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Speaker 1: I can't imagine my dad dating one of my exesos.

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Speaker 2: Both of us.

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Speaker 1: After the divorce, he tried to stay in touch with me,

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Speaker 2: In himself to escape from her abuse.

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Speaker 1: She was able to get a protective order in place

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Speaker 1: the not mom egg donor was like, I'm not paying

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Speaker 1: As soon as I graduated from college when I was

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Speaker 3: Woo.

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Speaker 1: My dad and I have a standing dinner date for

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Speaker 1: And when my dad introduces her to me, he introduces

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Speaker 3: Go to the extra first.

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Speaker 2: You probably have her number.

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Speaker 3: Not telling the daughter is one thing, but not telling

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Speaker 1: Just to clarify again that my dad is not my

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Speaker 1: Some of you asked me why I haven't told him

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Speaker 2: John, what the hell do you think what's going on here?

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Speaker 3: Ahle or not? I think you know? Op not the

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Speaker 3: This is probably one of the craziest stories you've ever heard.

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Speaker 1: I'm Samuel Donner and I'm not and we tell the

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