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Speaker 1: Strawberry. Well, it's definitely a sad one subject hurt and

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Speaker 1: angry mother. Hello, Shirley and Steve. I don't think you

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Speaker 1: have had this problem before, but here it is. I

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Speaker 1: was married to an abusive husband who I found out

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Speaker 1: was also molesting my daughter. I put thirty eight stitches

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Speaker 1: upside his head and had him arrested. He did not

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Speaker 1: serve any time in jail, but received probation and must

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Speaker 1: go to counseling. I moved to another state and tried

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Speaker 1: to start my life over with my children. The problem is,

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Speaker 1: when my daughter turned twenty one, she moved back to

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Speaker 1: the state I left and started living with my ex

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Speaker 1: husband and had a daughter with him. After two years,

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Speaker 1: she moved back in with me, saying she was sick

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Speaker 1: in the head and needed help. I wanted to help her,

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Speaker 1: but I am angry at her and my granddaughter all

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Speaker 1: the time. I want her out of my house, but

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Speaker 1: feel guilty that maybe it is my fault for not

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Speaker 1: protecting her when she was little. She is lazy, won't

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Speaker 1: clean up, and won't work. Help Shirley, what should I do? Okay, Okay, first,

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Speaker 1: you're you're so right here. We have never had a

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Speaker 1: letter like this ever. You know, this is sick. I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is horrible. This is unbelievable, you know. And and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you this, not so much that your

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Speaker 1: abusive husband molested your daughter, because as awful as that is,

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Speaker 1: and that is horrible too, we have heard of that

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Speaker 1: happening before. But the fact that when your daughter turned

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Speaker 1: twenty one she went back to him and had a

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Speaker 1: baby with him, that that is simply uh unthinkable to me.

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Speaker 1: It's it's just unthinkable. So I can totally understand your hurt.

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Speaker 1: I can understand your guilt, I can understand your anger.

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Speaker 1: But but please stop, please stop, if you can, just

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Speaker 1: stop blaming yourself and your daughter and your grand baby,

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Speaker 1: because you did what you You did anything you could

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Speaker 1: do at the time. To me, you put thirty eight

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Speaker 1: stitches upside his head, you had him arrested. I mean,

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Speaker 1: the authorities didn't do what they were supposed to do,

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Speaker 1: but as a mom, you know you did what you could.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you didn't know, and that's why you didn't protect her. Clearly,

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Speaker 1: this man, though, is the villain in this story. Uh,

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Speaker 1: he's your ex husband. Your daughter is the victim here.

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Speaker 1: She went back to him because he was familiar to her,

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Speaker 1: you know, in my estimation, he's a monster. Uh. And

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Speaker 1: my suggestion to you and your daughter, you know, if

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Speaker 1: you could suggest anything, it's to get some counseling. You know,

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Speaker 1: you got to talk about this to someone who is

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Speaker 1: really equipped to handle this type of thing. Steve, I know,

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Speaker 1: we don't have a lot of time. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't have an answer here, clearly I

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Speaker 1: do not on the GIL simply is prayer because I

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Speaker 1: don't really know. You know, I got no jokes for you,

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Speaker 1: that's for sure. But um here, here's here's a deal.

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Speaker 1: The innocent person in all of this is the r daughter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she don't know nothing about the history, she don't know

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Speaker 1: why she here. She just here, she says the granddaughter.

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Speaker 1: The anger at her I don't understand. I think maybe

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Speaker 1: because it's the seed of your ex husband, their lives reasult.

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Speaker 1: I'm not qualified at all here to handle this one.

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Speaker 1: Right here, we need an expert on this and right here. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Shirley is absolutely correct about about counseling. But man or

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Speaker 1: man on man, there's one thing in this letter that's

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Speaker 1: the absolute truth. This is the absolute truth. Your daughter

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Speaker 1: is screaming for help because she said she's sick in

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Speaker 1: the head and needs help, and she knows that. Okay wow,

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter. Hello

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Speaker 1: Sherley's Eve. I don't think you've had this problem before,

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Speaker 1: but here it is. I'm married. I was married to

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Speaker 1: an abusive husband who I found out also was molesting

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Speaker 1: and had him arrested. He did not serve any time

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Speaker 1: in jail, but received probation and must go to counseling.

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Speaker 1: I moved to another state and tried to start my

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Speaker 1: life over with my children. A problem is when my

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Speaker 1: daughter turned twenty one, she moved back to the state

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Speaker 1: I left and started living with my ex husband and

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Speaker 1: had a daughter with him. After two years, she moved

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Speaker 1: back in with me, saying she was sick in the

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Speaker 1: head and needed help. I wanted to help her, but

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Speaker 1: guilty that maybe it was my fault for not protecting

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Speaker 1: her when she was little. She is lazy, won't clean up,

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Speaker 1: and won't help help Sureley, what should I do? We

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Speaker 1: got some real talk for you here. But uh, the

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Speaker 1: part about she's lazy, won't clean up and won't work. Uh,

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Speaker 1: that all that could be true, but you're focusing on

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Speaker 1: that because you're really mad at her about a bunch

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Speaker 1: to write about she's lazy, not that. Well, that makes

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Speaker 1: everything that just asinuate, accentuates the negative when you're really

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Speaker 1: angry about something else. There is a lot of sick

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Speaker 1: going on in this letter, just a whole lot of sick.

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Speaker 1: First of all, the abusive husband, then the child molesting husband,

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Speaker 1: then the girl becoming of age and going back to

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Speaker 1: the state that you escape from and moving in with

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Speaker 1: the ex husband, and then having a baby with this man,

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Speaker 1: and then coming back to you needing help, saying she's

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Speaker 1: sick in the head, and now you're mad at her

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Speaker 1: and the granddaughter all the time. It's just a lot

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Speaker 1: of sick in this letter. A lot of healing is

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Speaker 1: needed here. Um as um, somebody needs an ass whopping

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Speaker 1: in this letter. I have a real good idea who

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Speaker 1: he is, and um, I would start there, even though

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Speaker 1: I don't recommend that to people in real life. That's

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Speaker 1: why I would start. But surely we have a number

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Speaker 1: for this woman. Why don't you give it? Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: it's an organization called RAIN. It stands for Rape Abuse

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Speaker 1: in SSS National Network. The number is eight hundred six

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Speaker 1: five six hope, eight hundred six five six hope. Or

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Speaker 1: you can go to RAIN are a I n N

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Speaker 1: dot org. It's an antisex rain r AI N dot

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Speaker 1: org for anybody out there is going through this, or

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Speaker 1: a number is one eight hundred six five six hope,

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Speaker 1: eight hundred six five six hope. Um, that's the deal man.

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Speaker 1: I have nothing else to tell you except you really

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Speaker 1: need that type of help and prayer. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we gotta go email or Instagram. That's your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter at my girl. Surely