: the funk We should never ever ever listen to Steve

630
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: Harvey because he indeed has been the number one demise

631
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: of the dating community. So I wanted to go through

632
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: a lot of you as well as myself, for whatever reason,

633
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 1: all decided to read his book Act like a Woman,

634
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: Think like a man back when we were very in

635
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 1: our early primary days of getting into this dating life.

636
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: This is well before dating accident. Well his daughter took

637
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 1: after it. She did not, which is why she is

638
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: all these different men. She's thinking like a man, but

639
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: she's not acting like a lady. How facts, I just

640
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 1: really feel like you think Lorie Harvey took Steve Harvey's

641
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: uh things, But I'm sorry, I ain't no way future

642
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: waited no ninety days. I'll tell you that. Oh I

643
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 1: forgot about Yeah, So let's let's let's let's go down

644
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: there and we are going to pretty much dispel all

645
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:55,719
Speaker 1: of the myths. I would say that Steve Harvey put

646
00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: out into the universe regarding dating. So we're gonna start

647
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:04,640
Speaker 1: with um one thing that he says. So, Steve Harvey

648
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: believes that a man must achieve a minimum in the

649
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 1: three areas to feel like he is fulfilling his man duties.

650
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 1: Before he figures out how to achieve his minimum goals

651
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 1: in those areas, he will be too busy for a relationship.

652
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,399
Speaker 1: I want to give you those three uh those three things.

653
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 1: He says that a man has to know who he is,

654
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: his title, what he does, how he gets the title,

655
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 1: and the reward he gets, which is how much he makes.

656
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 1: So pretty much, Steve Harvey believes that if a man

657
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: does not have these three answers, he will not have

658
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 1: enough time or be too busy to focus on you.

659
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 1: I actually disagree with this. The only reason I disagree, Okay, dummy,

660
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: I dated a man with a lot of time on

661
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 1: their hands who told me that he knew he couldn't

662
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 1: fully commit to me or didn't feel as deserving in

663
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 1: the moment because he didn't feel like his ship was

664
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: all the way together okay, And he was like, I

665
00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 1: feel like us being together for real is going to

666
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: require me to do more, to hold you down more,

667
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 1: and I can't do that to you if I'm not

668
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: there myself. He also told me that he felt like

669
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 1: a hypocrites, like I know the man things a man

670
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,800
Speaker 1: should be doing to a woman for a woman, and

671
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not there yet right now, an like

672
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: he was too busy for me I had the time.

673
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 1: I feel like that was a very working class comment

674
00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 1: that he made, which I dun't I also want to

675
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 1: agree with. I was about to say, that's what I'm saying.

676
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 1: I disagree with a lot because you could be working, Mandy.

677
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: You just said it last week that you worked seventy

678
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,399
Speaker 1: something hours, and I mean, yes, true was nine five.

679
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: But it wasn't like you didn't make enough or weren't

680
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: an equal enough partner at that moment in time. I

681
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,560
Speaker 1: don't know if I believe that. I think there's another misconception,

682
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 1: very much so with um shout out to be Simone.

683
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 1: I mean, I know, you know, we know her. But

684
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: when she said that a boss ship or nine to

685
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 1: five or whatever, I don't believe necessary. I think entrepreneurial

686
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,919
Speaker 1: ventures don't necessarily equate to time. You could be way

687
00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 1: more busy as a quote unquote boss. Yeah, you can

688
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: have a way less time for somebody. You know what

689
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,720
Speaker 1: I'm saying, It still still find time to date. Well.

690
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why I wanted to dispel this

691
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: because I truly believe that a man will make time

692
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:12,279
Speaker 1: for what and who he wants to make time for.

693
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 1: I know a lot of CEOs that have marriages, I

694
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,880
Speaker 1: know a lot of athletes, clearly I'll know that, but

695
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: they still find time to not only have relationships, but

696
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of side chicks at the same time.

697
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is pretty much though, I don't

698
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 1: believe that a man once he has the money or

699
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,800
Speaker 1: or doesn't have the money, that he he won't have

700
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 1: the time or be too busy for you. So I

701
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,520
Speaker 1: just wanted to say that I agree, you agree, Okay.

702
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: So I mean, there's the one thing that the busiest

703
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: man I ever dated, I will never forget it. He

704
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: was very busy. He was an exact um. We didn't

705
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: even fuck. We were just kind of meeting and get

706
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: you get to know each other. He was an exact

707
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 1: at a huge network, big big TV network and he

708
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: was in New York on a on a layover to

709
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 1: go to London. He extended his layover another two hours. UH.

710
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: Uber me to meet him in Queens where JFK is

711
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 1: at a dinner. He was like, I found the nicest

712
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: place that I could to take you out, Like, yeah,

713
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 1: he do make time for what you want to make

714
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 1: time for. I disagree with this. One of the other

715
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: things I wanted to get into, uh and this actually

716
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: relates to a recent episode we had. Steve Harvey believes

717
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 1: that there are only three things that every man needs.

718
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 1: They need love, they need loyal support, and they need sex.

719
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 1: And we've got too. However, I do want to get

720
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 1: into what he says regarding that h He said that

721
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: love means to make him feel like he's special, like

722
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:41,479
Speaker 1: he's a king. Loyal support means that you will stand

723
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: by his side no matter what happens. And sex, well,

724
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 1: Steve says men can only go a month without it,

725
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 1: and if you start rationing out sex, he'll be looking

726
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:53,240
Speaker 1: for it elsewhere. I want to go against this because

727
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,319
Speaker 1: I do believe that as women, we can actually give

728
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 1: those three things to a man and he will still

729
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 1: not feel for filled in a relationship and may still

730
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,439
Speaker 1: seek out any of these three things for from someone else.

731
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 1: Did you agree and disagree? Um? My psychic told me

732
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ, here we go. What the fuck? She was right?

733
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 1: She told me that I don't have the ability to

734
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 1: make men feel emotionally safe, and for that they will

735
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:25,320
Speaker 1: always feel I can't remember the words she used, but

736
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 1: she said something in regards to like like, they'll never

737
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 1: know I'm theirs and they'll never be comfortable. She says,

738
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 1: you have a very hard time with that. You're too open,

739
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: You're too free, even in a monogamous aspect, You're too

740
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: Look at this person, she's cute this even if you

741
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 1: won't sux someone else, She's like, that is just who

742
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: you are. And when you can't make someone feel emotionally safe,

743
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 1: they may never all the way fully either commit or

744
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: just emotionally safe. Is that the same as uh security

745
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: emotionally in a relationship? Or don't that's the word used.

746
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,320
Speaker 1: But but I remember her saying that to me in

747
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 1: terms of past lovers, and I was like, wow, I

748
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:04,720
Speaker 1: could see that she's like men when there with women

749
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 1: like you, She's like, whether they tell you that or not,

750
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: you have to date the most confident motherfucker. They always

751
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 1: may have a little feeling in them like would she

752
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: will she? I know you've got other options ship like that?

753
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 1: Um and and and specifically, um what he said, That's

754
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 1: why I kind of agreed to making someone feel like

755
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 1: a king. I do believe that gender roles slightly take

756
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: place in this. I believe when you have some antiquated

757
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,680
Speaker 1: ideals when it comes to men and women, that men

758
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 1: generally feel like, oh, like she is mine, or you

759
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 1: know she is good to me, or this is what

760
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,919
Speaker 1: a girl is supposed to do for me. Um. Specifically,

761
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,359
Speaker 1: hospital Dick would always tell me his favorite thing about

762
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: me was that I was so nurturing. I'm always asking

763
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: what he wants to eat, this, this, that before you

764
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 1: go to work, and we're making this let me do that,

765
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: And it's something in me. I think I do that

766
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 1: with friends too. I think I think the reason why

767
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: that's a big thing that man why I said I

768
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 1: disagree with this and we've talked about it a lot,

769
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: is because she well, not only that, it's because of

770
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 1: that third one sex like, you could fuck your man

771
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 1: every night, and it doesn't mean that that's necessarily gonna

772
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: keep him from getting it elsewhere. It doesn't. So even

773
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: outside of rationing sex, you could also give them all

774
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: the sex they want. You could take a man to

775
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: a sex club and it still doesn't mean that he

776
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 1: won't still want outside sex. I mean, and that's the

777
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 1: thing that why I wanted to disagree with this, because

778
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: I don't but what did he say? This is for

779
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: a commitment? No, this yeah, this is for keeping your

780
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,360
Speaker 1: your partner happy or or having a relationship and the

781
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: things you should do in order to keep I still

782
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 1: think these are I also wanted to say, uh. Steve

783
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: Harvey also decided to create the blanket excuse that men

784
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,919
Speaker 1: of all time have been using as to why they cheat.

785
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 1: Steve Harvey said that men cheat because men can have

786
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 1: sex without emotions, which means he can love you and

787
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: still cheap for the simple act of sex. And I

788
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 1: wanted to dispel this because I hate the fact that

789
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 1: they still continue to act as though women cannot have

790
00:40:56,040 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 1: emotionless sex. Old Bay is this person. I hate what

791
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 1: he swears to god man because he read fucking Steve

792
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: Harvey's book Bitch. Now, he ain't that toxic, but uh.

793
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:13,479
Speaker 1: Basically he was like, look like, whatever makes you happy,

794
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: makes you happy. Cool, but there is no way that

795
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: you could funck like I fuck. He's like, I could

796
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,760
Speaker 1: suck a bitch and that they need anything else nothing.

797
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: He's like, you cannot do this. He's like, no matter

798
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 1: how much you try to act like you can't, you

799
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: are not that person. But I'm that he swell, I

800
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: am that nigga. Like we still like, I've had a

801
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: ton of emotionless sex because I liked how I felt

802
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: in the moment of sex, but it didn't make me

803
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: like the person any much more. I remember some of

804
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 1: the some of the best sex that I had with

805
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: was with some of the most toxic fucking niggas that

806
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: I did not ever see myself being with, and it

807
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 1: didn't make me like them anymore because we had great sex.

808
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 1: So that this idea, maybe women you just don't maybe

809
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: your mental doesn't need to be stimulate stimulated. No, but but,

810
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: but but I think that even as a woman, if

811
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,399
Speaker 1: you do if you're not seeking mental stimulation and you're

812
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,280
Speaker 1: just seeking a funk. As women, you have me thinking

813
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 1: that you can bro because the the problem is if

814
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 1: you're seeking emotional or some sort of mental or some

815
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 1: sort of affection from a person. Yes, I understand that,

816
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: but there are women out here and a lot the

817
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: more we open these conversations about sex, there's a ton

818
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 1: of women that just want to fill an orgasm, or

819
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: just want to feel sex, or doesn't want another boy.

820
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 1: Only reason I agree on that part is well for myself.

821
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody else out there you can

822
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 1: agree to Old Bays argument. I'm like, I can do

823
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 1: this because if I have an emotional connection with you,

824
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:45,839
Speaker 1: I could do it, right. I kind of like when

825
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 1: I'm single, I can't really. I don't fuck to fuck

826
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 1: easy because I think that component is something I associate

827
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: with nan. However, if I already have it, like, that's

828
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:58,800
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, I'm Mary partner now I can suck anybody.

829
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. If I don't have a can,

830
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 1: I'd be like, then that's where that's where, And I

831
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: think that's where a lot of women who are single sexing.

832
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:10,959
Speaker 1: I will say that's where I feel like they find

833
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:14,880
Speaker 1: single sexes out there, single sexes out there. The difficulty

834
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:18,280
Speaker 1: where you find is because you are still finding. You're

835
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: still searching for that emotional connection to a partner more

836
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 1: so than you are just the sex. So I want

837
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 1: to say that before we get out of why Steve

838
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 1: Harvey could suck a dick? Is the ninety day rule

839
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 1: Women should abstain from sex for the first ninety days

840
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 1: after meeting a man. Uh, And he pretty much ties

841
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,719
Speaker 1: um this ninety day rule to pretty much how a

842
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 1: woman will be valued and looked at to a man

843
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: as far as their worth and and kind of uh

844
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 1: looking into the future as to if this is a

845
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:53,879
Speaker 1: person that has his episodes. No, but I'm just saying

846
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 1: he's ruined the way we think about it. Do we

847
00:43:55,840 --> 00:44:00,080
Speaker 1: have a podcast? However? How many times did we all

848
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,399
Speaker 1: went to dating thinking that we couldn't funk a man

849
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 1: on the first night, or the first week, or by

850
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: the second date because he would think that we are

851
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 1: just so awful and hose that weren't wiping material. I'll

852
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: be honest, my boardner. Now some men think that, and

853
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna and I'm gonna blame Steve Harvey for that.

854
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:17,879
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is I'm now with not only

855
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 1: someone who's mature, I think we're more mature. And how

856
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 1: we go about with talking about real quick, keep it

857
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: real and two doesn't matter. Oh, tell the truth. What's

858
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: your birthday monthly rock? Hey, we didn't know, right. Next time,

859
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 1: we'll ask for it on your W nine form. Okay, seriously,

860
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 1: tell the truth. It's okay. When a girl sucks you

861
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: on the first night, do you think she's a home

862
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: even if you're still date or do you think there's

863
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 1: this little piece of you? I love it? They kens

864
00:44:56,160 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 1: depends on the person. Listen, we get to no, no, no,

865
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: no no. What I'm saying no, no, no no. Why

866
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:04,800
Speaker 1: do you want him to change his answer? Bitch? He

867
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 1: told you how he feels. I don't believe he doesn't judge.

868
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,439
Speaker 1: So I will tell you well, and that's it. Only

869
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 1: don't believe because Benson is very sex forward. He does

870
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,359
Speaker 1: this show. He's very point my point, which is why

871
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:18,800
Speaker 1: he went and judge. But but even my partner, So

872
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. So, So I did have

873
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 1: sex with my current boyfriend the very first time we met.

874
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:28,479
Speaker 1: Um and honestly, surprisingly it cost him really nothing because

875
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: it was fucking lockdown. So we went hiking and then

876
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:34,839
Speaker 1: we got fucking autos Compollo from uptown and he came

877
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 1: over and it was just you don't need a dick

878
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:39,800
Speaker 1: though that doesn't count, you know, but it's not because

879
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: why why I'm saying this is because not only are

880
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 1: we we in such a great relationship now, in such

881
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: a good space. He continued to see me for the

882
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: first twenty days after we fucked so and the thing

883
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: is too, when he was coming over, we weren't sucking.

884
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: Every time we were playing, you know, we were eating.

885
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: We we went back to the park. And so this

886
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 1: idea that I wasn't worthy of his time or of

887
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 1: being a girlfriend because I sucked him on the first date,

888
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: it is not what I experienced. I know. I'm not

889
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 1: saying so I don't believe in this. Also, I'll be

890
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 1: honest to the first the last boyfriend, if we go

891
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 1: back to high school. Not only did I fun him

892
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: on the first night that we actually spent time together,

893
00:46:16,760 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: I met him through his brother that I was fucking

894
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,120
Speaker 1: and he still wiped me. That was wild. That was

895
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: super wild. It was a step brother. It was through marriage.

896
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 1: I also want to just say I don't believe that

897
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: it matters because it's chemistry. I just do not believe

898
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: that men don't have it in their head. Well, and

899
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 1: that's fine. I think we have a lot of time. Actually, Benson,

900
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 1: when he walked in here, he said, I did think

901
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:45,439
Speaker 1: that before horrible decisions. I think that men that are open,

902
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:47,360
Speaker 1: much like Benson, or that he's the only guy we

903
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 1: could talk to, obviously don't care. But I mean, me

904
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 1: and my partner went to a sex club. This is

905
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 1: why I just don't think that men are as a forward.

906
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 1: This is why women women No. I think Steve Harvey

907
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 1: made that dog ask. It's dumb as fun. But that's

908
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 1: why I feel like, that's why I love this this

909
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 1: podcast so much, because we're opening the doors to the

910
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 1: facts that there are different types of men, Black men,

911
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 1: specifically that when they're open, when they're free, and when

912
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: they could sit and have mature conversations about sex, they're

913
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 1: not going to judge you or look at you as

914
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:20,719
Speaker 1: a whole because you enjoy having sex, or maybe you're

915
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: so attracted to them that you want to suck them

916
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,320
Speaker 1: the first night. And I I love that kind of

917
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: that's what this pot has done. I mean again, I

918
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 1: sunk my man the first night and we're fucking great

919
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: seven months later, and it has been used or thrown

920
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: in my face either at me either. So that's the thing.

921
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 1: I think, you just have to go into having the

922
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 1: conversations and you really need to know the person I

923
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: guess you're laying down with before you lay down with them.

924
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:47,360
Speaker 1: I agree. Um, I think when I think back the people,

925
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 1: the last two people I fucked, No man, Obey was

926
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:55,840
Speaker 1: like third, you are we going by the last dicks?

927
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 1: You've been sucking quite a few bitches at it and

928
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: they're sprinkled in there. I first night's sister that you

929
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: want is the first night? But want to make a

930
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 1: nigg away trash because you just don't think like that trash.

931
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,399
Speaker 1: That is trash. You're not even respecting the other woman

932
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 1: by sucking her on the first night. What type of

933
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: respectful feminists are you? Should we? I kind of want

934
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,839
Speaker 1: to make our home mail. Well it's a whole confession. Okay,

935
00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 1: before we end this episode, I want to talk make

936
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 1: a casting call for horrible decisions about guess we want

937
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: this year? Oh? I like that Okay, so this is guys.

938
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 1: You guys per usual will be getting the very last

939
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 1: episode of this year will be a recap of Wheezy

940
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 1: and Eyes, and you'll have to call it lazy bitch.

941
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: People like recaps and whenever people. We also have a

942
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:50,320
Speaker 1: lot of new crack is listening to us. Maybe I

943
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 1: love calling them that. It's get your in word in there.

944
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: You guys listen to music and I'm know where it

945
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,200
Speaker 1: was like, don't believe me, just watch n Ni nigked,

946
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: so you know it's crazy. Four years later, I will

947
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: say at the top of my my list is still

948
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,799
Speaker 1: a man who openly enjoys to get pegged. I think

949
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 1: we've talked about. We've had other women come on and

950
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 1: talk about we had the mistake they do it. That

951
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 1: was a top ten. No, that was a funny episode.

952
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:19,919
Speaker 1: It was it was I don't want a white girl,

953
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: specifically a fat white girl dating a black guy. Us.

954
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: I'm no shade to a big white I just want

955
00:49:27,280 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 1: you to tell us why niggas love you. Why you

956
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 1: think I really want a fat white girl and a

957
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 1: black guy that you're currently dating. I'm sorry, I just

958
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:38,239
Speaker 1: want it. I also want a sugar daddy sugar baby

959
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 1: duo need we need a real sugar daddy. Goddamn, we've

960
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,239
Speaker 1: tried two times now a lit sugar baby. And this

961
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: is no disrespect by the way to anybody that's a

962
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:52,839
Speaker 1: sugar baby that UM has another job. No disrespect. When

963
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: I say lit, I apologize. When I say a lit

964
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:56,840
Speaker 1: sugar baby, I mean a lot of years in the

965
00:49:56,920 --> 00:50:00,439
Speaker 1: game and you are solely living off of sugar a ship.

966
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 1: I want you on this show. I want UM anybody

967
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 1: that has created anything, any kind of application for hooking up,

968
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 1: any kind of sexual application, and anybody that works on

969
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 1: a website. I think this would be super dope. I

970
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 1: want to talk about like the Laws and Ship. We

971
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 1: had teased it a little bit with sex Nor. I

972
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 1: think you brought her on. That was a great idea.

973
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: I want to talk a little bit more about that.

974
00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 1: UM one of my favorite people we've had on UM.

975
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 1: I damn, I wish Mandy was there. Ali triple X

976
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: shout out to our homegirl Ali from Madam to Mommy,

977
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 1: I would love another Madam when specifically is maybe worked

978
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,279
Speaker 1: in a brothel, UM, I want to talk about someone

979
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: that's worked in a brothel as well. I think I

980
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 1: would be someone that is a messus that gives hand chops. Uh.

981
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:45,800
Speaker 1: There's a girl who wrote us called the handicap Ho.

982
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 1: I don't know if you saw her email. I think

983
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna have her on a Patreon episode. Um, if

984
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: there's anyone else with disabilities that we can have, I

985
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 1: would definitely love love that, um especially uh what what

986
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 1: does it Douce bigelowle male jigglo that movie. Even with

987
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 1: him dating all these different women that were paying for

988
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 1: his time, a lot of them had disabilities. Remember the

989
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 1: one she had to tie her hair because she kept

990
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: falling asleep. I would not collect. I would just like

991
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: to know. I would just like to know again how

992
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: people with with those certain um disabilities get through dating,

993
00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: finding the confidence to meet people new, introducing their disability

994
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 1: to people, and what that's like. Uh. So I would

995
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:27,839
Speaker 1: like that a doctor who does vagina stuff okay, uh

996
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:31,359
Speaker 1: laby a plastic vaginal rejuvenation. I want you to come

997
00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 1: on and talk about that the O shot specifically. I'm

998
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:35,800
Speaker 1: not eve gonna say what it is because it's fucking wild.

999
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 1: It is you trying to give me to do that?

1000
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 1: I said, you said no, I am not having a

1001
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 1: shot that you were doing a ton of ship for

1002
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:47,320
Speaker 1: research purposes? Is it just for the horrible decisions that

1003
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 1: you do those things? No? No, no, no no. I

1004
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: we need this on horrible decisions. I myself, I'm not

1005
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: getting an O shot, but why not? You want to

1006
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:55,800
Speaker 1: get a shot into my clip? I come enough? Why not?

1007
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 1: I'm good? So anyway that I'm trying to think of more.

1008
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: I know we're on the way out of here, but

1009
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 1: like you, guys also have lit ass ideas. We still

1010
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 1: have not had a lesbian couple of Christen brought a girlfriend,

1011
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 1: but that didn't count. I want um, I really want

1012
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 1: Sydney and Snoop on here. I want them to talk

1013
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 1: about their sex. I would love for them to talk

1014
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: about who top to bottoms um. I know they've talked

1015
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 1: about using a strap and making strap jokes. I think

1016
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: that'd be really fun. Plus they're black. I'm trying to

1017
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 1: think of some other ship that we need on here.

1018
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,359
Speaker 1: I want a grandma who fucks anybody who's old, who

1019
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:27,919
Speaker 1: doesn't only hands we need. I feel like I would

1020
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:30,279
Speaker 1: like someone really old on here to talk about what

1021
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: and not what senior sex is like talking about Amanda

1022
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 1: one moment when she said, old, I am not discussing.

1023
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: I do not want anyone that like, like y'all know

1024
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 1: exactly who she is too. Also, I actually have to

1025
00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 1: throw him in the recap for the year because we

1026
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: had a whole lot of feedback from that motherfucker bitch.

1027
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:58,759
Speaker 1: He said that because I was like I'm doing. I

1028
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 1: was done the whole time. I was just like anyone else,

1029
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 1: this is the longest hour, and a good Asian, man,

1030
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 1: I want a good Asian. You had a cash on

1031
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 1: here and he Asian. Come on, man, But that was

1032
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: a while. That's a little bit. I want to talk

1033
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 1: about Asian fetishizing. Actually, if you're an Asian escort, right, well, no,

1034
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 1: if we get Asians on here, I want to know they're, uh,

1035
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: why they like coming to cartoons so much? Because and

1036
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 1: and and that's more Japanese or anyone's saying. I just

1037
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 1: want you guys to know that I was not that.

1038
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 1: I was just saying, that's all you like to come

1039
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 1: about this sionally. Now we're anime characters. But no, you

1040
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:44,399
Speaker 1: probably live in l A. You know what I'm saying.

1041
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: That's what Asians being. We got a whole China town here.

1042
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 1: My niggas got a little Asians dog Davey fucking data

1043
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 1: little Asians. That's the pussy I'm throwing right there. Jesus Christ. Well,

1044
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 1: guys know you just gave a whole list my nigga.

1045
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: We're good. I want to give our hole confession for

1046
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,280
Speaker 1: this week again. If y'all have hope confessions or homemail

1047
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 1: to send us, make sure you reach out to us

1048
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 1: on Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one

1049
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: comes from a listener of ours who wanted to give gratitude.

1050
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 1: Her title is the Abortion Episode. I do want to

1051
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:18,600
Speaker 1: shout out to uh the ladies who joined us for

1052
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 1: that episode. That was maybe last year that we had

1053
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 1: the abortion episode. But it says, hey, girls, I recently

1054
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 1: got into the show, so I've been going through a

1055
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 1: ton of episodes and was drawn to the abortion one.

1056
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: Ship those were white women too, we have had quit.

1057
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 1: I just remembered like the professionals were white. Uh. I

1058
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: want to thank you so much for having such an

1059
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 1: open and honest conversation about a topic that is so

1060
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,879
Speaker 1: often avoided. I recently had an abortion, which is why

1061
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 1: I listened to the episode. I don't have any close

1062
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:49,440
Speaker 1: friends that have had one, girl, they just at tell you,

1063
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 1: uh we all had one. Uh So, I haven't been

1064
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 1: able to really talk about it the way I want to.

1065
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: I had an especially tough time because I experienced significant

1066
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:00,960
Speaker 1: pain after and at You're a trip to the hospital

1067
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 1: in the second middle of the night. I had to

1068
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,359
Speaker 1: get a second d n C by the first one

1069
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 1: apparently wasn't fully successful. Oh darn that sucks. The pain

1070
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:12,800
Speaker 1: surrounding this experience was awful, But what was more awful

1071
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 1: was having no one in my circle I could relate to.

1072
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: So again, thank you both a lot for this episode.

1073
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 1: And of course I won't say your name, but thank

1074
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:22,840
Speaker 1: you so much. And again that's again one of the

1075
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 1: blessings and things that I like so much about this

1076
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 1: show is yes, with some wild as crazy as taking hose. Now,

1077
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:33,280
Speaker 1: we aren't the we aren't the you know wild nobody

1078
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 1: on this point. I'm just saying, oh, this is Bigga

1079
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:38,360
Speaker 1: own it. I let him know what it is. He

1080
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:40,880
Speaker 1: it's like he owns it. And then a second I've done,

1081
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:43,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't believe. But anyways, we are giving

1082
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 1: hope to all hose out there that there is hope.

1083
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:49,560
Speaker 1: Uh So, I do want to say, while I'm glad

1084
00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:53,360
Speaker 1: and grateful for our vulnerability and and ways of opening

1085
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:56,600
Speaker 1: up about the things that we've experienced throughout our sexual journeys,

1086
00:55:56,800 --> 00:56:00,400
Speaker 1: also adding in those educational, um and much needed episodes

1087
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 1: and conversations like the abortion one. I actually recently said

1088
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 1: on I G Live, like, uh so, I've been having

1089
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 1: stomach issues all you guys know, and I think I

1090
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 1: talked about shooting my brains. I don't like the first episode.

1091
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 1: So anyway, all my stomach issues. Someone who's like, well,

1092
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 1: maybe you're pregnant, and I was like, I'd get abortion

1093
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: right first thing I said. And then I was like,

1094
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,919
Speaker 1: I wonder if I had an abortion, if I would

1095
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 1: come on the show and talk about it, I wouldn't.

1096
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:25,759
Speaker 1: I think I would. Um, it's weird though, because right

1097
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:27,479
Speaker 1: now it would take me time. Yeah, I was about

1098
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:28,880
Speaker 1: to say it would take me time. I wouldn't just

1099
00:56:28,960 --> 00:56:31,840
Speaker 1: be like, guys, just so you know, the abortion cl

1100
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,719
Speaker 1: this weekend, Like, I don't think that's how I would.

1101
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why I thought about it. There's

1102
00:56:37,880 --> 00:56:40,840
Speaker 1: so much I've talked about having an abortion. Right I'm older,

1103
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 1: everybody probably thinks I shouldn't because I'm already now. I

1104
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 1: would probably I would love the person I would have

1105
00:56:46,560 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: an abortion with or whatever. But if I had one,

1106
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:52,600
Speaker 1: would I really come on the show. I think I would,

1107
00:56:52,680 --> 00:56:56,440
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you why. I think that every abortion

1108
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:59,080
Speaker 1: story that we hear about or talk about, it's a

1109
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:01,840
Speaker 1: young thing. It is, and I think mine would be

1110
00:57:01,880 --> 00:57:04,879
Speaker 1: one percent of life choice thing. And I also think

1111
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:07,239
Speaker 1: that I get vulnerable enough I would want to talk

1112
00:57:07,280 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 1: about my experience, particularly because I was so out of

1113
00:57:11,239 --> 00:57:13,320
Speaker 1: it and maybe just too emotional, Like this would be

1114
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: a very level headed, understanding thing if I did it.

1115
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:18,440
Speaker 1: If right, I never thought about I'm not gonna lie.

1116
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 1: The abortion conversation does come up a dumb mistake, but

1117
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: that would be a good way to bring it. I

1118
00:57:25,480 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 1: think I would really come on. I'm not pregnant yet.

1119
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, she just ain't decide what she wanted

1120
00:57:31,680 --> 00:57:33,520
Speaker 1: to talk about it on the show, but I yeah,

1121
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:35,920
Speaker 1: I think I would come in here. I will try

1122
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: not to make jokes about it because it is a

1123
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:39,400
Speaker 1: very serious thing, and I would talk about my experience

1124
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 1: down to my wait time and everything. I would just

1125
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 1: be totally open. I'd be open about the type that

1126
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 1: I had about my recovery time. If I'm still wearing

1127
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,960
Speaker 1: the pad um, just everything I think Because of the

1128
00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 1: pad I wouldn't have remembered that. That seems like a

1129
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 1: very vivid um. I remember that part. Did you do

1130
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,920
Speaker 1: a pill? No, they went in with the vacuum, so

1131
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 1: like I remember leaking because I started my period right after,

1132
00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 1: So that's why I remember. But and some people that

1133
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: while you remember, have a great day. Okay, I'm just like, No,

1134
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: I think it would be an abortion in Mexico many No,

1135
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 1: that's why you keep coming back here. Wow, you have

1136
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:19,840
Speaker 1: to come and get it back here. Okay, guys that

1137
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. Actually we don't talk that much about her.

1138
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 1: No fucking abortion in a country round speaking language. You

1139
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: want to keep it? Oh we got a little bit out,

1140
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: No already, guys. I do want you guys once again,

1141
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: we are going to leave you off with another five

1142
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:38,280
Speaker 1: minute bonus clip from our patreon. If you're all caught up,

1143
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 1: that's patreon dot com back slash horrible decisions. You do

1144
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:44,280
Speaker 1: want to think if you're getting clips, it's because we're

1145
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 1: doing late editing and we don't always add it to YouTube.

1146
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: Stop saying that. We say We're gonna give you a clip.

1147
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: We not. You're the minority. Most people listen on the audio.

1148
00:58:51,120 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 1: You are the reason how that we change our clothes. However,

1149
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 1: I will say, just listen to the audio. If we're

1150
00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 1: ever missing any clip, and if you want to clip

1151
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:02,480
Speaker 1: that bad good patreon dot com slash horrible decision to

1152
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:05,320
Speaker 1: listen to the red thank you. I don't know what

1153
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:07,360
Speaker 1: she was referring to about that, because people will be

1154
00:59:07,440 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 1: yelling about us not having Patreon clips at the end

1155
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 1: of the YouTube. Oh That's what I'm talking about it know, well,

1156
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 1: any who Vincent feeling like baby meaning the tool anyway? Uh,

1157
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: but no, I did want to before we get out

1158
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,000
Speaker 1: of here. I do just want to send prayers, wishes

1159
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:29,400
Speaker 1: and positivity to anyone where COVID has affected you this awful,

1160
00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: awful year. I do want you guys to go into

1161
00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 1: one with more hope. There is a vaccine out here.

1162
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: I don't know what that means if we're really about

1163
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 1: to you know, remember, I don't know what white people

1164
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:41,320
Speaker 1: to listen to this show. Look up the Tuskegee Experiment.

1165
00:59:41,640 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not an anti vaxer. Shout out to

1166
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:47,480
Speaker 1: Jamila from good mom's bad choices you have, but it

1167
00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 1: is scary, but I do. Just again want to send

1168
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:54,840
Speaker 1: positive vibes to anyone in which lost someone uh due

1169
00:59:54,920 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: to COVID and this awful, awful, awful virus um and

1170
00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 1: also shout out to everyone who has caught the virus

1171
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: and healed successfully. I know not everyone is as lucky.

1172
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 1: I want to thank all of you guys for tuning

1173
01:00:07,320 --> 01:00:09,920
Speaker 1: into us during this year, through the ups and downs,

1174
01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 1: through COVID, through the Black Lives Matter process, through going

1175
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:15,920
Speaker 1: virtual and sticking back with us. We appreciate y'all and

1176
01:00:16,040 --> 01:00:18,240
Speaker 1: again continue listening to us. Shout out we are on

1177
01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 1: I Hard, shout out to the Black Effect podcast, and

1178
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 1: again thank you all for tuning in to yet another

1179
01:00:23,320 --> 01:00:28,720
Speaker 1: episode of Horrible Decisions. Thank you guys. Hey guys, I've

1180
01:00:28,720 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 1: been listening to Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and

1181
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: I thought you might have some advice or could relate

1182
01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,120
Speaker 1: to the current problem that I have. First off, long

1183
01:00:35,200 --> 01:00:37,600
Speaker 1: story short, I recently in the last two years came

1184
01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: out as by It's been crazy trying to be true

1185
01:00:39,880 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 1: to myself because in my background, my mom was highly

1186
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 1: against the idea of a woman being with anyone else

1187
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:46,200
Speaker 1: but a but a man. But when I came out

1188
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 1: as BY, I started experimenting with three simes, guys, girls

1189
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 1: all that, and then one day I started realizing I

1190
01:00:52,000 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 1: keep thinking about a threesome with two men who were

1191
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 1: either by or gay or whatever. I just wanted to

1192
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: try it, and I did, and I loved it. So

1193
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: now I'm into that a lot, and I never knew

1194
01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:03,040
Speaker 1: it before. Fast forward to last year, my X and

1195
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:04,560
Speaker 1: I got back together. We've been on and off for

1196
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:07,400
Speaker 1: seven years. I had no intention of going back after

1197
01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:09,280
Speaker 1: he was so upset about me coming out to him

1198
01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 1: is by during the last time we broke up. But nevertheless,

1199
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,800
Speaker 1: here we are. I do love him. Our sex has

1200
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:15,560
Speaker 1: been amazing. I just wish he was more open to

1201
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm not even asking

1202
01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 1: for him to try a threesome with another man. I

1203
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 1: know that's a far as stress stretch, but damn, can

1204
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:25,080
Speaker 1: I watch you another girl? Can we fuck this girl together?

1205
01:01:25,120 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 1: I have needs. I can't deny my sexuality, and it's

1206
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 1: sad as hell, but I take it slow because I

1207
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 1: know I just should have been open from a jump,

1208
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: and I've always known I was into both. I was

1209
01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:37,240
Speaker 1: afraid because I was so shameful. My question is, do

1210
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:38,960
Speaker 1: you think there are any ways I can introduce the

1211
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:41,760
Speaker 1: idea successfully to have a threesome. I definitely don't want

1212
01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 1: to just bring it up bluntly like I have in

1213
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:45,720
Speaker 1: the past, because he'll probably think he's gonna have to

1214
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 1: compete with a woman. Um. Sorry, it's lengthy with the

1215
01:01:48,600 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 1: story needed context until I figured out I'll be watching

1216
01:01:50,680 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: porn of all the things I wish I could try.

1217
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 1: So now see why you brought shout on Patreon. I'm

1218
01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 1: so sick of he's goddamn how do I get a threesome?

1219
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:03,320
Speaker 1: Of my partner questions? No, this one's a little bit

1220
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 1: different because it's just she's just announcing that she's bisexual.

1221
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:09,520
Speaker 1: So I think it's a reverse right. It's normally men

1222
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:12,480
Speaker 1: trying to bring women in on a threesome. And I

1223
01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 1: had a situation with hospital dick and with the Jesus

1224
01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:20,560
Speaker 1: dude I dated where they really felt like and believed

1225
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 1: that other women were just as bad as other men.

1226
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 1: In my head, fucked up. I have a sex podcast.

1227
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:28,840
Speaker 1: I was like, but it's just a bit I'm not

1228
01:02:28,880 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 1: trying to suck another nigga, and I will say this

1229
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,320
Speaker 1: if there is any ladies listening to the podcast. I

1230
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:38,120
Speaker 1: know we don't often talk about men saying no to threesomes,

1231
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:44,040
Speaker 1: but I do believe, and both men that told me

1232
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 1: no have big dicks. I don't think it's a confidence issue.

1233
01:02:47,680 --> 01:02:50,000
Speaker 1: I truly believe it has to do with where someone

1234
01:02:50,120 --> 01:02:53,320
Speaker 1: feels like they stand with you. Hear me out. I

1235
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 1: don't think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they

1236
01:02:56,160 --> 01:02:57,920
Speaker 1: know who the funk they are to you, Like, I

1237
01:02:58,000 --> 01:02:59,919
Speaker 1: think there's a reason that people that go to swing

1238
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 1: as resorts have been together forever and they're old as fuck. Like,

1239
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:06,360
Speaker 1: I don't think that, especially you, being on and off

1240
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 1: seven years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom

1241
01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 1: makes sense when they don't even know what the funk

1242
01:03:11,400 --> 01:03:13,400
Speaker 1: they have going on with you. And maybe you could

1243
01:03:13,440 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 1: say he knows you well or whatever, but like, on

1244
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:17,920
Speaker 1: and off for seven years, on and off a lot,

1245
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 1: and it sounds like you're more off and on for

1246
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: a nigga did not know you've been by the whole time.

1247
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:25,560
Speaker 1: And if you mean then that, to me, is you

1248
01:03:26,000 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: coming from a completely emo place. Because niggas are okay

1249
01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:33,560
Speaker 1: with threesomes before they know where you stand with them,

1250
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:36,200
Speaker 1: like clearly. But I'm saying that I'm talking about in

1251
01:03:36,280 --> 01:03:39,320
Speaker 1: case where men don't your boyfriend a man I've had

1252
01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 1: a threesome with, These aren't the men were talking about.

1253
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable and where

1254
01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:47,160
Speaker 1: where it comes from maybe right, So I mean that's

1255
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 1: where I'm putting my input in. And I know we

1256
01:03:49,080 --> 01:03:50,680
Speaker 1: can all talk about men we funk that I've had

1257
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:53,680
Speaker 1: a threesome with. But I'm curious to know what y'all

1258
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,720
Speaker 1: think as far as a man who is not not

1259
01:03:56,800 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 1: a man who is, but a man who's not. I mean,

1260
01:03:58,760 --> 01:04:00,960
Speaker 1: I just think it could come for um a lot

1261
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:05,960
Speaker 1: more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such as

1262
01:04:06,040 --> 01:04:09,400
Speaker 1: their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean I did

1263
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 1: have someone early on that I was talking to and

1264
01:04:13,600 --> 01:04:16,240
Speaker 1: well this wasn't recent at all. You know who I'm

1265
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:19,160
Speaker 1: talking about, but he actually did not like the fact

1266
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:22,280
Speaker 1: that I liked other women and didn't feel like he

1267
01:04:22,400 --> 01:04:24,760
Speaker 1: would ever really care for me to be with another

1268
01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 1: woman and came to me like, if I feel like

1269
01:04:28,120 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 1: you have to bring in another woman to the bedroom

1270
01:04:30,480 --> 01:04:32,840
Speaker 1: or that you want to play with women, it's because

1271
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 1: you don't feel fully satisfied with me, And so I

1272
01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:40,760
Speaker 1: think that outside of religion, outside of what the relationship is,

1273
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 1: a man could have some insecurities if you want to

1274
01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 1: bring someone in the room at all, like and I

1275
01:04:47,760 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 1: think that that's really where a lot of that stems from.

1276
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:54,400
Speaker 1: It's more so him a man feeling inadequate to please

1277
01:04:54,440 --> 01:04:58,720
Speaker 1: you fully and that's why you're seeking someone else. Yeah,

1278
01:04:59,080 --> 01:05:02,400
Speaker 1: there's article I read because when you try to like

1279
01:05:02,520 --> 01:05:04,800
Speaker 1: search advice about this, it's all about women asking my

1280
01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:06,280
Speaker 1: boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do.

1281
01:05:07,160 --> 01:05:09,360
Speaker 1: There's this article on bold dot com. It's Bold with

1282
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,800
Speaker 1: the Athian and it says my boyfriend and I try

1283
01:05:11,840 --> 01:05:13,480
Speaker 1: to have a threesome and it destroyed us. And there's

1284
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:18,480
Speaker 1: something really interesting about this. She says. At first, I

1285
01:05:18,600 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 1: was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe I

1286
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:23,000
Speaker 1: should have told him I was nervous, but I just

1287
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 1: wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like if

1288
01:05:27,080 --> 01:05:29,360
Speaker 1: someone is telling you know before it's even happening, like

1289
01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:32,400
Speaker 1: this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end so

1290
01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:36,480
Speaker 1: badly if you all don't know where you stand. And

1291
01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:40,479
Speaker 1: I think that Honestly, it's better left undone than trying

1292
01:05:40,560 --> 01:05:43,760
Speaker 1: to funk someone else with someone that doesn't want to

1293
01:05:43,840 --> 01:05:46,280
Speaker 1: do it. Like, you know, we hear about men kind

1294
01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 1: of coercing women into threesomes so much, and I think

1295
01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 1: that as women, we've got to really respect fucking boundaries.

1296
01:05:52,440 --> 01:05:54,959
Speaker 1: And if you've got to fund someone else that bad

1297
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:58,240
Speaker 1: and you're that you're kinks are that important, then girl

1298
01:05:58,360 --> 01:05:58,960
Speaker 1: in the game, you