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Speaker 1: Do you want to introduce yourself? Oh? Sure, it's x

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Speaker 1: do want to say, Um, I was talking to her

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Speaker 1: How can he not go out to a bar with

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Speaker 1: this girl or go out and like the sex is

423
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:32,479
Speaker 1: gonna have to come from that. Do you want him

424
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 1: to just stick his dick in a bit? You know,

425
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: he's a smarter person that he wants some conversation. I

426
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 1: think that I'm just kind of learning to deal with it.

427
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 1: But the reason I want to is because I don't

428
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 1: want to stop seeing the people that I want to

429
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 1: stop seeing it, right, And that's what it's like, Molly

430
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: or insecure. You know, everybody really got on her for

431
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 1: not wanting to be with the bisexual dude, but that's

432
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: her preference, you know what I'm saying, Like you can't

433
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: fault somebody. He had everything else right and because he

434
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Speaker 1: had experiments it in the past, not only that too.

435
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people, yeah, a lot

436
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: of people who date to put so much emphasis on

437
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 1: what they feel like people on the outside would think.

438
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: And of course we talked to our friends and want

439
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,199
Speaker 1: this advice. We had to buy a couple on They

440
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 1: were amazing. Yeah, the dude was Jude was by and

441
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: theclocular enough she unloaded. We didn't even know she was like,

442
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: you know, um, I was divorced. I am divorced. My

443
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 1: husband left me for a man. We were like, her

444
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,159
Speaker 1: husband left her for a man and then ended up

445
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: with a with a bisexual guy. So that was just awesome. Um.

446
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: So something else that we like to do on this

447
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,439
Speaker 1: show is we get home mail. I know, y'all, get

448
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:36,719
Speaker 1: y'all listen, y'all, they have bitches call in and leave messages.

449
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 1: Y'all areing. Hi, I'm just like, hear someone that sounds

450
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: like thereships and you could have Jade. He actually we

451
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 1: have homemale and I actually thought this would be good

452
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: because you guys seem really level headed John and had

453
00:26:56,760 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: you're married, you didn't had open relationships. So the first

454
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,360
Speaker 1: thought that we're going to read is actually a guy

455
00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 1: who wants to have his whole phase, if that makes sense. Um,

456
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: So he wrote us in. We's going to read the

457
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 1: letter and if you guys could give him some advice

458
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: or what y'all think lead. Yeah, it's really good. Hey, ladies,

459
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 1: love the show. You guys are hilarious. Cool to hear

460
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: someone have honest, open conversations about text. I'm twenty two.

461
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: Some would say good looking. I'd say I'm a solid vibe.

462
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: But I'll take the compliment I recently right right, You're

463
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: not gonna be in your hole. If I recently got

464
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 1: into a relationship with a woman who I can see

465
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: a long lasting future like marriage, kids, and the whole nine,

466
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: obviously done the line. Lately, the sex isn't doing it

467
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: for me. Don't get me wrong, I have very passionate

468
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 1: sex all over the place, but it bores me. She's

469
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: just not the most enthusiastic partner I've had. She kind

470
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: of lays there and when she is active, it's about

471
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: getting herself off. I don't mind, but like, damn love

472
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: this girl. I've already fucked up by cheating on her once,

473
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: which I came out and admitted even though she would

474
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: never found out. That was in parentheses, and don't want

475
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: a future further jeopardized relationship. But recently I feel like

476
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 1: I've been missing out on my whole phase by meeting her.

477
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: I felt like I was just about to hit my

478
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,920
Speaker 1: phope phase prime and I didn't gotten to the point

479
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: where I was confident, reckless enough to take down anyone.

480
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 1: I don't want to cheat on her again. But I

481
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: also don't want to miss out on that experience. I

482
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:21,200
Speaker 1: brought up the idea of a threesomes. She wasn't having it,

483
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 1: and I completely understand I sucked up her trust and

484
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 1: confidence within infidelity. How do I deal with this? Do

485
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: I just suck it up and deal with it or

486
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,439
Speaker 1: talk it out with her? Or do my thing in secret?

487
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: How How old is he think? To the side. So

488
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I didn't read that he asked for

489
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: a threesome to me, if you're doing that just to

490
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: get out of the pussy, No, my threesomes bring me

491
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 1: connected closer together. Yeah it shouldn't be to just um

492
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: get in another pussy. Yeah, not at all like it.

493
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 1: That's manipulation. Yeah it is. It is to a point. Well,

494
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: she clearly said she wasn't into it. He's also a board,

495
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: um with the sex. I feel like this is something

496
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: to where eventually he possibly may end up cheating again. Um,

497
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: so it's not all that happy. He's not all that

498
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: I think. And it's like men they're like this girl

499
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: is good, but he is there more. You know what

500
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: it is? It really sounds like, um, maybe I'm reading

501
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: in too much into this, but it sounds like he

502
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: had he was raised well, and he's in this idea

503
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: of like oh like no, no, no, hear me out

504
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 1: like Laurence insecure likes he's this person with good intentions, like, oh,

505
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: I want to marry this person. I feel like I

506
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: need to have like this traditional marriage kids, all the

507
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: good stuff you did come. However, he is in his

508
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 1: early twenties, right, and you think you would Nick, Like,

509
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: what the Here's the thing, my one of my college

510
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: professors told me a long time ago that before the

511
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: age of five, that's when you don't focus on love,

512
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 1: just like fuck and get all the money you can get.

513
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: That's yeah, all the money and all the nuts you

514
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: can get it. I think we have. I think do

515
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: we were we class together? Because but like that is

516
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 1: that is like the amazing advice because after after you

517
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: can focus on love and family and ship like that.

518
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: But before, and I talked about this with Jade, like,

519
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 1: you know, when you make these these huge life decisions before,

520
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 1: before your development of your prefrontal quartex prefrontal, it doesn't

521
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: developed until you're twenty five years old, and so everything

522
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: you do before then is nol void. Yeah, so basically

523
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:41,640
Speaker 1: you got glasses and you sound like they're going to

524
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: give up on us. But it's true though, think about

525
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: think about all the things that it's it's physiological evidence

526
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: science because yeah, but help helps you, No, hear me out.

527
00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: So like before before, this whole idea of like the

528
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 1: prefrontal cortex, that's where your logic comes in, right, So

529
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: everything else is developed in this and um something I

530
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: can't remember the name, but it's on the side of

531
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,560
Speaker 1: your brain. And that's also where the chemical work fear

532
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: is produced. So everything that you do is based out

533
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: of emotion. Before thinking about like once you went post

534
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: twenty five year over twenty five, you've all know like, damn,

535
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: what the fun was I thinking? I was engaged. I

536
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: was engaged ato to somebody else. The best thing that

537
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 1: ever happened to me was not marrying that name. Damn.

538
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: I wondered why I was so like like, well, no,

539
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 1: I slowed down on my casual sex um within the

540
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: last year. Don't But it's because I am seeking more

541
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: of some sort of something outside of a sexual connection.

542
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: And it was something that I've talked to my friends

543
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 1: with because I ain't gonna lie a bit had of

544
00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: rotting door. At one point it was fine, I'm real shallow,

545
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: you good looking, I'm gonna come drop that dick off

546
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: and you could leave. But literally within the last year though,

547
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 1: like I've really been seeking an emotional connection or an

548
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 1: intellectual connection, some other connection besides sexy six um almost

549
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: twenty seven, so I feel like I'm almost thirty, which

550
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 1: is almost forty, which is I'm almost getting no but

551
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: right a bit about to get author rightists and I'm

552
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: masturbated every night, So this is like getting serious. I

553
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: need someone to help Betty. But no, but seriously, like

554
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: what you guys are saying. And so for the advice

555
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: for this young fellow, are y'all telling him for the

556
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: next three years be a ho and then get back

557
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: into this relationship, because that's what it's sounding like they're

558
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: wasting each other's time. Even I don't know how much

559
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 1: you've listened to us, but you would know that we

560
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: do not do with the lies, like keeping it a

561
00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: secret all that it's so and it's it just makes

562
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: things worse, like it makes things on a whole another

563
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: level works. I think it's gonna be hurtful to leave her,

564
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: and that's what you're Donelle Jones. You gotta Donelle Jones,

565
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: hern do you want to where I want to be? Like,

566
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: all you gotta do is hit be like, sing it

567
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 1: my baby, I'll be singing. You'll be singing on the

568
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: singing for our show, you know, because you're dy has listening.

569
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 1: They're about to come from me, because that with love,

570
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 1: I mean that with love, They're about to come from

571
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 1: me singing. So we're just gonna monologue it. Okay, say

572
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: when you love someone, you just don't treat them bad.

573
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: How do I feel so sad now that I want?

574
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 1: Oh you say o hear me sing me the message?

575
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 1: That's how he shi went real big with that s

576
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: because that's how he's saying I was man constipated. I

577
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: definitely agree. I think, like, be honest with her, let

578
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 1: her know like it's not working out right now. I'm young.

579
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to hurt you. I'm going to hurt

580
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: you regardless of but I'd rather hurt you now and

581
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,320
Speaker 1: be truthful with you than be sneaking around, which is

582
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 1: gonna hurt. And we have another letter, which is a

583
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: little bit this was a little uh, this was a

584
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 1: little more horrible decisions. This is a little bit more

585
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 1: I wrote you about that. Yes, she wrote her back

586
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,919
Speaker 1: because that was actually rather funny. So just a little

587
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: background story, Um, Mandy's fist on it. But so I've

588
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 1: been I've done golden showers before. U oh, yes, I

589
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 1: believe you know she stuff in water right now. So

590
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:46,120
Speaker 1: this was episode four, I believe. Um, I discussed my

591
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 1: first time doing a golden shower and a guy wanted it. Um.

592
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 1: And in the same episode, UM, she was so drunk

593
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 1: and all that she actually pissed in a bed with

594
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: a guy and laid in it. Um in a treehouse.

595
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 1: It was not It was the most interesting part of

596
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,879
Speaker 1: the story is the tree happened? Right? I'm trying to first,

597
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say one word, Brooklyn. Was it drunk? Yes?

598
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 1: So anyway after okay, so you were like in the

599
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:26,439
Speaker 1: cranes in the sky video background story got really funked

600
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 1: up with this guy. He's like, you nobody should come

601
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 1: back to my place. I just really feeling this moment.

602
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: I have a huge artistic loft. I get there. It

603
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: was two thousand square feet, was just as big as

604
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: he said. But there were these like just like that,

605
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 1: oh waue. I went to a party Manning that signed

606
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: up on the ladder to you anyway ambient and I

607
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: don't know if you know what ambient is. Well, I

608
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: love it. Shout out to Jewel my mom. She's like, honey,

609
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 1: I'll bring you sound. So anyway, I had two ambient

610
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: because I thought they were Zanex and then I was like,

611
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: am I gonna die? Or what? He lays me down

612
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 1: after I climbed my ass up there and like, dude,

613
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: I have to be really bad. And he's like, I'm like,

614
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 1: please help me out, and he's like I took the

615
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 1: amby into I'm like, okay, well how do I get

616
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 1: I was like just be right here, broke up, and

617
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,320
Speaker 1: then four o'clock in the afternoon my pants were sticking

618
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:25,720
Speaker 1: to anyway, So the sub pissy hole is this topic

619
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 1: that we got in our home mail and what does

620
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: this one say, Dear Horrible Decision podcast. I met this

621
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 1: guy in Plenty of Fish. He was cool. We hit

622
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 1: it off really well. The first time we hung out,

623
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: we had sex and it was really good, so I

624
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: knew it was going to be a sex thing. I

625
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:39,120
Speaker 1: got really drunk last week, went over his place. We

626
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: sucked again, but I ended up passing out. He had

627
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 1: family over, so I had to leave really early. I

628
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: get up and I realized I was so drunk. I

629
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:46,360
Speaker 1: pe the bed. Tried to play it off like it

630
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: was from the sex, but I don't know if he

631
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 1: brought it because I left so quickly. I'm kind of embarrassed.

632
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: I haven't hit him up since should I just end it?

633
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,359
Speaker 1: The whole thing was really awkward. Thanks Kate, What has

634
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: he hit you? That's what she assuming, No, but I

635
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 1: wrote her back, I said, girl, hit him up. He's

636
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 1: an adult. Ship happens. I don't know how long has been.

637
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: If he hasn't hit you up, that's not an entirely

638
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 1: good sign. But life's too short to not get what

639
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: you once send a text about grabbing drinks? What do

640
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:13,760
Speaker 1: you think? I think that they in the bed mattress,

641
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: because if you ain't got protected, he's like this bitch.

642
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: Pete in the bed left, never called like, you don't

643
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 1: even say sorry, you're just looking up my mattress. You

644
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: just piste all up in my bed, and I get

645
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 1: a ship. I have Pete on my couch. I have

646
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: like I have peed all over the place. And when

647
00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, I pee on myself like since we've

648
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 1: been together. But drunk, please, I peed on myself all

649
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 1: over the place. And I tried to be in somebody's

650
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: yard anywhere in New York because they don't be trying

651
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 1: to let you this somebody's else. You best on someone's mouth,

652
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 1: I want real quick. The advice, the advice for our

653
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:00,120
Speaker 1: listener is going to be, um, keep it moving girls,

654
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: some old day out there. Okay, So when next time

655
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: you pee in a nigga's bed, say sorry, say sorry

656
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: when you get into pete a lot. I need to

657
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: know because we have never talked about pissing in someone's mouth.

658
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 1: So did they request that the grinder? No, no way,

659
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 1: a guy you were messing with, No, he was know

660
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 1: he was black. And it's so funny because I just

661
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:31,399
Speaker 1: redownloaded tender and because I've been like I've been really

662
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: on a nigga batticle. Um yeah, but most frequently yeah,

663
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:44,800
Speaker 1: because she'd be like this diet, yeah whatever, be trying

664
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,879
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of diets. Listen, listen, listen, I'm trying

665
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 1: next week. It's something new. You ain't finished the last one.

666
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 1: This nigga was a vegetarian. And then we got a

667
00:38:54,920 --> 00:39:03,240
Speaker 1: real drunk one night can salehich face, I'm being personally

668
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 1: attached right now. I just came to have her a

669
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 1: good time. No, but he um. It was like I

670
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 1: met on Jack, which is um the premier source for

671
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: black gay entertainment. Do you have to pay for that? No,

672
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 1: it's just it's just swipe. For those listening, salt Swipe

673
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 1: is like a black Tinder, yes, but it's not. But

674
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 1: it's it's it's all location. Yeah, but it's literally. Jack

675
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,879
Speaker 1: is literally like, oh, you are like three ft away

676
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: from me. Yeah. Niggas look at Jack when they're out,

677
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: like some of my homeboys out who lives over here?

678
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 1: The phone out and just start swiping and see who's

679
00:39:55,280 --> 00:40:03,799
Speaker 1: in the area. That or weed, yeah, because gay weed

680
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 1: is some serious business. Is white? I don't know what

681
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 1: glitter girl? But anyway, can we make that a sound?

682
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, I went over. I went over to this

683
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: inn wards house and he was like, Yo, come chill,

684
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 1: let's watch a movie. Okay. So I'm like, all right,

685
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 1: so you know what. They don't want to watch The

686
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: Princess Diaries or something something they knew it. No, No,

687
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 1: it was Star Trek and I actually liked that movie.

688
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: It was Star Treking. I love that movie and so surprisingly,

689
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 1: and so I was like, oh, he was trying to

690
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: be up on me. I was like, there, go away.

691
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: And so eventually I was like, okay, I know what

692
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: this is. So he was just like, you know, okay,

693
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,360
Speaker 1: let's go to the bedroom so we do what. I

694
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 1: suck this all and so I finished, Yeah, I finished,

695
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: because when I SVP for a party, I'm making my

696
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: business to come right. So he was just like, yo,

697
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: I can't finish without you doing something, almost like you know,

698
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:17,439
Speaker 1: I'm done. Like yeah. So he was just like, you're

699
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: piss in the mouth and almost like, now let me

700
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 1: ask you. Had you done a golden shod Before I

701
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 1: was about to say so. When I told my story,

702
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 1: it was extremely hard for me to come. I mean,

703
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: he had me drunk off rock, like he made I

704
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:35,759
Speaker 1: drink Pete. Yeah, you said come, well, that's what I

705
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 1: meant past pe. You're in the same relief um. And

706
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 1: so I literally he sat in the shower and I

707
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 1: had to run to the toilet and physically feel like

708
00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: well mentally prepare myself to feel no because it sucks

709
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 1: you up, like my piss ain't gonna come just on you.

710
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 1: I had to like I did to take for you

711
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 1: to piss in his mouth. Um, it's look a minute.

712
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: It took a minute because like even in general, like

713
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 1: when I'm at home, I got to turn the faucet on,

714
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: I can like actually go. So in my head, I'm

715
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 1: thinking about it. Yes, I'm just like nik, what the fuck?

716
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: So then eventually I'm like thinking of like waterfalls. I'm

717
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:20,800
Speaker 1: thinking like every song with water in it, and like yeah,

718
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: and so eventually and so eventually when I did it

719
00:42:25,080 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: and he was it wasn't even in the bathroom. He

720
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 1: had a tarp. So this is like he pulled off

721
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: the tarp. Yeah, this to you on Jack, would you

722
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: still going over there if he would have said this

723
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: before you went over there, that he has whatever freaked

724
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: you out of piss? Would you have went? Probably? Not that.

725
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: I probably not, because that was I need you to

726
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: piss in my mouth for like who the like? And

727
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 1: this is not me not being judgment judge at all,

728
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: Like I'm the least judgmental person depending on I'm what

729
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 1: you're into, Like if you're into like pedophilia, like no,

730
00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: I'm judging you, yeah, but you know like golden showers, Okay,

731
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 1: that's fine. It's not like it's not like scat play,

732
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,720
Speaker 1: which is all? Which is all? So are you finding

733
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:16,799
Speaker 1: a lot of people into scat play? You know? By

734
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 1: So here's the thing. I didn't know at the last

735
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 1: Black People meeting that we had that was on the menu. No,

736
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:34,800
Speaker 1: it's not, it's not so so it's right. Yeah. I

737
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: was like, I must have left early. There must have

738
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: been a body concert that I had to go to.

739
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 1: But like at that Black People meeting, I was not

740
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 1: present for that question because a lot of guys so

741
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: I was listening to a podcast and I can't remember

742
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: who it was that said it, but they were like,

743
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,319
Speaker 1: if a girl like wants to lick my ask, that's cool,

744
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,279
Speaker 1: but I'm not going to kiss her. Did you kiss

745
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 1: this guy or was it something where you were mad

746
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: you kissed him after you realize he likes to get

747
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: piste in his mouth, but it's something that psychologically would

748
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: have kept you from um making out with him. It

749
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: was a hook up, so I didn't had you seen

750
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: him against right? No, well he became I had swiped

751
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 1: because you know the general rule with tender for blacks

752
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 1: as you just swipe right on all the blacks and

753
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 1: you sort it out later, so awesome. So yeah, yeah,

754
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: it's just like damn, yeah you got to because he

755
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,440
Speaker 1: wasn't even you know, like because then I go back

756
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: to look at my matches and not gonna swiped, right,

757
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 1: What was I thinking all the time, all the time.

758
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 1: It had to be because he was black in at Columbia.

759
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 1: I'm telling you literally that a smart I ain't even

760
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:01,879
Speaker 1: s this little Malcolm X looks like I gotta show

761
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 1: you on him because at first I was like, oh,

762
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: I like Malcolm X. That is Malcolm X. He does

763
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: he looks like that's him? Bro, way can you not

764
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 1: show him? Pitch? I feel like my friend him? Oh

765
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: my god, you swiped him for real? It just said

766
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 1: Lower East. I felt like my friend in Brooklyn pucks him. Okay,

767
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 1: well I don't know that this is really and so

768
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 1: is he tell your friend? He asked. It's like, SAYSSS

769
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 1: the weekend. You know, we were going to talk about

770
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: a whole another topic. But I've just been enjoying the

771
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: homemail and all this casual ship so much so when

772
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 1: you guys do your podcast's exactly what we do. Oh

773
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 1: you guys don't outline sent X one He's like, sound good.

774
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: We don't ever stick to one because it'll really like

775
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,800
Speaker 1: we'll have an idea and then like all of a sudden,

776
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: we'll spend thirty minutes talking about chicken. Yeah like that.

777
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: Which actually the horrible decision discussion today was going to

778
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: be social media sex, and we've essentially talked about social media.

779
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: I did have one question. I wanted to know proper

780
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 1: way to slip in d m s. What do you

781
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: guys think about? Don't somebody wait, wait, but what I

782
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:21,960
Speaker 1: do know? I'm kidding, um, No, you can slide in.

783
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 1: Don't don't be creepy, like what are they done with?

784
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: They are the sliding And don't be creepy like that's

785
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:30,799
Speaker 1: my number one. Don't come in with the hay beautiful,

786
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 1: and don't say don't say shipped to people that you

787
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 1: can say generally on the timeline or on the news

788
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 1: speed like you know what I mean. Someone slid into

789
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 1: my d MS today. I'll share and I'll show you

790
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 1: the screenshot because I thought it was pretty awesome. He's

791
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: slipt in my d MS today, was just like, hey,

792
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: what's your quick pay? And then asked me how much

793
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: my nails calls and sent me seventy dollars. Um. Yeah,

794
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: is that why you're so fresh girl? Well? No, this

795
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 1: is because last week another guy sent me on my

796
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 1: Snapchat was like, what's her squarecash? What you look like?

797
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: I don't know what? Well, the one on Instagram, I know,

798
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 1: the one on Snapchat, I don't even know what he

799
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 1: looks like is amazing. Yeah, he just sent it to

800
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:11,359
Speaker 1: me today and then I'm mad because I gave him

801
00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: a wrong email, so I have to call Chase like

802
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:17,839
Speaker 1: I just got money sent over you know it from

803
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 1: ma'am at Fine nine. I'm actually an avid d M

804
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 1: slider and I mostly do it through I G stories.

805
00:47:28,800 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: I'll be straight up, i'd be like you, handsome as

806
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: fun I feel like I put the l O L

807
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: today not so funny. I G story just like you.

808
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 1: Gotta stop putting the l O L. Friends said, Okay,

809
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: you have to be firm. You have tom and what

810
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 1: you say. So if you're flirting and you like, don't

811
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: be afraid because the l O L is because you

812
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 1: subconsciously don't want to be rejected. So don't put the

813
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: hell o well behind say what you say and let

814
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 1: it be there, just like you and That's how I feel. Period.

815
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: His page is private. I'm a Brooklyn nigger, That's what

816
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: it says. And he has emojis of a gun, a

817
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: police car. You don't money. That sounds learning somebody you

818
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: might know. It sounds like, you know, like us, a

819
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 1: credit card, a ghosts Well, it doesn't matter anybody. I

820
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: don't give a word of money. No, don't give it. Wait,

821
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:44,280
Speaker 1: she's you might be he might. I might be listening

822
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 1: to another podcast. Can't remember. The girl was getting a

823
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: dude to like PayPal her money and like, yeah, like

824
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: basically they claim that it's not real, like take it,

825
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: but I don't know what they do. There's a she

826
00:48:55,320 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: was liable, she got subpoenas, she got what subpoena else.

827
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:02,239
Speaker 1: It's not like I accepted five hundred dollars or a

828
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 1: stack he sent me to it. I know. What I'm

829
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 1: saying is, what if he's some kind of hacker, it

830
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 1: can flip that ship. Well he got my he got

831
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: my bullshit account. He got the account, they got like

832
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: two hundred dollars in it. He ain't even get my

833
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 1: real one. They got my direct deposit and ship, so

834
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 1: I got two accounts. I ain't worry about it. Yeah,

835
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 1: he got my bullshit or mostly I do Square cash. Yeah,

836
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 1: that is my account. I know. I got on the

837
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 1: chase and they look like, bitch, what because you ain't

838
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:30,760
Speaker 1: got no money in here. It's really just my throwaway account.

839
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 1: Certain And I really only got it because m TD

840
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: bank is not everywhere, So I literally just opened this

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Speaker 1: And somehow that when I was anyway anyway, you guys,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Bye bye,