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Speaker 1: Right now, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and

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Speaker 1: if you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: f M and click submit Strawberry a letter. Okay, we

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Speaker 1: could be reading yours live on the air, just like

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Speaker 1: we're gonna do this one. Ready, nephew, let's go. Let's go.

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is just your very No Billy D

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Speaker 1: Williams was here. Yeah, not hey, Let me be Billy

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Speaker 1: D when I want to be Billy date. Let you

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Speaker 1: be great? Yes, all right, there we go. Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Suh Steve Tommy remind me of Woodrow says you have

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Speaker 1: fred subject. I can't stand sorry man. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I am a thirty six year old single mother of

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Speaker 1: four who met a very handsome army vet at work

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Speaker 1: back in twenty sixteen. After dating for six months, he

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Speaker 1: told me that he had to move out of his

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Speaker 1: rental home because the owners had sold it, and he

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Speaker 1: asked me if he could stay with me for a while.

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Speaker 1: Against my better judgment, I agreed to let him move

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Speaker 1: in temporarily a month later, he was laid off from

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Speaker 1: his job. Two months after that, his car got repossessed,

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Speaker 1: so he was unemployed and did not have transportation to

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Speaker 1: go job hunting or to go on job interviews. While

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Speaker 1: he was out of work and was not bringing money

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Speaker 1: into the household, he cooked and cleaned and did all

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Speaker 1: of the yard work, but I had to constantly prompt

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Speaker 1: him to do these things. I got fed up with

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Speaker 1: coming home and seeing him on the couch playing videos,

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Speaker 1: so I gave him him an ultimatum to find a

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Speaker 1: job or leave. He has a job now, but he

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Speaker 1: only makes enough money to take care of himself, and

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Speaker 1: there's nothing left for bills or groceries. This has put

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Speaker 1: a major strain on our relationship and intimacy because his

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Speaker 1: lack of ambition is such a turn off. I need

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Speaker 1: for him to get out so I can move on

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Speaker 1: with my life. When I talk to him about moving,

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Speaker 1: he said he has no plans to leave anytime soon

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Speaker 1: because he needs to save up some money first. I

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Speaker 1: already have four children and I don't need a fifth child.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, please help me figure out how to get

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Speaker 1: this grown man out of my house. Well, you're absolutely

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Speaker 1: right in saying this. This grown man has got to

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Speaker 1: get out of your home. He really does. Sometimes. You know,

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Speaker 1: we as ladies, we're just a bit too nice, aren't we,

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Speaker 1: And we don't listen to ourselves, to our intuition, do we.

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Speaker 1: You sat against your better judgment. That was you telling

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Speaker 1: yourself you shouldn't do this. So you already knew when

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Speaker 1: you allowed him to come into your home. And I

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Speaker 1: don't care if no one is that handsome, no one,

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Speaker 1: all right, he's taking advantage of you, he's taking advantage

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Speaker 1: of your four kids. And now you know you cannot

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Speaker 1: allow him to do this any longer. You gotta let

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Speaker 1: him know today, today, without any hesitation, without any second thought,

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Speaker 1: that he has to go. If you're nervous, if you're

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Speaker 1: a little you know, apprehensive about doing it, please have

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Speaker 1: someone with you, preferably a mail or two or three.

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Speaker 1: You gotta have someone with you when you tell him.

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Speaker 1: You also have to change the locks on the doors,

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Speaker 1: all of that, pack his clothes, whatever you have to do.

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Speaker 1: But this man has to go. Okay, you've gone over

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Speaker 1: and beyond the call of duty with this vet and

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Speaker 1: there's no need for you to do anything else except

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Speaker 1: for show him the door the way out. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: this letter don't make no sense from the beginning. You're

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Speaker 1: thirty six year old single mother four. You met a

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Speaker 1: handsome mommy vet at work in twenty sixteen after dating

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Speaker 1: six smalls. He said he got to move out his

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Speaker 1: rental home because they sold him. Then he asked you

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Speaker 1: could he come stay for one? See me right here,

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Speaker 1: I'd have already started counting people in rooms already. See

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Speaker 1: y'all you got four kids that you love and take

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Speaker 1: care of you thirty six. I don't know what you

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Speaker 1: stay in with all in rooms, but I would have

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Speaker 1: just started counting rooms and people. A month later, he

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Speaker 1: then got his car repossessed. See, if you got put

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Speaker 1: go get another rental house, not to come and leach

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Speaker 1: I mean, just right there, Why would you burden her

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Speaker 1: with that? Now? She didn't know how burdensome you was

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Speaker 1: gonna become, and then you went on and proved it.

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Speaker 1: A month later you got laid off from your job.

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Speaker 1: Who amos? After that the car got repossessed. But how

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Speaker 1: they repossess his car? He ain't it worked, so they

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Speaker 1: know where he worked. He ain't it worked, and he

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Speaker 1: ain't at his house called they took the house. How

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Speaker 1: trying to I'm telling Repo people, ain't that good? Yeah? Man?

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Speaker 1: How did they? But in the third month though, stupid?

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Speaker 1: Then he wasn't out of work. He wasn't bringing in

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Speaker 1: constantly prompt him to do things. Then you coming home,

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Speaker 1: he owned the couch playing video games. So you're told

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Speaker 1: him to find a job or leave. He got a

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Speaker 1: job now, but he only makes enough money to take

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Speaker 1: care of himself. And that's nothing left for Bill the groceries.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand this. What is he doing with the

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Speaker 1: money if he ain't helping you with it? Car note gone,

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Speaker 1: the rent gone, and he still ain't pitching in. No,

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Speaker 1: he ain't. Sorry, man, This dude right here, he's a

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Speaker 1: little worse than sorry. But you can't help this woman

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Speaker 1: at all with these folk kids. Whatever money you're making

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Speaker 1: on to go into the pile to help out. You've

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Speaker 1: been living on it for months now. He has put

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Speaker 1: a major strain on our relationship and intimate Hell no,

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Speaker 1: I won't sleep with nobody broke. That's up in here.

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Speaker 1: I'll slept with a broke ram before. It's got to

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Speaker 1: be hard here and here. Won't all this from you?

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Speaker 1: What come on now, let me have it. Come on,

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Speaker 1: do it to me, Come on home. Put your leg

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Speaker 1: over here. Hey, you ain't working. Not putting my leg nowhere?

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Speaker 1: This is all I'm doing. Don't touch me. No, that's

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, hold that thought. Okay, we're gonna have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response to the letter right after this.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back at twenty three after you're listening to

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject

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Speaker 1: I can't stand a sorry man. Sorry man made him

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Speaker 1: here in the military, moved him in, he fell out,

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Speaker 1: lost his house, she moved in with her. He loses

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Speaker 1: his job, then took his car. He ain't paying rent.

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Speaker 1: He paying at the laying at the house watching videos.

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Speaker 1: You coming home. You're getting frustrated. And now you say

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Speaker 1: that him not working and chipping in and he got

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Speaker 1: a job, but his job don't let him chip in

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Speaker 1: because he needs all money for herself. It has affected

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Speaker 1: YO into us sleeping with a broke man. God, that's

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Speaker 1: got to be it is you broken from her? Slept

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Speaker 1: with you though? And it had to be what did

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Speaker 1: you sleep with me for? You? See, I'm homeless. All

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Speaker 1: my stuff in my car. We can't go nowhere without

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Speaker 1: moving stuff? I asked, stuff in the passenger seat. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you still need love, No love, you get, get a

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Speaker 1: love of somebody and give you something back. Looking too

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Speaker 1: pop people do each other? I mean yeah, they do

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Speaker 1: it all the time. Yeah, they do it too much too.

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Speaker 1: Baby really need to be somewhere sitting down. Then they

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Speaker 1: mess around health baby and everybody up in here, Poe. Now,

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Speaker 1: now the baby don't even know what reality is no more.

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Speaker 1: He just struggling because y'all have made the ignorant ass

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Speaker 1: telling about why we ain't got no TV. That's what

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Speaker 1: the baby said. Where are you going with it? Mama?

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Speaker 1: All these candles ford here? Man, damn, Mama was handing it.

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Speaker 1: Why do we eat these corn flakes with this tap

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Speaker 1: water on it? Mama? For dinner? Mama, did we have

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Speaker 1: corn bread yesterday? Why I got to get every time

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Speaker 1: my ass bought this coin back? Okay, Damn, I ain't

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Speaker 1: say nothing about the damn corner domin the letter. This

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Speaker 1: is the letter the damn kids is complaining Mama, I

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Speaker 1: can't play the video game because here now, Mamaca Drome

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Speaker 1: told me I can't sit on couch Way TV because

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Speaker 1: he playing Madden? Is he really a vet? Steve? I

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Speaker 1: wanted to ask you that, yeah, you're here, Vet, but

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Speaker 1: he giving them a bad name. That's just like cops

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Speaker 1: is cool too, until they started getting bad name for

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Speaker 1: some bad cop. So anyway, I already have four children.

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Speaker 1: I don't need a film. Stephen Shelley, please help me

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Speaker 1: figure out how to get this grown man out. I

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Speaker 1: have a solution. You don't feel secure with him around.

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Speaker 1: All you got to do is say that in anybody

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Speaker 1: at the court, and you will have a restraint in order.

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Speaker 1: He can't come with it a hundred yards at that hour,

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Speaker 1: and all you want is a restraint in order. He

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Speaker 1: got to go. You know, you asked him to leave,

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Speaker 1: he says he had to. This would killed me about Sorry, Yes, people,

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Speaker 1: you asked him to leave, he said, there has no

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Speaker 1: up money, some money first. I don't give a damn.

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Speaker 1: What are you saving? They go save it at your

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Speaker 1: mama house, you got partners, go save it to one

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Speaker 1: of the army vents house. Go back to the army

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Speaker 1: and they ain't got bags for him or nothing. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how I work, but seemed like they want

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Speaker 1: to let you stay in the bag. Resign up, do

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Speaker 1: basic training again, that a game six weeks. Get on

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Speaker 1: back down the pass Island, volk Brad, get yourself signed up.

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Speaker 1: That's it, lady. You need a restraining order. He's worthless,

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Speaker 1: and get restraining order because you don't feel safe. That's

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Speaker 1: all you have to say. You don't need a court date,

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Speaker 1: You just need a restrain in them. That puts his

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Speaker 1: He asked y'all having sex? He talking about whose is?

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Speaker 1: It's the bankers, not yours? Ask me who. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: a lot going on. So that's what I'm feel for her.

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Speaker 1: It's trifling, Yeah I do. She's just thirty six, she's

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Speaker 1: got four kids and this man, and you know she

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Speaker 1: met this dude, he army. That you thinking. Wow? Discipline, Yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 1: That's why I asked you that exact discipline people soldiers,

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Speaker 1: military people are disciplined, people of honor, respectable, you know,

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Speaker 1: you know, man, they know how to complete a task,

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Speaker 1: their teamwork. That's what I've always thought of when I

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Speaker 1: think of military people, how they functioning, reacting life. I

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Speaker 1: know a lot of military people who are really really

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Speaker 1: good folks. Man up early, dog, I'm talking about man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: can he go on there upraising his voice, but not

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Speaker 1: about this movie. Who you holding? So now I'm working

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Speaker 1: at get just counch and move it. You move it.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy, you know. Yeah, she's got to take

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Speaker 1: care of her kids. Four kids. She's thirty six. She's

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Speaker 1: just thirty six years old. He's not probably lady. Yeah, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: you said Tommy was hands. You ain't seen me on

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Speaker 1: my show. But I'm sexy. You ain't seen me? Man,

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Speaker 1: surely wear glass? All right? Listen, then when they describe

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Speaker 1: y'all said that ain't tom We gotta go. Guys. You

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