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Speaker 1: and wellness podcast Jay Setty Jay sheddyt Hey everyone, welcome

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Speaker 1: back to On Purpose. I'm your host, Jay Chatty, and

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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that you're back here to listen, learn

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Speaker 1: and grow. Now today I'm going to talk to you

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Speaker 1: about how you can become more successful than ninety percent

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Speaker 1: of people. Most of us believe that the people who

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Speaker 1: that in some way they're different from us. And here's

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Speaker 1: the reality. They're different in their consistency, they're different in

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Speaker 1: I used to always think I'm not made for more.

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Speaker 1: And I'm guessing that you've said some things to yourself

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Speaker 1: Someone says to you, you know what, I know you're

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Speaker 1: truly believe that all of us have had opportunities We've

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Speaker 1: had moments where we could have been better, performed better,

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Speaker 1: And it's because we're not doing what the ten percent,

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Speaker 1: And that's today is all about. I want to walk

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Speaker 1: you through the tools, through the ideas, through the insights

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Speaker 1: that you may miss, that you may not notice. Maybe

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Speaker 1: you didn't grow up around an entrepreneur, maybe you didn't

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Speaker 1: And here's what I want you to do. I want

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Speaker 1: you to get your notebook out and if you're walking,

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Speaker 1: better at practicing them. Here's the first one. If I

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