1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click 4 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: Submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live 5 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're going to read this one. 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,760 Speaker 1: Pop pop right here, right now. Who knows it could 7 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: be m buck up, hold on tight, We got it 8 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you nephew. 9 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: Subject my Daddy loves my Friends. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm 10 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: a thirty year old single woman forced to live with 11 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: my forty six year old father for the first time 12 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: ever in my life. I moved in with him last 13 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: year after I got pregnant and lost my job, all 14 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,519 Speaker 1: in the same month during the pandemic. My parents got 15 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 1: pregnant with me in high school, so I was raised 16 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: by my two grandmothers, and I thought of my dad 17 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: as an older brother or a playmate, because he didn't 18 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: do anything but play with me when I was younger. 19 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:02,560 Speaker 1: When he finished college, our relationship got stronger and I 20 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 1: started looking up to him. That has all changed since 21 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 1: I moved in with him. And let me say upfront 22 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: that I'm grateful to have a place to stay, but 23 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: he is out of control. Last Christmas, he had a 24 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: small get together at his house and he told me 25 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: he wanted me to meet his new girlfriend. I didn't 26 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,600 Speaker 1: have to meet her because she went to high school 27 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: with me and it is a year younger than I am. 28 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: I was polite to her and joked with her about 29 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: dating my dad. She told me my dad is the 30 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: biggest man she's ever been with, and he knows what 31 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: he's doing between the sheets. I wanted to pop her. 32 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: I told my dad he's a pervert, and he laughed 33 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: it off and told me to mind my business. By 34 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: New Year's Eve, he'd broken up with her and she 35 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: was banging on our door at three am, yelling he'd 36 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: better not be with another bee in the house. I 37 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: couldn't do anything but beg her to leave because there 38 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: was another female in my daddy's bedroom and she went 39 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: to college with me. I can't believe he's still acting 40 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: like he's twenty something and playing all of these young 41 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: women like this. I need some kind of warning label 42 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 1: so my friends and classmates can stay away from him. 43 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to move out, but should I have a 44 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: heart to heart with my dad. First heart to heart 45 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: with your dad about what about what? He's not going 46 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: to listen to you, and he's already told you to 47 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: mind your business. He obviously likes much younger women, and 48 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 1: no one wants their father, we get it. No one 49 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 1: wants their father to holler at or date any of 50 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: their friends. And he's wrong for that, and it's very 51 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,120 Speaker 1: embarrassing to you and very hurtful to you. We get it. 52 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: But the friends don't seem to care because he's got something. 53 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: He's got something that they want. When you think about it, 54 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: we don't have to guess what it is, because it's 55 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 1: just what your high school friend said and I quote, 56 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: he's the biggest man she's ever been with, and he 57 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: knows what to do between the sheets. The other thing 58 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 1: is you have to remember that these women are also 59 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: grown women and they know what they're doing as well. 60 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: I mean, they would all probably say the same thing 61 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: about your dad in the bedroom, and that's why they 62 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: keep getting with him. So the best thing for you 63 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 1: to do, you said it at the end, you're going 64 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: to move out. The best thing for you to do 65 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,079 Speaker 1: is move out as soon as you can as soon 66 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:29,080 Speaker 1: as you can afford to, so you no longer have 67 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: to witness your father's behavior with your friends. You know 68 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: you don't want to see all that, and you didn't 69 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: know that what's going on, So the best thing for 70 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: you at this point is to hurry up and move out. Steve, Well, 71 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: young lady, I feel for you because you have a 72 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: problem with your father. You're thirty year old single woman 73 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: and you live with your sixteen forty six year old father. 74 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,840 Speaker 1: Now that's the sixteen year age different, so she was 75 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: born with his young guy was only sixteen years old, 76 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: still really a boy. Sixteens you a long way from manhood. 77 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: So you had to move in with him because you 78 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: got pregnant lost your job in the same month during 79 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: a pandemic. Your parents was in high school when you 80 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 1: were born, so he was raised by your two grandparents, 81 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: and you thought of your dad as an older brother 82 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: playmate because he used to do nothing but play with 83 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 1: you when you was younger. Then when he finished school, 84 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: your relationship got strong and you started looking up to him. Well, 85 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: now you live with him and you gratefully have a 86 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: place to stay. But he had of control. He had 87 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:40,480 Speaker 1: a small get together at the house, and he told 88 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 1: me he wanted to meet my new girlfriend. His new girlfriend, Well, 89 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: you didn't have to meet her because she went to 90 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: high school with you and as a year younger than you. 91 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: So now she twenty nine, forty six. Well, now hold on, 92 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: that's still in the pocket. If this dude is for 93 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: six and this girl is twenty nine, that's almost thirty. 94 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: That's a nineteen year difference. People do that a lot. 95 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:10,800 Speaker 1: They do that a lot. But they do that a lot. 96 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: They do it a lot. It's only a sixteen year difference. 97 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: They do it a lot. So now you mad because 98 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: she's younger than you. You was polite to when you 99 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: joke with her about dating my dad. Then she said 100 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: you need to get out my damn face because your 101 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: daddy Biggest Man album been with period. That's what we're 102 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: in here, fault now, that's it. You wanted to pop hub. 103 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: My questioned, why didn't you? So now after she said 104 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,279 Speaker 1: she knows what she's doing, you said, I wanted to 105 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 1: pop hub My question years why didn't you? I'd have 106 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: busted her dad and her mom for what for dating 107 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: her dad? For talking disrespectful to me, Your daddy the 108 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: Biggest Man album man, I ain't going nowhere, and he 109 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: know what he's doing between new sheet. Well, I know 110 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: what I'm doing when we stand up here, what I 111 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: do so in a hard damn mouth. Yeah, that's crazy 112 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: to hear about your dad. I told my dad he's 113 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,719 Speaker 1: a pervert, and he laughed at all and he told 114 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 1: you to mind your biss. But then New Year's Eve 115 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: he broke up with and he was She was banging 116 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:34,919 Speaker 1: on that door at three am, yelling he better not 117 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: have another be in that house. Hang on, coming back. 118 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: We're gonna find out if she now. All right, We'll 119 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up in twenty 120 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour subject my daddy loves my friends. 121 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 122 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 1: Morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's 123 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter, the subject my daddy loves my friends. Yeah, 124 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: your daddy loved your friends. Your daddy sixteen years older 125 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: than you. He had started dating one of your friends 126 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: went to high school who was a year younger than me. 127 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: You that he's seventeen years older than her. You upset 128 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: about it because she'd have told me she ain't going 129 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: nowhere because he's the biggest man she ever had, and 130 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: he know what he doing between them sheets. You get 131 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: mad at your daddy, Tell your daddy hear pervert. He 132 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: tell you to mind your business. Now a girl that 133 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: told you that, you say you wanted the paper. I 134 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: suggested you bust a dead in the mouth, That's what 135 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: I saw. But you didn't do that. Now about New 136 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: Year's Eve, he broke it up with it, and he 137 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: was that. And she was banging on our door at 138 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: three of them, telling him you better not have another 139 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: be in that house. Who I couldn't do anything but 140 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: beg her to leave, because that was another helpful in 141 00:07:55,200 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: my daddy's bed room. And she went to college with men. 142 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: Now listen to this. First of all, this was the 143 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: same girl as now banging on the door that told 144 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: you your daddy the biggest man she'll been with, and 145 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 1: he know a dude between the sheets. She banging on 146 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: the door, You begging her to leave, He telling her, 147 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: she yelling out you better not have another being that. Well, 148 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: here's a problem. There was another woman in the room. 149 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: And you could have ended this girl's all this beating 150 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 1: on the dope by letting her end you scared to 151 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: hit her on the mouth. I bet that other girl 152 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:45,079 Speaker 1: ain't somebody need to punch her as it. Yeah, one 153 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: of these girls can end all this bravado she got going. 154 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:55,320 Speaker 1: All right, So now I can't believe he's still acting 155 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: like he's twenty something and playing all these young women 156 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: like this. Well, let me go back to the top 157 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: of the letter. You said when you were born, you 158 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: thought your daddy was your older brother because all he 159 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: did was played with you. So obviously he's not the 160 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 1: maturest person in the world. Right. A lot of men 161 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: I found who date younger women is because they're not 162 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:22,439 Speaker 1: mature enough for women their age, and so they compensate 163 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,679 Speaker 1: by going the younger route so they can appear to 164 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 1: be more than they are and they can think they 165 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: all listen all that, because see, a grown woman, you 166 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: got to do more than be the biggest man ship 167 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: for that, because at forty six they trying to figure 168 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: out their future and make sure they got some security. 169 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,439 Speaker 1: So all is you the biggest man we have met? Yeah? 170 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: That's nice, that's good. But what we where we're gonna 171 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: groceries from? You know what we're gonna drive? Yeah? Yeah? 172 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: Are we gonna have a home to live in. Are 173 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 1: We're gonna build up equity. That's what grown women want 174 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: to know. Young girls don't do that. Most men I 175 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:05,760 Speaker 1: know who date younger is because they don't have the 176 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: mental capacity to deal with grown women. That's what I found. 177 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,679 Speaker 1: That's not always the case, but a lot of guys 178 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 1: that I know to date younger women are because they 179 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: can't handle what come with a grown one. And so 180 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: I need some kind of warning label to my friends 181 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: and classmates to stay away from him. I'm going to 182 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: move out with Should I have a heart to heart with? 183 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: My dad surely said it best on. You're gonna have 184 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:36,440 Speaker 1: a heart to heart about what? That's just nothing to 185 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 1: talk about. He's a grown man that has a character flaw. 186 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: You're not gonna change the character flaw. He ain't with 187 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: your mamma, calls you and your mama forty six. He 188 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 1: ain't with your mama. He can't handle it. He's running 189 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: from his age group because he don't want to live 190 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: up to what the expectations and requirements of his age 191 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: group is. So let him go on about his business. 192 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: Keep that out your head, and you need to just 193 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: move out the house because like he said, it ain't 194 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: your business. Don't make it your business. Well, well, well 195 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 1: you know he gonna end up with nothing because these 196 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: women right here, eventually they're gonna want something and he 197 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 1: ain't gonna have nothing save some size. And you can't 198 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: take size down at the bank down and the grocery. No, 199 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: they don't care about your size at the card to 200 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:40,200 Speaker 1: this shop down. He can't take that out of down, 201 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 1: Mary Lynch, don't give a damn about your side. Well's father, 202 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: ain't they got They ain't got nothing. Daughter, You gotta 203 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: have mask on to come in here, but your size 204 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: ain't got nothing, damn do just so, No, you shouldn't 205 00:11:58,080 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 1: have a heart to heart because what are you going 206 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:03,319 Speaker 1: to say? He's your father and it's supposed to be 207 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: somebody you look up to. Dad, Stop dating these young girls. 208 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: He's not he's not. Yeah, well what you know what? 209 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:13,680 Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, Steve. Would she be mad 210 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 1: if they weren't her friends? They were just young women, 211 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: but they weren't her friends. I think she probably could 212 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:23,319 Speaker 1: deal with that a little better because she's the problem 213 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: is she's mad too because they're her friends. Because she 214 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: knows who Yeah, h she went to high school with one, 215 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 1: in college with the other. She doesn't like the fact 216 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: that they're young, but she really hates that they're her friends. Well, yeah, 217 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:42,680 Speaker 1: that's a problem too, bro, Yeah, that is a huge problem. 218 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 1: If he could just stop doing that, he's yeah doing it. 219 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: Leave my friends alone. Dad, don't go to graduate school. 220 00:12:54,880 --> 00:13:00,560 Speaker 1: Definitely don't go to graduate all right, right, Junior, all right, 221 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 1: thanks Steve. Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at 222 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:05,960 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out 223 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up at 224 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hours Sports Talk with Junior. 225 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.