WEBVTT - Let Them Or Let Them Go 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.560 Get her right in Mandy, you're right with me, and 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:13.000 get excited about you lie. It's been a long time. 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:22.759 Well twenty twenty five. It's the first Monday of the 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:25.880 new year. You know what I was saying. I was like, 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:32.280 it's not that the year went by fast, but we're 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.400 hearing the new year quickly. I don't even know if 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:37.360 that makes sense, but I don't feel like the year 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:39.839 will by quickly. But I do think how we got here? 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:43.159 Did I know? How? Backwards? But that's the honest truth. 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:48.199 And I know at the top of the year, we're 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.240 always talking about like, oh, what are my resolutions or 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.040 what's the word for the year? What am I doing this? 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:56.320 And I'm going after this? And inspirement. I think about 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:59.800 a couple of things. One and joy where you are 0:00:59.880 --> 0:01:02.800 right now. I'm actually getting this piece of paper and 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:10.679 I wrote some stuff because I think we forget about watering, relishing, 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:17.280 masking in this space that we're in. And I think 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:20.440 that goes with appreciation and gratitude, And they say gratitude 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:23.080 is everything. The more grateful you are, the more things 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:27.520 you have to be grateful for. It also had me 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:32.000 thinking about how when we are spying to the new year, like, oh, 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:35.080 I'm going after this, I'm getting this and understanding how 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.920 that's a lot of chase. Now this is what came 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:40.360 to me. And I think because also I heard I 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:45.960 saw this video about how to attract money. But when 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:50.560 I say, don't chase becomment, well, when you chase things, 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:53.600 they're running away from you. I don't want to do that. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:59.680 Like in the theory, it sounds interesting, it sounds fun, 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:06.400 but I want what's attracting me to meet me where 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.440 I need to be. Does that make sense? Like, because 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:13.280 I think that's the beauty of life, and what that 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:17.320 looks like is always on to the next thing perhaps 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:26.840 rather than or always waiting for the perfect moment, rather 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:29.800 than just making the moment perfect. And now how that 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.480 relates to me? Okay, case in point, Hello, I'm here. 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:36.840 You hear me on this microphone. I had so much 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:41.960 apprehension about recording from my home because I was like, 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.959 you're gonna hear all the echoes, all the noises in 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:51.720 the ambiance. And even looking at the last time I recorded, 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:55.040 I was looking at the episode of April twenty twenty five. 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.680 Oh my gosh, I said, twenty twenty five, early it's 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:00.520 twenty twenty six. You see what I'm talking about? Anyway, 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:02.880 I can still get it wrong. It's on in the 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:06.760 fifth day. Please okay, Relax, okay, relax, make grom thank you, 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:17.400 And I'd have lost my train of thought. See oh, 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.800 waiting for the perfect moment to have whatever soundproof, and 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.400 it's like, you gotta do it now. And so even 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:24.880 as I look back at the last episode I did 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:31.160 of April twenty twenty five, I didn't get that, please serious, 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:38.760 stop off, see how road it is in here anyhow? 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:41.640 Rather than just getting out of how a young man come? 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:43.240 When I actually did the hip hop cipher and he 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.040 looked in the equipment. I may have mentioned this on 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:50.160 the last episode. I don't know. He's like, wow. I 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:51.800 was like, yeah, but I'm not in the studio. He 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:54.720 was like, people don't care whether or not you're in 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.040 the studio. He was like, they're coming for you, you 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:01.720 for the content, for what you got to say. See 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:05.280 how when we chasing after something, chasing for the right moment, chasing, 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:11.200 you forget where you are standing right now. So why 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:13.640 I'm not even thinking about gratitude. That's also like a pivot. 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:15.440 How can I pivot just so that I can keep 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:18.080 moving in the direction that I want to be in. 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.479 So Praise Report, Praise Report, the mic is on, and 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.719 then plus there's so many other programs that people listen 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.680 to with audio is not perfect. Get out your own way. 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:35.120 I also think that looks like, you know, creating your 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:37.840 own space, rather than saying, well, I'm only going to 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:39.280 be here for a short time, but how do I'm 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:41.120 I going to be here forever? I'm not going to 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:46.960 decorate that desk, decorate my room, decorate my home, purchase 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.320 this from my home. Maybe we're this outfit. And it's like, well, 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:55.279 oh my god, is right now? If I a couple 0:04:55.320 --> 0:04:57.640 of days ago, literally because last year was a couple 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:04.440 of days ago. On Instagram, they were, you know, the companies, 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.520 they started doing the list of people we lost in 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.440 the past year, and I remember thinking to myself, well, 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:13.240 it is December thirtieth. We still have two days where 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.839 somebody may not make it into twenty twenty six. We 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:19.000 take it for granted. You see what I'm saying. You 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:20.760 take it for granted that you're going to be here. 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:24.160 And I'm not saying to be pessimistic, you know, hoping 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:27.120 for the worse or you know, expecting the worst that 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:29.120 could happen. All I'm saying is to understand the gift 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:33.599 of it. Now that's the present. So again, become it 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:40.120 what it is that you want. So that's me becoming. 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:43.440 We're citing right now. So last week I said, let 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:45.719 me just get on this live and get this microphone. 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:47.760 Let me just get this equipment, let me just sit 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.760 in the chair, let me just become it, become what 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:52.320 it is that I'm seeking. So I said the chair. 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:53.800 I said, I'm just gonna go live and talk on 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:57.719 this microphone. I had no agenda of what to talk about. 0:05:58.160 --> 0:05:59.840 You know, I told your host on the TikTok. So 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.160 I had a few viewers come and stop by to 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:04.479 say hi. But of course you have to do it 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:09.960 more consistently. That's not the point. Consistently, Oh gosh, anyhow, 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:11.960 that's not the point. The point is is that I 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.599 cracked the mic. And I think sometimes we often are 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:19.440 trying to wait to get started, rather than understanding you 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.320 have to start in order to get great and to 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:26.760 get going. Periods we're waiting so much to the moment 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:28.480 to get going. But it's like the key is to 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:34.679 start so you can get going, become it, put yourself 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:41.440 in those environments and to give yourself one to breathe. Yeah, 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:47.800 allow there to be motion in that ocean, sensation and 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:52.599 that vibration. Yeah, okay. And then also one of my 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:56.400 best friends we were on the phone. I don't know 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.240 if we were talking about. I don't know what we 0:06:58.240 --> 0:07:01.400 were talking about, but I think she said something like, 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:05.920 would I be okay with being in an open relationship? 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.040 And I said, as of right now? Share? I'm like, no, 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.760 like sharing right now in the space that I'm in, 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:21.160 I'd say no. And she's like really, And she was like, 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.120 do you think sometimes when you're with somebody and you're 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:28.160 in situationships, that's an open relationship? I said no, I 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:32.080 think a situationship is a situationship. My definition of what 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:35.560 I said open relationship is is when you've acknowledged that 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:40.120 you're my partner, we're in a relationship, and I am 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:44.600 opening up to inviting someone else in this or saying that, hey, 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:48.200 we can both venture out of it with acknowledgment, with 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:50.840 the understanding that we're together. So I think she understood 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:53.040 a thread there, and I see the viewpoint where she 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.120 was coming from. But when you ask me and my 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:59.800 four open relationships, that's what my answer would be. But 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:01.880 I'm not going to say anything changes. But that's what 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:07.080 I imagine. I haven't been presented with that. And I said, 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:08.840 the key is, I said, I think they can work 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:13.560 because you let them or let go. And a lot 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:15.400 of that was inspired by mel Robbins, because you know, 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:19.000 she's been around talking about this book about just let them, like, 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:21.360 allow people to be who they are, and I think 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:26.400 that is actually one of the most beautiful things. And 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:30.200 maybe that's the toleration of love and respect because you 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:34.120 can make room for them. Of course, it's not gonna 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:35.800 be what you're used to because you're not them, but 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:41.720 for whatever reason, it's okay, and it allows somebody to 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:45.680 be their authentic selves. I do think there's room to 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:50.000 share with something that may bother you or may not 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:52.319 work well. And I think that's also compatibility. But I 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:55.880 think also too, I think when you really like somebody, 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.320 you love something somebody like little things like that, it 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:00.360 doesn't even matter. And I do think you go through 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.720 your ups and downs, but it doesn't matter. And then 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:04.680 I said let go. I said, well, you know, the 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.280 greatest form of love is letting go. And when you 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:10.520 want something that wants you, remember you don't have to 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:12.320 chase it, and you do also don't have to hold 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.400 it captive. If it doesn't serve you, then it doesn't 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:20.319 deserve you, So let it go. It still allows everything 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:23.520 to be in fluent motion. Understand when I say that 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:27.080 let them or let go, everything is still moving in motion. 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:30.840 That it needs to move in motion no matter which 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.920 angle you look at it. So that's why I'm looking 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:36.400 at it twenty twenty six. I know before I said 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:39.560 twenty twenty five, and yes, you know I probably could. 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:41.720 I probably could go back and edit that out. But 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:44.040 whatever I said, I'm gonna leave it. I'm gonna leave 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.480 it because I want to do live today, which it. 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:47.880 Says what you get, what you hear is what you 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:52.719 get as as of right now, you see what I'm 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:56.319 saying all those editors, oh my gosh, because I want 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.280 to get used to the flow so become it. 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.560 Is there anything else I want to say? Let me 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.440 look at my phone because I had gotten some great 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.360 stories that I reposted on IG and I was like, 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:09.839 let me chew on that, let me chew on that. 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:20.320 Give me what's sock on. Okay, here's one. The universe 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.079 doesn't wait for you to prove yourself. It waits for 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:26.120 you to trust yourself. You see what I'm saying. Let 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:30.360 me say that one more time. The universe doesn't wait 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.600 for you to prove yourself. It waits for you to 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:41.640 trust yourself. Don't play with me, Okay? Can I take 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:45.520 you one step further? Imagine like the universe because it is. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.680 It's like in our eyes. We have constellations in our eyes. 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:54.679 That's where our magic is right and some of us 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:58.719 still have that twinkle. These ideas that come to us, 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:07.640 they're being created by powerful source. And what are we 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.840 waiting on? All you got to do is do it 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:13.640 because it can't to you become it. Don't you say? 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.760 You feel what I'm saying. You hear what I'm saying. 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:18.120 You feel what I'm saying, and there will be no confusion. 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:24.000 You don't have to prove what it is that you 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:27.320 already know. That's what it's called confidence. Don't play with me, 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:30.520 play with yourself. So yes, what I did it. I 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:34.760 cracked open this mic in twenty twenty six and I said, Dawn, 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:40.520 do what you gotta do. Because even anyway, I look 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:42.560 forward to talking to you soon. And ohso, can I 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:45.959 just say that I'm grateful since an update? Oh, update, update, 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:53.079 update update. One of the things that I said when 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:57.800 I was coming out to LA, I said, I want 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:04.679 to come out here and develop my own show, my 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:07.040 TV show, great, my TV show, I believe, I said, 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:16.600 and become a speaker. So July I started training. Do 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:23.800 you know that I traveled these here United States and 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:30.480 I'm speaking, I'm a paid speaker. I just had to 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:34.560 have a moment of gratitude because we have this thought 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:39.160 process of how things are supposed to unfold and roll out, 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:42.640 and I've had moments. I've done my share of public speaking, 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:46.600 whether it's career day or hosting a graduation or giving 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:51.920 a motivational pop talk. But to be flued out hotel 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:57.920 accommodations and a pardium and a coin, I'm really grateful 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:03.920 I've been out here in La. Hmm. It's going on 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:07.360 thirteen years this September of twenty twenty six. Don't play 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:14.719 when me, play with yourself, Play with yourself. I'm go 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:21.040 ahead it. I had a phone call. See how raw 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:24.280 was this? Is you getting a raw baby? Yes? Yes, 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:31.920 I always had this dream. I said that I was 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:35.559 going to speak and travel the country or actually the world. 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:39.280 And if you aren't so much haste to keep chasing it, 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:42.040 you can't even realize that's where you are. And now 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.520 I have a moment and opportunity to cultivate it, to 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:51.120 shape it. So I just want to say that I'm 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:57.440 grateful for that, and let's just make sure that we 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:10.880 continue to moving our gratitude to realize that we don't 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.640 have to hold things captive or chase it because it flows. 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:16.720 Oh oh, I gotta give you the mantra for the money, 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:19.520 and then because I want a bundance. But I've changed 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:22.200 my brain. How I gotta think of it. Let me 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:25.960 get this real quick too. I like this. I like this. 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:28.440 I like this. You know I started saying it and 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.840 already I felt like a relief. Now you know they 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:34.240 got different rights ins because we're on the podcast. So 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:44.720 hold on, let me play it. Okay, Don't worry about 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:46.560 the money, because the money gonna flow. Don't worry about 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:48.360 the money, cause the money gonna flow. Don't worry about 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.480 the money because the money gonna fold, The money gonna flow, 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:52.640 the money gonna flow. Don't worry about the money because 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.320 the money gonna flow. Don't play when me play with yourself. 0:14:55.360 --> 0:15:02.680 Let me see if I got that right. Don't worry 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:04.880 about the money because the money going flow. Don't worry 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:07.200 about the money because the money going flow. Her name 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:10.760 is miss dall E M. S d O L L 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:14.560 E E W E doubles on Instagram. That's what I 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:17.720 just saw. So I felt immediately to that. So I 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:21.640 say that to you. Let's make twenty twenty six amazing. Okay, 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.520 I I love you. I'm so glad. I cracked up 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:31.040 this mic and yeah, m hugs and casses. Oh yeah, wait, 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.320 I gotta do my thing. I'm in the business and 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.280 make it. You know what it is. It's Vitamin D. 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:40.400 I'm doing like the break of day a. Holla, raw baby, Okay, 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:40.760 I'm out.