WEBVTT - Friendsmas with Rachel Lindsay 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:08.799 Wind Down and Michael and Radio podcast. It's the holiday season, 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:16.119 so they do. And Hickory Dick doctics. I don't know 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:21.040 why every time I heard that song, that's what I think, Dick. Great, 0:00:21.079 --> 0:00:24.599 you're just ruining the classic Christmas song for everyone listening. 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:27.400 You're welcome, Thank you for that. What song is that? 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:30.400 And don't forget to clean up your socks? Hanging up 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:36.200 your sock? Um. This is a new episode of Butchering 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:40.239 Songs on Wine Down. I don't know that you read, Dick. 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:44.879 I can't with you. You don't dream about a Hickory Dick. No, 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:49.080 I do not, Actually I do not. Speaking of Christmas, 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:51.400 I feel like things are already starting to get so 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:55.720 messy around the house because it's just like already wrapping 0:00:55.720 --> 0:01:00.440 paper and presents and hiding stuff and and the cooking 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:06.400 every we're already starting, right. Thank goodness, we've got all 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:08.840 that Chlorox stuff to help clean up. Because that's been 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:13.840 a game changer. Oh yeah, it has. And I love 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.720 it just because the kids like all the the new 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:20.200 germs coming home from you know, preschool and stuff. So 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:23.360 I gotta love the Clorox. You guys, get it before 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:26.640 it's out. Yeah, and this is a bonus episode. Um 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:29.800 it's kind of like a girl's night Christmas party and 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:33.759 me so I'm just kind of fourth wheeling it. Um, 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:35.759 you're so good at fourth wheeling it with the girls. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:40.119 Like even tonight, I'm having a girl's night and it's 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:44.000 like what go ahead? No, no, go ahead all the 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.800 time and after no. It's funny sometimes too because Jane 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:49.720 is like, Hey, I'm gonna have a girl's card night, 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:52.280 card's night or whatever, and so in my mind, I'm like, 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:54.360 all right, cool, like all be night to myself. I 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.880 get to play video games, play video games. Takes a 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.760 couple of buddies, see what they're doing, and she's like yeah, 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:03.480 but um yeah a few things. She's like, we don't 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:05.000 have a fourth and we want to play youker, so 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:06.960 we need you to play with us. Or it's like, hey, 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:08.640 we want to play the other other card game. Can 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:12.679 you teach everyone so we can play tonight. It's like yeah, 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:14.560 and I love it. I love it. I love I mean, 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:16.680 I am one of the girls like hanging out because 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:22.639 all your girls are are like the guys, they're bros, brodettes. Um, 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:24.840 so I have a fun time with them. But so Yeah, 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.440 you're right, I'm not used to I'm not you're not 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.440 a stranger to girls Nights. No, I'm not like you'll 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:33.760 you'll whip on a mask. And I think that's so. 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.440 We have two really awesome guests today. We have Rachel 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:38.760 Lindsay who was a former bachelorette, and then we also 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:42.519 have daniellemne Um so to really fun girls. But it's 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:48.120 funny because I I I've never been I've never watched 0:02:48.240 --> 0:02:52.919 every single episode of like the Bachelor Bacherette, and I've 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:54.799 just like either watched you know, we'll watch at the 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.600 very beginning just to see the schmucks coming on and 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:01.480 then which smucks she picks. Yeah, place, There's were some 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:04.720 seasons there where we're kind of we're pretty invested. Yeah, 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.280 but I still feel like we might have missed like 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:08.480 an episode or two and then like now it's just 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.639 like I watched the first and I watched the men 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:12.240 tell all or the women tell all, and then like 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:15.960 the last one. But I really was sorry, I'm going 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:19.080 down a rabbit hole here, But with Claire, I was like, yes, 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:21.919 like finally like an older bachelorette, Like I'm so excited. 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:24.639 Obviously she found love within the first week and her 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:28.000 and Dale went off and got engaged. And now Tasha 0:03:28.720 --> 0:03:31.120 has taken her place, and I for some reason, like 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:34.680 I I got invested with some of the dudes on there, 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:36.760 and I was like, I want to see more. And 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.520 then now that Tassia's on her like, she's one of 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:41.560 my favorite bachelorttes ever. She's so I mean, Rachel was 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.040 amazing too, and I'm super excited to talk to her, 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.640 but I have so many like bachelorette questions I want 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:48.320 to ask her because as I was running today on 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:53.160 the treadmill, you know, just watching Tasha, Um, it was 0:03:54.360 --> 0:03:57.080 kind of to the point of like the guys because 0:03:57.080 --> 0:04:00.240 there's so many things on there that I'm like, for example, 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:03.120 like hey, let's put a face mask on, and you're 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:06.840 being like okay, and like I feel like you learned 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.160 so much about the dudes, and just like certain situations 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:12.800 around your girls, do you know what I mean, Like 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:18.120 when they're around your girlfriends like that you're just you're 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:22.120 you're okay with like your manlihood, but also like you'll 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:24.640 be fun and you'll put masks on if you want. 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:26.520 And I don't know, I just think the whole thing 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:30.320 is it's fun too, like no that, like you have 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:32.120 those different sides. And I think if I was on 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:33.920 the Bachelorette and a guy was just like, I'm not 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:38.960 doing that, I'd be like, h you're lame. I think 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:43.719 too for for guys when once they're in a relationship, 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:48.200 like we'd be honest, like if we're found put in 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:50.080 face mask on, we'll put it on. If we're not, 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:52.760 it doesn't matter who's around and be like no, I'm good, 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:56.560 but like even if your girlfriends are around, everyone was 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:59.400 doing it. God big now I'm all right, Oh yes, 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:03.080 I am. I make up that if the rules are reversed, 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.799 when it's just like the guys hanging out, that the 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:12.000 female will do something almost no matter what because she 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:16.159 wants to be one of the guys or look cool 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:18.680 or look fun. And the guys, you know in her 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.800 man's friend's eyes, when really you hate it and you're 0:05:21.800 --> 0:05:24.280 just gonna like hold it against your spouse later on, 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:27.960 you know what I think would bother me. And I 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:33.960 know some times I know like certain people that do 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.720 this is but you will say the same joke that 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:40.480 they've told their spouse, but then say in a group situation, 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:44.040 in a group setting, and you're like, you kind of 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:46.680 look at your sposter like this, I'm so like, I 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.160 just imagine like the Christmas even though there's not many 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:51.680 Christmas parties, but just like Christmas gatherings, And then like 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.360 you've heard the same joke, but yet your husband or 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.960 spouse still says it, and you're just like, I'm so 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:03.800 annoyed with you. You know, I think I do a 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:07.320 pretty good job at not repeating things, even if I 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:09.240 say it to you in the stage of somebody else. Yeah, no, 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.000 you do a great job at it. But you know 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:14.520 the people I'm talking, oh, absolutely, And there's actually a 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:17.440 joke that you say that I kind of cringe every 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:20.839 time you say it. Why for that exact reason, the 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.640 tornado wants it's so good though it's my only one joke. 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.960 It's I mean more like so like if you got 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:30.239 a joke, it's a joke, a story story, a story 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:34.560 that's funny. I know I get you, but yes, I 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.520 think that you have the one go to joke, and 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:38.960 I just every time you, like I have want to 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:42.640 hear a joke, I'm just like, here we go, interesting, Well, 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.080 he still wants to know the joke. I'm going to 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.200 cringe over here? Why Jana says it? Do you need 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:53.479 to like take your headphones off while I say it? Wait, 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:54.880 let me do it? How I was it? Guys, I 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:58.640 have a funny joke. I love how like I was 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:02.839 basically complimenting you and saying, then you say to me, 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:06.839 well you do it? You don't. This is the only 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:10.480 thing that you do it. If some if everyone's telling jokes, 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:14.840 like if we're having like, you don't come out of nowhere. Hey, guys, 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:16.880 I have a funny joke. But I'll do it right now. Hey, 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:19.640 wind down, listeners. Here's a joke for you. Why are 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:25.320 women and tornadoes alike? Because they scream when they come 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:33.520 and take your house when they leave? Oh yeah, because 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:36.400 they scream when they come and take your house when 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:43.560 they leave. That's right. So, now at your Christmas gathering, 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:49.080 got you guys a joke? You're welcome. Would you like 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.240 to tell when Michael I'm a situational guy, you know me. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.680 Here's Michael at a situation. Though this is going to 0:07:56.760 --> 0:08:03.000 be such an exaggeration, it's not a gadderation. So we 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:10.920 went to a Christmas party at Wesley's house last last Christmas, 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:12.880 which by the way, it's so weird that, you know, 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:17.880 her Christmas party has been canceled, obviously for valid reasons. 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:22.320 It's just sad. But Michael is the guy and bless 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.360 his heart, like he you know, I feel like we 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:28.560 both mold very well into situations. Yeah, like we can 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:31.680 talk to a wall and be fine, granted my conversation. 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:33.720 Like the last episodes, I hate small talks. I'm gonna 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:36.559 be like, why are you divorced? Like like I want 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:41.920 to go straight to it. But with Michael, he's just like, 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:49.000 You're like, you're not the mayor, but you're like you 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:50.839 want to be the mayor, Like you want to be 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:55.840 in the Mayor's club. So we go to Wesley's Christmas 0:08:55.880 --> 0:09:01.360 party and like, first of all, did you have the 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:05.560 fedora on? Of course? Okay, So he wears his fedora, which, 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.640 by the way, if anyone knows my husband's head, it's 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.880 way too large for a fedora to begin with. But 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:15.360 he rocks it. So yeah, he rocks it. You know, 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:20.520 I love him for it. So it's been like the 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:22.440 second we get there, I go see the girls. He 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:26.280 goes down to the guys and you know, he's got 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.679 his little sports jacket on and you know he's he's 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.960 looking he's looking fancy, he's stealing himself in his fedora, 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.840 and you know, I think it's been like two hours now. 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:39.200 I'm like, okay, I haven't seen my husband. Um, I'm 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.520 tired of the small talk. You know, I've had the 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:47.079 like like I'm done, I'm ready to go home, right, 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:50.880 So I'm gonna go find Michael. So I go outside 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:55.800 because I see a cloud of just like cigar smoke. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:10:02.760 I'm like, there must be my husband, just man. So 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:08.800 I go out there and I just see my husband 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.120 and I'm like, oh god, here's mayor Mike. Like, I'm 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:15.240 just gonna and I sit down and he was just 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:20.360 like like just like laughing with what was the guy's 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:24.920 name again? Okay, great? Even better. So you know, I 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:28.520 sit down and these guys are just like I gotta 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:31.120 I gotta a bourbon in one hand a cigar and 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:33.960 the other leaning back with my door and sport code 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:37.400 on my legs crossed all fancy like yeah. And so 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:39.800 I'm like sitting out there. I'm like, okay, I'm just 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.040 gonna sit out here with him for a second, and 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.720 you know, just being the moment with him and you know, 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.400 he seems like he's having a really great time. These 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.480 guys are laughing and you know, and then he's like 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.880 Lane the Mayor. We'll just call Lane the Mayor. He 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:57.440 says something really funny and Mike goes Lane and I 0:10:57.480 --> 0:11:00.960 was like, it's time to go. We need to go immediately. 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:06.720 I was like Lane, and I was like, Lane, is 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:14.679 he so funny? You did? That's how he sounded and 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:18.080 no exaggeration. You pretty much got up stone faced, were 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:21.360 like it's time to go. Mom has done Like it 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:25.560 was just like you, who is this one taking up 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.800 puff of my cigar? Who is this guy? We need 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:31.199 to immediately leave. I'm the guy that can go into 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.800 a room and all the guys in the room I've 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.920 known each other for years and I'm brand new to 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.880 the group. I'll walk out of that room with nicknames 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:43.280 for everybody. We're all telling jokes like yeah, yeah, I'll 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:47.040 see you on the squash court, like you like transform 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:53.000 into this tennis like I don't even know where. It's 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:55.960 like Lane, let's see you at the club, Darlin. And 0:11:55.960 --> 0:11:58.440 then it's like this other and then it's like you know, 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:02.720 it's it's hello areous because you you you genuinely morph 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:08.520 into this um different humans. It's still me, but it's 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:12.360 just a more um. Hey man, I just like to 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:14.559 have a good time at these Uh. No, I love 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:18.160 it sometimes, No, I genuinely love it. I think it 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.880 was just after the hours of small talk and then 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.640 having you come out to be then seeing that I 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:27.360 was just like, okay, yeah, but because we don't have 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:29.160 a we're not doing Christmas party, I feel like we 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:31.360 should do something with the kids. Like what do you mean, 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:34.160 I don't like throw a throw a Christmas party like 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:38.960 just us. Yeah, we were sweaters. I would love that, 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:41.920 like an ugly Christmas party sweater. I love it. And 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:45.280 we can watch like Frosty the Snowman. That sounds like 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.719 a great idea. Are we gonna do something for New 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:50.960 Year's a big deal for you? I love New Year's 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:55.160 But right now, let's just focus on Christmas, um and 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:59.160 making sure that we have our clorox during Christmas time, 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:03.400 because with you know, everything that's going to get a 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:07.200 little messy with like our gingerbread houses and the dogs 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:10.319 and the kids. Were happy to have our clerks in 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:16.600 hand with us is Zara if you say, I was 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:22.400 like adamant about a Christmas tradition, like what like maybe 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:23.840 I was and it was like I want to go 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:28.240 back to Virginia every year. M I would that would 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:30.440 be a would you have told me that before we 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:36.240 got married or after? I don't know, I just you know, 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:40.320 I feel like holiday traditions like there's it's one of 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:42.760 those things where you don't talk about early stages in 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:46.720 a relationship until the holidays. There maybe if you're dating 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:50.920 and it's around a holiday, you mentioned like holiday traditions, 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:52.720 but you still might not know the severity of what 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:56.360 of of it for that person, like yeah, I typically 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.319 go home and then you get married, Like no, I 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.520 go home every year. I feel like that one's a 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.400 big ask as well as like a tradition in my 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.640 mind is like a big cookies with Jolie every year. 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:12.040 Or you know, we now have our new tradition when 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:16.200 we watch a Christmas movie every week until Christmas. But 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.800 your question is if that was your tradition of I'm 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.040 not saying me specifically. I just think the topic of 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:25.960 you know, new relationships and having these traditions around holidays 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:28.400 and how people navigate those. I think it's just about 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:34.360 like adapting in and also compromising too, like because I 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:35.880 think if just say, like I have to be home 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:37.760 every year for Christmas, that's a really big gass when 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.560 you start to have kids and you know, you're get 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.480 you're married, and you've got young ones, Like that's that 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:45.960 to me is a kind of a tall order if 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:49.800 you're far away from home. Um. But I think other traditions, 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.760 I think it's just one of those things where you know, 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.040 you say it's really important to you, and then you 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:58.280 kind of meet in the middle. And I mean, shoot, 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.080 most Christmas traditions I'm off or I love Christmas time. 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:04.800 I mean, once you have kids, it's it's that's when 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.400 everything changes, you know. And if you're if your family 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:13.760 isn't local, you've got to have your own traditions at home. Yeah, 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.640 Which you know, if you were to say like that 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:18.320 was something like you have to have every year, I'd 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.520 have been like, how could you even you don't? It's 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:22.440 just such a hard one, Like how do you even like? 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:27.480 You know, I would be like no, because I've got 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.520 family I want to see too, or you know, I 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:31.120 want to stay home like I want to I want 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.400 to create my own traditions, like with the kid the kids, 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.800 and that's those are the traditions. Like we're just finding 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:40.080 out our traditions and I think that's yeah, Like right 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.080 now we're creating our own traditions, and I think that's 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.760 cooler than anything in my in my mind. But when 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:50.160 Jason Jolie start to have families, are you gonna want 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.120 them to come to our house? Are you gonna be 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.920 open at traveling to them? Oh, wherever they could have me? 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:58.400 Like I I'm I don't care at all, Like I 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:00.760 just want to be And that's the thing, Like, you know, 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:02.800 we had our traditions growing up, and like in my mind, 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.840 you have your traditions when you grow up. Then you 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.520 have your traditions when you start a family and you 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:09.360 have kids of your own, and then when your kids 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:11.520 go and have kids of their own, then you have 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:15.120 to recreate your whole new tradition, you know, and and 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:18.640 seeing what that looks like. Um, so yeah, of course, 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:23.320 I mean I want to, you know, hopefully be invited 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.200 to their house. Um would love for them to come home, 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:28.040 and you know, maybe we can figure out something that 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.840 works for everyone. But obviously I understand that their wives 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:33.080 and husbands are going to have a say and they 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:34.880 have family they have to visit to, and that's when 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:39.160 we have to create our own new traditions. And maybe 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:40.800 we're like, you know what, we're in Florida, we're not 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:45.640 vacation kids. See you later. You're on your own. I'm 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:48.400 excited to talk about talk to our guests Rachel, Lindsay 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:51.320 and Danielle mone just to see what they're you know, 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:53.960 traditions are I mean Rachel and her hasband only been 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:56.120 married just over a year. You know, they're a long 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:59.440 distance so we'll dive into that with them. So let's 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:13.760 take a break and let's get going with that. What's up. 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:17.200 Let's say, Rachel, how are you doing good? How are y'all? 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:20.080 Do you needed to put on headphones or no, you're great. 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:24.639 That sounds awesome. Okay, so we've already introred you. Um, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:27.400 we're super excited Rachel to have you on Wine Down. 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:30.040 First of all, I want to say, as an extra 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.760 correspondent with you, I love that we kind of do 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:36.399 you know the same thing in a way we do 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:39.639 we do. I'm happy to be you've been in the family. 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:42.159 I'm happy to be a part of the family now. No, no, 0:17:42.400 --> 0:17:45.080 you're so sweet and you're so beautiful too. I just 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:48.880 I don't know. I like you, that's all. I mean. 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:51.080 How many different things are you doing right now? Right now? 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:53.440 Rachel to stay busy because I feel like getting your rundown. 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:56.920 You're just a woman of many, many hats right now. Hi. 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:59.520 I do a few things, but it all somehow, it 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:02.960 all works it self out. So extra I do to 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:05.920 podcast one Bachelor Happy Hour and the other one is 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:10.000 Higher Learning with Van Lathan, two totally different types of podcasts. 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.840 One Bachelor Bachelor Bachelor, the other one is about politics, 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:16.000 current affairs, sports, entertainment and all how it affects the 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:19.240 black culture. And then I have a show on MTV. 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:22.119 But it's not we're not feeling right now, So that's good. 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:26.920 I think that's it. So well know that that's amazing. 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:31.640 It's not. That's it. That's a lot like it's fine. Um, 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:35.960 so I'm I'm obviously I'm watching this season of The Bachelorette. 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:37.399 I just have to ask you, if you who who 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:41.720 do you like the most? Right now? Okay, I have 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:44.160 to think where we are in the season, So i'll 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:47.080 because I'll slip up and say something I'm not supposed to. Well, 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:49.440 where Okay, So I I just caught up on the 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:53.879 treadmill this morning and they just had so Bennett is 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:56.480 that his name? Bennett? He went away and then he 0:18:56.600 --> 0:19:01.000 then he just came back. Um, but I like Ben 0:19:01.720 --> 0:19:06.440 and Zach I think his name is. I like those too, 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:11.640 because they're like they've been through stuff, but they're they're 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:14.159 open enough to like vulnerable share. But I don't know. 0:19:14.280 --> 0:19:16.040 Do you think Zach kind of reminds you of Nick 0:19:16.080 --> 0:19:19.680 a little bit? No? Oh my gosh. I never even 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.000 thought about that until you just said it. Watch some 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:24.720 of his watch some of his manner mannerisms. I just 0:19:24.760 --> 0:19:27.879 feel like he has that kind of like coy, you know, 0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:34.080 cool but also like you like, intriguing kind of thing. Yeah. 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:39.840 Maybe because I'm not into that, you don't say. To 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:44.280 be honest, I think he is good. I think they 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:46.439 I don't see the chemistry, but I can tell she 0:19:46.600 --> 0:19:50.439 really likes him and he really likes her, so like 0:19:50.520 --> 0:19:53.159 that's what they say. I just like don't feel the 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.160 chemistry between them, not the way that she is with 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:59.560 like a Bin or a Brendan. There just seems to 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:02.840 be a different level of attraction. Maybe that once infatuation, 0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:06.840 maybe it's love. I don't know. Bennett is my absolute favorite. 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:11.359 I know I'm on the minority, in the minority of 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:15.080 this one. I love bin It. You do not for 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:19.960 Tastia for me as it's like as I mean, he 0:20:20.119 --> 0:20:24.119 is pure entertainment. He's really funny. What's the show gonna 0:20:24.160 --> 0:20:27.119 be without bin It? It's selfish reasons. He is not 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.560 for Tastia by any meaning. But he's my favorite. And 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:34.040 I like Riley. Which one's Riley? Right? At least the 0:20:34.080 --> 0:20:37.160 attorney has the probably gotten that much screen time. He's black, 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:40.760 he's an attorney. He's the one who had the name. 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:44.119 His name, wasn't. I like him a lot? So in 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:46.240 the beginning, I wasn't sure like I didn't. I was 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:48.600 just like him and Claire, I don't, I just like 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:50.760 I could just there was no chemistry. But I see 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:52.760 the chemistry with Tatia, and I'm really glad that he's 0:20:52.800 --> 0:20:54.960 like opening up. That was the one where his mom 0:20:55.080 --> 0:21:00.159 left him, right, Yes, he changed name and all that. Yeah, No, 0:21:00.600 --> 0:21:02.359 I'm curious to see if she takes him on the 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:07.920 home dates. But I'm really invested in with I know, sorry, 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:12.240 did you have Let me just say this because I 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:15.320 have the kind of personality where if I was to 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:18.680 be the bachelor, I like you and have these extraordinary 0:21:18.800 --> 0:21:23.480 dates that when I pick you know the man and 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:26.840 it's normal, I feel like my expectations would just be 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:29.960 like like I would be like this is it? Like 0:21:30.320 --> 0:21:34.639 it's not this like big dreamy moment, and I don't know, 0:21:34.680 --> 0:21:36.399 I feel like everything would be kind of like a 0:21:36.480 --> 0:21:40.280 letdown afterwards. Did you experience any of that or no? No, 0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:43.120 because maybe I wanted something different. So I think that's 0:21:43.520 --> 0:21:45.640 no one's ever talked to me about it in this way, 0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:48.120 And I think it's really interesting because I was so 0:21:49.119 --> 0:21:53.280 big on not getting caught up in how grandy ghosts 0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:55.720 everything is, like in real life, we're not flying in 0:21:55.760 --> 0:21:58.679 hot air balloons and jet setting across the country, And 0:21:58.720 --> 0:22:02.560 so my thought process was who makes sense in real life? 0:22:02.840 --> 0:22:05.919 Who can I do absolutely nothing with and have a 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:09.000 fantastic time when you take away all the glips and glamor, 0:22:09.080 --> 0:22:10.920 Like I would constantly say, you know, I don't look 0:22:10.960 --> 0:22:15.440 like this right faceol makeup, I never wear ballgowns. I'm 0:22:15.480 --> 0:22:18.040 in sweats, Like I need you to understand how I 0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:21.040 am in everyday life. So that was I had tunnel 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:24.280 vision when it came to that, Yeah, that makes sense. 0:22:24.680 --> 0:22:29.080 I don't know. I just for me, it's like, yeah, 0:22:29.119 --> 0:22:31.760 I'm the sweat wearing girl too. But I think sometimes 0:22:31.760 --> 0:22:36.760 I have these greater expectations that I think that, like, 0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:38.480 my husband's going to do this, and then I'm like, 0:22:39.040 --> 0:22:41.400 and then I have to almost fight with my own expectations. 0:22:41.400 --> 0:22:42.719 What do we read in a book the other day? 0:22:42.760 --> 0:22:46.520 What was like it's like the death of expectations, Like 0:22:46.520 --> 0:22:49.840 you almost have to kill expectations because it can just 0:22:49.920 --> 0:22:53.760 affect everything. But now that you're newly married, how has 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:59.000 the quarantine change jaralls relationship for the good and the bad? 0:22:59.800 --> 0:23:01.720