1 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: Hey fam, Hello Sunshine. Today on the bright Side, we're 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:11,559 Speaker 1: joined by the cool mom herself, Lizzie Mathis. From hosting 3 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: to decor to delicious dishes. Lizzie is here to give 4 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:19,120 Speaker 1: us the recipe on how to host the most memorable gathering. 5 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:22,720 Speaker 1: It's Monday, December second. I'm Danielle Robe. 6 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 2: And I'm Simone Voice, and this is the bright Side 7 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 2: from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together 8 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 2: to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day. 9 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 2: On my Mind Monday is brought to you by Missus 10 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 2: Meyers Clean Day inspired by the goodness of the garden 11 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 2: see money. How is Thanksgiving? Oh delicious as usual. My 12 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 2: mom always throws down. It's one of my favorite days 13 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 2: of the year. How about you wait, your mom does everything. Yeah, 14 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 2: my mom does this holiday. I do Christmas. That's how 15 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: we say, oh that is so nice. 16 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: And you said you learned how to host from your mom, 17 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: So I'm assuming the decor is on a ten. 18 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, the decor, but it's really about the food. The 19 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 2: food takes center stage here. So she's got, you know, 20 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 2: her classic dishes that she does. She does a corn souflet, 21 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 2: a sweet potato cast role. Yeah, my dad does the 22 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 2: cranberry sauce. I also I do help out a little bit. 23 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 2: I brought some collared greens and datecake for dessert. 24 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: Okay, I have to tell you how ridiculous my Thanksgiving 25 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: is every year. 26 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 2: Tell me so. 27 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,839 Speaker 1: My grandmother, who is now eighty eight, almost eighty nine, 28 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: lives in Florida, and so my whole life, we would 29 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: fly to Florida because all of the older relatives live 30 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: there and now she's like the oldest one left living, 31 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: and so she loves to cook and she still does 32 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:38,759 Speaker 1: all the holidays. 33 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 2: She won't let us take over. Wow. 34 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's really bossy, and my mom fights with her, 35 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 1: like she wants to help, she won't let us. So 36 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 1: my grandmother likes a specific turkey. So what she does 37 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: is she goes to her deli in Chicago, gets the turkey, 38 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: wraps it up, not even shrink wrap, but just like. 39 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 2: Like plastic wrap. 40 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:09,800 Speaker 1: Okay, puts it in a suitcase, flies to Florida, and 41 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: then freezes it. 42 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 2: And then like you know, a month later or two. 43 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:17,920 Speaker 1: Weeks later, unfreezes the turkey and that's the one that 44 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: we have to eat. 45 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 2: Dang, it must be a good turkey. It's not it's 46 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 2: such a regular turkey. 47 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: And each year my dad and I are across the 48 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: table from each other like forks almost touching our mouths, 49 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 1: thinking about how this was airlifted and like who touched 50 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: this turkey? 51 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,239 Speaker 2: And what's souls? 52 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,839 Speaker 1: It is so ridiculous, but you know, the conversation makes 53 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: up for the lack of fresh turkey. I would say, Okay, 54 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: well enough Thanksgiving, Chad. It is Monday, which means it 55 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: is on my mind Monday. And you know, once we 56 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,920 Speaker 1: hit Thanksgiving, I always think about New Year's Are you 57 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: like that too? 58 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, totally. I'm already in Q one Q twenty 59 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 2: twenty five. 60 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: Okay, so do you do New Year's planning? 61 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 2: Yeah? For sure? What's your process? I usually start with 62 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 2: a word or an intention that I want the entire 63 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,640 Speaker 2: year to be filtered through, and then it's really just 64 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: about logistics, you know, like mapping out trips, any goals 65 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 2: that I might have. Yeah, how about you? What does 66 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 2: your process look like? So? I used to have no 67 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 2: process at all. 68 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 1: I would just like be on a beach and be 69 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 1: happy and ring in the new year with joy. And 70 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 1: then I actually had a friend teach me their process 71 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: and I've been hooked. So for the last three years, 72 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: I do a major New Year's exercise, and I actually 73 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: put a worksheet together this year because I had some 74 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: other friends ask me about it. So that's available to 75 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: download on my Instagram if anybody wants it for free. 76 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: But as we walk into the new year, what I've 77 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: realized is everybody's looking for answers. Answers to optimizing their health, 78 00:03:55,040 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: answers to pouring into relationships, answers to reconnecting with people, 79 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: like the list goes on, but those answers really are 80 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: not available to us if we're not asking the right questions. 81 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: And so as I was reflecting on my year and 82 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: thinking about future planning for twenty twenty five, I came 83 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: across an article by Arthur C. Brooks called Three Ways 84 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: to become a Deeper Thinker, and it's all about slowing 85 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: down and taking on the big questions that we often avoid. 86 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:26,600 Speaker 1: And I found it so inspiring because I realized as 87 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: I was planning, I was actually avoiding some of these questions, 88 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: and so the article really made me pause and reflect. 89 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: So I thought we could kind of explore it together 90 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 1: and have a little perspective shift as we head into 91 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 1: the new year. 92 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 2: What does Arthur say about becoming a deeper thinker? 93 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 1: So it's basically split into four parts, and bear with 94 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,239 Speaker 1: me because this is going to feel like big phrases 95 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:48,839 Speaker 1: are big words, but we're going to go through them. 96 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 1: So the first is the value of unanswerable questions, the 97 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: second is avoiding discomfort, the third is techniques for deep thinking, 98 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: and the fourth is the impact of existential exploration. So 99 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: he begins with a question that I'm going to ask you, 100 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 1: what is the sound of one hand clapping? 101 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 2: You can't You can't clap your hands without two hands. 102 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 2: I didn't even think about that. That's a great point. 103 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 2: Is it's more like a snap? Yeah, exactly. 104 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: Okay, So the whole point of this question is that 105 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:27,160 Speaker 1: it's called a coon which is basically a riddle created 106 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: by an eighteenth century Buddhist master, and the paradoxes are 107 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: meant to help monks meditate and debate. But here's the twist. 108 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: The goal is to not find a neat answer. The 109 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 1: goal is to really find enlightenment through the process itself. 110 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 2: So it's about the struggle to work through the riddle. 111 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 2: Love that. Yeah, have you. 112 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: Ever seen those videos of Malcolm Gladwell and Adam Grant 113 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 1: debating on stage. 114 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 2: No I haven't what happens. It's unbelievable. 115 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: They never get to an answer because they debate these 116 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: huge unsolved questions like why am I alive? Or how 117 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: should I spend my life? Why do I love my partner? 118 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:10,479 Speaker 1: And all these questions have completely unsolvable answers, and even 119 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: saying I don't know can lead to deeper contemplation and 120 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: self discovery. But the whole point is that you're exploring 121 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: and conversing and learning through the debate, Like, it's never 122 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: about the answer. 123 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 2: M Yeah, it's about the journey. It's about the process. Yeah, 124 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 2: it's exactly. It's about the process. 125 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:32,679 Speaker 1: So the other three topics that Arthur goes through really 126 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: amount to similar ideas, which is debate, disagreement, and conversation 127 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: leads to a more spiritually and intellectually enriching life. Arthur 128 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: actually says that spending time on big questions is correlated 129 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: with greater spiritual intelligence, curiosity, and a sense of meaning. 130 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 1: And many people avoid contemplating big questions because they can 131 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 1: be uncomfortable, you know, just like exercise can be an 132 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: uncomfortable physical strain. This can be uncomfortable, but he says 133 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:08,359 Speaker 1: it's necessary for growth. And so the sort of bow 134 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: that I want to tie on all of this is 135 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: that I've heard so many people, particularly after the election 136 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: going into the holidays, talk about not wanting to be 137 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: at a dinner table with their friends and family and 138 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: they just want to set a hard boundary. And I 139 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: just feel like that is cutting off disagreement. It's cutting 140 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 1: off great conversation and exploration and process, as you said, 141 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: and so I'm wondering if we just switch up the 142 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: conversations we're having and lean in so we can ask 143 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: different questions. I've made it a point to like ask 144 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 1: questions to my older relatives about really personal things, like 145 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: in hindsight, would they have married somebody else? Or what 146 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: would have been important to them? Or what was the 147 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: hardest job that they've ever had. I even asked silly 148 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: things like what was their favorite car that they own owned. 149 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: I think sometimes we forget to ask the people close 150 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 1: to us these big questions because we have sort of 151 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: these mundane conversations like how are you catching up? And 152 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: like to get specific and ask these questions, I think 153 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: we'll make for really great dinner table comvo. 154 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so true. It's really easy to just get 155 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 2: kind of comfortable in surface level conversation with the loved 156 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 2: ones that we see all the time. You know, I 157 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: do think the environment matters whenever you're trying to create 158 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 2: a setting that is right for deep conversation like this. 159 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 2: And our guest today knows a thing or two about 160 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 2: setting the vibes and creating good vibes in the environment 161 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 2: because Lizzie Mathis is the co host and executive producer 162 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 2: of the home improvement series Honest Renovations, which she hosts 163 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 2: alongside Jessica Alba on Roku. She also hosted Dinner Party People, 164 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 2: which is the show that followed Lizzie as she helped 165 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 2: people bring their dream dinner parties to life. 166 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:57,559 Speaker 1: So, in addition to hosting incredible gatherings, Lizzie is also 167 00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: the founder and editor in chief of the Cool mod 168 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: Co and the host of the Cool mom Code podcast. 169 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 2: Basically, Lizzie makes everything cool. 170 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,440 Speaker 1: She is just the most fun person to be around 171 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: and has incredible perspective on hosting and offers really simple 172 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: yet effective ways to take your party from HOHM to 173 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 1: home run. Yes I said that, and I mean it. 174 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,559 Speaker 1: She's just the best. So stick around because after the 175 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: short break, Lizzie is joining us with her recipe for 176 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: how to curate a memorable gathering. 177 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 2: Thanks to our partners at missus Myers. When it comes 178 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,840 Speaker 2: to cleaning, it's more fun if it smells like the garden. 179 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 2: Missus Meyers's collection of household products smells great and packs 180 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 2: a punch against dirt and grime. Visit missus Myers dot com. 181 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 2: Lizzie math is welcome to the bright Side. Oh, thank 182 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 2: you for having me. We're so happy to have you. 183 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 3: Look, I'm looking at two very bright, shiny faces today. 184 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: I was going to say the same thing about you, 185 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: and it's not every day that we get to have 186 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 1: a friend on the Yeah. 187 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 2: That's sweet. 188 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 3: I love you guys. I'm so proud of you. I'm 189 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 3: really happy that you guys are doing this and bringing sunshine. 190 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,680 Speaker 2: To people on a daily basis. This is really cool. 191 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 2: Thank you. 192 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:17,960 Speaker 1: Well, we owe you a big congrats because we heard 193 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: that you're getting renewed for season three of Honest Renovations. 194 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 3: That's amazing. Congratulations on that show. Well, you know, you 195 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 3: know how you have like some of those quiet days. Yeah, 196 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 3: I don't have those on the show. 197 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 2: You don't have those in general? 198 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 1: I do. 199 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 2: I do. 200 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:37,440 Speaker 3: Actually, if you talk to my husband, I have very 201 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 3: quiet days. See thinks that at home, like I'm just 202 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:42,680 Speaker 3: the most silent person ever. But out and about, like 203 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 3: when I'm around like energy, like you know, the show 204 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 3: I do brings something out of me and I just 205 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 3: have a good time. Season two is out. Our holiday 206 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 3: episode dropped a couple weeks ago. 207 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,240 Speaker 1: One quick question about the holiday episode. Yeah, because you 208 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: guys have done so many seasons of Reno's, what's the 209 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: difference between a RENO and a holiday run innovation. 210 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 3: Well, the holiday episode were geared a lot towards the holidays. Obviously, 211 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 3: this specific holiday family was just really special because they 212 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 3: had seven kids, all of them brilliant like either musically 213 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 3: or in science and the arts and mathematics, and three 214 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 3: were away at college and so four in the house 215 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 3: and they love the holidays. But within their home they 216 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 3: would have like sixty people over something like wild right 217 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 3: six zero six zero, and their space was like moderately spaced. 218 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 3: And so our goal was to come in to try 219 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 3: and figure out how do we won bring this family 220 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 3: for their day to day lives. How do we make 221 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 3: their house work more for them and for the kids 222 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 3: that come back sometimes for the summer or come back 223 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 3: in and out from college. But then also the four 224 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 3: that are there all the time and going through their 225 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:53,679 Speaker 3: daily lives with mom and dad. How do we make 226 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 3: mom and dad feel super special? How do we make 227 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 3: their breakfast, to their dinner, to their holiday party all 228 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 3: feel great and fit in this space? And so that's 229 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 3: what makes it such a special holiday episode. 230 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: Okay, Simone, I have a question for you. When you 231 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:11,559 Speaker 1: first saw Lizzie and her husband Lisa together, did you think, 232 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:15,560 Speaker 1: how are two like, how are two beautiful people in 233 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,680 Speaker 1: this relationship creating three beautiful children? 234 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:21,319 Speaker 2: They're like, it's a model family. Oh yeah, oh yeah, 235 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 2: the jeans are off the charts in this family. But 236 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,599 Speaker 2: I will say no, I was not surprised because I 237 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 2: knew that they were both models. So when you know that, 238 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 2: that makes a lot of. 239 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 1: Sense's models entrepreneurs. Yes, lots of titles and. 240 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 3: The titles, all the titles, but you know, at the 241 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 3: heart of it, to be honest with you, when I 242 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 3: met Lisa, I was just so lucky to meet someone 243 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 3: whose values literally coincided with mine almost every point and 244 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 3: that's what we've built a foundation on. 245 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 2: To be honest with you, it. 246 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 3: Just happens to me that he looks good in the making, Like, 247 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:53,439 Speaker 3: that's that's all. 248 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 2: My dress is so cool? Oh yead please, that's all 249 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 2: me girl bad. 250 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: Okay, So you and your husband moved from New York. 251 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: You're originally from Michigan, but you moved from New York 252 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: to LA and you have three kids, you have a 253 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: new home. Like you guys are kind of starting over 254 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: in some ways, but you're creating these new holiday traditions, 255 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: and I'm curious how you're spending your Christmas. 256 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 2: Not really started over. 257 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:19,640 Speaker 3: We've easa and I've been together for almost what twenty years? 258 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 3: This is what I will say. This is what I 259 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 3: will say. No matter where you are, whether you're in 260 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 3: a new home, whether in your new space, a new city, 261 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 3: no matter where you are, the beautiful thing about traditions 262 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,320 Speaker 3: is that they follow you. That that's what makes you 263 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 3: feel like any place you are is home. So a 264 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 3: lot of times we'll go back and we'll spend like 265 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 3: if we get two weeks off for the holidays, the 266 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 3: kids off school and things, that we'll spend a week 267 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 3: in New York because New York does feel so much 268 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:50,439 Speaker 3: like home for us, and we will do a lot 269 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 3: of like holiday traditions there, but even if we're in 270 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:55,480 Speaker 3: LA it doesn't matter. But one of the things I 271 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 3: think is interesting is just me and Lisa bringing our 272 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:02,120 Speaker 3: traditions together and now doing it with kids. Right now, 273 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 3: with kids, it feels so much more rich and so 274 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 3: much more festive, and everything through their eyes is so exciting, 275 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:14,720 Speaker 3: and holidays have become not have become I've been a 276 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 3: mom for like twelve years ago by. 277 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 2: But holidays are just they're fun. 278 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: And you're spending Christmas with your co host, Jessica albos Yere. 279 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 3: So Jess and I we've spent Christmas together for like 280 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 3: the last like four years or something crazy like that. 281 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 3: It started obviously because jess and I were so close 282 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 3: and our families are close, and so she has a 283 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 3: huge family and I have a very small family. 284 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 2: So I just. 285 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 3: Always loved being around all this love and people and 286 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 3: energy and they turn it out. There's like different Christmas 287 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 3: trees all over the place. There's like black Sanna's and 288 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 3: brown Santa's everywhere. I remember first time I walked in, 289 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 3: I said, is what's up of all these brown santas. 290 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:54,840 Speaker 2: She said, well, how else do you see me? Like, 291 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 2: how else do you want it to be? 292 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: Like? 293 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 3: It just comes natural, and so it's always just a 294 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:03,360 Speaker 3: really fun, festive time. And then when my mom passed, 295 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 3: that was super hard because it felt like such a 296 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,920 Speaker 3: lack of family, Like she was like the nucleus on 297 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 3: a lot of those holidays. 298 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:12,960 Speaker 2: And so Jess's family was. 299 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 3: A really sweet place to be because they were so 300 00:15:15,760 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 3: rooted in family. 301 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:18,960 Speaker 1: That's really sweet that you have that. It's nice in 302 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 1: la like when you're a transplant anywhere to feel like 303 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: you have a home. 304 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 3: Yes, to feel like you have that support system and 305 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 3: that love, and like you can still experience the holidays 306 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 3: how they're meant to be experienced. 307 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 2: You you talk about your mom, and I wonder if 308 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 2: you had a similar experience to me growing up. Maybe not, 309 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 2: but I watched my mom host these really magical gatherings 310 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 2: around the holidays, and she just was known in our 311 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:45,520 Speaker 2: community as someone who made everyone feel welcome and she 312 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 2: had this warmth that immediately when you walked in the door, 313 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 2: like he felt like you were home. What did you 314 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:53,520 Speaker 2: see modeled for you in terms of how gatherings were 315 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 2: hosted in your home. 316 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:57,880 Speaker 3: Just that I mean, it is exactly that same experience. 317 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 3: My mom loved community. She was a single mom, three kids, 318 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 3: and she just wanted people to come over all the time. 319 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 3: My mom would always have a plate of food and cooking. 320 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 3: And my mom would literally be like baking chicken or 321 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 3: making fish or mac and cheese or greens or whatever. 322 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 3: And she'd call people and be like, hey, I'm cooking, 323 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 3: come through. 324 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 2: That's how we gotta play. I miss that. I missed 325 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 2: the spontaneous, like I'm gonna come. 326 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:25,120 Speaker 3: Through and. 327 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 2: Okay, Chicago, Everyone's and everybody's doors. I love that. I 328 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 2: missed that. 329 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 3: I think that's and so that's how I grew up. 330 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 3: And so the holidays felt extra special because she would 331 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 3: have an apron on instead of just her her sweater, 332 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:42,960 Speaker 3: and she would be in there and there would be 333 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:47,200 Speaker 3: garland everywhere, and you know things that remind you of Christmas, 334 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,720 Speaker 3: trees and doilees and all these things, right and so, 335 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 3: and she would bring out the fine china, right it 336 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 3: would be like these beautiful gold leafed platters and all 337 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 3: these things. It felt it felt special, and the holidays 338 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 3: felt like something that you were like meant to remember, 339 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 3: and I don't think I can piece together a negative 340 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 3: experience during the holidays. 341 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 2: That was her moment. Those were her moments to shine. 342 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: Do you try and host the way she did? Or 343 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:15,879 Speaker 1: you a different kind of host? 344 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:18,439 Speaker 2: You know, I'm a different kind of host. 345 00:17:18,600 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 3: I'm not so stuck on like the fine china and 346 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:24,800 Speaker 3: making sure that the you know, and the crystal is 347 00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 3: out and all these things. 348 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:28,800 Speaker 2: Although that's also generational too, right, creational. 349 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 3: Right, But although these things have been passed down to me, 350 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:33,439 Speaker 3: but it's hard going back then into the shed to 351 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 3: pull them out one. 352 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:36,920 Speaker 2: Time a year and all like like, don't break it. 353 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, And then I'm like looking at my six year 354 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 3: old and I'm like two hands, two hands, two hands. 355 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:42,160 Speaker 2: It's just rough. 356 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 3: So Grandma, yeah, these are great, come on now, Okay, 357 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 3: this is unreplaceable. But I think that I the core 358 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 3: of it, the excitement of having people come over and 359 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:55,959 Speaker 3: being able to feed them and show love through food 360 00:17:56,280 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 3: and community, that feels the same, feels rooted in what 361 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 3: I was raised with, right, and so that I always 362 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 3: get excited about. 363 00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:09,760 Speaker 2: It's interesting that you bring up the aesthetics versus the 364 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:12,240 Speaker 2: emotion of the gathering, and I think the emotion that 365 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 2: your guests have when they leave your home. That's the 366 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:18,960 Speaker 2: most important thing. It's not that they sip champagne out 367 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 2: of fine china or they ate off of grandma's plate. 368 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 2: I know that you think about meaning too whenever you're 369 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 2: planning a gathering. So what do you think is the 370 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 2: difference between curating just a fun spirited holiday party versus 371 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 2: a holiday gathering that truly is imbued with meaning. I 372 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:38,399 Speaker 2: think that depends on a lot. I think it depends 373 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 2: on who is at the party too, right, Like, is 374 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 2: this just a social gathering where it's just a couple 375 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 2: of friends and you have them coming over and you 376 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,719 Speaker 2: guys do an activity or is it like something that 377 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:53,240 Speaker 2: is rooted in family and like tradition and like you know. So, 378 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 2: I think that kind of just depends on your guest list. 379 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:59,000 Speaker 4: Where do you start with it? I think that you like, 380 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:01,399 Speaker 4: do you start with the I think you have to 381 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 4: start one with what you're doing? Right, So, mom, like 382 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 4: you have to start with what kind of event do 383 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:09,200 Speaker 4: I want to host? Is this going to be something 384 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:12,479 Speaker 4: where I'm just inviting some of my friends over and 385 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 4: we're just going to catch up, or is this going 386 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:18,280 Speaker 4: to be something where I'm inviting like my family over 387 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 4: and we are doing. 388 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 3: A holiday tradition that we do every single year. This 389 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 3: is something that like it's clockwork right, like we know 390 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,440 Speaker 3: and we expect it. So I think you got to 391 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 3: start with who the guest list looks, like, what are 392 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 3: you trying to achieve from there? I think you pick 393 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:34,840 Speaker 3: out a theme, right, It's all about like what your vibe, 394 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,399 Speaker 3: what energy you want to have at the event, Like 395 00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 3: at the party. 396 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:41,199 Speaker 1: My friend Michelle taught me something that I thought was 397 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 1: so brilliant because one of my pet peeves at gatherings 398 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 1: is when you invite a bunch of people somewhere who 399 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,679 Speaker 1: don't really know each other and you want them to 400 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: meet each other, but there's nothing to facilitate that interaction 401 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: because people leave without ever really connecting. And then it 402 00:19:56,960 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 1: was like, what's the point. So she said a friend 403 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 1: of hers did this. She wrote note cards with a 404 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: name on one side, on the other side it was 405 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: like a fun fact about that person, and then she 406 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: laid them all out on the table when you walked in, 407 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,159 Speaker 1: and you had to pick up a note card not 408 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 1: your own, of somebody else and go find them at 409 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,359 Speaker 1: the party and read them the fun fact and that 410 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: way you got to meet each other, which I thought 411 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:21,959 Speaker 1: was absolutely brilliant. 412 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 2: It was so prea Parker. It's like a human scavenger hunt. Yes, yeah, 413 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:27,720 Speaker 2: it was so. 414 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: Great, And I was thinking, like, what are things like 415 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: that that can help us break the ice? Like you 416 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 1: have friends from so many different walks of life. When 417 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:37,440 Speaker 1: you bring them together, what do you do to make 418 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: them connect? 419 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,400 Speaker 3: I like that idea, though, just like, but at the time, yeah, 420 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,199 Speaker 3: but didn't Are you just searching for that person the 421 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 3: entire dinner party? 422 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:47,440 Speaker 1: Well, I think everybody like comes at You're not at 423 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: seven pm? 424 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 2: You're not it, You're not it? Who is Jenna? Where 425 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 2: it is Jenna in the right direction. 426 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,440 Speaker 3: I love that idea though, and I think my idea 427 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 3: kind of falls along that same line is that you 428 00:20:57,680 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 3: never sit someone who knows someone else next to each 429 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:02,560 Speaker 3: other at the party. 430 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, I don't like that. 431 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:06,239 Speaker 1: I know. 432 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 2: And let me tell you why. 433 00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 3: I go to a ton of dinner parties and dinners, 434 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 3: like a ton, and whenever I sit next to anyone 435 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:17,639 Speaker 3: I know, the entire night, I see nothing else but you, 436 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 3: and I zone in on you, and I'm like, Okay, 437 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 3: let's get into it, and then we just catch up 438 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,920 Speaker 3: and before I know it, I haven't talked to the host, 439 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 3: I haven't talked to the person you know across from me. 440 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 3: And you don't get as stuck with people that you 441 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 3: don't know, right, So I'm talking to the person to 442 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 3: my left, to my right, across from me, diagonal from me, 443 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 3: and now we're talking. Now we're in a group setting, 444 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 3: and so now your ears are a little bit more open, 445 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 3: and you're connecting with so many more people, which is 446 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:44,480 Speaker 3: also very terrifying because if you're at a dinner party 447 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 3: where you don't know a lot of people, it can 448 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:48,600 Speaker 3: push you out of a comfort zone. 449 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:51,159 Speaker 2: I think it depends on, like where my social battery 450 00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:53,480 Speaker 2: is as I'm heading into that event. If I'm drained 451 00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 2: and I don't have the energy to like hold a conversation, 452 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,159 Speaker 2: that can be tough. But I agree with you. 453 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 3: Drain and you can have the then you got to 454 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 3: stay home that you have to know that about yourself though, right, 455 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:08,119 Speaker 3: because I'm the same way. Yeah, when I'm drained and 456 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:09,680 Speaker 3: i just can't take it, I'm like, nah, I'm good, 457 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 3: I'm just gonna sit this one out. 458 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,720 Speaker 2: Because you're like I need to be with my comfort friends. 459 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,200 Speaker 2: I need to be with somebody that I. 460 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,200 Speaker 3: Know, right right, Yeah, that's when you call it. That's all. 461 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 3: Ditch it and go to Darence it. That's true. 462 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:24,480 Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's I want to ask you about 463 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,800 Speaker 2: curating the guest list because I feel like this is 464 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 2: a common debate when we talk about hosting. Do you 465 00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:33,120 Speaker 2: invite everyone or do you maintain the sense of generous 466 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 2: authority and be selective about having the right mix of 467 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 2: people there. Generous authority, Yeah, it's a new term. That's 468 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 2: not my term. I can't take that for it. No, 469 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 2: it's just I can't remember authority. It's this idea of 470 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:49,439 Speaker 2: as the party planner, you are allowed to exercise a 471 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 2: measure of authority that is generous because you're saying, I'm 472 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,199 Speaker 2: creating this space for the evening, this like this world 473 00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 2: for the evening, and I'm inviting you into it, and 474 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,439 Speaker 2: with part of that comes responsibility on my end to 475 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 2: curate the best experience for you. 476 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 3: This is the interesting part, though, because normally, when you're 477 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,399 Speaker 3: creating a guest list, you only have a certain number 478 00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 3: of spots to fill rightly. Yeah, so this is always 479 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,639 Speaker 3: very difficult especially for people who know a lot of people, yes, 480 00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 3: and who want to mix it up. For me, I 481 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:22,120 Speaker 3: think it is depending upon once again, let's go back 482 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 3: to our theme or why we're even hosting the dinner 483 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 3: party in the first place, and you tie into how 484 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,920 Speaker 3: you think different people from different walks of life, different careers, 485 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,359 Speaker 3: different viewpoints or whatever it is, how they can feed 486 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 3: into the greater good of the entire conversation, right and 487 00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 3: the entire dinner party. So does it make sense for 488 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,159 Speaker 3: them to be there? That's one I think when you 489 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:46,960 Speaker 3: also are bringing different people together. You want people to 490 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,480 Speaker 3: have takeaways, you want people to mix and mingle and 491 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,479 Speaker 3: meet new people, you want people to connect, and so 492 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,719 Speaker 3: I think you have to constantly remember and keep that 493 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 3: in mind. Does this make sense for them to be here? 494 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,640 Speaker 3: And if it does, yes, go for it. But if 495 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 3: it doesn't, then they got to get cut. But that's 496 00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 3: the hardest part though, because people feel very affected when 497 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 3: they're not invited to things, and so that's a hard 498 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 3: one too. 499 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 2: It's hard, but I think we have to give ourselves 500 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,120 Speaker 2: permission to do it and just know that, like. 501 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,159 Speaker 3: You got to give yourself generous authority exactly, you know 502 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,359 Speaker 3: that not everybody is meant to be at every single 503 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,199 Speaker 3: event I have. 504 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 1: Like, my mom was so big on like inclusion that 505 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,359 Speaker 1: when I was a kid, she would make me have 506 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: play dates with all the kids in the class that 507 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 1: nobody wanted. 508 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,280 Speaker 2: To play with. Oh, I love her. 509 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 1: So I think it's so deeply ingrained in me. I 510 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,480 Speaker 1: can't stand the idea of. 511 00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,640 Speaker 2: Leaving somebody out. It gives me like such agida. 512 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 3: So then you can't host anything because you know way 513 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 3: too many people. 514 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:50,560 Speaker 2: I can't host. I'm a really good guest. 515 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 1: Yes, if I were to host, though, I would like 516 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,160 Speaker 1: to host like you. 517 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 2: You are a chill host with authority. I don't like 518 00:24:59,400 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 2: to put pressure. 519 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 3: My biggest thing I hate when you walk into something 520 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:04,679 Speaker 3: and people are like, yes, so we're gonna have everyone 521 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:07,800 Speaker 3: get up and speak and like introduce you, And I'm like, why, 522 00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 3: Like one, do you know how long it makes the dinner, 523 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 3: even with food and things like that. People don't want 524 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 3: to eat when everyone's talking. So now we're gonna go 525 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:20,680 Speaker 3: through thirty people, introduce ourselves and tell them everything about. 526 00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:24,720 Speaker 2: Us, and do affirmations and say. 527 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:26,120 Speaker 3: Some people are super long winded, and you're like, oh, 528 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 3: come on, your cutoff time was good four minutes ago. 529 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:33,880 Speaker 2: It's time for another short break. We'll be right back 530 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 2: with Lizzie Mathis. And we're back with Lizzy Mathis. 531 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 1: Okay, we've been talking about people, but what about price, 532 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,200 Speaker 1: because I want to know how you achieve a great 533 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 1: party without spending a ton of money. 534 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 2: Oh, just don't spend the money. 535 00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 3: But how do you Why don't you see your Instagram 536 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 3: make things look really nice and you're how do you 537 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,719 Speaker 3: know I'm not spending a lot of money, Danielle, How 538 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:03,159 Speaker 3: do you know? 539 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 2: Because you're no? 540 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 1: Because I know you, and you spend money on certain things, 541 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 1: you're thoughtful about spending on other things. 542 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 3: I think there's a few things that you can do. 543 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:21,800 Speaker 3: Lighting is always the most inexpensive way to create a vibe. 544 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:27,160 Speaker 3: Candles are so inexpensive to create a vibe. You can 545 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 3: light candles all throughout the dinner table and it looks 546 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,960 Speaker 3: gorgeous foliage like for fall, we're going into faull. We're 547 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,199 Speaker 3: in fall, We're going into the holiday foliage. We have 548 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,880 Speaker 3: so much nature outside that literally, if you just took 549 00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 3: a walk and picked up a whole lot of little 550 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:45,280 Speaker 3: green leaves or whatever it is, put them in a 551 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 3: vase or spread them across the table, yes forage a yes, 552 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:53,880 Speaker 3: urban table, honey, Like, I'm not even playing it all. 553 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:56,879 Speaker 3: It's just a beautiful way. And then that was like 554 00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 3: beautiful lighting is just boom and music. Music is also 555 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,879 Speaker 3: a great way to create a vibe. You put together 556 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 3: a cute little playlist that is on point with what 557 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 3: you're doing and who your people are. That's three major 558 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 3: things right there, done taken care of, and you haven't 559 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 3: spent any money. Those are easy ways to achieve a 560 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 3: really great dinner party. Now, if you're hosting an event 561 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,160 Speaker 3: and it's like an event event, then we're talking something 562 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,440 Speaker 3: different and you probably have to cough up that case. 563 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,880 Speaker 1: I've never heard people say that, And those are great ideas, 564 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:31,440 Speaker 1: very good, great language. 565 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:36,440 Speaker 2: I love your dinner party tips. So you are my 566 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,239 Speaker 2: Martha Stewart. Oh wow, I love this. 567 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,439 Speaker 1: I look at your Instagram and I'm like, hmm, maybe 568 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,119 Speaker 1: I could make guacamole I've never tried before. 569 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 2: Are you serious? Yes? 570 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,440 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I don't know how to make anything, 571 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,520 Speaker 3: but you make me think it's possible. 572 00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:55,199 Speaker 1: You do it very simply and it looks cute, and 573 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,280 Speaker 1: I'm curious if you have any like, any simple recipes 574 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,600 Speaker 1: that you think look fancy and love great for a 575 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 1: dinner party. 576 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,320 Speaker 3: I was thinking about this and I'm like, what is 577 00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 3: the ultimate dinner party menu? And it can be so different. 578 00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,280 Speaker 3: It can be so different. It kind of depends on 579 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,399 Speaker 3: how involved of a host you want to be, or 580 00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:16,960 Speaker 3: do you want to be in the kitchen. Those are 581 00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 3: decisions you have to make too. Do you want to 582 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:20,879 Speaker 3: be mingling with your guests or do you kind of 583 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 3: want to be making sure that the food is perfected. 584 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 3: I personally love a fish, you know, for dinner. The 585 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 3: reason why is because it's so fast to make and 586 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 3: it comes out hot and warm right, so when everyone 587 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 3: has arrived, when everyone is settling in, you can dip 588 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 3: out for ten minutes, go make a platter of fish, 589 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:45,080 Speaker 3: and come back and you're done and it's like hot food, 590 00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 3: ready to go. But I also love chilis and stews 591 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,080 Speaker 3: and like one pot meals for that kind of idea too, 592 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,160 Speaker 3: because you can let that go, go do your thing, 593 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,160 Speaker 3: and it's still right there when you get back and 594 00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,920 Speaker 3: ready to serve for everybody to eat. I don't like 595 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:02,440 Speaker 3: things to be too complicated and two layered because I 596 00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 3: truly believe that being in the kitchen should be a 597 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 3: joyous activity. I really like my time in the kitchen, 598 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 3: and I enjoy mixing different flavors and herbs, and I just. 599 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 2: Like to play. It's a creative outlet for me. Yeah. 600 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 2: What about when it comes to the actual holidays, have 601 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 2: you learned any hacks in terms of navigating the pressures 602 00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,560 Speaker 2: of the holiday season as a host? 603 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 3: It's like, know who you are, right, like, know your personality. 604 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 3: And I will compare this to new motherhood. Let's use 605 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,720 Speaker 3: that as an example. New motherhood, they tell you, hey, 606 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:40,080 Speaker 3: it's okay to ask for help. That's it, that's it done, 607 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 3: and dash, it's okay if you know who you are, 608 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 3: and you know you're the type of person that gets 609 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 3: a little overwhelmed. And like, I'm not the best planner either, 610 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 3: so I am the type to be like on a 611 00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 3: Friday being like, okay, what are we kicking on Sunday? 612 00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:54,960 Speaker 3: I should probably start prepping. My mom used to hate 613 00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 3: that about me because she was such a planner about it. 614 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 3: She'd like two weeks out she'd be like, Okay, I'm 615 00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 3: going to the gross store. What mama? 616 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 2: But I think that's a sign of a veteran. Yes, 617 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,920 Speaker 2: that's all. She's been through war. She has been back. 618 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,440 Speaker 3: She's literally she's gone to the grocery store and saw 619 00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 3: that sweet potatoes were out. Yes, She's like, not again, 620 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,640 Speaker 3: not this, not again, not this year, saytan, yeah, not again. 621 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 2: Me, I'm like her sweet potatoes are out. 622 00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 3: Well, I guess we're having pumpkin then, like, I'm like, okay, 623 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,960 Speaker 3: I guess we're shifting to this side. And she like 624 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,240 Speaker 3: she knew her recipe, she was down for them. Me, 625 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,560 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, well, I guess we're gonna pin it. 626 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 3: I guess it's I guess it's not Brussels sprouts. I 627 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 3: guess we're gonna have broccoli. I don't know, you know 628 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 3: what I'm saying. So I'm a little bit more on 629 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 3: the fly like that. But I think you have to 630 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 3: know your personality and I think you have to reach 631 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,560 Speaker 3: out for help. And that's really the beauty about it, right. 632 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,600 Speaker 3: It is about community and family and friends and all this. 633 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 3: We still go home for Thanksgiving to my husband's family 634 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,720 Speaker 3: and they have so many members. I used to get 635 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 3: so overwhelmed. But his mom used to cook everything, and 636 00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 3: I used to be like, oh, come on, like how 637 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 3: can we help? And one year she was like, listen, 638 00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:04,200 Speaker 3: you take mac and cheese, you take the dressing, you 639 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 3: take this, and everyone has their own assignments. It feels 640 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,720 Speaker 3: so communal because we're all in the kitchen doing random things, 641 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,719 Speaker 3: prepping for each other, and it's just it's amazing. And 642 00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,200 Speaker 3: so I think you know who you are right, know 643 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 3: your stress level, and remember why you're doing it. This 644 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 3: is cool, Calm, easy, baby. This is the fun stuff. 645 00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 3: This is where we actually get to have fun and 646 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,040 Speaker 3: like relax and enjoy our time. This is not the 647 00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:31,960 Speaker 3: stressful part. This is the part where we are supposed 648 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 3: to like breathe in, breathe out, and enjoy the people 649 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:38,200 Speaker 3: who we choose to be around. This is the holidays. 650 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:39,239 Speaker 3: That is what it's for. 651 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 2: That just gave me chills. Hosy mathis saying this is 652 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 2: the holidays and looking at me with that intensity. Okay, 653 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 2: and it's the holidays, my contact. Okay. As you wrap 654 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:57,120 Speaker 2: up a party and you're getting tired, the yawns are 655 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 2: coming out, Yeah, time to go, It's time to go, 656 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:06,240 Speaker 2: gotta go home. But here, what is your go to 657 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 2: tactic for getting people out the door. This is so funny. 658 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 2: This is this is a silly one. 659 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 3: This is where my husband's looking at me like making 660 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 3: a strong eye contacts. I'm like, okay, what do you 661 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 3: want me to do? I think you have to be 662 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 3: upfront beforehand. That's first. It's almost like communication with a partner, right. 663 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,000 Speaker 3: You got to tell them what you want beforehand, and 664 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 3: expect people not to read your mind, because that's just 665 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,280 Speaker 3: what it is when you're sending out. When you're telling 666 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,320 Speaker 3: people to come over for dinner. We're gonna wrap up 667 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 3: probably closer to nine because we have to get in 668 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:35,479 Speaker 3: bed and we have to get up early to do 669 00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:36,120 Speaker 3: the kid thing. 670 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,080 Speaker 2: So just want to make sure we're all aware. 671 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,160 Speaker 1: I love when people put like an end time on 672 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: the dash, like dinners from seven to Nine's that. 673 00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 3: But my problem is is that sometimes people don't. They 674 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,400 Speaker 3: don't follow that at all. That's the hard part. When 675 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 3: you're out and about, people don't always follow the nine. 676 00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,320 Speaker 1: You're saying, like they at your parties. 677 00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 3: Now just so no, no, no, I'm just talking about my parties. 678 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 3: I think you say, hey, I'm good. I listen, all right, 679 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,720 Speaker 3: this was fun. Gotta go like, hey, everybody love you. You 680 00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:07,719 Speaker 3: are leftovers. We have anything, you need something to take 681 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,280 Speaker 3: home with you. All right, I'll see you next weekend. 682 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,440 Speaker 3: Like that's where I'm at, gotta go. But I think 683 00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 3: at events sometimes it's so hard because I've been at 684 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:17,480 Speaker 3: so many things where it's like they say you're gonna 685 00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,800 Speaker 3: wrap up by nine, and dinner's just coming out, like 686 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,560 Speaker 3: the main course is just coming out at eight forty five. 687 00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:25,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, there's no way I'm out of here at none. Yeah, 688 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 1: you know, like why is why is goodbye awkward? It's like, 689 00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:30,960 Speaker 1: I got how would you do it in the least 690 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:34,520 Speaker 1: awkward way possible? I just am really blunt about it. 691 00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,040 Speaker 1: I'm always like, this was so fun, thank you for 692 00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:39,760 Speaker 1: having me. I have to wake up early, so I'm 693 00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:40,320 Speaker 1: gonna head out. 694 00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:44,360 Speaker 2: Bye, love you. I think that's great. That's revolutionary. Now 695 00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,080 Speaker 2: what if people were at your house? Oh my god, 696 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,880 Speaker 2: thanks for coming, see you later. It's all no, no, 697 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 2: I don't believe. 698 00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:54,480 Speaker 3: There's no way she's at dinner. There's no way she's 699 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 3: at dinner. People's plates are still on the table. 700 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:58,720 Speaker 2: What do you mean she's like kicking them out. She's like, 701 00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 2: guess what's funk? Everybody? 702 00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:01,120 Speaker 3: Bye? 703 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:03,720 Speaker 1: No, no, no, that's not what I thought. You guys, 704 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,680 Speaker 1: if you're hosting, you got to be prepared for people 705 00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:07,280 Speaker 1: to stay late. 706 00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 2: See see. But this is the thing, this is we're 707 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,160 Speaker 2: trying to figure out the most sensitive way to get 708 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 2: people to I think you have to be upfront. I 709 00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:16,680 Speaker 2: think early on you have to be upfront. 710 00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:18,320 Speaker 3: You have to be like, this is the end time, 711 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,520 Speaker 3: and once it starts hitting in that time, like say 712 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 3: it's nine. Once a nine to ten hits, you're like, 713 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,399 Speaker 3: all right, hey, guys, this is oh my god. 714 00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,880 Speaker 2: You guys have most excuses. You have children. 715 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,000 Speaker 3: We do children. It's a great excuse. We did early 716 00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:32,640 Speaker 3: call times work, that's a great excuse too. Are you 717 00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:33,120 Speaker 3: kidding me? 718 00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 2: Yeah? 719 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,360 Speaker 1: People, I don't ever let people know that I actually 720 00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:37,880 Speaker 1: don't have to be here till ten am. 721 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 2: I think I have a job where I'm up at five. Well, 722 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 2: your secrets now, this is going out. 723 00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,360 Speaker 3: To the you know, it's great, A great, great one. 724 00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:49,720 Speaker 3: I have a guy, No examine eight, gotta go, no 725 00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:52,320 Speaker 3: eight am. 726 00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,439 Speaker 2: Lizzie, this was the best. Thanks so much for hanging 727 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,000 Speaker 2: out on the bright side with us. I'm so glad 728 00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:57,439 Speaker 2: to be here. 729 00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:57,800 Speaker 3: Guys. 730 00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:58,680 Speaker 2: Thanks for having me. 731 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,479 Speaker 1: We'll be watching your Instagram for all your holiday joy. 732 00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:06,400 Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. Lizzie Mathis is the founder and 733 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,959 Speaker 2: editor in chief of the Cool Mom co. She's also 734 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:11,840 Speaker 2: the co host and executive producer of Roku's home improvement 735 00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,400 Speaker 2: series Honest Renovations. 736 00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:22,520 Speaker 1: That's a wrap for today's show, But tomorrow get ready 737 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: to laugh. Comedian Fortune Fienster is joining us to spill 738 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,280 Speaker 1: all about her comedy and her brand new stand up special, 739 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 1: Crushing It. You don't want to miss it. 740 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:35,400 Speaker 2: Join the conversation using hashtag the bright Side and connect 741 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,680 Speaker 2: with us on social media at Hello Sunshine on Instagram 742 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 2: and at the bright Side Pod on TikTok Oh, and 743 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:44,560 Speaker 2: feel free to tag us at Simone Voice and at 744 00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 2: Danielle Robe. 745 00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 1: Listen and follow The bright Side on the iHeartRadio app, 746 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,879 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. 747 00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:56,960 Speaker 2: See you tomorrow, folks, Keep looking on the bright side.