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Speaker 1: Craziest true stories on Earth. I'm Sophia, and John should

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Speaker 2: M Why am I getting a sneaking, sneaky suspicion that

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Speaker 1: Boss. Who's a woman?

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Speaker 2: My boss? Wo's a woman? Yeah, women can be bossed.

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Speaker 1: Boss's pigs. Like that old joke about the doctor and

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Speaker 2: That one that I totally know and don't not.

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Speaker 1: Know, the one where it's like my brother was dying

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Speaker 2: And ever him was like, what why does that sound

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Speaker 2: like a joker. I'm just throwing Riley under the bus today,

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Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen, and Riley is attacking Sophia. That's the

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Speaker 2: circle that's happening right now?

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Speaker 1: Oh did I miss something attacking me? Apparently he woke

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Speaker 3: I just want you to read this story.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, but I am going to say that

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Speaker 2: I think it's like something actually totally innocent, actually good,

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Speaker 2: like starting something when it's nothing. Riley has a giant

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Speaker 3: I was trying to find this meme earlier and I

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Speaker 1: Look who's distracting us?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 2: The audience will love it?

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Speaker 1: Can we please talk about the experiment who just made sandwiches?

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Speaker 1: Throughout the entire series on Lelan Stitch, look at him.

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Speaker 2: He's cute, friendly order that Rube has had the same

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Speaker 2: baking sandwiches. Best invention ever. I do not remember this

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Speaker 1: Okay, So commercial video four four seven says I, female

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Speaker 1: thirty five, have two similar stories that I've been involved in,

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Speaker 1: This happened many years ago. My family and I went

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Speaker 1: When one party is feeling miserable in their relationship. This

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Speaker 1: is more of a date style restaurant, waterfront views, candles,

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Speaker 1: In and out?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Word, I'm like I'm almost like going to like

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Speaker 1: Well at this point, where do we are they the

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that's kind of tough because we don't know

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Speaker 3: But she's asking if the family, not the guy, but

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Speaker 1: I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: I think the mom LOOKI is saying, you need to

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't have done it in front of the not yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure they're gonna like just get married.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, No, I think that I think it was

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Speaker 1: Well, there's more to the story. This was about a

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Speaker 1: Dan was lying to her. She begged us not to

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Speaker 1: Well. A week before the pre engagement, Bella's mum was

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Speaker 1: Through their conversation, my Auntie asked about Dan, and this

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Speaker 2: Whoa whoa Opie's family drama. The magnet of knowing these

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Speaker 2: like nefarious secrets of these Yeah, like people keep.

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Speaker 1: Coming to them and I'm like, I have a secret.

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Speaker 3: God, I think, Okay, this is my speculation. I think

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Speaker 3: It's because of that the role they play intriguing.

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Speaker 1: These things they keep. They keep their like freaking detectives true,

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Speaker 1: I'm quite proud of my mom for keeping her mouth shut.

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Speaker 1: like we're just we're doing a lot of them what's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, does your legs hurt from jumping to all these conclusions?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry, Brovi though, that's really hard. Before you

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Speaker 3: Before you guys say anything? PSA if they are, you know,

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Speaker 3: And I'm great with barrett'st So, but what do you

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Speaker 2: you know, knowing the kind of context of like, I

441
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 2: think that they will be able to find good, loving partners,

442
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 2: knowing how you know, what incredible women they are, and

443
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,800
Speaker 2: it's just trying to save them from a potentially horrible marriage,

444
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:55,199
Speaker 2: you know.

445
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that. I think again, what we

446
00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:01,840
Speaker 1: said earlier about like maybe the mom john the gun, Yeah, yes,

447
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 1: but I think intentions in that moment were in the

448
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:08,199
Speaker 1: right place. And I think overall, I don't think you

449
00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,159
Speaker 1: guys are the Ahles, especially enough for what happened to

450
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 1: with Bella, because you kept your mouth shut, you brought

451
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,439
Speaker 1: like you did the right thing. You brought it to

452
00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,960
Speaker 1: Bella one on one, yes, and then didn't say anything

453
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:20,639
Speaker 1: to anyone until someone else brought it up.

454
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,480
Speaker 2: Really learned, I think learned from the first experience of like, Okay,

455
00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 2: my mom is like went a little hard there, so

456
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:26,920
Speaker 2: let me let me do it this way.

457
00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: I think the only thing you can do is tell

458
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 1: the person and it's up to them to decide what

459
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Speaker 1: to do.

460
00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:33,560
Speaker 2: At that point, the thing is it's out of your hands.

461
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 1: It's out of your hands.

462
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,720
Speaker 2: You pass, you've given the information you're done. Anything more

463
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,360
Speaker 2: is like, that's that's meddling. Would you do anything more?

464
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:42,639
Speaker 1: But I mean it's hard.

465
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really hard because like I feel like if

466
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,320
Speaker 2: I'm imagining myself in that scenario and you're kind of

467
00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 2: just sitting there watching it unfold, you like I understand

468
00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:56,040
Speaker 2: the urge to like want to be like like, let

469
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:58,119
Speaker 2: me help you, you know. But hope you did the

470
00:21:58,200 --> 00:21:58,480
Speaker 2: right thing.

471
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, Ip, it's all right, yes, correct.

472
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 3: And you could do the right thing by doing what

473
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: by reading this? Next door?

474
00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:10,880
Speaker 2: Let's do it. I cheated on my wife when we

475
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 2: were separated? Am I the A hole?

476
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:15,720
Speaker 1: Is this ross from friends?

477
00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:20,479
Speaker 2: We were on a break? Whoa is it? They could be?

478
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 2: I heard he loves the show? What David Swimmer? Wait

479
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,120
Speaker 2: what I'm lying. I'm literally I'm literally telling a bold

480
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:32,520
Speaker 2: face lie to you right now. I just expectations.

481
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 1: I got so excited. That's really disappointing.

482
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:41,440
Speaker 2: This is not David Swimmer. This is op Okay.

483
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 1: I don't even care about the story.

484
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:44,919
Speaker 2: I'm done. I'm done.

485
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: I'm walking off stet. Yeah, let's find out what happened.

486
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what do you what do you think? Do

487
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:55,880
Speaker 2: you do you think there's actual waits. Do you think

488
00:22:55,920 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 2: there's like cheating when separated? That's the kind of text

489
00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 2: that we have.

490
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 1: I think it depends on how long you've been separated

491
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 1: for that, because sometimes people get like separated because they

492
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,400
Speaker 1: just don't want to go through the process of divorce

493
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 1: at the moment. But like in all like they know.

494
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 2: That they're you know, yeah, they've like communicated. Hey we're separated,

495
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 2: even divorced officially or whatever.

496
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: I think it's about communich yah shown And also yeah,

497
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm going to I'm gonna say yes because it seems

498
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 1: like there wasn't communication.

499
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:28,639
Speaker 2: That's true. I'm going to say no. With how much

500
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 2: cheating when we separated, I'm going to say no.

501
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 1: So, yeah, we'll see because I know either way, I

502
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 1: just need a little memory.

503
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 2: Well let's find out. So Burt Toast says to Love

504
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 2: that my wife and I both forty, have been together

505
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 2: for fifteen years. Wow, it's a long time.

506
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:52,160
Speaker 3: According to Sam's cheating scale.

507
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 2: Have you heard about this? No, Sam's cheating scale? What's

508
00:23:55,080 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 2: Sam's You can cheat once for every four We're so

509
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 2: throwing him under the bus.

510
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:08,400
Speaker 1: Wrong, that's not correct. For all you okob Vans out

511
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 1: there there, is no cheating scale. Someone cheats on you,

512
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:13,680
Speaker 1: don't stay in that relationship.

513
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 2: We'll love to bring it back when he's on the

514
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 2: show later today.

515
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 3: Fifteen years, that's three trending towards four.

516
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 2: Dude.

517
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, like zero.

518
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 2: This this person is like well within their bounds as

519
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 2: far as Sam's cheating scale trade TM. The past three

520
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:35,360
Speaker 2: years were turbulent and we fought all the time until

521
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 2: about a year ago when we decided we need time

522
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 2: apart or to separate, okay, So we chose the first option,

523
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 2: time apart.

524
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: Okay, So they were technically separated, yes, time apart, not separated.

525
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it looks like that they were on a break.

526
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 2: They're on a break time off. The first period we

527
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 2: went no contact at all, but then we started texting

528
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 2: and meetingful lun et cetera, and dates and whatnot. We

529
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 2: talked about the problems. I felt miserable without her, and

530
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 2: I hoped she did too, because I missed her every day.

531
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 2: The problems that we always fought about, the mundane stuff

532
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,360
Speaker 2: were so trivial now, and we talked about how our

533
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 2: issues were really non issues. She said she loved and

534
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 2: missed me so much, and I felt so much relief

535
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 2: that she felt the same way. So I confess that

536
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 2: I was miserable without her and how our problems were

537
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 2: nothing compared to not being with her. That's sweet, that's nice,

538
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 2: until you became a dirty, cheating scoundrel. Ah just kidding.

539
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 2: Maybe we'll see. We made a plan to reconcile about

540
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: a month ago, and she moved back home. So now, okay,

541
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: separation period over time apart period over freak ovah. Before

542
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 2: we separated, we discussed what we are allowed to do

543
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 2: during our separation. She said that she didn't want to

544
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,159
Speaker 2: sleep with others, but that I was free to do

545
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 2: it because we will be jit separated and she doesn't

546
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 2: have a right to decide over me while we aren't

547
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 2: a couple.

548
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, so there was communication.

549
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:11,920
Speaker 2: Op, he has permission.

550
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 1: Hope he has permission to.

551
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 2: Sleep with other people.

552
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know how healthy that will. I don't

553
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 1: know that will help the relationship. But you take me

554
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: you're allowed to technically in the technically but relationship in

555
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 1: the long run, and get back together.

556
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 2: I slept twice with a colleague of mine. That's not right, right,

557
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,880
Speaker 2: All of those few words just made it worse. Two

558
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 2: times with a colleague. Its some rando. It wasn't good

559
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 2: and I regretted it, so I ended it. The colleagues

560
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 2: sitting here just like joinings. Thanks buddy. When my wife

561
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 2: moved back, she asked me if I did something, and

562
00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 2: I think we all know what she means.

563
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 1: He said I twice, just like that.

564
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 2: She did not. I told her the truth and she

565
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 2: was silent for a while and then said it was

566
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 2: fair enough and not cheating because we had already discussed possibility.

567
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's not cheating because you talked about it.

568
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: But again, I just don't think it's helpful for the relationship.

569
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 2: I have to we have to enter enter the tinfoil.

570
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 2: That poor thing. Sophia's creations have just been created, I think,

571
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: and we've kind of seen this before. Initially the wife

572
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 2: was okay. Later on, I think she will change her

573
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 2: feelings about that is what it is and is going

574
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 2: to be. Like I was kind of hoping inside or

575
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 2: now I realized I was hoping inside that you wouldn't.

576
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I think that's I think that's seen

577
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: like it's going in that direction. Yeah, Like again, you

578
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:08,479
Speaker 1: can't accuse him of cheating, but it's not like doesn't

579
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: feel great, doesn't feel great or does it feel great

580
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 1: to be like hey, like like take let's take a

581
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 1: swip brock in this relationship to try and figure it out.

582
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 1: And then Bertner's like, yeah, I'm going to sleep with people.

583
00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 2: I just boned my coworker.

584
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: But and it sucked.

585
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: She was so mid so I you yeah, of course, babe,

586
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 2: Well back to reality. Since we have talked about it,

587
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 2: she has been distant.

588
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not gonna help that.

589
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, it ain't going out. She says that she is

590
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 2: happy and that she has missed home and I too

591
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: missed her and I haven't been this happy. But I

592
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 2: don't know. When I ask her, she says she's fine

593
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 2: and not to worry.

594
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 1: She's not fine, right right?

595
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 2: Can we can we go to the woman to the

596
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: room to interpret.

597
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: That, Mum, she's not she's not fine.

598
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: She's not fine.

599
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 1: Me read between the lines.

600
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 2: Here, Yeah, come on, buddy, but I don't know.

601
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: I have caught her crying a few times, but I

602
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: don't know she's crying.

603
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 2: But she says that it's the news. In the world's conditions,

604
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 2: it's tough right now.

605
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 1: That's so he like comes in and he's like, are

606
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: you crying? And she's like, it's global warm.

607
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 2: Oh god, the turtles are dying. Oh my gosh. My

608
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 2: wife is wild in bed and usually and I usually

609
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 2: don't need to do much to put her in the mood.

610
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 2: Now she doesn't react to my touch and sometimes we

611
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 2: try for a long time, but she says she can't

612
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: and just starts crying.

613
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 4: Oh.

614
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 2: I hate to break it to you, buddy. Yeah, she's

615
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 2: not fine.

616
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: She's not fine.

617
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 2: She's not fine. It's not global warming, it's not the

618
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 2: penguin's buddy. I don't know how to solve this. I

619
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm imagining things. You're not that. But

620
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 2: even a hug or a kiss, I thin. I feel

621
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 2: her going rigid in my arms, but she insists it's

622
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 2: nothing and just that she isn't in the mood or tired.

623
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 2: I miss her warmth.

624
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: Ah whoa.

625
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 2: Okay, so we got some relevant comments coming up here,

626
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 2: but uh, what do we think about what's going on

627
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 2: right now?

628
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:19,719
Speaker 1: This guy seems really oblivious.

629
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, at least I guess he's almost there,

630
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 2: But like, dude, come on, it's like it's it's pretty hard.

631
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: I will say, I will say it is a little

632
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 2: tough that she's not opening up like that doesn't help

633
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 2: him help her.

634
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: No, I think they need to go to therapy.

635
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, they really need to go to Yeah, like because

636
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 2: I think I think figuring out a way to be

637
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 2: open and communicate what's going on. So that way, Oh,

638
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: he can do what he can to try and I

639
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 2: don't know, I don't know what, but just to try,

640
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 2: I don't know. Uh whatever, something that's different than what

641
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 2: he's doing right now probably might help the situation. Let's

642
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:07,400
Speaker 2: get into some relevant comments. What if your wife slept

643
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 2: with other people? Hmmm, which I don't know.

644
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: I'm not getting that vibe.

645
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm not getting that vibe. It's happened before.

646
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 2: The thing is. That's why I discussed the subject with

647
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 2: her before we separated. I was terrified that she would

648
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: sleep with other people because I know my wife to

649
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 2: be the kind that wants an emotional connection before getting

650
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 2: physically attracted. So it seems.

651
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: Like, like, oh, it's not just gonna be if she doesn't.

652
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

653
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I had nightmares about it, so I needed to

654
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: Then why did you?

655
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: Why did you do it?

656
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 2: Okay, you were so scared about your.

657
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 3: Wife doing she's wild. She's scary, alright, Marius about her

658
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 3: doing that to another man? He could sleep with it?

659
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 2: What I think I'm going to decode, producers. I think

660
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: he's saying that she's just such an such an animal

661
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,520
Speaker 2: in bed, that he's just terrified that she would share

662
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 2: that with someone else.

663
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 3: Is that?

664
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 4: Yeah?

665
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 3: Why I can't sleep?

666
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 4: No?

667
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 3: That other guy is he gonna be okay?

668
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 2: Oh oh, I see. Oh he's he's so thoughtful. He's

669
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 2: worried about the other guy. Okay, she's just ravenous in

670
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 2: the sack. Well okay, well, there you go. He's looking

671
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 2: out for his path ladies, me trying to decode for

672
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 2: his bone brother. He's looking at for his bone brother,

673
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen, Producer Riley, there we go.

674
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you could decode that day.

675
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 2: That's good. It took me a second. I want to

676
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 2: lie nights about it, so I needed to ask to

677
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: see what we were expecting to do during the separation.

678
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 2: I don't need any emotional connection to sleep with other people. Yeah,

679
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 2: there he goes. I regret it, but I told myself

680
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 2: that we have agreed to this, which, in fairness, they

681
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 2: technically did do okay, but why is he.

682
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: He's like, well, we agreed to this, like, yes, I

683
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 1: gotta have sex with people I have to.

684
00:32:57,960 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 2: That is so true.

685
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: He didn't have to do anything.

686
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 2: Literally, I feel that I have cheated seeing her reaction now,

687
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 2: no matter if we had agreed on this or not.

688
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 2: So the sex wasn't good with the coworker, so you

689
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 2: decided to end it. I didn't mean the sex wasn't good.

690
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 2: The whole whoa, the whole thing wasn't good because it

691
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 2: isn't what I wanted because she wasn't good. That's what

692
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 2: I hope he is saying. This comment from a different

693
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 2: user summed up the comment section pretty well, it wasn't

694
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 2: technically cheating. Yep, he killed the relationship. Just because it's

695
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 2: voluntary manslaughter and not premeditated murder doesn't make it any

696
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 2: less dead. Yeah wow, whoa, Well that's one say. That's

697
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 2: one way to say that.

698
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: Goodness gracious, Yeah, no, I mean, yeah, it's true.

699
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 2: Now we have a mini update the next day, twenty

700
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 2: four hours later. Thank you everyone for listening. I have

701
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: tried to speak to my wife this evening. I asked

702
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 2: her for a walk. She is not fine with what happened.

703
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 3: What shocking, But she said she was.

704
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 1: She said she was okay, and she was worried about

705
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:07,960
Speaker 1: the environment.

706
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what about the penguins. She said that she

707
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 2: didn't know if she will ever forget or forgive.

708
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:17,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

709
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:22,239
Speaker 2: Yeah. What surprised me is that she seemed to put

710
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 2: the blame on herself. She said that it was all

711
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 2: her fault because she started this separation idea and then

712
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 2: agreed to me sleeping with others, Like she tricked me somehow,

713
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,479
Speaker 2: and now she wasn't fine with what she agreed upon.

714
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: No, that's so. Yeah.

715
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 2: She apologized and said that she knew she was being

716
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: unfair but that she couldn't help how she felt. Now,

717
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,719
Speaker 2: I really really really feel for Opie's wife because I

718
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 2: can totally see her, like, in one instance, she's trying

719
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 2: to be fair and like she's like, I.

720
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 1: Can't expect you to not like want to have another

721
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 1: relationship while we're separated. Yeah, you know you can do that,

722
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 1: and like trying to take that a what time, yes,

723
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 1: to see if they can figure out this relationship and

724
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: then coming back and be like, well, I actually don't

725
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: feel great about it.

726
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 2: Sometimes you kind of don't. You don't know until you

727
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 2: know and then you know.

728
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's not even blaming him, like you can't

729
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 1: like control how you react exactly.

730
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 2: I really feel for her because I think she's done

731
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 2: everything right and yeah, she's just losing tragically. I tried

732
00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 2: to explain that it wasn't her fault at all, but

733
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 2: I'm not sure she's convinced because she keeps saying that

734
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 2: it was all her fault and that she is being unfair.

735
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. I can't see her

736
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:42,319
Speaker 2: broken like this. We have another update, but we have

737
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 2: to pause, Sofia, we have to pause. We have to

738
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: we have to pause. Everyone watching Sophia Briley. What do

739
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: we do? What do we do?

740
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: I think they have to go to couples therapy, I think, yeah, yeah,

741
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:57,960
Speaker 1: I think they have to talk because it seems like

742
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: they both really love each other. Yeah, and they're just

743
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: about it communicating.

744
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 2: Fifteen years fifteen years a long time. I think that's

745
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 2: something to consider.

746
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:11,800
Speaker 3: I personally have seen a couple that have been cheated

747
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 3: on and went to couple's therapy and still made it out.

748
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think I think that happens. For sure,

749
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 2: It happens.

750
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 3: It just seems like she's like a non confrontational person,

751
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 3: so anything he suggests she's okay with. The thing I

752
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,800
Speaker 3: don't understand is why is he he seems very emotionally

753
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 3: attached to but he said he wasn't, but like he

754
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 3: was having nightmares of his wife.

755
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 1: He is emotionally attached.

756
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 3: She just said, I said he doesn't need to be

757
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:38,399
Speaker 3: emotionally attached to have sex with someone.

758
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he's emotionally attached.

759
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, that's that's the thing. Yeah, like he's having

760
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 3: not maries. Why would he do an act like that

761
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,320
Speaker 3: and not really think like I don't think he thought

762
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 3: about what she was feeling. And I too. I think

763
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 3: she said it was fine just to kind of test

764
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 3: them in a way, like it kind of look seemed

765
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 3: like a test.

766
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 1: I don't know if she was necessarily testing. I think

767
00:36:57,800 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 1: she just like thought she was fine with it.

768
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, that that makes sense. I would say, like

769
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 3: I would I know this sounds bad, this may sound bad.

770
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 3: I might get a lot of criticism for it, but

771
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:08,879
Speaker 3: I would, if I was having a separation, be like, oh, yeah,

772
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 3: you can have like sexual with other men, just to

773
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 3: see if they would just be like, no, pressure from

774
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 3: me whatsoever, and see what their actions are. But I

775
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 3: still would be hurt if they did. I just want

776
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 3: to see, like if no strings were attached, what they

777
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 3: would do in that scenario and that, Like, I don't

778
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 3: think she came from that, but I'm just.

779
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,280
Speaker 2: Saying if I's not where she was coming from, I don't.

780
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 1: Think that's where she was going.

781
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems wrong, but that's we love a toxic

782
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 3: big protein. But I actually wasn't.

783
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, oh and then it is op the ahole,

784
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 2: yes or no? Everyone watching.

785
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: I just don't. Yeah, I think he's the a hole

786
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:58,319
Speaker 1: for being for being oblivious. Yeah yeah, yeah, Like I

787
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 1: don't think he's technically like like if he was in

788
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: a court of law, he's in the clear.

789
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 2: Right, yes, but illegally illegally.

790
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 3: No, He's also forty his frontal cortex should have been

791
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 3: connected by now, Like, yeah, you have to read it between.

792
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: Lines, buddy, Yeah, come on, yeah forty you're right, you're right, Yeah,

793
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 2: you're getting there.

794
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 3: You're almost there. Almost where to your frontal quartet? Quarter's

795
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:24,320
Speaker 3: the age it's like twenty six or thirty.

796
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 2: I love how Riley finds a way of apparently.

797
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 3: Dude, I did it, I would have said, your frontal

798
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 3: cortex is developed.

799
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: Who I thought you were saying? I thought he was

800
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: calling you fort like almost forty?

801
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 3: No no no no no no no no no, that's

802
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 3: what I Here we go, Here, we go win because

803
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 3: a man's or males? What should I put?

804
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: So do whatever you'd like?

805
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 3: Males brontal fully developed? No, twenty five years.

806
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 2: Oh so I'm done.

807
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 1: But apparently if you have ADHD, your frontal lobe develops later.

808
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 1: But like he didn't, So if Sam and I have ADHD,

809
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 1: we're not done yet.

810
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 2: The jenny is not.

811
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: Oh that everyone keeps diagnosing us with it. I saw

812
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: a comment the other day in one of the YouTube

813
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: videos where someone was like, Sam and Sophia's ADHD is

814
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: really distracting from the video. I was like, Okay, thank

815
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 1: you diagnosed.

816
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 2: Thanks for letting me know.

817
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: Perfect.

818
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 2: If we're being honest, Sam, he's got it.

819
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: Everyone that I have not been diagnosedalticially diagnosed, but I

820
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 1: have been told, and I've read a lot of research.

821
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 2: Do you have anyone in your family that you know

822
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 2: it's been.

823
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,920
Speaker 1: No, But I think that my mother she would hate this.

824
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: I think I've told her this. I think she won't

825
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:51,879
Speaker 1: get diagnosed. But I think because it's it's genetic. Yeah, yeah,

826
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 1: I think that we all have it.

827
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 2: My mom's sister and aunt all have it. Yeah.

828
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I've done a to research. So you think

829
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna self diagnose? Yeah, everyone does.

830
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:08,919
Speaker 2: Keep keep stop sending Sophia back in the rabbit hole. Okay,

831
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:13,799
Speaker 2: let her. But speaking of living anyway, we have a

832
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 2: real life.

833
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 1: Oh that was really good.

834
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 2: Thank you. I try on my I'm working on it.

835
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 2: She's a great you know what, she's a great host.

836
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 1: Thank you.

837
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 2: I said it and I meant it, and I won't

838
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: take it back. That's right. Let's read the update. She

839
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 2: said that she couldn't do this anymore. Oh no, Jesus, ye,

840
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:46,520
Speaker 2: sometimes he just does that.

841
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,439
Speaker 1: Look, dude, Riley's Ridley's going through it right now. He's

842
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 1: giving an a star performance. I just want I guess

843
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,879
Speaker 1: that means sent me a happy relationship.

844
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 2: No, dude, guys, stop hurting Riley. Yeah, be wholesome. Oh goodness,

845
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 2: wow at plus plus plus plus this right, Riley's really

846
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 2: coming for your Riley's trying to put you int a

847
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: C minus and put himself in a plus.

848
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:18,399
Speaker 4: Yeah.

849
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: You sold it, I'm sold, but no, I kind of it.

850
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 2: She apologized because she believes that it was all her doing,

851
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 2: because she felt like she tricked me and gave me

852
00:41:32,920 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 2: permission and she then couldn't keep and now everything is

853
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 2: ruined because of her, and that I had all the

854
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 2: reasons to hate her. No, but I don't hate her.

855
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 2: I hate myself very much, but I would never hate her.

856
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 2: She is the love of my life, and I regret everything,

857
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: including the break and the small stupid stuff that made

858
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,720
Speaker 2: us fight and take the break. She moved into a hotel.

859
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 2: We decided to wait about telling our families until the holiday,

860
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 2: because our broken hearts are enough. We don't need to

861
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 2: break their hearts too.

862
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:07,360
Speaker 1: This is so sad.

863
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,360
Speaker 2: I just don't know what to do. I've lost everything.

864
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 2: This is my update for those of you who asked.

865
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:18,360
Speaker 2: I'm sure you will find it satisfactory given the amount

866
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 2: of hate you have given me on my original post.

867
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 3: I'm actually I'm just imagining. She's like under five foot five,

868
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 3: and she's like just like trying to figure herself out,

869
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 3: and like she just needs to be like cuddled up

870
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:36,440
Speaker 3: as a caterpillar, just held and like this is dude,

871
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

872
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 1: Man's actually quite He's got.

873
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,399
Speaker 2: A big heart, ladies and gentlemen. Riley's got a big heart.

874
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel so bad for both of them. Op.

875
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:52,280
Speaker 1: It definitely is oblivious and definitely made like a mistake. Yeah,

876
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 1: but it seems like he really loves his wife and

877
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: they both really love each other.

878
00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:01,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, tough. I think I one hundred percent agree with you.

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