WEBVTT - Ep26: Decisions with Jade and X.D 0:00:01.360 --> 0:00:05.480 Oh, wicked up than I saw some my girls dancing 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:11.240 this and I was so upset about it. She's doing 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:18.759 a really hard hand. What are you doing? This is 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:21.120 the white that's coming out of you so bad hanging 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:24.480 out when this ship playing the club, bitch, I turned 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.600 into a strumble. I don't think it takes you much 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:34.120 to turning to a stripper, so that was gonna off. Anyways, guys, 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:40.040 welcome to another episode of Horrible Decisions. Um, this is 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.080 your girl, Mandy be a k A food press, a 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:50.040 debt beach. Keep going. I was hoping, I was ready. 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:53.200 I was ready. You gotta have more, ak No, I'd 0:00:53.200 --> 0:00:56.400 be working on. I gotta write them down, okay, because 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:00.400 I got my a k is already on. No, you 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:08.840 gotta do it. You do it real quick, yo, Damon's wheezy. Akay, okay, 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:13.680 yeah do it. And I ain't asthm at it. No, 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:19.400 I am okay. And we have we have two gats 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.640 in the show once again CP time. One is running 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:26.280 a little it's very light cy p time. Um, so 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:28.760 we're gonna introduce at least one of them, and then 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.479 when the other one comes in, she can do okay, 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.200 so who else do we have in the studio right now. 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:39.160 Do you want to introduce yourself? Oh? Sure, it's x 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:42.200 d um a k A the Chuck d of Homosexuality, 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:44.520 a k A homo without a pause, A gay z 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:48.040 a k A factific a k A Hoisha a k 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:52.600 A because Nickel, we all got pain. Did you say gazzy? 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:59.240 He said gay? See? He said how Isha? That was great? 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.880 I think you got still that name. You gotta could 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:08.079 be You could be me, y'all. Our other guests actually 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:10.280 just came in right on time, so we I know, 0:02:10.400 --> 0:02:12.800 we just gonna throw you in time. We are told 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:15.000 you in the mix. Girl. Um, do you want to 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.120 introduce yourself to our listeners? Oh, I'm not as fancy 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:28.120 as ext It's Jade a k Jada al jadesk ak 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:34.639 A Griselda Negra a k A your mom. So if 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.959 you guys don't know, these are the wonderful host of 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.320 the Jada Next Show. Um, they also have a podcast. 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:43.400 They're a little bit more lit. If y'all hate Wayne 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:45.799 our episodes, they dropped bout two or three or four 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:49.360 or five a week. God damn kid, when you started 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.359 getting grown, I'm like, oh, she's married. So they don't 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.120 live together. How many do they? How do they do this? 0:02:55.880 --> 0:03:00.400 We pretty much lived together used to anyway. Your husband, yeah, 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:06.680 for what husband is actually right here? Yeah. I'm always 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:09.240 like imagining people that are married and happy with ugly husbands. 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:14.120 I'd be like, that's why they're happy, like whatever, Like 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:17.359 something's got to be wrong. Listen, people eat, people will 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.320 d M me and be like, listen, girl, I love 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.840 your shows. I think they're great all of that. Your 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.800 family is beautiful, but check it. Your husband is fine. 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:30.639 I'm like, that's chocolate. You know, you've got to feel good, 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:33.639 I think because like I know my nig is fine. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:37.840 I know what kind of girl? Everything whatever? I just 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:42.200 never mind, never mind, just saw the screen. So I 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:44.520 do want to say, Um, I was talking to her 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:48.960 about your show. Um, nigga Peace Theater is my motherfucking shit. Um. 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:51.520 I don't know if you guys, um listen to the 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.720 JA the next show. Um. But basically what they do 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:57.760 is they do something really cool and I mean it's 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:00.920 kind of um or get too for you guys. I've 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:02.920 never heard it from a podcast. So what they do 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.480 they have? Like these thirty minutes segments where x D 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.960 actually started, Um, he wrote two chapters I believe, to 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:12.720 start with, and then Jade finished them with two more chapters. 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.480 So basically, weekly you're listening to a story that neither 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:18.680 of them knows what's coming next. This one, we're the 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.520 next one. Because if you, guys can just give a 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:23.520 summary of your last one, I would love our listeners 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:25.520 to listen to him because I was, I was at 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:30.000 my desk, like, no, he did it. It was really good. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.400 So can you give like a summary of what so, Nicko, 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:36.080 Peace Theater is exactly how you described it. It's it's 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:38.400 a story that Jade and I have written and we 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:41.040 don't know how it's going to well, we soon will 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:43.240 know how it's going to end. But it's a story 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:50.160 about Trevor and Bianca Um and it's a story of 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:54.760 their their wacky love tales. Um. Trevor is a doctor 0:04:55.000 --> 0:05:06.080 at Columbia, fictitiously and his wife is a transwomen prostitute dominatrix, dominatrix, 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.560 and he knows that she's a prostitute. Yeah, and it's 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:12.200 okay with her being a sex worker. And they don't 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.320 have sex, and they don't they've never had sex at all. 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:21.320 And then it answer Twine. Yeah. I don't want to 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:24.160 give any spoilers, but the story takes a lot of 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:27.200 twists and turns and I've created these characters in my 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:28.920 mind and I'm listening to it. You guys read it 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.080 very well. Um, it's just something that I get different. 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:38.840 It's you know, not pop. We started this right after 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.000 our first live show in l A. So I guess 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:50.880 since excuse me, well, we stopped for a minute. And 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.400 because we're releasing a book and comes out September three, 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:58.080 wait with Trevor and Bianca finish finished the story. That's 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:00.840 why we stopped. Yeah, so everybody will be able to 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:05.400 purchase the ending of the book. That no, that is awesome. 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:08.280 So yeah, if you guys haven't yet, um, Jaden x D. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.680 You guys are on iTunes and SoundCloud look up theater. 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:15.000 Oh not SoundCloud, Remember we were trying to look them up. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:23.640 I'm subscribed and you have a new podcast, yes, Getting Grown. 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:27.839 Getting Grown is on the Loudspeakers Network. Um we are. 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.920 We talk about all things adulting and how to do 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:32.840 so while we're trying to figure it out at the 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:35.320 same time. I'm surprised how much I enjoy it because 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.839 I'm like when it has kids over here talking about 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:48.800 I mean, how did I get a kid? No, like, 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:56.360 it's funny like podcast honestly, like so Dubrid for tending. 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.159 She's like, you've got to listen to this, and no shape, 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.360 I'm just saying what she described at first, that's like 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:07.840 mental health. I'm like, I'm good. And I was really 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.040 really surprised how much I enjoyed it. Even listening to 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:12.600 the story about your kid was like so fun to 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:15.720 listen to the birthday party ship because I'm because that's 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.280 so like I'm just gonna give I'm just gonna give 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:19.680 it to you like that. And then kid is too 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:23.040 gave a great part about it because and so we 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:25.360 tried to make that different about this sex podcast because 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.720 so we both work in corporate America. People bleep it, 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:32.200 but um, I already tell how many works huge company, 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:36.200 and so like we cross passed again. We had been 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:38.480 friends five years ago. I didn't talk for five years. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.800 Y'all have beef. We did have asking on the show, 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:46.880 like you guys make it because it sounds like about 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.840 to break up a lot, maybe text me one day 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:51.840 I was like, you know what, I don't want to 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:53.960 do this without you so call me when you're ready 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:57.040 and actually making me sound like the bigger person because 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.200 I was ready to risk it all and just wap 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:06.760 my ass away you. Anyway, when I ran into Mandy right, 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:09.120 she was like just doing amazing things that I had 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.080 moved to New York for a great job, and I 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:13.120 noticed we both still had this like oh ship in us, 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.920 And I was like, wouldn't it be great? It's the screen. 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:22.040 We could talk about changing it. I maybe keep it. Yeah, 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.400 well the way our jobs are set up, but I 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:27.600 may be taking on a new role. And so they're like, 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:30.120 the podcast is great, but the banana by your mouth, 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:38.959 I'll have to listen. Then I say, I came to 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.360 HR no no, yeah, yeah, I came to HR the 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:42.839 day I was gonna make it, and I'm like, listen, 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:45.079 I want to start a podcast. I read up on 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.200 our guidelines. I just want to know how I can 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:48.839 do this. Is this okay? And they're like yeah, I'm 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.600 like because it's about sex. She's like yeah, that's fine. 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:58.360 I'm like it right, it's about HR. I said, there's bananas. 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:00.959 I said, we're going to call it and she's like, well, well, 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.240 what is it? Curs? Right? There and said it's horror 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:07.199 in there. She's like, well, as long as you separated 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:10.160 from this company. I mean, they don't bleep that word 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:12.920 out on TV, so I think it's fine. Yeah, I 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:15.200 sure didn't, because they did on Real Housewives of New 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:21.400 Jersey when it was So. What we like to do, um, 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:23.319 and how we like to start our show is we 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:27.120 like to have kinks on our show. And these kinks, UM, 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:29.640 sometimes we know them, sometimes we don't, but we find 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:33.160 the actual terminology of these things. Um. And she has 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:34.640 a great one, and maybe you guys can try to 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:36.120 guess if you guys know what it is. She's going 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:37.599 to read the definite. Do you have the definition to 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.719 the kink for me? Um? I've been taking pictures of 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:43.640 dudes on the subway with like with their ankles out, 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:46.240 and I'm like, why am I sell into this? It's 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.800 called partialism, and it's when you have arousal to a 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:52.520 body part that's other than a reproductive organ. Do you 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:58.000 do you have one a kink? Or is there something 0:09:58.000 --> 0:09:59.960 that attract you to a person other than a reproductive organ? 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:08.600 So the name of the next oh yeah that chest. Yeah, 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:15.480 I'm not really into rests, you know, I think feet 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:23.199 you like, you know, this is not where you're ready for. 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:26.120 Have you ever been sucking dick and someone put a 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:30.680 toe in your ass? What you know what? You don't 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.439 answer that? Don't answer that? Wait why look look at them? 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.680 No that has that has No, that has never happened, 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:47.520 that has been asked me. Yeah, they're like you've been 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:50.880 talking about these people? Yeah, so you put them in 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:56.600 your mouth? Yeah, like when I would. Yeah, I'm something 0:10:56.640 --> 0:11:02.280 new every day. Friends don't said you don't fetish, not 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:12.160 like that, not everybody. Yeah, I got to really know. 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:15.080 Has there ever been something with sent with me? I'm curious? 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:23.440 Um sent Maybe I think it's because I guess. Another 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.400 fetish I guess I have is like musk smell from 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:30.800 like okay, but I feel like but like feet, but 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:34.160 feet smell is different than like musky. Like my friend 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.760 Binny sprays the paramount to be like basic coming out 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:40.640 the night. Yeah, and they do he do? He carrying 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:47.000 his little bottle of pharamony? Want to him sometimes? Do 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:49.839 you do you have a fetish for anything other than 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:54.760 you better be listening over their husband? Oh he what white? 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.520 Does the husband know? What is it? What's she like 0:11:56.640 --> 0:12:03.400 about you, that's not a reproductive organ. Can a bear 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:07.760 does the beer? I want to ride? So I just yeah, 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:09.680 I like it just because I know that means they're 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:14.320 smell you. How long you guys been together? Six years now? 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:16.959 Have you always had a beard? Have you been fucked 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:23.839 more since you've had the beer? Yeah? I always get 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:29.400 some and that's why. So what about you? You said 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:33.480 you have a thing for ankles when I've be seen 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:36.800 him with the joggers on and the ankle like a 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:39.040 skinny ankle or you like a thick ankle. Yeah, what 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:42.880 is it? I don't know, dude, I'd be like this 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:49.079 nigg gut ankle. Mine is super super weird. I have 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:55.199 a thing for Adams apples, then attraction. If the nigga 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.679 has a huge atoms apple, like, I'll literally play with 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.200 it like it's a little click like it's okay if 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:04.480 we're laying down, like you don't like Adams apples, I 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:07.079 prefer you not me. So out there I love big 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:10.680 Adams apples. I only really see it, like really pronounced 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.719 Adams apples on like white boys. Yeah, really, you know what, 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.760 they'd be mixed because I always got black all my 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:21.880 kind of thing they'by black and soft and else, like 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:29.120 I had a black and white really six six one. 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:33.120 He keeps super skinny, like honestly, my friend was like, 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:39.360 oh my god, you like super little. No, um what 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:43.480 do they do now? What are you doing the league? No? No, 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:46.880 he used to. He used to be with um so 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:51.240 monkey like he did clothes and stuff. Okay, who's black, 0:13:51.280 --> 0:14:00.559 half black, half Asian would do he didn't. Yeah, he 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:04.760 listens to the sole election. Y'all know him so well. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:11.719 Dresses like a tree, a lot of browns. But he 0:14:11.800 --> 0:14:13.559 does that look now where he does the fitted and 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:16.600 then the long shorts. Well actually has his hair grown 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.880 dyed blonde Japan. Maybe I can get one of Maybe 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:22.720 I can get a black girl. I lived in Singapore 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.840 and there's no blazings over there in real life, like 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:27.800 they're all here. First of all, I'll bring your fucking 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:37.600 energy from not that that attitude. I was gonna say, 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:38.880 you could dance on like he's gonna be able to 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:40.440 dance with you. But like all the Asians are on 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:48.720 a B D do everything. Well, yeah, because he said 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:52.080 Asians are from the future. Do you see how they 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.600 dressed like at why three ship? Yeah, from a budget 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:57.560 in my trip for why three? Yeah? Oh okay, so 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.920 I have you ever? Um, it's funny because I made 0:14:59.920 --> 0:15:02.400 it just for you've been luckily we had j come 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:05.800 on and I feel like all the questions fit. The 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:14.360 first one is have you ever slept with a woman? Oh? Yeah, 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:18.720 you slept with a woman? How many one? And you 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:26.680 never went back? Yeah? No? Oh, I said with the guy. Well, 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.240 I had oral with a man with a boy first, 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:32.640 and then then I was like, oh my god, this 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:38.920 is really crazy. And I was like oh, because then 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:40.720 you know, I was like, okay, maybe I needn't you know, 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:42.400 try a girl, because you know, you have all your 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:46.160 older cousins like no, no, no, you can and so 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:49.160 and then I'll never forget these words. My cousin was 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.840 just like, whatever you do, don't go white, go light 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:57.760 what And that meant what get a life girl, don't 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:02.480 get a white girl. So it's common right, like don't go, 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:06.280 don't go like I have one goal star game friend 0:16:06.360 --> 0:16:11.080 and all of them only one woman that I think 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:13.640 you had just super feeding. It just wasn't for me, 0:16:13.920 --> 0:16:17.640 like you know some people are in the yeah, because 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.880 it was like general friction, you know what I mean, 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:25.200 Like if you so, we've only had one gay man 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:27.000 prior and then he was one of my best friends. 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:31.120 And he talked about connections. Yes, he talked about connections 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:34.400 with women and how he's like sometimes he talked about 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:39.440 scale fuck. He said, some days, some moments, I've had 0:16:39.480 --> 0:16:41.280 connections with women that make me think it's sexual. You 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:44.680 experienced that, and is that what happened that time? Uh? No, 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.880 I think I think it was more of like I'm 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:51.680 doing this at a peer pressure kind of thing, So 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:58.600 it just wasn't something I was like really really into. No, what, 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:03.040 don't be diverting the question to him. We're coming to 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:09.359 you here. Have you been with a girl? Have you 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:14.359 been with a girl? You have children? I'm don't be 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.800 honest with you. I totally feel like you have only 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:20.359 because I've just been like all the famis would go 0:17:20.480 --> 0:17:23.000 for you, bro, because you're like girly but like up tats. 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:24.800 And then those nine girl came up to me at 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.639 Afro Punk a week because we did a meet and greet. 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:32.399 Awesome and look at the lifeles one more time, just 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:35.400 a meet and greeting. I'm sure you guys have heard 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:42.320 of that. We just got a seventy first review. Y'all 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:46.320 about to do that, You're about to do so this 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:48.639 drug came up and he's there because he's everywhere with 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:51.520 me and um, and she's like, you know, I know 0:17:51.640 --> 0:17:53.960 you're married and I know you straight, but I just 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:57.119 wanted to I got the biggest crush. She was hot. No, 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:01.560 I mean no, stop. I can't say I wasn't looking 0:18:01.640 --> 0:18:04.080 at her like that. Okay, she was a pretty girl 0:18:04.119 --> 0:18:06.399 though she had these two locks. They were nice. No. 0:18:06.520 --> 0:18:14.520 I was like, sounds like to me. Now that's me 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:17.840 to my next question. Now I'm in an open relationship 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:22.480 and um, yeah, and that's what we're going to add. 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:25.760 Have you been on dates? And like we only like 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:28.960 so far we've been doing dates the same night. Have 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:31.600 you guys been Are you in an open relationship or 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:34.960 have you tried an open relationship prior to your husband 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:37.640 or No, I'm the closest thing I've got into open 0:18:37.680 --> 0:18:42.760 relationship is we're not in a relationship. What about three suns? 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:45.960 Are you open to that? You know, maybe once upon 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:48.399 a time, but no, not now I'm not because my 0:18:48.480 --> 0:18:50.760 whole thing is, like my view has changed in the 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:53.359 person who I'm with, this who I'm with and just 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:55.960 even the thought of one and to share them with 0:18:56.119 --> 0:18:58.680 somebody else, I'm like, I don't. I don't want to 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:00.520 do that, like you know this is I no, Like 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:03.320 I don't want to share that with anybody else. Exce 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:05.520 do you ever like talk like fantasized about it or 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:07.359 like like if you see it on or like start 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:10.600 have you talked about your in sex or we've talked 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:14.879 about it period? Definitely like come up in conversation. Um, 0:19:15.680 --> 0:19:17.679 and I think my views have changed as I've had 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:20.000 a child and involved a little bit. Look, I'm bringing 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:24.760 getting girl. Why Honestly, that's what we wanted you here 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:28.000 and and both of you are totally different from us, absolutely, 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:31.160 you know. So because she wanted to open relationships, I'm 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:34.919 trying to be on some swinging ships. So listen, judgment 0:19:35.119 --> 0:19:38.320 got friends, We have friends who swing. It's just it's 0:19:38.359 --> 0:19:40.879 just not for me. It's just not for me. No, 0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:42.880 I don't want to. Are you attracted? I mean, see, 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:44.600 I'm attracted to women, so I feel like I'm giving something. 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.520 I think women are beautiful. I can definitely appreciate a woman, 0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:49.960 like I think women are beautiful. But see, thinking a 0:19:50.000 --> 0:19:51.920 woman is beautiful and wanting to eat their pussy or 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:59.520 two different things. A bit, just a little bit dealing 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:01.879 with a lot of talestly lately. Um, he's in Europe 0:20:01.920 --> 0:20:04.119 in the summers and so he's coming home soon. I'm like, 0:20:04.160 --> 0:20:10.600 are we still do? I think so? But I'm not 0:20:10.640 --> 0:20:12.800 gonna lie to you. There are women that I'm seeing 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:15.320 that I don't want to let go, like at all, 0:20:16.000 --> 0:20:18.159 and so I feel like if I have that, I 0:20:18.240 --> 0:20:20.000 can't be like, okay, the cool if I felt girls, 0:20:20.040 --> 0:20:22.440 but you don't. That's the best thing to say is 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:24.800 that's something that you would be into. Exty is an 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:28.120 open relationship. I've been in an open relationship before. Um, 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:32.840 it worked until it didn't. Why didn't it? Well, I 0:20:32.880 --> 0:20:36.200 have a question about that because we're both our relationship 0:20:36.280 --> 0:20:39.280 that we talked about is open relationships are female and male? 0:20:39.760 --> 0:20:43.800 How common are open relationships with gays? Like, because I 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:47.360 feel like more right, like, are you guys more? Um? 0:20:48.480 --> 0:21:00.280 They just gouss as we all know, niggas lie. So 0:21:00.520 --> 0:21:02.600 they say that they want this traditional type of thing 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.240 like I don't want to. But what I've noticed in 0:21:06.359 --> 0:21:12.199 like the very few gay married couples that I know about, 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:15.440 like maybe five or six. All of them are in 0:21:15.560 --> 0:21:19.960 open relationships. Interesting, now, the nonmonogamy, I wonder if it's 0:21:20.000 --> 0:21:23.000 just like and I and I asked because I almost like, 0:21:23.680 --> 0:21:26.199 is this is this? How? Then? Is this the key 0:21:26.280 --> 0:21:29.680 to success and ship? Like? Whether fucking And there's this 0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:31.960 great podcast I'm called Death, Sex and Money. I don't 0:21:31.960 --> 0:21:34.280 know if you guys ever listened to Death Sex and Money. 0:21:34.640 --> 0:21:37.200 And every episode is either about death, sex or money. 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:40.639 And there was an episode and there was an episode 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:46.080 about with Dan Savage, who's like this gay right, and 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:51.120 he talks about this concept being monogamoush yeah, and it's 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:54.600 just like, you know, you committed to this person that 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:56.400 It goes back to my video was saying about connections, 0:21:56.440 --> 0:21:58.680 like you have this connection with somebody you don't ever 0:21:58.720 --> 0:22:01.399 want to let go because, like, let's face it, like 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:03.840 we're all like pretty much fucking lonely. And when you 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:06.920 find somebody to spend the rest of your like lonely 0:22:07.000 --> 0:22:09.879 ass life with and who you don't mind waking up 0:22:09.960 --> 0:22:13.520 to with your ugly ass face every morning, you kind 0:22:13.560 --> 0:22:15.240 of just don't want to give that shut up and 0:22:15.440 --> 0:22:18.880 so okay, So if they you know, funk somebody else Okay, 0:22:19.520 --> 0:22:22.920 Now if you now, if you bring some ship home 0:22:23.119 --> 0:22:26.400 that I didn't ask for you to bring home, then 0:22:26.480 --> 0:22:29.280 we have a problem. Are you embarrassing me out in 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:32.880 the street? And that's what happened in my dynamic where 0:22:32.920 --> 0:22:35.600 they had brought something home, thank god, and it didn't 0:22:35.600 --> 0:22:40.000 happen to me, all right, but you know, and also 0:22:40.280 --> 0:22:42.520 embarrassing me out in the streets to decent. I have 0:22:42.600 --> 0:22:45.000 a question about the relationships you've seen. So I'm trying 0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:47.920 to figure out how this open relationship will work, and 0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:50.960 I like, what ip going on? Right? So? Uh? He 0:22:51.119 --> 0:22:52.840 went on a day recently, it was a week and 0:22:52.880 --> 0:22:53.960 I'm like, hey, what are you gonna do? He was 0:22:53.960 --> 0:22:56.200 in another city. He's like, there's the two girls. I 0:22:56.240 --> 0:22:57.159 know they want to go out with me? What do 0:22:57.200 --> 0:22:59.919 you think sends me? The girls brunett and a blonde 0:23:00.640 --> 0:23:03.359 And I'm like, she's cute and uh he sent me 0:23:03.400 --> 0:23:06.000 the Instagram and one of them was a doctor and 0:23:06.080 --> 0:23:08.800 it fucked my head up. I don't know why, right 0:23:09.920 --> 0:23:12.520 so bad? I was like, I don't know. He didn't 0:23:12.520 --> 0:23:14.200 even end up going and a bitch was so happy, 0:23:14.720 --> 0:23:17.960 But I felt guilty about feeling Why do I feel 0:23:17.960 --> 0:23:19.720 so threatened about a doctor. Right? Is it that I 0:23:19.800 --> 0:23:22.400 thought everybody else was just sex and somebody that could 0:23:22.400 --> 0:23:25.399 be have a little more intellect would steal you away? 0:23:25.600 --> 0:23:28.200 I mean to say that Bartender couldn't have done that. 0:23:28.280 --> 0:23:29.920 What did it funk with in my head? So my 0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:34.600 question is the the open relationships you know about their successful? 0:23:34.600 --> 0:23:36.520 Are they just sex? Are they dating to? How do 0:23:36.600 --> 0:23:41.320 they work? Uh? It depends. Well, my dynamic was different 0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:43.920 because it was open and then it turned into a 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:49.439 legit polyamous relationship. Three of us in this relationship together, 0:23:50.359 --> 0:23:53.520 and so I didn't I at first I had those 0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:56.400 same feelings like, well, maybe this is more than sex 0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:58.639 and they're into them because of what they have that 0:23:58.720 --> 0:24:02.199 I can't provide um and this, that and the thing. 0:24:02.280 --> 0:24:05.000 But I eventually got over that because I realized that 0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:06.800 if we're going to be in this together, then that 0:24:07.320 --> 0:24:11.320 we can't have this power thing. Yeah, because that's what 0:24:11.440 --> 0:24:14.200 it essentially is power, Like, like what do they have 0:24:14.320 --> 0:24:16.680 over me? How can I control the situation? If this 0:24:16.880 --> 0:24:19.320 if this woman had a it was a doctor, you know, like, oh, 0:24:19.480 --> 0:24:21.800 she has more power and more control over the situation 0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:23.800 than I do, And I don't like that. That's what 0:24:23.920 --> 0:24:28.600 it sounds like to me and fuck her like she's 0:24:28.640 --> 0:24:31.000 about it, like you know what I mean? Like and 0:24:31.200 --> 0:24:33.760 you realize that you are you've been here for the 0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:36.480