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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: Those people who are bullying you or being mean to you,

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Speaker 2: just know that you have something special in yourself and

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Speaker 2: instead of them complimenting, you want and they want to

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Speaker 2: there will be better days ahead, and those same people

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Speaker 2: who are being mean to you now one day maybe

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Speaker 2: reaching out to you in the future for help. So

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Speaker 2: just stay humble.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 3: You welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast us dedicated

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Speaker 3: to uplifting women like you. We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard,

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Speaker 3: a college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 4: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 4: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 4: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 4: five roids to fake friends, and create a safe space

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Speaker 4: where black women can just be Hey, lady, it's Terry

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Speaker 4: you there. All right, lady, today we have a very

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Speaker 4: special guest in Cultivating her Space. Let's just tell you

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Speaker 4: a bit about this amazing guest that we have today, Okay.

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Speaker 4: Tinc Taylor is from Louisbourg, North Carolina. She graduated from

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Speaker 4: North Carolina State University in two thousand and nine with

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Speaker 4: the University of Southern California in twenty fourteen with a

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Speaker 4: Master of Education and post Secondary Administration and Student Affairs. Currently,

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Speaker 4: Tinc is a consultant for Lynn Douer Global, a global

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Speaker 4: search and talent firm that places people across various sectors

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Speaker 4: such as higher education, independent schools, hospitals and academic medical centers,

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Speaker 4: research facilities and foundations, social justice and other mission driven nonprofits. Now,

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Speaker 4: there is so much more that we could say about tenC,

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Speaker 4: but we're just going to let her tell you about

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Speaker 4: herself in this conversation. So let's jump on in tense.

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Speaker 4: Welcome to cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: Hi Terry, Hi doctor dom. How are you beautiful?

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Speaker 4: We are so much better now that we're talking to you.

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Speaker 3: Girl, Yes, and we are so excited for this conversation.

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Speaker 3: So we are going to jump right in with our

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Speaker 3: quote of the day. Now, tens we know that you've

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Speaker 3: written a book, that you are on social media, and

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Speaker 3: you've done a number of interviews, so we were like

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Speaker 3: scouring all the things to and picking up on lots

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Speaker 3: of gems. But this particular quote of the day is

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Speaker 3: one from your Instagram and it says, let your intentions

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Speaker 3: be known to others because you might get the opportunity

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Speaker 3: that you are seeking. And I'm gonna read that again

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Speaker 3: for the folks in the back. Let your intentions be

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Speaker 3: known to others because you might get the opportunity that

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Speaker 3: you are seeking. Tensy, when you hear your words. What's

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Speaker 3: the context with that quote.

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Speaker 2: Yes, thank you for that, doctor Dom. The context for

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Speaker 2: that quote is recently, I just returned from Scotland, United Kingdom,

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Speaker 2: called Case Europe Conference. And not only that, but the

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Speaker 2: CEO of the conference, excuse me, a CEO of Lynn Douer,

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Speaker 2: Dev Task, asked me if I wanted to co present

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Speaker 2: And how that happened is when I first started at

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Speaker 2: Lynn Douer, I told Deb that I loved public speaking

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Speaker 2: and that I loved traveling internationally. I've been to thirty

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Speaker 2: So I'm always telling people, if you want to do

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Speaker 4: That is so powerful to see. And we're gonna ask

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Speaker 4: you some formal questions about your background, but I would

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Speaker 4: love to know how do you go about sharing that

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Speaker 4: like what is the best way to go about doing it?

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Speaker 4: And maybe you can give us like a roleplay exercise

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. So, first of all, you want to make sure

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Speaker 2: That you only go to it when when your tire

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Speaker 4: Amazing. Thank you for that pro tip?

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Speaker 5: Already dropping gins yay, yes, so TINC. Before we get

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Speaker 5: Can you tell us your origin story? How did you

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Speaker 5: go from a career in higher education to gracing more

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Speaker 3: She has been on over three hundred red carpets. So

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Speaker 2: Yes, great questions, Terry. So I have a journal affirmations.

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Speaker 2: say different things, consider the source. You pay my bill?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: Are you my employer? No? Have you contributed to my success? No? Okay,

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Speaker 2: so why should your opinion matter? So considering that source

437
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Speaker 2: really does help. We're just building your confidence and not

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Speaker 2: letting people and their ignorance or belittling behavior get to you.

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Speaker 4: Shout out to mom and dad for the gyms. I

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Speaker 4: appreciate them. Yes, oh this is so good. A tendency

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Speaker 4: and tens. We're going to talk to you more about

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Speaker 4: OPRAH and developing an attitude and gratitude and best practices

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Speaker 4: for networking and all that good stuff. But first we

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Speaker 4: want to shift up the energy just a little bit

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Speaker 4: sency because use we recognize and appreciate and celebrate the

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Speaker 4: multifaceted woman, and we believe that it's okay to be

447
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Speaker 4: bougie and classy and ratchet and you can still be

448
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Speaker 4: elegant and dance to strip club music if you so choose.

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Speaker 4: We want to invite you to the OHU blatchet segment? tenC.

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Speaker 4: So do you take on the challenge.

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Speaker 2: I'm nervous, but okay, sure.

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Speaker 3: She's like, oh, okay, appreciate your openness though, yes, okay,

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Speaker 3: we appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: We'll tell you what to expect first, tenC. So what

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Speaker 4: we're going to do is we're going to ask you

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Speaker 4: three questions. We're then going to share three sentence completions.

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Speaker 4: And then since you we have three photos of you

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Speaker 4: pulled up from social media, and what we're going to

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Speaker 4: have you do is choose a number out of one

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Speaker 4: in three and we'll show you that photo on the

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Speaker 4: big screen. And then what we want you to do

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Speaker 4: is describe that photo. Tell us some context about the

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Speaker 4: photo that we wouldn't know just by looking at the photo.

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Speaker 4: And that's it. That's easy enough. Right should handle that.

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Speaker 4: So our first question for you, tenC, is what's the

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Speaker 4: best piece of wisdom or advice you've ever received.

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Speaker 2: I have to go back to my dad. When I

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Speaker 2: was being bullied and I would tell him about what's

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Speaker 2: happening at school, he would say to me, you know,

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Speaker 2: keep going. One of the expressions he used because I

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Speaker 2: was called an oreo. They said I was black on

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Speaker 2: the outside, white on the inside, so I was called

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Speaker 2: an oreo. So Dad just said, you know, these same

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Speaker 2: people who are calling you at oreo are going to

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Speaker 2: be those same people one day asking you for help

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Speaker 2: or asking you to assist him in some type of opportunity.

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Speaker 2: So he said, you keep being at oreo and you

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Speaker 2: keep being great. And you know, I laughed at and

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Speaker 2: when he told me that, but he was so great.

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Speaker 2: I continue to be me and several of the people

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Speaker 2: who did bully me in school have reached out to

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Speaker 2: me throughout the course of my life to ask a

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Speaker 2: certain things. But so Dad was right. So that was

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Speaker 2: just one of the wisest advice that he has given me,

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Speaker 2: because it can just apply to anything, whether somebody's calling

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Speaker 2: you an oreo or calling you in any other type

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Speaker 2: of name. You don't have to answer to it, and

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Speaker 2: you can still a walk in your greatness. And so

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Speaker 2: that's something that I always choose to do, to take

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Speaker 2: the high road. As our ever first lady, Michelle Obama said,

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Speaker 2: when they go high, when ex peking, when they go low,

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Speaker 2: we go high. Yes, I always take the high approach.

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Speaker 3: Well, your your parents have dropped some amazing gems. So

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Speaker 3: our next.

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Speaker 5: Question is a different type of energy.

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Speaker 2: I have full.

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Speaker 3: Words for you to see.

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Speaker 2: Okay, sorry for two steps, two.

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Speaker 4: Steps now I'm all with a two step. We appreciate

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Speaker 4: the two step to TA and to see this next

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Speaker 4: question it's a little spicy. It's a little spicy, so

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna just spand myself a little bit. The next

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Speaker 4: question is what's the sexiest item you own? Oh wow,

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Speaker 4: we've gotten some answers for this question, tendency, So you

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Speaker 4: are in good company.

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Speaker 2: You know another you asked me first, pull some wise advice.

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Speaker 2: One of my my mom always said a lady never

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Speaker 2: tell certain details. So I guess I will just say

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Speaker 2: I do have lingerie, and I'll keep it at that.

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Speaker 4: Very respectful. We appreciate it to go have mama with

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Speaker 4: the gyms.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, have a little mystery. Leave a little mystery there,

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Speaker 3: keep them wander us. Mm hmm. All right, So now

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Speaker 3: we're going to move to our sentence completions. One question

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Speaker 3: or topic I wish people asked me about more often is.

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Speaker 2: How do I get to travel the world so frequently?

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Speaker 4: Well, wouldn't you know? Go ahead, tie you go ahead. Wow.

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Speaker 4: So our next sentence completion is I get to travel

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Speaker 4: the world so frequently because.

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Speaker 2: I get to travel the world so frequently because I'm

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Speaker 2: a planner. So people who would know me, I'm very meticulous,

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Speaker 2: I'm very organized. And you ask me where I want

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Speaker 2: to be ten years from now, I can give you

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Speaker 2: an answer. So when I travel the country, I just

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Speaker 2: don't travel to one country. I will travel to two, three,

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Speaker 2: four at a time. So, for example, in twenty and eighteen,

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Speaker 2: my mom and I went to Australia, New Zealand and

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Speaker 2: Tahiti for two weeks before the pandemic hit. I had

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Speaker 2: a cruise plan to Italy, Croatia, Montenegro and Greece two

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Speaker 2: eat cruise. So if you travel internationally on a cruise,

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Speaker 2: or if you get you a travel agent to book

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Speaker 2: you various countries that are within close proximity. That's how

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Speaker 2: you can travel to so many countries more at a time,

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Speaker 2: and also more economically.

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Speaker 3: Hey now with some serious game right there? So all right,

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Speaker 3: our final sentence completion. What I love most about myself is.

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Speaker 2: What I love most about myself is my personality. I

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Speaker 2: have had many people tell me that they are having

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Speaker 2: a bad day and seeing me and talking to them

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Speaker 2: just uplift their spirits. And so I love spreading love.

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Speaker 2: I love spreading lights. I love encouraging others to believe

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Speaker 2: in themselves. I know when I worked at USC, many

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Speaker 2: students came to my office and they gave me lists

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Speaker 2: of reasons why they couldn't do something, and I said, well,

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Speaker 2: all you need is one reason as to why you can,

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Speaker 2: and I'm going to sit here with you until you

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Speaker 2: find one reason as to why you can do so.

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Speaker 2: And so I'm just so proud of those students having

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Speaker 2: those pep talks with them. I was working out one

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Speaker 2: morning watching Good Barn in America, and I see one

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Speaker 2: of my students, Hauran, talking about Beyonce's new album that

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Speaker 2: she interviewed for bill Board magazine. I'm like, wait a minute,

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Speaker 2: go had her own. I've had another student who's in

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Speaker 2: the lum She directed a Lifetime movie. So these are

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Speaker 2: students who came to my office. I remember when they

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Speaker 2: were students and had doubt, and now they're over here

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Speaker 2: on Good Morning America interviewing talking about Beyonce's album, being

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Speaker 2: a director for Lifetime film. I just have other stories

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Speaker 2: of success stories of how I interacted with students. So

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Speaker 2: just believing in them and just realizing their potential that

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Speaker 2: they have is great. So I would say my personality

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Speaker 2: is what I love about me.

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Speaker 4: That is amazing, And we would agree with you as well, tenC,

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Speaker 4: because you are a whole vibe. And speaking of vibes, Tency,

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Speaker 4: we have some photos of you pulled up new some

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Speaker 4: fly ass photos. Centcy. Okay, so get ready for this.

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Speaker 4: So before we show you anything, we want you to

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Speaker 4: choose a number out of one in three and then

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Speaker 4: we will reveal the one photo, tenC. So what is

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Speaker 4: your number?

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Speaker 2: Number? Three?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I was hopeing you and say that this photo

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Speaker 4: is so hot you all Okay? Now, Tency, really quick,

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Speaker 4: you have to describe the photo for those that are

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Speaker 4: only tuning into the audio, and then if you can

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Speaker 4: give us some context behind the photo that we wouldn't

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Speaker 4: know by looking at the photo and then get ready

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Speaker 4: for this. Okay, y'all because this is super cute. All right, Tency,

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Speaker 4: here we Goay, okay, so this photo for those who

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Speaker 4: can't see are only listening to the audio.

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Speaker 2: I am in a house on a step. I have

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Speaker 2: my right leg on top of the step, left leg

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Speaker 2: is on the floor. I have a cute kind of

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Speaker 2: burgundy dress. It was Valentine's weekend. My hair is popping.

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Speaker 2: This Tina had just done it, put those beautiful highlights

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Speaker 2: in it. And so me and one of my girlfriends

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Speaker 2: who were actually headed to a concert, a Valentine's Day

588
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Speaker 2: concert jam and it was like Casey and Jojo and

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Speaker 2: all these people from the nineties who are performing. So

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Speaker 2: we were just trying to look cute. And so I

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Speaker 2: always like to make sure I'm dulled up, looking my best,

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Speaker 2: because my mom always says be also ready. And so yeah,

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Speaker 2: I just put on my dress and my heels and

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Speaker 2: my jewelry and my hair and step out. And that

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Speaker 2: is one of my favorite outfits. And you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: one of the things. I like to keep it classy,

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Speaker 2: always keep it classy. I might show a little stomach here,

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Speaker 2: a little something there, but for the most part, I

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Speaker 2: like to keep it classy. Ask me rocking one of

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Speaker 2: my outfits to Valentine's Day consort.

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Speaker 4: We appreciate you participating in Owe you, malatchet and says

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Speaker 4: We're going to jump right back into the formal interview.

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Speaker 4: So our next question for you is, well, we want

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Speaker 4: to talk about the wide network that you have. Right

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Speaker 4: you are well connected, and so we would love to

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Speaker 4: know what are the best practices that you have when

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Speaker 4: it comes to networking and what can our listeners do

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Speaker 4: today to build their network.

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Speaker 2: Great question, as I talked about earlier in the interview

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Speaker 2: about how I got into Hollywood follow up. I don't

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Speaker 2: know how many times will I have given somebody my

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Speaker 2: business card and I say, email me, call me, We'd

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Speaker 2: love to have a conversation with you, virtually or in person,

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Speaker 2: and I hear nothing. So I'm like, oh, they weren't

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Speaker 2: serious about it. So a tip is is that when

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Speaker 2: somebody's serious about it, they will follow up instantly. When

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Speaker 2: I get people's business cards, I follow up within probably

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Speaker 2: twenty four hours because I want to make sure they

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Speaker 2: remember me, and I want to make sure I remember

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Speaker 2: them and where I met them. I know we're in

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Speaker 2: a technology age, so you can do this on your phone,

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Speaker 2: But when people would collect business cards, when I would

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Speaker 2: get somebody's business card, when I left their presence, I

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Speaker 2: would write on the back of it, you know met

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Speaker 2: at the NAACP Image Awards. She wrote a book, So

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Speaker 2: that way I'll remember and know who she is. Another

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Speaker 2: thing is not just to follow up with that person

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Speaker 2: and have the virtual zoom or in person conversation, but

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Speaker 2: to stay in constant contact. So oftentimes I'm asked, well,

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Speaker 2: how do you do that? Holidays are a great example.

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Speaker 2: Thanksgiving is around the corner, Hey, thinking of you, wishing

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Speaker 2: you a lovely Thanksgiving. How are you and the family

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Speaker 2: doing Christmas? Hanukah Hwan? The New Year's mothers say if

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Speaker 2: their mother, fathers say if their father just doing those

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Speaker 2: simple check ins. You know, we follow people on social media,

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Speaker 2: so if you see that they've done an accomplishment, send

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Speaker 2: them an email. Hey, I saw that you got your

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Speaker 2: paper published, congratulations, or I saw that you recently got

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Speaker 2: a promotion. I wish you well in that new endeavor.

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Speaker 2: That way you can stay in constant contact. So when

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Speaker 2: I stay in contact with people. When I do reach

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Speaker 2: out to them to ask for a favor or to

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Speaker 2: ask them for something, nine times out of ten they're

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Speaker 2: more than likely to say yes or help me because

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Speaker 2: I've stayed in contact with them. It hasn't been two

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Speaker 2: years since I've reached out. Now I'm reaching out to them.

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Speaker 2: And I say two years because I actually had somebody

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Speaker 2: send me an email two years later asking if I

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Speaker 2: would write a letter of recommendation for them. I had

650
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 2: to scroll down to remember who it was, and then

651
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 2: it was dated like August twenty seventeen, and they had

652
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: replied August of twenty nineteen. So you remember to go

653
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: back and find my email address, but you didn't think

654
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 2: to keep in touch those two years. So I politely said,

655
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: you know, I don't feel comfortable writing this letter of

656
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 2: recommendation for you because a lot has happened in two

657
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,359
Speaker 2: years and I want to make sure I can sing

658
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 2: your praise and I just don't know what you have

659
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 2: going on. And then I also want to always have

660
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 2: a learning opportunity for people, and so I said, you know, PS,

661
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 2: next time in the future, just checking with me, Hello,

662
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 2: how are you doing. I don't wait till two years

663
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: to ask you need something. So that's another way that

664
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 2: you can network. If you're at a setting, a business setting,

665
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,320
Speaker 2: or any type of group setting, and you see somebody

666
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 2: that you really want to network with, go up to them.

667
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 2: Wait for the appropriate month moment. Just don't barge up

668
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 2: to them. If they're talking to other people, wait for

669
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 2: a pause, go up, excuse yourself, introduce yourself, and then

670
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 2: start the conversation. I have talked to several people who

671
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 2: are so nervous to talk to specific individuals, and I say,

672
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 2: put it into perspective. You are in the same room

673
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 2: as they are. You belong So you go up to

674
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 2: that person, You politely introduce yourself, and you make the

675
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 2: conversation happen. And based on how the vibe is going,

676
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 2: you'll know if they want to keep talking or if

677
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 2: they're ready to go. If they're ready to go, say

678
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 2: thank you for your time. It was a pleasure meeting.

679
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 2: You let them be. If they're continuing the conversation and

680
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 2: you feel a good vibe, say hey, may I have

681
00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 2: your business called I would love to stay connected to you.

682
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 2: So and then I'm network with everybody Hollywood, education, medical

683
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 2: profession the arts, like I network with everybody. Even when

684
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 2: I worked at usc I network with the custodial staff,

685
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 2: I learned that one of the custodial staff members lived

686
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 2: in Guatemala. I traveled to Guatemala, so we had a

687
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 2: full on conversation about that. So that's why it goes

688
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: to what my dad told me earlier about treating everybody

689
00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 2: with dignity and respect, because oftentimes people only want to

690
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,439
Speaker 2: get to those people at the top, not knowing that

691
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 2: if you are good with the executive assistant, then that

692
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 2: executive assistant is going to find time on the president's

693
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 2: calendar for you. But if you're rude to the executive assistant, sorry,

694
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: President's always going to be busy. So those are just

695
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 2: key things that I've learned, and just treat everybody nicely.

696
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 2: I'm in this world. Everybody's not going to like you,

697
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 2: and you're not going to like everybody, and that's perfectly okay,

698
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 2: But you don't have to deliberately go out of your

699
00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,879
Speaker 2: way to make their life miserable. And so that's where

700
00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:02,439
Speaker 2: you can truly tell when somebody is miserable with who

701
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 2: they are, they deliberately want to bring misery to others,

702
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 2: So be kind. Or if you don't like them out

703
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 2: of their way, but just network with everybody. I encourage

704
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 2: people to just speak to somebody that they've never spoken to.

705
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: I just came back from a baby shower with one

706
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,359
Speaker 2: of my good girlfriends, and I connected with ten new

707
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 2: people at the baby shower. We followed each other on

708
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 2: social media. I found out what they do. Like, I

709
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 2: just had conversation with everybody. I just like to get

710
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 2: to know people. And so one of the persons, he's like,

711
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, you wrote a book and Sid I'm

712
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 2: gonna have to support So just by saying hello, telling

713
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 2: him what I did, he shared with me what he did.

714
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:40,360
Speaker 2: Now I have a supporter of my book. Now I

715
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 2: have another contact. So again, make sure it's genuine, make

716
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 2: sure it's authentic. Just don't peruse somebody and say, oh

717
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 2: my gosh, they know such and such. I'm gonna try

718
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 2: to get to them so I can get to them. No,

719
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 2: people can sense that be genuine.

720
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,760
Speaker 3: That was so much game. And I hope that people

721
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 3: who are listening as you are listening, I hope that

722
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 3: you pause and rewind and rewind some more because that

723
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 3: was so There were so many gems tucked into that

724
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:17,399
Speaker 3: and so part of that, what I'm taking away from

725
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:21,839
Speaker 3: what you're saying in networking is about having confidence. Right,

726
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 3: there's also points in life when things are not going well,

727
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 3: and so why is it important to have an attitude

728
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 3: of gratitude? And how can we adopt this mindset on

729
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 3: a daily basis, particularly in times when it's hard to

730
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 3: find something to be grateful for.

731
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: Oh, that's a great question, doctor don And it's all

732
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 2: about perspective. I talked to many people I traveled the

733
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: world internationally speaking, and one of the things that I

734
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 2: encourage people to do is to change their perspective. If

735
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 2: you say I can't do this, I'll never get a job,

736
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 2: I will never save enough money to buy a house.

737
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:07,800
Speaker 2: You're right, you won't because you're already talking about defeat.

738
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,320
Speaker 2: But if you say, well, I don't have the funds

739
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 2: right now, but I'm going to set aside this amount

740
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 2: each month until I do have enough to buy my house.

741
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 2: I'm not where I want to be in my career

742
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,240
Speaker 2: right now. That's okay. I'm going to keep working hard,

743
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: taking those extra lessons so that I can get that promotion.

744
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 2: Change your mindset, and then two, life is hard. Life

745
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 2: is challenging. I have been very blessed to have some

746
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:36,760
Speaker 2: wonderful opportunities in life, but then life hits you hard.

747
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 2: Last year, my dad passed away, and you know, Dad

748
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 2: just taught me so much in life. I was with

749
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,240
Speaker 2: Daddy's girl, and so that affected me deeply. I remember

750
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 2: after we buried him, I just really wanted to take

751
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 2: a blanket and go lay next to his grave and

752
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 2: just be next to him, like that's how badly I

753
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 2: was missing him. And you know, but I couldn't give

754
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 2: up because Dad had taught me so much. And what

755
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 2: better a way to honor the dead than to live

756
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 2: to live out that legacy that Dad instilled in me.

757
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 2: All of that hard work, all of the things he saved,

758
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: that he did to provide for his wife and his children.

759
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 2: The least I can do is honor his legacy by

760
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 2: being excellent and everything that I do. So, when you

761
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:22,800
Speaker 2: have this attitude or gratitude, whether you face death, whether

762
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 2: you face eviction, whether you face losing your job, it's sad,

763
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 2: it's unfortunate, and do what you have to do to

764
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 2: cope with it. But pick yourself back up, find your circle,

765
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 2: find your encouragers who will be there for you. And

766
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 2: then if a hundred things go wrong with you on

767
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:44,240
Speaker 2: a day, you are alive. You woke up this morning,

768
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 2: you are alive. And so I look at it from

769
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 2: that perspective that had many bad days. But just because

770
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 2: I'm having a bad day doesn't mean I have to

771
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 2: go and make somebody else's day bad. And one thing

772
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: that I've learned is that when I am having a

773
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 2: bad day, but when I go out into the world, Hi,

774
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 2: good morning, how are you. Oh what a cute dog

775
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 2: you have, I'm instantly starting to feel better again, as

776
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 2: opposed to having a bad day and then bringing misery

777
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 2: and badness to those around me. So having that attitude

778
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 2: of gratitude is being grateful for everything. The breath that

779
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 2: you take, the legs that you have to walk with,

780
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 2: the math that you have to speak. If you just

781
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 2: make a list of everything that you have, then you

782
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 2: would be grateful. I have a roof over my head,

783
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 2: I have money to afford groceries, and I use that

784
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 2: to then go out and bless others. I will randomly

785
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 2: pay for somebody's drink at Starbucks. I will randomly give

786
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 2: a compliment to somebody. I went somewhere earlier today and

787
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 2: complimented with the lady on her doll. She's like, oh

788
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 2: my gosh, thank you. She's like, I love your dress.

789
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 2: So I mean there we go at equal exchange. But

790
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 2: it's all about how you wish to see the world.

791
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 2: I don't deal with pessimistic negative people. You know you

792
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 2: can vent. We all have our bad days. But if

793
00:41:56,640 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 2: every time I see you there's something wrong, sorry, you

794
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,560
Speaker 2: can't be a part of my circle. Because everything can't

795
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 2: be wrong all the time. Maybe you need to reevaluate

796
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 2: certain things. So that's how I choose to have that

797
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 2: attitude of gratitude, looking at different perspectives and just spreading

798
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 2: positivity wherever I go.

799
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 4: That is so beautiful, tenC. And it reminds me of

800
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 4: something that one of my friends used to say in college.

801
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 4: Where there's life, there's hope, right, So it's like, even

802
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 4: though it may be tough, if we're alive, there could

803
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 4: be something out there for us to be grateful for.

804
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 4: So thank you so much for sharing. We appreciate you,

805
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 4: and Cincy, I feel like it's about time for us

806
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 4: to jump into the story. Can you tell us about

807
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,240
Speaker 4: this story about your student and Oprah Because you shared

808
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 4: it with me offline, and I thought it was such

809
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 4: a powerful story that many of us can take lessons from. Right,

810
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 4: So please just tell us the story.

811
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 2: Erry, I could write a whole nother book of experiences

812
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 2: that I've had. But I had a student who came

813
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 2: into my office one year when I worked at USC

814
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 2: and she had found my Instagram and saw all the

815
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 2: celebrities that I met, but she saw that I had

816
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 2: met Oprah and so she really wanted to get connected

817
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 2: to Oprah. And so she comes to my office and

818
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 2: she says, Tendcy, I want to get connected to Oprah.

819
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 2: Can you give me her number? And I look at her.

820
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: Am I being pumped right now? Like did you really

821
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 2: just come up here in my office? Don't even really

822
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 2: know me, found me on Instagram? And you want me

823
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,760
Speaker 2: to give you Oprah's number. So I like to indulge people,

824
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 2: and said, okay, all right, well what makes you think

825
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: that you deserve Oprah's number? She said, well, I want

826
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,760
Speaker 2: to have my own talk show with it. Like okay,

827
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 2: She's like, I want to. I mean, I'm a student

828
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 2: in the communications school here, Okay, Oprah is somebody that

829
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 2: I look up to. Okay, nothing that I hear has

830
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 2: yet given me reason to give you her number. So,

831
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 2: as I said earlier, I like to educate people. So

832
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 2: I said, you know, if you had come in here

833
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 2: and approached me and said, I'm a student in the

834
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 2: communication program here, and I looked you up on social

835
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 2: media and I saw that you've met all these celebrities,

836
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 2: particularly Oprah, and I would love to know how did

837
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 2: you get involved with that? What did you have to

838
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 2: do to get there? What was it like meeting her?

839
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 2: I said, you've never stepped in this office before. You

840
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 2: didn't even offer to volunteer. You haven't attended an event.

841
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 2: I said, I've started partnerships with my contacts in Hollywood

842
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 2: where USC students will either help volunteer at a Hollywood

843
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 2: event or some of the USC students who are serving

844
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 2: as mentors and MS Tina's Beyonce's My Mentorship program. So

845
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 2: I said, there were several avenues that you could have

846
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 2: taken to eventually get to ask, you know, how can

847
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 2: I try to get connected to Oprah? But coming in

848
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 2: here and saying you looked up the picture and now

849
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 2: you want her number, that's very entitled, And so I

850
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 2: would strongly encourage you not to do that again. So yeah,

851
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 2: she listened to my advice because it took me a

852
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,840
Speaker 2: long time to get the connections that I have. People

853
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: oftentimes comment, oh, you're so lucky. No, it's not luck.

854
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 2: You don't see those late nights. You don't see the rejection,

855
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 2: you don't see the tears, you don't see the nose.

856
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 2: Of course, social media, you're always gonna post what's best.

857
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:13,360
Speaker 2: Nobody really posts negative things on social media, so you

858
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 2: don't see all the hard work that it took for

859
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 2: me to get there. And then two, because of my

860
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 2: network is so powerful, I'm very protective of that network.

861
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 2: I'm just not gonna be out here giving people's numbers

862
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 2: and things of that nature. That's rude and disrespectful. So again,

863
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: if you really want to get to know somebody, make

864
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 2: a genuine, authentic connection, grow a relationship, grow the rapport,

865
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 2: and then maybe they will get it for you. I

866
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 2: have another story for you. How I got connected to

867
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,879
Speaker 2: miss Tina is I was at an event they had

868
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 2: a play at their studio, and I went up to

869
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 2: her and I said, Miss Tina, congratulations to you and

870
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 2: mister Richard on your opening your studio and all the

871
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 2: great work that you're doing for young kids in the community.

872
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 2: I said, I work at USC, and if there's ever

873
00:45:57,480 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 2: anything I can do for you, let me know. She's like,

874
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:03,720
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I'm looking for college students, particularly black

875
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 2: college students, to serve as mentors in my program. I said,

876
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,839
Speaker 2: Miss Tina, say no more. I got you, and so

877
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 2: we exchanged information and our black USC student mentors the

878
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 2: people in her program. Not only that, exposure is so

879
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 2: important to me. So we had homecoming at USC, so

880
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 2: I got football tickets for these middle school students. Many

881
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 2: of them had never been to a college before, so

882
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 2: they got to not only come to college USC where

883
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 2: they got to participate in homecoming, and we had a

884
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 2: partnership with athletics where they got to go on the

885
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 2: football field and high five every football player before the

886
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 2: game started. And then I got their name on the

887
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 2: jumbo tromp in the stadium. So Miss Tina was so

888
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 2: thankful for me for that. She posted about it on

889
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 2: her Instagram and then she's like, I want to do

890
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 2: something for you, and so that's when she put the

891
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:01,080
Speaker 2: highlights in my hair. But I approach her with what

892
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: can I do for you? I didn't come to her

893
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 2: and say hey, here's my book, can you buy it?

894
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 2: Can you send it to your students? I wanted to

895
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,359
Speaker 2: help her, and in turn it was genuine I got

896
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,440
Speaker 2: hurt the help she needed, and then she wanted to

897
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 2: do something for me. So again, people, remember it's not

898
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 2: always about you trying to give your product to somebody else.

899
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 2: Get to know them first, to form some trust, and

900
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 2: then you might eventually get it what it is you're seeking.

901
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 3: So powerful, Yes, yes, I appreciate you sharing that. And

902
00:47:32,400 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 3: so for those who are specifically wanting to get into

903
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 3: the entertainment industry, So for black women who were like

904
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 3: you know, I'm listening to this and I heard what

905
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 3: you said about not coming up to you and feeling

906
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 3: entitled about getting that Auntie Od's number. And I heard

907
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:57,359
Speaker 3: what you said, and I'm not going to go up

908
00:47:57,360 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 3: to Mama Tina if I see her in the street.

909
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 3: But how can they make their way into the entertainment industry?

910
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:09,280
Speaker 3: What advice or tips do you have for them?

911
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 2: That great question, doctor Dom. So I'll put it this way.

912
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 2: If you're a college student, this is the time to

913
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:19,720
Speaker 2: be looking at internships in the entertainment industry. There's Sony

914
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:24,080
Speaker 2: Pictures Warner Brothers Disney. I started a partnership when I

915
00:48:24,120 --> 00:48:27,399
Speaker 2: was at USC with the Creative Artists Agencies. They have

916
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 2: a fall and summer internship program, and so USC was

917
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 2: very instrumental in getting some of our students to serve

918
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: as interns and various capacities. I also am speaking on

919
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 2: a panel and next week with UCLA about careers and entertainment,

920
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 2: and so I tell them advice on how they can

921
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 2: get into the entertainment industry. I participated in this panel

922
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 2: before COVID, I think four years ago, and I told

923
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 2: the students, look, people in Hollywood are emailing me saying, Tenci,

924
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:00,560
Speaker 2: I need volunteers for this red carpet event. Please send

925
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 2: me some students. If you reach out to me, I

926
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 2: can get you started by having you volunteer a certain

927
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 2: Hollywood event. And there are about six students at UCLA

928
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 2: at that time who reached out to me and they

929
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 2: were on red carcass in Hollywood. And I'm like, oh

930
00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 2: my gosh, Tensey, this is so cool because I know publicists,

931
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 2: I know directors. People are looking for volunteers in different

932
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 2: capacities and a lot of my students at USC who

933
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 2: participated in these opportunities. They have now gone on to

934
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 2: produce their own films because of certain things. I remember.

935
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,240
Speaker 2: I was received an award from USC in twenty twenty

936
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 2: Volunteer Friend of the Year Award, and one of my

937
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 2: students sent me a message saying, I volunteered at this

938
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 2: event and that's where I met Robbie Reid, casting director extraordinaire.

939
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,879
Speaker 2: That's where I met John Singleton, and now she's out

940
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 2: here producing her own films. So that one event exposed

941
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 2: her to such an elite level of Hollywood that she

942
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,320
Speaker 2: was able to network and take it to the next level.

943
00:49:56,640 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 2: So if you're in college, utilize those internships, not find

944
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 2: out ways to reach out to people. Find somebody you know,

945
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 2: say hey, this is what I'm aspiring to do. What

946
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 2: advice do you have for me? How can I get

947
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:13,880
Speaker 2: to Disney Studios or can I get to Sony Picture Studios.

948
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 2: But it starts off with volunteering sometimes. Like I said,

949
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 2: when I first got started, in addition to being a

950
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 2: red carpet host, I was on the ground in address

951
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,760
Speaker 2: stop and gift bags, and now I'm over here walking

952
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 2: red carpets being interviewed by different people. I attended at

953
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 2: Quincy Jones eighty fifth birthday celebration that was hosted by Oprah.

954
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 2: I've attended, you know, the Oscars and the Grammys, and

955
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,399
Speaker 2: it's just like wow, where I started and now I'm

956
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 2: here in the same room with these people. And then two,

957
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:46,800
Speaker 2: if I can just be you know, really real ladies,

958
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:50,960
Speaker 2: please keep it classy. Don't do anything to jeopardize yourself,

959
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 2: to try to do anything to get intoto the entertainment industry.

960
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:58,400
Speaker 2: Keep yourself a lady and so you know, the entertainment

961
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 2: Hollywood is a cutthroat environment and that's a lot of

962
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:03,880
Speaker 2: power and it's a lot of money. So you have

963
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 2: to be cognizant and make sure that you are conducting

964
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 2: yourself in a lady lake like manner because you don't

965
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 2: want to have a bad reputation of how you got

966
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 2: into the industry. So do it the right way. It

967
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 2: will be harder, you'll have to work harder, and it

968
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 2: might take longer, but you'll have better longevity.

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Speaker 4: So much wisdom and insight. tenC. We appreciate you so much.

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Speaker 4: You are a beautiful person inside and out. And again

971
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977
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Speaker 4: feel free to do that. Intency. We appreciate you so

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Speaker 4: much for everything that you're doing and all of the

979
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Speaker 4: gems and wisdom that you dropped, and we are looking

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Speaker 4: forward to being connected and staying connected with you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Terry, Thank you, doctor Donald. This

982
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 2: was such a fun segment, even when you add this

983
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 2: little special effects and I'm like, oh, what's gonna go down?

984
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 2: But it was a classy so I love it. So

985
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Speaker 2: kudos to both of you, beautiful ladies.

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Speaker 4: Thank you. We appreciate you.

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