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Speaker 1: Lyle.

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Speaker 2: What's up? Man?

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Speaker 1: Hey, how you doing?

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Speaker 2: I'm doing good? Brother?

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Speaker 3: Is this.

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Speaker 2: Let's see? Yeah, that is what's going on his life.

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming you read my text last night, right.

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Speaker 2: I'm reading it now. Let's see. Can I read it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Sure? Okay, So we also bleep my name out

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Speaker 1: at the beginning.

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Speaker 2: Oh sure, okay, well yeah, we'll get rid of your name, Brandon.

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Speaker 2: If you're listening to this, let's get rid of this

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Speaker 2: gentleman's name. Okay, I'm gonna call you Seth. Okay, all right, Seth,

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Speaker 2: you said I'd love to chat the next time you

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Speaker 2: call people. My wife and I separated and she's taking

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Speaker 2: our kids. She took twenty five hundred dollars from my

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Speaker 2: business account and screwed me. I have to keep running

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Speaker 2: the business and I'm virtually homeless right now. Damn, dude,

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Speaker 2: how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Man? Honestly, I'm all right, I guess so.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, go ahead. I want to let you finish

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Speaker 2: your hold on.

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Speaker 1: Let me step outside.

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Speaker 2: But sure, thing man, Seth, Seth McFarlane, Seth Rogan, Seth Myers.

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Speaker 1: Damn. I was gonna say Seth McFarland, but man, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, Seth miss McFarlane, my god, I

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Speaker 1: can't even talk. But I don't. I don't. I can't

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Speaker 1: think of any other ones. That's okay, we got Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That did Seth Rogan. We got Seth Rogan, Seth Myers,

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Speaker 2: Well we got enough sets. What's going on in your life? Man?

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Speaker 2: How you doing?

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Speaker 1: Man? Pretty pretty bad? Uh? Just just like you, just

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Speaker 1: like you read my text. So I run I run

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Speaker 1: a business. I run a cleaning business, and I started

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Speaker 1: about five months ago. This is the second time I

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Speaker 1: ran a cleaning business, though, And yesterday it was the

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Speaker 1: climax of our relationship. And we've been rocky for a

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Speaker 1: long time. And the past couple of weeks I've been

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Speaker 1: of sex. Obviously. We have three kids together. We've been

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Speaker 1: together six years this year.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, So I left and she said she was

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Speaker 1: come back, and blah blah blah. So I was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: So I gave her space and that made me virtually homeless.

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Speaker 1: But I actually have a place to lay my head

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Speaker 1: for the next couple of weeks until this is all

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Speaker 1: try to get into another apartment because it's not a house.

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Speaker 1: We just live in an apartment complex, and so I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna try to get into a smaller apartment and just

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Speaker 1: just do me. But yeah, man, like yesterday I left,

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Speaker 1: and like I said, I I'm the only authorized user

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Speaker 1: on the business account. I'm not really sure what happened there,

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Speaker 1: but I was getting some emails, some notifications, and I

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Speaker 1: just looked at it probably an hour ago. I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 1: and you know, I was like, okay, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: line things up. But yesterday was Sunday, so it's like

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Speaker 1: everything is closed, especially in Utah, and yeah, just twenty

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Speaker 1: five hundred gone. And yeah, man, I don't really know

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Speaker 1: what to say. It's just it's a really horrible, shitty

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Speaker 1: my kids. And this has already happened a prior time.

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Speaker 1: We were together for about three years and she left me,

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Speaker 1: and then we started talking again about ten months later,

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Speaker 1: after I had missed my my son's first birthday my

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Speaker 1: And then we started talking again and we got back together,

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Speaker 1: had another kid, And here we are about three years later,

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Speaker 1: and it's happening again.

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Speaker 2: And you're twenty seven, twenty eight, twenty nine.

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Speaker 1: I just turned thirty in June.

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Speaker 2: Okay, cool, cool, cool. So you guys have been together

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Speaker 2: for six years. How old are your kids?

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Speaker 1: Uh? Five, three and one?

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Speaker 2: Mmmmmmmmmmm mmmm So and you guys had this essentially the

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Speaker 2: same fight three years ago.

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Speaker 1: Mm yeah, Yeah, I would say that's pretty accurate honestly

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Speaker 1: now that I'm kind of like comparing. Yeah, yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: just I'm the issue and I can't do anything right

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Speaker 2: And so what what's the thing, Well, what's the like,

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Speaker 2: what's the Yeah, tell me, like, what is what's the

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Speaker 2: That is like getting between you guys.

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Speaker 1: The issue is And I'm not trying to like say

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Speaker 1: I know I'm not perfect. I know I've done shitty

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Speaker 2: Let me, let me ask you, let me ask you this,

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Speaker 1: She would say what she told me, that she feels

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Speaker 1: No, I feel like you know, like I said, I

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Speaker 1: twelve hour days. I'll leave before every everyone's awake. I'll

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Speaker 1: I'm the only one doing it, Like I have one employee,

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that as a bad thing. I'm just saying,

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Speaker 1: And so it's like when I come home like one,

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Speaker 1: the main point of contact. I do everything for the business, marketing,

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Speaker 1: like that's a very mutual thing. You know. She's very

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Speaker 1: I try to walk away. I try to walk away,

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Speaker 2: Just when you like, what what when you've like talked

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Speaker 2: she claims you're not doing like she like, she feels

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Speaker 2: like you're not okay. So you're running this business and

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Speaker 2: it's taken up your entire life, and then when you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like the the other day, she said, you know,

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Speaker 1: like you to do like a meal here or there

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Speaker 1: Like I just don't understand. It's like how it seems

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Speaker 1: like you're telling me I'm not doing anything when it's like,

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Speaker 1: you know, I've done dinner, I've done lunch, I changed diapers,

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Speaker 1: I wipe shitty ass asses. You know, It's like I'm there.

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Speaker 1: I'm a very involved father. I love my kids more

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Speaker 1: It's like so it's like there's just like a disconnect

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Speaker 1: and like from my perspective, I just don't feel hurt.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel seen, I feel blamed. And that's and

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Speaker 1: it's just really hard because it's like she wants all

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Speaker 1: I'm more criticized. And yeah, so it's just like I

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Speaker 1: but I love her. I'll always have respect for her,

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Speaker 1: and I think she loves me. But I think there's

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, it's a demoralizing feeling to like really feel like,

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Speaker 2: because I mean, Jude, Jesus cry, I couldn't live really

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Speaker 2: you have a Yeah, that's a tough like like three

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Speaker 2: it's a tough thing you're doing, and nothing about what

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Speaker 2: more than like anything less than like maximum to your capacity.

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Speaker 2: Like I know you like dude, like you sound like

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Speaker 2: and have it be not enough is fucking demoralizing.

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Speaker 1: No, it is, and that's something I couldn't communicate properly,

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Speaker 1: I guess. And then from her petive.

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Speaker 2: Too, yeah, with the kid exactly exactly from her perspective,

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Speaker 2: she's probably also given one hundred percent of herself and

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Speaker 2: it's like not enough. It's really it's really hard, man,

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Speaker 2: it's really hard. And like you know, it's like like

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Speaker 2: what like what you guys are like the like like

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Speaker 2: trying to build a life the way you guys are

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Speaker 2: trying to do it is really hard. And I think

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Speaker 2: that you know, when both people are like working at

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Speaker 2: start to like blame each other and whatnot, like you

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Speaker 2: like that, like this is the time when you just

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Speaker 2: like you need fucking like trust, you need to feel

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Speaker 2: like your partner is like on your side and not

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Speaker 2: like yeah, scheming against you, like, and it's it sounds

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Speaker 2: like you don't feel that way. It sounds like you

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Speaker 2: don't feel like this lady is like it's not like

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Speaker 2: you like, love her a lot, respect her a lot,

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Speaker 2: but you just don't feel like she's on your side.

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Speaker 1: No, and I she probably feels the same way. But

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Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, I don't really know how to feel

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Speaker 1: now because like I'm out of twenty five hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's not just like I don't know, man,

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Speaker 1: it's just a gonna It's been a twenty four hours,

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Speaker 1: you know, it's been a crazy It's been a crazy

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Speaker 1: twenty four hours.

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Speaker 2: So so this this twenty five hundred bucks, what what's

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Speaker 2: the story with this? Again? She just took it and.

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Speaker 1: She she uh, she took it from the business savings,

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Speaker 1: which was not my money, not her money. I try

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Speaker 1: to be very separated, you know, like even though that's

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Speaker 1: Well, we went through we were going through like a

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Speaker 1: kind of how it started. You were then we would yeah,

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Speaker 1: This is really stupid, like and we both felt that way,

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Speaker 1: Why just because like someone would be like, well, you

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Speaker 1: how would that destroy the marriage? It's like, well, because

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Speaker 2: So does she does she?

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Speaker 1: That's why I feel.

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Speaker 2: Because here's the thing, is, like, like this this traditional

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Speaker 2: I will take full financial care of all of us.

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Speaker 2: You kids are one, three and five. Yeah, when did

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Speaker 1: No, we don't. She didn't. She didn't want to put

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Speaker 2: of them as of like, you know, to what point

433
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 2: do you stay? And to what point do you leave?

434
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 1: Like what?

435
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 2: Like? Like objectively is a relationship? Objectively are two people's

436
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 2: lives better together than they are a part? I don't know,

437
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 2: But for right now, it's like, if you want to

438
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 2: fight for the marriage, I think you got to sit

439
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 2: down and be like, Okay, this previous version we had

440
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 2: of our lives mapped out is not working for either

441
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 2: of us. Let if you and if you're and here,

442
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 2: actually actually that question of should we stare should we go?

443
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 2: I think it's kind of based on this right you

444
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:49,159
Speaker 2: say to her, I want to make this work. I

445
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,320
Speaker 2: want to sit down with you and be like, Okay,

446
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 2: this version of our lives is not working. Let's talk

447
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 2: out what a new version of this would look like.

448
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 2: Let's talk out what you need, let's talk about what

449
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 2: I need, and then let's like really and if she

450
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 2: says she's game to work on it and shows you

451
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,680
Speaker 2: that she's game to work on it, and you show

452
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 2: her that you're game to work on it, then you

453
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 2: should work on it. But if she is like, doesn't

454
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 2: really want to work on it, and just if she

455
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,919
Speaker 2: doesn't really want to work on it, then that's your answer.

456
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 2: And then it's like, Okay, well now we have to,

457
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 2: you know, see what our lives look like better separately.

458
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: But like writ try to get try to sit down

459
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 2: with her and write a new constitution, you know, because

460
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 2: there's so many things. Yeah, Like there's so many different

461
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 2: aspects of it, Like she took like taking the kids

462
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 2: out of preschool, you starting this new crazy business that's

463
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 2: taken up all of your time and all of your life,

464
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 2: her having like a three kids. Like there's just there's

465
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 2: so many variables to your life that I just don't

466
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: I don't think you guys have found the correct rhythm.

467
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 2: And by the way, maybe you had the correct rhythm

468
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:07,480
Speaker 2: for five years and you two evolved as people tend

469
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 2: to do, and whatever rhythm worked for you in the

470
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 2: past doesn't work anymore. So now we gotta go. We

471
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 2: gotta sit down and go Okay, what's a new rhythm

472
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,679
Speaker 2: that's gonna work for us? Are we just two different

473
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 2: as people now for even us to be able to

474
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 2: make this work. But you got to sit down and

475
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 2: approach it and in a way of like we got

476
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 2: to find a new rhythm together. So that's what I

477
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 2: would do, is just sit with her and you know,

478
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,640
Speaker 2: try to try to rewrite the agreement. Have you guys?

479
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,120
Speaker 2: Have you talked about her that with her?

480
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 1: I mean I talked to her, not like rewriting like

481
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: our roles, but I mean.

482
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 2: When when's the when's the last time you guys? Okay,

483
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 2: like the whole like traditional relationship, the whole thing of

484
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 2: you're gonna stay home and take care of the kids

485
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 2: and cook and clean. I'm gonna work for twelve hours

486
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 2: a day. When was that established and agreed to? How

487
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: long ago?

488
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: January of this year?

489
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's been unquestioned since. Yeah, Okay, it seems

490
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 2: like it's time to question it at least.

491
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, I I do agree. I just think

492
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: it's unfortunately it's too far gone.

493
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 2: You say she's you say it's done. What did she

494
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 2: tell you?

495
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, she told me that she wants me out while

496
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 1: she's gonna pack the stuff, and she's gonna get all

497
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 1: the stuff and go to her mom's house. And she said,

498
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: then we can talk about custody and things of that sort.

499
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 1: After Do you want that's why I left?

500
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 2: Do you want to be with this lady?

501
00:29:54,680 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: Honestly, honestly, I feel like the only reason and I

502
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: would ever stay with her right now is just for

503
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 1: the kids.

504
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:06,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, you know what.

505
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: Like I think we're just both really unhappy. Yeah yeah,

506
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: And it's shitty, it's shitty.

507
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. Mmmm are you

508
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 2: able to stay in the same location as your kids?

509
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: Well, they're with her. So I just I told her

510
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: I would just give her her space.

511
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: Okay, And she said, okay, all right, all right, So

512
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 2: it sounds like he's going in a different direction.

513
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just told her I'd give her her space.

514
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: You know, Like, I'm not really trying to fight, and

515
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,480
Speaker 1: every time we're together there seems to be some sort

516
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 1: of verbal argument or something of that sort. And honestly,

517
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: I'm just exhausted with it. And if she wants me gone,

518
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: and she wants to pack her her shit and the

519
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 1: kids shit, and she wants to leave and go to

520
00:30:56,640 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 1: her mom's house, like I'll give her that space because

521
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: like I at this point, like I am just super

522
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: exhausted all the time because I feel personally like when

523
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: I come home, I'm walking on eh shelves and I'm

524
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: just done feeling like that, like, yeah, this will suck.

525
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm not going to see my kids as much and

526
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: the family's torn apart, and that really really sucks. At

527
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: the same time, I'm trying to look at it with

528
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 1: some optimism, like I'm not going to feel like this

529
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: every single day.

530
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something, my I'll tell you a

531
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:33,000
Speaker 2: few things that might make you feel a little bit

532
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: more optimistic if if this is the case I was.

533
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 2: I was on a whole thing about like rewriting the

534
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 2: rules of the thing. But it sounds like sounds like again,

535
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 2: neither of you guys want to really do this, and

536
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 2: you just, you know, are don't feel like if you

537
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 2: just feel like it's too far gone. I'll say this.

538
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 2: You know, my parents grew My parents were together. We

539
00:31:56,800 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 2: had about seven years where like we were all in

540
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 2: the house and together, and then my parents split up

541
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 2: and they were they feel I had a great childhood.

542
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 2: You know, my dad lived like fifteen minutes down the road.

543
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 2: I never felt like he wasn't in my life, you know,

544
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: my parents not necessarily like my parents had like their

545
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 2: beef with each other and stuff. But like, at this point,

546
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 2: right if you're just like I don't really want to

547
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 2: be in a relationship with this woman, I really just

548
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 2: don't want to break up the kids, It's like, don't

549
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: be afraid of Like, fuck, my kids' lives are going

550
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: to suffer because for a few reasons. One is that

551
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 2: if you're just keep raising children in a family where

552
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 2: the husband and wife just fucking hate each other, that's

553
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 2: worse than them splitting custody with mom and dad. This

554
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 2: is worse.

555
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, So, like.

556
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 2: I would be optimistic about the fact that you can

557
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 2: still be a very very successful father, You can still

558
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 2: be in your children's lives, like I just like as

559
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: a child of divorced parents, like you can absolutely be

560
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 2: a successful father without being together. And also I also, dude, honestly, dude, honestly, well,

561
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: a couple of things. Do you the whatever city you're in,

562
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 2: do you have a problem with being there your entire life?

563
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 2: Do you like that city?

564
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,239
Speaker 1: No, I don't have a problem being here. I mean

565
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: I grew up around the area. And okay, uh does

566
00:33:55,480 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: she So yeah, she's from the same state, but she

567
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: grew up probably an hour or so. Oh oh my god,

568
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: I cannot talk or so north of where we currently are.

569
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 2: Okay, So nothing crazy, Okay, And dude, dude, can I

570
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 2: be honest, like just like from the stories I've heard

571
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 2: on this show and like just in life and whatnot,

572
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 2: Like I know you're bummed out, but like, dude, you're

573
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 2: kind of getting now this pretty good. Do you wanna?

574
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 2: And I'll tell you why. There's like like it's not

575
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 2: like there's like an infidelity or something crazy where like

576
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 2: you two just like fucking hate each other. It's just

577
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,320
Speaker 2: like like it just it just didn't. It just didn't

578
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 2: work out. Like there's no like like she's pissed off,

579
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:50,240
Speaker 2: but she has no long term reason to resent you. You

580
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 2: have no long term reason to resent her. So that's good.

581
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: Like you guys are in a perfect position to be

582
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 2: able to go parent with each other. You clearly care

583
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 2: about your children. Like it it's just I I think

584
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 2: you can still be a very good dad, and I

585
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 2: think you can still be a successful dad, still be

586
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 2: heavily involved in your children's lives and and and amazingly enough,

587
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 2: do all that without having to feel like you're walking

588
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 2: on eggshells around a person, and like you can actually,

589
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 2: like you know, exist in your life authentically and you

590
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 2: know your kids. Your kids are not gonna like your

591
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 2: kids aren't gonna hate your kids are gonna your kids

592
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 2: aren't gonna like grow up without a dad or anything

593
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 2: like that. Like I get you're not gonna be able

594
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: to like spend as much time with them as you want,

595
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 2: but also do. But also, dude, you're like a fucking

596
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 2: you're you're just like crazy twelve hour day entrepreneur guy.

597
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 2: Like you'll be able to have a better Like you'll

598
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 2: be able to have a good balance, like senior kids,

599
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: like like being i don't know, being a dad half

600
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 2: the time, being at work half the time. Like you'll

601
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 2: figure out a way to have a good balance and

602
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 2: be all the things to all the people that you

603
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: want to be. Right, So, you know, I'm optimistic for

604
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 2: the future of your situation. I think you should be

605
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:27,760
Speaker 2: optimistic for yourself.

606
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: And a lot of people say that to me, and

607
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: I'm just.

608
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 2: Damn yeah, I think you'll be fine.

609
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 3: Man.

610
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: A lot of people say that, yeah, I think you're

611
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: gonna be just it's just city right now. It's just yeah,

612
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: but I'm trying. I'm trying to be optimistic. I'm just

613
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 1: like it's just rough. Like this morning, I just wanted

614
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: to crawl up in a hole and just die. That's

615
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: how I felt this morning. But like I'm glad I'm

616
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 1: out here and working and just I just got to

617
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 1: keep busy because if I let my mind go crazy,

618
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna I'm going to be in a bad space.

619
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 1: So that's that's a main thing right now.

620
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 2: Just like I said, just before we go, I know,

621
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 2: we I've kind of talked your ear off to death

622
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 2: about the stuff, like before we go, like what do

623
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 2: you like? What do you what do you? What are

624
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 2: you anxious about?

625
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:20,240
Speaker 1: What am I anxious about? The future? Just the future,

626
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 1: just not knowing what's gonna happen, not knowing if she

627
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 1: really hold up her end and let me see them,

628
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:28,439
Speaker 1: because like I said, this happened before and I didn't

629
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 1: see them for ten months and oh really so yeah,

630
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 1: so it's like I don't really know if ah fuck,

631
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: I don't really know if I can trust that or

632
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 1: if we're gonna have to go back to court and

633
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: battle it out, because the way she was talking is like,

634
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: I'll let you see him, and we can agree on

635
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 1: a set payment and you could just like send me

636
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 1: money every month and then like that'll be like the

637
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: child support and we'll just keep the courts out of it.

638
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, but like she said that, but

639
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:00,879
Speaker 1: she tells me things I like to hear all the time,

640
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 1: and then it doesn't happen. So I'm just like, that's

641
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: just what I'm anxious about. It's like, is that really

642
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 1: going to happen? Like when I call her and she's

643
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: gone and I'm trying to see the kids, is she

644
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 1: going to let me?

645
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,400
Speaker 2: Damn? She can't wait. What happened in those what happened

646
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 2: in those ten months.

647
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 1: She went to her mom's like she's doing now, and

648
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: so this is like virtually the same thing. Just years later.

649
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 1: She went to her mom's and uh just uh wouldn't

650
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:34,760
Speaker 1: answer calls or emails or she blocked me on everything

651
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: and just wouldn't talk to me. And there was a

652
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 1: point where I even drove up there on Father's Day

653
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 1: knocked on the door and they ignored me, and I

654
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 1: called the Sheriff's office and they knocked on the door

655
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, she's not gonna lie you to

656
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 1: see them. And I'm like, how we're still married, Like

657
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: there's no court orders saying I can't see my kids.

658
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:56,879
Speaker 1: And so yeah, that's that's where the anxiousness is coming from,

659
00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: because I've already lived through the same exact experience that's

660
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 1: just starting and it went very badly for me. Like

661
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: I said, I miss a bunch of scenes, like my

662
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: son's first birthday, my daughter's second birthday, I miss Christmas, Thanksgiving,

663
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 1: Father's Day, everything.

664
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 2: Do you have a lawyer?

665
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: Well, I was going to hire one, but then, like

666
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 1: I said, she took all my money, Like she literally

667
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 1: left me with just like fifteen hundred dollars and.

668
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 2: Ye can can can sell is if anyone's if anyone's

669
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 2: an attorney, can you email me? I want to Could

670
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 2: I anyone work for this guy probo? And I would

671
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 2: to help him, help him see his kids. Man, that

672
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 2: fucking sucks, damn fuck.

673
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. So she kind of put me in a bad spot.

674
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: And uh yeah, because like I was literally gonna call

675
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: a lawyer today and like everything, Like I was gonna

676
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 1: do that and like I said, I was getting those

677
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 1: weird I was getting email notifications. I'm like, what the

678
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: fuck is going on with my bank? So I log in,

679
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 1: money's gone. I'm like, what she took one deposit of

680
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:09,360
Speaker 1: five hundred and then another two thousand, So like, honestly

681
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:11,760
Speaker 1: right now money to Yeah.

682
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 2: You need a lawyer fucking asap.

683
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, yeah, I know. I'm just I'm just

684
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 1: kind of like just trying to keep the business running

685
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 1: and trying to keep some income coming in and then

686
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 1: like like she left me with enough money to like

687
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: pay some my employee and keep the business running and

688
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 1: buy materials and pay for ads and like that's really it.

689
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,720
Speaker 1: Mm though, like she kind of fucked me over pretty

690
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:41,760
Speaker 1: good in that sense.

691
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 3: M hm.

692
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:47,320
Speaker 1: So, and I'm actively talking to the police department about

693
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 1: fraud so m hm. Like I said, that didn't come

694
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 1: from our personal account. She took that from the business account,

695
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 1: which she's not even on.

696
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 2: A fuck man, I'm so to hear about all this money.

697
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,240
Speaker 2: Yeah no, man, I'm sorry to hear about all this, seth.

698
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 2: But I will if I can, if I can leave

699
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 2: you with anything. On the optimistic front, I'm hoping that

700
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 2: like yeah, fuck no, I'm worried. I'm worried about it too,

701
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 2: because because if it happened before, Fuck yeah, if she

702
00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 2: like this happened before, it's hard to say that it

703
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 2: won't happen again, which just fucking sucks. But if I

704
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:35,800
Speaker 2: can leave with any optimistic note, it's that I I

705
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:42,240
Speaker 2: do think your children will like like, your children will

706
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 2: know that you are a good dad. Nothing about like

707
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 2: you're like like when I think about like into like,

708
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 2: I think that the ways in which people kind of

709
00:41:56,360 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 2: intuitively are an act like if like in in in

710
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 2: their good ways and in their bad ways, they're always

711
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 2: made a parent to the people in their lives. And

712
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 2: from talking to you for like this long, I just

713
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 2: get the sense to you intuitively act in ways that

714
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: are in the best interest of your family. And I

715
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 2: know I'm a stranger, but I have faith that the

716
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 2: way you intuitively act for your family will be picked

717
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 2: up by your children and appreciated, even if it, uh

718
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 2: is is difficult in the moment. So uh you know,

719
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 2: hearing your story, I have faith in that, but you know,

720
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 2: I know, I know it's a fucking shitty road. Send

721
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,919
Speaker 2: an email The Therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com.

722
00:42:54,040 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 2: For a lawyer in uh in where and wherever Seth lives. Yeah, dude,

723
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 2: hang in there, man, this is a fucking tough one.

724
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. I appreciate it. Man, I appreciate you calling.

725
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,759
Speaker 2: Is there anything else I can I can? Uh do

726
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:18,319
Speaker 2: you for? No?

727
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: I I think it was a good little venting therapy session.

728
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 2: I'll say one more thing. This happened to me today

729
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 2: and I was like, well, it didn't happen to me.

730
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 2: I just saw it. I saw something, Dude, I saw

731
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 2: something to that really upset me. Maybe it's on the

732
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 2: maybe I can link these two things together. I was

733
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: walking down the street and I saw this, Like, dude,

734
00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 2: I saw something to that really fucking upset me. I

735
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 2: saw this like, I was walking down the street and

736
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 2: I saw this. I walking down the street and I

737
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:53,320
Speaker 2: heard someone screaming like fuck you. Don't you ever fucking

738
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 2: disrespect me like this? You fucking And I was like, oh,

739
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 2: this is like a like a person like tweaking out

740
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 2: on drugs or whatever. Yeah, and and then I turn around.

741
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 2: I look and it's this like huge dude like screaming

742
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 2: in his daughter's face like with ye, yeah, there's this

743
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 2: huge fucking guy like screaming in his daughter's face with

744
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 2: like all of like all like his complete, utter, full

745
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 2: adult force. This huge, fat guy just like fuck you

746
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 2: don't you fucking like his like the veins in his

747
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: fucking face are like pierced coursing out people every people

748
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,240
Speaker 2: are staring at him, the girls like you know, in tears,

749
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: and people are staring at him, and he's like looking

750
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 2: at them, being like, uh, what the fuck are you

751
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 2: looking at? You come and fucking closer, off, fucking kick

752
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 2: your fucking ass. You fucking look at.

753
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 1: Me like that.

754
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:51,479
Speaker 2: And He's screaming at this fucking kid, and I'm just like, God,

755
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,799
Speaker 2: this guy's a fucking loser, piece of shit. And then

756
00:44:56,719 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 2: I was like I like walked he passed them again,

757
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 2: and he was like this guy's a lunatic. He was

758
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 2: like he was like comforting her, and he was like,

759
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 2: you know, I'm still your daddy. You just can't, you know,

760
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 2: disrespect me like that. You can't embarrass me like that

761
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 2: in front of people. And I was like, dude, you're

762
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: fuck you're fucking embarrassing yourself, like, you know, treating your

763
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 2: fucking kid like that. It was just crazy, and I

764
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 2: just was like I was just seething. I was like,

765
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 2: there's not gonna fucking do a bad It was just seething.

766
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: And so so you're a better dad. Yeah that was

767
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 2: in New York. All this is to say, you're a

768
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 2: better dad than that guy. The bar's pretty low, pars

769
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 2: pretty low, bars pretty low. Bar is pretty low. But

770
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 2: you're a better dad than that guy. So at least

771
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 2: there's that.

772
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:52,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that is that is a positive. Uh,

773
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: at least I'm not a worse dad than.

774
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 2: Him, Seth, Is there anything else you want to say

775
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 2: to the people of the computer before we go?

776
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: I would say to the people, if you are really

777
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 1: unhappy in a relationship and you have kids, don't say

778
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 1: for the kids. And uh, don't get back with that

779
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: person if you are if you left them for a reason,

780
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,879
Speaker 1: because uh it's been a big mistake and I'm gonna

781
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: have to rebuild my life and uh, just keep your

782
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: own happiness like center, you know what I mean. Just

783
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: make sure you're happy. And if the person that you

784
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 1: love isn't making you happy and is rude, just leave

785
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: who you who will be better?

786
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 2: Yeah you're the man. Good luck to you, man, all right?

787
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 2: See Elile, have a good one. But that was Seth.

788
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 2: Seth's a good guy man. I feel for Seth. He's

789
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 2: a better father than the fucking I was yelling at

790
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 2: his kid. That's that that guy sucked. It's funny. I'm

791
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: like pretty, I'm like, i'd like to think I'm a

792
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 2: pretty fucking.

793
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 3: Like.

794
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 2: It takes a lot for me to be like that

795
00:47:14,600 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 2: guy's a like for me to like with full like

796
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 2: like okay on gut reaction. It's easy to be like, oh,

797
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:24,280
Speaker 2: that guy's a fucking asshole, but then I almost always

798
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 2: am like I was, I'm almost like that guys fucking assh.

799
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 2: I think about a little blog, I'm like, ah, whatever,

800
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 2: but like that, it takes a lot to be like, no,

801
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 2: that guy is just piece of shit. And I was like, Okay,

802
00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:39,439
Speaker 2: is a fucking piece of shit anyway, Seth not Seth.

803
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: Seth's a great guy. S that's a good dude. I

804
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 2: feel for a man that's tough. Well, please, if you're

805
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 2: a lawyer, reach out. I actually I have no idea

806
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:52,280
Speaker 2: how to get in touch with Seth again, but uh,

807
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 2: I'll figure it out. If you're a lawyer, let me

808
00:47:56,280 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 2: know anyway. Yeah, Hello, Hey, what's up man?

809
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 1: Ooh Hey, How are you?

810
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 2: How am I? I am all right. I'm looking at it.

811
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 2: Some trees right now, they're very green.

812
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 3: Uh.

813
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 2: I feel okay in my body. You know, I'm working

814
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 2: on it. I think it's there's so many variables, you

815
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 2: know what I mean. There's so many variables that affect

816
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:34,399
Speaker 2: one's mood. There's these, there's drugs, there's sleep. There's an

817
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:38,840
Speaker 2: infinite amount of external factors, and so it's hard to

818
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,280
Speaker 2: determine what the real solution is. But I'm trying the stuff.

819
00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 2: You know. I'm drinking some water. That's not true. I drank.

820
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 2: I didn't drink what I drank A I drank a celsius.

821
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 1: Uh.

822
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,399
Speaker 2: So I have a little bit of energy. I had

823
00:48:55,400 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 2: some sushi, had a protein shake. I haven't had any candy.

824
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 2: Those are the worst days some days I've had where dude,

825
00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 2: I went to a fucking I'm I think I've talked

826
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 2: about this on the podcast before, but I've I went

827
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:15,760
Speaker 2: to a maybe I have. I went to an overeater's

828
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 2: anonymous meeting once. Maybe that this might fuck with the anonymousness.

829
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 2: You know, you're probably not supposed to do this, but whatever.

830
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 2: I there was a woman who talked about like eating

831
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:35,680
Speaker 2: a whole chocolate cake and feeling nothing. I think that's

832
00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 2: okay to say it's anonymous, it's just a random woman.

833
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 3: But I mean so again, that was me that it's

834
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 3: a cake. But now it's okay, you have my permission

835
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:48,879
Speaker 3: to talk about it.

836
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, this woman talking about and then I was like,

837
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 2: oh I I had I was I. I kind of

838
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 2: was like she I heard her say that. And then

839
00:50:00,520 --> 00:50:02,720
Speaker 2: there was a day I went to the Family Dollar

840
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 2: in the middle of the day and I got I

841
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 2: got lemon head ropes. They're ropeifying everything now. I don't

842
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 2: know if you know this. It's a it's a new phenomenon.

843
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 2: They're ropeifying everything. I got some hot tomalities, and I

844
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:19,840
Speaker 2: got some butterfinger bites and I ate them all and

845
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 2: I was like, it was a very like, oh man,

846
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 2: Jesus kind of feeling this is kind of crazy. But

847
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 2: I've been not doing that, which is great, So I

848
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:39,799
Speaker 2: feel good. The sun is out, I'm looking at uh.

849
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:45,760
Speaker 2: I bought a new pair of sunglasses. That feels nice.

850
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna start trying to dress like a

851
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 2: real adult. I know that I dressed like a gecko,

852
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 2: but uh, I think dressed on like a real adult

853
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 2: could be nice. I'm thinking about getting a chain, not

854
00:50:56,800 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 2: like an expensive one, like a like a fifty dollars.

855
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,319
Speaker 2: I bet I could probably get like some shitty chain,

856
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 2: you know, Like I feel like that's a whole new guy.

857
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 2: You know, I've been seeing a lot of guys with

858
00:51:07,640 --> 00:51:10,880
Speaker 2: chains and like they're wearing like the collar trying. I'm like, oh,

859
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 2: I could be like a real guy. I could wear

860
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 2: like a chain. What kind of guy would that be?

861
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 2: It doesn't come natural to me to wear jewelry or

862
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 2: to dress nice or like I've never cared about like

863
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 2: nice clothes. But lately I've been seeing guys with nice clothes,

864
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I but that feels good to like,

865
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 2: you know, you know what I mean, Like there's somebody

866
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:34,400
Speaker 2: like to go to bring it back to the eating stuff.

867
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 2: It's like there's so many things that really there's a

868
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 2: real spectrum. I think in terms of being dead and

869
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 2: being alive. And I think that like like something about

870
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 2: like wearing intentional clothing, being outside, and not having eaten

871
00:51:57,160 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 2: candy that day. It strikes me as being closer to

872
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 2: the living part and as opposed to the being dead part.

873
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 2: So I want to join the living. I want to

874
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 2: be part of the people, and so I'm doing that.

875
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 2: I'm being I'm trying to join the living. I might

876
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 2: get a chain. Do you do you ever? You have

877
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 2: a jewelry?

878
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: Well?

879
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 3: I wear a watch every day. But I was gonna

880
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 3: say I do. But could I comment on something you

881
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 3: said that struck me as true?

882
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:32,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, I think.

883
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 3: Uh, I think that what you said about living with

884
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 3: intention is a big part of all of these decisions. Like,

885
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:43,560
Speaker 3: I think that's living life in a way closer to

886
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,839
Speaker 3: maybe how do you describe it, like a real human

887
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 3: or like a real real person. I think that, Yeah,

888
00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 3: just like acting with intention and like choosing to put

889
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 3: nerds on a rope and call that a new candy,

890
00:52:57,160 --> 00:53:00,600
Speaker 3: like someone did that. That's a real thing. Happened, right,

891
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 3: and now we're talking about it.

892
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:04,799
Speaker 2: But that's your It's true, and that's the that's the

893
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 2: difference between like being dead and being li acting with intention.

894
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:13,799
Speaker 2: That's like real live time, you know, and that makes

895
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 2: it makes you respect the guy. You see a guy

896
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:22,359
Speaker 2: uh walking around with like you know, like he's well

897
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:26,120
Speaker 2: dressed and you're like, this guy paid attention to certain

898
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 2: aspects of his life, right, the more yeah, that's the attention.

899
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:31,320
Speaker 2: Intention is the key word. Like when I went, like,

900
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 2: when I have an unintentional day, it songs me. The

901
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 2: the problem is like, uh, yeah, you know you have

902
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 2: an unintentional day. You wake up, you scroll your phone,

903
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 2: you eat whatever, you know. But if you like, Okay,

904
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pay attention to what I do right when

905
00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:48,359
Speaker 2: I wake up and pay attention to what I eat

906
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 2: or pay attention to what I wear, I'm gonna pay

907
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:53,359
Speaker 2: attention to like the time. That's the I think. Guess

908
00:53:53,520 --> 00:53:58,280
Speaker 2: the problem is that intention, intention requires a lot of energy,

909
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:01,920
Speaker 2: you know, so you gotta summon the energy for that intention.

910
00:54:02,080 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 2: Some people it comes naturally to other people not so much.

911
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 2: But I think the more intentional I can live my life,

912
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 2: the better. Wouldn't you say? Anyway, that's all I'm doing.

913
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:13,839
Speaker 2: How you doing?

914
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 3: I'm doing good?

915
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 1: Could I?

916
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 3: Uh, There's something I promised my therapist i'd do if

917
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 3: I ever talked to you. I was hoping we could

918
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:24,320
Speaker 3: like take a taking a deep breath together and just exhale,

919
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:26,920
Speaker 3: and like anyone that might be listening down the road.

920
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: Could do that with us.

921
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 3: So we all have this like global breath. I think

922
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 3: that would be really cool.

923
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:37,239
Speaker 2: Would be well? I have quite have questions for you

924
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 2: before we start doing a whole thing. You told what Okay,

925
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: let me read you probably texted me something. Let me

926
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 2: read that.

927
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:51,319
Speaker 3: I mean, I've been listening to you since pandemic and

928
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 3: calling all the time, texting all the time, crazy stuff.

929
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 3: Saw you in Philly twice in the road saying oh.

930
00:54:56,280 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, my man, my man, Okay, okay, your name is

931
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 2: Sean and you said you said my therapist said I

932
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 2: should talk to you. Let's talk about that you've brought

933
00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 2: because you brought up your You texted me this. Oh

934
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 2: you texted me that three okay three, two and a

935
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,680
Speaker 2: half years ago, you said my therapist should talk told

936
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:19,239
Speaker 2: me I should talk to you, and then you brought

937
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 2: up your therapist. Just now, why does your therapist want

938
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 2: you to talk to me? I'm curious?

939
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 3: Oh, not like, not like she can't handle me. More

940
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 3: like I bring you up all the time, and I

941
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 3: think I'll think she's offended. Oh. I learn. I learn

942
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:38,319
Speaker 3: a lot from you. I I make a lot of

943
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 3: decisions not based on you, but like you, the people

944
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:43,319
Speaker 3: you talk to, the way you describe life. It helps me,

945
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,879
Speaker 3: you know, put on another person's parent glasses and kind

946
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,200
Speaker 3: of see life through their eyes.

947
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 2: Really okay, I'm it makes me nervous. I you know,

948
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 2: I that's very okay, Sorry, I'm getting flustered. How is that? Okay?

949
00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 2: Important question? Main question? How has that been going for you?

950
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:03,959
Speaker 2: And what?

951
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:04,680
Speaker 1: Uh?

952
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:06,799
Speaker 2: Because I want to I wanta because I don't know, man,

953
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:08,800
Speaker 2: I say all kinds of stuff. I want how Okay,

954
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:12,840
Speaker 2: you say that you've been not making it, but that

955
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:15,360
Speaker 2: like listening to the show and and me talk and

956
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:19,920
Speaker 2: the other people talk, has has influenced you in some

957
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:23,719
Speaker 2: way to do certain things? What? What things? And how

958
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 2: has that been going for you? Because I'm nervous. I'm

959
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 2: hoping that they're I'm hoping these are good things. I'm

960
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 2: hoping they didn't encourage you to like I don't know, be.

961
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: What?

962
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, tell tell me what does it encourage you to do?

963
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:42,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll get back to the breath later. Maybe that's

964
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 3: how we hadly call. But you know, everyone deals with

965
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 3: a problem or or a difficulty in their life. And

966
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 3: like there's a guy that called in about having a

967
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 3: real wanting to have relationships with a minotaur years ago.

968
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 1: Do you talk about remember.

969
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 3: That, and I think, yeah, I think about him a lot,

970
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 3: not like because I have those thoughts, but man, everyone's

971
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:11,320
Speaker 3: got their own thing that they're going through, right totally,

972
00:57:11,920 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 3: And uh, I think that there's a lot of commonality,

973
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:17,120
Speaker 3: Like there's a lot more that we have in common

974
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 3: than I think people give credit to. People love to

975
00:57:19,720 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 3: celebrate their differences and what makes them unique. But like,

976
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 3: I got something that I'm dealing with too, and listening

977
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:28,919
Speaker 3: to the train guy or the guy in the cave

978
00:57:29,280 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 3: like it helped me. Yeah, it it just kind of helped.

979
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 3: It's like humbling. I think it's easy to get focused

980
00:57:36,680 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 3: on like life through your own set of eyes.

981
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, totally, you know.

982
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 3: Kind of kind of hearing what other people are going through.

983
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 3: Like I I was just eating candy from a bowl

984
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 3: easing chop sticks because I didn't want to get my

985
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 3: hands sticky while I was working.

986
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 2: WHOA can't wait? WHOA wait? What were you eating with chapsticks?

987
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 3: Uh?

988
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 1: Yeah?

989
00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 3: Do you know what dots are? They're like a South brand.

990
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:08,000
Speaker 2: Dots are I think, Yeah, I know what dots are.

991
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 2: I think dots are evil. Oh, like I put I

992
00:58:13,800 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 2: put dots in the same category as milk. Duds where

993
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 2: it's like, there's no way, there's no way to eat

994
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 2: this that won't just fuck up your teeth immeasurably. Am

995
00:58:25,920 --> 00:58:30,200
Speaker 2: I wrong? You seem like a dots guy.

996
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 3: Big dots guy. Yeah, I don't know about the teeth thing.

997
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't think I have. But hey, everyone

998
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 3: has their own sets.

999
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 2: Of problems problems.

1000
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, So like you try chop sticks, especially if you

1001
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 3: you game. I think it's a good way to not

1002
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 3: get cheeto dusts on your controller.

1003
00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 2: Interesting, I can't eat in game. I'm not like a.

1004
00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 2: I'm not good at that. I can only like, I

1005
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 2: guess I can even get Sometimes I'll hold a Yeah,

1006
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:01,560
Speaker 2: I mean sometimes I like I have the switch. I'll like, uh,

1007
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 2: if I'm playing something where you only need one of

1008
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 2: the joy cons, I'll like, maybe eat something while I

1009
00:59:08,200 --> 00:59:11,360
Speaker 2: hold the other one. It's nice. You know what another

1010
00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 2: problem is is someone there's so many. I was talking

1011
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 2: about the spectrum of being dead to being alive. It's like,

1012
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 2: you know, I think the most alive time I have

1013
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:24,840
Speaker 2: the most part of society I am is when I'm

1014
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 2: fully dressed, I'm outside, I'm around other people, I'm like,

1015
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 2: you know, doing something I'm filming something, I'm making something,

1016
00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: I'm around. I'm just in life, right. But then also,

1017
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:43,440
Speaker 2: you know, playing the Switch while eating chips, it's a

1018
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 2: nice thing. I've had periods. I've probably talked too four,

1019
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:50,000
Speaker 2: but I've had little times where like I was playing

1020
00:59:50,040 --> 00:59:52,600
Speaker 2: my Nintendo and eating chips, just like in my house,

1021
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 2: and I paused the game and I put it down,

1022
00:59:56,080 --> 00:59:59,400
Speaker 2: and just for one second, I was like, you know,

1023
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:08,000
Speaker 2: I feel really honored that in the brief uh cosmic

1024
01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:12,560
Speaker 2: uh uh a blimp of time that I'm alive on

1025
01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 2: this planet, I get to eat chips and play Paper

1026
01:00:16,720 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 2: Mario one thousand year Door Switch remake. You know, I'm like, oh,

1027
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 2: this is nice, is good. I just take once. I

1028
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:26,360
Speaker 2: gotta acknowledge it. But you know what this you know

1029
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:28,360
Speaker 2: what you take, You're you're right. This takes us back

1030
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 2: to intention, right, because if I'm just playing fucking over,

1031
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 2: what if I'm just playing some random fucking thing just

1032
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 2: to speed it up, It's like, this is not But

1033
01:00:37,080 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 2: if I if I pause the game and just for

1034
01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:43,000
Speaker 2: a second, I'm like, I am intentionally deciding to spend

1035
01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 2: my finite time on Earth playing the Nintendo Switch remake

1036
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 2: of Paper Mario on thousand Year Door, and I am

1037
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 2: I am not only okay with that choice, I am

1038
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 2: honored by I am honored that I have the cognition

1039
01:00:58,400 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 2: to do it, you know what I mean? Fantastic, Sam,

1040
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 2: Sean Sam?

1041
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1042
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 2: What else?

1043
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 1: Do you?

1044
01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 2: What else?

1045
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:10,840
Speaker 1: I think?

1046
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:15,280
Speaker 2: Do you you? What else do you mention about your

1047
01:01:15,720 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 2: what is your What else does your therapist have to

1048
01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 2: say about what you've told her about the show? I'm curious?

1049
01:01:21,680 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 3: Sure, Yeah, I mean we talk a lot about intentionality,

1050
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 3: and like, you know, I think if you if you

1051
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 3: play video game because I'm home from work, like are

1052
01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 3: you go into this automatic routine and then it's like

1053
01:01:34,800 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 3: the video game is playing you. But if you choose

1054
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:39,760
Speaker 3: the video game, now, suddenly you're in the moment, like

1055
01:01:39,840 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 3: you're I think that that's most of my advices are

1056
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:48,120
Speaker 3: an attempt to be in the in the present is

1057
01:01:48,120 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 3: a little ironic.

1058
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 2: Absolutely, That's what addiction is.

1059
01:01:50,920 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think so too. So like you can

1060
01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:58,280
Speaker 3: take ownership of that by by choosing it intentionally, you know,

1061
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 3: like I think my dog chooses things intentionally. I think

1062
01:02:02,160 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 3: you choose to spend time with me or not. But

1063
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:08,479
Speaker 3: like I don't know that a rock chooses to be there,

1064
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 3: so that's that's like important. But I talk about this

1065
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 3: with my with her, and uh, I don't know that

1066
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:18,760
Speaker 3: she gets it in the same way that you might,

1067
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 3: because you know, her and I are talking like positive psychotherapy, mindfulness,

1068
01:02:24,360 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 3: and then I drop these like yeah, but does this

1069
01:02:26,720 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 3: does the rock choose to wake up every day? And

1070
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 3: like how does the rock get out of bed? Or

1071
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:33,360
Speaker 3: I love like shadows?

1072
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 2: Oh wait wait, I'm just now realizing. Do you mean

1073
01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:37,920
Speaker 2: a rock or the rock?

1074
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 3: Oh joined the rock Johnson?

1075
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:41,919
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1076
01:02:41,960 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 2: Are you talking about a rock? Are you talking about

1077
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Speaker 2: Dowayne the Rock Johnson?

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Speaker 3: I mean both are interesting questions. I was talking like

1079
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 3: in inanimate rock, But you know, the rock makes doing

1080
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 3: the rock Johnson makes different choices. I mean, he man,

1081
01:02:59,080 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 3: what's like to be him?

1082
01:03:00,160 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 1: Right?

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01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 2: What is it like? I bet it feels good. I

1084
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:06,560
Speaker 2: bet it feels good to be Dwayne the Rock Johnson.

1085
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 2: I bet it feels good. You know, you know what's

1086
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:13,240
Speaker 2: fun is uh? Like you know the whole you know.

1087
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:17,040
Speaker 2: People people like to say this is my official stance.

1088
01:03:17,320 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 2: People like to say, oh, everyone has problems or issues

1089
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:26,280
Speaker 2: that you don't know about. That's not true. There are

1090
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 2: some people on this earth whose lives are immeasurably great.

1091
01:03:31,560 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 2: They're way better than yours, and they've never known darkness

1092
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 2: their entire life. They feel good every day, they had

1093
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 2: wonderful childhoods. If they just their lives is amazing and

1094
01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 2: full and complete. They have sex all the time with

1095
01:03:51,200 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 2: beautiful people, and you know, their life is great, and

1096
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:59,520
Speaker 2: they're gonna live to ninety and there it's gonna be

1097
01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 2: just great the whole time. They're like the fact that

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01:04:02,480 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 2: everyone has something that they're going through. I don't think

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01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:08,080
Speaker 2: that's I think there's I think most people do. But

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01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:11,080
Speaker 2: there are definitely people who are just gonna have amazing,

1101
01:04:11,080 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 2: perfect lives forever. But you shouldn't compare yourselves to those

1102
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:20,040
Speaker 2: people because you know you're not them. So just you know,

1103
01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:23,040
Speaker 2: you got you, but you, but you are you, and

1104
01:04:23,080 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 2: there's nice things about being you. So you know, those

1105
01:04:26,760 --> 01:04:29,400
Speaker 2: are your cards. You didn't get the best, amazing cards,

1106
01:04:29,480 --> 01:04:32,480
Speaker 2: but what do you but you got cards. You're dealt in.

1107
01:04:33,040 --> 01:04:37,520
Speaker 2: You know you don't wanna, well, you rather you rather

1108
01:04:37,600 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 2: have cards than just be fucking not even playing the game.

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01:04:42,000 --> 01:04:44,320
Speaker 2: You know, I just don't like it. I don't like what

1110
01:04:44,480 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 2: people are like. Oh I'm envious of this. And then

1111
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:48,000
Speaker 2: people are like, well, their life is not so good.

1112
01:04:48,040 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 2: It's like, well, a who cares if their life is

1113
01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:53,880
Speaker 2: so good? And be It's like it probably is, but

1114
01:04:54,640 --> 01:04:56,440
Speaker 2: so what, there has nothing to do with you. You

1115
01:04:56,480 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 2: know what what Dwayne the Rock Johnson could have a

1116
01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:01,400
Speaker 2: perfect life and it has nothing to do with me.

1117
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:03,360
Speaker 2: I still got to do.

1118
01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you ever hear interviews with like those people

1119
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,200
Speaker 3: with perfect lives and they're like, well, what's next? It's

1120
01:05:10,200 --> 01:05:12,800
Speaker 3: like I don't. I don't need anything, like I have

1121
01:05:13,120 --> 01:05:15,560
Speaker 3: all the money I have, like all the people in

1122
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 3: my life, like I could see with anyone I want,

1123
01:05:17,920 --> 01:05:20,280
Speaker 3: And I don't think they're I don't know. I'm not

1124
01:05:20,280 --> 01:05:25,200
Speaker 3: sure that they're always happy in an enviable way, like

1125
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:28,720
Speaker 3: maybe they're not in control of their lives or they're

1126
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:31,480
Speaker 3: not making those intentional choices or I mean, for me,

1127
01:05:31,560 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 3: the struggle like not even a struggle, just like the

1128
01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:38,720
Speaker 3: growth and the transition is fun. Like I live for

1129
01:05:39,480 --> 01:05:42,680
Speaker 3: growth and learning new things. I'm super curious. So if

1130
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 3: I knew say that you gave me a magic wand

1131
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 3: or like you bestowed on me infinite wisdom, that would

1132
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:51,400
Speaker 3: be like torture because there's nothing else to grow, There's

1133
01:05:51,400 --> 01:05:56,720
Speaker 3: nothing else to learn, of course, so why would you

1134
01:05:56,760 --> 01:06:00,360
Speaker 3: So I think some people are envious of that, but

1135
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:03,840
Speaker 3: don't be Yeah, like enjoy the journey, like you mentioned.

1136
01:06:06,920 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 2: Let's see, your name is Sean. Yeah, you said my

1137
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:16,680
Speaker 2: therapist said I should talk to you. You're you're that

1138
01:06:16,760 --> 01:06:22,360
Speaker 2: you were talking to me about your therapist and then

1139
01:06:22,440 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 2: now you're you're talking to your therapist about me. And

1140
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 2: then what what did you say that? What did your

1141
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:28,360
Speaker 2: therapist say exactly like when they were giving you advice

1142
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:31,080
Speaker 2: when they said you should talk to the gecko guy?

1143
01:06:32,560 --> 01:06:35,560
Speaker 3: M I think I've talked to her about if I

1144
01:06:35,560 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 3: get on, what am I gonna say? And that's it

1145
01:06:39,280 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 3: doesn't matter what I say. What matters is that word

1146
01:06:42,200 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 3: we have in this moment, which I've thought about for

1147
01:06:44,360 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 3: so long, And you know, I feel very intimately talking

1148
01:06:49,040 --> 01:06:52,600
Speaker 3: to you, like I can't see you. I know sometimes

1149
01:06:52,600 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 3: you stream and people probably watch you as they're talking

1150
01:06:54,880 --> 01:06:56,960
Speaker 3: to you, but I don't know what You're doing, and

1151
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:58,920
Speaker 3: I feel like you don't know what I'm doing. So

1152
01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 3: it's kind of like we have the same set of

1153
01:07:01,480 --> 01:07:03,720
Speaker 3: cards in front of us in this moment. Did the

1154
01:07:03,920 --> 01:07:05,840
Speaker 3: did there is no expectation, right.

1155
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 2: Did this conversation at least live up to your expectations

1156
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:11,680
Speaker 2: of it?

1157
01:07:15,520 --> 01:07:17,800
Speaker 3: I don't know that I had expectations, but I'm really

1158
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:18,840
Speaker 3: enjoying it right now.

1159
01:07:21,160 --> 01:07:23,440
Speaker 2: Well, thanks, Sean, I appreciate it. I gotta tell your

1160
01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:27,560
Speaker 2: therapists that we talked, and then uh see what they

1161
01:07:27,920 --> 01:07:30,480
Speaker 2: see what they say when you're like, hey, I talked

1162
01:07:30,520 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 2: to a lizard.

1163
01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:35,680
Speaker 3: I've always wanted to always wanted to tell you what

1164
01:07:35,760 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 3: I think, like what I think life's all about in

1165
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:41,680
Speaker 3: like three little little phrases through three little words.

1166
01:07:42,760 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 2: You will you want to tell me what life is

1167
01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:45,920
Speaker 2: all about in three words?

1168
01:07:47,800 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 3: It's not really three words. I guess it's like three

1169
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:52,160
Speaker 3: like legs of a stool, if you will.

1170
01:07:52,640 --> 01:07:56,960
Speaker 2: Three legs of a stool. What are the what are

1171
01:07:57,000 --> 01:07:58,160
Speaker 2: the three legs of the stool?

1172
01:07:59,680 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1173
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:05,080
Speaker 3: I think it's creating cool things with cool people, sure,

1174
01:08:05,120 --> 01:08:06,360
Speaker 3: in an authentic way.

1175
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:13,240
Speaker 2: Creating Oh that's that's the stool, creating cool things with

1176
01:08:13,400 --> 01:08:17,720
Speaker 2: cool people in an authentic way. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I

1177
01:08:17,720 --> 01:08:20,519
Speaker 2: think that's that's pretty similar to what, uh, I think

1178
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:23,840
Speaker 2: my stool is. Like, you know, I've learned over the years,

1179
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:26,759
Speaker 2: like all that really matters is like what you're actually

1180
01:08:26,840 --> 01:08:32,000
Speaker 2: doing and who you're doing it with. So I'm I

1181
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 2: think you have a I think you have a good stool.

1182
01:08:35,280 --> 01:08:37,000
Speaker 2: I like that. I like the I like the use

1183
01:08:37,080 --> 01:08:40,559
Speaker 2: of the word. I like a stool as a metaphor

1184
01:08:40,600 --> 01:08:43,480
Speaker 2: for a life philosophy.

1185
01:08:44,320 --> 01:08:46,600
Speaker 3: M hmm. Well, if you think about it, if you

1186
01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:49,320
Speaker 3: lose one of those legs, because life happens, the whole

1187
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:52,920
Speaker 3: school balance for a while, you lose I don't know

1188
01:08:52,920 --> 01:08:54,920
Speaker 3: if you ever had a stool, but if you lose

1189
01:08:54,960 --> 01:08:56,360
Speaker 3: one leg, the thing gets fucked.

1190
01:08:56,400 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 2: But maybe it's a four legs you can you can

1191
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:04,479
Speaker 2: sit on a uh what thing only needs maybe four legs?

1192
01:09:05,560 --> 01:09:08,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe a chain of bike only has two wheels

1193
01:09:08,240 --> 01:09:10,000
Speaker 3: and you kind of you can balance on that for

1194
01:09:10,040 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 3: a little bit.

1195
01:09:13,040 --> 01:09:15,640
Speaker 2: You're a genius. That makes sense. Damn okay, all right,

1196
01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:17,439
Speaker 2: yeah that makes sense. You can still balance on the stool,

1197
01:09:18,160 --> 01:09:18,320
Speaker 2: you know.

1198
01:09:18,479 --> 01:09:21,040
Speaker 3: Don't not prolong though, I mean, you gotta you gotta

1199
01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:23,639
Speaker 3: build that leg underneath you when you can, and hopefully

1200
01:09:23,640 --> 01:09:25,559
Speaker 3: you have like friends and to support networks that can

1201
01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:25,960
Speaker 3: help you.

1202
01:09:27,040 --> 01:09:28,519
Speaker 2: Sean, is there anything else you want to say to

1203
01:09:28,560 --> 01:09:29,960
Speaker 2: the people of the computer before we go.

1204
01:09:31,880 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 3: I just I just want to take that breath with

1205
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:34,680
Speaker 3: you if we could do that.

1206
01:09:35,280 --> 01:09:37,759
Speaker 2: Okay, we can take a breath you ready?

1207
01:09:39,040 --> 01:09:40,439
Speaker 1: Oh yeahs do it.

1208
01:09:46,120 --> 01:09:47,360
Speaker 2: Thank you for calling Sean.

1209
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:49,280
Speaker 3: Thanks for being here.

1210
01:09:51,640 --> 01:09:54,760
Speaker 2: Hey, folks, Uh, this is Lyle. I'm gonna do a

1211
01:09:54,880 --> 01:10:00,240
Speaker 2: I'm gonna end the episode today by doing a little

1212
01:10:00,280 --> 01:10:04,879
Speaker 2: segment I call gek mail, which is where I read

1213
01:10:06,200 --> 01:10:14,160
Speaker 2: emails that people wrote to me and then I ponder

1214
01:10:14,240 --> 01:10:17,560
Speaker 2: them in the same way that people call me to

1215
01:10:17,600 --> 01:10:19,760
Speaker 2: say words and I ponder them. This time, I'm going

1216
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 2: to read an email and I will ponder it. So

1217
01:10:24,040 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 2: let's read this email that someone send me. If you

1218
01:10:28,000 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 2: want to send me an email, you can send one

1219
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:36,000
Speaker 2: to therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com. Anyway, Oh wait,

1220
01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:39,240
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read two emails because there's one email that

1221
01:10:39,280 --> 01:10:42,599
Speaker 2: I want to read. Okay, okay, So before I read

1222
01:10:42,600 --> 01:10:47,519
Speaker 2: this email, there's this guy. His name is Chris, and

1223
01:10:47,560 --> 01:10:50,479
Speaker 2: he's been send He's been emailing me over and over

1224
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:52,679
Speaker 2: again about how he's going to start a bay blade

1225
01:10:52,760 --> 01:10:58,080
Speaker 2: tournament in his community. And then I think he actually

1226
01:10:58,120 --> 01:11:01,439
Speaker 2: did do it, or maybe he said he was going

1227
01:11:01,520 --> 01:11:03,840
Speaker 2: to do it. Hold on, I'm reading I'm rereading the

1228
01:11:03,880 --> 01:11:11,360
Speaker 2: old emails. Oh okay, okay, okay, okay. Last time, okay,

1229
01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 2: last time he said to me, okay, okay, here's where

1230
01:11:13,280 --> 01:11:16,880
Speaker 2: we're right now. Last time he messaged me about it,

1231
01:11:17,040 --> 01:11:20,840
Speaker 2: the tournament was happened, was the tournament was scheduled to

1232
01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:25,800
Speaker 2: happen on July eleventh, which was two days ago. And

1233
01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:29,040
Speaker 2: then now this is an update. I believe he's telling

1234
01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:31,280
Speaker 2: me how the bab Blade tournament went. Okay, this is

1235
01:11:31,280 --> 01:11:34,639
Speaker 2: from Chris final update on starting a bay Blade community

1236
01:11:34,680 --> 01:11:38,960
Speaker 2: in my city. Uh hey gek. Yesterday we held the

1237
01:11:38,960 --> 01:11:42,040
Speaker 2: Bayblade tournament and it was lit. We ended up having

1238
01:11:42,120 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 2: seventeen players. Damn. That's pretty good, including a bunch of

1239
01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:49,120
Speaker 2: new people from the area. I planned to keep organizing

1240
01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:52,000
Speaker 2: bay Blade events because it's been such a good vibe

1241
01:11:52,200 --> 01:11:54,800
Speaker 2: and I want to bring it to other people. Last

1242
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:57,759
Speaker 2: time I forgot to mention it. But I'm from Leuvin,

1243
01:11:58,120 --> 01:12:02,559
Speaker 2: a city in Belgium. Getting seventeen people in a fucking

1244
01:12:03,240 --> 01:12:06,439
Speaker 2: little city in Belgium to come hang out and play,

1245
01:12:06,600 --> 01:12:12,679
Speaker 2: uh play bay blade is pretty sweet. That's pretty good.

1246
01:12:13,360 --> 01:12:16,960
Speaker 2: Do what the hell's even going on in Belgium, Louvin.

1247
01:12:18,240 --> 01:12:21,160
Speaker 2: Maybe I'll do a show in louve In, Belgium. If

1248
01:12:21,200 --> 01:12:23,280
Speaker 2: I get one, I wonder if I get one person

1249
01:12:23,320 --> 01:12:26,360
Speaker 2: to come. Man, every time I look at a map,

1250
01:12:26,400 --> 01:12:29,839
Speaker 2: I'm like so many people, so many things love in Belgium.

1251
01:12:29,880 --> 01:12:34,479
Speaker 2: What's going on in Louve in Belgium? Okay, anyway, our

1252
01:12:34,520 --> 01:12:37,759
Speaker 2: community is still new and not really on social media yet,

1253
01:12:38,360 --> 01:12:41,639
Speaker 2: but we'll make an Instagram soon. If there are people

1254
01:12:41,640 --> 01:12:46,479
Speaker 2: who want to join our Belgian bay Blade Association, they

1255
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:52,960
Speaker 2: can find me on my Instagram. Cricky Underscore have Okay,

1256
01:12:53,240 --> 01:13:00,479
Speaker 2: that's k r I kk E Underscore HAV. I will

1257
01:13:00,479 --> 01:13:03,320
Speaker 2: then send them a form so they can submit to

1258
01:13:03,439 --> 01:13:07,280
Speaker 2: join the group. Thank you for reading my mail. You're

1259
01:13:07,320 --> 01:13:10,680
Speaker 2: a cool gecko. I hope to see you at one

1260
01:13:10,720 --> 01:13:13,120
Speaker 2: of your shows or running to you in the park

1261
01:13:13,160 --> 01:13:18,360
Speaker 2: if I visit New York. Peace Chris, that's awesome if

1262
01:13:18,360 --> 01:13:21,280
Speaker 2: you live in if you live in Belgium, please go

1263
01:13:21,280 --> 01:13:23,080
Speaker 2: go to this guy's bab blades tournament. I love that.

1264
01:13:23,160 --> 01:13:27,160
Speaker 2: I love that ship dude doing a thing. I love

1265
01:13:27,200 --> 01:13:31,639
Speaker 2: when people do things. It's great bay blade community. Damn dude.

1266
01:13:31,640 --> 01:13:34,800
Speaker 2: I feel like a proud father to Chris. I'm very

1267
01:13:34,800 --> 01:13:36,320
Speaker 2: I'm proud of him for doing this. Bay Blade. Shit.

1268
01:13:36,360 --> 01:13:38,720
Speaker 2: This is great, dude. The babelade community is kind of

1269
01:13:38,760 --> 01:13:41,080
Speaker 2: popping off. I was at a thing. I was at

1270
01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:46,519
Speaker 2: a Smash Brothers tournament, like a few weeks ago, and

1271
01:13:46,680 --> 01:13:50,639
Speaker 2: in the same venue they were doing Bayblade. It looked

1272
01:13:50,640 --> 01:13:53,960
Speaker 2: like it looked like a cock fight. People throwing money

1273
01:13:53,960 --> 01:13:59,559
Speaker 2: down and everything. It's pretty sweet. All right, Okay, I'll

1274
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:06,599
Speaker 2: read one more. Let's see. All right, this is from

1275
01:14:08,040 --> 01:14:18,880
Speaker 2: Mikaela subject line short king Love. Let's see. My fiance

1276
01:14:19,240 --> 01:14:24,679
Speaker 2: is five foot six and I am five foot nine. Respect.

1277
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:28,000
Speaker 2: I love that man, and I'm endlessly proud of him.

1278
01:14:28,240 --> 01:14:31,759
Speaker 2: When we met, he never once was insecure about his height.

1279
01:14:32,280 --> 01:14:34,360
Speaker 2: He says. The first thing I said to him was

1280
01:14:34,360 --> 01:14:37,320
Speaker 2: that he was shorter than I expected parentheses. I don't

1281
01:14:37,360 --> 01:14:41,519
Speaker 2: remember this, he replied, Yeah, so anyway, would you like dinner?

1282
01:14:42,040 --> 01:14:44,400
Speaker 2: I thought it was cool how we just brushed it off.

1283
01:14:45,360 --> 01:14:49,160
Speaker 2: Since then, we've built a beautiful relationship. Sometimes people make

1284
01:14:49,200 --> 01:14:52,679
Speaker 2: weird comments, but we just laugh. One thing he always

1285
01:14:52,680 --> 01:14:55,080
Speaker 2: says to short men is that you just have to

1286
01:14:55,080 --> 01:14:59,600
Speaker 2: be interesting, develop a hobby, improve your body, dress for

1287
01:14:59,640 --> 01:15:02,280
Speaker 2: your boy type, and study how to talk to others.

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01:15:02,720 --> 01:15:05,519
Speaker 2: When he was younger, he watched YouTube videos on what

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01:15:05,640 --> 01:15:09,960
Speaker 2: makes people charismatic and how to have engaging conversations. He

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01:15:10,000 --> 01:15:14,760
Speaker 2: also took leadership and communication courses while he was a marine.

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01:15:14,840 --> 01:15:18,840
Speaker 2: He's incredibly charismatic. Now people are drawn to him. He's

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01:15:18,840 --> 01:15:22,720
Speaker 2: a natural leader, and his height is irrelevant. I'd like

1293
01:15:22,720 --> 01:15:25,840
Speaker 2: to give my perspective as a woman on dating short men.

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01:15:26,360 --> 01:15:29,200
Speaker 2: I haven't always been confident enough to date a short man.

1295
01:15:29,360 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 2: I was insecure of what other people would think, and

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01:15:31,880 --> 01:15:35,479
Speaker 2: I put their feelings above my own. Eventually, I realized

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01:15:35,560 --> 01:15:43,800
Speaker 2: my anxiety was inviting disrespect from others. WHOA, that's honestly fascinating.

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01:15:44,600 --> 01:15:46,920
Speaker 2: That's a fascinating take on like being anxious what other

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01:15:46,960 --> 01:15:51,479
Speaker 2: people think of you. It's inviting disrespect from other people actively.

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01:15:51,479 --> 01:15:55,080
Speaker 2: That's fascinating. That ended that. So to the short men,

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01:15:55,360 --> 01:15:58,240
Speaker 2: it's not about your height. Many women feel pressured to

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01:15:58,280 --> 01:16:01,559
Speaker 2: prove their worthiness, and attaining a tall man is an

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01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:05,160
Speaker 2: easy ticket to doing so. Understand that no person has

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01:16:05,200 --> 01:16:08,240
Speaker 2: to ever prove that they're worthy. My fiance is my

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01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:11,559
Speaker 2: perfect man. He has every quality I've ever wanted in

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01:16:11,560 --> 01:16:14,160
Speaker 2: a partner. Funny enough, I don't think I've ever had

1307
01:16:14,320 --> 01:16:17,080
Speaker 2: added height to the list. I guess it never mattered.

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01:16:18,040 --> 01:16:21,240
Speaker 2: Side note, short men get you a tall women, get

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01:16:21,240 --> 01:16:23,760
Speaker 2: you a tall woman. For me, tall men make me

1310
01:16:23,760 --> 01:16:26,000
Speaker 2: think of my brother, So it's not something I look for.

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01:16:26,640 --> 01:16:29,040
Speaker 2: So y'all have options if you're brave enough to climb

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01:16:29,080 --> 01:16:33,519
Speaker 2: a tree. See you in DC gek or see you

1313
01:16:33,560 --> 01:16:39,120
Speaker 2: in DC GAK. She's not gek. She wrote another thing

1314
01:16:39,160 --> 01:16:44,040
Speaker 2: above about face paint. But I gotta stick to my

1315
01:16:44,080 --> 01:16:46,280
Speaker 2: I gotta stick to my own brand. But thank you,

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01:16:46,320 --> 01:16:49,720
Speaker 2: thank you for that suggesting anyway. Mikaelah Mikhaela, you're a hero.

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01:16:50,720 --> 01:16:55,800
Speaker 2: H Your boyfriend sounds pretty dope. I love this email.

1318
01:16:55,920 --> 01:16:59,360
Speaker 2: Is a great email, Dude, It's true. It is true.

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01:16:59,400 --> 01:17:01,559
Speaker 2: I mean, look, I'm five foot six, five foot seven

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01:17:01,600 --> 01:17:07,080
Speaker 2: something like that, and it is true that like insecurity

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01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:10,360
Speaker 2: will like yeah, sure, like a lot of women don't

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01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:12,400
Speaker 2: want to date a short guy. And like a lot

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01:17:12,439 --> 01:17:15,400
Speaker 2: of women, here's the thing, Like, if you're a short guy, yes,

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01:17:15,439 --> 01:17:17,080
Speaker 2: a lot of women don't want to date a short guy.

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01:17:17,320 --> 01:17:20,920
Speaker 2: But if you're insecure about it, it's like it's like

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01:17:20,960 --> 01:17:24,759
Speaker 2: you can't change your height, and you know that your height.

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01:17:24,840 --> 01:17:26,920
Speaker 2: Your height does not make it that like it is

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01:17:26,960 --> 01:17:29,960
Speaker 2: impossible to ever find love. But even if you do

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01:17:30,040 --> 01:17:33,839
Speaker 2: view your height as a handicap, it's like being insecure

1330
01:17:33,880 --> 01:17:39,719
Speaker 2: about it only makes it like three hundred times worse.

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01:17:40,760 --> 01:17:44,719
Speaker 2: So I'm with you on that. MICHAELA, your husband sounds cool.

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01:17:44,920 --> 01:17:48,200
Speaker 2: You sound cool. This is a good gak male. Thank

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01:17:48,240 --> 01:17:51,479
Speaker 2: you for sending this, and folks, I think that's it

1334
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:56,920
Speaker 2: for me. I'm Lyle, I'm a Gecko. Oh my Alaska

1335
01:17:57,040 --> 01:18:01,120
Speaker 2: show is uh is out. I have a ticket link

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01:18:01,160 --> 01:18:04,959
Speaker 2: available to my show in Alaska. If you live in Anchorage, Alaska,

1337
01:18:05,040 --> 01:18:09,560
Speaker 2: I am coming to your town to do Gecko therapy

1338
01:18:10,120 --> 01:18:16,080
Speaker 2: and stand up comedy storytelling on October ninth and tenth.

1339
01:18:16,800 --> 01:18:21,120
Speaker 2: You can go to therapy geckotour dot com to get tickets.

1340
01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:25,960
Speaker 2: And if you live in any of these cities such

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01:18:26,000 --> 01:18:34,280
Speaker 2: as Appleton, Wisconsin, Madison, Wisconsin, Detroit, Bloomington, Chicago, Atlanta, Nashville, DC, Philly,

1342
01:18:34,560 --> 01:18:40,879
Speaker 2: New York City, Boston, Toronto, Lansing, Grand Rapids, Montreal, Houston, Vegas,

1343
01:18:40,920 --> 01:18:46,400
Speaker 2: Salt Lake City, Denver, Phoenix, Austin, or New Orleans, you

1344
01:18:46,400 --> 01:18:49,000
Speaker 2: can also get tickets to my show at therapy geckotour

1345
01:18:49,080 --> 01:18:54,360
Speaker 2: dot com. I'm putting together my special. I'm excited. About it. Uh,

1346
01:18:55,439 --> 01:18:58,679
Speaker 2: it'll be good, I think, I hope. I'm just gonna

1347
01:18:58,680 --> 01:19:02,200
Speaker 2: film some shit, do some shiit, say some stuff and

1348
01:19:02,320 --> 01:19:06,599
Speaker 2: it'll be fun. It'll be good anyway. I'm a gecko.

1349
01:19:07,479 --> 01:19:11,639
Speaker 2: My name is Lyle. Peace, be with you all, see

1350
01:19:11,640 --> 01:19:15,640
Speaker 2: you guys around the universe. Thank you. Goes on the

1351
01:19:15,720 --> 01:19:19,720
Speaker 2: line taking your phone calls every night. Deacon goes to

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01:19:20,040 --> 01:19:22,040
Speaker 2: his hide. You're just teaching you a loud in them

1353
01:19:22,120 --> 01:19:25,240
Speaker 2: of your life. Money's not really an expert.