Speaker 1: So I've been going through it a little bit.
Speaker 2: I have been in this place of Yes Adventure era,
Speaker 2: and I do get ahead of my skis because I
Speaker 2: am an insular person. I think because I'm so outspoken
Speaker 2: and because I'm wacky, and because I can be like
Speaker 2: a I love Lucy character, I think people confuse that
Speaker 2: with me being very social. And I don't know if
Speaker 2: I ever was social. And I've heard this thing with
Speaker 2: certain people where they are truly an introvert that sort
Speaker 2: of presents as an extrovert. And I don't know if
Speaker 2: I'm an introvert. That's insane, but I'm insular. I'm a
Speaker 2: person that's alone ninety five percent.
Speaker 1: Of the time.
Speaker 2: Like if I'm out with my daughter, I'm with my friends.
Speaker 2: When I make when I make the plan and take
Speaker 2: the initiative, and I do do things for work and
Speaker 2: they're good for me because it means I'm getting out
Speaker 2: and getting dressed, et cetera. But this is something that's
Speaker 2: been going on since I was in my twenties. I
Speaker 2: remember being in my studio apartment and having to drag
Speaker 2: myself to get dressed and to go to a date
Speaker 2: or to go out to a club or to go
Speaker 2: out with friends, and I would make the plans because
Speaker 2: I wanted to be active and social, and I would
Speaker 2: make the plans and then when they came, I would
Speaker 2: start to get massive anxiety and want to find ways
Speaker 2: to cancel when the person was hedging up, like it's fine,
Speaker 2: no problem, when we could do it another time. And
Speaker 2: I'm that way to this day. I'm like waiting and
Speaker 2: wanting someone to cancel and look for a reason we
Speaker 2: don't have to do it. So it's just who I am.
Speaker 2: And my mother was that way. And Kelly Rippa once
Speaker 2: told me that it's genetic. And my friend Alex Cohen
Speaker 2: said to me that there's this percentage of people that
Speaker 2: I don't know if she said it was like ten
Speaker 2: percent of people that like really really I forgot what
Speaker 2: she said. She named it something or called it something,
Speaker 2: but like that really really have that thing where they
Speaker 2: just it's really hard to get out, like they're really.
Speaker 1: Just better at home. And I'm like that.
Speaker 2: So now when I enter my adventure era and I
Speaker 2: intellectually decide I'm going to go out more and meet
Speaker 2: people more in date, et cetera. That's what I've said
Speaker 2: to myself. But the actuality of that is extremely activating
Speaker 2: for me, and I get ahead of myself because I
Speaker 2: think I can handle it now. Couple that with work
Speaker 2: and in my work end in my personal life as
Speaker 2: a result of being accessible. My number one problem in
Speaker 2: business that I've been told by so many people and
Speaker 2: by people and I'm in relationships with, is you're too accessible.
Speaker 2: You're too accessible. You're just letting people like call and
Speaker 2: email you directly and ask you things, and like you're
Speaker 2: in messages and talking to people and you're on the street,
Speaker 2: and like you're too accessible. And so I don't know
Speaker 2: if I'm good at regulating myself because it gets too
Speaker 2: far becomes an emotional emergency. But I do eventually regulate
Speaker 2: myself and say this is too activating. Sometimes being on
Speaker 2: social media is too activating. Sometimes being in social life
Speaker 2: is too activating. Sometimes dating is too activating. Sometimes drinking
Speaker 2: is too activating. So I've been out in the Hamptons
Speaker 2: and I was I went to something for business. I
Speaker 2: don't want to get into any kind of details, but
Speaker 2: I went into to something for business, and I thought
Speaker 2: it was going to be one thing, and it was
Speaker 2: very much another thing, and I felt very exposed and
Speaker 2: I was with a lot of people that I didn't know,
Speaker 2: lovely people, but I felt very overwhelmed and I felt
Speaker 2: the inclination to climb into a turtleshell. But I was
Speaker 2: out in public and having to engage in having to interact,
Speaker 2: and I felt like I was too accessible, and I
Speaker 2: felt like I was like slightly I felt I'm not
Speaker 2: saying this was happening. I felt like maybe I was
Speaker 2: being used a little bit for other reasons, and I
Speaker 2: just was feeling uncomfortable. And a couple of days in
Speaker 2: the next week, there was another social event and it
Speaker 2: was the John Mulaney comedy show, which had a hundred
Speaker 2: I think it was. Eventually I found out it was
Speaker 2: going to have two hundred and fifty people, and I
Speaker 2: was excited because I was in my place of yes Era,
Speaker 2: and I love stand up comedy, and I've never seen him,
Speaker 2: and I'm not I don't know his work that well,
Speaker 2: but I love stand up comedy and he's very successful.
Speaker 2: And it was in the Hamptons, and it was going
Speaker 2: to be probably an hour and change from my house,
Speaker 2: and I was excited to go after this other experience
Speaker 2: where I felt a little exposed and uncomfortable, and also
Speaker 2: I'm you know, my mother didn't die that long ago,
Speaker 2: and I've experienced a breakup. A lot of things are
Speaker 2: going on, and sometimes you're a delay and it's never
Speaker 2: about what it's about, and you're fragile and too accessible,
Speaker 2: and you know you don't have to be a public
Speaker 2: person to relate to, like getting ahead of yourself and
Speaker 2: thinking you can handle things you can't or things that
Speaker 2: don't matter becoming very important because you're sort of fragile
Speaker 2: and sensitive.
Speaker 1: And so I.
Speaker 2: The day before the John Mulaney Show said to my
Speaker 2: publicist and my team, to someone who works with me,
Speaker 2: I talked to her about it. I'm like, I don't
Speaker 2: think I should go. I don't think I should go.
Speaker 2: I'm overwhelmed. I'm feeling overwhelmed. And I don't even know
Speaker 2: why it was overwhelmed. I just felt like it's gonna
Speaker 2: be a lot of people, and I just feel raw,
Speaker 2: and I feel fragile, and I just don't.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't think it's good for me, and it sounds nuts,
Speaker 2: but some people understand, and we sent an email politely
Speaker 2: declined I don't know where the disconnect was or what happened.
Speaker 2: But the next day the media sent an email. Page
Speaker 2: six sent an email saying like, Bethany skipped out on
Speaker 2: this thing, and we're going to write a story. And
Speaker 2: my pup was just sent them the original email and
Speaker 2: they were going to kill the story. And Page six
Speaker 2: is every right to write that. But if any of
Speaker 2: you know anything about my personality, I'm never late, I'm accountable,
Speaker 2: et cetera. I would never skip out on something. I
Speaker 2: value someone else's time and someone else's experience. I also
Speaker 2: have done.
Speaker 1: Stand up comedy and I have been going to it.
Speaker 2: For years, and it's a very difficult medium, and I
Speaker 2: respect and honor the craft, and so I would never
Speaker 2: want someone to well, I'll get to that point.
Speaker 1: So I.
Speaker 2: Have a lot of respect for stand up comedians. I've
Speaker 2: said that ten thousand times on this podcast. I just
Speaker 2: really honor and respect the craft. So it says I
Speaker 2: skipped out. Page six said that, and I thought, okay, no,
Speaker 2: let's just correct that, which we did, and then I
Speaker 2: did an apology on social media because I heard that
Speaker 2: there were two signs in the front row saying my name,
Speaker 2: and I felt like, that's so horrible because he's performing
Speaker 2: and then there were two signs in the front row.
Speaker 1: And then later.
Speaker 2: I read that there is an opening act and he
Speaker 2: and John were both referencing back to the fact that
Speaker 2: I wasn't there and like, oh, we're happy to see
Speaker 2: everybody except for Bethany Frankel, Like I've been to these shows,
Speaker 2: Like it's like a bit that keeps going and it's
Speaker 2: landing and people are laughing and it's landing. And then
Speaker 2: someone who was there, Claudia Ashre podcast or she has
Speaker 2: a thing. Girl with No Job is her name, and
Speaker 2: she was there too, and I guess she wasn't rude
Speaker 2: about it, but on her podcast she talked about it.
Speaker 2: So the irony of me wanting to not go because
Speaker 2: I just didn't want to feel exposed and didn't want
Speaker 2: to feel raw and activated was now so exacerbated. And
Speaker 2: then I spoke to my girlfriend today and she was
Speaker 2: just like, my husband was there and there was a table,
Speaker 2: not two chairs. She said, there was a table VIP
Speaker 2: table dead center right in the front with your name
Speaker 2: on it, and they kept referencing back to it and
Speaker 2: the audience was cheering and everything, and she was like,
Speaker 2: and I said to myself, that's not like Bethany at all.
Speaker 2: She would never ever just skip out on something. So
Speaker 2: even though I apologized, I feel like it didn't like.
Speaker 2: I still felt like my community sometimes your community is
Speaker 2: more important to you than like more people, meaning it
Speaker 2: could be millions of people that know that I didn't
Speaker 2: that I didn't go, or whatever the story is, but
Speaker 2: like feeling like in my own home people think that
Speaker 2: I that, and it's so stupid. It doesn't matter. I know,
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. I just felt really like bad, and
Speaker 2: I just felt really sad. I was crying and I
Speaker 2: just was like, I need to take a minute. Something
Speaker 2: is off with me. I'm just not myself. And I said,
Speaker 2: you know, took a social media break, like decided I
Speaker 2: just did. I took a social media break. I was
Speaker 2: just feeling very vulnerable and very fragile. And I think
Speaker 2: we get too hooked in. And you know, while I
Speaker 2: was listening to Harry and Megan talk about the dangers
Speaker 2: of social media for the younger generation, I don't think
Speaker 2: that's a total blanket statement. I think in some ways
Speaker 2: my daughter has learned how to cook on social media
Speaker 2: and do different hairstyles, and she gets to express herself
Speaker 2: and people dance during the pandemic, and people were able
Speaker 2: to share their cooking and different things. So I think
Speaker 2: that social media cannot, as a blanket statement, be bad.
Speaker 2: But for me, I am very accessible. That's one of
Speaker 2: the areas that I'm most accessible. And I decided to
Speaker 2: take a little breather. I just I need a little breath.
Speaker 2: I just I got in, got a little overwhelmed and uncomfortable,
Speaker 2: and yeah, I guess my place of yes era might
Speaker 2: be might be coming to a screeching halt. I just
Speaker 2: don't think I can be as accessible as I've been,
Speaker 2: and I don't think I can do it all and
Speaker 2: say yes to it all as I thought that I could.
Speaker 2: But that's been always my plight, being too open to accessible.
Speaker 2: So that was what happened to get me into this
Speaker 2: place where I've been a little off.
Speaker 1: So that's my story.