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Speaker 1: Andie Martinez in Real life podcast. This episode and conversation

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Speaker 1: is powered by a DUSA. Hi guys, we are back baby.

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Speaker 1: It is another edition of Edgie Martinez IRL Takeaways. These

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Speaker 1: are the episodes where we These are audio only episodes

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Speaker 1: where we discuss our past interviews and so our last

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Speaker 1: interview was with Tiana Taylor. I'm here with my show producer, Brittany. Brittany,

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Speaker 1: what can you say about Tianna Taylor?

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Speaker 2: Like many of you, I was introduced to Tiana a

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Speaker 2: super sweet sixteen and then she just never left my

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Speaker 2: site after that.

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Speaker 1: I know it's great, but she said, she was like,

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Speaker 1: you grew up right in front of me. I grew

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Speaker 1: up right in front of you. That wasn't just for me,

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Speaker 1: that was like all of us, like the whole industry

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Speaker 1: and world kind of watched her as that young girl

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Speaker 1: then evolved and have all these amazing moments in her

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Speaker 1: career and this moment that she's having now with this

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Speaker 1: new movie she's in. She just actually hit the carpet

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Speaker 1: at met Gala. She was eating Chick fil A at

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Speaker 1: met Gala. You know, she's just a kind of an

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Speaker 1: it girl. She always has been where people just want

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Speaker 1: to watch her and see what she does, and she's

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Speaker 1: entertaining and talented and all those things, but I feel

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Speaker 1: like I got to know her in a different way.

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Speaker 1: And even knowing her all these years and even interviewing

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Speaker 1: her these years, I don't ever feel like I got

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Speaker 1: to know her and the way we got to know

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Speaker 1: her on this episode. I think I feel like almost too,

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Speaker 1: that she got to know herself a little bit in

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Speaker 1: this episode, like in real time.

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Speaker 2: She was definitely unpacking in real time with you, sitting

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Speaker 2: down talking about things that she's never even probably even

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Speaker 2: talked to herself about in full.

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Speaker 1: We did ask her right after the interview how she

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Speaker 1: felt about it. Here's what she said, Ooh, I feel

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Speaker 1: a slew of emotions, but I think I hit on

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Speaker 1: a lot of things that needed to be shared for

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Speaker 1: maybe other people who has been through what I've been through. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so she was okay with sharing, But even then I

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Speaker 1: could feel like she was I don't want to say

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Speaker 1: freaked out, but a little like, oh what did I

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Speaker 1: just say? Or what do we just talk about? Like

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Speaker 1: I felt like she felt a little vulnerable. What do you

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Speaker 1: always call that? Vulnerability? Hangover stole that right from Brene Brown.

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Speaker 1: That's a real thing she talks about, which I feel like,

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Speaker 1: sometimes you know, you gotta be vulnerable. We know this

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Speaker 1: and it helps. That's how you share your story. Other

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Speaker 1: people learn from your story. But sometimes after you feel

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Speaker 1: like a little naked. I feel like she felt like that.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to hug her after the interview. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I wanted her to be like, it's okay. So if

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Speaker 1: we're talking about our takeaways from the episode. For me, well,

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Speaker 1: number one, I'd never heard about her father before, right,

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Speaker 1: And so she opened up about her dad and her

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Speaker 1: stepfather and having that type of trauma, and it then

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Speaker 1: becoming like abandonment issues for her. And then afterwards I

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Speaker 1: was told that she really actually never talks about her

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Speaker 1: that ever. I don't think she planned to talk about

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Speaker 1: were talking about the hurt that she felt in her career.

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Speaker 1: She felt like she wasn't protected. She said, I feel

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Speaker 1: like I had abandonment issues. And then I asked about

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Speaker 1: where they came from. And here's what she said about that,

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Speaker 1: what is the abandonment issues from? Because your family is around.

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Speaker 3: But my mom was a single parent. My biological pops

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Speaker 3: was in jail like thirteen fourteen, here's my life thirteen.

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Speaker 3: He was something like that. And so even with that,

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Speaker 3: But like before you know, bout really came around and

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Speaker 3: we got super duper close. You got to think about it,

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Speaker 3: like coming from that not really having a dad, and

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Speaker 3: then you know, another figure in my life wound up

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Speaker 3: getting murdered, you know, the closest thing. And that's why

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Speaker 3: my pops, my pops are still locked up. So I

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Speaker 3: had to be part of about like eleven twelve, my

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Speaker 3: build a wayship, we just kept clashing. We were clashing

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Speaker 3: because it's like you got out thinking you was about

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Speaker 3: to like tell me how this ship run. And it's like, bro,

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Speaker 3: you've been like for dumb long. You don't even know

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Speaker 1: You call him dad or were not first name?

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Speaker 3: But the crazy what about it is I wanted that

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Speaker 3: figure so bad that, yes, when he first got out,

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Speaker 3: I was excited to say dad until he got me

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Speaker 3: it was just like being signed, getting signed to to

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Speaker 3: a man. You know, it was like a figure to me,

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, oh my god, Like

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Speaker 3: you know, I looked at these people like figure, you

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Speaker 3: a dad or as a brother, it didn't matter. So

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Speaker 3: it was like you didn't see me when you didn't

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Speaker 1: Me to the wolves. That's heavy stuff, any I mean, listen,

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Speaker 1: Daddy issues come up all the time in this podcast,

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Speaker 1: so that's when people tap into that it is not

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Speaker 1: something that is like just a throwaway that's like the

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Speaker 1: core of people's trauma a lot of times, the core

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Speaker 1: of people's you know, like abandoned issues things like that.

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Speaker 1: So the fact that she talked about it this day,

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Speaker 1: I think was like the main point of like her vulnerability,

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Speaker 2: In the movie, she plays her a mother who she

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Speaker 2: says it's her first like serious role. The movie is

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Speaker 2: called one thousand and one if you haven't seen it,

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Speaker 2: It's her first serious role. And she says that a

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Speaker 2: lot of the trauma that her character experiences in the

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Speaker 1: She came to that concluded, Yeah, so she's probably thinking

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Speaker 1: And now, mind you, she's fifteen years old and signed

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Speaker 1: to Pharrell and looking at him as like a father figure.

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Speaker 1: And I could tell that she was scared to talk

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Speaker 3: Actually, no matter how I felt when when I was younger,

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Speaker 3: saying to the people who has blessed me. So it's

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Speaker 3: just I don't know. My mom always told me to

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Speaker 3: So it's just like I was really hitting him up

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Speaker 2: She says that she had the conversation with Farrell at

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Speaker 1: popping she killed that video. Everybody's like ooh, ooh, Tiana Tianna.

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Speaker 1: Tiana Taylor has uh. It felt like she wasn't protected

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Speaker 2: I hope he sees that and this and this pushes

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Speaker 2: Kanye to have that next closing.

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Speaker 1: Because she did. She did say that in the in

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Speaker 1: the in the conversation that her and Kanye still have

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Speaker 1: very disappointed on how her being on good music wound up,

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Speaker 1: Our takeaway is, go find you a Beyonce in your life.

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Speaker 1: trusting us, thank you for just you know, leaning into

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Speaker 1: I saw a lot of her comments from her fans,

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Speaker 1: and so We thank you guys for watching. If you

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Speaker 1: It's on my YouTube page, Edgie Martinez IRL. Please make

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Speaker 1: sure you subscribe. And that's it. We're in a zone now.

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Speaker 1: Next week we got a new episode dropping on Wednesday,

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Speaker 1: then the week after that we'll do a takeaway that one.

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Speaker 1: And that's how the Rollout's gonna go from now on, right, Brittany, Bam,

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Speaker 1: bam bam. Thank you guys for listening.