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Speaker 1: What's up y'all?

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Speaker 2: It's your girl lex peak any sugarl draining the call

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Speaker 2: and you are tuned into another episode of poor Mind,

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Speaker 2: where a.

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Speaker 1: Drunk mind speaks sober thoughts.

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Speaker 2: Who what's up y'all? We back again another week. We

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Speaker 2: about to get lit, Well, you about to get lit?

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Speaker 2: Six of them pull up a big old drain.

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Speaker 1: It ain't be after elimonading there. That's why it looked

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Speaker 1: like that. Mm hm. What's been going on with you

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Speaker 1: this week? Queen? Uh? You got the tennis out? I

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Speaker 1: see you. You couldn't up today? The same sheet, the

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Speaker 1: same sheet. It ain't really nothing new, you know.

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Speaker 3: Quarantine?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's crazy? Frae.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like everybody's not really caring too much

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Speaker 2: about the quarantine. No more.

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Speaker 1: I didn't got hell up vacation invites this past week.

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Speaker 1: I got invitied Chicago. I got invited to tulom.

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Speaker 2: I actually, my one of my exes had actually sent

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Speaker 2: me like a little thing and was like, pick which

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Speaker 2: city whichever you want to go to.

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Speaker 1: I got invited on a cruise. I'm like, why why

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Speaker 1: am I getting invited everywhere? Like? What's going on this week?

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Speaker 2: It was like niggas was coming out the woolworks, like

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Speaker 2: where you want to go, what you want to do?

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Speaker 1: Like they are start crazy right now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I mean because like I said, I definitely got invited

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Speaker 4: to Cabo, and I'm.

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Speaker 2: Just like, you know what, I got invited to Cabo too,

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Speaker 2: No that I think about it, nigeriybody wanted to go

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Speaker 2: next week?

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Speaker 1: They want me to go with them next week and

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, Nigerian, they want to go to Carbo,

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Speaker 1: I said.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I've been noticing a lot of people have

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Speaker 4: been going to Cabo, you know, I got I guess.

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Speaker 4: I mean, obviously that's one of the only place, very

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Speaker 4: few places.

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Speaker 1: That we can go as Americans, like they not letting

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Speaker 1: us go now, they don't where yeah.

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Speaker 3: Other than mix the College the Caribbean.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they closed us out of everything rightfully, so because

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Speaker 2: the numbers is crazy and niggas.

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Speaker 4: The next five years, the American passport ain't gonna be

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Speaker 4: like work ship.

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Speaker 3: I read an article. I probably should have.

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Speaker 1: Sent it to you. I'm fucking dead, but.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I said, probably for like the next five years,

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Speaker 4: Like the American passport not gonna be worth shit because

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Speaker 4: a lot of these other countries don't want to let

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Speaker 4: us end like they feel like we're not taking this

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Speaker 4: shit seriously.

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Speaker 2: I mean, obviously we're not like at all, like they're

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Speaker 2: trying to send kids back to school like that shit

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Speaker 2: as crazy as fuck.

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Speaker 4: My best friend her little brother, I think he going

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Speaker 4: to fourth grade. And they sent them an email last

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Speaker 4: week basically saying that they're going to do the first

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Speaker 4: six weeks during on video, but then they gonna go back.

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Speaker 4: So school start like September to eighth or something like

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Speaker 4: that in Texas, So they gonna do the first six

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Speaker 4: weeks on video and then they supposed to go back

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Speaker 4: to school.

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't understand why, though. Why can't y'all just

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Speaker 2: do the do it via video for their whole year.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why they want to do it like that.

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Speaker 4: But she was saying, nine times out of ten, it

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Speaker 4: is probably gonna end up changing because you know, the

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Speaker 4: cases keep increasing. So if it end up if it

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Speaker 4: keep getting worse, you know, by the time August roll around,

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Speaker 4: they saying they're gonna do for six weeks, but they

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Speaker 4: might end up doing the whole first half of I

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Speaker 4: mean the whole first half of the school.

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, and I'm kind of upset my birthday coming up.

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Speaker 2: I really thought I was gonna be in safe Chelles

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Speaker 2: for my birthday, Like I had convinced myself that this

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Speaker 2: ship was gonna be good.

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Speaker 1: By my birthday, I'd.

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Speaker 4: Be laughing because everybody was making fun of all of

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Speaker 4: us spring babies. But the summer babies, well, I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: have the same shit going out.

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Speaker 2: I mean not, we are, I'm not. I'm probably not

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Speaker 2: gonna do nothing for my birthday. I got invited to

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Speaker 2: go to Miami, but the numbers so bad in Miami,

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Speaker 2: I don't think I'm gonna do that, So I'll probably

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Speaker 2: just end up, you know, maybe chilling at the house

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Speaker 2: and doing something.

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Speaker 1: With the girls, maybe going to Kicky House, the US

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Speaker 1: the usual.

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Speaker 3: So birthday right and kiki Birthday right after yours.

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Speaker 1: I just wanna. I made sure I just send out

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Speaker 1: all my gift lists to everybody.

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Speaker 2: I want my things now. I can't go nowhere, but

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Speaker 2: I want my things.

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Speaker 1: Bitch. Okay, okay, okay, So let's get into the topics.

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Speaker 4: Bitch, okay, let's get into the topics time. So, yeah,

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Speaker 4: the first topic that I kind of wanted to talk

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Speaker 4: about today. No, for no specific reason. It's just something

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Speaker 4: that I was thinking about because I don't know why.

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Speaker 4: I randomly just came across my mind, But I was

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Speaker 4: thinking about how like me and my ex used to

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Speaker 4: get into it all the time, and his ass was

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Speaker 4: just crazy as fuck, Like he used to pop up

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Speaker 4: at my house and sheep one time he threw my

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Speaker 4: phone over the gate, which I'm not about to tell

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Speaker 4: you his name, but it was one of my exes

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Speaker 4: that I went with in colleague. Oh okay, okay, way

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Speaker 4: before I met you got you, okay, But yeah, it

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Speaker 4: was one of my exes that I was with in

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Speaker 4: college and we just had the most toxic ass relationship ever.

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Speaker 4: And he was a fucking Libra and you know, lying

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Speaker 4: ass libras them niggas, Yo, Libras are.

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Speaker 1: The fucking worst. Bruh.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, I dated a lib I dated a Libra before,

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Speaker 2: and it was just like, why why are we doing this?

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Speaker 2: Why am I doing this?

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Speaker 4: They are something else I always study, so my mama

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Speaker 4: is a Libra. It is definitely his taking a lot

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Speaker 4: of work for us to get along over the years,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean. I love they just something else, definitely,

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Speaker 4: But yeah. So it's like, I don't know why they

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Speaker 4: just thought he came across my mind.

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Speaker 1: But I just wanted to talk.

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Speaker 3: About crazy ass exes because I'm sure you probably got

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Speaker 3: some too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I definitely have a crazy ex. I well,

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Speaker 2: I'll say I have. It's levels of crazy. I feel

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Speaker 2: like some ex'es are delusional, okay, and they like they

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Speaker 2: do things that are just like why are you doing this?

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Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna lie. I'm cool.

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Speaker 2: We had a stalker X. Yeah, I've had a stalker ex.

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Speaker 2: I'll go back to one of my first exes. This

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Speaker 2: is the X I used to live with when I

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Speaker 2: moved to Houston. Though I took some time off, me

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Speaker 2: and my ex ended up living together. We were together for

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Speaker 2: like three and a half four years. When I say

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Speaker 2: I've been in love before, this is the relationship I

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Speaker 2: talk about, Like I feel like I've experienced true, unconditional

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Speaker 2: love one time, and I was with him so like

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Speaker 2: after we broke up, he was just always calling my

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Speaker 2: doll like you know, weird stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: Like I moved on, like, why are you.

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Speaker 2: Still calling my mom doing shit like that? That's one

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Speaker 2: thing I hate. My mom always loves the guys that

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Speaker 2: I date and they end up being really really close.

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Speaker 5: That though, like honestly, like dinner, all my exites, they

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Speaker 5: parents still fuck with me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I hate that. I'm like, Mom, I have daughter,

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Speaker 1: you got it. Sho was a fucking side.

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Speaker 4: It definitely had an x where his mama like loved

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Speaker 4: the shit out of me, and every time we would

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Speaker 3: Be like, when y'all gonna get back together?

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Speaker 2: Girl? So with my ex it was like he used

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Speaker 2: to always call me, and it got at one point

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Speaker 2: he would call me a like two or three'clock in

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Speaker 2: You can if you need to talk to me, no,

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Speaker 2: but I don't want you unless you unless you're my

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Speaker 1: Why are you calling me at two or three o'clock

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Speaker 1: in the morning. We not like that, no more. Mind you.

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Speaker 2: He has a new girlfriend and I think she was

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Speaker 2: pregnant at the time. This was probably like three or

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Speaker 2: four years ago. Anyways, long story short, he called me

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Speaker 2: really early one morning so he used to call me

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Speaker 2: from the block numbers and different numbers. So I just

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Speaker 2: got on Facebook and I sent him a message. I

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 2: His girlfriend, I guess, was on his Facebook and was like, no, bitch,

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Speaker 2: he did not call you. You need to get your

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Speaker 2: mother mind you. This nigga's very poor and lives to

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Speaker 2: my and lives like kind of close by to my hometown.

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Speaker 2: He don't even live in a major cities like he has. Baby, Girl,

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Speaker 2: your man is safe. Your man is so fucking safe, bitch. Actually,

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Speaker 2: can you tell him to leave me alone? I'm telling

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Speaker 2: you to tell your nigga to leave me alone. And

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Speaker 2: it's a white girl too.

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Speaker 1: She wasn't. She was going on.

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Speaker 2: She was like, you look like a fucking trainy blah blah.

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Speaker 2: I was like, hold on, Jim Carrey, now, Jim Carrey.

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Speaker 2: She was definitely looking like the mask. Okay, get alone,

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Speaker 2: she got. I'm gonna show you a picture after it.

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Speaker 2: So girl, she was just like so fucking pressed. And

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Speaker 2: I think a lot of women, since we're talking about

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Speaker 2: crazy exes, y'all need to understand, like if you look

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Speaker 2: at me and you see all the shit that I

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Speaker 2: got going on. Why do you think that I'm calling man?

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Speaker 2: Are you that fucking delusional?

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Speaker 1: You know? Damn well, I don't want your nigga. I've

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Speaker 1: been there or had that.

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Speaker 3: So.

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Speaker 2: One thing about crazy exes that makes it even worse

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Speaker 2: is dealing with they knew partner that they think, oh,

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Speaker 2: you won't leave my man alone.

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Speaker 1: No, your man won't leave me alone. He was in

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Speaker 1: love with me, yeah, I mean.

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Speaker 4: I had a similar situation to that too, with a

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Speaker 4: different ex. I mean I wouldn't say that he was

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Speaker 4: crazy though, because we were actually really really cool and

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Speaker 4: became best friends over time.

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Speaker 3: But his girlfriend, his baby mama, Oh.

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Speaker 1: I remember this hole.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, his baby mama was crazy as fuck. Maybe I

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Speaker 4: should say this story for the Patriot.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you could. You could, but I'll say that.

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Speaker 4: But she was basically, but i'm'a go ahead and give

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Speaker 4: y'all a little sneepy like basically, she just used to

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Speaker 4: go out her way to do weird shit, like she

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Speaker 4: would hit him up, pretending to be me, like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: that shit was crazy, like she was me, and then

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Speaker 4: would get mad when he would respond and be like

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Speaker 4: I knew you still loved her. Bitch, is it about

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Speaker 2: Gonna lie if I don't know you, though, bitch, you

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Speaker 1: Why you need to talk to your ex? Look at

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Speaker 4: But that's the fucking stupid ass is secure ass mindset,

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Speaker 4: And I had insecure bitches, like I guess because I'm

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Speaker 4: Who cares stupid as fuck? Though Nigga's gonna do what

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Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna lie. It would make me feel uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: It would make you feel insecure.

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Speaker 2: But why because if I don't know her, she's never

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Speaker 4: So again, going back to what I said, it's insecurity

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Speaker 1: Right, And that's what I'm saying. She did not do that. Well,

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Speaker 4: Instead of doing that, you would just be telling your nigga, no,

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Speaker 2: I would say it makes me feel uncomfortable. But if

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Speaker 2: say that cause if it makes me it's not about.

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Speaker 1: Me being I'm very secure and who I am.

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Speaker 3: It's not about being secure and who you are.

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Speaker 4: Because the first thing that you just said being the

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Speaker 1: How I lose. Well, I'll say that, no, Well, I

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Speaker 2: But honestly, seriously, I don't care if you ugly, bad whatever,

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Speaker 1: Why do y'all need to hang out if I don't.

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Speaker 2: Understand the situation and i'm your new you guys, and yeah,

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Speaker 2: but if my nigga feels uncomfortable, I'm gonna be like, Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: Know what's crazy?

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Speaker 4: If y'all nigga feel uncomfortable, you would just cut off.

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Speaker 4: You would just completely cut off the nigga when you

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Speaker 4: know it's not nothing going on. Or would you be like, hey,

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Speaker 4: I think maybe y'all should meet.

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Speaker 2: I would, I would try to introduce them, But if

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Speaker 2: you didn't want to do that, I mean, I'm thirty

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Speaker 2: years old, Like I'll be like, hey, we just can't

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Sometimes I just feel like stuff like that as childish

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Speaker 3: But y'all have a really really really good bond.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, good friendship, and it's just unfortunate that a lot

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Speaker 1: Well, I'll say this for me, I think I have.

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Speaker 4: Literally nothing going on, because y'all I saw it of God,

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Speaker 4: me and my boyfriend, me and my ex boyfriend. We

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Speaker 2: Well, I say this, you know, I feel like a

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Speaker 2: don't say women too. A lot of times people don't

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Speaker 1: I do, and I understand that.

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Speaker 2: So that's why I said, if my was friends with

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Speaker 2: wanted to introduce me, because sometimes you just want to

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Speaker 2: Because sometimes a bitch will be like, oh, we put

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Speaker 2: time to be cool, but as soon as she get

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Speaker 4: I mean absolutely, But again, it just goes back to

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Speaker 4: want to fuck a girl, whether you meet the girl

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Speaker 4: or not, he's still going I agree with meeting somebody

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Speaker 4: is not gonna stop the possibility of them having sex

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Speaker 4: with each other. It's about those two people not being

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Speaker 4: wasn't in that space anymore with each other.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 4: I don't get me wrong, I do feel like he

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Speaker 1: See, that's that shit right there.

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Speaker 4: No, that's not that shit right there, because I don't

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, not for you. That's not on you,

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Speaker 1: but that's on him.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So that's your nigga fault exactly.

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Speaker 2: So it's like, why are you still talking to this

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Speaker 2: girl if you know low key that you probably still

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Speaker 4: Mill why would he? Did you just hear what you

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Speaker 4: just said? If you know that you still like somebody,

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Speaker 4: why are you still talking to them? Clearly that's why.

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Speaker 1: No, But I'm saying no. But that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: If you're in a new relationship, you don't need to

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Speaker 4: I feel what you're saying, but you gotta also understand this.

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Speaker 4: Niggas don't think like that, but I do not.

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Speaker 2: But I'm saying I'm not condoning what she did. But

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Speaker 3: But she felt that she that enough to pretend to No.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying she knew that her nigga probably still had

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Speaker 4: Now, all that other ship is exactly okay, But who

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Speaker 4: gives a buck this. I live in Atlanta, Georgia. You

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Speaker 1: I agree with you. Before you even.

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Speaker 4: Came into the picture, I could have still been fucking

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Speaker 3: To take me out to eating well, talking shit all

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Speaker 1: You a whole record.

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Speaker 3: How'm my homeworker.

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Speaker 4: I didn't never fuck him, but he was my partner,

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Speaker 4: like we used to talk about my news.

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Speaker 1: We had a just ruined.

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Speaker 3: Relationship. So I just think that's just stupid, as like

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Speaker 3: I hate hose.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what they is steal her man.

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Speaker 3: I didn't even want him.

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Speaker 2: You're a home record. I think you need to pray

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Speaker 2: and you need to think about what you've done.

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Speaker 1: Pray every day, amen, because you need to be saved

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Speaker 1: and sanctified. You need to there's that pussy alone.

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Speaker 2: So let us know, y'all. Would y'all be okay, do

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Speaker 2: y'all have a crazy ex? Or because we kind of

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Speaker 2: got off talking that was a good How do you

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Speaker 1: Or no?

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Speaker 2: How do you feel about your partner being friends with

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Like I said, how do you feel around? Would you

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Speaker 3: I thank you, I would.

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Speaker 6: Be like, I really don't cared.

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess it depends too, because it's like if

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Speaker 2: I'm thirty, I ain't been in I ain't been in

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Speaker 5: And as my only thing is as long as you

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Speaker 5: other than that, like you know, cause niggas a petty

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Speaker 5: niggas exactly.

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Speaker 2: That's and that's what I'm saying. Sometimes people have ulterior motives,

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: It's different if y'all have a pure relationship, but sometimes

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Speaker 5: You just gotta set the fact like sometimes there are

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Speaker 6: They were together and they friends two years later. That's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, of course what you're saying, because it's like, how

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Speaker 4: could you be trying to be mean if this has

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Speaker 4: long before.

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Speaker 2: You're not like that because you're not like that, but

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Speaker 4: You How is that being mean? If we already had

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Speaker 4: a relationship, let me a friendship?

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Speaker 1: Okay, because let me tell you why. Nothing.

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Speaker 4: Let me go on before you ever came into the picture. Now,

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Speaker 4: how am I being mean? Let me tell you how

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Speaker 4: by continuing a friendship I already had. Let me tell

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Speaker 4: you how, because you know what a lot of men

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Speaker 4: If I wanted him, I could have him. A lot

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Speaker 2: They just be trying to prove a point, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: But guess what, if I wanted him, I could have him.

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Speaker 2: So they'll do things like call him in the middle

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Speaker 2: and be like he's always gonna respond to me.

444
00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:15,480
Speaker 6: People don't like that.

445
00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:20,240
Speaker 4: I feel like that's rare, but it's not rare. Nip

446
00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:24,280
Speaker 4: that in the know, even if that's his X or

447
00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,800
Speaker 4: his friend or whatever, he's not gonna let her derespect.

448
00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:27,360
Speaker 1: He's new Beach.

449
00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:29,520
Speaker 6: If he really care about you, absolutely.

450
00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:30,359
Speaker 3: So maybe he don't really care.

451
00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:34,080
Speaker 2: About you, Well, I can't relate, but saying you, I'm

452
00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:36,199
Speaker 2: just saying, maybe they don't really care about their person,

453
00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:39,120
Speaker 2: you know, spit it out.

454
00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,199
Speaker 5: I'm just saying I agree what you're saying, because it's like,

455
00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:44,920
Speaker 5: if you're my girl, I'm not gonna let nobody.

456
00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:46,520
Speaker 2: Disrespect right and I. And that's what I'm saying. One

457
00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:48,320
Speaker 2: hundred percent agree with that. But on the other end,

458
00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:51,760
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, sometimes X is not you. But I've

459
00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:53,960
Speaker 2: known situations where X be petty, like, yeah, bitch, I

460
00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:55,440
Speaker 2: can have your nigga if I wanted him.

461
00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:56,480
Speaker 1: I'm sparing you home.

462
00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:58,960
Speaker 4: I'm spearing because even with that situation with me and

463
00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:01,240
Speaker 4: my ex, I did say nothing to that Beach. I

464
00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,280
Speaker 4: thought that shit was mad weird, and I was like, oh,

465
00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:04,880
Speaker 4: these always are real weird though.

466
00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:06,879
Speaker 1: And he wasn't even a badb So we know you

467
00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:07,639
Speaker 1: wasn't chicking.

468
00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:11,000
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, this is literally all I told y'all,

469
00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:13,000
Speaker 4: this was like my boyfriend. First of all, this was

470
00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:15,320
Speaker 4: my boyfriend from high school. So we went together. We

471
00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:17,600
Speaker 4: started going together senior year of high school, and then

472
00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:19,439
Speaker 4: I went away to college and we broke up my

473
00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:21,160
Speaker 4: freshman year of college.

474
00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:22,840
Speaker 1: And then we just ro long ago.

475
00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:26,720
Speaker 4: Yes, then we just remained friends until even while I

476
00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:28,880
Speaker 4: was living out here in Atlanta, WISA talk every week.

477
00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:30,960
Speaker 1: He used to always call me a check on me. Okay,

478
00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:31,439
Speaker 1: let's move on.

479
00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,359
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so yeah, let us know how y'all feel

480
00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,399
Speaker 2: about your new boobing friends with their ex.

481
00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:39,600
Speaker 1: Okay, so I'll let you do the next topic. To

482
00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:41,120
Speaker 1: introduce the next.

483
00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:46,960
Speaker 4: Topic, Okay, I just wanted to talk about baby Mama culture.

484
00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:50,359
Speaker 1: It's a culture in a black community.

485
00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:54,439
Speaker 3: I feel like that's a culture. I wanted to talk.

486
00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:57,800
Speaker 4: About baby Bama culture because you know, I saw a

487
00:18:57,840 --> 00:19:02,480
Speaker 4: tweet when somebody has said that they nixt baby Mama

488
00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:03,399
Speaker 4: gonna be their wife.

489
00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:06,480
Speaker 3: Amen, they not having they don't want no more bms.

490
00:19:06,560 --> 00:19:12,000
Speaker 4: Right, And instead of people being receptive in applauding this

491
00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:16,600
Speaker 4: young man for maturity and growth, they was like, well,

492
00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,680
Speaker 4: finally after you then already had all these broken homes

493
00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:23,199
Speaker 4: and all these kids and all these baby mama's. Now

494
00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:26,160
Speaker 4: you saying that, It's like, why we can't just applaud

495
00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,280
Speaker 4: the man for finally getting it through his head that

496
00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:30,439
Speaker 4: like that's the way you were supposed to do it

497
00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:32,359
Speaker 4: in the first place. I mean, but I feel like,

498
00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:35,960
Speaker 4: I don't know, in the black community, black community, I

499
00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,480
Speaker 4: definitely feel like having multiple baby mamas is a thing.

500
00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,520
Speaker 4: I mean, it's definitely people of other races that do

501
00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:42,000
Speaker 4: it as well.

502
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,080
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean, I guess we can only speak

503
00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:46,240
Speaker 2: because this is our culture. So we're just talking about us.

504
00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 2: So disclaimer, we're not saying that only Black people this

505
00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,760
Speaker 2: first off, we're just talking about us, and you know

506
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:55,359
Speaker 2: what we know. So I'll say this, I'm kind of

507
00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:58,479
Speaker 2: on both ends of it. So I applaud his growth.

508
00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:01,320
Speaker 2: I applaud that that you finally like, Okay, I'm not

509
00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,680
Speaker 2: just about to be spreading my seed everywhere, you know

510
00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,280
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. But on the other end, I think

511
00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:10,639
Speaker 2: that we need to start raising not saying that just

512
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,399
Speaker 2: because you're married, that's gonna make the situation better, but

513
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:17,679
Speaker 2: I think we need to start putting more emphasis on

514
00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:21,680
Speaker 2: like partnerships and being together and having a family dynamic,

515
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,879
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like being in the house

516
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:25,840
Speaker 2: with the mom and the dad and the kids. You know,

517
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,200
Speaker 2: Like one thing about I was talking to my friend

518
00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,480
Speaker 2: Diamond about this yesterday. She was like, I grew up

519
00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:32,520
Speaker 2: in a home with my dad, Like it was my

520
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:33,360
Speaker 2: mom and my dad.

521
00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you too.

522
00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:36,440
Speaker 2: A lot a lot of people get that experience. I

523
00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 2: didn't get that experience just because my father had passed away.

524
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,880
Speaker 2: But that's a lot. That's a beautiful thing to give

525
00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,399
Speaker 2: a child, is a family dynamic. So I feel like

526
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:46,440
Speaker 2: it's not just about marriage. Fuck the marriage. I don't

527
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,720
Speaker 2: necessarily believe in marriage myself, but I feel like, if

528
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,640
Speaker 2: you have a child with someone, can y'all at least

529
00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,720
Speaker 2: have like a partnership and live together and do something

530
00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:55,600
Speaker 2: just you know what I'm saying. I feel like we

531
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 2: need to put more emphasis on that.

532
00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:58,879
Speaker 1: I don't. It's like, I get it.

533
00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 4: You know, I'm gonna have to disagree, I know, I know,

534
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:05,920
Speaker 4: because I just feel like I don't know. I feel

535
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:08,120
Speaker 4: like a lot of the time people go into situations

536
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:11,080
Speaker 4: and have kids, it's not like they are looking into

537
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,000
Speaker 4: the future, like are we gonna get up right right,

538
00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:15,439
Speaker 4: not gonna be and I'm gonna end up going on

539
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 4: and having five more kids.

540
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 1: With five no, no, no, no no, I agree with you.

541
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,120
Speaker 4: Just be happening a lot of the time. Stuff don't

542
00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 4: even be playing. Yes, niggas could be more responsible.

543
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:25,120
Speaker 1: That's what I mean.

544
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,679
Speaker 4: I guess right so that you're not getting all of

545
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:31,719
Speaker 4: these random assholes pregnant and stuff. But it's just like

546
00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 4: a lot of the time stuff just it be excedentcy don't.

547
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:38,159
Speaker 2: Always well I'll say this when I say more on

548
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,239
Speaker 2: the family, like I mean, like, of course, like if

549
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,280
Speaker 2: you're married or you're with somebody, y'all decide to have

550
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,360
Speaker 2: a child, things happening, y'all may split up. You don't

551
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 2: have to force yourself to be with somebody for a baby.

552
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 2: But I'm more so talking about men who just out

553
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:53,320
Speaker 2: here just busting in girls, girls who just letting these

554
00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 2: men busting.

555
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 1: Them like and y'all knowing y'all not together at all.

556
00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 2: Women that be setting men up, men that be trying

557
00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 2: to pregnant women.

558
00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 1: That's the situations I'm more so talking about.

559
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: We need to stop having babies for checks and for

560
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 2: to gain things. In life, like it needs to go

561
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 2: back to having that family dynamic.

562
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:11,200
Speaker 1: People are having.

563
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: Kids for paychecks and for revenge, and people are having

564
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 2: kids for the wrong reasons.

565
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 1: I guess that's what I was trying to articulate.

566
00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, absolutely, But I feel like people been doing

567
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 4: that since the beginning of the time.

568
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:26,399
Speaker 1: It's not something that's new, like AND's been terrible.

569
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:32,000
Speaker 4: A lot of people grandparents they got they fucking granddaddy's

570
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 4: got side babies cause they was fucking on the beach.

571
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 4: They lived around the corner, you're saying, But they was

572
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 4: fucking on the beach that lived around the corner, and

573
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:43,720
Speaker 4: that beach was jealous of his The beach was jealous

574
00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 4: of his family and his wife, and so she perfosely

575
00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 4: got pregnant so she could be like, I got that nigga.

576
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 3: Baby, Like this shit been happening. Yeah, maybe not so.

577
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 4: Much for it, but you know, I ain't gonna even

578
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 4: lie even for a chick. Maybe on a smaller scale,

579
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,880
Speaker 4: maybe maybe on the smaller scale, but you've always had

580
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,199
Speaker 4: she's too, was having babies by niggas just so that

581
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 4: they didn't have to worry our men.

582
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, and man, be taken care of I feel like

583
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 2: may be doing that too. They don't want a girl

584
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 2: to leave him, so they just what it's all up

585
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:12,360
Speaker 2: in there and try to get her pregnant.

586
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 3: Like well, I really think some men fish fetishized.

587
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 4: Is that I don't know, Yeah, like they have baby

588
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 4: like they be having a fetish with like having babies

589
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:27,199
Speaker 4: with a lot of.

590
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: You know what.

591
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 5: I really I believe that only one type of dude,

592
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 5: Like I know, like street niggas do that because they're

593
00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 5: scared they're gonna die.

594
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:37,199
Speaker 1: So that's like the only type of dude that I

595
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:38,399
Speaker 1: never heard that in my life.

596
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 4: I feel like I didn't deal with dealt with niggas

597
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,119
Speaker 4: who like definitely you know, wants you to have a

598
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 4: baby just because they just want to have like.

599
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 6: Like that should that should a baby? Boy when he

600
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 6: was like I was gonna die, I.

601
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 2: Mean, I haven't met a guy before he told me.

602
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,119
Speaker 2: He was like, I want to have multiple baby mamas.

603
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 2: Like he didn't have kids yet. He was like, whenever

604
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 2: I get to where I'm gonna be, I know I'm

605
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 2: gonna have at least four or five baby mama.

606
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, like he was planning on it. But I just

607
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 1: think that's a little.

608
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 3: I mean, everybody got they quirks and shit.

609
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess, but yeah, I definitely think he's something

610
00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 4: that with someone well, and I'm more of like a

611
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 4: fetish type of things, right, they like the I don't

612
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 4: know if they just want to see how many different

613
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 4: versions of they stuff they can create with different and.

614
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 1: I guess I just feel like, I don't know, I

615
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:26,440
Speaker 1: don't know.

616
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 2: I just want, I guess because I've always wanted, like

617
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 2: I never had that father relationship with anybody, you know

618
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. So I guess I just feel like,

619
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 2: if you're gonna have a kid with someone, at least,

620
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:40,159
Speaker 2: you know, if y'all aren't together, at least do family

621
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 2: trips every now and then, just give them that kind

622
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 2: of family experience every now and then something. You know,

623
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,199
Speaker 2: you have a lot of people who have kids with

624
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 2: somebody and they can't stand them. Y'all didn't get along.

625
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 2: Y'all was just fucking. Y'all was fighting before the girl

626
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 2: got pregnant. So why would you be having sex with

627
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 2: raw with somebody that you really don't get along with

628
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 2: like that?

629
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Horny niggas, do be just

630
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 1: be horny.

631
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 3: Too.

632
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 2: I just don't understand it because having a baby daddy

633
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 2: seems like actual torture.

634
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 1: Like, yes, it.

635
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 3: Seemed like torture if y'all can get along, yeah.

636
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: But these niggas do not be trying.

637
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 2: It's hard to get along with niggas, Bro, It's hard

638
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 2: to get along with niggas without a baby.

639
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: I agree, it is hard to get along with you niggas.

640
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 4: Bro like that, it is hard to get along with

641
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 4: these niggas. But a lot of the time too, I

642
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 4: just feel like on.

643
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 3: Both ends, both parties just make it harder and more.

644
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 1: Difficult than what it really needs to be.

645
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 4: Yea, Beaches be getting jealous cause the nigga don't move

646
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 4: down if I'd another Beach.

647
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 1: But it's like you knew he wasn't gonna be with

648
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 1: you even if y'all had a baby. You knew that.

649
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 4: And the niggas be getting mad when she move on,

650
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,119
Speaker 4: And it's just like my niggas be wanting to be

651
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 4: able to control situations. So girl don't know, it's just

652
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 4: all a mess. But yeah, I feel like we should

653
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 4: applaud me and tho. Yeah, I do feel like when

654
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 4: they finally do come to the realers because at the

655
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 4: end of the day, no child is a mistake.

656
00:25:58,720 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I definitely agree with that.

657
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 4: He's looking at people with a whole bunch of kids

658
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 4: and stuff and they be like, oh, like, for example,

659
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 4: I don't want to say the person name, but we

660
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 4: all know who I'm talking about.

661
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 3: He got like nine kids, and always in the blogs.

662
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: He be going anywhere.

663
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 4: Can give y'all a little more hint he'd be going

664
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 4: anyone and his baby mamas all.

665
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 3: The time about child's supporters.

666
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 4: But yeah, it's just like, I don't know, like everybody

667
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,919
Speaker 4: always like, oh, he needs to stop having kids, he

668
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 4: needs to stop having kids, and it's like he do

669
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 4: need to stop having kids, but at least he take

670
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 4: care of his kids. And when he do finally come

671
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 4: to the will never mind point he don't.

672
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 2: Take care, he's well, I'll say this, like going back

673
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 2: to what I mean, I just feel like, if you're

674
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,880
Speaker 2: gonna be having kids with multiple women and y'all aren't

675
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,959
Speaker 2: gonna be together, at least I feel like y'all can

676
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 2: do family trips and just give them that, you know

677
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,120
Speaker 2: that mommy and daddy.

678
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: Or get along.

679
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 2: I think that's important for black kids to see that

680
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 2: their parents are getting along, and you can have a

681
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 2: good relationship with somebody that you used to love or

682
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 2: somebody that you know, like as a unique I mean,

683
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 2: I don't see all the baby mamas. I mean, yeah,

684
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 2: it's that brothers and sisters.

685
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: Why not.

686
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 3: I don't know, that's all like a fight that's doing.

687
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 3: He knew all his kids, But I'm talking.

688
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: The baby mama. The baby. The baby mama'st be there too,

689
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,919
Speaker 1: I part, but the kids.

690
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I always have said that if I

691
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 4: end up having children with somebody who already got kids,

692
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna give a about.

693
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 1: Look, we older and we they older niggas. If we

694
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 1: have a baby, yeah, and.

695
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 4: It's like, I'm not gonna have no issue with letting

696
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 4: my child be around their siblings, Like, I don't.

697
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 2: Give a would you have an issue about the baby

698
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,640
Speaker 2: being around the new his new likes like if y'all

699
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: aren't together any more? Like his new girl, No, not

700
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 2: as long as I meet her and I feel like

701
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 2: she a cool person and like I know and I

702
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: and I have a feeling because I feel like I'm

703
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 2: not a mom yet, but I imagine once you're a mom,

704
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,719
Speaker 2: you just have certain good instincts about stuff.

705
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 4: So it's like, if I was to meet her and

706
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 4: I got a good feeling from her, a good, good

707
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,399
Speaker 4: instinct that she wouldn't do nothing to my child or

708
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 4: to horror my child, I wouldn't not have no issue

709
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 4: with that. But it gotta be a beach that she really.

710
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 1: For real, for real, right.

711
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,479
Speaker 4: For two months three months, and you like, oh, I

712
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 4: love her, this's my beach. Like, no, y'all need to be.

713
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,919
Speaker 1: For real cause some niggas be bringing their kids around everybody.

714
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 4: I just can't never see myself, Like I said, I'm

715
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 4: not really a jealous person when it comes to other women,

716
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 4: not like that. So it's just like, I can never

717
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 4: see myself tripping on a man over another woman when

718
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:32,120
Speaker 4: it pertains to anything, even with a child. Long as

719
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 4: you don't have my child around, no reggedy ass ho

720
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 4: who's gonna be trying to hurt them more abused than with.

721
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 1: Some she I don't know.

722
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 2: Yes, that makes sense because if we both moved on, shit, hell,

723
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 2: I probably got me a new nigga too.

724
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 4: Like, so are you gonna be okay with the question?

725
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 4: Is like, you're gonna be okay with our kid being

726
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 4: around my niggas not.

727
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 1: Little DJ couldn't up Little Djin' going on tour. Sheeese girl,

728
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 1: he got six different parents geese.

729
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 2: Okay, so let us know how y'all feel, you know,

730
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: men having multiple baby mamas then finally being like, okay,

731
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:05,800
Speaker 2: well my next kid.

732
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get married too. How do y'all feel about that? Okay?

733
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 2: So I wanted to talk about this because I haven't

734
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 2: getting a lot of me cause y'all know, I've been

735
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 2: cutting up on the Gram lately. Y'all know, it's summertime,

736
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 2: and I thrive in the summertime, so the bikinis come

737
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 2: out and.

738
00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: Lost a little weight.

739
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: I'm back in the one eighties cause y'all know, I

740
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 2: lost twenty pounds before the quarantine happened, but when it happened,

741
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 2: I gained all my weight back. So I'm I'm back

742
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 2: losing my weight again. I only have nine more pounds

743
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 2: to lose so I can get back to my pre

744
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 2: quarantine weight, so I'm trying to get that off before

745
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: my birthday.

746
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: Mmm.

747
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 2: So but yeah, I've been cutting up on the Gram lately,

748
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 2: posting a lot of bikini picks. So a lot of

749
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 2: the poor girls have been like sending me messages about

750
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 2: like my surgery and my body and all that stuff.

751
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 2: So speaking of real quick, let me just do a

752
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 2: plug real quick next week on the Patreon episode, I'm

753
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 2: gonna do a whole talk about surgery talk. I'm gonna talk.

754
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 2: I'm gonna show y'all my old body pictures. I'm gonna

755
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 2: show y'all, like my doctor, everything I went through. So

756
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,480
Speaker 2: that's gonna be my Patreon episode next week. So but yeah,

757
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 2: So this girl was just basically she had sent me

758
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 2: a message on ig and she was just on some

759
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 2: ship like who was the doctor that you went to

760
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 2: and what did you exactly do to your body? Because

761
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 2: I need to get my body done so I can

762
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 2: get a BDB. So I just wanted to talk about

763
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 2: how you don't have to have a nice body to

764
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 2: pull you a BDB.

765
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 1: Okay, you really don't be seeing some of these athletes.

766
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 2: Wife, Now give me your hand, what did you I

767
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 2: can't believe.

768
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 4: That you don't have to have your body done to

769
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 4: get a badb That's all I was saying.

770
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 1: Shook it.

771
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 3: I was being a supporting.

772
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 4: Yes for real, A lot of these athletes wives, they

773
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 4: don't be like bad.

774
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 2: Be Okay, this is too much. Okay, so let me

775
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 2: go back to what I'm saying. All I'm saying is

776
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 2: it's more so about confidence within yourself. You don't have

777
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 2: to have a fat ass, big titties and all this

778
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 2: and that just to pull them in. When I got

779
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,719
Speaker 2: my body done, my intentions was not to be all

780
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 2: I'm about to only start dating men with money. I

781
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 2: was dating men that had money before.

782
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: Now.

783
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 2: I told y'all my definition of a BDB. He can

784
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 2: be making six figures or six hundred million, it doesn't matter.

785
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 2: It's just what making sure he's showing me a good

786
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: time and giving me what I need.

787
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter.

788
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 2: You can date a nigga that has six hundred million dollars,

789
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 2: but he might not be tricking on you. That's what

790
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: I'm saying. Y'all be missing the point sometimes. So with

791
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 2: that being said, it's more so about your confidence and

792
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: your personality. Because let me tell you something. You can

793
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 2: have the baddest bitch in the world. Nice titties, no ways,

794
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 2: fat ass, but if he can't hold a conversation with her,

795
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 2: he not gonna want to be around her. He's not

796
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: gonna wanna do nothing for her versus a girl that's

797
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: probably you know, an average looking chick, never got her

798
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 2: body done or nothing, but she has a good conversation,

799
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: she's a joy to be around.

800
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: She makes him feel good. That's more so what they

801
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: be checking for.

802
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 2: And I feel like it's more so just like you know,

803
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 2: making yourself look good, polished, hair polished, and you dressed nice.

804
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: But you an adult.

805
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 2: You do not have to have a fat ass to

806
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 2: put these easy ass niggas brrou I'm telling you.

807
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 4: And on top of that, I think people be feeling

808
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 4: to realize if y'all, even if y'all ass fat and

809
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 4: your titties.

810
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: New, these niggas still be.

811
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 2: Fuck niggas exactly, and it ain't gonna change.

812
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 1: It is not gonna change. You're not gonna just wake

813
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: up with a nice body.

814
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 4: Niggasgas before I got my titties done.

815
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 1: And it's not gonna be like, oh, she got a

816
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: fat ass. I'm gonna treat that girl right right.

817
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 4: It's why can I really do?

818
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 3: For real?

819
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 4: I really do think some women, for whatever reason, think

820
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 4: that in their head that with a new body is

821
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 4: also gonna come a newfound respect from niggas.

822
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: Hell know, these niggas is trash.

823
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 4: Just like, yeah, you got a new body, but these

824
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 4: niggas still gonna treat you the same way. I mean,

825
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 4: you might get a little more gifts, so you might

826
00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 4: get yeah, money, you might have access to. You're not

827
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 4: a different caliber and niggas to a certain extent because

828
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 4: there are certain men's, you know, especially men who be

829
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 4: having money and stuff. It is a certain men who

830
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 4: like women that are built a certain way and.

831
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 3: Stuff like that.

832
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 4: So I mean, yeah, you might get access to different

833
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 4: type of dudes and stuff, but yeah, ultimately, ultimately, at me,

834
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 4: that's what I said. I feel like it ultimately comes

835
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 4: down to who you are as a person, and also

836
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 4: it matters like where you hang out at.

837
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: Like before I got my body done, I was working

838
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: at one of the hottest.

839
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: Strip clubs in Houston. They gonna, y'all gonna make fun

840
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 2: of me because every time I say that one of

841
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 2: the hottest strip clubs in Houston. I mean, but I

842
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 2: was so I was around these people. I was around

843
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 2: these type of guys, and it's like, no, I did

844
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 2: not have a fire ass body, but I was cool

845
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 2: as fuck. I was cracking jokes and I got along

846
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 2: with them. And they liked my personality. You know what

847
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 2: I'm saying.

848
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 4: Well, I always say I feel like, ultimately the reasons

849
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 4: why people that I have dated have done things for

850
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 4: me and stuff like that is mainly because of my

851
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 4: person that me too, Like yeah, initially is how you look.

852
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,240
Speaker 4: That's what attracts somebody like this, what makes them be

853
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 4: like damn all right, but laiter down the line to

854
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 4: get somebody to fuck with you for a long time

855
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 4: and stuff like that, it'd be more about your personality

856
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 4: and who you are as a purse, right, what.

857
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 2: You got going on? Cause I know a lot of

858
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 2: times like the dudes that I'll be like, niggas don't

859
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 2: really care.

860
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna gonna lie. Yeah, niggas don't really be hearing

861
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 3: what you got.

862
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 1: Going No, no, no, no, no, you know what I'm saying.

863
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 2: But I'm saying with like some of the guys that

864
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 2: I fuck with, like one of the niggas, like he

865
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 2: is not a trick at all, And I was like

866
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 2: talking to him for a while before here, But that's

867
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. But he knows I got He knows like, oh,

868
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,879
Speaker 2: she got her podcast, she worked, she on her ship,

869
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 2: so he don't mind giving me money. Like when I

870
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 2: was on the way to hear the other day, I

871
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,959
Speaker 2: just got a surprise Zelle, Like he does that because

872
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 2: he sees I'm not no bum just sitting at home.

873
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying.

874
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of the times people think

875
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 2: on this podcast we talk about, oh, get you a

876
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 2: nigga with money, just so you don't have to do anything. No,

877
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,719
Speaker 2: we always talk about bossing up and getting your own bag.

878
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 2: That's what's important for the stuff that a nigga do

879
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 2: for you should always be extra, Like that's supposed to

880
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 2: be stuff that you're enjoying income, right, Like I feel.

881
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 4: Like depending one you got something, you're gonna be asked actually.

882
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 1: Exactly exactly.

883
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 2: So I always feel like we date like this ship

884
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 2: is fun to us, Like we're here to entertain tell

885
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 2: you all about what we got going on, Like it's

886
00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 2: it's fun. Like I like dating men that it's not

887
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 2: a limit whenever we go out. But it's like, yes,

888
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 2: it's a certain type of lifestyle that I like, But

889
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 2: that's not all that I focus on. Twenty four to seven,

890
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,839
Speaker 2: I'm working on shit with poor minds, or I'm at work.

891
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like I'm working on my

892
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 2: own shit so I can be able to take my

893
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:43,479
Speaker 2: family out and they don't have a limit on.

894
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: What to spend and shit like that, you know what

895
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying.

896
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 2: So I think a lot of times people look at

897
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 2: this show and they take everything so serious, like, oh,

898
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 2: I have to have a BDB and I have to

899
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: have to have to no girl, it's supposed to be

900
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 2: the extra shit that you having fun and turning up

901
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 2: with play.

902
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 6: I definitely don't be playing.

903
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 3: First of all, yes we do.

904
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 4: I feel like we started coining the bt B term

905
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,879
Speaker 4: ended up being coined as something funny. Like one day

906
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 4: we was just talking on the show and I just

907
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 4: said big Big Baller. I mean we was on the

908
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 4: phone and I said big Big Baller and then you

909
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 4: started saying bd B and it was just like it

910
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 4: was funny.

911
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 1: Well, I definitely we definitely.

912
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 2: Don't be playing as far as like, I ain't dating

913
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 2: no nigga, I.

914
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 3: Don't be playing about my own life.

915
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: But as far as what y'all do, y'all ain't gotta

916
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 4: feel like y'all got to live up to a standard

917
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 4: or pressure because of what me and not just do well.

918
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: No, not just us, though we like, well, not just us.

919
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 2: So I just feel like society in general, because I

920
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 2: feel like a lot of times, you know, a lot

921
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,720
Speaker 2: of women talking about you shouldn't be fucking with this nigga,

922
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 2: he not doing this and that.

923
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: Well, I do feel that way.

924
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, I don't mean he gotta be

925
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 2: a bad B, right, but that's what I'm saying.

926
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:48,320
Speaker 6: I don't think I've ever heard you say that before.

927
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 2: That don't mean he gotta be a bd B for them.

928
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 2: But like I said, I'm just saying to me, a

929
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 2: bd B is somebody that can show you a good

930
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 2: time and no limits and it's not and nothing's nothing's

931
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 2: an issue, you know what I'm saying.

932
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: So whatever whatever your level is for that, you know

933
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Some bitches like that's what I'm saying, Yeah,

934
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 1: have to.

935
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 2: Be a bad like It's like, I don't know, I

936
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 2: think it's.

937
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 1: Your definition of whatever you need.

938
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 4: And I think, yeah, So I think that when we

939
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 4: say BDB it be making people think that, oh, you

940
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 4: gotta go out and get you a millionaire, right, and

941
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:24,760
Speaker 4: he gotta make up he gotta be making ten million

942
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:28,919
Speaker 4: a month and that's not what we said. We didn't

943
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 4: say that. But then also, that's not realistic for a

944
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,240
Speaker 4: lot of people. I'm just gonna be it's not realistic

945
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 4: for people, Like honestly, it's like it's not realistic.

946
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 3: So it's just like, that's not what we be telling

947
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 3: y'all to do.

948
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Cause I go out, like

949
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: I said, what is somebody on my ross? So he

950
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: make like six figures a year.

951
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 2: And I have a great time with him, fabulous time.

952
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 2: It is never an issue. Whenever I need something, he

953
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: always got me. I feel like, as long as they

954
00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,279
Speaker 2: making sure you straighten, you having a good time, and

955
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 2: it's extra on, that's all it gotta be.

956
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 4: But you the body is not necessary for it. And yeah,

957
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 4: the body is necessary, but I mean, and that's the

958
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 4: end of the day. You should never be getting your

959
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 4: body done for any reason other than you just wanted

960
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 4: to get your body done. I think I've said this

961
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,800
Speaker 4: before on a previous episode. Anything that you do to

962
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 4: your body you should be doing because you want to

963
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 4: do that shit because it's gonna boost your confidence. You

964
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:22,959
Speaker 4: shouldn't be doing it so you can get a certain

965
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 4: type of nigga. That's retarded, and these niggas are, and

966
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 4: these niggas retarded too, trying to fix yourselves, to fix them?

967
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 3: Have they ass be bad?

968
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 4: They be bad as their booty be bigger than mine. No,

969
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 4: they don't be having no booty. That's all their pants

970
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 4: be falling over. Yo.

971
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 1: You seen that picture of your face?

972
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 2: He ain't got no ass. I'm gonna show you anyways

973
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 2: my face.

974
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 3: Girl, Let me the fuck along, because I know it's

975
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 3: about to be some bullshit that you about to show me.

976
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 2: Okay, So anyways, let us know how y'all feel about

977
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 2: that topic. Like I said, you don't have to get

978
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 2: your body done and get a bad b So now

979
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,840
Speaker 2: we're gonna get into the bed and.

980
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 1: Okay.

981
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 2: So I wanted to talk about this because I tweeted

982
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 2: something this morning and everybody fucking went in on my

983
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 2: motherfucking ass beig What did you say? I said, I

984
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 2: am too tall and thick. I don't want to fuck

985
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,879
Speaker 2: with no skinny nigga. So I wanted to talk about

986
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 2: skinny nigga. Say, skinny niggas be slangy.

987
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 1: That's cool.

988
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, I don't know

989
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 3: what to tell you. Well, I'll say this.

990
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,319
Speaker 2: I feel like it's just kind of like saying that

991
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 2: all black men have big dicks.

992
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,800
Speaker 1: Listen, let me finish. I'm saying that people.

993
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:40,479
Speaker 2: I'm just saying people are like, that's like the myth

994
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 2: that all black men have big dicks. Everybody was like,

995
00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 2: all girl, gets you a skinny nigga. No, I recently

996
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 2: had a skinny nigga, and I did not enjoy that

997
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 2: shit at all.

998
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 1: It was terrible. I was horrified. He was scratching my

999
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: face with his hip bone.

1000
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 2: I was being injured. Almost took my damn ass cheek out.

1001
00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 1: You know, it was just a lie. Them hip bones

1002
00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: be sharp, the knees be sharp. Bitch, You was.

1003
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:05,400
Speaker 4: Dating a nigga that sounds like he was male newry

1004
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 4: because a skinny nigga hip bone ain't about to be

1005
00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 4: poking out. A healthy niggas hip bone ain't about to

1006
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,760
Speaker 4: be poking because they're skinny. Nigga had an eight.

1007
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 3: He missing some meals, obviously.

1008
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 1: I brought him a plate too, and he told that

1009
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: ship up.

1010
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 2: Because he was I got nothing in there. I have

1011
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 2: some ice cream, right, And I opened his freeze and

1012
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 2: it wasn't nothing in there.

1013
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 4: I told you he was well, I was, I guess

1014
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 4: my last. You want to making fun of him, you

1015
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 4: need to him some grocery.

1016
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: No, I don't. You need to leave me alone. He

1017
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:48,359
Speaker 1: keeps trying to get this good. She's good, she I.

1018
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:53,319
Speaker 2: Said, no, sir, stabbing pel little Garfield trying to kill

1019
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 2: my girl.

1020
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 3: Like you can play. But he is not about the slander.

1021
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 4: The skinny niggas like that because I done have some

1022
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,759
Speaker 4: skinny They've been fired a few times.

1023
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 2: I just don't I like a man that's just like

1024
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 2: I'm a big bitch, So I just I need a

1025
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 2: big man.

1026
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 1: I don't like feeling like I'm gonna crush you.

1027
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 4: But do you feel like your weight makes the difference

1028
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 4: in the deck or in the sey No.

1029
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 2: I just don't like the feeling that I'm being too

1030
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 2: I don't like being too dominant in the bedroom. So

1031
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 2: I feel like if you can't pull me over and

1032
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 2: rough me up, I don't like that shit. That's a

1033
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,240
Speaker 2: part of the sex. To me, Skinny niggas cannot flip

1034
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 2: me over and pick me up and do all that shit.

1035
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:32,799
Speaker 4: Like.

1036
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:33,799
Speaker 1: I need me a nigga that.

1037
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:36,439
Speaker 2: Got some height and some weight on him, like I'm

1038
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 2: five eight one hundred and eighty nine pounds. I can't

1039
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 2: be fucking with no nigga. That's five ten, one hundred

1040
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 2: and fifty.

1041
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna kill you and you're gonna be I hate

1042
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: when niggas be out of bed like ome On, I.

1043
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 4: Got you, I got your baby, but a fat nigga

1044
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 4: or I don't fuck.

1045
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 1: I don't fuck with fat niggas. I'm like chubby niggas.

1046
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: I mean nah, not really my niggas be like medium.

1047
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:58,719
Speaker 3: Large with a chubby nigga.

1048
00:41:58,719 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: I don't think since I've been on.

1049
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 2: You well, when I first moved out here, I had

1050
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 2: think he was he was real thick, he had that,

1051
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:07,760
Speaker 2: he had all that as we used.

1052
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 4: To sing this song that yes, hey he was, he

1053
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 4: had that booty.

1054
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 2: But but no, I've never talked to like a fat guy.

1055
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 2: But I feel like medium to large guys like those

1056
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 2: are my go to. Like I feel like they know

1057
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 2: what to do. They can flip me over. They can't

1058
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 2: handle me and handle me. Who gonna handle on me?

1059
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know he gonna get the

1060
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:32,879
Speaker 1: right skinny nigga did. I don't want it.

1061
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 2: I don't want it turned off girl. I just feel

1062
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 2: like it's just uncomfortable. And then I'm trying to cuddle

1063
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 2: on you. You ain't got no meat or rubbing on

1064
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 2: your bones, it's sounding like a xylophone when I'm rubbing

1065
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 2: on your ribs.

1066
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 1: That ship does not feel good. I can't relate.

1067
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:54,720
Speaker 4: That guy said, this sounds to me like the skinny

1068
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 4: nigga that you was fucking we needed to eat. I

1069
00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:00,919
Speaker 4: have never had that problem. Like it's difference between being

1070
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 4: skinny and bony.

1071
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 1: He was bony.

1072
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, absolutely nice. Skinny and bony is two different things.

1073
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 1: Okay, well maybe that's what it is.

1074
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: It just you small, You got a small frame. You

1075
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 3: don't really have no muscles, and shit.

1076
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 1: I don't like that. Why don't you got no muscle?

1077
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: I don't like that.

1078
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 4: But yes, it's like you just a small nigga, bony

1079
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 4: you can see people bones and she I told y'all.

1080
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: Was playing the xlophone. I was not playing.

1081
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:28,439
Speaker 2: So let me know how y'all feel about skinny nigga sex.

1082
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 2: Like I said, I got it. I guess it's a

1083
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 2: little different for me because, like I said, I'm big.

1084
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 2: I'm not a small girl at all. I've never been tiny,

1085
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 2: So that stuff just just not and they be little.

1086
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 2: So it's like they be a lot of times, skinny

1087
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 2: niggas be lasting longer.

1088
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 1: I don't care.

1089
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:43,800
Speaker 4: But then sometimes that's not really a good thing because

1090
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 4: you know, I'll be liking for it to be quick. Well,

1091
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 4: I don't like quick, but I'd like a good thirty

1092
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 4: forty five minute sex. Definitely not trying to have no

1093
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:51,879
Speaker 4: forty five minutes sick.

1094
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: I mean that's including the four play though.

1095
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 4: Oh okay, yeah, it was like we definitely not about

1096
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 4: to be fucking before.

1097
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 2: No, no, no, that's including the four play thirty forty

1098
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 2: five minutes.

1099
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: Tired of actually doubting myself, I would be like, what

1100
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 1: the fuck actual.

1101
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:08,240
Speaker 2: Sex needs to be like fifteen twenty Yes, yeah, absolutely. Okay,

1102
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:10,440
Speaker 2: So let us know how y'all feel about skinny nigga sex.

1103
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 2: I personally don't enjoy it. Don't try to convince me

1104
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 2: because I'm not changing my mind about it. Okay, So

1105
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 2: let's get into the bop of the week. Oh shit,

1106
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 2: let me go, so my bop of the week. Now,

1107
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 2: y'all know I'm not the biggest, the biggest jen a

1108
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 2: fuck no, oh you better.

1109
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 1: Not have my bob. I swear to God, I'm sorry.

1110
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 1: Are you talking about the summer twenty twenty?

1111
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 2: That's your bob? Yeah, I don't know this, okay. So yeah,

1112
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 2: so that's my first bop of the week. I actually

1113
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: enjoyed it. Y'all know, she's growing on me a little bit,

1114
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,400
Speaker 2: little by little, you know. I told y'all, y'all know

1115
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 2: in the past episodes, I was doing my voice like Jenna.

1116
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna do it today, but I I am.

1117
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 2: I enjoyed the song. It's a good song and grease

1118
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 2: with DJ Callen and Drake.

1119
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 1: He sounds like the Weekend.

1120
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 2: I like it, doesn't it sound I thought it was

1121
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 2: the Weekend when I heard it. Now I like the song.

1122
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 2: That's another my other bop of the week. But doesn't

1123
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 2: he sound exactly like the Weekend? Like it's freaky?

1124
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 1: I won exactly.

1125
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 4: It does kind of sound like him a little bit. Yeah,

1126
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 4: I agree, y'all know that was gonna.

1127
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 3: Be sorry, sorry, but.

1128
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just feel like that Drake definitely channeled his

1129
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 2: inner Weekend. I love the week I'll say he was

1130
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 2: definitely the Holiday on that one. So uh yeah, but

1131
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 2: shout out to Drake.

1132
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: I like it. I didn't so much care for.

1133
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 2: The other song that they dropped, but yeah, he had

1134
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 2: some good quotables in there.

1135
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 4: Yeah sure, Okay, So mybot for the week is gonna

1136
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:40,320
Speaker 4: be Ja Ego to come on off of the album

1137
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 4: that the Deluxe.

1138
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like that song. So that's gonna be the week.

1139
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: Oh she got one this week, y'all, bitch always. I

1140
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 3: ain't about to do this with you every week.

1141
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: I know you not what about you, Marin, I would

1142
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: have to say.

1143
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 5: So, there's a new artist that I just happened to

1144
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 5: come across on Instagram. I hope I'm saying her name right,

1145
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 5: but it's I think it's pronounce Cashma, but.

1146
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 6: It's spelled c A s h m A.

1147
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 5: I hope I right. But she has an EP out

1148
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 5: called Purple Mosquito. Okay, but the song that I really

1149
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:10,319
Speaker 5: fuck with what is called Savan.

1150
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:11,760
Speaker 1: So is she a singer or rapper?

1151
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 6: A singer?

1152
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: Okay?

1153
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 6: She's liking that Danny Lace and Eco.

1154
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm gonna go listen to her because I

1155
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 1: love I.

1156
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 6: Love a good R and B chat singer and yeah,

1157
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:21,600
Speaker 6: I like her.

1158
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 5: And apparently she's based in Atlanta too, so I just

1159
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 5: have it to be on Instagram and it came across

1160
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 5: my feed and I just clicked on it and I

1161
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:29,800
Speaker 5: like everything that I heard.

1162
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 6: So I'm gonna saying your name.

1163
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 5: Right, but this purple Mosquito ep is fire and Save

1164
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 5: Me is the one for me.

1165
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:38,879
Speaker 1: Okay, We'll shout out to our good sis.

1166
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to listen to that because you know

1167
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 2: we love the R and B had Okay, Okay, So

1168
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,399
Speaker 2: we're gonna get into the questions this week. Make sure

1169
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 2: if you want your question answered on the show, you

1170
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 2: email us at ask Poor Minds at gmail dot com. Please,

1171
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 2: like I say every week, make sure y'all keep them

1172
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 2: as short as possible.

1173
00:46:57,800 --> 00:46:59,360
Speaker 1: Try to do a paragraph. We're catching up.

1174
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 2: We're gonna get all y'all read, we promised, So yeah,

1175
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,320
Speaker 2: email us at Askpoor Minds at gmail dot com.

1176
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 1: I'll go first because I know you read both last week.

1177
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: So all, thank you, amen.

1178
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:13,760
Speaker 2: Okay, So it says, hey, lex Andrea, call me Jiggy.

1179
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 2: I was interduced to introduced to you by the Ladies

1180
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 2: of Horrible Decisions. Shout out to Weezy and Mandy. Shout

1181
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,319
Speaker 2: out to Horrible Decisions. And I've been binge listening for

1182
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 2: the last month while on lockdown, so down to the shit.

1183
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 2: I've been back home in Detroit since April due to

1184
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 2: the pandemic, and since being home, I rekindled a budding

1185
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 2: friendship situation with this guy I met one time just

1186
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 2: before I moved to New York six years ago. Since

1187
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,359
Speaker 2: being home, maybe a month of being here, he's made

1188
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 2: it very known that he wants me, and that's just that. However,

1189
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 2: I am newly single as of a year ago, and

1190
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 2: I let him know that I'm not looking for anything

1191
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 2: serious right now because I'm rebuilding after a dramatic year.

1192
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 2: Oh by the way, I think I should mention that

1193
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: we are both gay men and both verse tops. So

1194
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:02,399
Speaker 2: verse tops means like they switch positions, like sometimes he's

1195
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:05,759
Speaker 2: for the people listening that don't know. So yeah, they both,

1196
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,920
Speaker 2: you know, go on top for y'all that don't know.

1197
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 2: I say this in quotation because he says that he

1198
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 2: is willing to compromise. However, I seem to be the

1199
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,880
Speaker 2: only one compromising here. Granted we've only had actual intercourse

1200
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 2: a few times. I know he wants it whenever he

1201
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 2: can get it, because he makes it very known not

1202
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 2: to toot my own horn.

1203
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,240
Speaker 1: But I know I'm a badass independent nigga.

1204
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,480
Speaker 2: However, since we've been seeing each other, he's been taking

1205
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 2: care of all my necessities. Since being back home, I

1206
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 2: was crashing at my aunt's, but he put me up

1207
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: in a suite and I've been there ever since. He's

1208
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:43,280
Speaker 2: paid my car note, insurance, phone bill, keeps my hair braided,

1209
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 2: and never has a problem spinning a bag.

1210
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: Oh, I like you, but bitch.

1211
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 2: In the last month, I met his entire family, and

1212
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 2: he is asking me what I would say if he proposed,

1213
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 2: and he's asking me if I'm ready to live with him.

1214
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 1: Now.

1215
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 2: My question is should I continue to entertain this man

1216
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 2: even though I know sexually we're not compatible and I

1217
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 2: honestly do not want anything serious right now.

1218
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 1: However, I do want my bills paid the fuck.

1219
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 2: I'm a visual interior designer, but due to COVID, it

1220
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 2: looks it looks like I'll be out of work a

1221
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: little while longer.

1222
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 1: Now.

1223
00:49:12,120 --> 00:49:14,959
Speaker 2: While this good little unemployment coin is nice, it's nothing

1224
00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 2: compared to the money I had coming in as a

1225
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 2: corporate executive. And with him taking care of my bills

1226
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:22,840
Speaker 2: and necessities, I've been able to stack this unemployment coin

1227
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 2: so that when it's safe outside for real, I can

1228
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,319
Speaker 2: make moves and get back to my regular life. What

1229
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 2: would you ladies do? Please help from a gay BDB

1230
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 2: with poor boy problems. Almo was a good one, Okay,

1231
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:36,000
Speaker 2: so go ahead, go ahead.

1232
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 4: I definitely feel like you just need to have a

1233
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:43,240
Speaker 4: conversation with him. Agree, Because it's like, if everything else

1234
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 4: in a relationship is running smoothly, he doing everything that

1235
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 4: you want him to do.

1236
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 3: He's been making sure that you're.

1237
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 4: Straight, and the only problem is that he's not willing

1238
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 4: to compromise in the bedroom. I just feel like y'all

1239
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 4: just need to have a conversation. I don't think you

1240
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 4: should stop fucking with him, you know what I mean.

1241
00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 4: And then after you have a conversation, if he's not

1242
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 4: willing a compromise, then yeah, you know what I mean,

1243
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 4: stack your bread a little.

1244
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: Bit longer, right.

1245
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 2: I agree? I feel like unhappy, right. So it's very important.

1246
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 2: Sex is very important relationship. But I always feel like

1247
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:15,360
Speaker 2: sex can be fixed. In my situations where I was

1248
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 2: having like bad sex with somebody, I feel like, if

1249
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 2: you're comfortable with that person and conversations can be had,

1250
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 2: it could be a problem to be solved.

1251
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 1: But also he wants to get married. You don't even

1252
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 1: want anything serious.

1253
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 2: That's a very serious conversation you need to have because

1254
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:29,879
Speaker 2: you don't want to lead him on and end up

1255
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 2: hating you. So I feel like what you need to

1256
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 2: do is just have a conversation with him, but definitely

1257
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:36,360
Speaker 2: keep stacking your money because you don't want him to

1258
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 2: just up and leave and you left with nothing, So

1259
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 2: definitely use this opportunity to stack your bread. But I

1260
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,040
Speaker 2: feel like, to be fair, you don't want to be

1261
00:50:43,120 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 2: just like a using person and just using him. So

1262
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 2: I feel like you definitely just need to have a

1263
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 2: conversation with him so y'all can get on the same page,

1264
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:50,920
Speaker 2: so y'all can figure it out.

1265
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, shout out to you. I hope that helps.

1266
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, just talk to him and work it out, but

1267
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 2: keep stacking them coins, all right?

1268
00:50:58,480 --> 00:51:01,799
Speaker 4: Okay, So the next question is, hey, girl, Hey just

1269
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 4: call me fun lying ladies, How should I really feel?

1270
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 3: What would you do in this situation? How would you react?

1271
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,319
Speaker 4: I've been talking to these guys for some time now,

1272
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,040
Speaker 4: and things were getting serious until one night I was

1273
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 4: at his house and he told me I had to

1274
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 4: go because he was having issues with his roommate. I

1275
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 4: left without any protests, but to my surprise, when I

1276
00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 4: went outside to my.

1277
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 3: Car, there was a beach waiting in her car.

1278
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 4: She was on some pull up and hop out type

1279
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:29,760
Speaker 4: sheet because her car wasn't even part oop. I knocked

1280
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 4: on her window, spoke and asked her if she knew

1281
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 4: Bernard not Bernard ooh Bernard.

1282
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 3: You could not? She said, yes, who are you? I

1283
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:40,399
Speaker 3: asked her the same thing.

1284
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 4: She jumps out of her car and says okay, bit

1285
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 4: and goes to knock on his door.

1286
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 3: At this point, I'm in my car and pulling off.

1287
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 4: Instead of him addressing the situation head on, he decides

1288
00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:52,840
Speaker 4: to give me space and time to calm down because

1289
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:56,440
Speaker 4: he doesn't like confrontation. Yes, I told him I spoke

1290
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 4: to her. He claims that he didn't know because he

1291
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,319
Speaker 4: hasn't spoke to her, and he also didn't open the

1292
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 4: door for her that night. This is just a background

1293
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 4: on the bump in the road. As far as the

1294
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 4: relationship goes, I've been handling him differently since the situation happened, and.

1295
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 3: We're not as close as we were before.

1296
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 4: He's questioning me about dealing with other niggas, and I

1297
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 4: hated this because he's not consisting his damn self. But

1298
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 4: we have been trying to get closer again, I guess. Anyway,

1299
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:23,959
Speaker 4: this past weekend, when we went to a social club

1300
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 4: in northern Maryland, about thirty minutes from Baltimore. It was

1301
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:29,840
Speaker 4: our first time there, so we didn't know what to expect.

1302
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 4: He called and invited me while he was on his

1303
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 4: way there. I was already out with some of my

1304
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 4: good friends good girlfriends, but he kindly waited for me

1305
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 4: to go home, change and make my way out there.

1306
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 4: The way the club is set up, once you're in

1307
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 4: and your end. If you leave, you cannot return. I

1308
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 4: went home and changed into something that was more comfy

1309
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 4: and easily accessible for fucking because I knew that's how

1310
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 4: the night was gonna go. So I finally made it

1311
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 4: into the club. He pays for our membership fees and

1312
00:52:56,239 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 4: we get on our tour. This particular night is mostly

1313
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 4: whites and Hispanics. We made some cool couples though. After

1314
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 4: our tour, we made our way to the club, I

1315
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 4: mean our way around the club. We had shots and

1316
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 4: play pool and watch some of the other couples play.

1317
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 4: He went into the bathroom a few times with his

1318
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 4: pc ass, and each s time he loved me, and

1319
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:20,360
Speaker 4: each time he loved me alone. There was someone inviting

1320
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 4: me into a room, asking if I wanted to play.

1321
00:53:23,120 --> 00:53:24,919
Speaker 4: At one point, he told me there was a guy

1322
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 4: in there that he knew. I stepped away to watch

1323
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 4: a couple fuck in one of the rooms while they

1324
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 4: chopped it up. I was ear hustling as well, though.

1325
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 4: The friend was telling Bernard that he had just fucked

1326
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 4: the man's wife in a particular room and she was

1327
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:37,440
Speaker 4: squirting everywhere.

1328
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 1: Y'all.

1329
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 4: I see this nigga go in the room out of

1330
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 4: the corner of my eye as I'm watching this couple.

1331
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 4: So moments passed and I'm knocking on the door to

1332
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 4: get in because he's been in there too long. I

1333
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 4: get in the room and he's asked naked fucking this

1334
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 4: lady on the bed.

1335
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 2: Not an entire night.

1336
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,080
Speaker 4: I felt like he was being shy and wasn't willing

1337
00:53:56,120 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 4: to participate in any activities. He kept telling me he

1338
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:02,359
Speaker 4: needed motivation and he wasn't really attracted to anybody there.

1339
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 4: He wanted me to go in rooms with couples. I

1340
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 4: guess to see how far I really go. I had

1341
00:54:07,640 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 4: even told this guy that I was asking who I

1342
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 4: was there with and if I liked to play that

1343
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 4: Bernard was acting shy. But when he came back from

1344
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 4: the bathroom, no way, when he came back from the

1345
00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 4: bathroom break, the guy snitched and told him what I

1346
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 4: had said. I guess trying to help to loosen him

1347
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 4: up or get him to fuck on his wife because

1348
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:30,439
Speaker 4: the black guys, because his wife's wife loves black guys.

1349
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 1: He told him, Oh my god.

1350
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:34,360
Speaker 4: But either way, I don't know if Bernard was feeling

1351
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:36,720
Speaker 4: his drink or if he was trying to get squirted on.

1352
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:40,800
Speaker 4: But he went in that room and started fucking that lady.

1353
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,439
Speaker 4: He wanted to show me he wasn't fucking shy. I'm

1354
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 4: in the room watching and the lady's husband is asking me,

1355
00:54:46,120 --> 00:54:48,240
Speaker 4: where is my guy, and I'm like, he's right there.

1356
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 4: I asked a husband if he had put a condom on,

1357
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,359
Speaker 4: and he said for sure. He even asked me if

1358
00:54:53,360 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 4: I wanted to join. Nah, oh my god, see this

1359
00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 4: message long as fuck.

1360
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 1: I'm bad. Look.

1361
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 4: I said all this to say that I have mixed

1362
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:05,319
Speaker 4: feelings I fuck with him. So I was a little

1363
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,280
Speaker 4: irritated behind him fucking her and I had been trying

1364
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 4: to get it in all night. He needed motivation, but

1365
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 4: when it fucked the beach, I did not ask.

1366
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 3: For these shit?

1367
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 4: But how should I feel given the environment that I

1368
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:19,440
Speaker 4: put myself in. I did have a good time, and

1369
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 4: I want to go back on Mocha Knight. This particular night,

1370
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 4: people that look like us are there. The club is

1371
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:28,360
Speaker 4: black owned, but they bring in many different types of crowds. Actually,

1372
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 4: a lot of the couples I talked to told me

1373
00:55:31,480 --> 00:55:34,319
Speaker 4: that they usually only come on Mocha Knights. I thought

1374
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 4: that it was interesting. We did fuck afterwards, I noticed

1375
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:39,400
Speaker 4: the nigga had shaved all his pubic air, all his

1376
00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 4: pubic hair, and had on one of his cock rings.

1377
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:45,920
Speaker 4: Bernard was definitely prepared and ready for people to be watching.

1378
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:49,760
Speaker 4: I feel like, I mean, what do y'all think about it? Honestly,

1379
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:51,320
Speaker 4: I don't know how to feel about it. It was

1380
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 4: a new experience for me, and I have been to

1381
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 4: another social club, but not with someone I've been talking

1382
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,640
Speaker 4: to and dating only my best friend. I had a

1383
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:01,959
Speaker 4: fun time, but he's in encounter with that lady hasn't

1384
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 4: settled with me.

1385
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:05,760
Speaker 1: How would y'all feel okay.

1386
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:09,040
Speaker 2: So I guess I can speak on this a little

1387
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:10,920
Speaker 2: bit because you know, I went to a sex resort

1388
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:16,319
Speaker 2: last year, and one thing when you're going to a

1389
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 2: sex resort, I feel like expect. I didn't go with

1390
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 2: a partner. I went with some of my friends, but

1391
00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:23,799
Speaker 2: I feel like, actually experiencing that and going into like

1392
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 2: a sex party or anything like that, you have to

1393
00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:28,080
Speaker 2: go with somebody that you trust.

1394
00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 1: First of all.

1395
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 2: You cannot go to no situationing like that and have

1396
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 2: a nigga that's gonna be sneaking off in fucking bitches

1397
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 2: behind your back, because that makes you feel uncomfortable. It's

1398
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:39,680
Speaker 2: already kind of like an intense environment if you've never

1399
00:56:39,719 --> 00:56:41,879
Speaker 2: been before. So I feel like, if y'all are going

1400
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,160
Speaker 2: there as a couple, y'all need to decide what y'all

1401
00:56:44,160 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 2: are doing as a couple. Nigga, you're not supposed to

1402
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,760
Speaker 2: be sneaking around and go and do stuff. You're supposed

1403
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:52,279
Speaker 2: to either let her know, like, hey, I want to

1404
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 2: go have sex with this lady. Do you want to

1405
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 2: join us? Do you want to watch? But you need

1406
00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 2: to let people know what's going on. I just think

1407
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 2: that was very weird. I think that he kind of

1408
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,279
Speaker 2: ruined the experience of what it's supposed to be like

1409
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:05,400
Speaker 2: because nobody wants to walk in a room and you

1410
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 2: looking for your spouse and you see them not including

1411
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 2: you on the activities. The whole purpose is for you

1412
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 2: and your partner to experience things together or maybe separate,

1413
00:57:14,239 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 2: but it needs to be a conversation to be had.

1414
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 2: I feel like he ruined the experience for you, Like,

1415
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 2: that's not fun. I think that that was like kind

1416
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:23,640
Speaker 2: of fucked up that you were just kind of like

1417
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 2: standing there and you had to walk in and see

1418
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 2: him just because he wanted to get squirted on, Like nigga,

1419
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 2: that's as weird as fuck.

1420
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 4: I mean, I agree to a certain extent, but then

1421
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 4: I also just feel like, I don't know.

1422
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 1: I guess I feel like if you and your.

1423
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 4: Spouse, I mean, or your partner or going to a

1424
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 4: sex club, it's kind of like, ain't y'all going there

1425
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 4: to fuck?

1426
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're going there the fuck, but you're not supposed

1427
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 2: to to.

1428
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 1: Me do work like that?

1429
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess I kind of get what you're saying,

1430
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:50,920
Speaker 4: but I just feel like if I was gonna put

1431
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 4: myself in a position to where meeting a nigga that

1432
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 4: I'm fucking we were going to a sex club when

1433
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 4: we about to fuck with somebody, I just really wouldn't

1434
00:57:57,760 --> 00:57:59,320
Speaker 4: be getting in my feelings about nothing.

1435
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the thing is made the decisions, right, y'all made.

1436
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 2: The decision to go. But you're supposed to have conversations

1437
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 2: like this is what we're doing, this is what's off limits.

1438
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 2: This is is just like when a couple has a

1439
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:12,640
Speaker 2: three some of another person. I feel like they make

1440
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 2: ground rules beforehand, you know, so things don't get misconstrued.

1441
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 2: So definitely before you go to a sex resort or

1442
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 2: sex club, couples have conversations. So the fact that y'all didn't,

1443
00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:23,919
Speaker 2: obviously y'all weren't on the same page.

1444
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:24,640
Speaker 3: That's what I was gonna say.

1445
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sure probably they do, but maybe that's

1446
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 4: also the issue. If they didn't have a conversation before,

1447
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:31,000
Speaker 4: then you can't be mad at somebody.

1448
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess, so going, I just you know what

1449
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:34,000
Speaker 1: I mean?

1450
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just feel like situations like that are tricky

1451
00:58:37,720 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 4: already as a whole, Like going, you you and a

1452
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 4: person that you dating, going and having sex with other

1453
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 4: people openly and stuff. I think that type of stuff

1454
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 4: is already tricky as it is because a lot of

1455
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 4: the time people be thinking they don't really care, and

1456
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 4: they thinking that they're not gonna feel no type of way,

1457
00:58:52,400 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 4: and then you feel some type of way. That's why

1458
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 4: I honestly don't really be knowing sometimes that I could

1459
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 4: do this issue.

1460
00:58:57,360 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something, But that's crazy that she

1461
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 2: said that because when we in Jamaica, it was a

1462
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 2: white couple that we had met, and that man loved

1463
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 2: to watch his wife get fucked by black guys. Like

1464
00:59:08,080 --> 00:59:10,560
Speaker 2: she was fucking all the niggas on the resort, like

1465
00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:14,040
Speaker 2: fucking all of them, and like not even kidding, Like

1466
00:59:14,120 --> 00:59:16,800
Speaker 2: whenever the guy would finish with her, her husband would

1467
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:18,880
Speaker 2: go right in behind the whoever was fucking her.

1468
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 1: It would start like that would get him off.

1469
00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:26,120
Speaker 2: She liked fucking black men and he liked to watch it.

1470
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:28,240
Speaker 1: I mean, it was that world. That whole world is

1471
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:30,680
Speaker 1: so crazy. It is. It's interesting, though.

1472
00:59:30,600 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I feel like it ain't for everybody.

1473
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 1: It's definitely not for everybody.

1474
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 2: But like I said, I feel like, if you want

1475
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 2: to continue to fuck with this person, cool, but obviously

1476
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 2: y'all need to have a conversation with y'all before y'all

1477
00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 2: decide to go back. So I agree, it's definitely things

1478
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:44,959
Speaker 2: that need to be talked about, because yeah, that's not cool.

1479
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 2: You don't go on those, especially being into the second resort.

1480
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 2: It can be really uncomfortable if you're just kind of

1481
00:59:49,960 --> 00:59:53,120
Speaker 2: by yourself walking around. So yes, it's definitely have a

1482
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:55,040
Speaker 2: conversation with them, but don't go back if you didn't

1483
00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:55,760
Speaker 2: have a good time.

1484
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 4: With him, man, because maybe that's just not your thing.

1485
00:59:57,720 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 4: No matter how fun you want to be freak, you

1486
01:00:00,360 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 4: going to be a habitation that's really ain't your things.

1487
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: Okay, So I read the other half of this, so

1488
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:06,840
Speaker 1: she actually wants to be left anonymous.

1489
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:10,040
Speaker 2: So I wanted to start off by saying, I love

1490
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:12,760
Speaker 2: you guys show and Lex as a fellow Leo, I

1491
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 2: feel you to my core every episode. I'm the friend

1492
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 2: always singing and doing voices. Leo's can get a bad

1493
01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:21,720
Speaker 2: rep sometimes, but you put on for us. So here's

1494
01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 2: my question. Hopefully it's not confusing, but I've noticed this

1495
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 2: in my friend group online and other friend groups, etc.

1496
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 2: Do you guys feel like people who are attractive are

1497
01:00:31,120 --> 01:00:34,439
Speaker 2: confident are less likely to be complimented than a friend

1498
01:00:34,480 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 2: who constantly vocalizes their insecurities, like in my friend groups, specifically,

1499
01:00:39,800 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm the slim, thick friend who usually gets hit on

1500
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:45,400
Speaker 2: by guys. I'm very confident and I don't usually harp

1501
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 2: on my insecurities. The rest of my friend group consists

1502
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:51,640
Speaker 2: of bigger girls, and they often complain about being fat.

1503
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 2: Not every single one, but most. And I notice if

1504
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 2: we go out, I'll walk in looking amazing and feeling great,

1505
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 2: and not one friend will hype me up you look

1506
01:01:00,880 --> 01:01:03,440
Speaker 2: cute or ask where I got something, But then the

1507
01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 2: other one friend walks in and me included, will hype

1508
01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 2: her up with a thousand compliments and all. Now, I

1509
01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 2: don't need compliments to feel validated, but it's something I noticed.

1510
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 2: People won't overtly praise someone who is confident or highly

1511
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:22,480
Speaker 2: attractive based on societal standards. I found some threads on

1512
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:24,960
Speaker 2: it online and someone said it may be hard to

1513
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:28,800
Speaker 2: compliment someone you feels more attractive than you versus someone

1514
01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 2: on a relative level or below.

1515
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: It made sense, but I'm a girl's girl.

1516
01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:35,000
Speaker 2: I love to hype my friends and I don't want

1517
01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:37,240
Speaker 2: to ever complain about it. It just seems vain or

1518
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 2: I'm too into myself or assume it's jealousy because it

1519
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 2: doesn't strike.

1520
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 1: Me as that.

1521
01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 2: But sometimes I wish my friends would give me the

1522
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:46,960
Speaker 2: same energy I give. Instead, I'm usually the one getting

1523
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 2: picked on for being too white for shit I like,

1524
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 2: or being extra since y'all are both attractive women. Do

1525
01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:55,080
Speaker 2: you notice this in life too or am I crazy?

1526
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:59,600
Speaker 2: Thanks again, love y'all, I.

1527
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 4: Feel like to a certain extent when it comes to friends, Yes,

1528
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:06,360
Speaker 4: I have had that issue before with friends, Like I

1529
01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:08,800
Speaker 4: definitely feel like when people feel like you confident and stuff,

1530
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:12,040
Speaker 4: sometimes they do kind of intimidate people to a certain extent,

1531
01:02:12,360 --> 01:02:14,960
Speaker 4: and then they feel like they don't have to compliment you,

1532
01:02:15,080 --> 01:02:16,960
Speaker 4: or they don't even if you always telling them they

1533
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 4: look cute or this is cute or whatever, they won't

1534
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:20,800
Speaker 4: do the same to you. But at the end of

1535
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,160
Speaker 4: the day, it really shouldn't matter, you know what I mean,

1536
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:25,600
Speaker 4: as long as you have confidence in yourself. And I

1537
01:02:25,640 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 4: do feel like it is a little bit of jealousy,

1538
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:29,880
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? But I never really had

1539
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 4: that problem with other people like it. Usually most of

1540
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 4: the time be random ass people that I be compliments,

1541
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:37,120
Speaker 4: you know.

1542
01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:37,360
Speaker 1: What I mean.

1543
01:02:37,440 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 4: But yeah, for sure, I definitely have had that issue

1544
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:42,200
Speaker 4: with my friends before, some of my friends in the past,

1545
01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:45,560
Speaker 4: but I don't really let that that bother me because

1546
01:02:45,600 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 4: I understand it. It's more so, look sees a lot

1547
01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:49,960
Speaker 4: of people be insecureous food.

1548
01:02:49,920 --> 01:02:50,800
Speaker 1: Right exactly.

1549
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:53,680
Speaker 4: I always kind of be peeping this shit and see

1550
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,240
Speaker 4: right through people when they be insecure. So so it's like,

1551
01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:59,880
Speaker 4: when people be insecure, you can't let them not come

1552
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 4: laming you, or them not saying stuff to you offend

1553
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:04,720
Speaker 4: you or make you feel some type of way, cause beach,

1554
01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:08,240
Speaker 4: you know, you look good period. So I just feel like,

1555
01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:10,000
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, maybe your friends do feel

1556
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 4: some type of way because you did say that you

1557
01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 4: are shaped a certain way. They're bigger girls and stuff

1558
01:03:15,080 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 4: like that. So maybe you do kind of intimidate them

1559
01:03:17,200 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 4: to a certain extent, But that's not your a problem.

1560
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 4: That's not something that you should feel bad about, and

1561
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:23,840
Speaker 4: I don't ever apologize for.

1562
01:03:24,240 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 2: And I also feel like, you know, whenever you're a

1563
01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:29,720
Speaker 2: confident person within yourself, like you know, if I'm in

1564
01:03:29,760 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 2: a group of friends, and I know, like if like

1565
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:34,440
Speaker 2: I'm the one that quote unquote looks the best or whatever.

1566
01:03:34,840 --> 01:03:37,320
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily agree with that statement. I'm just saying,

1567
01:03:37,480 --> 01:03:40,840
Speaker 2: just for example, I'm not gonna feel like if I

1568
01:03:40,880 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 2: walk in and I get one compliment and then somebody

1569
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:45,480
Speaker 2: who comes in that maybe doesn't look as good or

1570
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 2: look whatever, like like you're saying, and everybody compliments them,

1571
01:03:48,680 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna feel no type of way because, you

1572
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:52,280
Speaker 2: know what, maybe that person needs that.

1573
01:03:52,520 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You like, you don't know

1574
01:03:53,800 --> 01:03:56,360
Speaker 1: what people like you have confidence? You know what I'm saying.

1575
01:03:56,720 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 2: I don't need a thousand people telling me I look good,

1576
01:03:58,760 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 2: because I know I look good. But if my friend

1577
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:03,840
Speaker 2: doesn't feel good and she needs one hundred compliments to

1578
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:05,600
Speaker 2: make her feel good, I'm gonna do that shit. But

1579
01:04:05,640 --> 01:04:07,320
Speaker 2: I'm the type of person bitch I hype up all

1580
01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:09,959
Speaker 2: my friends because literally all my friends are bad as fuck, like.

1581
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:13,280
Speaker 1: So I love that shit. I love when.

1582
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:15,480
Speaker 2: Drea post a bad patience. I retweet that shit cause

1583
01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:15,960
Speaker 2: my bitch.

1584
01:04:15,800 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 1: Be looking good.

1585
01:04:16,920 --> 01:04:19,000
Speaker 2: Call it all my friends be fine as fucking I

1586
01:04:19,040 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 2: love that shit, you know what I'm saying. But either

1587
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 2: way it goes. I give that energy to all my friends, evenly.

1588
01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 2: I don't care if you are ten or a one.

1589
01:04:26,640 --> 01:04:28,960
Speaker 2: I'm hyping you up because that's just my personality on

1590
01:04:29,040 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 2: how I am. But like I said, I think I've

1591
01:04:31,880 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 2: been in that situation before. I had a friend that

1592
01:04:34,480 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 2: she was just like it's like after I got my

1593
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:39,120
Speaker 2: body done, our relationship just fucking changed, you know what

1594
01:04:39,160 --> 01:04:42,080
Speaker 2: I'm saying. So I feel like that didn't make me

1595
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 2: doubt who I was, and I understand you. Of course,

1596
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:47,240
Speaker 2: everybody wants to be complimented by their friend. Like cause

1597
01:04:47,240 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 2: guess what if I get a compliment from a stranger

1598
01:04:49,320 --> 01:04:51,920
Speaker 2: or I get a compliment from Drea, I'd rather hear

1599
01:04:51,960 --> 01:04:54,720
Speaker 2: from Drea because like she sees me every day, so bitch,

1600
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:56,760
Speaker 2: and Drea gives me a compliment, I know, I'm like, Okay, bitch,

1601
01:04:56,800 --> 01:04:58,600
Speaker 2: I did something right today because Dreda said, the bitch

1602
01:04:58,640 --> 01:04:59,120
Speaker 2: look good.

1603
01:04:59,440 --> 01:05:01,920
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So agree.

1604
01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:04,160
Speaker 3: I definitely believe in complimenting your friends.

1605
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:07,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely so in the end of day pictures with

1606
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:11,600
Speaker 4: hard eyes and yeah like that. I think calls they

1607
01:05:11,720 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 4: be friends with people and they don't never compliment them.

1608
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 4: I think that shit is mad weird. I think it's

1609
01:05:17,400 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 4: so fucking weird. Yeah, Like It's so strange because me

1610
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 4: and all my friends, for the most part, comments under

1611
01:05:23,760 --> 01:05:27,560
Speaker 4: each other comments, we always reposting each other pictures, always

1612
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:29,400
Speaker 4: always retweeting.

1613
01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 1: Each other pictures.

1614
01:05:30,360 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 3: I just think that shit is really really weird.

1615
01:05:32,080 --> 01:05:34,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, And like I have friends like that, and it

1616
01:05:34,280 --> 01:05:37,440
Speaker 4: makes me feel uncomfortable. Like situations that I've been in

1617
01:05:37,480 --> 01:05:39,280
Speaker 4: where I've had friends like that who don't like to

1618
01:05:39,320 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 4: compliment you and stuff. It's not so much me being

1619
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:44,040
Speaker 4: vain is why I didn't want to be friends with

1620
01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:45,919
Speaker 4: them anymore. But it just makes me feel weird because

1621
01:05:45,920 --> 01:05:49,760
Speaker 4: it's like, bitchr we friends? Why? Yeah, Like, what the

1622
01:05:49,760 --> 01:05:51,760
Speaker 4: fuck is wrong with you complimenting me and telling me

1623
01:05:51,800 --> 01:05:52,439
Speaker 4: all look good?

1624
01:05:52,640 --> 01:05:52,840
Speaker 1: Right?

1625
01:05:52,880 --> 01:05:55,600
Speaker 2: And so for you, I'll say, see, that's what I'm saying.

1626
01:05:55,640 --> 01:05:58,720
Speaker 2: I feel like for you, don't make that. Don't put

1627
01:05:58,760 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 2: it on yourself and make yourself feel bad. So just

1628
01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:03,400
Speaker 2: look at it like this, Like I said, if I

1629
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:05,480
Speaker 2: walk in and nobody us me compliments or and I

1630
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:08,280
Speaker 2: feel like somebody else walks in everybody giving them compliments,

1631
01:06:08,520 --> 01:06:10,439
Speaker 2: I don't take that ship to heart, like I said,

1632
01:06:10,440 --> 01:06:12,120
Speaker 2: I just add in and give them that compliments because

1633
01:06:12,120 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 2: maybe they need it more than you do. You know

1634
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:15,800
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, like, you're a confident person. You know

1635
01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:17,600
Speaker 2: how you look, you feel good than yourself and that's

1636
01:06:17,640 --> 01:06:18,400
Speaker 2: all that matters.

1637
01:06:18,720 --> 01:06:23,160
Speaker 1: So so yeah, don't worry about it girl, your girl.

1638
01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 3: Let that shit fly.

1639
01:06:24,120 --> 01:06:27,880
Speaker 1: Stop being friends with nobody.

1640
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 3: Body had posted something on Instagram one day.

1641
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:33,080
Speaker 4: They had read posted one of our epistoles and they

1642
01:06:33,160 --> 01:06:36,760
Speaker 4: was like, dre uh drea solution to every cut them

1643
01:06:36,800 --> 01:06:40,280
Speaker 4: off off, time off what they hate?

1644
01:06:40,640 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 2: I fucking did okay, last Okay, it's his ex crazy

1645
01:06:43,800 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 2: or am I?

1646
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:47,920
Speaker 3: Hey, ladies, it's Kyla this guy.

1647
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:51,200
Speaker 2: Wait wait before you start, Thank you Kyla for keeping

1648
01:06:51,240 --> 01:06:54,480
Speaker 2: it a paragraph.

1649
01:06:54,960 --> 01:06:59,120
Speaker 4: This is how we want the message know if y'all

1650
01:06:59,120 --> 01:07:01,000
Speaker 4: can see this, but this is this is how short.

1651
01:07:01,080 --> 01:07:04,040
Speaker 3: We would like for the messages to be very brief

1652
01:07:04,080 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 3: and to the point.

1653
01:07:04,840 --> 01:07:06,760
Speaker 1: Yes, for the people watching on YouTube, y'all.

1654
01:07:06,600 --> 01:07:09,400
Speaker 4: Say, this guy and I have been on and off

1655
01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:11,760
Speaker 4: for four years, mostly because I was in school and

1656
01:07:11,800 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 4: I also ended up ghosting him. Don't judge me, but

1657
01:07:15,280 --> 01:07:17,680
Speaker 4: within the last year we've been communicating. But he ended

1658
01:07:17,760 --> 01:07:20,040
Speaker 4: up telling me he was in a relationship. That was

1659
01:07:20,080 --> 01:07:22,360
Speaker 4: cool and we continue to talk, but then they ended

1660
01:07:22,440 --> 01:07:25,640
Speaker 4: up breaking up for reasons I'm unsure about now. The

1661
01:07:25,680 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 4: last five months or so, we've been focusing on building

1662
01:07:28,480 --> 01:07:30,480
Speaker 4: building our relationship so that.

1663
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:31,800
Speaker 3: We can one day make this work.

1664
01:07:32,360 --> 01:07:35,840
Speaker 4: But his ex randomly texted him and basically accused him

1665
01:07:35,880 --> 01:07:38,560
Speaker 4: of exploiting her for sex abuse and even revealed that

1666
01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 4: she got an abortion. He says the exploitation and abuse

1667
01:07:42,480 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 4: is completely false, but this abortion is news to him.

1668
01:07:45,960 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 4: Should I be concerned or just consider her the crazy eggs?

1669
01:07:49,400 --> 01:07:51,919
Speaker 4: I don't want to discredit her, but I honestly don't

1670
01:07:51,920 --> 01:07:52,480
Speaker 4: believe her.

1671
01:07:52,720 --> 01:07:54,439
Speaker 1: Would I be crazy for staying with him?

1672
01:07:54,760 --> 01:07:57,360
Speaker 2: Love you bout that's crazy because we were just talking

1673
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:58,200
Speaker 2: about crazy ex.

1674
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 1: So this is what I say about things like that.

1675
01:08:02,360 --> 01:08:05,720
Speaker 2: That's tough because the abuse allegations is a lot, and

1676
01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:08,240
Speaker 2: I've been in a similar situation where I was dating

1677
01:08:08,280 --> 01:08:11,000
Speaker 2: somebody who was accused of, you know, being abusive to

1678
01:08:11,040 --> 01:08:14,000
Speaker 2: his ex girlfriend or things like that, And of course

1679
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:16,400
Speaker 2: you don't want to brush somebody off, but I think

1680
01:08:16,400 --> 01:08:18,720
Speaker 2: it's just personally what you want to do and how

1681
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:22,000
Speaker 2: you feel about him. Not saying that he's a great person,

1682
01:08:22,080 --> 01:08:24,120
Speaker 2: that that's okay that he did that. That's not what

1683
01:08:24,160 --> 01:08:29,840
Speaker 2: I'm saying. But I do believe, you know. Unfortunately, like

1684
01:08:29,920 --> 01:08:32,679
Speaker 2: you know, people don't treat people the same. So it's

1685
01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:36,400
Speaker 2: just like a lot of times men will cheat on

1686
01:08:36,439 --> 01:08:38,240
Speaker 2: this girl and treat her like trash, and then he

1687
01:08:38,320 --> 01:08:40,479
Speaker 2: might treat you like a queen. So I think it's

1688
01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:42,760
Speaker 2: all about you need to just kind of this kind

1689
01:08:42,760 --> 01:08:45,799
Speaker 2: of sounds selfish, but focus on yourself and how y'all's

1690
01:08:45,800 --> 01:08:48,640
Speaker 2: relationship and how he's making you happy. Not saying that

1691
01:08:48,640 --> 01:08:50,160
Speaker 2: she's lying, but you definitely need to keep an eye

1692
01:08:50,160 --> 01:08:51,960
Speaker 2: out for him because if he's known for abuse, now,

1693
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 2: just because he hasn't done it yet and you've been dealing.

1694
01:08:55,120 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 1: With him for four years don't mean he won't.

1695
01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:59,160
Speaker 2: So it's definitely you have to kind of weigh the

1696
01:08:59,160 --> 01:09:01,599
Speaker 2: pros and cons if it's worth it. Does he show

1697
01:09:01,640 --> 01:09:04,360
Speaker 2: you signs of being abusive, because that's something like that's

1698
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:07,559
Speaker 2: a very serious allegation, like and that's not something that

1699
01:09:07,600 --> 01:09:09,519
Speaker 2: you can just sweep under the rug and forget about.

1700
01:09:09,560 --> 01:09:12,360
Speaker 2: Like to me, when somebody shows you a little bit

1701
01:09:12,360 --> 01:09:14,519
Speaker 2: of something and you've heard something about it, that's something

1702
01:09:14,520 --> 01:09:17,040
Speaker 2: that you need to take notes about. So I feel

1703
01:09:17,080 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 2: like you just need to evaluate how he makes you feeling,

1704
01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:22,960
Speaker 2: what y'all's relationship is and definitely keep that in the

1705
01:09:22,960 --> 01:09:24,679
Speaker 2: back of your mind, you know, the things that she's

1706
01:09:24,680 --> 01:09:27,400
Speaker 2: going through. I don't like to dismiss people as the

1707
01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 2: crazy ex especially when it comes to shit like that,

1708
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:31,960
Speaker 2: cause these niggas be lying so and they always want

1709
01:09:32,000 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 2: to make it seem like a crazy X when it's

1710
01:09:33,439 --> 01:09:37,200
Speaker 2: something to make them look bad. So until you see

1711
01:09:37,240 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 2: anything different out of him, you know, I would just

1712
01:09:39,080 --> 01:09:39,719
Speaker 2: be cautious.

1713
01:09:40,160 --> 01:09:40,559
Speaker 1: I agree.

1714
01:09:40,640 --> 01:09:43,160
Speaker 4: I don't necessarily think you should cut him off. See

1715
01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:44,360
Speaker 4: I don't always.

1716
01:09:44,280 --> 01:09:45,280
Speaker 1: Cut him off. I'm dead.

1717
01:09:45,800 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 4: I don't necessarily think you should cut him off, but

1718
01:09:48,200 --> 01:09:51,759
Speaker 4: definitely watch his egg and keep an eye out, because

1719
01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:55,679
Speaker 4: you know, God, for me, something crazy end up happening

1720
01:09:55,680 --> 01:09:58,280
Speaker 4: to you. But he's just kind of like, you know

1721
01:09:58,360 --> 01:10:00,559
Speaker 4: what I mean, somebody did say that that it happened

1722
01:10:00,560 --> 01:10:01,240
Speaker 4: to them, you know what I mean.

1723
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:03,680
Speaker 3: You can't just be out here believing these niggas, cause niggas.

1724
01:10:03,400 --> 01:10:08,000
Speaker 2: Will be like and like Lex said, people show people

1725
01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:11,559
Speaker 2: different versions of themself all the time. But one thing

1726
01:10:11,680 --> 01:10:13,880
Speaker 2: is for sure, you can all you can only show

1727
01:10:13,920 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 2: somebody a version of yourself that you're not for so long,

1728
01:10:16,880 --> 01:10:19,759
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Eventually the real you gonna

1729
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:23,000
Speaker 2: end up coming out, and you know, hopefully, let's just

1730
01:10:24,280 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 2: pray that maybe she is just crazy and maybe she's

1731
01:10:28,240 --> 01:10:31,840
Speaker 2: just better. But I wouldn't just completely dismissy, you know

1732
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:34,840
Speaker 2: what I mean, because that's some serious allegations. I feel

1733
01:10:34,840 --> 01:10:37,960
Speaker 2: like whenever women say that somebody abuse them and stuff

1734
01:10:38,000 --> 01:10:41,080
Speaker 2: like that, that's something not to be taken lightly when

1735
01:10:41,120 --> 01:10:43,200
Speaker 2: you dating somebody, even if they haven't did it to you.

1736
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Speaker 2: Cause you know, I have been in situations too where

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Speaker 2: it's like niggas ain't never did.

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Speaker 3: I ain't never got hit by a nigga before ever,

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Speaker 3: you know, thank god.

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Speaker 4: But I've definitely daddy some people that people have said

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01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 4: they have hit them. So you know, you just never know,

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01:10:56,400 --> 01:10:57,599
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Like I said, people show

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01:10:57,640 --> 01:10:58,879
Speaker 4: you different versions of theirself.

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Speaker 2: So so yeah, like I said, I'll just watch out

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01:11:02,520 --> 01:11:04,360
Speaker 2: for that because anytime I hear something about that that

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01:11:04,400 --> 01:11:06,920
Speaker 2: makes me uncomfortable, and I'll be having conversations with the niggas,

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01:11:06,960 --> 01:11:09,840
Speaker 2: like if I hear that you abuse somebody, I'll be like, well,

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01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:11,920
Speaker 2: what's up with this? Because I want to know, like

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Speaker 2: what happened. And it's like if I feel like something

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01:11:14,520 --> 01:11:17,479
Speaker 2: fish is going on. I've never had to, you know,

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01:11:17,600 --> 01:11:20,040
Speaker 2: ask the girl, But if it came down to that,

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01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:23,679
Speaker 2: I absolutely would, because I believe I'm in the business. Yeah,

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01:11:23,720 --> 01:11:25,280
Speaker 2: like if it came down to it, like if I

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01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:27,000
Speaker 2: felt like he was lying, because I'm in the business.

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01:11:27,000 --> 01:11:29,439
Speaker 2: I believe women until you show me otherwise, you know,

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01:11:29,479 --> 01:11:31,800
Speaker 2: like if somebody tells me something, that's just.

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Speaker 3: That's what I gave you because we just be lying.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I said, we're gonna pray that this girls

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01:11:37,840 --> 01:11:40,559
Speaker 4: in this situation, the girl it's not bitter and just

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01:11:41,280 --> 01:11:44,400
Speaker 4: because he's moving on because that happens to les.

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Speaker 1: No, I do.

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Speaker 2: But but you have to realize when it comes down

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01:11:47,439 --> 01:11:50,599
Speaker 2: to it, I'm telling you. But when it comes down

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01:11:50,640 --> 01:11:53,679
Speaker 2: to it, though, the margin of how many people lie

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01:11:53,760 --> 01:11:56,960
Speaker 2: versus people telling the truth is very fucking wide. Now,

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01:11:57,000 --> 01:11:59,439
Speaker 2: we hear these stories that like, you know, oh, somebody

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01:11:59,560 --> 01:12:01,879
Speaker 2: about the seeing people who have went to jail and stuff.

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01:12:01,920 --> 01:12:06,760
Speaker 2: But guess what, Guess what if there guess what, it

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01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:12,000
Speaker 2: does matter because out of one hundred people, it'll probably

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Speaker 2: be one person that's lying.

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Speaker 1: Though. That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Yes it is, you can google it. It's literally facts

1773
01:12:18,000 --> 01:12:20,760
Speaker 2: like this is facts you can google. That's what I'm saying. Men,

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01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:24,120
Speaker 2: Like a lot of times women are not lying, and

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01:12:24,120 --> 01:12:26,280
Speaker 2: that's why we be in these situations a lot because

1776
01:12:26,280 --> 01:12:28,360
Speaker 2: people be like, oh, well, I don't believe it. That's

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01:12:28,360 --> 01:12:30,759
Speaker 2: why the whole me to woman has started, because nobody

1778
01:12:30,760 --> 01:12:34,439
Speaker 2: believes women when they speak up. Nobody does, and everybody

1779
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:37,160
Speaker 2: wants to say, oh, will women be lying? Yeah, sometimes

1780
01:12:37,160 --> 01:12:39,599
Speaker 2: it does happen, but it's not happening like y'all think

1781
01:12:39,640 --> 01:12:39,960
Speaker 2: it is.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I I legit know somebody who got lied on.

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, but

1784
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:50,280
Speaker 2: versus the versus the actual cases that it is happening,

1785
01:12:50,680 --> 01:12:53,960
Speaker 2: the margin is very, very very very.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Women, I'm just saying, you know, I was just throwing

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01:12:59,520 --> 01:13:02,760
Speaker 4: it out there. Women do be lying sometimes too, of course. Yeah,

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01:13:02,880 --> 01:13:04,479
Speaker 4: man and women both be lying.

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Speaker 3: But I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Child. Yeah, I would just say, just watch your back,

1792
01:13:08,600 --> 01:13:11,400
Speaker 2: just watch your bags, because you know, be safe.

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01:13:11,439 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 3: Get you a gun.

1794
01:13:12,439 --> 01:13:16,679
Speaker 2: I'm dead, Get you a gun, nigga.

1795
01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:17,520
Speaker 1: If he try.

1796
01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:25,000
Speaker 2: You murder, ain't telling me about it.

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01:13:25,040 --> 01:13:26,840
Speaker 1: I ain't got nothing's gonna say. It's gonna get on

1798
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:29,640
Speaker 1: the stands saying what Drea said on Poor Minds. And

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01:13:29,720 --> 01:13:31,160
Speaker 1: it's fine because I wasn't there.

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Speaker 4: I didn't know nothing nobody, so it's not like I

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01:13:33,360 --> 01:13:36,760
Speaker 4: was a part of the murder. But yeah, I don't

1802
01:13:36,760 --> 01:13:39,160
Speaker 4: come down violence, but definitely still get you a gun

1803
01:13:39,160 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 4: because you.

1804
01:13:39,439 --> 01:13:42,559
Speaker 3: Could scare a nigga, not with the two.

1805
01:13:45,520 --> 01:13:49,200
Speaker 1: Out hot on the stove grits.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So yeah, make sure y'all email us if you

1807
01:13:51,040 --> 01:13:53,960
Speaker 2: want your question answered on the show. Ask Poor Minds

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01:13:57,320 --> 01:14:00,560
Speaker 2: Drea's dropping a Patreon episode this Friday or Saturday. I

1810
01:14:00,600 --> 01:14:01,960
Speaker 2: don't know which day is supposed to be.

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01:14:02,000 --> 01:14:03,880
Speaker 1: Friday. Oh, so she's gonna drop it on Friday.

1812
01:14:03,920 --> 01:14:05,919
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Speaker 2: please sign up for the Patreon. You get bonus weekly content.

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Speaker 2: When available. We try to drop the videos, but you

1816
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:16,320
Speaker 2: know it'd be kind of hard, y'all. We got a

1817
01:14:16,320 --> 01:14:17,720
Speaker 2: lot shit going on, but we be doing it. We

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01:14:17,880 --> 01:14:20,599
Speaker 2: be dropping content for y'all every week. I did an

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Speaker 2: interview with my ex. I told a story about when

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Speaker 2: I was stripping dreaded truth or drink with killing. So

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Speaker 2: if you sign up right now, you will get access

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Speaker 2: bonus content for y'all every week, every week, and it's

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Speaker 2: more personal. I feel like y'all will really get a

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Speaker 2: nice like.

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Speaker 3: We definitely talk about things that we don't talk.

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Speaker 1: About on the show, yeah show, and then.

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01:14:40,720 --> 01:14:43,320
Speaker 3: Definitely have people on there that we would never have.

1829
01:14:43,400 --> 01:14:45,760
Speaker 2: On the show, right, and then we're definitely gonna do

1830
01:14:45,800 --> 01:14:47,960
Speaker 2: the live zoom call very like in the next two

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Speaker 2: three weeks. So if y'all want to do the live

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Speaker 2: zoom call with us, and make sure you sign up

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Speaker 2: for the Patreon now, just to let y'all know.

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Speaker 1: For the first level, the three dollars level is just.

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Speaker 2: Like a donation, so you know you won't be included

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Speaker 2: on the way live Zoom call and you don't get

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Speaker 2: the content and all that, but you can sign up

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Speaker 2: for the other tears and you're gonna get all.

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Speaker 3: The tea period.

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Speaker 2: Cool. All right, Thank y'all so much for tuning in.

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01:15:10,400 --> 01:15:13,000
Speaker 2: I like today's episode. They got spicy and good.

1842
01:15:14,240 --> 01:15:15,519
Speaker 3: I ain't having no heat with you.

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01:15:16,040 --> 01:15:20,519
Speaker 2: You have to get me together, Todasis. Thank y'all so

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01:15:20,640 --> 01:15:22,599
Speaker 2: much for tuning in. We'll see y'all next week. Bye

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Speaker 2: yea bye,