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Speaker 2: Hey, Hey, Emily, a body here. You are listening to

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Speaker 2: episode two hundred and ninety of Hurdle, a wellness focused

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Speaker 2: podcast where I talk to inspirational people about everything from

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Speaker 2: their highest hies and toughest moments to essential tips on

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Speaker 2: how to live a healthier, happier, more motivated life.

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Speaker 3: We all go through our fair share of hurdles.

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Speaker 2: My goal through these discussions is to empower you to

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Speaker 2: better navigate yours and move with intention so that you

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Speaker 2: can stride towards your own big potential and of course

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Speaker 2: have some fun along the way. For today's episode, I

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Speaker 2: Monique Billings. She's a player for the Los Angeles Sparks,

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Speaker 2: which was announced legitimately in the days leading up to

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Speaker 2: this conversation. Previously, Monique played for the Atlanta Dream since

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Speaker 2: twenty eighteen, and she's coming home. She's coming back to

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Speaker 2: where she grew up. We had the chance to chat

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Speaker 2: when we were both in San Francisco for Athleta's corporate

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Speaker 2: conference Athleticquest. Monique is a member of their Power of

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Speaker 2: she collective and truly the whole experience and recording this

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Speaker 2: with Monique in my hotel room was truly one of

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Speaker 2: a kind. It was such a special opportunity not only

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Speaker 2: to join in community with so many people who prioritize

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Speaker 2: keynote skills and then moderate a panel that Monique was

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Speaker 2: on I sat on stage with I'm going to name

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Speaker 2: these quickly, Monique, Heather O'Reilly, who used to play on

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Speaker 2: the US women's national team, an olympian, katie's Afaris, who

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Speaker 2: So much amazingness on one stage. I've never been surrounded

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Speaker 3: But I digress back to Monique.

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Speaker 2: Like I said today, she is a player for the

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Speaker 2: Los Angeles Sparks, but she's also, without a doubt, one

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Speaker 2: of the most down to earth humans I've had the

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Speaker 2: she talks about getting into basketball at a young age

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Speaker 2: thanks to the encouragement of her father, and how she

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Speaker 2: has carved out this path for herself where sport doesn't

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Speaker 2: sentiments of what keeps her grounded, including her faith and

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Speaker 2: her bigger wellness practices like yoga and affirmations. And then

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Speaker 2: on that note, how we speak to ourselves. Monique offers

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Speaker 2: up some really solid advice on how to cultivate a

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Speaker 2: positive inner dialogue. Make sure you're following along with Hurdle

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Speaker 3: Wow, I did not intend for that all the rime,

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Speaker 3: And with that, let's get to it. Let's get it's

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Speaker 3: a hurdling Today. I'm sitting down with Monique Fillings. How

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Speaker 1: I'm fabulous, excited to be here, fabulous. We love it.

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Speaker 2: Big week for you, Like right off the bat, I

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Speaker 1: I really think I'm trying to figure that out. I'm grateful,

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Speaker 1: I'm excited, nervous. You know, there's a lot of big

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So for those that are just getting in the

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Speaker 1: Yes, your girls going home, going home.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't know. I'll get back to

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Speaker 1: Well, honestly, I feel like I just want to honor

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Speaker 2: So it's been okay. Yeah, it's been okay. I mean

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Speaker 1: I didn't feel like I was supposed to do it.

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Speaker 1: They kept us booked and busy in college, Like from

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Speaker 2: Is the ice bags on the knees like common knowledge?

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Speaker 2: Like was I supposed to know that y'all were icing

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Speaker 1: No, people would probably look at us like what are

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Speaker 1: I think it's just an athlete thing. Okay, yeah, tall

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Speaker 2: We were just like, you know, coexisting.

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Speaker 1: But I am the type that I'll just talk to anybody,

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Speaker 2: I love that and like what cool stories you have

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Speaker 3: Talk to me about draft day.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, so many just emotions that come with

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Speaker 1: I had my agent there, I had my family there.

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Speaker 1: Off the court? I would say the culture, the culture

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: What would you say, aside from being surrounded by so

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Speaker 1: I would just say the culture, Like the food scene.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so when you get drafted, put me in your shoes.

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Speaker 1: You're just like, oh my gosh, Okay, let me just

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Speaker 1: look cute on this camera, because I know there's cameras.

438
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Speaker 1: I know people are taking my picture, Like, let me

439
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 1: just look Okay. I definitely a sigh of relief. It's like, Okay,

440
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Speaker 1: I'm good. I know where I'm going. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And did you at first?

442
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Speaker 2: I mean, you had already been abroad at this point,

443
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,880
Speaker 2: but moving away from LA were their feelings that went

444
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Speaker 2: hand in him with that.

445
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Speaker 1: Yeah, leaving my family. I had a boyfriend at the time,

446
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,159
Speaker 1: leaving him, Like all those feelings and emotions, Like when

447
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:46,720
Speaker 1: I got to the airport in Atlanta, I cried, Yeah,

448
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:48,720
Speaker 1: like waiting for my bag. I just sat on the

449
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,879
Speaker 1: seat waiting for my bag and I just cried. But

450
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,400
Speaker 1: got my bags and then I was like, Okay, I'm

451
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 1: ready to start this new chapter.

452
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

453
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Speaker 2: Let's talk a little bit about how it feels to

454
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Speaker 2: try to mean a personal life when you are constantly

455
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 2: on the road going to and from games. Also still

456
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 2: traveling internationally. How does that feel for you?

457
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Speaker 1: It's all about balance for me. That's at the title

458
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Speaker 1: of my book, Finding Balance. It's just finding the things

459
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 1: that I can do to make me feel not burned

460
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 1: out from basketball, being able to have my social life

461
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 1: and the things that make me feel like my highest self.

462
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Speaker 1: So I would say my social life is pretty strong,

463
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 1: super intentional about who I allow into my space, what

464
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Speaker 1: I'm doing, where I'm at, Like, I am very specific

465
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 1: and particular about everything. But I love that because I

466
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,919
Speaker 1: think it just keeps me focused and being able to,

467
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Speaker 1: like I said, keep that balance.

468
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Speaker 2: Two things to double click on first and foremost, balance

469
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Speaker 2: and boundaries. For someone who hears you say I'm really

470
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Speaker 2: good with my boundaries and they're like, how do I

471
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Speaker 2: get better with my boundaries?

472
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Speaker 3: What is it that you tell them?

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Speaker 1: Well, I think you just need to assess what you're

474
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Speaker 1: feeling inside when you're in certain situations, what makes you

475
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 1: feel good, and it's like, Okay, I like how I

476
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,280
Speaker 1: feel right now, Let me do more of this, let

477
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Speaker 1: me add more of this into my life. But also

478
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,440
Speaker 1: listening to yourself when you're in situations that don't feel

479
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Speaker 1: so good and it's like, ooh, I don't like how

480
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Speaker 1: I'm feeling. My spirit is kind of all over. I'm

481
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Speaker 1: not grounded right now. What do I need to do

482
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Speaker 1: in the future to not put myself in this type

483
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Speaker 1: of situation. So I think it's just going within, listening

484
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Speaker 1: to yourself, evaluating, and then making decisions that will help

485
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Speaker 1: you in the future.

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Speaker 2: It's so interesting you say that knowing that after our conversations,

487
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Speaker 2: I at eight something, You're going to yoga, and this

488
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 2: is something that you know that maybe sleep could be nice,

489
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 2: but also going to yoga is going to make me

490
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Speaker 2: feel good. My future self is going to thank me

491
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Speaker 2: for the fact that I did something like this. And

492
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Speaker 2: I think that in practice, until you get to a

493
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Speaker 2: point where you are exercising your boundaries, doing something like

494
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 2: that can seem pretty daunting. It can feel overwhelming. It

495
00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,640
Speaker 2: can feel like I don't know how you. I can't

496
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 2: understand how you're able to execute this routine.

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Speaker 1: I think, well, for me being on the yoga mat,

498
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: that's my meed time, and I think everyone needs to

499
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: find what their meed time is. So no matter what

500
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 1: that looks like, like that's me putting my phone away

501
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:18,400
Speaker 1: kind of just separating myself from everything, and again that's

502
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,239
Speaker 1: me going within. That's my time for that. And so

503
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Speaker 1: I think it's important to find what works for you.

504
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 1: An eight pm yoga class might not work for everybody,

505
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Speaker 1: but there's something that will work for you. It's all

506
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Speaker 1: about trial and error.

507
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Speaker 2: It's all about trial and error. The other thing that

508
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Speaker 2: I wanted to double click on, of course.

509
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Speaker 3: The book. The book. What made you decide that you

510
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Speaker 3: wanted to write a book?

511
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Speaker 1: So I am so passionate about wellness and experiencing that

512
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Speaker 1: in my own life. I want my peers and other people,

513
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:53,160
Speaker 1: fan supporters, just everyone to be able to experience what

514
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,919
Speaker 1: wellness feels like, truly feels like. I was telling my

515
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 1: manager that and he was like, you need to write

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Speaker 1: a book. At the time, I'm twenty four. I'm like, yo,

517
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Speaker 1: twenty four year olds don't write books. Like, I'm not

518
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Speaker 1: trying to do that. But you know when you get

519
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 1: that nudge inside when spirits like, yo, this is what

520
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,439
Speaker 1: you need to do. So I was like, okay. I

521
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: at the time was playing overseas in Russia. It was winter,

522
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: so I had ample time to write this book. And yeah,

523
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Speaker 1: it was a beautiful process. I dedicated like my nights

524
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Speaker 1: to writing, and so I would come home from practice

525
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 1: or whatever and I was like, Okay, I'm gonna write

526
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: for a couple hours. And so yeah. During that process,

527
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Speaker 1: wrote the book and then went through getting an editor, illustrator.

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Speaker 1: All of that self published, no ghost writer. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: two years later, looking back on it, it's opened a

530
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Speaker 1: lot of doors for me, helped a lot of people,

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Speaker 1: which is the most important important part for me.

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Speaker 3: What did you learn about yourself in that process?

533
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Speaker 1: I learned not to doubt and not to overthink, because

534
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Speaker 1: when you're called to do something, you just got to

535
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Speaker 1: trust that that's your calling. You gotta answer it and

536
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:01,879
Speaker 1: you have to have tunnel vision when it comes to it.

537
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: And there was a lot of times in that process

538
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Speaker 1: where I did not have tunnel vision. I'm like, is

539
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Speaker 1: this really my calling? Like I said earlier, I feel

540
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Speaker 1: like twenty four year olds don't write books. That's so

541
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 1: not true. Anyone can write a book if you have

542
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 1: a story that you need to tell and that pulling

543
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: that is inside of you. Of like I want other people,

544
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Speaker 1: like I said, to experience a good thing, a positive thing.

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Speaker 1: So I would just say, like, trust your path, trust

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Speaker 1: your purpose, trust your path, don't overthink it, and keep

547
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Speaker 1: good people around you who will remind you that you

548
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Speaker 1: are on purpose. That was big for me during that

549
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Speaker 1: writing process.

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Speaker 3: Who were those people for you?

551
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Speaker 1: Definitely my manager, Chris Brown. Shout out to Chris because

552
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Speaker 1: he was the one that pushed me into writing that book.

553
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Speaker 1: My mom, my sister, just my close ones.

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Speaker 2: Taking a break from the show today to talk to

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Speaker 2: I really resonate with the sentiments you shared about questioning,

586
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Speaker 2: albeit briefly, your why right.

587
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 3: You were a like, is this really what I think

588
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: that I want to do?

589
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 2: And I think there's room for like a broader discussion

590
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 2: on that right, because I've been really big on this

591
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 2: mantra lately, where there's a why, there's a way. Knowing

592
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 2: that if you have a reason to do something. Then

593
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Speaker 2: you're going to figure out how to get it done,

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Speaker 2: even in the moments that it feels inconvenient, even on

595
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Speaker 2: the days where yoga is at eight o'clock, right Like,

596
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Speaker 2: you're going to figure out how to get done. But

597
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 2: that doesn't mean that there aren't going to be moments

598
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: where you might think like yeah, yeah, right right, And

599
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 2: I think yes, so much insecurity for you, outside of

600
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Speaker 2: writing the book, talk to me a little bit about

601
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Speaker 2: other things that you're passionate about that you have a

602
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: strong why for.

603
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Speaker 1: I think that is something that is constantly evolving for me.

604
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 1: So in this moment, I would say, my why is

605
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,239
Speaker 1: to be what I didn't have when I was growing up.

606
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Speaker 1: And that's just an example of strong black female who

607
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 1: is an athlete but also embodies beauty femininity. You know,

608
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,719
Speaker 1: when I was young, I looked up to Tyra Banks

609
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: and I was like, that's who I want to be

610
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Speaker 1: like when I'm older. But I didn't see the athletic

611
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 1: side as well. Like I'm athletic, my body type is athletic,

612
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: I am strong, and obviously being a basketball player, I

613
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 1: embody those things too. And I never saw both of

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Speaker 1: those things. And so, yeah, at this point in my life,

615
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to show that it's possible to

616
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Speaker 1: be both. You don't have to separate being an athlete

617
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Speaker 1: a woman's athlete, from being feminine and beauty in those things.

618
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Speaker 1: So that's what I'm trying to do in my career now.

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Speaker 2: I'm like trying to draw parallels between you and any

620
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Speaker 2: of the other WNBA players that I've interviewed, And you

621
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 2: do give off like such a different vibe and energy.

622
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Speaker 2: I mean you're very you are like you present super

623
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: soft in like a way that's like very like welcoming

624
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Speaker 2: and calming.

625
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Speaker 1: Oh thank you, that's such a nice yeah.

626
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Speaker 2: But I think that that's an example of like who,

627
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Speaker 2: how do you want to be perceived? And what are

628
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 2: you doing when you sit down with someone and like

629
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: speak with them and give them your energy?

630
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Speaker 3: Like why are you a certain way?

631
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Speaker 2: And if you're not the way that you're hoping that

632
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 2: you're presenting, what's preventing you from being that way? I

633
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 2: think so often we have these assumptions or misconceptions about

634
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 2: what might happen if we be ourselves.

635
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: And if you're worried.

636
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Speaker 2: About being who you really are, then I would go

637
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Speaker 2: as far as to say that you're surrounding yourself with

638
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 2: the wrong people.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I think too. It's okay to not be

640
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 1: for everybody. I'm not for everybody, like my self, spokenness,

641
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: my faith is big for me, Like I know that

642
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: I'm called to be the salt light and sweet fragrance

643
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,479
Speaker 1: of the earth. That's not for everybody, and that's okay.

644
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I need to prove anything to

645
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: anyone or be something that I am so comfortable in

646
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: who I am and how I show up, and I

647
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 1: know that that confidence makes a lot of people uncomfortable.

648
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: But I have to understand, or I've come to understand,

649
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: that a lot of people just project people don't like

650
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: who they are inside, so they're gonna hate on someone

651
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 1: who does like who they are inside. And I think

652
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 1: I've gotten to a point where I don't allow that

653
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 1: to hurt me anymore. But when I was younger, I

654
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 1: would say it definitely bothered me because I didn't understand,

655
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: like I don't talk mess about people. I'm in my

656
00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: own lane, doing my own thing, Like why is so

657
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 1: and so hating on me? But it's just a part

658
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 1: of the process of when you know who you are,

659
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: Like that's gonna come.

660
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 2: Do you remember the turning point or the hurdle moment

661
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 2: that maybe you got to a point where you understood

662
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 2: the benefit of what you just said, where you stopped

663
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 2: caring so much about what other people think.

664
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's always been a process. I don't

665
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: think it was just like one moment, but I think

666
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: there were a lot of moments that I've collected, starting

667
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 1: I would say probably in like elementary and then high school,

668
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: middle school, and then high school. Like there's just all

669
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: these moments that have led me to where I am

670
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 1: today where I can confidently just walk and have peace

671
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: and just know like this is who I am, this

672
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: is how I'm showing up.

673
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,479
Speaker 2: So Yeah, for someone that struggles embodying the confidence that

674
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 2: they know is deep within, do you have any tips

675
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 2: for them?

676
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 1: I would tell that person to find what they admire

677
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 1: about someone who they deeply admire, maybe it's a celebrity,

678
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: a friend, and then try to embody those qualities, like

679
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: what about that person makes you feel good when you're

680
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: around someone and their or their energy, their spirit, Try

681
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 1: to embody those things.

682
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 2: I feel like you're going to have a good answer

683
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 2: to this, and I'm sorry if I'm putting you on

684
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 2: the spot, what are your biggest values?

685
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: Biggest values my faith, being a Christian, my family, living

686
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: on purpose.

687
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 3: Elaborate on what it means for you to live on purpose.

688
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: Living on purpose for me is being true to myself,

689
00:33:56,640 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 1: walking in my authenticity, and like I said earlier, being

690
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: a light that's walking in my purpose.

691
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: I ask you what your values are because I believe

692
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 2: that when you can concretely articulate what it is that's

693
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 2: important to you, then it's no surprise to me that

694
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 2: you feel good standing in your confidence, that you feel

695
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 2: good upholding your boundaries. And so for others, it's a

696
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 2: point of frustration when they can't execute these things because

697
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 2: they haven't taken the time to do the work to

698
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 2: solidify who it is that they are.

699
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: It's a practice, like, yes, just how I started playing

700
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 1: basketball at five years old. I'm twenty seven now. It

701
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: has been a practice. I didn't come out the gate

702
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 1: getting buckets, you know, dropping dimes. It's a process and

703
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,200
Speaker 1: you just have to give yourself grace because it's still

704
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: a practice for me, Like I'm saying all these things,

705
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:57,239
Speaker 1: but I am challenged daily in Okay, this person just

706
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: irritated me. Am I going to show up in the

707
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 1: way that I know I'm supposed.

708
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 2: To show up?

709
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 1: Or am I going to go lower than how I

710
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: know I'm supposed to show up? And so I'm constantly

711
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: challenged in that and sometimes I pass the test, sometimes

712
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: I don't. But it's like, I just have to realize that,

713
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 1: take a second, reground myself, give myself grace, and just

714
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 1: keep going.

715
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 2: In the execution of what you just described. How do

716
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 2: you get to a place where you don't get down

717
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 2: on yourself for actions that maybe you aren't so proud

718
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: of when you reflect.

719
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: That's a practice too, I would just say, learning how

720
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: to give myself grace, learning how to talk to myself

721
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 1: like I would want a friend to talk to myself,

722
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: because it doesn't feel good when you're just tearing yourself down.

723
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: And lately I've been really trying to focus on choosing

724
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: the right thoughts, choosing thoughts that are empowering for me,

725
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: and understanding that my thoughts create my reality. So if

726
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: I'm speaking negatively to myself, thinking negative things like that,

727
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 1: stuff is going to show up in my life. But

728
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: if I am empowering myself, speaking life into myself, that

729
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: stuff is going to show up too, And so it's

730
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: kind of just like a switch that you have to flip.

731
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: And I'd be flipping that switch all the time because

732
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 1: I'm human, Like we're all human. We go through those

733
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 1: negative emotions and things that don't feel so good. But

734
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: you have to just practice and learn how to pull

735
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,320
Speaker 1: yourself up, just like you would want a friend or

736
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: a family member. It's like giving yourself a huk.

737
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: Energy attracts like energy, let's put it into practice, right,

738
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 2: So you're telling me that you have been consciously choosing

739
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,760
Speaker 2: thoughts that lift you up exactly?

740
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 3: Hi, Yes, okay, we're making it. Got for care, exemplify

741
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 3: that for me.

742
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: Yeah. So last night, I've been traveling a lot lately.

743
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: I'm exhausted. This has been a big week signing with

744
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: the Sparks, Like it's been hectic, beautiful. I'm excited about it,

745
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: but just like a lot. And so yesterday I was like, dang,

746
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 1: like I haven't had me time, I haven't been able

747
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:54,080
Speaker 1: to do this. But then it's like I had to

748
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: change that because I'm like I prayed for all of this,

749
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 1: Like my dreams are literally happening, Like, let me just

750
00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,879
Speaker 1: enjoy this because these moments aren't gonna last forever. And

751
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: I literally felt a shift in my body and then

752
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 1: I just felt like just I don't know how to

753
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: explain it, but just so much more positive in that moment,

754
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 1: shifting my thoughts, changing the negativity from Dang, I'm tired,

755
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: I'm irritated, I have to stay up late, I'm packing.

756
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 1: But it's like no, I get to like, I'm packing

757
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 1: clothes that were sent to me by athleta, you know whatever,

758
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 1: and just all these opportunities and it's like wow, like

759
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 1: this is the life.

760
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, And as you say it like that, I can

761
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 2: even envision or visualize this to be an exercise that

762
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 2: someone who may not really be good at this just

763
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: yet can do on their own. So if you feel

764
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 2: or you know, think a negative thought, ye recognize their

765
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 2: negative thought. Write that negative thought down. Then maybe there's

766
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 2: another negative thought that comes with that negative thought.

767
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 3: Write that down too.

768
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 2: To the right of that, ask yourself, how can I

769
00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:58,799
Speaker 2: reframe this to work for me?

770
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 3: What is it that my opportunity is.

771
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 2: Now that I've recognized what is which is the first

772
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 2: step to changing anything, right, then what can I do

773
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 2: with this circumstance and that doesn't mean that you know

774
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 2: overnight you're going to be able to reframe and maybe

775
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 2: put a positive spin on all of your thoughts. I

776
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 2: think there's some statistic and I'm going to get it

777
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 2: wrong now, but it's I mean a majority of our

778
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 2: thoughts are negative every single day. So we have then

779
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 2: the opportunity to decide how we react to those thoughts,

780
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,320
Speaker 2: knowing that we are not our thoughts.

781
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: And I want to add, like, people don't have to

782
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:34,280
Speaker 1: be fake about it. Don't just say something just because

783
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 1: you're supposed to say it. And I'm saying that with

784
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: quotations because having a positive mind. Everyone wants to have

785
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: a positive mind. But it's like, I don't want people

786
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 1: to have to fake it or feel like thang. I'm

787
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 1: saying these things, but I'm not really feeling it. It's

788
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 1: just about finding perspective.

789
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 2: This is how I feel about the power of like

790
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 2: affirmations or mantras, like I'm a very like, realistic but

791
00:38:55,680 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 2: positive mantra person, like I can I will do good,

792
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 2: Like I just think about things that feel accessible to me.

793
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 2: If thinking like really grand is something that feels right

794
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 2: for you, I am not the person to tell you

795
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 2: not to do it. But I know that for me,

796
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,480
Speaker 2: the way that positive affirmation is and mantras work is

797
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 2: it's like, let's keep them in a wheelhouse that actually

798
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 2: feels accessible.

799
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: I like that.

800
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that a lot. You mentioned packing up

801
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 2: your athletic suit case. You are an Athleta ambassador. Talk

802
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 2: to me about what that journey has been like for you.

803
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 1: So surreal. When I was a rookie, I wrote down

804
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,399
Speaker 1: brands and companies that I would want to work with.

805
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: Athleta was on that list, and I was presented with

806
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 1: this opportunity a year ago. And so yeah, being one

807
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:42,919
Speaker 1: of their athletes is just mind blowing because I wrote

808
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 1: it down, but I didn't know it was actually gonna happen.

809
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 3: What else have you written down that's happened for you?

810
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: I feel like we got to dig into that, man.

811
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: I mean, I've worked with so many cool brands and partners,

812
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: Like last year, I think in March, I wrote down

813
00:39:56,800 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 1: I wanted to work with Hyundai. Got that opportunity last November,

814
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: which was super cool. Wrote down. I definitely wrote down

815
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: that I wanted to go to LA or play for LA.

816
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 1: That's happening now. I wrote down I wanted to buy

817
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 1: a house, and I was kind of specific I wrote down.

818
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:14,000
Speaker 1: I was like, I want to buy a house with

819
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 1: the pool. Bought the house with the pool. Yeah, so

820
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: I've been blessed. I've been blessed. You know.

821
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 2: I really do think that, like vision boarding or manifesting,

822
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 2: is probably one of those practices that has so much

823
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 2: resistance around it. I think it's like one thing to

824
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,840
Speaker 2: write down a positive affirmation, but it's another thing to

825
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 2: put on the wall, like here's my photo, here's Oprah,

826
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 2: and like Oprah and I are gonna have a sit

827
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 2: down together. Like that just feels for some to be

828
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:47,800
Speaker 2: quite inaccessible. For you, when you were doing this exercise

829
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 2: of writing down things that excited you or that you

830
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:54,359
Speaker 2: wanted to happen in your future, were there any parameters

831
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 2: around it.

832
00:40:55,840 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 1: That's a good question. Yeah, maybe, But I think I

833
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 1: try to just dream as big as I could, and

834
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: when I write these things down, I am writing it

835
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 1: down and I feel like I know it's coming from

836
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 1: from God, from within, and it's like, okay, if this

837
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,920
Speaker 1: is meant to be, like, please present this to me

838
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 1: like I'm open to receive it, and me knowing that

839
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: I'm on the right path. No, matter what, and just

840
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 1: trusting that I know that what's presented to me is

841
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 1: for me and whatever is not whatever is not for me,

842
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: it just wasn't meant to be. And that's totally okay.

843
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 2: That radical acceptance is also something that takes practice. Yeah,

844
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 2: I feel as though in my life lately, I've been

845
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 2: working to get to this place where I am okay

846
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 2: with accepting things as they come and being a little

847
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 2: less rigid about trying to make it all happen for myself,

848
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 2: and that I can do the work and put my

849
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: all into things. But know that the eighteenth follow up email, Like,

850
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:06,879
Speaker 2: if you're sending an eighteen follow up email, that means

851
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:08,360
Speaker 2: this wasn't for you in the first place.

852
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, probably not. Ye know.

853
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 2: That's so hard though, especially when there's something that you're

854
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 2: really going after.

855
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 3: Right.

856
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,399
Speaker 1: There's a mantra that I like to live by. It's

857
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 1: called flow and and the F is focus, L live

858
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: in the energy, oh, outcome, detachment and w's work.

859
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 3: Okay, where did this come from?

860
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 1: I don't remember. I think a couple of years ago.

861
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,439
Speaker 1: I might have heard it on a podcast or read

862
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 1: it somewhere. But that's how I try to live my life.

863
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: Just being in the flow, so focus, living in the energy, outcome, detachment,

864
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 1: putting in the work. And I feel like when you

865
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: do that, you're just surrendering and just allowing what's for

866
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 1: you to come and just trusting that you're going to

867
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: be guided, You're going to be protected, you're going to

868
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: be end up right where you're supposed to be, right.

869
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 2: On time, right on time. So now in this new

870
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 2: chapter with the Sparks, I.

871
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: Want to interrupt. This is a new book, even a

872
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 1: new chapter. We are in a new book.

873
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:04,240
Speaker 3: She turned the page.

874
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 2: She closed the popes, Like, in this new book with

875
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 2: the Sparks, what would you say is the most exciting

876
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: thing for you?

877
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 1: I am going to reach my potential in this new book.

878
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 1: I'm excited because I feel like I haven't even scratched

879
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 1: the surface on who I know that I can be

880
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: and what's inside of me. And that's one scary, but

881
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: two very exciting. And I just know that there's going

882
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 1: to be opportunity there for.

883
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 3: Me elaborate, like I'm reaching my potential.

884
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 2: Like what in your you close your eyes, you envision

885
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: your biggest potential, You envision what's meant for you, Like

886
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 2: what's on the board.

887
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 1: I'm just trusting that there's going to be so much

888
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 1: alignment on the court off the court, I am expected.

889
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:55,320
Speaker 1: I am believing that I'm going to be the basketball

890
00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: player that I know I can be. I'm going to

891
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: reach the milestones, the goals that I have. That's what

892
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 1: I'm feeling.

893
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 2: What is the most difficult part for you right now?

894
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 3: When it comes to the game.

895
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: Overthinking? Like I'm saying all this stuff about not being

896
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 1: in your head again, it's a practice. The girl will

897
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: be in her head sometimes and I overthink and question

898
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 1: and man, is this really meant for me? You know?

899
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:25,439
Speaker 1: Am I supposed to be doing this?

900
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 3: What do you do when those intrusive thoughts come in?

901
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 1: When those thoughts come in, one pray to I have

902
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 1: a circle of people, my chosen family, who kind of

903
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: bring me back in and remind me of my light,

904
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,320
Speaker 1: remind me of who I am, because it is easy

905
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 1: to get lost in the saw sometimes like that's real,

906
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: But I have people around me who help to remind me.

907
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: And then another thing, I scrolled through my camera roll,

908
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:54,760
Speaker 1: I will through my camera role and I'm just like, wow,

909
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,880
Speaker 1: there's been like through over the years and just remember

910
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:01,320
Speaker 1: one who I am remember the places I've gone, opportunities

911
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 1: that I have, and I feel like that gives me

912
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 1: just a sense of joy and just reminds me of

913
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: all that I am.

914
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 2: You mentioned holistic wellness being extremely important to you. I

915
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 2: would love to know, aside from integrating yoga regularly into

916
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 2: your routine, what are certain things that are part of

917
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 2: your regular practice.

918
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, my morning ritual. So for me, it's prayer, it's meditation,

919
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 1: it's listening to positive sound bites YouTube you know, or podcasts,

920
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 1: just fueling myself, fueling myself mentally and spiritually, eating the

921
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 1: right foods, foods that my body likes. And it's not

922
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,800
Speaker 1: always the super healthy option, like sometimes I'm going to

923
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 1: eat a donut burger, But for the most part, for

924
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,319
Speaker 1: the most part, I am super healthy and discipline with

925
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 1: my diet. Yeah, I would say those are my biggest practices,

926
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: All about just listening to yourself and what you want,

927
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 1: what you like, and what makes you feel good, what

928
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: fuels you that helps me in my holistic wellness.

929
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 2: Do you have like certain podcasts that you lean into regularly,

930
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 2: or certain YouTube accounts that you go to.

931
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, elaborate.

932
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 1: Okay, podcasts in Hindsight. He's amazing balanced. Black Girl is

933
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: my good friend. Hey yeah, I like her podcast. Jay

934
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: Shetty's podcast is cool Ed Milette. Those are a couple

935
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,800
Speaker 1: of my favorites that I'll go back to. Mark Manson

936
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: just came out with a podcast. I really like his

937
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 1: podcast too. YouTube wise, what am I listening to? There's

938
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 1: a prayer channel on YouTube. I think it's called like

939
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 1: Living for a Purpose. So when I wake up in

940
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:37,359
Speaker 1: the morning, like, that's what I put on when I'm

941
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 1: getting ready. Those are essentially my affirmations. It's like prayers

942
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: and Bible versus. So I feel like that is something

943
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: that really feels me too.

944
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:49,879
Speaker 2: Question Mark Donut Burger, Yes, elaborate on that as well.

945
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 1: So I'm going to give a shout out to one

946
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,400
Speaker 1: of my favorite restaurants in LA It's called oh My Burger,

947
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 1: and they have a burger it's called the Luther's Two

948
00:46:57,239 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: Krispy Kreme Donuts. It's burger patty cheese, bacon, and then

949
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 1: you've got to get the side of fries, which is

950
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 1: the garlic fries, and then you've got to get the

951
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: peach cobbler milkshake.

952
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 2: The array of flavors that just like, hey, I am,

953
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 2: I'm having a moment. I'm gonna be in LA in

954
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,240
Speaker 2: March and then in May.

955
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: So it's ten minutes from the airport too. This is

956
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 1: gonna happen.

957
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, So you're saying there should be a line at

958
00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:24,879
Speaker 2: this spot and not the in and out drive through

959
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 2: right before La.

960
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. For sure, for sure, But actually no,

961
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 1: because well I don't want to gate keep. But you know,

962
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 1: if there's a line at my spot, then you know

963
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: that's kind of messed up.

964
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 3: That's kind of messed up.

965
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 2: But you tipped everybody off right, right, you're not gatekeeping anything. Okay,

966
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 2: So we have the occasional doughnut burger, but bigger than that,

967
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 2: we're talking about foods and things that fill us up,

968
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 2: that help us feel our best self to go throughout

969
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 2: the rest of the day.

970
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 3: Clearly, morning routine super important to you. Do you have

971
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 3: a wind down routine?

972
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 1: I do, so I have a morning routine. For me.

973
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 1: It's good to have like a midday rest. I love

974
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: a nap, but even if I can't take a nap,

975
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: just taking some time off my phone and maybe just

976
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: just being still for a little bit and then yeah,

977
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 1: in the evening. I give myself a little bit more

978
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:17,840
Speaker 1: flexibility when it comes to my evening routine just because

979
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: it's not as easy for me to plan where I'm

980
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 1: going to be or if I'm on the road traveling,

981
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: so it looks different. But definitely again trying to be

982
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: off my phone, trying to have good habits, so whether

983
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: that is meditating or reading a book. I've been trying

984
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: to implement that in twenty twenty four.

985
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 2: So yeah, you're giving me an opportunity to ask you

986
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: what's the why behind wanting to integrate reading more often

987
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:45,919
Speaker 2: into your routine.

988
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:50,320
Speaker 1: Man less screen time reading and for me physical books

989
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:51,839
Speaker 1: like I got to hold the book. I don't want

990
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 1: to be on a kindle or anything like that. But

991
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 1: knowledge is power, and if I know, like there's places

992
00:48:57,960 --> 00:48:59,879
Speaker 1: that I'm trying to get to, then I know that

993
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 1: my mind I need to put my mind to work.

994
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,439
Speaker 2: So this is a great example of having a why

995
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 2: for a goal. Right, So, like say, if your goal

996
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 2: is do you have a specific amount of pages or

997
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 2: like a book goal, you're trying to.

998
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: Hit twelve this year?

999
00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:14,920
Speaker 2: Okay, so great example. You know that you want to

1000
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 2: read twelve books over the year, you have this strong

1001
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 2: why rooted.

1002
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 3: In who you want to be. Also less screen time.

1003
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 2: Like so many things, someone may have the same goal,

1004
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 2: but their why is because they quote unquote feel like

1005
00:49:28,080 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 2: they should.

1006
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:29,959
Speaker 3: That's not a good why.

1007
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So this is a really good example of

1008
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:36,839
Speaker 2: like setting a goal and knowing exactly what the root

1009
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 2: is that you want to go for.

1010
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1011
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:42,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, So moving forward for you. So the house is in.

1012
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,280
Speaker 1: La that you know the house is in Atlanta.

1013
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:47,240
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, what's happening in the house.

1014
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: So it's an investment property. Okay, Okay, it's getting rented out,

1015
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: so it's making money.

1016
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 3: It's making money. Are we going to buy another house

1017
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 3: in LA.

1018
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 1: I mean that's definitely the plan. Definitely the plan.

1019
00:49:59,120 --> 00:49:59,959
Speaker 3: Definitely the plan.

1020
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 2: And what would you say has been one of the

1021
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 2: most difficult moments of your pro career?

1022
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 1: Most difficult moment for me. I just feel like I've

1023
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 1: always been an underdog, Like even since high school. I

1024
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: feel like I've been slept on, always having to like

1025
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 1: prove myself, have this chip on my shoulder. But I

1026
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:22,799
Speaker 1: also feel like that has allowed me to make it

1027
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 1: to where I am today because I have to outwork

1028
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: people and I'm not going to say, I have to

1029
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:31,320
Speaker 1: prove myself, but I can never be comfortable.

1030
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:36,440
Speaker 2: I can never be comfortable. What do you think that

1031
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 2: lack of comfortability does for your game?

1032
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 1: I would say it just always makes me want to

1033
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 1: get to that next level. Like I'm not complacent. I

1034
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: know that if I do something well, maybe in a game,

1035
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: celebrate that for the night, but then the next day

1036
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 1: it's like back to work. Like I never just want

1037
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 1: to be content or just stuck in one place of Oh,

1038
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 1: I'm good. It's like, no, I know that there's warn

1039
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 1: me like, yeah, I'm in a good spot. Maybe you're

1040
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 1: in a good place and I feel good about my

1041
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 1: performance or where I'm at in my life, but there's

1042
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: more to get done, there's more ceilings to shatter.

1043
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 2: You feel as though you've always been an underdog. Has

1044
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 2: there been like a conversation or interactions that you've been

1045
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 2: a part of where that has been told to you

1046
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: as well.

1047
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: No, I would say it's more shown instead of told.

1048
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 1: Being slept on for different opportunities.

1049
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 3: Oh, I feel like there's something there.

1050
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: There's a lot there. There's a lot there, but it's

1051
00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 1: a part of the journey.

1052
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:35,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, part of the journey. Wow, she's so kind.

1053
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, I just don't need to give this

1054
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 2: any energy, you need to give any air.

1055
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a.

1056
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:44,480
Speaker 3: Really interesting point, right.

1057
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:46,800
Speaker 2: That's another example of there's just so much power in

1058
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:50,359
Speaker 2: the perspective. It's like you recognize, like, Okay, maybe I've

1059
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:51,960
Speaker 2: been slept on for this, but like I'm not going

1060
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 2: to give my energy to that anymore.

1061
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:55,880
Speaker 3: Like I'm focused on what's coming next, exactly.

1062
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: I never want to be like woe is me or

1063
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 1: look on and look at outer things that I can't control.

1064
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 1: I can't control being stepped on. I can control the

1065
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 1: work that I do. I can control getting to a

1066
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 1: place where I feel good and knowing that I'm putting

1067
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 1: out my best work, knowing that I'm showing up as

1068
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 1: my best and if people continue to sleep, I feel

1069
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,280
Speaker 1: good about what I'm doing. Getting to that point.

1070
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:18,760
Speaker 3: Oh, it's so valuable.

1071
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,839
Speaker 2: It's such a good place to be because you are

1072
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 2: showing up and putting on so much work. What would

1073
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:27,319
Speaker 2: you say might be a little bit different about your

1074
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:29,279
Speaker 2: game compared to someone who may not have that.

1075
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:31,040
Speaker 3: Let's say that dog and I'm like that.

1076
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: Oh, extra work is going to eight pm yoga class

1077
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 1: it's eating the right things. It's more than just the

1078
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:43,720
Speaker 1: stuff that's on the court. It's watching film, it's mentally

1079
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:47,239
Speaker 1: preparing myself. It's being diligent about how I'm spending my

1080
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 1: time on the court. It's making sure I'm getting the

1081
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,279
Speaker 1: reps so I feel prepared. And that confidence comes from preparation.

1082
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 1: So it's just being super disciplined and just diligent in

1083
00:52:57,840 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 1: my routines.

1084
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:00,439
Speaker 3: What excites you right now?

1085
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: I am excited about opportunity.

1086
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:06,280
Speaker 3: Opportunity.

1087
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 2: When someone comes to your Instagram page, they see this

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Speaker 2: WNBA player also an athletic ambassador with so many followers.

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Speaker 2: When you look in the mirror, what is it that

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Speaker 2: you see looking back at you.

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Speaker 1: I'm really happy with who I see in the mirror.

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Speaker 1: I feel like when I was a young girl, this

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Speaker 1: is who I envision, This is who I want it

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Speaker 1: to be, and so being her is just like, oh bang, okay,

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Speaker 1: we're here. Let me continue to envision, like what's next?

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Speaker 1: Where are we going next? When I look in the mirror,

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Speaker 1: I feel encouraged and empowered.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's really strong stuff. How does it feel

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Speaker 2: to say something like that?

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Speaker 1: I mean, in the most humble way possible. Like, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to come off like cocky or pretentious or

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Speaker 1: anything like that, but saying that, it's it's real, Like,

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Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm living in my truth. I'm

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Speaker 1: living in my power, and I have so much more

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Speaker 1: room to grow and to continue to become. And so

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Speaker 1: that's also what's excites me. There's just so much more

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Speaker 1: that I can reach for.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right now, you have an opportunity to offer yourself

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Speaker 2: a piece of advice. Let's go back to the beginning

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Speaker 2: of your professional career, knowing what you know now, going

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Speaker 2: through the highs, the lows, the hurdles that come hand

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Speaker 2: in hand with being fresh on the scene. What do

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Speaker 2: you tell yourself?

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Speaker 1: Rookie Monique was trying to rush and trying to race

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Speaker 1: to get to where I am now, and it's gone

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Speaker 1: so fast. I would tell her to enjoy the moment

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Speaker 1: by enjoying the view on the way up the mountaintop,

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Speaker 1: not just when you get to the top of the mountain.

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Speaker 3: We love it.

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Speaker 2: For those that don't follow along with you just yet,

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Speaker 2: tell us, give us the info.

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Speaker 3: How do they keep up with you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Instagram, Twitter, all that good stuff.

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Speaker 2: Monique Billings, Monique Billings I'm over at Emiliabadi and at

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Speaker 2: her podcast.

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Speaker 3: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.