WEBVTT - Don't get ahead of yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of my Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to be careful not to worry about

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that is too far in the future. Long time

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<v Speaker 1>Before Breakfast listeners know that I am a planner. I

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<v Speaker 1>think about what I'd like to do in the future

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<v Speaker 1>in my professional and personal life. I figure out the

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<v Speaker 1>steps to get there. I figure out where these steps

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<v Speaker 1>can go, and I think through what can go wrong

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<v Speaker 1>and how I can solve these problems. Now, this has

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<v Speaker 1>its upsides. Because I think about what can go wrong

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<v Speaker 1>and I make plans for dealing with these problems. The

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<v Speaker 1>logistics of my life tend to go reasonably well, even

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<v Speaker 1>with a lot of moving parts. However, there is a

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<v Speaker 1>downside to this personality. When I identify a problem, some

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<v Speaker 1>part of my brain keeps working at a solution should

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<v Speaker 1>even if the problem is far in the future and

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<v Speaker 1>I have no idea what day to day's circumstances might

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<v Speaker 1>look like. Then, if you're listening to this podcast, perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>your personality is a bit like mine. The problem is

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<v Speaker 1>that we can wind up putting a lot of time

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<v Speaker 1>and mental effort into pondering these problems and figuring out solutions. Often,

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<v Speaker 1>this time and mental effort would have been better devoted

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<v Speaker 1>to other things, like pondering new business ideas. Time I

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<v Speaker 1>spend figuring out a childcare issue in June, it's time

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not working on my next book proposal. So what

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<v Speaker 1>can we do? It's hard not to get ahead of ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've been doing a few practical things. First, when

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<v Speaker 1>my husband and I have calendar meetings to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>day to day logistics, we only look about two weeks

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<v Speaker 1>ahead for most normal stuff. We do not need to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out who is picking somebody up on a Friday

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<v Speaker 1>three weeks from now. This just these meetings ponderous, and

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<v Speaker 1>all of our schedules may be different by that point. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also trying to reframe things to look at the

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<v Speaker 1>amount of time the current schedule will work. Yes, something

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<v Speaker 1>might need to change in May, but that means that

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<v Speaker 1>nothing needs to change until May. That's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>time I can do a lot in those intervening months.

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<v Speaker 1>Best to celebrate this continuity, which is more rare in

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<v Speaker 1>life than we might think. And finally, many things don't

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<v Speaker 1>require a universal solution. Now I might like to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out the best way to deal with transportation for my

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<v Speaker 1>middle schoolers early morning choir rehearsals, But there is no

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<v Speaker 1>solution that works for every single one In the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>It's usually not that big a deal to drive the

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen minutes around trip. If there's more than one adult

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<v Speaker 1>at home, the little kids don't have to come. If

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<v Speaker 1>there isn't, they do, so it goes. I don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to get ahead of myself. Do you have a tendency

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<v Speaker 1>to look far far ahead? Let me know at Before

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<v Speaker 1>Breakfast podcast at i heeart media dot com. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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