Speaker 1: Welcome back, happy our listeners. It's good to be here
Speaker 1: with you all again this week. And of course, Michelle,
Speaker 1: I'm always excited to be back with you. Yes, I
Speaker 1: that good. It's great to be back with you for
Speaker 1: some girl chat. I'm so excited today because we have
Speaker 1: the fabulous and newly engaged Andy Dorfan joining us today. Oh.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited to bring her back on. It's been
Speaker 1: a while since we've had her on the podcast, and
Speaker 1: she's absolutely incredible. Like you said, she is newly engaged,
Speaker 1: so we can pick her brain and you guys have
Speaker 1: something in common. But I'm excited to see that ring.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh from the photos, it looks massive like
Speaker 1: her full knuckle is yeah. So well, oh, yes, definitely.
Speaker 1: And I'm I'm excited because the last time we actually
Speaker 1: had her on, I mean it's been so long, but
Speaker 1: she was single. She had just moved to La around
Speaker 1: the same time I did, and so she was just
Speaker 1: getting her getting in the lay of the land here.
Speaker 1: And so it'll be I mean, I feel like we
Speaker 1: have so much to catch up with her about, but
Speaker 1: it'll be fun to finally see her again and talk
Speaker 1: about this whole new chapter of for Life. For those
Speaker 1: of you who don't know, Andy Dorfman is a former baucherette.
Speaker 1: She's also a two time New York bestselling author, and
Speaker 1: now she is going to be the future missus Hart.
Speaker 1: She's absolutely incredible. So everyone please have a warm welcome
Speaker 1: for Andy Dorfman. Andy, welcome back to Happy Hour. It's
Speaker 1: been so long since we've had you here. So how
Speaker 1: are you. I'm good. I feel like it was like
Speaker 1: during COVID years that I was on Happy Hour. I
Speaker 1: think you would just as in to La did wow Wow,
Speaker 1: been like almost two years now then it's been so
Speaker 1: long and so much has changed. We at that point
Speaker 1: we're both single and now oh my god, oh my gosh. Andy,
Speaker 1: we were supposed to do a double date for that charity.
Speaker 1: I know. I think it was like all COVID stuff,
Speaker 1: and the guy was like, it's fine. I just sort
Speaker 1: of like donate. I was like, oh gosh, so much exchanged. Okay, wait, Anna,
Speaker 1: did you ever picture that you'd be sitting here engaged
Speaker 1: back on Bachelor half Hope? So, I mean, I feel
Speaker 1: like it's all going accordingly to plans. Actually happened later
Speaker 1: than I planned, but it still happened finally, And I
Speaker 1: mean before we even get into anything with the engagement,
Speaker 1: I have to see that ring because it is massive.
Speaker 1: It is so beautiful. It takes up your full knuckles. Really,
Speaker 1: it's so big. That's yeah, I do love dimons. I
Speaker 1: have no caning that. Do you have to do extra
Speaker 1: weights on that are now just to just to be
Speaker 1: able to carry that shit around finger cross to get
Speaker 1: in the way of things happily. I'm like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that'll work. Yeah, just stuck on my shirt again. I
Speaker 1: scratched you first world problems, get little wool on it.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, it's so beautiful, it's so pretty. Well, congratulations,
Speaker 1: that's absolutely amazing. I'm so excited for you. I want
Speaker 1: to get into it though, because neither of us are single. Now,
Speaker 1: I kind of love it for it, I know, I know,
Speaker 1: and well, you know we've talked about me getting engaged
Speaker 1: way too much here on this podcast, but I will
Speaker 1: say one last time, hoping it happened soon. So when
Speaker 1: you actually when you got engaged, I think I was
Speaker 1: on tour and I was just blinded by your ring
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, miss, look at this. My
Speaker 1: friend Andy just got engaged. Imagine the at nothing more
Speaker 1: than that, but you know they need it. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: need a little kick in the ass sometimes. Um, so
Speaker 1: I want to get into it because you I mean,
Speaker 1: I didn't even know you were dating anyone until you
Speaker 1: guys became Insta official, which was back with what about
Speaker 1: a year ago? Well, it was like what did they
Speaker 1: say now? The soft launch, softch soft and hard launches.
Speaker 1: I think it's still remember so actually my he was
Speaker 1: coming for Thanksgiving with my family and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I should probably like announce this like it was going
Speaker 1: well my time, and I remember like calling my mom
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I'm gonna post a picture of him.
Speaker 1: She's like, well, can I see it? Firstly? Of course
Speaker 1: here She's like I can't even see his face. I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I know, it's a it's a soft launch, mom,
Speaker 1: And then I love that. I think that first posted
Speaker 1: his face like maybe like New Year's and then by
Speaker 1: March you're engaged. But we've been dating since like August,
Speaker 1: so yeah, I think people thought it was I mean,
Speaker 1: it's still always like six months, but I think people
Speaker 1: thought it when you know, you know that for sure,
Speaker 1: I really like believe that I mean, look, I've known
Speaker 1: and I've thought I've known and not didn't work out.
Speaker 1: But I think now you really know. And honestly, that
Speaker 1: amount of time is like a decade in the bachelor world,
Speaker 1: so you're totally fine. I think it's also like age,
Speaker 1: like the older you are and he's you know, he
Speaker 1: just turned thirty six, I'm thirty five. You just know
Speaker 1: yourself better, you know what you want. You've been in
Speaker 1: relationships to know like what works and what doesn't, and
Speaker 1: you can kind of see those red flags. And with
Speaker 1: Blake there were just no red flags. And remember, like
Speaker 1: month by month, I'm like, all right, when is where
Speaker 1: is the shoe gonna draw? I never did, and it
Speaker 1: was long enough time for me to know like, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is my person, Like this, Oh my gosh. I
Speaker 1: feel like we have so much to talk about, so
Speaker 1: much in common. We really do. But I really want
Speaker 1: to know how you guys met. Well, how we met
Speaker 1: in college at a party he playing baseball with one
Speaker 1: of my good friends that I grew up with. I
Speaker 1: remember I was like fourth of July lake house party.
Speaker 1: It was probably like eighteen or nineteen m and my
Speaker 1: friend brought like all of his teammates down and I
Speaker 1: remember like eyeing Blaine. I was like, all right, he's
Speaker 1: really hot, like hook it up yea, And I never
Speaker 1: got the set up. I'm assuming that like in hindsight,
Speaker 1: Blaine probably had a girlfriend. I didn't even ask um,
Speaker 1: but never got set up with him. And then literally
Speaker 1: like fifteen years later, last summer, our mutual friends getting
Speaker 1: married and Blame like hit me up on DM ask
Speaker 1: me if I wanted to go to the wedding, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I've not talked to you in fifteen years
Speaker 1: and I don't know who you are. No, not for
Speaker 1: rigor not gonna happen. He's like, all right, well I'm
Speaker 1: taking out for a drink. I was like, I live
Speaker 1: in La now, and so long story show where I
Speaker 1: was in Italy for the summer. He was there for
Speaker 1: a wedding. He DMS me he's still don't have my
Speaker 1: number and was like, hey, I want to take you
Speaker 1: out for a drink. What are you doing this weekend?
Speaker 1: I was I'm in Italy, obviously I saw in your instagram.
Speaker 1: Went stupid. I was like, well, I'm in Pozzy Tano
Speaker 1: and he said great, I'll be there tomorrow. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: my friend and like she's she's hanging out. He was like,
Speaker 1: I guess I'm taking you both out for drinks and
Speaker 1: literally like he walked into our hotel like courtyard and
Speaker 1: I saw him. I was like, oh damn, he's still hot.
Speaker 1: He was like a movie Truly. I'm so invested. I'm
Speaker 1: so invested because I was hitting on my friend. So
Speaker 1: like the end of the night, I was like, you
Speaker 1: know what, you guys like go for a nightcap. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go to see They were like, what are you
Speaker 1: talking about? No, you two are connecting. He's like, gosh's
Speaker 1: trying to be nice to the friend, you know. Oh,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh. It all came full circle. So did
Speaker 1: he where is he from? Originally he's from South Carolina,
Speaker 1: so he's trying. Okay, he lives in Greenville, which is
Speaker 1: just like thirty forty minutes away. Oh my gosh, that's
Speaker 1: where one of my good friends lives. Damn. Okay, did
Speaker 1: you ever ask him like did he purposely put himself there?
Speaker 1: Like did he have intentions of going to that wedding?
Speaker 1: Being like okay, like I have my eye on this girl,
Speaker 1: like you ever because I don't even think I was
Speaker 1: like in Italy at that point, like he was going
Speaker 1: to the wedding, but definitely the posy Tano aspect of it,
Speaker 1: because the wedding was like in Tuscany. He was going
Speaker 1: to Rome, and he was just like, why am I
Speaker 1: going to roam for a weekend by myself when I'm like,
Speaker 1: go meet this girl and take her for a drink.
Speaker 1: So right, he drove three hours, came to Potano. Damn.
Speaker 1: I love this his own noteps. I was kind of worried.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I hope this guy doesn't think that, like
Speaker 1: he's coming to crash with us. But you know, we
Speaker 1: like run into friends in Europe all the time. I
Speaker 1: feel like if someone's there, especially the New York Connection,
Speaker 1: people are always over there. So we've been like hanging
Speaker 1: with friends like all summer basically, So it wasn't weird
Speaker 1: that he was coming. I was like, great, more than Marrier.
Speaker 1: But I was hoping he had his own setup going on,
Speaker 1: because I was like, I'm not he's not about to
Speaker 1: coach crash at our nice place here. Yeah, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: good for him. I love a man who goes for
Speaker 1: what he wants. He said no to the wedding, but
Speaker 1: he's like, fuck it, I'm going to meet this girl
Speaker 1: in Europe. Yeah. Yeah, I came for him too, like
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm good buddy. And then I mean
Speaker 1: he was in fuzzy Tano, like Okaya, it is so
Speaker 1: romantic there. So I have to ask them after that trip,
Speaker 1: did you kind of know did you both feel like
Speaker 1: you wanted to continue dating or what? Did it take
Speaker 1: a while for you to be like, oh, this could
Speaker 1: actually work out and be a thing. Yeah. I remember
Speaker 1: like telling my friend the first day we met him,
Speaker 1: I was like, he's just like too reserved for me,
Speaker 1: too shy for me. And we ended up hanging out
Speaker 1: more and he's great. We both like left Italy and
Speaker 1: we were back in the States and kept talking, kept
Speaker 1: face timing. I remember like getting on the plane and
Speaker 1: I was just like, man, I really liked that guy.
Speaker 1: Probably never see him again, but that was great, you know.
Speaker 1: I had a great time. And then we ended up
Speaker 1: like meeting up I think a week or two later,
Speaker 1: and that's when I kind of knew it was not
Speaker 1: just like the Italian romance summer fling. It was in
Speaker 1: the States. And then it was funny because I was like,
Speaker 1: all right, I think I need to probably like tie
Speaker 1: up some loose ends, like some summer reply right back
Speaker 1: to you. And we were both single and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: oh no, shame, yeah, I gotta type some loose ends.
Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, me too, Aelia. At least you're
Speaker 1: both on the same page. I love that you guys
Speaker 1: can both be open though, and like nobody took it personally.
Speaker 1: I think it was our way of like asking each
Speaker 1: other every girl exclusive. I love this between between the
Speaker 1: soft launch, like knowing that he was the one how
Speaker 1: much time? Oh no, I knew he was the one
Speaker 1: with the soft launch, yeah, where you are such a
Speaker 1: private person and when it comes to your relationships that
Speaker 1: I feel like when you finally we're going to post
Speaker 1: with somebody, I was like, he's going to be it,
Speaker 1: like I already know, like I see what's going on. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like a pretty good amount of guy. Since the show's
Speaker 1: been like seven or eight years, and I don't think
Speaker 1: I've ever posted any of them, but there was one
Speaker 1: on Instagram where you posted somebody's feet. Was that Blaine's no,
Speaker 1: He's gonna kill me for asking no no, no, I
Speaker 1: remember that, and I literally thought, I think it was
Speaker 1: like one of my friends and I'm like, can you
Speaker 1: take a photo for me? Everyone freaked. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh god, the internet went wild over that photo. It
Speaker 1: was on like a story or like a post. I
Speaker 1: think it was on a post, and you took it
Speaker 1: down right. I was gonna say, I know what I'm
Speaker 1: going after this podcast. It was so good because I
Speaker 1: think you were in Mexico. I wanted to say you
Speaker 1: were so much tropical, and and it was like it
Speaker 1: was such a sexy photo of like you on vacation.
Speaker 1: It was your back and then his feet, and people
Speaker 1: were like trying to find out who this man was
Speaker 1: with just his tone nails, and I was like, people
Speaker 1: are so invested in other people's relationships, it's wild. Also
Speaker 1: why I kept it private was because I'm sure you
Speaker 1: guys get this too, Like people make comments about past
Speaker 1: relationships when they're trying to like guess who somebody is,
Speaker 1: just like I feel awful for the guy. Like even
Speaker 1: when I post with Blaine, like people will kind of
Speaker 1: make reference to, oh, it looks like so and so
Speaker 1: or his demeanor, even people I haven't necessarily dated, but
Speaker 1: people within the franchise, and it just kind of like
Speaker 1: irks me. I'm like, really, do you think that if
Speaker 1: you were a girl and your boyfriend posted of you
Speaker 1: that you would want being compared to other girls? And
Speaker 1: I don't right that way, but it just it always happens.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I kind of was a little
Speaker 1: bit hesitant for that reason. That's I get and I
Speaker 1: so respect that. That's so smart to have that mindset
Speaker 1: to be like, I want to protect my partner who
Speaker 1: I'm with now, And because I don't know Blaine's background
Speaker 1: or what he does where he works, but I'm sure
Speaker 1: this world is probably new and a lot to take. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's like a bro, like he is not a reality
Speaker 1: TV watcher. He likes sports, he likes beer, he likes golf,
Speaker 1: like he manly man in the sense of this is
Speaker 1: not his world. And that I think other thing that
Speaker 1: you know, when we've dated people in Batchel Nation, they
Speaker 1: get it. But I think that level protection is more
Speaker 1: so for the people that are not in this world. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a lot to take. It's a lot for us
Speaker 1: to take an a room after we've been in it,
Speaker 1: and so yeah, being somebody who never grew up watching
Speaker 1: it or kind of being infiltrated in it. It's oh
Speaker 1: my god, I can't even imagine being in that position.
Speaker 1: It would be so much. Um, but I want to
Speaker 1: get into your engagement and the proposal. Did you have
Speaker 1: any idea that it was coming up? Yes? Okay, did
Speaker 1: you help? Did you did you know what kind of
Speaker 1: bring you on it? Or is that all? We picked
Speaker 1: it out together? And he was like so excited he
Speaker 1: can't He would like show me photos of the room
Speaker 1: that he had picked up. Please don't show me any
Speaker 1: photos I want. Yeah, You're like I want to be surprised,
Speaker 1: so excited, and then um, he was coming for the
Speaker 1: La marathon and our family was coming in and I
Speaker 1: think he like literally told me he went to the
Speaker 1: safety deposit box, like I knew he had. Because sometimes
Speaker 1: men just can't keep secret it right, or they feel
Speaker 1: like they are keeping a secret and they're really not.
Speaker 1: But if you want to let them, okay. So take
Speaker 1: us back to the the day or the night of
Speaker 1: the proposal, Like waking up in the morning, You're like,
Speaker 1: I'm like, what day? I actually thought maybe it would
Speaker 1: be the Saturday before the marathon, but Friday, like no
Speaker 1: one's answered my calls, which my mom was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm brunching or playing golf or something. I kind of
Speaker 1: believe it. And then you're going down to the beach.
Speaker 1: He made like dinner reservations and we always go to
Speaker 1: the beach when it's nice for like sunset cocktails, Like
Speaker 1: nothing new. I love it there. It's like my happy place.
Speaker 1: And Friday, we're driving down to the beach and no
Speaker 1: one's answered my calls and I FaceTime my friend Kelly,
Speaker 1: who was on the show with me. She's like my
Speaker 1: best friend, and her face was like, I'm like, why
Speaker 1: are you doing that? He's like, oh, what do you do?
Speaker 1: Like what's wrong with you? She's like, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god. And Blaine was being weird.
Speaker 1: We got down to the beach or like sitting there,
Speaker 1: he's like being so weird. He's like kind of dressed up.
Speaker 1: I'm in like sweatpants, and I see a photographer and
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, this is it. This is the moment.
Speaker 1: It's like down to the water. I'm like, okay, babe.
Speaker 1: But the know was he was just by the way.
Speaker 1: We're not doing dinner. We're just gonna go to the
Speaker 1: hotel bel Air and like hang out, have a great many.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, let's drive home and well, I'll
Speaker 1: be really quick. I'll just grab some stuff. And I
Speaker 1: walked in the door and it was like double locks.
Speaker 1: I remember being like, that's weird. Maybe Blae like locked
Speaker 1: both locks. And it was dark, and I think I
Speaker 1: said to mine, or at least I thought, I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: thank god, like no one's here and everyone it was
Speaker 1: like whatpening like? So my family had come in early.
Speaker 1: His parents came, which is their first play, which is awesome,
Speaker 1: and like some of my closest friends, my sister came
Speaker 1: with her husband and the kids, and that was a
Speaker 1: huge surprise to me and posted a video. I was
Speaker 1: like very very emotional for that, and I don't retually cry,
Speaker 1: but that was a thing. H oh my god. And
Speaker 1: you were still in your stebpants, right because you had
Speaker 1: a chance to change, don't you wish now he would
Speaker 1: have given you some sort of not an inklean, but
Speaker 1: would have been like, oh, like let's stress up a
Speaker 1: little bit. No. I think he kind of tried to
Speaker 1: and just like this is what I'm wearing. I mean,
Speaker 1: you're like jarred. They're like not sweatpants. But I didn't work.
Speaker 1: Yeah company right now, wait, are these are the ones? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's probably. It's nice so symbolic, you know what. I'm
Speaker 1: glad that he just let me be comfortable, Like I
Speaker 1: didn't care. I liked the sweater, I liked the pants.
Speaker 1: It was very casual, but like, it's like not me
Speaker 1: to dress up like that for something kind of intimate
Speaker 1: in that, right. I want to ask you this because
Speaker 1: I feel like you and I are pretty similar, and
Speaker 1: you know, speaking from experience, we went from the show.
Speaker 1: We had a very extract probably the most extravagant way
Speaker 1: you could ever get engaged, right, it was in front
Speaker 1: of millions of people, with this massive Neil Lane diamond. This, Like,
Speaker 1: how did you feel with this proposal knowing that it
Speaker 1: was only for your eyes and the photographers and very
Speaker 1: intimate just between you two? Like, what did that feel like?
Speaker 1: On a much different level? I mean obviously totally different.
Speaker 1: Only the second time I've gotten proposed to, so there's
Speaker 1: not a ton of comparison, But it was just what
Speaker 1: I wanted. Like, as you tells asually, when comes to
Speaker 1: the relationships, I'm pretty private. I loved that the photographer
Speaker 1: was there, just because I do love the photos that
Speaker 1: we had and it kind of encapsulates that moment. But
Speaker 1: I'm thirty five, I've been engaged, like you said, in
Speaker 1: front of millions and millions of people. It's not the
Speaker 1: way I wanted for it to happen a second time.
Speaker 1: So it was a special place for us. It was
Speaker 1: important for me to like do it in La in
Speaker 1: my home, for my coastal right now, but it was
Speaker 1: that was really important to me to just do it
Speaker 1: in a place that was like my spot. H I
Speaker 1: love that, And it was beautiful. Those photos were absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I just know you and how probably
Speaker 1: excited you wore that you did find your man. But
Speaker 1: I was so happy when I said, I got chills
Speaker 1: all over my body. I was about to walk out
Speaker 1: on the stage and sell, especially with your family, like
Speaker 1: your friends and family and all of that too. That
Speaker 1: had to be pretty cool that you're able to Like
Speaker 1: I just I told him like two things, my please
Speaker 1: don't propose like right after the marathon, because I've done
Speaker 1: the marathon before and it's not gonna be pretty. And
Speaker 1: goydn't do it anytime soon, like Mabe, do it while
Speaker 1: I'm still thirty four. I was like if so, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm so so impressed with you and your running capabilities.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I have any desire to run
Speaker 1: even a five k, Like no can he can he
Speaker 1: keep up with like six for in an athlete like
Speaker 1: he is way faster. I asked him to do the marathon.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, it'd be great. Oh I wish
Speaker 1: I could just be like, yeah, let's sign up for
Speaker 1: this marathon, no big deal. Are like in good shape
Speaker 1: like they do stuff athletically. I'm just like, really, like
Speaker 1: you didn't even have to train very hard for that,
Speaker 1: Like what you're running in sandals right now? You're not
Speaker 1: even in ten and shoes. This is bullshit. He like,
Speaker 1: I couldn't do it. Everything on to him, like all
Speaker 1: my Gatorades and like any like waters. I had, like
Speaker 1: a flexure, you go pack. I love that. I mean
Speaker 1: it sounds like you are both so supportive of each other,
Speaker 1: and so I'm glad that he can because that it's
Speaker 1: such a passion of yours and I'm glad that he
Speaker 1: can be alongside you and bring you up and partake
Speaker 1: in it and not just be like, ah, you got this,
Speaker 1: good luck. It's nice also trained together it was a
Speaker 1: good way to spend time together. I mean, when you're
Speaker 1: running for hours training, it's just like the two of us,
Speaker 1: it's a it's a nice kind of quiet time for
Speaker 1: both of us. Just like, yeah, so when you sound nice,
Speaker 1: especially when you're like come off the show of you know,
Speaker 1: everything's so luxurious and spontaneous, spontaneous and all these different
Speaker 1: things to be able to like see your person fit
Speaker 1: into your daily life and like spend time. You know,
Speaker 1: what is your time look like Monday through Friday? Friday?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm interested to know this. So when you
Speaker 1: two run together and spend that time, do you have
Speaker 1: your air pods in and you're both kind of listening
Speaker 1: to music and zen out? Or are you both talkers
Speaker 1: and storytellers? How does this fellow he is such a
Speaker 1: talker when we run, like I feel like that's his
Speaker 1: time to just chat chat chat away. Like he's not
Speaker 1: he's chatty, but he's definitely a little more like reserved
Speaker 1: and quieter than I am. We start running, he does
Speaker 1: not stopped talking. That's actually nice for you though, Like
Speaker 1: that though, is it a distraction or are you just
Speaker 1: like it depends no, usually connect distraction for sure? A
Speaker 1: good distraction. I'm just like, I just need to get
Speaker 1: through it and then like we'll do hills and I'll
Speaker 1: be just just kind of complaining. I'm like telling up, Oh,
Speaker 1: does he does he understand that when he's working out
Speaker 1: with you? Though? Like he does he understand that if
Speaker 1: he's talking to you that you don't necessarily have to
Speaker 1: answer back, Like it's not like a full back doesn't
Speaker 1: expect that makes sense? M Yeah, yeah, M not in Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do you think you could have been with somebody who
Speaker 1: wasn't into running or who wouldn't be willing to tend
Speaker 1: zero interest? Yes? I think it's not like a deal breaker,
Speaker 1: like it's not what you know, my entire life. But
Speaker 1: I think it's nice, like you said back earlier, that
Speaker 1: somebody is supportive enough to be like, yeah, I'll do
Speaker 1: that because it's something that you want to do. And
Speaker 1: I mean, look, he likes fitness. He's in good shape,
Speaker 1: so I'm not asking him to do anything like crazy.
Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of aligned with he likes being fit,
Speaker 1: So that was an easier self for it. But I
Speaker 1: didn't even have to sell it actually, Like I think
Speaker 1: he just wanted to do it a as a challenged himself.
Speaker 1: But be just to do it because I like doing it.
Speaker 1: I think that's so something that you like doing just
Speaker 1: because they want to make you happy. So for somebody
Speaker 1: who Okay, I have a two part question here. So
Speaker 1: for you, obviously love to run. Blaine has taken it up.
Speaker 1: I'm sure more so because you love it and now
Speaker 1: you can spend this quality time together. Thomas is going
Speaker 1: to be running his first marathon, So A what advice
Speaker 1: would you give to him when he's training for this
Speaker 1: first marathon because it's been grueling and his body is
Speaker 1: in pain. And be for me as a supportive partner,
Speaker 1: what could I be doing? Or you know, like what
Speaker 1: do you see that Blaine does that really help support
Speaker 1: you in the best ways. Okay, I actually have two
Speaker 1: good answers for you for this UM. One, you gotta
Speaker 1: tell him he's got to do the recovery, like my
Speaker 1: old coaches say, the recoveries in the gates. You have
Speaker 1: to like do the Epps and saw. You have to
Speaker 1: do the photower, you have to do like the guns
Speaker 1: that breaks all of the acid and everything in your body.
Speaker 1: You have to do that, even though it's thank you.
Speaker 1: And then I think for you. My coach actually did
Speaker 1: this for me when I was doing the really long runs.
Speaker 1: He would like strap a water belt and ride the bike,
Speaker 1: so I had so I feel like you could do that.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, I can totally do that. Or I'll get
Speaker 1: my little motorized scooter and just scoot scoot around. Oh
Speaker 1: hell yeah, oh my god, I'm so glad we had
Speaker 1: you on. You could definitely I could see you falling
Speaker 1: or following um Thomas, Yeah, for sure. I mean I'll
Speaker 1: give him his water and all, how of a margarita
Speaker 1: as I'm you know, riding my screater my bike whatever.
Speaker 1: Can you get one of those hats that like has
Speaker 1: the two cans for the water the straws like on
Speaker 1: a bike. Honestly, oh my god, this would be people.
Speaker 1: Do they let people when you're actually running the marathon?
Speaker 1: Is it only for you runners? Or can I be
Speaker 1: a supportive partner and be like, I'm gonna bike and
Speaker 1: feed him his water as we're on this path? Is
Speaker 1: that not allowed? You run a couple of miles with somebody.
Speaker 1: They call it like I think it's called a bandit
Speaker 1: Actually funny story because Matt Jeans got busted for that.
Speaker 1: The first time for New York. Oh, you can do
Speaker 1: it for a few miles, but you're not people have
Speaker 1: to qualify and so yeah, you're not trying to like
Speaker 1: take the spot away, but you can definitely like help
Speaker 1: them out, like run along side for a mile or two.
Speaker 1: Oh so, oh I could totally do that. So to
Speaker 1: start out, I could just do any one of those numbers,
Speaker 1: or can I do it? Well, you won't have the
Speaker 1: bit Okay, So I could just do a mile and
Speaker 1: then tap out and along the course jump in and
Speaker 1: with him. Oh I love this. Okay, I could do that,
Speaker 1: but so does Becca have to keep up with him
Speaker 1: for the first mile? The real question that will not happen.
Speaker 1: I'm just looking out for you when he's slowing down
Speaker 1: and hurting then yeah, okay, well okay, because you said
Speaker 1: Blade is what six four? And Andy, how tall are you? Like?
Speaker 1: My defense is asking um five six? So you're like
Speaker 1: my hype basically, So is it hard to keep up
Speaker 1: with him or does he slow himself down? To say
Speaker 1: it your pace? Oh, he definitely slows himself down. Okay,
Speaker 1: twice as long as mine probably. Yeah. Yeah, well that's
Speaker 1: what I'm worried about it. Yeah, so maybe I'll tap
Speaker 1: in at the very end with Thomas. Okay, wow, once
Speaker 1: the blisters are there, the calves are cramped. Wait, what's
Speaker 1: this Matt James story? He just ran too far and
Speaker 1: got in trouble. No, no no, no no, he was Remember when
Speaker 1: Tyler and I did New York Marathon is before COVID,
Speaker 1: Matt like jumped in and people were like giving him
Speaker 1: so much crap for it because it's like bandit running
Speaker 1: like I think he ran like ten miles of him,
Speaker 1: but he hadn't qualified. It's like not, oh, it's fair,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. But if you do like damn. Okay.
Speaker 1: So for anyone listening, I'm not crashing the marathon with
Speaker 1: Thomas one day. I Am just doing a one bandit mile.
Speaker 1: You heard it here first, folks. He's it's just it's
Speaker 1: the one in San Diego. It's called the Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I should know what the name of it is because
Speaker 1: he I was post about it the San Diego something marathon.
Speaker 1: Look at how sportify. I am. I should know this,
Speaker 1: but but it's it's it's the first one. And so
Speaker 1: he had been talking about wanting to do a marathon,
Speaker 1: and I just thought you know, in a year, he's
Speaker 1: list to train because he doesn't really run. He like
Speaker 1: to lift and do yoga, but he was never really
Speaker 1: an avid runner. And one day he came home and
Speaker 1: he's like, I listened to this badass podcast from David Goggins,
Speaker 1: and now I just signed up for the marathon. And
Speaker 1: I was like, are you sure? Like that's it's always
Speaker 1: a podcast or a documentary that gives you realize it's
Speaker 1: twenty six miles tenty like, and you are not a runner.
Speaker 1: But he's been training a little bit and he loves
Speaker 1: it and he is super dedicated, so I know he'll
Speaker 1: be great. I mean, he has a much better mindset
Speaker 1: when it comes to that than I do. But do
Speaker 1: you just hand, like, dude, Andy, do you just have
Speaker 1: a ton of like intense blisters by the end of it,
Speaker 1: Because everybody that I know, like after the marathon, like
Speaker 1: their bodies are in so much pain with like the
Speaker 1: blisters in like the cramping and the shins body. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like you he's not supposed to run twenty six miles.
Speaker 1: I mean challenge no, if you get the right shoes,
Speaker 1: like the right sizing, if you hydrate, like you don't
Speaker 1: have to worry about the cramps, like there are so
Speaker 1: many things to do in order to m Yeah, walking
Speaker 1: could walk up my fun. Justine, tell me about the
Speaker 1: carving up process, because I feel like that would be
Speaker 1: the fun part of eat pasta, cupcakes everything, Like I
Speaker 1: heard like double jozy cookies from the mall in Georgia
Speaker 1: for us, like just eating them before and after. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I think how many days before or like just the
Speaker 1: night before, I mean, and you're burning it all off. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I don't remember what thought it was. I think it
Speaker 1: might have been the one in New York pre covid.
Speaker 1: I remember watching you eat your pasta. I think it
Speaker 1: was the night or two before, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I am so jealous of this woman right now. I
Speaker 1: was doing cupcakes and pasta like the whole week in
Speaker 1: New York. I was hitting up like Magnolia Bakery Downash
Speaker 1: three who used it is? Oh my gosh, you are
Speaker 1: so dedicated though, I know will say, like watching you
Speaker 1: and your stories be so supportive of all of the
Speaker 1: fellow indoor fans, it's so incredible. It like very it
Speaker 1: really is inspiring, like I should be better and joining
Speaker 1: has their thing Like for me, it was definitely like
Speaker 1: some mental kind of therapeutic thing for me, especially when
Speaker 1: I was in New York and kind of getting out
Speaker 1: of like my shoe box apartment. I think everyone kind
Speaker 1: of has that one thing that they're kind of fixated
Speaker 1: on for whatever reason, whether it's like getting with your
Speaker 1: bad day or you know, if it's a glass of wine,
Speaker 1: or it's going for a run or yoga. A lot
Speaker 1: of people, so I think for me, it's just like
Speaker 1: that's just my thing that I've done. And didn't you say,
Speaker 1: did you start it because you were traveling so much
Speaker 1: that it was just a good way to get out
Speaker 1: and see wherever new places you were. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: it was a good way to exercise. Like first of all,
Speaker 1: you know when you travel, like especially show you're everywhere
Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't want to go to the
Speaker 1: hotel gym or you know, I don't want to I
Speaker 1: don't can't find a gym. So for me, it was
Speaker 1: just getting out running like different cities. And it is
Speaker 1: true you see stuff so differently on foot, Like you
Speaker 1: notice then when I run my own neighborhood, I notice
Speaker 1: houses or I notice you know, trees are just things
Speaker 1: that are like you don't see while you're driving a
Speaker 1: car or not that you'd pay attention to. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: so very true, and I should never really thought about that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: except for them. Sometimes I've gone on runs and I
Speaker 1: don't notice because I'm like wheezing, not even having like
Speaker 1: want a full month. When I first did the marathon,
Speaker 1: I trained that hard, but I was like a walk
Speaker 1: roun a little bit walks. That's awesome, though. Oh man,
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna have you up on speed dial before
Speaker 1: his marathon just so I can get pick your brain
Speaker 1: more and get your advice, because it's it's gonna be neat. No,
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm being inspired to run a marathon.
Speaker 1: I'm like thinking about it, and I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: it was if it's Andy, or if it's like the
Speaker 1: car bloating cupcakes and pass a ten k. We should
Speaker 1: do like a boucher at ten k. I feel like
Speaker 1: we could do that. That would be how many of
Speaker 1: us are there now? Like eight? Oh well there's more
Speaker 1: than eighteen, right, no eighteen? No team technically they will
Speaker 1: be soon with Rachel and Gabby. Do you like our
Speaker 1: virtual marathon and we could do we actually one mile
Speaker 1: and then it taps on to the next person and
Speaker 1: then to make up the last miles. Andy can do
Speaker 1: a couple, you know, I'll try to do two or three.
Speaker 1: I'll take one for the team. But we could do
Speaker 1: it for a share money. Wait, let's do that. I
Speaker 1: actually really like that kind of like Andy, you remember
Speaker 1: when we did a couple of years ago. It was
Speaker 1: during COVID we did the like Past the Rose Challenge.
Speaker 1: It could be like that, except running a mile. You
Speaker 1: could do wherever you want, like Submary. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1: That would actually be fun too, to show the different
Speaker 1: cities that everyone's in across the country. Wait, will you
Speaker 1: guys really do it? I'm so down. No, I Ndercent
Speaker 1: would do it. And I'm already like thinking about like
Speaker 1: the video footage to just like showing like running and
Speaker 1: like house. Yeah, all the different scenery, all the different areas. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's actually talk about this and put a plan in place,
Speaker 1: because I would be so down, especially if it's going
Speaker 1: for a good cause. I mean, sign me up all
Speaker 1: the time. I would love that. I must just make
Speaker 1: an to get on there and see. Yeah. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: So speaking of Boucherette's, I mean, obviously we all have
Speaker 1: that in common going back. I mean, sometimes I hate
Speaker 1: to do this, so I hate to ask you this,
Speaker 1: but like going back to your time on the show.
Speaker 1: You know, it worked out for some of us, it
Speaker 1: worked out, it didn't work out for some of us.
Speaker 1: So I totally understand probably your mindset. But do you
Speaker 1: have any favorite memories that stand out when you were Bachelorette? Oh,
Speaker 1: I mean the travel, Like we went to incredible places
Speaker 1: both bachelor and Bachelorette my seasons. That was like, I
Speaker 1: feel like I was kind of the height of the traveling.
Speaker 1: The travel was amazing. I had a great experience. Like
Speaker 1: even though it didn't work out, you know, picked the
Speaker 1: wrong guy clearly or the wrong relationship, at least I
Speaker 1: thought it was great. Like I had a blast. I
Speaker 1: thought it was life changing for me. I feel like
Speaker 1: we can all probably attest to that, where it's like
Speaker 1: it just it changed my life. I put it in
Speaker 1: a totally different trajectory. And yeah, there was some stuff
Speaker 1: that we had to deal with, you know, whether it's
Speaker 1: just people talking or you know, the emotional effects of
Speaker 1: like being away from all of your friends and family
Speaker 1: and doing this kind of alone. But all said and done,
Speaker 1: like I just I thought I was incredible. It changed
Speaker 1: my life. It's like a huge defining point in my life.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I have like zero regrets on it. I
Speaker 1: think the traveling was great falling in love honestly, Like again,
Speaker 1: even though it didn't work out, I fell in love
Speaker 1: like that's always fun. Yeah, I would hope that everyone
Speaker 1: coming from the show has that mindset, like even if
Speaker 1: it didn't work out, that you still make so many friends,
Speaker 1: you know, when you're living with the contestants, and you
Speaker 1: have really some of the most incredible memories, and that's
Speaker 1: what all always take with me. And so I'm glad
Speaker 1: that you still look back fondly. And I like that
Speaker 1: you say you would have no regrets. Yeah, regardless of
Speaker 1: how things ended in the long run or not, that's
Speaker 1: go For a breakup, you might as well have done
Speaker 1: it while traveling the world and meeting people. And you know,
Speaker 1: dying you made you a very good point. Go bigger go.
Speaker 1: Do you have a favorite dress or outfit that you
Speaker 1: just like, absolutely loved, Like when you think about your
Speaker 1: fashion sense and everything back to when you were the bachelorette,
Speaker 1: what does that outfit or that A few really great ones?
Speaker 1: I remember there was one that I loved. It's kind
Speaker 1: of a funny story because Carrie Fetman, obviously the stylist,
Speaker 1: m hold this dress and he was like, look, you
Speaker 1: cannot spill on this dress, like carry, I never swell.
Speaker 1: You looks at me like, yes, you cannot dress. I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, fine, He's like I'm serious, Andy. He's
Speaker 1: like Selena Gomez, it's shipping to her. She has to
Speaker 1: wear it next. You can't spill on it. And then
Speaker 1: of course like us Weekly did it, like who were
Speaker 1: it better? The same dress was one of my favorites
Speaker 1: that before she wore way better. But it was that
Speaker 1: was fun for me. It was like to wear something
Speaker 1: and then see you know what was the dress? It
Speaker 1: was like a black deep plunge and it had a
Speaker 1: bunch of like diamond encrusted almost looked like dots, but
Speaker 1: it was like spread out diamonds. Ooh, was it a
Speaker 1: Randy rum do you know? Don't think so? For you?
Speaker 1: That wasn't okay. Oh my gosh. I want to go
Speaker 1: back and look through old photos to see what was
Speaker 1: I want to scroll through it. That is crazy. Do
Speaker 1: you think after going through that entire process, both as
Speaker 1: a contestant and then as the lead on the show
Speaker 1: that it ultimately changed your approach to dating or how
Speaker 1: you would want to find a partner or find love. Um, yes, no,
Speaker 1: I mean I think it's kind of hard when you're
Speaker 1: dating so many people at one time to like really
Speaker 1: like figure out some kind of like life changing things
Speaker 1: to take away for each of those relationships, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, Okay, the guy that you know
Speaker 1: was made it till the fifth round or whatever. There's
Speaker 1: not like there was that deep of a relationship to
Speaker 1: take that much away. I think I did learn like
Speaker 1: everybody is kind of a person and has a life,
Speaker 1: and they're spending time and kind of respecting that time.
Speaker 1: And I remember on The Bachelor, a lot of us
Speaker 1: didn't really feel that like our time was kind of
Speaker 1: being valued and that we weren't being looked at as
Speaker 1: like actual human beings that had given up their jobs
Speaker 1: and you know, family and friends here. So I think
Speaker 1: it did make me kind of like humanize guys, even
Speaker 1: though it was like speed dating. I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: each one of these guys has an actual life too,
Speaker 1: and there's something to each of them, even if it's
Speaker 1: like there's still a human being on this earth that
Speaker 1: you can converse with and like, you know, be kind
Speaker 1: to and show attention to. Yeah, are you still close
Speaker 1: with any of the guys on your season? Say in
Speaker 1: touch with them? Chrystols? Yeah? Always. Um Chris Harrison, I
Speaker 1: guess he was on my season. Always. Um, I see
Speaker 1: like Nick file in La every once in a while,
Speaker 1: I'd work cool. Oh my god, I keep forgetting he
Speaker 1: was on your season. No, it's so funny. Actually, out
Speaker 1: of dinner last night and Christina Schuman was there and
Speaker 1: I was like, well, you want Christ's season or bench?
Speaker 1: She was like, I was on NIX. I was like,
Speaker 1: that's so Chris. Wait, that was like the first time
Speaker 1: he stepped into this world was on your season, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he is my neighbor, he lives. I am looking at
Speaker 1: my window and I could probably see his house if
Speaker 1: I go to the other end of my window. Okay. Wait.
Speaker 1: So with okay, having Andy, you gone going through this
Speaker 1: whole bachelor world and everything like that, and then bringing
Speaker 1: somebody into it, even like as you're just starting to date.
Speaker 1: Who were like some of the first people that you introduced. Well,
Speaker 1: obviously my friend Kelly U. She had like FaceTime with
Speaker 1: him and everything. He came blanking to LA and we
Speaker 1: went to a Luke Bryan concert and actually Christina Schuman
Speaker 1: came with us, and I like, I randomly kind of
Speaker 1: see her and like we'll hang out for like concerts
Speaker 1: and stuff. But she was like the first person I
Speaker 1: feel like in Bachel Nation that met him. And then
Speaker 1: super Bowl happened and you guys were there, Like then
Speaker 1: it was like the floodgates opened and he met pretty
Speaker 1: much everybody from Bachel Nation that lived in La or
Speaker 1: was at the super Bowl. M Oh, that had to
Speaker 1: be How did he handle all of that? Was it
Speaker 1: too much to take in at first? Or was he
Speaker 1: is he? I mean it seems like he's pretty go
Speaker 1: with the flow, yeah, but how did he take that
Speaker 1: all in? Honestly? I think it was like more like
Speaker 1: exciting for him to like tell his friends like who
Speaker 1: he saw and like how cool is this? Like he
Speaker 1: doesn't really care about not that he doesn't care abou
Speaker 1: Vachel Nation. He does. I don't want to trolling him,
Speaker 1: but he's not in it. He doesn't. He's not like
Speaker 1: phased by things, be like, um, the guys from selling
Speaker 1: Sunset and he was like oh I've seen that shell,
Speaker 1: you know. Oh, okay, love that? Has he did he
Speaker 1: ever go back and watch any of your season? Or is?
Speaker 1: Does he have no interest? He has any interest? And
Speaker 1: I don't have any interest in him watching. That would
Speaker 1: be so weird. That would be so weird, like you
Speaker 1: started watching like your current guy's like past you know.
Speaker 1: Oh no, don't get me wrong, But if I have
Speaker 1: the option for him not to watch it, I'm good
Speaker 1: with that. Listen. I hadn't watched Thomas on like three
Speaker 1: episodes of Paradise before I got down there, and that
Speaker 1: was enough. I would never want to go back and
Speaker 1: watch a full season of whoever I'm dating on TV?
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, So you're and you're close with me
Speaker 1: in the sand right? Yeah? Okay for sure? Yeah? Because
Speaker 1: and she, I mean, obviously you got engaged more recently,
Speaker 1: but she also just got engaged. So have you guys
Speaker 1: been able to kind of talk about any wedding plans
Speaker 1: or bounce ideas off of much because her fiance is
Speaker 1: actually someone that she set me up on a blind
Speaker 1: date with in New York? Really shut up? Wait you okay?
Speaker 1: So lovely like it? He was so nice. We didn't
Speaker 1: have the chemistry. It was just like a friend thing,
Speaker 1: but he was awesome. And then like literally a three
Speaker 1: years actually had it been the way before COVID, like
Speaker 1: probably three years four years later. Man is like, you
Speaker 1: remember going to guess where I'm dating? And I was like,
Speaker 1: Michael Fogel, how did you know? I said, I just
Speaker 1: had a feeling like I always trying of like to you,
Speaker 1: always trying to set him up with somebody. And it's
Speaker 1: stunny because I went to brunch with her. Blaine and
Speaker 1: I were down in Newport and I'm sitting there talking
Speaker 1: and we like order the food and we sit down
Speaker 1: and I hadn't seen her since she got engaged. I
Speaker 1: was just talking and she's like, what is on your hand?
Speaker 1: And I hadn't announced it yet, and I was like
Speaker 1: surprise talking to Andy. There's no missing that ring. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know how you expected to get away.
Speaker 1: I was just like standing there like this, Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: there's no getting around that baby. If it was if
Speaker 1: it was smallart maybe, but yours maybe. But it's like
Speaker 1: you know, like blind people everything. Oh you waited that long?
Speaker 1: I think it was like one or two weeks because
Speaker 1: we got engaged for the marathon, and I just wanted
Speaker 1: to like deal with the marathon, and to be honest,
Speaker 1: it's funny that people say this that they just wanted
Speaker 1: time to kind of enjoy it. I didn't enjoy the
Speaker 1: attention and like everyone being sweet. It was just once
Speaker 1: that like got announced, everybody was texting and called congratulations,
Speaker 1: and Lynn and I both were like just on the
Speaker 1: phone with our friends and family. So it gave it
Speaker 1: a week or two to just enjoy it. And yeah,
Speaker 1: the family knew together, but I guess the world didn't.
Speaker 1: And that was a whole other level of what a
Speaker 1: lot to take it, especially if you're trying to train
Speaker 1: and focus on the marathon. I totally understand why you
Speaker 1: would have wanted to hold off on the big news,
Speaker 1: because it's a lot. I just like didn't know what
Speaker 1: people were going to say. I didn't know if you
Speaker 1: were to finally or like I had been out of
Speaker 1: kind of that like happy celebration romance type of announcement
Speaker 1: for so long, but it being really good. I was
Speaker 1: like very very overwhelmed, like even emotional about how sweet
Speaker 1: everybody was and just like how happy everybody was for me.
Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting that. Yeah, yeah, it seems like you
Speaker 1: have so much support behind you, behind you both, which
Speaker 1: is very very special. So and if anyone had any
Speaker 1: hate to say, there's the age old adage, fuck them.
Speaker 1: You know who cares? Do you have? You guys talked
Speaker 1: about if you're gonna do like a longer engagement, if
Speaker 1: you're like, are you like, let's yeah, I definitely want
Speaker 1: to get married in Italy like obviously very special to us.
Speaker 1: I love it you like we kindled or really basically
Speaker 1: met there. I was trying to maybe do October, but
Speaker 1: I don't think that's gonna like this October that's coming up. Yes,
Speaker 1: let's go you know what time. I don't know, and
Speaker 1: don't quote me on this. I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: fully true, but I was just talking to some of
Speaker 1: our friends on it in San Diego who just actually
Speaker 1: got engaged I think in February or March two, and
Speaker 1: they are planning the wedding in April in Italy next year.
Speaker 1: But they said that everything there, it's so much more affordable,
Speaker 1: it's easier to plan weddings like outside of the States.
Speaker 1: And because I was actually shockedun I was like, I
Speaker 1: thought it would have been the opposite of how much
Speaker 1: how expensive everything was, and to rent at the venues
Speaker 1: just how crazy spending it would be. But they looked
Speaker 1: at several different venues and they could get them in
Speaker 1: right away. There was really no hold up of like
Speaker 1: when they could rent out the space and like how
Speaker 1: much it would be. So honestly, I feel like, I mean,
Speaker 1: if that's true, which I don't know if it fully is,
Speaker 1: but if it is, you could do it. You can
Speaker 1: pull it up at a bunch of venues. Thinking like,
Speaker 1: there's no way October. October's kind of the last month
Speaker 1: of the year in Italy to get married. The weather
Speaker 1: starts getting cold, obviously, like there's no way with all
Speaker 1: the backup from COVID from twenty twenty that got pushed
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, and sure enough, there are some things
Speaker 1: And I kind of like, now I regret saying that,
Speaker 1: because it's like, all right, let's do it then, um,
Speaker 1: but I think we'll probably wait till the spring. I
Speaker 1: just part of me is like wants to actually enjoy it,
Speaker 1: you know. I know that sounds crazy as everyone who
Speaker 1: just goes wild and it's stressful, but I'm going to
Speaker 1: be sad, like when it's over a little bit. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think I think if we had gotten engaged,
Speaker 1: like let's say, you know, January, ten months is a
Speaker 1: lot different than we're just now starting to plan it's
Speaker 1: five months. It's a lot. I mean, I can't I've
Speaker 1: never planned a wedding, so I can't speak from experience,
Speaker 1: but just seeing friends and family do it, it's a
Speaker 1: lot to think about. So whenever you are ready to
Speaker 1: plan and do it, you will. It will all work
Speaker 1: out and happens it as it should so and we're
Speaker 1: here to support you a long way. Andy, I feel bad.
Speaker 1: I haven't even started planning anything. But do you have
Speaker 1: a vision of what you would want, like what you
Speaker 1: would want your dress to look like, what you would
Speaker 1: want food or cake or anything like that. I the
Speaker 1: good thing about Italy is it is a lot easier.
Speaker 1: Like I literally just want everybody to be taken care of.
Speaker 1: I want everyone to be fed well, good wine, good pasta.
Speaker 1: I mean with the dress I started looking at so funny,
Speaker 1: my mom like sent me an entire word document of
Speaker 1: forty five fifty dresses. I'm like, when Blaine asked for
Speaker 1: my blessing, I was like Oh my god, you're um.
Speaker 1: But there's so many dress options. Like I, I'm already
Speaker 1: overwhelmed with it. I feel like I'm just not there
Speaker 1: or just like me. Okay, yeah, that's how I feel like.
Speaker 1: That's how i'm too. So you're not one of those
Speaker 1: people who just, you know, like plans out there wedding
Speaker 1: on Pinterest and they were fifteen like you. No, I'm
Speaker 1: not like you. I have no visions for any wedding. Besides,
Speaker 1: I want a lot of like burritos there in a
Speaker 1: champagne tower. And that's it. Well, we've I think we've
Speaker 1: talked about every burrito like a burrito on every episode
Speaker 1: since I stually happen again, I will never look at
Speaker 1: it the same after you and Nate m so andy.
Speaker 1: I want to know this because you are a New
Speaker 1: York Times bestseller and I love your books. I had
Speaker 1: such a blast reading them because I could kind of
Speaker 1: go back and put myself in your shoes or like
Speaker 1: in that mindset. And you know, we all kind of
Speaker 1: know more secrets behind the scenes, so we kind of
Speaker 1: know how things work. But do you have any plans
Speaker 1: to do another I'm going to do a third. I
Speaker 1: think i'd already started. It was kind of during COVID
Speaker 1: that I had started writing Great Time to Star writing hobnously. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I was kind of waiting for an ending. I didn't
Speaker 1: know it was going to be this, But I think
Speaker 1: this is probably a good ending and probably said way
Speaker 1: into some other kind of writing I want to do,
Speaker 1: Like I want to do some fiction. I want to
Speaker 1: do something wild. So yeah, last kind of single, no more. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: I need to check these out because I think I
Speaker 1: do believe you reached out to me on Instagram. I'm
Speaker 1: like the worst like getting back to people. Well, I've
Speaker 1: been teaching this year, so I keep telling everybody don't
Speaker 1: take a personnel but that might have to be like
Speaker 1: one of my first reads this summer. Please send it
Speaker 1: way Yeah, okay, Okay, that's it. I'm yes, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: move it to the top of the list. Okay, send me,
Speaker 1: send me both copies. Show you guys will pick on,
Speaker 1: pick up on even were you super stressed out from
Speaker 1: just you go through this experience, right, and then that
Speaker 1: whole experiences just like showcase the entire world for like
Speaker 1: their opinions and all those different things. Do you feel
Speaker 1: like it was less stressful then to go and write
Speaker 1: a book because you're still sharing your experiences, You're still
Speaker 1: sharing your thoughts, right, You're still putting that story out
Speaker 1: there for opinions. Did you feel like really that like
Speaker 1: same type of anxiety because your life is still you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, being put on a platform. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Actually I remember feeling a lot of anxiety about it
Speaker 1: because you know, sure it's your story, so there is
Speaker 1: kind of this feeling of like this is me. At
Speaker 1: least people can hear it directly from me, but people
Speaker 1: still will like pick things apart. Like I remember I
Speaker 1: think something like someone's apartment and it was like actually
Speaker 1: in a joking way, and people will still be like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's like a gold digger, or someone's apartment is too small.
Speaker 1: Like you know, you say things and suggest and they
Speaker 1: will take just one sentence out of that entire and
Speaker 1: it's your words, so you kind of have to eat
Speaker 1: them and just own it. But I think it does.
Speaker 1: I think it's just a good outlet. You're just like,
Speaker 1: you know what, this is all of me. You're gonna
Speaker 1: judge me anyways, at least judge it kind of from
Speaker 1: my own words, right, Yeah, And it's kind of nice
Speaker 1: because you can take however long you need to to
Speaker 1: make sure that your full story is like, yeah, I'm sure,
Speaker 1: it's like it's like your baby like that. I feel
Speaker 1: like writing your own book like that would be more
Speaker 1: I think intimate and intense when it's finally released, and
Speaker 1: it was like when your show airs, because you don't
Speaker 1: know what's going to happen when the season's airing, you
Speaker 1: don't know what's going to be edited and like picked
Speaker 1: to be shown to the world. So I feel like
Speaker 1: when you're actually hands deep in control of that, that
Speaker 1: would be I think much more of a scary thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like a blessing and a curse because you get
Speaker 1: to have that outlet and say it all. But then
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, gosh, now I have nothing to hide
Speaker 1: behind you. Oh that wasn't It's all there, Love me
Speaker 1: or hate me, take what you want. But it's hard,
Speaker 1: like for all of us that everyone essescially like in
Speaker 1: social media and stuff like that, that vulnerability can be
Speaker 1: really really hard. H totally definitely so okay. Aside from
Speaker 1: your future book and this engagement and upcoming wedding plans,
Speaker 1: what's next for you? Anything else? You want to share. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm moving to South Carolina. You are, you're leaving up
Speaker 1: in La. She was just gonna slide that in their
Speaker 1: casually nice And we're a building there, which is going
Speaker 1: to be great, Like it's exactly what we want. I'll
Speaker 1: still be in La a lot, but you know, it's
Speaker 1: a big it's a big move. I'm a little m h.
Speaker 1: We're in South Carolina? Will you guys be building? Are
Speaker 1: you able to say? Okay? All great town? But you know,
Speaker 1: I know Blaine and like his friends there, so it's
Speaker 1: kind of that starting over. Um, yeah, it'll be bitter sleet.
Speaker 1: I'm like happy to do it with him, and you
Speaker 1: know for him, like his career is really base there. Um,
Speaker 1: but I'll miss it here. I'll come out here a
Speaker 1: lot though. So when will you actually move? M this summer? Okay,
Speaker 1: well before you leave, we have to get together. We
Speaker 1: will do another girl's night for sure, Michelle, you're coming out.
Speaker 1: That's exciting. I had one more question, oh before we
Speaker 1: get into our this last question that I want to ask.
Speaker 1: So first, do you still keep up with watching the shows?
Speaker 1: Are you kind of have you removed yourself and you're
Speaker 1: not that involved anymore. I'm just not that involved anymore.
Speaker 1: I feel like you could probably attest this too. It
Speaker 1: kind of goes in like different ways, Like I don't
Speaker 1: know anyone on it. I don't know anyone that knows
Speaker 1: anybody on it. I don't even know any of the
Speaker 1: producers really anymore. So it just seems like it's kind
Speaker 1: of a different it's a different time for me, a shift. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and especially when you go through it specifically yourself, you know,
Speaker 1: you go through all those experiences and if you have
Speaker 1: less connections with the people who are then going through
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And you could watch it
Speaker 1: if you want to yourself, like yelling at the TV
Speaker 1: or just like knowing kind of like, oh, this is
Speaker 1: the music, this is the limo. You know so much? Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so different once you know. I know you don't
Speaker 1: watch it. But I'm sure you've heard the news that
Speaker 1: we have dual bad threats this season with Rachel and Gabby.
Speaker 1: So do you have any advice? I mean, I think
Speaker 1: they're still filming if I'm if my math adds up,
Speaker 1: but they will be coming back very very soon, So
Speaker 1: do you have any advice for them as they prepare
Speaker 1: for their season to finally be aired, tell your your
Speaker 1: partner and your family everything before because because yes, that's
Speaker 1: a good one. I would say, I mean, as much
Speaker 1: as you can, you've got to like kind of stay
Speaker 1: off the internet. Definitely stay out the forums. I remember
Speaker 1: when I did it, the forums were the worst, Like
Speaker 1: people were so so critical and it dampered a little
Speaker 1: bit of like that post show kind of glory cone
Speaker 1: that I was in. So I would say, just just
Speaker 1: as best as you can, like stay away from Hey.
Speaker 1: Just know people are going to come out at you,
Speaker 1: whether it's because they're jealous or because they just don't
Speaker 1: like you, whatever, that's their problem, not yours. So just
Speaker 1: try and enjoy it, try and to see all the
Speaker 1: fun things that you're getting to do. You're going to
Speaker 1: be exhausted, but it's worth it. It's fun. Like you'll
Speaker 1: look back in five ten years like I am and
Speaker 1: just think that was a really cool thing. Solid advice,
Speaker 1: that's what we're trying to tell Clayton. The most recent
Speaker 1: boucher was don't read all the comments, like stay away
Speaker 1: off first one. By the way, people love to hate
Speaker 1: and that's the thing. It's like, it's not even yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean, I step trust for the engagement.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, nightmare proposal, nightmare engagement ringing, and I
Speaker 1: was like, people say this about other people, it was
Speaker 1: about me. I was like, okay, things like yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know why. I don't know if it like makes
Speaker 1: them feel better for five and a half seconds. It's
Speaker 1: it's bizarre, but but that is solid advice. I can't
Speaker 1: wait to hear how how they are coming from the season.
Speaker 1: But I will make sure if they don't listen to this,
Speaker 1: to share that with them because I fight over them,
Speaker 1: like how many guys are gonna go for the same girl? Oh,
Speaker 1: it'll be so I can't wait to add them to
Speaker 1: the group chat. I always love the moment when we
Speaker 1: can add the newbie to the group chat. I think
Speaker 1: it's probably so freaking overwhelming and I'm not the new anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm no longer you just like, oh my gosh um.
Speaker 1: I honestly think I felt more like I felt bad
Speaker 1: that I wasn't able to respond more and interact more
Speaker 1: because I was still working full time as a teacher
Speaker 1: when all that was unfolding, And so I think that
Speaker 1: that was the hardest part. Is I didn't even I
Speaker 1: was just overwhelmed in life as general in general, so
Speaker 1: I just yeah, but it was really nice to know
Speaker 1: that all of these women have been through a similar situation,
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of different areas where you can
Speaker 1: feel like very alone when all this is taking place.
Speaker 1: You know, just when your life starts to change, as
Speaker 1: it does, it's hard because it's you know, not a
Speaker 1: lot of people experience that. It was helpful. Yeah, for surely. Um, okay, Michelle,
Speaker 1: do you want to explain it, Michelle? Yes, Okay. So
Speaker 1: we play a game all the time, Beck and I
Speaker 1: love love, love love games, and so we are going
Speaker 1: to play a game called this or that, and it's
Speaker 1: going to be a wedding planning addition. So I hope
Speaker 1: you're ready. Um, We're going to give you two options
Speaker 1: related to planning a wedding and you'll respond with your preference.
Speaker 1: So it's like a rapid fire ready for the first one,
Speaker 1: band or DJ. I love that. I feel like Andy,
Speaker 1: you and I were both aries. We were born on
Speaker 1: the same day. We're very similar. I'm so I'm excited
Speaker 1: to see what we get to say for these other ones. Okay,
Speaker 1: big party or intimate gathering, intimate gathering. Okay, you kind
Speaker 1: of answered this one already. Destination wedding or stay local
Speaker 1: destination and then I want to do something with our
Speaker 1: family local Yeah, oh, write your own vows or go
Speaker 1: with the classics first look before the ceremony or at
Speaker 1: the aisle. At the aisle, that's like Blade's number one wish.
Speaker 1: It's like really okay, he wants to stand there and
Speaker 1: like probably cry and watch her. Yeah. Yeah, it's such
Speaker 1: a special moment. It's like there's very few times in
Speaker 1: life where you can have that like take your breath
Speaker 1: away a moment and and nephew walked down after me
Speaker 1: and his nephews because I want oh yeah, that would
Speaker 1: be very cute, and then they'll probably run to you
Speaker 1: guys and have it be extra special. Okay, do you
Speaker 1: want just one dress or multiple looks throughout the night.
Speaker 1: I would do as many as I could, Like I
Speaker 1: change the day anyways, I would literally do as many
Speaker 1: as I could. Yeah, she changes every hour. Yes, um,
Speaker 1: sit down dinner or a big buffet sit down dinner
Speaker 1: family style. Well okay, I feel like you also just
Speaker 1: answered this too. But kids at the wedding or leave
Speaker 1: all of them at home. Leave them all at home
Speaker 1: except our nieces and nephews. Okay, kick him out, kick
Speaker 1: him out of the the after party at a certain
Speaker 1: time only for adult lives. Right honeymoon right after the
Speaker 1: wedding or leave some time in between. Oh either, maybe
Speaker 1: it depends on the year, she said. I don't know,
Speaker 1: and it's like both, I want both. Give me two
Speaker 1: honeymoons to travel. I'll go on honeymoon tomorrow without meeting well,
Speaker 1: and if you're in Italy, it's like you can still
Speaker 1: stay there for a bit and enjoy just the two
Speaker 1: of you afterwards, and then do something somewhere else after then. Actually,
Speaker 1: like not not right, maybe a few months after, because
Speaker 1: then you kind of get to like double dick, yeah,
Speaker 1: and then has something different to look forward to once
Speaker 1: the wedding planning dies down and you'll miss that, but
Speaker 1: you'll still have this vacation to look forward to. I
Speaker 1: feel like you and I are so similar, it's crazy. Okay,
Speaker 1: matching bridesmaid stresses or different color. Oh wait what Okay,
Speaker 1: matching bridesmaid's dresses or matching color, but different dresses. Welcome.
Speaker 1: I was like, you girls are welcome. Everyone that's going
Speaker 1: to come. Would it be my brides meet anyways? Like
Speaker 1: that's how close I would so, okay, my sister, his brother,
Speaker 1: and then I mean all of our friends, Like I
Speaker 1: have to pick between everybody. Everyone but my friends. Some
Speaker 1: of them are joking around that they're going to show
Speaker 1: up in matching dresses. Anyways. I can't wait to see
Speaker 1: how it all turns out. That was our last question
Speaker 1: for the game. But whatever you decide, whenever you decide,
Speaker 1: it is going to be beautiful. It's going to be stunning.
Speaker 1: And I'm just so happy for you. I can't wait
Speaker 1: to meet Blaine. I really do want to meet him.
Speaker 1: He sounds like an incredible man. Andy. One more thing
Speaker 1: before we let you go. Every week we share our
Speaker 1: roast and our thorn, which is basically our best moment
Speaker 1: of the week and our least favorite or messiest. So
Speaker 1: I'll start it off to make it easy, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to start with my thorn. And honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: even know if I have thorn this week. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: just say I've been traveling out this past week, so
Speaker 1: it's just been I've been very exhausted. But it's a
Speaker 1: good problem to have, and my rose is going to
Speaker 1: be the fact that I was able to see and
Speaker 1: surprise my mom and sister for Mother's Day, and it
Speaker 1: was very fun and very fun to see my niece.
Speaker 1: We were in the midst of potty training, which that
Speaker 1: probably should have been my thorn for the messiest moment,
Speaker 1: because it's definitely the potty training. What about you, Michelle,
Speaker 1: I would say that my rose would have to be
Speaker 1: that I was able to just spend a ton of
Speaker 1: time this past weekend with friends and family outside because
Speaker 1: the weather is turning over and so it's like that
Speaker 1: lovely feeling of being able to open up your windows
Speaker 1: and air at your house and like springs here and
Speaker 1: the snow is done fingers crossed, hopefully. My thorn would
Speaker 1: have to be that I overslept my alarms full times
Speaker 1: this week, which usually never happens um, but it's like
Speaker 1: it's kind of a chaotic way to start the week.
Speaker 1: You know, it's almost summer break. Don't worry, it's almost there.
Speaker 1: It's almost there. Andy, What about you? What is your rose?
Speaker 1: And I mean my rose bitter sweet? But coming back
Speaker 1: to la Um and it's gone for like a week
Speaker 1: on the east, so it's it's just nice to like
Speaker 1: be home. I miss Blaine. He's not here right now,
Speaker 1: but we'll be together soon. But it's nice to me home.
Speaker 1: That's definitely my rose is just a little big cave
Speaker 1: my thorn. Actually having this morning when I lost my
Speaker 1: Zara receipt for some returns. No, no returns accepted without
Speaker 1: a receipt. I do love Zara, but it is difficult
Speaker 1: to return some stuff. So it is it is. Andy.
Speaker 1: I am so happy we had you on. It's been
Speaker 1: way too long. I've already love you, so thank you
Speaker 1: for joining us on Happy Hour. Before you go, Where
Speaker 1: can all of our listeners find you on social? Um?
Speaker 1: Well find me very often. But when I'm the Instagram
Speaker 1: at Andy at yes another private, you do have to
Speaker 1: meet in person. We I will plan a girl's night
Speaker 1: Michelle when you're out here next I will be because
Speaker 1: it would be so much fun. Yes, we'll definitely have
Speaker 1: to link up again and m until then, send me
Speaker 1: send me those copies because I actually want to get
Speaker 1: into that. Thank you guys for having me. Thanks Andy,
Speaker 1: We'll see you soon. Take care bye. She's an absolute gem.
Speaker 1: When we all get together, you will hit it off
Speaker 1: and love her she's so sweet. She just seems so
Speaker 1: down to earth, so normal, um and just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I love her yea. And one thing about her too
Speaker 1: that I mean, when you're in person, you'll definitely pick
Speaker 1: up on. But she is also just so confident and
Speaker 1: who she is as a woman, as a person, what
Speaker 1: she stands for. And I think that that's something it's
Speaker 1: a great aspect that anyone can have in life. But
Speaker 1: it's really empowering to when, like I've only been out
Speaker 1: with her a handful of times, but she builds people up,
Speaker 1: she builds women up. She just knows who she is
Speaker 1: and she owns it. And that's one thing that I
Speaker 1: love most about her. But I'm so glad we had
Speaker 1: her on. It was good to just catch up and
Speaker 1: hear more about her, her new relationship and this next
Speaker 1: chapter in her life. I can't wait to see them
Speaker 1: with their wedding plans. And I love the fact that right,
Speaker 1: I mean, I was blinded every time she would lift
Speaker 1: up her left hand, I was like, oh, wow, can
Speaker 1: we get still shot of this? She's it is. I
Speaker 1: love I love that she's like, oh, no, one was
Speaker 1: going to notice it. When I went out with Amanda,
Speaker 1: and I was like, there's no hiding that. Honestly, you
Speaker 1: should have left it at home if you didn't want
Speaker 1: people to say anything, because it's is a big old
Speaker 1: root that thing. Oh yeah, yeah, it's like the right
Speaker 1: world of China that people can see from space. That
Speaker 1: is her ring. Um. But Ane, thank you for joining us,
Speaker 1: and thank you Michelle for being here again. I have
Speaker 1: I've had such a blasting this podcast with you. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy that you started this with me and I
Speaker 1: can't wait to a week. It just gets better and
Speaker 1: better and I just I love to it with you.
Speaker 1: So thank you, Michelle. It really has been awesome and
Speaker 1: I'm so excited too, just for the day where we
Speaker 1: get to take this in person, whether it's you know,
Speaker 1: in person in La or in person on the road
Speaker 1: wherever it's at. Yeah, so just start watch out. Michelle.
Speaker 1: Thank you, and a huge thank you to all of
Speaker 1: our Batchelor Happy Hour listeners. It was so fun chatting
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