1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: M from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl in 2 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who growing into hymnals 7 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored ALCHEMYO cheriots to keep 9 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood. Be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts bloodstone and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: jim se King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,040 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the ass. This 13 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: is at the ancestors told me that you would come 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: to give wisdom of thousands. They said you would come 15 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:13,839 Speaker 1: Dropping Dropping Gym. Hey, welcome back. It's the Dropping Gyms Podcast. 16 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: I am your host, Debbie Brown. Shout out to everybody 17 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: dropping the reviews and hitting me on the ground with 18 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 1: the episodes that you're listening to. Always always grateful to 19 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: connect in that way. So big, big, big, thank you, 20 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: big big big love. Al Right, this week was amazing. 21 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: I did my very first live broadcast of my podcast 22 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: and we did it in Times Square in New York City. 23 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: So let me set the stage a little bit. There 24 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: was such such power to be had this last weekend. Wow, 25 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: I first want to really ground um this whole episode 26 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: and everything I'm about to say, and so much love 27 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: and so much gratitude for my brother Leonard Charlemagne the God. 28 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: He put on the inaugural Mental Wealth Expo in the 29 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: heart of New York City along with I Heart Radio, 30 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: and it was profound. It was such a powerful day. 31 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: It was so surreal and full circle as well. I 32 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: remember close to two years ago I had a dream 33 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: about shar and I was like, I think you've got 34 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: to have a huge retreat. And it was such a 35 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: beautiful trip to walk into that room this week. It 36 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: was held at the Marquis Hotel. And when I walked 37 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: into the room and I saw just hundreds and hundreds 38 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: and hundreds of people gathered, I saw this impactful, important programming. 39 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: It literally looked exactly like the vision I had two 40 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: years ago, down to the chairs, down to the carpet um. 41 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: It was so surreal and so beautiful and I'm just 42 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: so inspired by my brother. I'm so inspired by the 43 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,519 Speaker 1: way that he shows up in service of the world, 44 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: by the way he uniquely shares and divinely shares his gifts, 45 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: his truth, his healing for the benefit of all of 46 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: his millions of people and his audience. And it was incredible. 47 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: There was powerful programming throughout the day, men, women, and children. 48 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: It was a full family event held in this gorgeous hotel. 49 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,679 Speaker 1: There were breakout sessions, there was yoga, there was meditation, 50 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: there was self inquiry, there was therapy, there was an 51 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: awakening into such a multitude of healing modalities. And that 52 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: is what really personally inspires me. UM. This connecting to people, 53 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: connecting people to the healing work that is going to 54 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: set them free and whatever that healing work happens to be. 55 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: But creating the buffet to sample, to explore, to have 56 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: permission to heal, to be well, to be more. And 57 00:03:56,640 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: that's what this powerful event was. It was a sham 58 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: pack day, so many incredible psychologist, doctor's, mental health advocates, speakers, healers. UM. Wow. 59 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 1: So on this day, I did my podcast live and 60 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 1: I was really blessed with the ability to do this 61 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:24,480 Speaker 1: podcast with author with spiritual psychologists Anita Copatch and Anita 62 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: is just a powerful force in the world and absolutely gorgeous. 63 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,919 Speaker 1: You know, you meet those people that are just one 64 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: stunning on the outside, but you feel that internal glow 65 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 1: just seeping and dripping out of their pores um. That 66 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: is Anita. That is Anita. She is beautiful in the 67 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:47,840 Speaker 1: deepest layers possible, and she has an incredible book out. 68 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 1: Many of you may have the book. If you don't, 69 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: highly recommend going out to get it. She is the 70 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 1: author of the Simon and Schuster fiction novel Shallow Waters. 71 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: It's the second title from Charlemagne's imprint Black Privilege Publishing, 72 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: and Anita is the former editor in chief of Heart 73 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: and Soul magazine. She's been doing incredible work for many years, 74 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:12,159 Speaker 1: including being the very first and only secured cover of 75 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:15,279 Speaker 1: Misty Copeland, who, of course is the first African American 76 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: lead at the a VT. She was also the managing 77 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:22,840 Speaker 1: editor of Beauty Sense magazine and really blends beautifully, fashion, 78 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: beauty and healing altogether. Anita created the Zero F's Given 79 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: campaign to raise awareness and help victimize and disenfranchise populations 80 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: heal from sexual trauma find their voice and reclaim their power. 81 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: She's helped thousands of victims through her work with Zero 82 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: F's Given and being on the board for the Center 83 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: of Safety and Change. She's an award winning writer and 84 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 1: a spiritual psychologist with a passion to see people thrive 85 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: through leading retreats around the world, working with private clients, 86 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: and storytelling. Anita fulfills her intention to awaken the divine simplicity, pleasure, 87 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: and joy in her life and others. It was such 88 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: such a beautiful time connecting with her, and in this 89 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: conversation that I'm about to share with you, I do 90 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: want to let you know that we touched on some 91 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: things that could potentially be triggering um and so I 92 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: want you to follow your own heart on what you 93 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: are um able or desiring to connect to in this episode. 94 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: So some of the things that we touched on in 95 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: this conversation was one the healing journey, of course, but 96 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: two we did share quite a bit on the healing 97 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:35,680 Speaker 1: journey for survivors of sexual trauma men and women who 98 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: have survived this and a need to really powerfully shared 99 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: some beautiful practice to help get back into your body, 100 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: and we talk about what that even means to be 101 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: out of one's body, to be in one's body. And 102 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:52,359 Speaker 1: so I just want to let you know that upfront 103 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: before we go in, that we are diving into some 104 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:57,920 Speaker 1: of that. We don't go super deep into the particulars 105 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: of sexual abuse, but that is something that we're talking 106 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,039 Speaker 1: about in this conversation. So I just want you to 107 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: be aware, and if you do want to stay for 108 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: this conversation, I want you to just notice how you're 109 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: feeling when certain things come up, if this is resonating 110 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: with you, if this is bringing something forward, and really 111 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: start thinking of ways that you can powerfully support yourself 112 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: through this feeling, and if there's opportunities to reach out 113 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: to have a bigger conversation either with a professional or 114 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: someone in your life, UM that can aid you on 115 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: this part of the journey. So huge, huge, big love. 116 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: I am so happy to share this conversation with you. 117 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: This is a beautiful conversation between myself and author and 118 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: need a co patch. Author and healer and beautiful soul 119 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: and need a co patch at the Mental Wealth Expo, 120 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: the inaugural first annual Mental Wealth Expo in New York City. 121 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: So let's just take a moment before we get started. 122 00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: I want to invite you to gently close your eye 123 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: is if that feels comfortable, eyes generally closed, body relaxed, 124 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: allow your shoulders to drop. Notice how you feel in 125 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 1: your seat in this moment. Maybe let your body melt 126 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 1: a little bit more deeply into where you're sitting. And 127 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: as your eyes are gently closed, let's take a big 128 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: deep inhale through our noses, really allowing that breath to 129 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: grow and our belly and move up to our lungs, 130 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: holding the breath in at the top. And now let's 131 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 1: exhale through our mouths with a sigh. And we'll do 132 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 1: this two more times together. Here, go ahead and begin 133 00:08:57,080 --> 00:09:04,080 Speaker 1: your inhale through your nose, holding it in at the 134 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:15,560 Speaker 1: top and releasing with a sigh. And let's do that 135 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: one final time together, really allowing your heart, your lungs 136 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: to stretch open with that breath. Beginning our inhale now 137 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: through our nose and holding it and a big release. Okay, 138 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: now coming back into your bodies whenever you feel ready, 139 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 1: gently open your eyes. Now. Everybody was doing that breath 140 00:09:56,679 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: really cute. So when I said exhale through your out 141 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: everyone was like, but when you're at home, I want 142 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 1: you to practice that exact breath we just did, and 143 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 1: I want you to really allow yourselves to go that 144 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: big it's called a lion's breath. And a little bit 145 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: of the science behind what we're doing is when we 146 00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 1: intentionally are bringing in that vital life force energy and 147 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:31,560 Speaker 1: through our bodies, we're letting it nurture our womb space. 148 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: So we're letting it fill our stomachs first, then move 149 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: up to our lungs, and as we sit in our lungs, 150 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,840 Speaker 1: it's really about noticing how our body is able to 151 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: expand and create the space when we need it, when 152 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: we choose it. And then you allow the breath when 153 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: you hold it at the top to circulate through your 154 00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 1: body and when you go which I hope you guys, Look, 155 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: you're really strongly releasing any energy that doesn't serve you. 156 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:10,199 Speaker 1: So that's a really powerful breath that takes less than 157 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:14,160 Speaker 1: fifteen seconds that you can do at any point in 158 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: your day. You can do it in between meetings on zoom, 159 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 1: you can do it as you wait for the train. 160 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: It is something that is a tool that can be 161 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: available to you in a very powerful way. Let's go 162 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 1: ahead and get started. So my name is Debbie Brown. 163 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: I am the thank you. I feel so blessed and 164 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:42,040 Speaker 1: honored to be here. And um, because I see my 165 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:44,600 Speaker 1: brother right here, and I know you guys will see 166 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: him a lot through the day. I just want to 167 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: tell you how much I love you, how grateful I 168 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 1: am for your life, how grateful I am for the 169 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 1: way that you show up in the world, in the community, 170 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 1: for this event, the way that you have grown and 171 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: transformed your life and your family lineage and intentionally created 172 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: powerful moments like this for all of us to experience 173 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: the same. I love you, I respect you, I honor you. 174 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for you, so grateful. So I have a 175 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: podcast called Dropping Gems, and on that show, I like 176 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: to explore making higher consciousness tangible for everyday life. And 177 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: so this is our live broadcast of that show. And 178 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 1: I feel so honored and excited to have this gem 179 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 1: of a woman, this incredible woman, Anita co Patch, author 180 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:51,719 Speaker 1: of Shallow Waters, here on the show today, here at 181 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 1: this beautiful event. Oh Anita, Wow. I just have to 182 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: say something really quick. I had um texted Charlemagne when 183 00:13:01,760 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: the book came out and I was like, listen, Um, 184 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 1: I want Debby and Oprah to interview me. So I'm 185 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 1: living in a dream come true right now. I just 186 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 1: wanted you to know that I like, I like being 187 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: in that thought with Oprah. Now, okay, So first, I mean, 188 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:21,839 Speaker 1: there's so much that I want to dive into with you, 189 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: because something that I find so powerful about your work 190 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 1: is the way that you allow myth to be felt 191 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,200 Speaker 1: in our lives. And you know, in this book, and 192 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:37,319 Speaker 1: you're really exploring ancient lineage worry in this book at 193 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: the deepest level, but you're making it applicable. You know, 194 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 1: the the star of your book is a God, and 195 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 1: you were showing how a God found themselves. And the 196 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: way that I related to that, it's like that is 197 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: each of us, each of us are divinity, each of 198 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: us are divine light, each of us have God residing 199 00:13:57,160 --> 00:14:00,160 Speaker 1: so fully inside of us. And it is about the 200 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: awakening to that godliness within us, awakening to our sacredness. 201 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 1: And it's just so gorgeously shared in this book. And 202 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 1: how did you how did you come to find that 203 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: ability to storytell, that ability to really root in the 204 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 1: ancient teachings and make it so relevant. How did this 205 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 1: come to you? Yeah? I love that question. Thank you 206 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: so much. So I for me, I believe that black women, 207 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: black women are God and that um, so for me, 208 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 1: this is a love letter to us and helping us 209 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: remember our divinity. And for for yem a Ya who 210 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: or yemo Ja, she is a Yoruba goddess or more 211 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: of like a spirit from the pantheon of gods from 212 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: the Yoruba people in Nigeria. Yes, and so what I 213 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:02,239 Speaker 1: did was I imagined her uh when she was seventeen 214 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 1: and it takes place in the eighteen hundreds. So it's 215 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 1: about her finding herself and her own powers and all 216 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 1: of those type of things while she's journeying during a 217 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: time when she's she's experiencing chattel slavery, she's experiencing the 218 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 1: Middle Passage. And there are also um historical figures throughout there. 219 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:31,720 Speaker 1: We have Harriet Tubman, who's Moses in here. And it's 220 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: just a really powerful story of helping a tool to 221 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 1: help us remember who we are. And I call it 222 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: like ritual storytelling and medicinal storytelling. So it's while you're 223 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: reading the words, I put so many intentions in it, 224 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: so we're reading it on one level of consciousness, but 225 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 1: there are so many other things that were put into it, 226 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 1: so you might start have in your own downloads while 227 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 1: you're reading and opening different things within your mind and 228 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 1: your spirit and like, oh shoot, I am God, right, 229 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:13,239 Speaker 1: I am this goddess. And so that's it's like a key. 230 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 1: And I'm so grateful that Charlemagne saw this key and 231 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: UM had to be the first fiction release on his imprint, 232 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:34,800 Speaker 1: Black Privilege Publishing. Wow, wow, wow wow, you know speaking 233 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:39,800 Speaker 1: of you know, really sitting in those tools for awakening. 234 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: You know, I think so many of us we always 235 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: know there's more, right, even if our circumstance doesn't allow 236 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: for us to tap into it. Um, even if experiences 237 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 1: in life have potentially made us feel unworthy of it, 238 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:57,800 Speaker 1: we always know that there's something more, that there is 239 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 1: a bigger calling at play than what we do for 240 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:04,119 Speaker 1: a living, how we show up for our families, right, 241 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: how our friends know us. There's more, there's more, there's 242 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:12,359 Speaker 1: more to us when we think about ways to tap 243 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 1: into and start to experience that, you know, awakening, being 244 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:21,080 Speaker 1: an awakened woman in this time, it's about self sovereignty. 245 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:26,479 Speaker 1: It's about knowing your power, living your power, using your power, 246 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: and for any that that is starting to resonate with 247 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 1: right now, Like if that's really pinging, Like, yes, there 248 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:34,879 Speaker 1: is a deep power in me that I am ready 249 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 1: to share with the world, share with my own self. 250 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: What are some pathways to start to do that? I 251 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 1: love this. So as you were saying that, I was 252 00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:50,880 Speaker 1: actually thinking of the word black privilege and what that 253 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: means to me, and what that means our privilege as 254 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 1: black people for me is that we are connected to God. 255 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:03,160 Speaker 1: We are connected to the divine. We don't just hear 256 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,880 Speaker 1: me out for a second. We don't have to go 257 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:09,119 Speaker 1: through all of these different avenues to hear the voice 258 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: of God. A lot of times the voice of God 259 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 1: comes through and we're like, oh, shoot, am I going crazy? 260 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 1: What am I hearing? You know? My aunt is having 261 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: dreams about you know that that come true the next day. 262 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:27,400 Speaker 1: And so for us, it's almost like going from the 263 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:33,119 Speaker 1: end to the beginning. So we are these ancient beings, 264 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 1: we are God's and as the voices come through, it's us, Oh, okay, 265 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 1: let me slow down and quiet myself so that I 266 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: can really hear what these voices are saying and understanding 267 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 1: what the different voices in our heads are sometimes we 268 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: have voices that are from our childhood that are like 269 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 1: a record playing right, like you're not good enough, you're 270 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: too ugly, like those type of things. And the thing 271 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:04,720 Speaker 1: is is that you could stop those voices because you 272 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,920 Speaker 1: can when you start hearing it, you could say, oh, 273 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 1: wait a minute, I don't believe that about myself anymore, 274 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 1: and you could stop that voice, right. So it's it's 275 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 1: about hearing what those different voices are, and so we 276 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 1: can use meditation to quiet down. For us as people 277 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 1: of color, it's really good to do moving meditation. So 278 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 1: if you want to walk and listen to your music, 279 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: or if you want to dance, you know, like I was, 280 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 1: I was feeling the music when we were walking up. 281 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: I was like, wait, it's the music off. But like, 282 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:43,439 Speaker 1: just just doing those type of things to be able 283 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 1: to quiet our mind so that we can feel and 284 00:19:48,760 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: hear the gems that are coming through because they're there, 285 00:19:52,600 --> 00:20:07,439 Speaker 1: they're they're already. That is our black privilege. So what 286 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: I was really pulling from from some of what you 287 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: were saying is like really creating the remembrance of the 288 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:16,719 Speaker 1: depth of our intuition. And I think that that is 289 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 1: one of the first things if I were in church 290 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 1: right now, would be like the enemy robs us of 291 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 1: our intuition. But also sometimes our families do also, sometimes 292 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:30,000 Speaker 1: the people in our lives do write our intuition is 293 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:33,439 Speaker 1: our internal GPS system. That's the piece of us that 294 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 1: always attunes us to God, that always attunes us to 295 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: our higher calling. And if you have been in a 296 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:43,000 Speaker 1: system or a family structure where you weren't allowed to 297 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 1: be you, or you weren't allowed to have a different opinion, 298 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:50,879 Speaker 1: or you were under maybe a feeling of someone that 299 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,439 Speaker 1: was deeply trying to control themselves so they felt they 300 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,080 Speaker 1: had to control you too, the nature of that is 301 00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: that it disconnects you from being a will to trust, 302 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 1: your own internal compass, your own voice, speak on it. 303 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,919 Speaker 1: And sometimes it happens that right. Sometimes it happens in 304 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 1: such tiny, insidious, over time ways, then we don't recognize it. 305 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: And so when we think of trauma, or we think 306 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:19,600 Speaker 1: of the barriers we have to our healing, sometimes you're 307 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 1: walking through this world and you're saying, well, I wasn't abused, 308 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,399 Speaker 1: so why do I still feel this way about myself? Well, 309 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,680 Speaker 1: it wasn't as bad as I saw here, So clearly 310 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 1: I'm not that far off. There's no hierarchy to pain. 311 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:38,920 Speaker 1: There's no hierarchy. To say it again and again, there 312 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: is no and I will say this again, actually there 313 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: is no no, there's no hierarchy to pain. And so 314 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: I think one of the biggest tools that we have 315 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: for ourselves and redistributing and reconnecting to our intuition is 316 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:58,480 Speaker 1: really understanding that we don't have to compare our journey 317 00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:02,159 Speaker 1: to anything to anyone one. There's no better, there's no worse. 318 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 1: It's our individual process. But then noticing and what you 319 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:11,479 Speaker 1: were saying in that real time noticing and acknowledgement, like 320 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:15,600 Speaker 1: mastery is found in the tiny details of the every 321 00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:18,679 Speaker 1: day when you're noticing your body, when you're having a 322 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:28,480 Speaker 1: feeling and you just stop. That's it. Stop pause. That's 323 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 1: about five seven seconds that I did just there, right, 324 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:45,639 Speaker 1: just stop. M okay, how can I use this information? 325 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: How can I use this moment? All that we just 326 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 1: did under thirty seconds, that's available to each of us 327 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 1: and each day. But what we really get robbed of 328 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 1: when we experience pain, when we experience disappointment, or when 329 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: we're just not in remember rents of ourselves. We don't 330 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 1: even give ourselves twenty seconds right, twenty seconds. You'll scroll 331 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,720 Speaker 1: Instagram for two hours and not know how you got 332 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:16,760 Speaker 1: where you got right, But twenties set facts, twenty seconds. 333 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: You know, those are small ways that we can start 334 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: to rebuild that pathway to knowing ourselves. Something I'm really 335 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: excited to talk to you about. And I do want 336 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:32,439 Speaker 1: to warn everyone in the audience that a piece of 337 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:36,640 Speaker 1: the conversation we're about to go into can bring some 338 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:38,879 Speaker 1: stuff up, and so I just want to ask that 339 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:44,119 Speaker 1: just trust us, stay with us, and if anything comes 340 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 1: up in your body for where this conversation is headed, 341 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,480 Speaker 1: just notice it. Just notice it and know that in 342 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: this moment you are safe. Yes, some of the powerful 343 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 1: work that you do in NITA is really around the 344 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:03,280 Speaker 1: space of helping people heal who have experienced sexual trauma 345 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: and sexual abuses. And as a baseline, I really want 346 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:12,160 Speaker 1: to anchor this conversation and that sexual abuse and sexual 347 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:16,560 Speaker 1: trauma is but it is not just rape and molestation. 348 00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 1: It's also experiences that I mean, there's lists and lists 349 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: of things that that can entail, but it's also some 350 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,120 Speaker 1: things that you don't think about, like when you had 351 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,359 Speaker 1: sex with someone and you didn't feel like it, but 352 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,120 Speaker 1: you felt pushed into it, or if someone was touching 353 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 1: you or looking at you in certain ways or implying 354 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 1: certain things. So one of the things that happens when 355 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,640 Speaker 1: those experiences happen is we get yanked out of our bodies. 356 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:49,920 Speaker 1: If you had experiences at a young age, more than 357 00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,679 Speaker 1: likely you may have missed an opportunity to get to 358 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,639 Speaker 1: know yourself inside of your body and have a healthy 359 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:00,880 Speaker 1: relationship with your body. So for those on a journey 360 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: of the reclamation of self, men and women, for those 361 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: on the journey of reclaiming their intuition, their bodies, their souls, 362 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:13,920 Speaker 1: what are some ways to get started? So, um, this 363 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,919 Speaker 1: is this is my passion because when I was seven 364 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 1: years old, I was molested by a family member. And 365 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:28,920 Speaker 1: what has been really amazing on the journey. I created 366 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:33,560 Speaker 1: this called Zero f S Given. It's my nonprofit that 367 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: we basically help people of color who have experienced any 368 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:45,160 Speaker 1: form of sexual trauma. And it actually represents zero F's. 369 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,960 Speaker 1: So it's a day on eleven eleven of a day 370 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:55,080 Speaker 1: of sexual abstinence. So zero F's Given literally and the 371 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:59,240 Speaker 1: money goes to programs to help people of color because 372 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 1: on my journey me of healing through you know, I 373 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:08,880 Speaker 1: had many therapists, healers retreats, I was surrounded by all 374 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:13,680 Speaker 1: white folks, and I'm like, okay, what is happening here? 375 00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,959 Speaker 1: And so I was like, we need to create something 376 00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:22,639 Speaker 1: that's for us. And the numbers are staggering. One in 377 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:29,160 Speaker 1: three women are sexually abused and one in six men 378 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:34,360 Speaker 1: before the age of eighteen and so, and that's reported. 379 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 1: I never reported mine, you know, when I was younger, 380 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 1: I didn't I couldn't talk about it until I was 381 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:44,840 Speaker 1: in my twenties. And so it's something that's so prevalent 382 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:50,520 Speaker 1: in our community. And so basically what I wanted to 383 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:55,679 Speaker 1: do was normalized the healing process of it. Try to 384 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: say it, because before I would be like, okay, I'm 385 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 1: I'm fucking scared to say that, because now there's this 386 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 1: many more people that know what happened to my little 387 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,920 Speaker 1: seven year old self inside of me right like like 388 00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 1: oh shit, you know, and I was carrying, Oh, I 389 00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 1: don't know if I'm allowed to cuss, come on. So 390 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:26,880 Speaker 1: I just I just was like, I want this feeling 391 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 1: of being able to talk about it, being able to 392 00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 1: share about it, to be normalized because I know that 393 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 1: Deviie was just talking about like some people can walk 394 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 1: around and feel like, wait a minute, I wasn't molested, 395 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: I wasn't raped. Why do I have these feelings as 396 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:46,760 Speaker 1: if I was. That's because your mom was or your 397 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 1: grandmother was, and it is in your system. It is 398 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:54,040 Speaker 1: passed down. And I know that Charlemagne has has posted 399 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:57,239 Speaker 1: things about Okay, if trauma can be passed down, so 400 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,159 Speaker 1: can healing. And I am not trying to have my 401 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:05,440 Speaker 1: daughter's feel what I felt and gone through. So I'm here, 402 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:08,679 Speaker 1: I'm here, I'm this is where it stops. And you know, 403 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:12,679 Speaker 1: in in my family and in many family lines, there's incest. 404 00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 1: There will be uncles, which you know there there will 405 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,600 Speaker 1: be uncles, cousins, whatever it is that's happening. And we 406 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:23,200 Speaker 1: just need to stand up and say, listen, this stops 407 00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: with me here. There's way too many of us and 408 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:31,160 Speaker 1: so and I know that it can be a triggering conversation, 409 00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 1: but listen, we black folks in America, what is not triggering? 410 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 1: What is not triggering? Right? The fact that we're sitting 411 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: inside of a hotel that we got to walk through 412 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 1: the front door. We could choose to be triggered if 413 00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 1: we wanted to. But okay, sorry, let me not go there. 414 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 1: That's a whole another summer now. So there are so 415 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 1: many tools we can use, Like, if you're beginning to 416 00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 1: feel tight in your chest right now doing the breathing 417 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 1: exercises that Devy just gave us before the end of it, 418 00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to give you all a Tontra exercise to 419 00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: go home with. Um. Tantra is the study. I know 420 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 1: everyone's always like, oh, it's you know, it'sn't its sexual positions. 421 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,840 Speaker 1: It's not just that. It is the balance of the 422 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 1: divine masculine and the divine feminine energies within ourselves. And 423 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 1: so working on those because a lot of times when 424 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 1: you do leave your body, when a trauma has happened, 425 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 1: you have to bring in the tools to call your 426 00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: power back, to call your pleasure back. I was scared 427 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:52,479 Speaker 1: of pleasure. I was scared of pleasure. I had I 428 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 1: had three kids, and I was still scared of pleasure. 429 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, it looks like everyone's having fun having sex 430 00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 1: out there except for me. What's happening? And so because 431 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 1: I would go into I would I would go into 432 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: a flashback as soon as me and my partner would 433 00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 1: begin to move into that energy, and so I was like, Okay, 434 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 1: I have to heal this, and so going on that 435 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,560 Speaker 1: journey of healing. There are so many practitioners in so 436 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 1: many ways of healing now out there, and I'm going 437 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 1: to give you an amazing tool before we're done. Thank you. 438 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 1: How many are familiar with the term being out of 439 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:39,120 Speaker 1: your body coming into your body? Okay, So for those 440 00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: that are not fully clear on that, I want to 441 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 1: give you a couple examples of how that's felt. And 442 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,239 Speaker 1: this is just a few examples, and please share from 443 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,760 Speaker 1: your expertise. So, sometimes what it feels like when you're 444 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,760 Speaker 1: not inside of your body is a generalized feeling of 445 00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:05,680 Speaker 1: discomfort or annoyance being yourself, a frustration being you. Do 446 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,880 Speaker 1: you feel what I mean when I say that, you know? 447 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: And against nous of self, like I just can't do 448 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: anything right. Oh, I keep messing this up. I'm awkward, 449 00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,960 Speaker 1: I'm moving awkwardly. That's one of the ways it can 450 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,360 Speaker 1: experience when you're not in alignment within yourself and your body. 451 00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 1: Another way could be actually rejecting your body or rejecting 452 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,920 Speaker 1: touch of any kind, even a kindness like a hug, 453 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: someone leaning over to put their hand on top of 454 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 1: yours could feel uncomfortable and you don't know why. It 455 00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: could feel scary, you know, receiving kindness, a kind word 456 00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: from someone. You know, if I were to look you 457 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:47,280 Speaker 1: in your eyes and say this, you're beautiful, and if 458 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:52,400 Speaker 1: that were to make you be okay, you know that 459 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: that kind of those little discomforts are ways those those 460 00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: small anxieties where we're just feeling what can it be 461 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,680 Speaker 1: experienced as a charge, like you don't know what that 462 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,160 Speaker 1: feeling is or what that emotion is, but something is present. 463 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 1: So those are ways to start exploring that conversation. There 464 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 1: is no right or wrong, and there's no judgment if 465 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,680 Speaker 1: you feel it now or you've felt it before. But awareness, 466 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:23,960 Speaker 1: awareness about ourselves is how we transform, having an awareness 467 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:28,520 Speaker 1: about where there is opportunity to expand, to grow, to enhance. 468 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 1: And so Jess I wanted to add that in because 469 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:35,280 Speaker 1: on this journey, it's so important that even when we're 470 00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:38,240 Speaker 1: in rooms like this, we might not make that step 471 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,680 Speaker 1: for us because there is this underlying feeling that we 472 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:46,080 Speaker 1: don't actually deserve it, or we're not actually worthy of it, 473 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:50,080 Speaker 1: or the things that happened to us. Well, it's just 474 00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 1: too unspeakable, so I'm not even going to attempt it. 475 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:57,240 Speaker 1: But there are tools, there are resources, and there's more 476 00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,440 Speaker 1: than we can name a list here with the limited 477 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,840 Speaker 1: time we have left. But if any of this is 478 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:06,200 Speaker 1: resonating with anyone, I really want to invite you start searching, 479 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:10,040 Speaker 1: Start looking up online, Think of the thing that you're 480 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:13,480 Speaker 1: working with inside, Type it into Google and see what 481 00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,680 Speaker 1: comes up. Because one thing you'll instantly notice is that 482 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,760 Speaker 1: you're not alone in any of it. And the second 483 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,240 Speaker 1: thing you'll notice is that there is a multitude of 484 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 1: options of ways that you can heal that. Whether it's 485 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:31,880 Speaker 1: cognitive therapy, whether it's somatic therapy, whether it's energy healing, 486 00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:36,920 Speaker 1: whether it's a holistic approach, integrated medical approach. All the 487 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 1: things I listed don't even scratch the surface of what's 488 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,760 Speaker 1: available to us right now. So I just want to 489 00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 1: offer that, spend some time with that tonight, start doing 490 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:51,160 Speaker 1: some searching. Set the intention. I use God, but if 491 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: you have another belief system, whatever that higher sources, set 492 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 1: the intention and say I'm ready to be all of me. 493 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 1: Show me how, show me the people, show me the places, 494 00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,400 Speaker 1: my intention is to heal God. Let me do it 495 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: with ease, let me do it with grace, Show me 496 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: where to go, show me what to do a man girl. Yeah, 497 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:24,200 Speaker 1: I love that, Thank you so much. And I think 498 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:27,880 Speaker 1: a beautiful thing of us remembering who we are is 499 00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:31,960 Speaker 1: going back into our lineage of where we are. So 500 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:35,880 Speaker 1: many of us are sons and daughters of the diaspora, 501 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,239 Speaker 1: so we've been cut off from our mother tongue, we've 502 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: been cut off from our practices, from Mother Africa. And 503 00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:47,799 Speaker 1: if we connect back into that with our intuition, that's 504 00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:52,319 Speaker 1: another way for us to remember who we are. Absolutely, 505 00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 1: I know, before before we're finished, I want to I 506 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,760 Speaker 1: want to give the tool at leave the tool. Okay, 507 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: So this is a Tontra tool and I'm gonna have 508 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:08,359 Speaker 1: everyone stand up. It's called the Yes breath, and we 509 00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:13,080 Speaker 1: use this breath. It's an activating breath. So if you're 510 00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,799 Speaker 1: going in for an interview or if you need, you know, 511 00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: energy to go somewhere, if you're feeling like you you 512 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:23,600 Speaker 1: don't have enough energy within you, so this will activate 513 00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:27,640 Speaker 1: your own energy source, which Debbie was talking about, you know, 514 00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:32,520 Speaker 1: your power source right here. So, um, what we're gonna do. 515 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:34,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put the mic down because I'm from not 516 00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:41,480 Speaker 1: gonna need it. Yeah maybe as I'm yes, and then 517 00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:45,799 Speaker 1: when I start yelling, I won't need it, all right. 518 00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:50,399 Speaker 1: So everyone's gonna put their hands up. And if you 519 00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:53,040 Speaker 1: wrote an intention on the wall, or if you have 520 00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,640 Speaker 1: a new intention that you have in your mind, imagine 521 00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:00,279 Speaker 1: that it's just above you on the ceiling, right, and 522 00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,399 Speaker 1: you're gonna pull it down with your energy, and you're 523 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:07,600 Speaker 1: going to slightly hit the sides of you with like 524 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:11,320 Speaker 1: a drum, right. And then if you are on your moon, 525 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 1: just do it a little bit more lightly. Moon is 526 00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 1: your cycle um for women. And and so we're gonna 527 00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,680 Speaker 1: do this, and you're gonna yell yes right, and we're 528 00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:24,799 Speaker 1: gonna keep going, and even if you feel like you 529 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: can't go anymore, keep going, all right, for our ancestors, 530 00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 1: for the people who did so much ship so that 531 00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:50,920 Speaker 1: we could be here right now, all right ready, yes, yes, yes, yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 532 00:36:51,320 --> 00:37:11,120 Speaker 1: yeah yeah yeah yes yea yea yea yeah yeah yeah 533 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:28,719 Speaker 1: yeah yeah yeah. Feel that energy, Feel that energy. Keep 534 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:33,080 Speaker 1: your hands up. Feel that energy that you just created 535 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:38,320 Speaker 1: in your body. That's your energy, that's your energy to 536 00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,359 Speaker 1: create whatever it is that you came here to activate. 537 00:37:43,719 --> 00:38:01,440 Speaker 1: Use that ship. Oh wow, wow wow wow wow, thank you, 538 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:12,279 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. H So that's your homework three 539 00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:21,719 Speaker 1: times a day and oh my god. Okay, as we 540 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,960 Speaker 1: get ready to welcome on the next participants for today, Uh, 541 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,920 Speaker 1: what we just did that moment? Raise your hand if 542 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:35,879 Speaker 1: you really felt something shift, if that felt good? Yeah, 543 00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:43,280 Speaker 1: that's available to you all the time. There are places 544 00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,120 Speaker 1: you can go. There are videos you can watch on 545 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:51,719 Speaker 1: YouTube that will connect you to tools like this regularly. 546 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:56,120 Speaker 1: There are places to go to feel that, to fill 547 00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,880 Speaker 1: that void that maybe we've been using other things to 548 00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:06,799 Speaker 1: feel like men, women, clothes, job titles, Instagram. Right, all 549 00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:09,960 Speaker 1: of those deep connections to the things outside of us 550 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:14,520 Speaker 1: are really because we're seeking a practice like that, we're 551 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,520 Speaker 1: seeking to release, we're seeking to know and there's not 552 00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:21,759 Speaker 1: a judgment around that. But just start to notice. Start 553 00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,480 Speaker 1: to notice when you're going for things that you're like, 554 00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,880 Speaker 1: do I really need that? Do I really want to 555 00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:31,759 Speaker 1: do that? Ask what is the deeper need? What really 556 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,400 Speaker 1: wants to be known? What wants to be touched, what 557 00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,680 Speaker 1: wants to be healed, what wants to be held? What 558 00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:45,160 Speaker 1: wants to be contra sized. Alright, Anita, thank you. I'm 559 00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:51,920 Speaker 1: so grateful for you you, thank you, shallow water and 560 00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,080 Speaker 1: shallow Waters. So actually I already sold out to the books. 561 00:39:55,120 --> 00:40:01,160 Speaker 1: This is the last one, but you can you can 562 00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,160 Speaker 1: buy them online and if you want, I actually have 563 00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:06,000 Speaker 1: a pad of paper. If you are going to buy 564 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,480 Speaker 1: it online, I could sign the paper and you can 565 00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:13,400 Speaker 1: stick it into the book. I don't know. I like 566 00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,880 Speaker 1: that option. I think that's good. So grateful, have an 567 00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:21,560 Speaker 1: amazing day, Please choose yourself and every moment. Thank you. 568 00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:30,920 Speaker 1: All right, Uh, what a beautiful episode, So so grateful 569 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,239 Speaker 1: for that time spent in New York. It was such 570 00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:35,399 Speaker 1: a powerful day. I know you'll be able to check 571 00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,719 Speaker 1: out more of this programming, but truly, I mean, there 572 00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:40,040 Speaker 1: were some amazing people there. I want to shout out 573 00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:43,719 Speaker 1: to my sister Shantidas, who was in the room, who 574 00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 1: was on the stage holding beautiful space. She's been an advocate, 575 00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,480 Speaker 1: especially in the entertainment industry for so long. I want 576 00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:54,560 Speaker 1: to shout out the incomparable, the incredible Queen of Flua, 577 00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,360 Speaker 1: who is there. And Queen and I had a chance 578 00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:01,480 Speaker 1: to really offline and conn act really deeply. So I'll 579 00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:04,359 Speaker 1: be sharing more about that soon, such a powerful soul, 580 00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:07,719 Speaker 1: so grateful for her life. Also, my sister Angela Rye 581 00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,960 Speaker 1: had a powerful conversation Dr Mary alp Luque, Dr Rita Walker, 582 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:18,880 Speaker 1: Dr Alfie Brelan, Noble Resma Minnican, Um Ryan Mundy, Jason Wilson, 583 00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:24,600 Speaker 1: Yadi Alba. So many more shared beautiful, powerful gifts that day. 584 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:27,399 Speaker 1: So big love to everyone that was there. You guys 585 00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,960 Speaker 1: can connect to all of this on iHeart Radio. I 586 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 1: think all the footage is there so you'll be able 587 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,600 Speaker 1: to check it out. And massive, huge love to my 588 00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:38,000 Speaker 1: brother Leonard Charlotte Mene the God. I am so inspired 589 00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,680 Speaker 1: by you. I am so proud. I'm so grateful for 590 00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:44,880 Speaker 1: your life, my brother. Big love everyone, Thank you, not mystics. 591 00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:49,360 Speaker 1: Hey find me on social Let's connect at Debbie Brown. 592 00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,680 Speaker 1: That's Twitter and Instagram, or go to my website Debbie 593 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,799 Speaker 1: Brown dot com. And if you're listening to the show 594 00:41:55,920 --> 00:42:00,600 Speaker 1: on Apple Podcasts, please please please don't forget to rate, 595 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:05,720 Speaker 1: review and subscribe and send this episode to a friend. 596 00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:09,040 Speaker 1: Dropping Jams is the production of I Heart Radio and 597 00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,120 Speaker 1: The Black Effect Network. It's produced by Jack Quees and 598 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:15,600 Speaker 1: me Debbie Brown. 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