WEBVTT - “MY WIFE RAN AWAY” 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.080 Hey, folks, real quick, if you live in New York City, 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:06.760 I am hosting a little premiere of my new travel 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:12.119 documentary about walking around Ukraine as a Gecko next Tuesday, 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.680 April twenty eighth, at seven point thirty pm. The premiere 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:17.520 is gonna be followed by a Q and A with 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:20.720 me and my pal Roman, who helped me make the video. 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:24.720 He's gonna join us via zoom from Ukraine, and it's 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:27.080 gonna be a really fun and cool event. There's about 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:29.720 seventy seats available. The tickets are gonna be pay what 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:31.800 you want. It all goes to charity, and you can 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:34.640 get more information at the link in the episode description. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.480 I am very proud of this video. I've been working 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:40.200 very hard on it. I think it's pretty sweet and 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:42.040 if you live in New York you should definitely come 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:43.480 to the premiere. It's gonna be a lot of fun. 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:45.360 But also if you can't come, I will be putting 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:49.640 the full documentary on my YouTube channel YouTube dot com 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:53.600 slash lyle forever on April twenty ninth. All right, let's 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:54.560 get into the episode. 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:00.000 Hey, this is the therapy, Get go? Yeah? 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:01.480 Who is this? 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:07.839 This is d what's up? All right? Well, I got 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:10.840 left by my wife with the. 0:01:10.800 --> 0:01:14.039 One point one and a half year old, and my 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:19.280 best friend, lifelong best friend, was telling me to not 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:24.280 stay with this woman and actually left wild, crazy voicemails 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.160 trying to save me from her. And now I'm completely screwed. 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.440 I'm in an apartment I can't afford, and I'm gonna 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:31.560 not be able to see my. 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.800 Child and things aren't going well. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:37.800 Well, I'm glad you called the therapy gecko. 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:41.480 How are things with you? 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:47.600 Sorry? I thought you would think that was funny. Hmm, Okay, 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:54.000 so you said that your best friend went nuts leaving 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:58.880 voicemails to you trying to help you get out of this. 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:04.000 Yeah, he knew that this girl was a demonic, crazy 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:07.680 bitch and uh, I was gonna end up ruining my life. 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:12.280 And I actually left out an important part. The woman 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:17.280 I'm seeing, we'll call her k Uh. She she she 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.639 purposely stopped taking birth control to uh to get knocked 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.800 up really and uh yeah, and she ended up lying 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.120 to me and saying that that's some antibiotic that I 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:32.240 was taking. Uh ended up offsetting the uh the birth control. 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.080 So yeah, she she had winked me. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.160 Hmmm, how old are you. 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:43.160 Thirty seven? I know your callers are a buch younger. 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:45.600 They're all over the place. So they're all over the place. 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.520 They're all over the place. And your name is your name? 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:48.079 One more time? 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:51.080 D d? 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.160 Okay, when did you meet this lady? How long did 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:53.680 you know her for? 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:56.040 Uh? 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.640 I met her right after covid off of a dating app. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:03.520 A little dairy girl moved here to Florida and didn't 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:04.760 have any friends, and. 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:07.800 I thought it would be a good idea to shack 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:10.120 up with her. But it's been living hell. 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:12.280 She has two dogs that pe and shit in the 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:14.840 house all the time, and that's a nice break not 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:16.040 having them around anymore. 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:17.000 Mm hmm. 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:18.680 So all right, so where are you right now? You're 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:20.400 gonna you said you're in a house you can't afford. 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:22.200 Who's who lives in this house? 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:27.200 Well, it was me and Kay with the dogs and 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:30.480 the child. And uh now she just packed up all 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:33.120 her stuff and left. So I'm not really sure how 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.800 we're gonna make things work around here. 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:37.520 Might have to go move back with mom. 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:42.760 And uh so you're calling me from this house right now? 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:44.280 Yes? 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.800 And who is is? Are you alone in the house? 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:48.680 Are the dogs there? 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:51.440 Uh? No, I'm alone. 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:54.040 Okay. So she took the dogs, dogs and the kid 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.320 your kid, okay. And you have no idea when when 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:57.480 did when did she leave? 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.200 About ten days ago? 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:01.880 Oh? 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:02.120 Shit? 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:03.520 And you have no idea where she is? 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:09.119 Uh, she's somewhere in the near area trying to get 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:11.800 me to help pay for her new apartment as well. 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:16.720 It's quite a dilemma here. Yeah, I actually have gotten 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.719 through it a little bit. Listening to your other callers, 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:22.400 I think they spend a little bit worse time than me, 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.760 So I feel better about myself. 0:04:25.520 --> 0:04:28.279 Can I ask who you were listening to? I'm suck. 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:29.720 Can I ask who you were listening to where you 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:31.479 were like? Well, at least I'm not that guy. 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:37.640 Honestly, the million Little Fibers guy was the one who 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:39.520 really got my my chain. 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:42.040 Yanks. That was one of the funniest things I've ever 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:42.760 heard in my life. 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.240 And I'm an avid South Park fan and I never 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:45.880 knew that that. 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:48.840 Was the spoof of the book. So thanks for the history. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:55.000 Lesson interesting hmm. Okay, so I forgot that. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:59.200 Sorry, I forgot to mention that my mother was so 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:04.719 desperate for a grandchild that she sent down her wedding 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:10.599 ring from Central Florida to to force me to ask 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:13.640 her to marry her. So this girl was actively asking 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.480 me for weeks to ask her to marry her, and 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:17.920 she wasn't really the true love of my life. But 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:19.800 I just kind of felt stuck. 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:28.080 Hmm, what was going on with you before you met 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:35.000 this lady that kind of left you susceptible to going 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:36.640 down that path. 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:42.120 I don't think I've really had long relationships with women before, 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:45.920 so I think when she showed a genuine interest, I 0:05:46.320 --> 0:05:49.800 know was caught back and you know, thought this was 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:53.640 something that I should pursue and stay with. But like 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.160 I told my best friend, she wasn't my forever love, 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:59.240 and you know, I didn't really like love her as 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.960 much as I thought I would for a wife or 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:05.120 someone who's gonna have my kid. And you know, now 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.839 I'm in such a big mess now I don't really 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:13.040 know how to get through it except listen to your podcast. 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:13.479 M. 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:16.960 Okay. So it was kind of a thing of like. 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.040 So it was a thing of like throughout your life, 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.600 you didn't have many other opportunities for like a long 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:26.920 term relationship, and then a lady comes along and you're 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:30.520 kind of like, well, fucking finally, like here's an opportunity, 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:32.880 let's go for it type of thing. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:35.440 Yeah, pretty much. 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.880 I thought, like, you know, I'm getting older in life, 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:40.239 I need to settle down. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.400 I need to you know, figure it out. 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:48.359 Have you know, a family and life and stuff and 0:06:48.720 --> 0:06:52.160 juggling jobs. Trying to figure it all out hasn't been 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:59.039 easy and just not in a great mental space. 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.919 You met this lady, Okay, so you're thirty seven. You 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:04.799 met this lady when you were like thirty one, about 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:09.960 six years ago. Yeah, and what was your Okay, so 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:15.560 what was your relationship like? Because this was because this 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:19.400 isn't like, uh, you've been you've been connected with this 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:22.360 woman for a fairly long time, like five years. Like 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.920 I assume it didn't like start out all fucked up 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:28.640 and crazy, Like, how how did it? How do you 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.360 think it like progressed to this point? 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:31.720 Uh? 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:35.440 Well, I think I kind of just tolerated it for 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:37.840 a long period of time, you know. I mean she 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:42.360 was always starting fights with my friends and always making 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:45.640 them apologize for their behavior, when in reality, it. 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:48.560 Was her behavior that was bad. And she's just a 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:49.640 real toxic person. 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:51.440 I don't know why the fuck I stayed around as 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:54.280 long as I did, probably because I was just lonely 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.640 and sad. 0:07:57.440 --> 0:07:59.200 But man, I should have listened to my best friend. 0:07:59.280 --> 0:07:59.720 He was right. 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:05.480 Man, he was trying to get me to leave her and. 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:04.560 And not do this. 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:07.720 And you know, I love my daughter, and uh that's 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:11.200 the one shining thing about this. But man, I'm in 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.080 a I'm in a. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:20.080 Real, uh real conundrum the way. Yeah, I'm into Florida. Yeah, 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:21.640 you have something against Florida. 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:26.240 Dude, I uh uh I ship we talked to a 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.320 previous color I don't know where I'll put it in 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.960 the episode, but uh, I might I might have to 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:32.880 add I might have to add a South Florida date. 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:34.960 We'll see what's up. We'll see if if enough people 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.920 want to come. But but anyway, enough enough about my tour. 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:44.160 Fucking uh, tell me about the like, tell me about 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.679 the relationship must have had, even in like a toxic relationship, right, 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:52.439 it must have had times where it was like really good? Right, 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:53.880 Like what did that? What did that look like when 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.440 it was good? I'm curious. 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:01.200 You know little dice love notes fit the house, you know, 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:07.440 nice romantic dinners, you know, just things that made my heart. 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.800 You know, gliver with joy, and I thought that, you know, 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.640 this was going to be what it was. 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:18.760 Forever and really in reality, she's just in controlling bitch 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:22.600 that controlled my every move and every thought and ran 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:28.200 lots of my friends away and just completely as train 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:32.880 wrecked my whole life the last seventy five days or 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:36.720 fifty days or whatever it's been. It's not been easy. 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:40.240 Never thought I would be in the predicament where she'd 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:40.600 leave me. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:47.240 Interesting, when did you first start noticing that, like you 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:48.559 felt like you're being controlled? 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:57.520 About the time I figured out that she went to 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:00.920 go steal her sister's baby shower with the announcement that 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:02.120 she was pregnant herself. 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:06.480 WHOA, And you didn't know? But you didn't You didn't 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:09.400 fucking know that she was like this baby was this? 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.520 Was there a conversation about like, yo, let's have a baby, 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:16.160 or like she just kinda sprung it on you, Like. 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:21.720 What I mean, we weren't really in the financial predicament 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.440 to have a baby, and we were thinking we would 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:27.679 have a baby down the road, but this was pretty 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.480 much forced on us. 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:37.600 And uh, I mean not a good predicament. I'm happy 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:41.560 to be a dad, you know, but she wasn't. She 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:47.920 wasn't kind to the uh the talk about Petros. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:51.800 Possibly having a damn it, what is the word I'm 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:55.160 thinking of right now? Well, I probably have like a 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:56.679 fifth grade education right now? 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.120 An abortion? There you go. Yeah, she didn't want one 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:05.199 of those. Mm hmmm. And uh that caused quite a 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:08.360 rift too, and so we just went through with it. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:11.600 By the way, do you ever edit? Do you ever 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:15.720 edit parts of your episodes? There? 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:19.199 Just like just usually just the part where I tell 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:23.400 the caller to take the phone. Okay, got you off 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:26.720 the thing? Why do you I mean? Is it I'm 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.880 I'm gonna like Is it okay that I make our 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.560 conversation into a podcast? 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:35.600 Yes? I would actually love that, Okay, I was just curious. 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:39.600 Okay, cool? What the fun say? 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:39.680 Oh? 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:41.600 Yes, I know. I have many more things about this 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:46.720 situation to talk to you about. Hmm okay. But you 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.520 like being a dad. You're proud of being a dad? Yes, okay, 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:55.160 so proud of being a dad. And uh this up. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:59.520 You said you're in this apartment that costs too much money? 0:11:59.760 --> 0:11:59.960 Yes? 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:03.360 Did you buy it or did you rent it? 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:04.200 Oh? 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.160 We're just renting everything at South Florida. 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:07.120 If you're not a millionaire. 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:13.000 You're renting, okay, And how long is the lease that 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:13.520 you signed? 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:18.199 We just signed it about two months ago, so if 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.440 I break it, I'm gonna throw away several grand a monks. 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:25.120 Trying to find a place to put a roof over. 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.400 My head as well as trying to stay somewhat close 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:29.280 to see my daughter. 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:34.040 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm trying to oscillate between like my 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:40.840 instinct to offer solutions versus my instinct to continue to 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:46.840 interview you about the scope of the situation. Which would 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:47.120 you buy? 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:56.600 Yeah, I want to know how to first approach like 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:58.320 getting my best friend back. 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.240 Because I completely wrote him off and. 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.840 Like literally wrote him a letter of like, you know, 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:06.440 we're done, Like see you later. 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.120 Have a nice life type deal you did? 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:11.240 You wrote him? Whoa okay? Okay, so you're so your 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:15.240 homie was like looking out for you. He was trying 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:18.080 to be like yo, this woman is like not good 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:24.120 for you, and you wrote him back being like you know, 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:28.560 fuck you, we're done, right. 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:29.520 Yeah? 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.360 Yeah, I completely wrote him off in a really bad 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:34.280 time after his dad just died. 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:35.320 Oh man. 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:37.719 He was trying he was trying to get me to 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:40.640 move up to be with him near him. We were 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:44.560 actually working together at the time, and uh, he was 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:48.680 trying to get me to leave the lady and I 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.640 just didn't do it, and I should have did it. 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:54.040 And the guy was having a really hard time, he 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:57.120 was having anxiety attacks and you know, all kinds of 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:00.439 stuff and just losing his dad out of nowhere, and uh, 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:03.199 I should have been a little better to him. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:04.720 Have you tried calling him? 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:05.440 Uh? 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:07.880 Yeah, I actually just started reaching back out to him, 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:11.480 And uh I told the ex who he left crazy 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:15.000 voicemails too. And now she's at the point where she 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:16.920 might not even want to talk to me anymore. Now 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:19.160 she thinks it's a complete betrayal that I'm talking to 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:19.640 him again. 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:21.080 What wait? 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:21.400 What? 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:25.040 Okay, well wait, let's okay, one thing at a time here. 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:28.080 So have you been Have you been able to get 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:29.760 back in touch with your friend? 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:35.000 Yes, I've texted him sporadically. 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:38.160 And you and you told him right and that I'm embarrassed. 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.480 Yes, yeah. And you told him all the things that 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:45.240 you just said to me, Yes, yes, And and did 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.040 he respond uh? 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:51.200 Yes. Uh, He's he's been open and nice. Uh. He 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:57.080 says he's been treading lightly because uh, he feels that, 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:59.280 like you, I would have not reached out to him 0:14:59.280 --> 0:15:02.320 ever if you she didn't leave, And I think that's 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.600 kind of a good point. I probably should have touched. 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:10.280 Base for them sometime in between that between now and then, 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:16.080 but it was just a nasty ending, so I kind 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:17.680 of had to stay on her good side and not 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.000 you know, reach out to him. 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:25.760 Dude, your friend sounds like a really good dude. 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:26.920 He is. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.080 He's the best friend I could ever ask for. He 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.600 actually he took down four friends in the process. He 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:36.240 went completely nuts when he found out that she was pregnant. 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:42.120 He was calling her saying that he hoodwinked me and 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:46.320 she tricked me and all of these things, and he 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:49.920 had incredible foresight. He's a great friend. Hopefully I could 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:50.520 win him back. 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:57.680 Yeah, I mean, it's it is genuine. It's very uh, 0:15:58.440 --> 0:15:59.720 I don't know if I don't know what the word 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:01.520 for it is, but just the fact that, like, you know, 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:04.560 you guys are in your like late thirties, and your 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:09.040 friend still has like this strong amount of investment in 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:13.440 your in your life going, well, like that's a really 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:18.320 really close relationship. How long have you been friends with 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:18.720 this guy? 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.360 I met him at a baseball camp when I was 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:24.160 like fourteen. 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:27.920 Yeah, okay, yeah, that's a real Well have you got 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.240 to see him in person since this all went down. 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:34.520 No, I'm trying to figure out my life arrangements here 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:37.880 the last week or so, but I'm planning on trying. 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:39.240 To make a trip to him if he's open to 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:39.880 see me. 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:44.280 Yeah, okay, And so then you, but you've also you've 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:48.880 been in contact with your ex. Where where is she? 0:16:48.880 --> 0:16:52.640 She's somewhere near town because she's she's got a job 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:57.240 up the street. But I'm not I'm not really too sure. 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:00.920 She hasn't invited me over for crumpets, and so, uh, 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:03.600 I'm not too sure honestly. 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:08.920 Okay, but she has your like kid. 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:11.000 Yes, So. 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:14.240 The two times I've been able to see her since 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.640 she's left, she's brought her to my apartment. 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:20.239 Okay, yeah, okay, So you okay, so you this is 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:23.080 not like okay, the way you the way you made 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.399 it sound was that she like left town without a 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:28.040 trace and whatnot. But you've seen her in the last 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:28.800 ten days. 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:34.439 Yes, yeah, Well you talk occasionally, you know, check up 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:36.040 on the daughter, stuff like that. 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:39.000 But okay, okay, okay, social life is going. 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:41.840 Okay, okay, okay, wait, this is That's that makes the 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:46.560 situation significantly less dire than I thought, the fact that 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:49.679 you're still like, so, she's she's not like cutting you 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:51.520 off from your kid. 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:57.040 No, I mean that would probably be like kidnapping. But yeah, no, 0:17:57.240 --> 0:17:57.800 she hasn't. 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:03.800 She probably will, but with due time, probably just trying 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:06.680 to get what left out. 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:07.120 Of me she can. 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:12.720 Wow. Okay, hmm, what. 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:16.119 Do you think about the whole thing? Her her announcing 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:17.600 that she was pregnant at her. 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:21.320 Sister's uh baby shower? What what? What kind of human 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:22.160 does something like that? 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:24.720 I mean, yeah, it's probably you want to let the 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:27.560 let the person whose thing it is have the attention 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:28.240 for sure. 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.040 Yeah, that's that's pretty rotten. I think. 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:38.119 Well, let's see. Okay, so now you're in a situation 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:40.320 where you're like, all right, what were you gonna say? 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.160 No, I was gonna say randomly if you were still 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:43.960 in Japan. 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.840 Oh, I'm somewhere in the universe. 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.000 But you're okay, you're. 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:54.320 So you're in this house and you're like, fuck, am 0:18:54.359 --> 0:18:55.600 I gonna pay for this? Can you? 0:18:55.760 --> 0:18:56.080 All right? 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:59.040 I'm trying I'm thinking about a contingency plan for you, 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:01.800 like what's next, right, Well, you probably should. You probably 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:06.920 have to get your fucking like legal ship a bit 0:19:07.160 --> 0:19:14.480 a bit air tight. I know that's tough. Hmm hmm. Yeah, 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:16.679 you're gonna have to get some legal shit going to 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:21.120 make sure that like your your ex doesn't like kidnap 0:19:21.160 --> 0:19:26.040 your child, although it is illegal to do in general. 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:28.320 Yeah, And they have they have a really good highway 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:30.919 system here where they have different alerts. They put them 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:33.880 on the boards and stuff, so she'd get tracked down 0:19:33.880 --> 0:19:35.000 pretty quick if that happened. 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.960 All right, okay, all right, So so the idea, so 0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:42.680 it's not super easy for her to just like kidnap 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:47.840 your kid, no, no way, okay. And but you got 0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:49.960 and also you guys are still communicating, so you can. 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:52.679 And she also she lives in South Florida with you, 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:54.720 not like with you with you, but she lives in 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:58.679 the same place as you. Yeah, okay, all right, that 0:19:58.720 --> 0:20:00.920 makes life a lot easier. And she's got like roots 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:03.199 in South Carolina. And that's she's got like roots in 0:20:03.240 --> 0:20:06.960 South Florida. She's not gonna like go to you know, 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:08.399 France or whatever. 0:20:10.000 --> 0:20:13.159 Well another red flag. Boy, she doesn't really have a 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:18.480 whole lot of friends. She's actually from Mississippi. Funny thing 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:21.639 is uh, at our engagement party, none of her friends 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:24.080 showed up. It was only my one friend. He tried 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:27.639 to save me. By the way, it was a it 0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:31.879 was a small event. Uh, but yeah, that was that 0:20:32.040 --> 0:20:37.280 was a sign that Yeah. But so yeah, your question was, No, she's. 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:39.040 Not from South Florida and she doesn't really have many 0:20:39.080 --> 0:20:41.919 roots here, so yeah, she might be going back to Mississippi. 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:45.760 You never know. Mm hmmmm mm hmmm. 0:20:47.640 --> 0:20:50.000 Uh well, Okay, as far as the apartment goes, how 0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:56.120 many rooms are in it just too just too Did 0:20:56.160 --> 0:20:56.800 you get a roommate? 0:20:56.920 --> 0:21:02.280 Yeah? No, I haven't really thought about that yet. Probably should. 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:05.240 Do you think I should put like a Craigslist out 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:10.120 or something sad lowly bad in quick need of a roommate? 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:11.440 What do you think I should put out there? 0:21:11.840 --> 0:21:14.159 I think sad loaly man and quick need of a 0:21:14.200 --> 0:21:19.199 roommate could be an appealing offer. You can get a roommate. 0:21:19.400 --> 0:21:26.280 That could be fun. That would at least I think 0:21:26.320 --> 0:21:29.000 that's would that could at least that would at least 0:21:29.040 --> 0:21:32.520