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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: Yes we are, and we actually have a familiar face

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Speaker 3: in the o R today. She has scrubbed in before

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Speaker 3: and she's back for more.

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Speaker 4: Wow.

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Speaker 3: A rhyme does not even do that intentionally?

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Speaker 2: Is that a limerick or not technically?

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Speaker 3: Okay, but a poem? I don't know. Sicily, you don't

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Speaker 3: try to say simile. It's not that either.

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Speaker 2: It was just a poem. It was a rhyme.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a rhyme.

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Speaker 2: It's a lyric will wow.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 5: Anyways, we have had our guest today scrub in before

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Speaker 5: via zoom three years ago, almost to the day.

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Speaker 3: I know, and you know what, I our our producer

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Speaker 3: doing the Lord's work. She reminded me that I tried

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Speaker 3: to have Whitney Port set up with somebody three years ago,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, wait, I was dating Robbie three

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Speaker 3: years ago. But then I remember it was during that.

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Speaker 2: Right before the getting back together. Yes, right before the

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Speaker 2: orange dress.

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Speaker 3: Right before the orange dress. WHOA.

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Speaker 2: I wonder we should get an update on that guy.

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Speaker 3: I forget who he was, but I think he was great.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, we should an update on it for sure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm so excited to talk to her.

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Speaker 5: She's gonna be in studio with us, so we're gonna

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Speaker 5: sit down and have a chat all things going on

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Speaker 5: with her and get a little update on what she's

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Speaker 5: up to.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Whitney Port is our guest. And before we bring

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Speaker 3: her in here and have our conversation with Whitney, we

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Speaker 3: did want to give a warning because we will be

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Speaker 3: discussing the topic of body image relationship with food, and

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Speaker 3: so we just wanted to give you that warning now

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Speaker 3: before we jump in with Whitney and here she comes.

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Speaker 5: All right, you guys back in the scrubbing n o R.

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Speaker 5: We have Whitney for it.

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Speaker 6: Champagne yours yours bright really yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: That's what we all do on Monday.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: Cheers.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy that you're in this time on Zoom.

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Speaker 5: Well during it was twenty one, so it's still kind

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Speaker 5: of pandemic and like, yeah, Covidy and oh but that

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Speaker 5: was a lot that we chatted about that I want

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Speaker 5: to revisit because that was literally almost three years to

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Speaker 5: the day.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I don't think we meant to time that out, but

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Speaker 5: we'll pretend we did. Yeah, yeah, really on it like that.

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Speaker 5: But one thing that really stood out to me was

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Speaker 5: that in that episode, Tanya and Robbie, her current fiance,

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Speaker 5: we're on a break and so she was trying to

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Speaker 5: get her out of the darkness, like trying to convince

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Speaker 5: herself that she was ready to date.

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Speaker 2: And You're like, I have the perfect guy for you. Perfect.

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Speaker 2: It's like so weird because I can't.

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Speaker 6: Like me has so many single friends that are still

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Speaker 6: singer single.

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Speaker 3: But I'm like, who was the perfect guy for you?

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Speaker 2: If if I said.

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Speaker 6: He wasn't quite ready for marriage, like this is gonna

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Speaker 6: this is gonna kill me now I'm going to think of.

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Speaker 3: It by the end of this episode. But now, but

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Speaker 3: you don't even need him anymore.

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Speaker 2: I don't anybod.

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Speaker 3: I was wondering where is he now?

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Speaker 2: Like, where is he?

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Speaker 5: Where?

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Speaker 2: Did he have to know?

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Speaker 6: I would love to know who he is. I'm going

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Speaker 6: to think about it.

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Speaker 3: And then I also feel in that episode, I sent

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Speaker 3: you nipple covers.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, the the pasty Yes? Did you ever wear them?

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Speaker 6: I wear them all the time. I wear them all

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Speaker 6: the time. I need like whenever I travel, I bring

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Speaker 6: a pair with me. Yes, need them, because like I like,

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Speaker 6: I like a nipple, but it has to be the right,

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Speaker 6: it has to be tasteful.

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Speaker 2: It just depends on what I'm wearing.

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Speaker 6: And sometimes I feel like those nipple covers can act

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Speaker 6: as like little bras too, if you don't want to

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Speaker 6: wear a broad like at least it's a little bit

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Speaker 6: of a shape to the booby.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 6: I remember that you sent me those, but now I'm like,

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Speaker 6: very grateful I could have worn like a.

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Speaker 2: Nipple theme going on. Yeah I know.

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Speaker 3: Wait, it's like it's like a dumbbell. It's like this

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Speaker 3: is a gem shirt.

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Speaker 6: But I just like, I thought this was cute with this,

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Speaker 6: so I just went with it.

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Speaker 5: You're very cool and trendy always. Basically where we got

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Speaker 5: to know you from was being on the Hills and

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Speaker 5: then going to New York to chase your fashion dream.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're still very much in.

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Speaker 5: That world, Like every time I see you on Instagram,

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Speaker 5: I'm like, that outfit is amazing?

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Speaker 2: How to put that together?

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Speaker 5: Do you still feel as ingrained in that world and

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Speaker 5: passionate about it as you did when we first saw

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Speaker 5: you on TV, is it's still that much of a passion.

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Speaker 6: I It's different now, Like I still I do love, love,

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Speaker 6: love fashion, And it sounds so like cheesy to be

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Speaker 6: like fashion is a passion, but like, yes, I definitely

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Speaker 6: love it, but I don't feel like I'm as like

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Speaker 6: in it as I was when I was younger, and

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Speaker 6: now my lifestyle is different, and so I'm more like

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Speaker 6: just what's comfortable, what's like comfortable and cool and casual,

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Speaker 6: And it's not so much about like putting together looks

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Speaker 6: all the time now, And yes, like I love that,

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Speaker 6: but I'm really trying to more just show like how

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Speaker 6: we can elevate our style and feel like comfortable and

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Speaker 6: cool in like whatever, not necessarily always stressing up.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I also feel like for a minute that

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Speaker 5: Instagram and social media was all about being dressed to

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Speaker 2: The glam and the look.

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Speaker 6: And I think, like, yes, there's moments for that, and

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Speaker 6: that is still a part of my life, but like just.

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Speaker 3: Not as much anymore.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we've all moved on.

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Speaker 3: We've all I mean, like you walk in today, she looks.

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Speaker 2: No, I think it's just people have it.

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Speaker 3: I know you have it. You have it, I don't

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Speaker 6: I I feel like it's so nice that you say that,

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Speaker 6: because I feel like I don't like I feel like

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Speaker 6: it takes me effort, you know, like I had to

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Speaker 6: what I was going to wear today, like I need

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Speaker 6: to pack it into my getting ready time. Usually I

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Speaker 6: feel like I'm getting ready. My getting ready time is

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Speaker 6: an outfit, I have to add on like a fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 6: I'm not like a try on in advance and like

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Speaker 6: them ready to go, which I tell people to do

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Speaker 6: need to, like know, I need to feel like what

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Speaker 6: then I have a rack of stuff that like I

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Speaker 6: haven't worn, that I'll go to first and choose from there.

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Speaker 6: But yeah, I try to keep stuff in my closet,

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Speaker 6: like new stuff, separate a rack and like my separate office,

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Speaker 6: and then my regular stuff in my closet. It's not

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Speaker 6: the most it's not the easiest, but yeah, it's like

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Speaker 5: You have a rack of clothes that is basically like

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Speaker 5: going shopping, yeah, pretty much.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, or like stuff that I have bought for myself

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Speaker 6: or stuff that like the brands have said, Yeah, just

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Speaker 6: like gifted stuff that I keep separate that I try

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Speaker 6: to wear to like support the brands.

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Speaker 5: And then yeah, wow, yeah, I think you just you

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Speaker 5: but you have then.

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Speaker 6: But I feel like is my my mom was an

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Speaker 6: Like he silk screen and printed T shirts, Like he

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Speaker 6: shirts and then like bought licenses like Strawberry Shortcake and

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Speaker 6: so I feel like growing up with these two kinds

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Speaker 2: My creative Yeah, yeah, with your style.

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Speaker 5: Last time, so last time we were talking, we were saying

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Speaker 5: how that was right before they got back together and

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Speaker 5: you were saying that you're now husband. Yeah, there was

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Speaker 5: kind of a moment where y'all were benefits.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so we had an interesting store because friend of

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Speaker 2: Yeah you like she said they weren't official.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we weren't official, but we were so so long

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Speaker 6: story short. Timmy was a producer on the show that

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Speaker 6: So but we didn't get together. But it was like

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Speaker 6: show and the show was all about me, like living

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Speaker 6: It was like not a pururaged, not encouraged for producers,

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Speaker 6: and like that's talent to date as much. I mean

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Speaker 6: now it's not obviously, but for certain shows it's like

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Speaker 6: more accepted than others. But so we didn't actually nothing

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Speaker 6: and I met someone else, and I was still filming

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Speaker 6: the show, and like we had other relationships, and then

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Speaker 6: the show got canceled and I moved back to LA

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Speaker 6: and my relationship ended, and I just like I knew

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Speaker 6: that it was I wanted to be with Timmy, but

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Speaker 6: I knew that, like I was only maybe twenty five

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Speaker 6: at the time. I just felt like I wasn't ready

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Speaker 6: to settle down yet. So we had a couple months

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Speaker 6: of like fun and back and forth, and I was

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Speaker 6: having a good time. And then we had this date

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Speaker 6: where when I was in New York and he like

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Speaker 6: got a little drunk before and got some liquid courage

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Speaker 6: and basically was like either we're leaving tonight as boyfriend

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Speaker 6: and girlfriend or like I just I can't wait anymore.

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Speaker 6: And I in that moment, like I remember really not

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Speaker 6: wanting like not being ready, not really wanting to, but

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Speaker 6: knowing that I couldn't lose him, so I just like

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Speaker 6: But yeah, like I understand sometimes, like you were saying

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Speaker 6: with your partner, he wasn't necessarily ready, but he obviously

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Speaker 6: Yeah, And I think that just you don't even necessarily

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Speaker 3: Timmy always tries.

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Speaker 6: It tells me like two feelings can be there. They're

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like it was like last year, Yeah, last year,

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Speaker 5: But then you posted that that Timmy came to you

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Speaker 6: like I was like a little bit in denial.

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00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 2: About what was going on.

444
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 6: I mean, I basically what happened was like I had

445
00:21:55,400 --> 00:22:00,440
Speaker 6: posted something and I was telling Timmy like something like, oh,

446
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,160
Speaker 6: this is getting so much engagement or some like comment

447
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 6: about how it was performing, and he was like, that's

448
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,959
Speaker 6: because everybody's talking about your weight. And because I didn't

449
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,399
Speaker 6: look at I didn't read all the comments, and so

450
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:16,239
Speaker 6: then I started looking and I was like, oh my god, like,

451
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 6: what is even happening here. I didn't even know that

452
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 6: my weight was like a thing, like I haven't hadn't

453
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,960
Speaker 6: even really connected to it. And he was like, yeah,

454
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 6: I mean I he was like, I see what you eat,

455
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,959
Speaker 6: and I feel like you're healthy, but you have like

456
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 6: you have lost some weight, and I think it's something

457
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:38,199
Speaker 6: that we should like look into. And so that was

458
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:42,639
Speaker 6: the start of me kind of like looking into a

459
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:46,440
Speaker 6: little bit of unhealthy pattern that I was doing, kind

460
00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 6: of like this blaming being busy on and not kind

461
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 6: of just thinking about it like I was just it

462
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 6: just wasn't a priority in my life. And food for

463
00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 6: me never really has been. It hasn't been something like

464
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 6: like I really eat to live. I don't live to eat,

465
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,199
Speaker 6: and so it wasn't I'm not like so excited about food,

466
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 6: and so it wasn't me trying to lose weight or

467
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 6: being like conscious about my body, or it was just

468
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:18,439
Speaker 6: me not putting a priority on it and being like

469
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 6: lazy and so I it took me that introspection and like,

470
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 6: on one hand, I didn't really feel like I wanted

471
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 6: needed to say anything to my followers, like this is

472
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 6: my own thing. But on the other hand, like they

473
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:35,439
Speaker 6: did say something, and there were people that were showing

474
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:38,679
Speaker 6: true care. So I decided to comment on it, and

475
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,439
Speaker 6: I wish going looking back on it, that I hadn't

476
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 6: really made a comment about it, because I feel like

477
00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 6: when you when you well twofold again, the thing about

478
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 6: being things not being mutually exclusive. I when you make

479
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,119
Speaker 6: a comment on things, or when you pay attention to

480
00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,439
Speaker 6: something that people are highlighting, I feel like you're putting

481
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 6: your adding more gasoline to the fire, Like you're just

482
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,640
Speaker 6: putting people's attention more there than it.

483
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 3: Needs to be.

484
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 6: But I think it's also like you're in this give

485
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 6: and take relationship with your followers, like I've chosen to

486
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 6: have this job and I've chosen to like build this community,

487
00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 6: and it would be like pretty like rude and just

488
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 6: kind of I don't know, just I feel like I'd

489
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 6: be ignoring them to not talk about it, and we're

490
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 6: here to talk about what's really going on, and I

491
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 6: shouldn't be ashamed of it. So I did comment, and

492
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 6: then it took me at the beginning that was really

493
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 6: like the hardest stuff. I feel like I went through

494
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 6: even the mom's stuff, even like oh wow, like yeah,

495
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 6: I felt like the body stuff was because people weren't understanding.

496
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 6: They thought like that I had just had this eating

497
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 6: disorder and that I like the way I look, and

498
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 6: I'm like trying to put this out there and I'm

499
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 6: leading a bad example, and it just wasn't my story,

500
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 6: just wasn't what was going on. And so that was

501
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 6: what was really really frustrating for me, that like the narrative,

502
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 6: the narrative, the narrative was not my own truth.

503
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,639
Speaker 3: And that's what gets really hard.

504
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 6: But I think that also showing like talking about that

505
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 6: and now, like even yesterday I posted something that people

506
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:21,639
Speaker 6: totally took the wrong way that I was like thinking,

507
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,199
Speaker 6: should I clear up? But I posted something about ordering

508
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,119
Speaker 6: erewhon as being like it was like part of a

509
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 6: series of stories where I was like postmating Erewon and

510
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 6: watching How's Wives, and like I said something about being

511
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 6: gluttonous and irresponsible, and I meant that more in a

512
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 6: way of like spending you know, spent postmating and Erawan

513
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 6: smoothie and like diting and irresponsible. Yeah, and like sitting

514
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,719
Speaker 6: on the couch and watching How'swives, And people were like

515
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 6: that's like, so you know, it's leading such a bad

516
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 6: example to your followers like how is getting a healthy

517
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:02,199
Speaker 6: smoothie from Irawan and like lutinous and irresponsible and I'm like,

518
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 6: that's not what I meant, Like I.

519
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: Didn't mean you know. So it's those parts.

520
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 3: Gonna be frustrating. But I think for the most part, like.

521
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 6: I do, I feel a responsibility to share, and it's

522
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 6: always hard in the moment, but then when I have

523
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 6: space and perspective from it, it's always like not positive afterwards.

524
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's it's almost like you don't owe anyone anything,

525
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 5: but then you're letting them speculate and talk and then

526
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 5: to ignore it and not address it.

527
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 2: Feels like.

528
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 5: Are they going to tell a story that's not true? Yeah,

529
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 5: But then you're like I don't owe them anything.

530
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 6: Right, You're like, I don't want them to think something

531
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 6: that's not true. But then I also don't care about

532
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 6: I shouldn't care about what anybody thinks. It's like they

533
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 6: don't know me, and why am I holding space for

534
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 6: what they care about me? So yeah, it's definitely this

535
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 6: hard push and pull, but I'm like I do I do?

536
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,439
Speaker 6: I say those things, and then I'm like I do

537
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 6: care about them though, Like.

538
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:07,199
Speaker 3: Like girls, so I feel like to you, it feels

539
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 3: like these are like this is your sisterhood, you know

540
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 3: what I mean. I get that.

541
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, these are like my buddies that are that support,

542
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 6: that are there for me. Like when I post these things,

543
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 6: it's so validating for me too, Like it's so therapeutic

544
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 6: and so cathartic. It's like let me it's a release,

545
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 6: Like I put it out there and then I can

546
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 6: almost like kind of forget what it was about, you know,

547
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 6: because I've like put it out there into the world

548
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 6: to kind of like.

549
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 2: Spread it and then I'm like, Okay, now I'm done

550
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 2: with it. Yeah.

551
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, did you feel like did you do you feel

552
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 5: like if Timmy Hatton said something that there would have

553
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 5: never been a feeling of needing to address.

554
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:52,400
Speaker 6: It maybe yeah, unless I sort of yeah, I think

555
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 6: that I was like really head down in my own

556
00:27:56,240 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 6: like operating mind. Yeah. And some friends though, like reached

557
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,120
Speaker 6: out to me afterwards once I like said something about it,

558
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:07,679
Speaker 6: and they were like, I was going to talk to

559
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 6: you about it.

560
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 3: Like I was starting to get worried, and it.

561
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 6: Was also on the heels of a lot of fertility

562
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 6: stuff that had caused me to lose a lot of weight.

563
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 6: Like I had gotten really this stomach flu right before

564
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 6: I was about to do an IVF cycle, and I

565
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 6: was like throwing up NonStop and like could have torn

566
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 6: up my esophagus and then couldn't eat it, like, and

567
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 6: I had all this anxiety for the IVF, and so

568
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 6: it was all this stuff that like led to this moment.

569
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 3: I think the thing is like it kind of with infertility.

570
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 3: Fertility body image is also something that I think is

571
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 3: on every woman's mind. Even if you are you know,

572
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 3: so so confident in your body, who you are grateful

573
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 3: for it, it's always something that's kind of if it's

574
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 3: on the front of our minds, it's always in the

575
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 3: back of our minds. And so I do think, like

576
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 3: I do want to commend you for saying something, because

577
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 3: I think that it is something that every woman thinks

578
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 3: about in some way, shape or form.

579
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 6: I wish we didn't so much, but it's like how

580
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 6: we've been trained.

581
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 3: No, And I think, like I think recently a lot

582
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,479
Speaker 3: of people I know a lot of people that are

583
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 3: struggling with ozebic being so prevalent because they're seeing their

584
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 3: friends that were the same size as them shrink to

585
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 3: half the size and they're eating clean and working out

586
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 3: and doing all these things, and like then they feel

587
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 3: frustrated and they you know what I mean, Like it's

588
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 3: like it's this thing like I've been seeing. I've been

589
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 3: feeling it that way too. Like I'm like I feel

590
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 3: like I, like I was saying to Becca, like I

591
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 3: never have I've never aready had body issues and then recently,

592
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: like I'm like, I take such good care of myself

593
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 3: and you would think that it would have an impact

594
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 3: on my body and I'm not seeing it. But it's

595
00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 3: like I get I think it's like warped because of

596
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 3: everything that's going on around.

597
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 5: I think it.

598
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 6: Probably is warped. I think that we have I feel

599
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 6: like I don't know. I don't want to like put

600
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 6: a label on anyone or but I feel like living

601
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 6: in LA and in this industry, all of us probably

602
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 6: have a little bit of body dysmorphia just based on

603
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 6: all the people that were coming in contact every day

604
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 6: and everything that we're like witnessing. You know, we it's

605
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 6: like subconscious, we don't even realize what we're what we're

606
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 6: like witnessing and absorbing.

607
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 3: So I totally get.

608
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 6: That, but I think that that it's It's so interesting

609
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 6: because there's like two ends of the spectrum.

610
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 3: There's like this whole shift and culture where it's.

611
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 6: Like body positivity and models are being represented, you know,

612
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 6: in different ways, and there's like all this representation and

613
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 6: then on the other hand there's like ozembic and this,

614
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 6: you know, it's still it's like where how do we

615
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 6: find the happy medium? And I wonder how kids, Like

616
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 6: I'm you know, I only have a six year old.

617
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 6: I'm like think, I wonder how teenagers and like young

618
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 6: twenty somethings are dealing with their body and this day

619
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 6: and age, Like are they more comfortable because of the

620
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 6: positivity body positivity messaging or like I wonder what their

621
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 6: brains are feeling right now. It's like a millennial thing.

622
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think it's all ages because I'll be and

623
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 5: another thing, you scroll TikTok, you see people from all

624
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 5: over the world, every age and you're going like, oh

625
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 5: my gosh, she's so young, her skin's so fresh.

626
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, So that's what I'm doing now, is like the

627
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 2: young thing.

628
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 6: Like as I'm approaching forty, it's like not about my

629
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 6: weight because I'm like I'm thin and I don't I

630
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:31,400
Speaker 6: need I need to like put on way, but I

631
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 6: I will look at people and automatically, it's like it

632
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 6: doesn't even it's like subconscious, I'm like her, she looks

633
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 6: so old or she looks so young, Like I'm immediately

634
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 6: labeling that and I need to stop because it's so

635
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 6: unhealthy and unfair. And I feel like it's then inherently

636
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 6: making me judge myself.

637
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 5: My mom's in town from Florida right now, and she

638
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:00,040
Speaker 5: was saying something about looking old or feeling old, and

639
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 5: it like, was this perspective shift because I look at

640
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 5: my mom. I could get emotional, but I look at

641
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 5: my mom and I'm like, she's so beautiful and she's

642
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 5: getting older, and I'm like, I appreciate this, the beauty.

643
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 2: And life lived. And I'm like, don't talk about yourself

644
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 2: like that.

645
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, And then I see how we're talking about ourselves.

646
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 5: We're still so young, I know, and there's so much

647
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 5: more life to live, and it's like, why do we

648
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 5: do this to ourselves.

649
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 3: It's so silly, it's so but it's so true. I

650
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 3: think that's that's when I know, because.

651
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 2: It's so true.

652
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: It's like I like, I'm I'm planning a wedding, and

653
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 1: I keep like in the back of my head, I'm thinking,

654
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: like I'm getting older and I want to have a

655
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: baby and like and I'm putting so much pressure on that,

656
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, like why did I do this

657
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: a year ago? Like why don't do it faster? And

658
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: it's like we just it's like this constant like spiral.

659
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 6: I think that there's like two things, and this is

660
00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 6: just from therapy what.

661
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 2: She's taught me myself.

662
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 6: One thing is is like when you start to beat

663
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 6: yourself up about what you could have done, like it's

664
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 6: just a waste of your time and energy because it's

665
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 6: already done. So like why then add on beating yourself

666
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 6: up as like part of the element, you know what

667
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 6: I mean, Like it's already done, Like leave the past

668
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 6: in the past. And then I think also really trying

669
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 6: to give yourself grace and talking to yourself as like

670
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 6: the little nine year old or eight year old version

671
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 6: of yourself, you know, like talking to yourself like you

672
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 6: would a daughter or a little niece, or just envisioning

673
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 6: yourself like that and being as like gentle and sensitive

674
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 6: and kind to yourself and trying to like help yourself

675
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 6: get through it in that way. But it's I think

676
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 6: also just knowing that that's completely normal and that every

677
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 6: single person is doing that, no matter what they look

678
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 6: like or how much money they have.

679
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 3: Or whatever it is.

680
00:33:55,440 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 6: You know, everyone's like everyone has, yeah things that we

681
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 6: need to come back to, like what we do have

682
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 6: that we are like so grateful, I know.

683
00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 3: Like it's so funny because I think back on like

684
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 3: Tanya in her twenties, I'm like, I don't want to

685
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,280
Speaker 3: go back to her, Like I'm so much more confident,

686
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: so much more secure, Like I'm so much more the

687
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: woman that I'm proud to be today than I was

688
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,359
Speaker 3: in my twenties, you know what I mean. It's like, yeah, yeah,

689
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 3: we're always like ahh, you know, like longing for that,

690
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 3: and it's like, no, I'm actually really good where I am.

691
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 6: I know, I know, I think that that we have

692
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 6: to stop going into the past.

693
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 3: I just did fantasize it.

694
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 6: Yes, I just did a meditation yesterday that I posted.

695
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 6: I do like a ten minute like Jeff Warren's Daily

696
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 6: Calm every day, and it was all about like respecting

697
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,839
Speaker 6: and appreciating the person that you are now and not

698
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:50,719
Speaker 6: romanticizing who you were, and that it's like it was

699
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 6: great that you were once that person, but finding the

700
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 6: things in you now that you like so much more

701
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,720
Speaker 6: than you did then, and how much more meaningful those

702
00:34:58,760 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 6: things are, you know.

703
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you feel so grateful? Like where are your

704
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 5: thoughts on social media? Because when you were on the Hills,

705
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:10,759
Speaker 5: there wasn't Instagram, And yeah, are you grateful that that

706
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 5: didn't exist?

707
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 2: Yes?

708
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 6: I think that that is what has helped me be

709
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 6: able to have like such a healthy relationship with social media,

710
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 6: and like why I haven't like gone crazy or you

711
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 6: know what I mean, Like I never had to deal

712
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 6: with with those crazy fans or like mean things.

713
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 2: You know.

714
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,480
Speaker 6: We would just the episodes would go out on Tuesday,

715
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:34,959
Speaker 6: and like we wouldn't know what anybody thought, you.

716
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 3: Know, like yeah, I wouldn't know what anybody thought.

717
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 6: We would just get like download numbers, you know. So

718
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 6: so that was amazing. That was I think it was

719
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 6: really refreshing. And I feel so bad for the generation

720
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:50,759
Speaker 6: of people that have to go on there and get

721
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 6: everything like torn apart now. But I think Timmy and

722
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,479
Speaker 6: I were just having this discussion about like the whole

723
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 6: Andy Cohen and like all that stuff it's like people

724
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 6: also know what or people should know at this point

725
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 6: with reality TV, like what they're signing themselves up for.

726
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 2: You know, I know it's true.

727
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 5: We just talked to Chelsea from Love is Blind, and

728
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 5: you know, she even said she was like, I know

729
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 5: when I went on the show, I know what I

730
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 5: was signing up for.

731
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: But you can never prepare.

732
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 6: You can't prepare. It's true. You can't prepare because you don't.

733
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 6: You think you know, and you think you'll be able

734
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 6: to handle it, but then when the feelings get real, yeah, yeah, yeah.

735
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 5: Speaking of TikTok, the last time you were on, both

736
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 5: you and Tanya were very I wouldn't say anti.

737
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 2: TikTok, just like I don't want to just yeah.

738
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 6: We're still just not I'm still pretty not right.

739
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 2: Do you scroll?

740
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 6: Like, will you look at the same I just can't, Like,

741
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 6: I don't even really want to scroll be a scroller

742
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 6: on Instagram, honestly.

743
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 3: See I like that.

744
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 2: I like, I I don't.

745
00:36:58,120 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 6: I will do it for a little and then I'll

746
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 6: myself because I don't want to just like endlessly scroll

747
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 6: because I have been finding that I'm I'm I'm leaving

748
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:10,839
Speaker 6: feeling like less than like I should be doing more

749
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 6: and I don't want to. I don't want to feel

750
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 6: that way. Maybe it's the accounts that I'm following and

751
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 6: change up that algorithm. Yeah, maybe I need to change

752
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 6: exactly a little bit.

753
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 2: But I yeah, I don't want to endlessly scroll.

754
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 6: And I I don't find like value in that. I

755
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 6: feel like it more stunts my creativity than like gives

756
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 6: me creativity.

757
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:39,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, it does, because everything's an everyone's doing the same

758
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 5: thing because it's like to have engagement, you have to

759
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 5: do a trend.

760
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 2: Yeah I know. Yeah, so you're like just saying the

761
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 2: same thing over and over again.

762
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 6: I know.

763
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 3: And it's not it's not my thing. Oh my gosh.

764
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 3: I feel like it's like school to me. Like I'm

765
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 3: like I learned about spraying magnesium on the bottom of

766
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:59,439
Speaker 3: my feet that I love.

767
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: That's what I would like.

768
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 6: Like I like, I like like slime Instagram accounts, you know,

769
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 6: or like I can watch someone make like weird slime,

770
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 6: Like I saw a cool tear slime that look it

771
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 6: was anyways, like something like.

772
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:17,399
Speaker 3: That, or how to make you smell without candle that's sure,

773
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 3: yeah a little yeah, that's great.

774
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 6: Like the things I can add value down and now

775
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 6: I'm trying to like, how can I be an account

776
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 6: that adds that kind of value.

777
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:29,840
Speaker 2: Like I do you are?

778
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 6: I mean yes, but more I want to be more.

779
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 6: My goal is to do I really just want to

780
00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 6: do things my way, and I don't want to succumb

781
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 6: to like trends and whatnot. But I want to add

782
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 6: more value than just like what am I wearing?

783
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 3: Like I have to.

784
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 6: I have to find the balance of like value and

785
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 6: education and fun with also like the fashion and beauty stuff.

786
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think though you've done a great job even

787
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 5: with your series that you do on YouTube and your podcast, Like.

788
00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 2: I I feel like you have a really BEAUTIFU. I

789
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 2: know there's always that feeling of needing to do more.

790
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 6: But yeah, and I don't want to feel that way,

791
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 6: but yeah, I try to keep everything. I try to

792
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 6: like hit all the buckets, but I have like the

793
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:13,399
Speaker 6: more personal stuff on the podcast. And I think what's

794
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 6: hard is that everyone just wants everything to be in

795
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 6: one place and like easily accessible. You know, it's like

796
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 6: where can I hear this or like update us on this?

797
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 6: And I'm like, well, I talked about it in my

798
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 6: podcast like a month ago, but I can't, like I

799
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 6: just can't update everything. Yeah, I'm like, like I say,

800
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 6: I'm a geriatric millennial who like didn't grow up with

801
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 6: social media, so I've had to do my own thing

802
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 6: with it.

803
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 4: Yeah.

804
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 5: Speaking of TikTok, do you have any opinions on Kristen Cavalaries.

805
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 2: And her voice? That's so funny because I was like, I'm.

806
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 3: Sorry, I know so good. Wow, I did not.

807
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:10,240
Speaker 6: See that because I did see that on Instagram.

808
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 2: I know nothing about it. I haven't seen his TikTok.

809
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:15,320
Speaker 2: I have seen.

810
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 6: I've seen two videos and I saw that that they

811
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 6: were the videos of like a couple of guys like

812
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 6: just kind of waking. Okay, I don't even think I

813
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:32,840
Speaker 6: watched it down He's he's like super hot, He's so hot.

814
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:36,320
Speaker 6: But I don't know, like I have no comment.

815
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 2: It's like I don't know, you know, like in to her,

816
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:44,839
Speaker 2: so you.

817
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 3: Know, like why not what I know?

818
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,839
Speaker 5: I know there's opinions about the age thing. I don't

819
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 5: really how he's how old? How old does she thirty seven?

820
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 5: It's like, well that's whatever you guys. I know, if

821
00:40:58,239 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 5: it was a thirty seven year old.

822
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 3: Man a day twenty four year old woman's just like

823
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 3: that's like, yeah, every on Friday, no one can say anything. No,

824
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,280
Speaker 3: no one, no one can say anything.

825
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 5: That's a lot of people had opinions, but I was like,

826
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 5: I don't really care about that.

827
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 2: I'm just so fascinated by his TikTok p.

828
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, like that is a little like what is going

829
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 6: on but maybe you know, you never know, it's like

830
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 6: going on upstairs.

831
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,919
Speaker 3: But attracted. That's what attracted her to him. She thought

832
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 3: he was like she was like because she answered all

833
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 3: these questions on her podcast and she was saying how

834
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 3: she'd seen the like two thousand, she's like the one,

835
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,759
Speaker 3: and she referenced like the one being super hot and

836
00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 3: then they started like dming and she didn't know who

837
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 3: it was and the Montana boys, like she didn't know

838
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 3: which one it was, and he said it was him

839
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 3: and she, oh, it's you know, the cute one.

840
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 6: She I think that she's always like she just she

841
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 6: doesn't care what anybody thinks, which I love about her.

842
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 6: And she just wants to do what like fills her

843
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 6: soul up and have a good time, and I I

844
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 6: like respect that about her, and like I never got

845
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 6: to really film with her because when I went to

846
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,479
Speaker 6: New York to film the Cities when she came onto

847
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 6: the hills.

848
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 3: Oh right, So we never really.

849
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 6: Like cross paths and I always felt like we would

850
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 6: have gotten along. But she seems like a great time.

851
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

852
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 5: She just has that cool girl energy that's like, I'm

853
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 5: gonna do what I want to do. Yeah, like she

854
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 5: knows that people are gonna have opinions that she doesn't care.

855
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 3: She really doesn't because she's been dealing with it.

856
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 6: I feel like her whole existence, like since she was

857
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 6: sixteen years old, and she's always been I mean I

858
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 6: know this because I like rewatched it on our YouTube

859
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 6: series to Me and I rewatched Laguna Beach, and like

860
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,759
Speaker 6: she's always been really confident, Like ever since she was

861
00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 6: a teenager, she was always confident and that attracted guys.

862
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 6: And I think that that like, yeah, she just she

863
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 6: gets it.

864
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 5: Are you still close with anyone from the show or

865
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 5: have you kind of has I know everyone's started their lives, yeah,

866
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 5: moved in different paths. But is there anyone that you

867
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 5: were like that you text regularly or hang out or

868
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 5: see You're just.

869
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 6: Not really like no, I mean when you think about it,

870
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 6: that was for me, like almost twenty years ago filming.

871
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:15,800
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

872
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 6: Yeah, and uh when I started was twenty years ago,

873
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 6: and like I was always just in that closet with Lauren.

874
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 6: You know, I wasn't ever really socially good friends with everybody,

875
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 6: with anybody, so I haven't really kept in touch with anybody.

876
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 6: Like Kelly Patrone, you know from the City Days, Well

877
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 6: she was on the Hills too, But yeah, like when

878
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 6: we filmed The Hills New Beginnings, we were all like

879
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 6: seeing each other and a little bit more in touch.

880
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 3: But yeah, since then, just different vibes. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

881
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 3: but it's the same thing about who were you hanging

882
00:43:54,719 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 3: out with twenty years ago?

883
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 2: I know, right, well just because they revamped the show and.

884
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,799
Speaker 6: They revamped the sho but it gave me so much anxiety,

885
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 6: Like I didn't I just felt like why am I

886
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 6: doing this? Kind of like they wanted they wanted everyone

887
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 6: to like it be a vander Pump Rules vibe where

888
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 6: we were all hanging out and like going out and

889
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,479
Speaker 6: best friends, but not everybody was like we kind of had.

890
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 6: Everyone had gone in their own ways and we were

891
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 6: all just starting to have kids and we weren't going

892
00:44:24,239 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 6: out to night clubs and so it was just like,

893
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 6: tried something that just didn't work, and the whole filming

894
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 6: of it gaming anxiety.

895
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 5: Yeah you were like you said yes, but there wasn't

896
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 5: a peace about it.

897
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 2: No, I'm like.

898
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 3: Why, why?

899
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 5: What?

900
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 2: Who do I hang out with?

901
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 6: Like I loved like I Jen del Gatto, Frankie's wife,

902
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,720
Speaker 6: was like and at the time there was Jason Waller

903
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 6: and Ashley Waller who were super sweet and like Audrina

904
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 6: is always the sweetest. But then uh, yeah, we're like

905
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 6: out at clubs and I'm like, why am I here

906
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 6: by myself?

907
00:44:58,880 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 3: Yeah?

908
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 6: Like with me, Like why are we filming with Misha Barton?

909
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 6: Do you remember when they cast her?

910
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 5: Yeah?

911
00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 6: I forgot she was Yeah, they cast her and it

912
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:11,760
Speaker 6: was like what yeah.

913
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, we try things, We throw spaghetti to.

914
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:17,000
Speaker 2: The wall and we just do that phase of my life.

915
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 2: I don't want to do that anymore.

916
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 6: I was doing that up until the end of twenty

917
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 6: twenty three, and like beginning of twenty twenty four, I

918
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,439
Speaker 6: was like, I am not throwing things at the wall

919
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 6: and seeing what sticks anymore. Like I'm simplifying and I'm

920
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 6: doing what makes me happy love and I think that

921
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,400
Speaker 6: that like that has been key for me.

922
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 2: I love that.

923
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:38,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, is that what you? I feel like?

924
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 2: I don't.

925
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 3: I'm very fascinated bout your relationship. I just give a

926
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 3: really good marriage. Do you You probably don't do this,

927
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 3: but do you guys ever have like family meetings or

928
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 3: like like once a week, do you like check in

929
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 3: with each other? Like how does we.

930
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:57,359
Speaker 6: We not like official, but we'll definitely we we have

931
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:00,120
Speaker 6: moments throughout the day where we'll do like quick download

932
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 6: of what's going on and see like how we can

933
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 6: help each other. And it helps because for us, it

934
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 6: works because we both aren't working nine to five, so

935
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,240
Speaker 6: nine to five, so we're able to like be partners

936
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 6: in that way, like who's doing pickup, who has to work?

937
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 6: So we're always very connected and know what's going on

938
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 6: in each other, live in each other's lives, and I'm

939
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:21,839
Speaker 6: codependent in that way, like I kind of need that.

940
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 6: And we also do like we do these date nights,

941
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 6: which are really therapeutic. We do these episodes on our

942
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:33,759
Speaker 6: podcast every other week. We record like a date night

943
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 6: where we sit down and talk about like what we

944
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 6: would talk about if we were on a date night,

945
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 6: and it kind of we go through like if there

946
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 6: were any fights or disagreements or things that we wanted

947
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 6: to clear off our like our head. We go through

948
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,799
Speaker 6: like some goals for next week and how we can

949
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 6: support each other with them, and then like some fun

950
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 6: things like some pop culture palette cleansers, where we're just

951
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 6: like talk about something fun that each of us are

952
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:04,360
Speaker 6: like that's in the news that we're interested in. It's fun,

953
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 6: and that like that was a work thing that we

954
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 6: thought would be fun that's turned into like an actual

955
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 6: hour of like real connection time for us.

956
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 3: But I think just like choosing the right partner, it's.

957
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 6: Like key yeah, yeah, and like a partner that really

958
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 6: is down to communicate, like someone that is really not

959
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 6: scared of communicating and like.

960
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 2: Understand willing to understand women.

961
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:36,239
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, I think that's very important.

962
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:38,280
Speaker 2: I think a lot of women don't have.

963
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 6: That true and they're okay with it at the beginning,

964
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:44,959
Speaker 6: or they think that they'll get it later when things

965
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 6: get more serious or whatever. But I think that like

966
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 6: having that someone having like a sharp emotional and IQ

967
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 6: and like wanting to be in tune with you being.

968
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 3: Your best is so important.

969
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

970
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I want to talk before we let you go.

971
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 5: I want to talk about some fashion trends and see

972
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 5: your takes on.

973
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 3: Okay, let's do it.

974
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 2: So Morgan Stewart has said that checkered vans.

975
00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 5: I know, I saw that our back the new sambas

976
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 5: is what she said.

977
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:22,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't go that far, like I still have.

978
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 6: I still have a lot of checkered vans and I

979
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 6: won't get rid of them, like I have more of

980
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 6: the lace I kind of like the lace up ones

981
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 6: better than the slip arms.

982
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:33,760
Speaker 3: But it's not I can't.

983
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 6: It's like the checker is too busy to like go

984
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 6: with everything. And it's funny because I'm wearing sambas today,

985
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 6: but like Checker Advans wouldn't go with this in the

986
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 6: same way. Maybe she would say it would, but I

987
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 6: I used to love Checker Advans, but like, no, it's not.

988
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 6: It's I wouldn't say a no. I wouldn't say it's

989
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:55,879
Speaker 6: like a no. But they're definitely not. I don't think

990
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:56,839
Speaker 6: they're the new song So.

991
00:48:56,880 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 3: Like when when needed, whensed when necessary?

992
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:05,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, capris or as Tanya called them, pedal pushers.

993
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 3: I know well, the pedal pushers. So that just shows

994
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 3: you where I'm at. In my fashion.

995
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 2: Ushers, I thought they were I'm down.

996
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 6: I almost bought a pair of like, well maybe they

997
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 6: were more like Bermuda shorts. But I also controversial, I know,

998
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 6: very controversial, but I think it's like totally dependent on

999
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:31,280
Speaker 6: your like what you're comfortable with and like the shapes

1000
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 6: that you're comfortable with.

1001
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:35,439
Speaker 3: I think that if you're down that, go for it.

1002
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 6: But if it feels a little bit weird for you,

1003
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:41,359
Speaker 6: don't like. That's what I always feel about trends. I'm

1004
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 6: always like, even if it's on trends, if it feels

1005
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,439
Speaker 6: weird or uncomfortable for you, don't do it, then that's

1006
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 6: not a trend.

1007
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 3: For you know, rather wear a micro short that's like

1008
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 3: up my vagina, commuter.

1009
00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 6: I know, I know, I get it, So so don't like,

1010
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 6: and that's fine.

1011
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 2: There's just some people and I'm with you.

1012
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 5: I'm like, listen, if you're like I want to be

1013
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 5: a part of the trend, and I don't care if

1014
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 5: it looks as great on me as it doesn't someone else,

1015
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 5: go for it. I know what looks good on my

1016
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,840
Speaker 5: body and what silhouettes don't look good on my body.

1017
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:21,240
Speaker 6: I think that's important to know, even just for you,

1018
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:25,360
Speaker 6: like you, it's just it's just fat getting dressed like

1019
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 6: really should be for you, you know, and like, yes,

1020
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 6: it's fun to dress for events or for other people

1021
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 6: and like partners or whatever. But I think that like

1022
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 6: if you're not feeling confident, then it's it's gonna show

1023
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:41,920
Speaker 6: and like then there's no fun in it.

1024
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:45,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, what's one what's one piece of clothing or like

1025
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 5: an item where if they were like this is not

1026
00:50:47,239 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 5: in anymore, You're like, I don't care.

1027
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 2: This is forever going to be something that I keep.

1028
00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:54,240
Speaker 6: I think like for me, it's more of a trend

1029
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 6: of like the baggy like middle aged dad look is

1030
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,480
Speaker 6: like always going to be my vibe. It has been

1031
00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 6: since I was a little girl, Like I'm always been

1032
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 6: a tracksuit like chunky sneaker person, and it's that's comfortable

1033
00:51:10,640 --> 00:51:13,799
Speaker 6: for me, and I like and I don't I don't care,

1034
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 6: like I'll always wait yeah.

1035
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 2: No matter what, no matter.

1036
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1037
00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 2: This was from Danielle. She wants to know about your skin.

1038
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:24,360
Speaker 6: Your Okay, I was going to say both your skin

1039
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 6: your skin so so oh my god, I think for me,

1040
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:37,240
Speaker 6: so this I feel like the secret for me without

1041
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:41,879
Speaker 6: going into like so much skincare prep is like one

1042
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 6: exfoliating a couple times a week, Like I'll use an

1043
00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:47,720
Speaker 6: exfoliator with like a bead in it a couple times

1044
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 6: a week. And I derma plane, which is essentially I

1045
00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 6: go to somewhere like this cheap spot.

1046
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 3: I don't want to call it cheap spot.

1047
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 6: But this great spot in Studio City that does like

1048
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 6: a derma plane derma plane. And then hydrofacials, which I

1049
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:07,879
Speaker 6: think are like they clean you out and they make

1050
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 6: your skin so glowy.

1051
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,759
Speaker 2: So those I think regularly are important.

1052
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 6: And then also for my base whenever I'm for my makeup,

1053
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:20,760
Speaker 6: I mix an oil. I have this like Monica Blunder

1054
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 6: beauty oil that I mix with my moisturizer and so

1055
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 6: it gives like a little bit of a glow before

1056
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 6: I put on my cosmetics. I feel like the oil

1057
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 6: is what gives my skin that glow before I put

1058
00:52:33,520 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 6: on my makeup.

1059
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 3: She's like highlighted in all the right spots. Facials has

1060
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 3: been trying to get me to do that, and I

1061
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 3: do it.

1062
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:47,359
Speaker 6: Because your skin is gorgeous, and dermaplane would like like

1063
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 6: slough off all not that you even need it, but

1064
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 6: it just sl no, I'm it would like it does,

1065
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 6: and it it makes your makeup go on even if

1066
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:00,239
Speaker 6: you wanted to do it like right before you're wedding,

1067
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:02,440
Speaker 6: it would be good because it makes your makeup go

1068
00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 6: on so much smoother.

1069
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:07,280
Speaker 3: I felt like it would make me grow mustache.

1070
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 2: So I mean yes, like you can't.

1071
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:11,319
Speaker 6: I have definitely a little bit of peach buzz that

1072
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 6: I have to keep on top of.

1073
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 3: But I just like have.

1074
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 6: I have a little Dermo plane thing that I order

1075
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 6: from Amazon. It's easy, Yeah, totally easy.

1076
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 4: You can do.

1077
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 3: It's something you can do all right, all right in

1078
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 3: the fix in my fixer uprare.

1079
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 2: So I'll just.

1080
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 6: Shout out to ask cares in the valley. They're good,

1081
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:29,800
Speaker 6: like affordable and.

1082
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:31,800
Speaker 3: Works.

1083
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 2: We love that.

1084
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1085
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:36,920
Speaker 2: Last question, would you ever do reality TV? Again?

1086
00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 6: I would not do like a docu drama, you know,

1087
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 6: like a Housewives or Hills or like where they come

1088
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 6: into your home and shoot your family with like no plan,

1089
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 6: Like I know that would never do. But would I

1090
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 6: be part of like some sort of fun formatted show

1091
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 6: or like a judge on something or I don't know,

1092
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:02,799
Speaker 6: like fashion competition. I don't even know what there would be,

1093
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 6: but yes, like that. I'm not opposed to TV, I

1094
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 6: just don't want I wouldn't ever put my relationship or

1095
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 6: like my family life.

1096
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 2: But like a game like Traders or something like that.

1097
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Speaker 6: Oh my god, I don't know Traders. I know I

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00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 6: know Timmy is like, you should do.

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00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 3: What was the one he told.

1100
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 2: Me I could do an Amazing Race?

1101
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 3: I thought I would totally do.

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Speaker 6: I feel like he wanted me to do Survivor maybe,

1103
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,360
Speaker 6: but I can. I could not, Like, I can't go

1104
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:40,959
Speaker 6: that long without he loves Survivor. Wait, big Big Brother

1105
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 6: celebrity to.

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00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 3: Do Celebrities They don't. But I really I think Timmy

1107
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:53,399
Speaker 3: and I would be good on Amazing Race.

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00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 5: Seems like you'll communicate well, which I think is a

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00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 5: big thing on Amazing Race.

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00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 3: Yeah that would be fun.

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00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 2: Okay, so no more he'll reboots Hills?

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00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 3: Would you docu dramas?

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00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:08,360
Speaker 6: No more docu dramas and like probably not Dancing with

1114
00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 6: the Stars or something like that so fun to watch.

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00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 3: I could not. I don't think I love to dance,

1116
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 3: but like I could not take myself. No, I love

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00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:19,800
Speaker 3: to watch on Traders though you would, Yes, I feel

1118
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 3: like look into season three?

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00:55:21,480 --> 00:55:21,800
Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, I get your publicist on that because like

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00:55:24,760 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 5: I don't even have a publicis don't want to.

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00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 6: He actually has asked if he should be my fake

1123
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 6: publicist before he's like, I could be like taught at

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Speaker 6: whitneyport dot com and just like like no, not just

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00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:42,320
Speaker 6: to get traders were making funny.

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00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:46,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, I would be so okay.

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Speaker 6: First off, I was a trader, like how could I lie?

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Speaker 6: And then if I wasn't a trader, I would be

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00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:53,799
Speaker 6: so paranoid.

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Speaker 3: I think you'd be good. I think you'd be a

1131
00:55:56,440 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 3: good like a strong, faithful leader. Interesting, I don't know.

1132
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,839
Speaker 2: I think she could be a trader because no one

1133
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 2: would suspect her.

1134
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 3: I don't see you as a trader. Is it, like,

1135
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 3: do you think it would be like good for me

1136
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 3: for my career?

1137
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Speaker 2: I cannot.

1138
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 3: We just don't spaghetti to be like as a public

1139
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:19,400
Speaker 3: know if it's going to elevate?

1140
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 5: All right, apartment, Thank you so much for coming in

1141
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,280
Speaker 5: and being in studio and scrumming it and being open

1142
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:30,440
Speaker 5: and vulnerable.

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Speaker 2: Even though I'm the one that cried the ones.

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00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 5: I usually the one that it's just you know, like

1145
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 5: I never see my parents, so it's fresh just with them.

1146
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:43,600
Speaker 3: This week. I just cry when she cries.

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00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 6: I know it's like a sister thing. Whenever I see

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00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 6: my sisters crying, it's just.

1149
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:49,479
Speaker 3: Like a meeting.

1150
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 2: What you're crying about.

1151
00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:54,239
Speaker 6: Like I'm going through something tough and I feel like

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00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 6: I can hold it together. And then I call my

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00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:57,840
Speaker 6: mom and I hear her voice. It's just like a

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Speaker 6: media Mom.

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Speaker 2: But we love you so much.

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00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 3: This is so fun.

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00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 2: You're the best.

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Speaker 3: Thanks guys,