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Speaker 2: Hey, this is the therapy, Get go? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Who is this?
Speaker 2: This is d what's up? All right? Well, I got
Speaker 2: left by my wife with the.
Speaker 3: One point one and a half year old, and my
Speaker 3: best friend, lifelong best friend, was telling me to not
Speaker 3: stay with this woman and actually left wild, crazy voicemails
Speaker 3: trying to save me from her. And now I'm completely screwed.
Speaker 3: I'm in an apartment I can't afford, and I'm gonna
Speaker 3: not be able to see my.
Speaker 2: Child and things aren't going well.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad you called the therapy gecko.
Speaker 2: How are things with you?
Speaker 1: Sorry? I thought you would think that was funny. Hmm, Okay,
Speaker 1: so you said that your best friend went nuts leaving
Speaker 1: voicemails to you trying to help you get out of this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he knew that this girl was a demonic, crazy
Speaker 3: bitch and uh, I was gonna end up ruining my life.
Speaker 3: And I actually left out an important part. The woman
Speaker 3: I'm seeing, we'll call her k Uh. She she she
Speaker 3: purposely stopped taking birth control to uh to get knocked
Speaker 3: up really and uh yeah, and she ended up lying
Speaker 3: to me and saying that that's some antibiotic that I
Speaker 3: was taking. Uh ended up offsetting the uh the birth control.
Speaker 2: So yeah, she she had winked me.
Speaker 1: Hmmm, how old are you.
Speaker 2: Thirty seven? I know your callers are a buch younger.
Speaker 1: They're all over the place. So they're all over the place.
Speaker 1: They're all over the place. And your name is your name?
Speaker 1: One more time?
Speaker 2: D d?
Speaker 1: Okay, when did you meet this lady? How long did
Speaker 1: you know her for?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 2: I met her right after covid off of a dating app.
Speaker 3: A little dairy girl moved here to Florida and didn't
Speaker 3: have any friends, and.
Speaker 2: I thought it would be a good idea to shack
Speaker 2: up with her. But it's been living hell.
Speaker 3: She has two dogs that pe and shit in the
Speaker 3: house all the time, and that's a nice break not
Speaker 3: having them around anymore.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: So all right, so where are you right now? You're
Speaker 1: gonna you said you're in a house you can't afford.
Speaker 1: Who's who lives in this house?
Speaker 3: Well, it was me and Kay with the dogs and
Speaker 3: the child. And uh now she just packed up all
Speaker 3: her stuff and left. So I'm not really sure how
Speaker 3: we're gonna make things work around here.
Speaker 2: Might have to go move back with mom.
Speaker 1: And uh so you're calling me from this house right now?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: And who is is? Are you alone in the house?
Speaker 1: Are the dogs there?
Speaker 2: Uh? No, I'm alone.
Speaker 1: Okay. So she took the dogs, dogs and the kid
Speaker 1: your kid, okay. And you have no idea when when
Speaker 1: did when did she leave?
Speaker 2: About ten days ago?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Shit?
Speaker 1: And you have no idea where she is?
Speaker 3: Uh, she's somewhere in the near area trying to get
Speaker 3: me to help pay for her new apartment as well.
Speaker 3: It's quite a dilemma here. Yeah, I actually have gotten
Speaker 3: through it a little bit. Listening to your other callers,
Speaker 3: I think they spend a little bit worse time than me,
Speaker 3: So I feel better about myself.
Speaker 1: Can I ask who you were listening to? I'm suck.
Speaker 1: Can I ask who you were listening to where you
Speaker 1: were like? Well, at least I'm not that guy.
Speaker 3: Honestly, the million Little Fibers guy was the one who
Speaker 3: really got my my chain.
Speaker 2: Yanks. That was one of the funniest things I've ever
Speaker 2: heard in my life.
Speaker 3: And I'm an avid South Park fan and I never
Speaker 3: knew that that.
Speaker 2: Was the spoof of the book. So thanks for the history.
Speaker 1: Lesson interesting hmm. Okay, so I forgot that.
Speaker 3: Sorry, I forgot to mention that my mother was so
Speaker 3: desperate for a grandchild that she sent down her wedding
Speaker 3: ring from Central Florida to to force me to ask
Speaker 3: her to marry her. So this girl was actively asking
Speaker 3: me for weeks to ask her to marry her, and
Speaker 3: she wasn't really the true love of my life. But
Speaker 3: I just kind of felt stuck.
Speaker 1: Hmm, what was going on with you before you met
Speaker 1: this lady that kind of left you susceptible to going
Speaker 1: down that path.
Speaker 3: I don't think I've really had long relationships with women before,
Speaker 3: so I think when she showed a genuine interest, I
Speaker 3: know was caught back and you know, thought this was
Speaker 3: something that I should pursue and stay with. But like
Speaker 3: I told my best friend, she wasn't my forever love,
Speaker 3: and you know, I didn't really like love her as
Speaker 3: much as I thought I would for a wife or
Speaker 3: someone who's gonna have my kid. And you know, now
Speaker 3: I'm in such a big mess now I don't really
Speaker 3: know how to get through it except listen to your podcast.
Speaker 4: M.
Speaker 1: Okay. So it was kind of a thing of like.
Speaker 1: So it was a thing of like throughout your life,
Speaker 1: you didn't have many other opportunities for like a long
Speaker 1: term relationship, and then a lady comes along and you're
Speaker 1: kind of like, well, fucking finally, like here's an opportunity,
Speaker 1: let's go for it type of thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 3: I thought, like, you know, I'm getting older in life,
Speaker 3: I need to settle down.
Speaker 2: I need to you know, figure it out.
Speaker 3: Have you know, a family and life and stuff and
Speaker 3: juggling jobs. Trying to figure it all out hasn't been
Speaker 3: easy and just not in a great mental space.
Speaker 1: You met this lady, Okay, so you're thirty seven. You
Speaker 1: met this lady when you were like thirty one, about
Speaker 1: six years ago. Yeah, and what was your Okay, so
Speaker 1: what was your relationship like? Because this was because this
Speaker 1: isn't like, uh, you've been you've been connected with this
Speaker 1: woman for a fairly long time, like five years. Like
Speaker 1: I assume it didn't like start out all fucked up
Speaker 1: and crazy, Like, how how did it? How do you
Speaker 1: think it like progressed to this point?
Speaker 4: Uh?
Speaker 3: Well, I think I kind of just tolerated it for
Speaker 3: a long period of time, you know. I mean she
Speaker 3: was always starting fights with my friends and always making
Speaker 3: them apologize for their behavior, when in reality, it.
Speaker 2: Was her behavior that was bad. And she's just a
Speaker 2: real toxic person.
Speaker 3: I don't know why the fuck I stayed around as
Speaker 3: long as I did, probably because I was just lonely
Speaker 3: and sad.
Speaker 2: But man, I should have listened to my best friend.
Speaker 2: He was right.
Speaker 3: Man, he was trying to get me to leave her and.
Speaker 2: And not do this.
Speaker 3: And you know, I love my daughter, and uh that's
Speaker 3: the one shining thing about this. But man, I'm in
Speaker 3: a I'm in a.
Speaker 2: Real, uh real conundrum the way. Yeah, I'm into Florida. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you have something against Florida.
Speaker 1: Dude, I uh uh I ship we talked to a
Speaker 1: previous color I don't know where I'll put it in
Speaker 1: the episode, but uh, I might I might have to
Speaker 1: add I might have to add a South Florida date.
Speaker 1: We'll see what's up. We'll see if if enough people
Speaker 1: want to come. But but anyway, enough enough about my tour.
Speaker 1: Fucking uh, tell me about the like, tell me about
Speaker 1: the relationship must have had, even in like a toxic relationship, right,
Speaker 1: it must have had times where it was like really good? Right,
Speaker 1: Like what did that? What did that look like when
Speaker 1: it was good? I'm curious.
Speaker 3: You know little dice love notes fit the house, you know,
Speaker 3: nice romantic dinners, you know, just things that made my heart.
Speaker 2: You know, gliver with joy, and I thought that, you know,
Speaker 2: this was going to be what it was.
Speaker 3: Forever and really in reality, she's just in controlling bitch
Speaker 3: that controlled my every move and every thought and ran
Speaker 3: lots of my friends away and just completely as train
Speaker 3: wrecked my whole life the last seventy five days or
Speaker 3: fifty days or whatever it's been. It's not been easy.
Speaker 3: Never thought I would be in the predicament where she'd
Speaker 3: leave me.
Speaker 1: Interesting, when did you first start noticing that, like you
Speaker 1: felt like you're being controlled?
Speaker 3: About the time I figured out that she went to
Speaker 3: go steal her sister's baby shower with the announcement that
Speaker 3: she was pregnant herself.
Speaker 1: WHOA, And you didn't know? But you didn't You didn't
Speaker 1: fucking know that she was like this baby was this?
Speaker 1: Was there a conversation about like, yo, let's have a baby,
Speaker 1: or like she just kinda sprung it on you, Like.
Speaker 3: What I mean, we weren't really in the financial predicament
Speaker 3: to have a baby, and we were thinking we would
Speaker 3: have a baby down the road, but this was pretty
Speaker 3: much forced on us.
Speaker 2: And uh, I mean not a good predicament. I'm happy
Speaker 2: to be a dad, you know, but she wasn't. She
Speaker 2: wasn't kind to the uh the talk about Petros.
Speaker 3: Possibly having a damn it, what is the word I'm
Speaker 3: thinking of right now? Well, I probably have like a
Speaker 3: fifth grade education right now?
Speaker 2: An abortion? There you go. Yeah, she didn't want one
Speaker 2: of those. Mm hmmm. And uh that caused quite a
Speaker 2: rift too, and so we just went through with it.
Speaker 2: By the way, do you ever edit? Do you ever
Speaker 2: edit parts of your episodes? There?
Speaker 1: Just like just usually just the part where I tell
Speaker 1: the caller to take the phone. Okay, got you off
Speaker 1: the thing? Why do you I mean? Is it I'm
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like Is it okay that I make our
Speaker 1: conversation into a podcast?
Speaker 2: Yes? I would actually love that, Okay, I was just curious.
Speaker 1: Okay, cool? What the fun say?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yes, I know. I have many more things about this
Speaker 1: situation to talk to you about. Hmm okay. But you
Speaker 1: like being a dad. You're proud of being a dad? Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so proud of being a dad. And uh this up.
Speaker 1: You said you're in this apartment that costs too much money?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Did you buy it or did you rent it?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 2: We're just renting everything at South Florida.
Speaker 3: If you're not a millionaire.
Speaker 1: You're renting, okay, And how long is the lease that
Speaker 1: you signed?
Speaker 3: We just signed it about two months ago, so if
Speaker 3: I break it, I'm gonna throw away several grand a monks.
Speaker 2: Trying to find a place to put a roof over.
Speaker 3: My head as well as trying to stay somewhat close
Speaker 3: to see my daughter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm trying to oscillate between like my
Speaker 1: instinct to offer solutions versus my instinct to continue to
Speaker 1: interview you about the scope of the situation. Which would
Speaker 1: you buy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to know how to first approach like
Speaker 3: getting my best friend back.
Speaker 2: Because I completely wrote him off and.
Speaker 3: Like literally wrote him a letter of like, you know,
Speaker 3: we're done, Like see you later.
Speaker 2: Have a nice life type deal you did?
Speaker 1: You wrote him? Whoa okay? Okay, so you're so your
Speaker 1: homie was like looking out for you. He was trying
Speaker 1: to be like yo, this woman is like not good
Speaker 1: for you, and you wrote him back being like you know,
Speaker 1: fuck you, we're done, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I completely wrote him off in a really bad
Speaker 3: time after his dad just died.
Speaker 1: Oh man.
Speaker 3: He was trying he was trying to get me to
Speaker 3: move up to be with him near him. We were
Speaker 3: actually working together at the time, and uh, he was
Speaker 3: trying to get me to leave the lady and I
Speaker 3: just didn't do it, and I should have did it.
Speaker 3: And the guy was having a really hard time, he
Speaker 3: was having anxiety attacks and you know, all kinds of
Speaker 3: stuff and just losing his dad out of nowhere, and uh,
Speaker 3: I should have been a little better to him.
Speaker 1: Have you tried calling him?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I actually just started reaching back out to him,
Speaker 3: And uh I told the ex who he left crazy
Speaker 3: voicemails too. And now she's at the point where she
Speaker 3: might not even want to talk to me anymore. Now
Speaker 3: she thinks it's a complete betrayal that I'm talking to
Speaker 3: him again.
Speaker 1: What wait?
Speaker 2: What?
Speaker 1: Okay, well wait, let's okay, one thing at a time here.
Speaker 1: So have you been Have you been able to get
Speaker 1: back in touch with your friend?
Speaker 3: Yes, I've texted him sporadically.
Speaker 2: And you and you told him right and that I'm embarrassed.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah. And you told him all the things that
Speaker 1: you just said to me, Yes, yes, And and did
Speaker 1: he respond uh?
Speaker 2: Yes. Uh, He's he's been open and nice. Uh. He
Speaker 2: says he's been treading lightly because uh, he feels that,
Speaker 2: like you, I would have not reached out to him
Speaker 2: ever if you she didn't leave, And I think that's
Speaker 2: kind of a good point. I probably should have touched.
Speaker 3: Base for them sometime in between that between now and then,
Speaker 3: but it was just a nasty ending, so I kind
Speaker 3: of had to stay on her good side and not
Speaker 3: you know, reach out to him.
Speaker 1: Dude, your friend sounds like a really good dude.
Speaker 2: He is.
Speaker 3: He's the best friend I could ever ask for. He
Speaker 3: actually he took down four friends in the process. He
Speaker 3: went completely nuts when he found out that she was pregnant.
Speaker 3: He was calling her saying that he hoodwinked me and
Speaker 3: she tricked me and all of these things, and he
Speaker 3: had incredible foresight. He's a great friend. Hopefully I could
Speaker 3: win him back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it's it is genuine. It's very uh,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't know what the word
Speaker 1: for it is, but just the fact that, like, you know,
Speaker 1: you guys are in your like late thirties, and your
Speaker 1: friend still has like this strong amount of investment in
Speaker 1: your in your life going, well, like that's a really
Speaker 1: really close relationship. How long have you been friends with
Speaker 1: this guy?
Speaker 3: I met him at a baseball camp when I was
Speaker 3: like fourteen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, that's a real Well have you got
Speaker 1: to see him in person since this all went down.
Speaker 3: No, I'm trying to figure out my life arrangements here
Speaker 3: the last week or so, but I'm planning on trying.
Speaker 2: To make a trip to him if he's open to
Speaker 2: see me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, And so then you, but you've also you've
Speaker 1: been in contact with your ex. Where where is she?
Speaker 3: She's somewhere near town because she's she's got a job
Speaker 3: up the street. But I'm not I'm not really too sure.
Speaker 3: She hasn't invited me over for crumpets, and so, uh,
Speaker 3: I'm not too sure honestly.
Speaker 1: Okay, but she has your like kid.
Speaker 2: Yes, So.
Speaker 3: The two times I've been able to see her since
Speaker 3: she's left, she's brought her to my apartment.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, okay, So you okay, so you this is
Speaker 1: not like okay, the way you the way you made
Speaker 1: it sound was that she like left town without a
Speaker 1: trace and whatnot. But you've seen her in the last
Speaker 1: ten days.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, Well you talk occasionally, you know, check up
Speaker 3: on the daughter, stuff like that.
Speaker 2: But okay, okay, okay, social life is going.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, wait, this is That's that makes the
Speaker 1: situation significantly less dire than I thought, the fact that
Speaker 1: you're still like, so, she's she's not like cutting you
Speaker 1: off from your kid.
Speaker 2: No, I mean that would probably be like kidnapping. But yeah, no,
Speaker 2: she hasn't.
Speaker 3: She probably will, but with due time, probably just trying
Speaker 3: to get what left out.
Speaker 2: Of me she can.
Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, hmm, what.
Speaker 3: Do you think about the whole thing? Her her announcing
Speaker 3: that she was pregnant at her.
Speaker 2: Sister's uh baby shower? What what? What kind of human
Speaker 2: does something like that?
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, it's probably you want to let the
Speaker 1: let the person whose thing it is have the attention
Speaker 1: for sure.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's pretty rotten. I think.
Speaker 1: Well, let's see. Okay, so now you're in a situation
Speaker 1: where you're like, all right, what were you gonna say?
Speaker 2: No, I was gonna say randomly if you were still
Speaker 2: in Japan.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm somewhere in the universe.
Speaker 2: But you're okay, you're.
Speaker 1: So you're in this house and you're like, fuck, am
Speaker 1: I gonna pay for this? Can you?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: I'm trying I'm thinking about a contingency plan for you,
Speaker 1: like what's next, right, Well, you probably should. You probably
Speaker 1: have to get your fucking like legal ship a bit
Speaker 1: a bit air tight. I know that's tough. Hmm hmm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to get some legal shit going to
Speaker 1: make sure that like your your ex doesn't like kidnap
Speaker 1: your child, although it is illegal to do in general.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And they have they have a really good highway
Speaker 3: system here where they have different alerts. They put them
Speaker 3: on the boards and stuff, so she'd get tracked down
Speaker 3: pretty quick if that happened.
Speaker 1: All right, okay, all right, So so the idea, so
Speaker 1: it's not super easy for her to just like kidnap
Speaker 1: your kid, no, no way, okay. And but you got
Speaker 1: and also you guys are still communicating, so you can.
Speaker 1: And she also she lives in South Florida with you,
Speaker 1: not like with you with you, but she lives in
Speaker 1: the same place as you. Yeah, okay, all right, that
Speaker 1: makes life a lot easier. And she's got like roots
Speaker 1: in South Carolina. And that's she's got like roots in
Speaker 1: South Florida. She's not gonna like go to you know,
Speaker 1: France or whatever.
Speaker 3: Well another red flag. Boy, she doesn't really have a
Speaker 3: whole lot of friends. She's actually from Mississippi. Funny thing
Speaker 3: is uh, at our engagement party, none of her friends
Speaker 3: showed up. It was only my one friend. He tried
Speaker 3: to save me. By the way, it was a it
Speaker 3: was a small event. Uh, but yeah, that was that
Speaker 3: was a sign that Yeah. But so yeah, your question was, No, she's.
Speaker 2: Not from South Florida and she doesn't really have many
Speaker 2: roots here, so yeah, she might be going back to Mississippi.
Speaker 2: You never know. Mm hmmmm mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: Uh well, Okay, as far as the apartment goes, how
Speaker 1: many rooms are in it just too just too Did
Speaker 1: you get a roommate?
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, I haven't really thought about that yet. Probably should.
Speaker 3: Do you think I should put like a Craigslist out
Speaker 3: or something sad lowly bad in quick need of a roommate?
Speaker 2: What do you think I should put out there?
Speaker 1: I think sad loaly man and quick need of a
Speaker 1: roommate could be an appealing offer. You can get a roommate.
Speaker 1: That could be fun. That would at least I think
Speaker 1: that's would that could at least that would at least
Speaker 1: ease the financial burden of like being in this house
Speaker 1: by yourself, like a long time. Yeah, it would buy
Speaker 1: some time to like get out of the lease and
Speaker 1: like figure your shit out.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of stuff to try to juggle that once.
Speaker 3: Haven't been sleeping very well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sure. What do you what do you do you?
Speaker 1: What do you do for work?
Speaker 2: I'm in between jobs right now. I uh, I'm in
Speaker 2: the insurance world. Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: They keep changing the rules after hurricanes come through here.
Speaker 3: So kind of a hard business to be in.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess as far as like, yeah, definitely getting
Speaker 1: a roommate for the place. Sounds like your buddy. Your
Speaker 1: buddy sounds like he's open to the fact that you're
Speaker 1: in communication with him is good. The fact that he's
Speaker 1: like willing to uh like work shit out with you.
Speaker 1: You know, it doesn't sound like he's gone.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think he's gone, but it's hard for
Speaker 3: me to like, uh, he just he thinks that you'd okay,
Speaker 3: is such a demon.
Speaker 2: It's hard for him to, like, I think, feel the
Speaker 2: love back right away, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but that related. But that
Speaker 1: relationship sounds like it's both repairable and worth repairing, and
Speaker 1: you sound like you care about him, so I'm sure
Speaker 1: that I'm sure that over time that relationship will will
Speaker 1: naturally heal. You sound like you care about you sound
Speaker 1: like you care a lot about your daughter, So I
Speaker 1: think naturally you will find a way to be in
Speaker 1: her life. Uh. It sounds like there's hopefully decent protective
Speaker 1: measures such that, uh, you know your ex can't like
Speaker 1: kidnap your kid. You can get a roommate to offset
Speaker 1: the cost of the crazy apartment. I guess this is
Speaker 1: after explaining I guess just like from an outsider perspective,
Speaker 1: after listening to your to your tail, these are these
Speaker 1: are kind of the little like paths forward that I'm seeing.
Speaker 3: Thanks, Gek, I really appreciate the uh the spreadsheet for
Speaker 3: self improvement.
Speaker 2: I think, Uh, I think I'm on the road to recovery. Yeah, man,
Speaker 2: m hm, And your podcast is help. It's a lot too.
Speaker 1: Man.
Speaker 2: Really, you have a great talent. Oh.
Speaker 1: Thanks man, I'm really happy that you could listen to it.
Speaker 1: I'm really happy to provide a platform where, uh, where
Speaker 1: people can listen to other people's lives and be like, well,
Speaker 1: at least at least my life isn't that isn't as
Speaker 1: bad as this person's.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like I don't want to like go off
Speaker 3: of that, you know, because it's not fun to like
Speaker 3: envy in people's ship.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: No, No, there's a word. There is no perspective. No,
Speaker 1: I'm just being silly. There is a word for that.
Speaker 1: It's called shawd and fraya. It's a German word. Did
Speaker 1: you know that? No, that's let me look this up.
Speaker 1: How the funks are I? I spell this shut shut in fraud?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's a word for this. Oh okay. Shot
Speaker 1: and freud is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self
Speaker 1: satisfaction that comes from witnessing the troubles or failures of
Speaker 1: another person. Yeah. So it's like feeling pleasure that at
Speaker 1: least your life is not as bad as someone else's.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And more so, I think it gives you like perspective.
Speaker 3: And like gratitude, Like when you're feeling down and stuff,
Speaker 3: you're like, well, I can still make it work, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, people figure out how to make it work somehow. Somehow,
Speaker 1: people figure out how to make it work.
Speaker 2: You just need a little therapy from a get.
Speaker 1: Goo nah man, you gotta you know, I mean, see
Speaker 1: a real therapist if you can't. But I'm happy to
Speaker 1: talk through all this with you.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Is there any other before before we end? Is there
Speaker 1: any other aspect of this that you wanted to talk
Speaker 1: through or talk about or anything like that.
Speaker 6: I'm trying to think here, not really, I just want
Speaker 6: to win my friend back and uh get him involved
Speaker 6: in my daughter's life and not have him despise my
Speaker 6: daughter even though he's half of my demon x or.
Speaker 1: I don't think your friend's going to despise your daughter.
Speaker 1: Your daughter is just a fucking kid, dude. If your
Speaker 1: friend your friends, your friend seems like a nice guy,
Speaker 1: I think he's not the kind He's not. He's not
Speaker 1: gonna despise an innocent two year old girl for no reason.
Speaker 2: That's true. That's a good point. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I give that ship some time, but I think I
Speaker 1: think the homies will veil.
Speaker 2: Thanks Kak, I love you.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 2: Make your ways off Florida if you don't mind.
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 3: D uh? Now, just that, Uh, you're a sensation that's taking.
Speaker 2: Off, and uh, thanks, I'm excited to see where you
Speaker 2: go in the near future. Man. Nice talking to you.
Speaker 1: Thank you It was nice talking to you too. You
Speaker 1: take care, good luck. Man, all right, easy see you?
Speaker 2: Man?
Speaker 4: Hello?
Speaker 1: Hello? What's up?
Speaker 4: Holy fucking shit? Is this lyld?
Speaker 1: It is? Who is this?
Speaker 3: Oh my god?
Speaker 4: I did not expect to fucking come on.
Speaker 1: My name is Danny, Danny, what's going on? Danny has life?
Speaker 2: Life is.
Speaker 1: I guess life is kind of chilling. I guess why
Speaker 1: is life kind of chilling?
Speaker 4: I mean my work is she retail job, so that's
Speaker 4: always great. And I just started school again, so I'm
Speaker 4: like buried in the books right now.
Speaker 1: You texted me and you said, I think I am
Speaker 1: cursed when it comes to making friends with girls, And
Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to continue my current friendship.
Speaker 1: Why do you Why do you feel cursed?
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna use a different name for my friend.
Speaker 4: So a little background. I used to have a friend.
Speaker 4: I'll call her Jenny. She was like my super close
Speaker 4: friend at my work back home. Fy, I like moved
Speaker 4: to this like new area like three years ago. But yeah,
Speaker 4: so like we became close friends and like she was
Speaker 4: a mom of two, and like I was like super
Speaker 4: fun hanging out with her. And then the friendship turned
Speaker 4: a little sideways. When she was like going through like
Speaker 4: a lot of personal shit in her marriage. Basically her
Speaker 4: husband was like a piece of shit. So I was
Speaker 4: like there to help her through they're like tough times,
Speaker 4: like helping her pick up her kids while she was
Speaker 4: like at work and you know, just trying to be
Speaker 4: a supportive friend. So then before I moved, like our
Speaker 4: friendship got really weird because we bought in another friend
Speaker 4: to like with with our friend group, and so like
Speaker 4: they were close, but then we, like me and the
Speaker 4: new girl, we started to become close, and I guess
Speaker 4: that like bothered her really badly.
Speaker 1: So like, friend, your friend, your friend is, your friend
Speaker 1: was bothered by you becoming friends with someone else?
Speaker 4: Yeah, why, I don't know. It was just like really weird.
Speaker 4: I don't know if it's because like we were like
Speaker 4: chilling and vibed while like her life was kind of
Speaker 4: kind of going through the shitter a little.
Speaker 1: Your friend your friend's like your friend is married.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she she's married.
Speaker 1: How old are you are? All you guys?
Speaker 4: So I'm like, I just turned thirty. She's like a
Speaker 4: couple of years older than me. Like I want to
Speaker 4: say she's like thirty, Like she was thirty one or
Speaker 4: thirty two. And then the new girl she's like say,
Speaker 4: like basically around the same age, like me and her
Speaker 4: are like pretty much almost thirty.
Speaker 1: Okay, So your friend's life is falling apart and you're
Speaker 1: kind of like her rock for this for her life
Speaker 1: falling apart. Yeah yeah, okay okay, and then you wait,
Speaker 1: both of you were Wait, both you and the new
Speaker 1: girl were were like her rock for her life falling apart.
Speaker 4: Pretty much like me and the new girl. We were
Speaker 4: there for her when like her husband was, uh well,
Speaker 4: I mean it doesn't fucking matter, we're not friends anymore.
Speaker 4: But like basically her husband like hit her.
Speaker 2: Oh geez, yeah, like and.
Speaker 4: The fun and the super fucked up part was like
Speaker 4: he did that like on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: Okay, I think it's I think the hitting is the
Speaker 1: more fucked up part.
Speaker 4: But I think, yes, yeah, I mean it definitely was,
Speaker 4: like and she didn't like do anything for her Valentine's Day,
Speaker 4: so like I bought her like a box of chocolate
Speaker 4: because she's like my best friend, so it's like here
Speaker 4: you go. So yeah, it was it was all suck dope.
Speaker 1: Okay. So you are friend, Okay, Okay, so this new
Speaker 1: lady comes into your dynamic and then the new friend
Speaker 1: and you are are helping out this friend who's going
Speaker 1: through a real tough time, okay, and then at some
Speaker 1: point you start becoming closer with the new person and
Speaker 1: this friend starts getting like jealous that you and this
Speaker 1: new girl are like hanging out more.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because she like her since her husband was like
Speaker 4: a piece of shit, like he would not let her
Speaker 4: go and hang out with us. Yeah, because of how
Speaker 4: possessive he was. So that's why, Like she was also
Speaker 4: kind of like pissed off because she's dealing with him.
Speaker 4: And then like her kids, and she moved from Wednesday
Speaker 4: to another so she didn't really have like family around.
Speaker 4: So pretty much like yeah, like we were, we were
Speaker 4: her walk too much.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you and new girl are in one state.
Speaker 1: Then this lady and her abusive boyfriend they moved to
Speaker 1: a different state. And then so she so this new
Speaker 1: girl is kind of like isolated while you and the
Speaker 1: new girl are like hanging out.
Speaker 4: Yes, and no, like she she moved from Utah to California. Yeah,
Speaker 4: so yeah, so all of her family's in Utah and
Speaker 4: she doesn't have anybody out here in California except for
Speaker 4: like her husband and his family.
Speaker 1: You know that's funny. Okay, so you didn't hear Okay,
Speaker 1: how do I say this? It's interesting because okay, just
Speaker 1: to tie everything together, it's interesting because like, yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: you guys are like thirty right, like you're all on
Speaker 1: your own. You're all you're all you all have your
Speaker 1: own arcs, and you all have your own lives pretty much,
Speaker 1: and and there's like not like I really feel like
Speaker 1: I really feel for your friend, and it sounds like
Speaker 1: she was just going through like some crazy ass shit
Speaker 1: and like but it sounds like friends going through like
Speaker 1: some crazy at ship. But it's not your fault that
Speaker 1: she's going through some crazy ass shit, and it's she
Speaker 1: can't just be like I'm going through this tough thing
Speaker 1: and you're not there for me and you're it's like
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, it's like there's only so much that
Speaker 1: you can do, like you have your own life, you know.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, plus like I was still going to college. Well
Speaker 4: like Gilly with all every shit too.
Speaker 1: You didn't he'll get the title that you didn't hear
Speaker 1: this other call, but the previous caller earlier in the episode,
Speaker 1: like his friend was like Bay was like begging, texting him,
Speaker 1: trying to get out of a like similarly toxic relationship.
Speaker 1: And they were also like in their thirties, and I
Speaker 1: found that to be interested like that friend kind of
Speaker 1: feel like I feel like they went like a little
Speaker 1: above and beyond to you know, do that. It's it's
Speaker 1: very but like it it's not your like this woman's
Speaker 1: life is not like your responsibility, you Knowah, I mean
Speaker 1: it's also but it sounds like you were, yeah, you
Speaker 1: were trying to be supportive at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: like well there's there's only so much that you can do,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, And it's like it's the fact that
Speaker 1: she's like blaming you for this ship and being like, oh,
Speaker 1: you weren't good enough, Like that's wild to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I feel for.
Speaker 1: Her, but that's still that's wild.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's it's it doesn't.
Speaker 2: Make any sense like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So, like fast forward after moving to like this
Speaker 4: new part of California and that I'm currently in, so
Speaker 4: our new friend she came out to visit me with
Speaker 4: her boyfriend, and I like posted a picture of all
Speaker 4: of us together on social media and then so, uh,
Speaker 4: what the fuck did I call her?
Speaker 2: Jenny?
Speaker 4: So, Jenny like messaged us and snapchat and was like,
Speaker 4: what the fuck like you guys like fuck basically told
Speaker 4: us like we fucking suck as friends and like because
Speaker 4: she was jealous that like me and the new girl
Speaker 4: were able to like hang out and visit each other. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and so like I yeah, so like I called her
Speaker 4: out on her ship. I was like, what the fuck
Speaker 4: is wrong with you? Like, I don't know what I did,
Speaker 4: And to be honest, it doesn't feel like you're like
Speaker 4: my friend. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she's got her her life is fucked up,
Speaker 1: and she's gotta like I mean, she's got to leave
Speaker 1: that round. I I who knows. I'm not talking to her,
Speaker 1: so I don't want to like comment too much on
Speaker 1: like with I don't know what her full I don't
Speaker 1: know what her fucking full deal is or like what's
Speaker 1: preventing her from like leaving that relationship and like moving
Speaker 1: on with her life. I don't. I don't really know.
Speaker 1: But it's not your it's not she can't like make
Speaker 1: it your responsibility. Like she's got like she's fucking like
Speaker 1: thirty something and she's got to like handle her shit, yeah, and.
Speaker 4: Like I try to like show her like different like
Speaker 4: women like women, childs and stuff, because it was mainly financial.
Speaker 4: That's why like she had to stay with her husband
Speaker 4: because he like basically won't make you all the money.
Speaker 4: But a yeah, So like she message just and like
Speaker 4: was like what the fuck blah blah blah, And then
Speaker 4: I told her, like, well, it doesn't feel like you're
Speaker 4: my friend anymore. And then she like proceeds to tell
Speaker 4: me like we're not friends and I'm tired of like
Speaker 4: carrying all of your baggage, and it's like, what the
Speaker 4: what the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 1: Like, nah, this this lady, listen, here's true truth, Like
Speaker 1: here's this lady is like I feel I feel bad.
Speaker 1: I feel bad for her because she's clearly like she's
Speaker 1: clearly like I feel bad for because she's clearly like
Speaker 1: in this situation where she feels like she has like
Speaker 1: no one and nothing and no control and like she's
Speaker 1: like and for some reason she's choosing to like lash
Speaker 1: out at like someone who's like trying to fucking help her,
Speaker 1: Like you're setting you're like sending her these shelters. You're
Speaker 1: like like you trying to fucking help her, and her
Speaker 1: life is just so out of control and she's just
Speaker 1: like she just needs someone to like blame and lash
Speaker 1: out at. And that's and she's choosing you. And like, listen,
Speaker 1: if you want to, and I genuine like, if you
Speaker 1: want to be the bigger person, if you want to
Speaker 1: be the biggest you know, look, you you you can
Speaker 1: live your life. How are you on right? If you
Speaker 1: want to be the bigger person. What you can do
Speaker 1: is be like, listen, I can't like you. You can't
Speaker 1: treat me like this, Like you can't lash out at me.
Speaker 1: I know that your life is like fucked up and whatever,
Speaker 1: just so you know we're still good. Like whenever you
Speaker 1: figure out your shit, like go to the shelter, like
Speaker 1: whenever you figure out your shit, right, whenever you leave
Speaker 1: this guy and you can figure out your sh like
Speaker 1: I know that there's whenever you figure out your shit,
Speaker 1: just so you know, I'm here. Whenever you're ready to
Speaker 1: send that text being like, hey, I'm sorry I was
Speaker 1: in this horrible situation. I shouldn't have lashed out at you.
Speaker 1: I was wrong. Let's be friends again, just so you know.
Speaker 1: Whenever you send me that text, bring her in, let's
Speaker 1: all go to the water park together. You, me, the
Speaker 1: other girl will hang out. It'll be great. Just so
Speaker 1: you know, whenever you're ready to do that, I'm here.
Speaker 1: If you want to be the bigger person, you let
Speaker 1: her know that. Whenever you're ready that whenever she's ready,
Speaker 1: you're there.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: But until then, if our whole thing is you getting
Speaker 1: pissed off at me because your life sucks, don't want
Speaker 1: any part of that. But when you figure out your ship,
Speaker 1: I'm here, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's go ahead. The only problem is like
Speaker 4: when I did want to like ask her, like what
Speaker 4: the fuck her issue was, she like blocked me and
Speaker 4: the new girl.
Speaker 2: Cool.
Speaker 1: That's fine, Yeah that's not an issue. Yeah, that's not
Speaker 1: an issue.
Speaker 8: No, because I was still this this.
Speaker 1: Let this again. If you want to be like the
Speaker 1: bigger person, like, let this person block you and do
Speaker 1: all this stuff, and if you really want you can
Speaker 1: be like I mean, you don't have to say any
Speaker 1: of this. This is just like mentally for you, it is
Speaker 1: like listen, when you're ready, I'm here. But until then,
Speaker 1: like I'm not gonna I have no mental space for this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, pretty much. But like after that, I've been vibeing,
Speaker 4: I've been chilling, like no contact with her, and yeah,
Speaker 4: so it's it's been, it's been okay, But fast forward
Speaker 4: to currently there's more. Yeah, because I was just giving
Speaker 4: you a little insight of like a girl named Jenny
Speaker 4: like that I was friends with before, and now I
Speaker 4: have another girl with the same name going through almost
Speaker 4: kind of the same kind of ship.
Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah, So so just take every take, okay, So
Speaker 1: just take take everything I said over the course of
Speaker 1: this call and just pretend like I said it again
Speaker 1: to this lady.
Speaker 4: Yeah, with this one, it's a little different. So she so,
Speaker 4: this new girl, Jenny that I'm friends with currently, So
Speaker 4: she also went through like kind of kind of some
Speaker 4: fucked up ship as well, like she got fired from
Speaker 4: our job out of fucking nowhere, and then her girlfriend,
Speaker 4: I guess she found out she on her.
Speaker 1: Okay, So then why why why is it? Why is
Speaker 1: this different? U skip to the that part.
Speaker 4: So skipping to this part. She's like a little bit
Speaker 4: mentally unstables, like she literally has been submitted into the
Speaker 4: like psych ward like twice within this month.
Speaker 1: I ask again, why is this different?
Speaker 4: Because this time, like we're still friends, but like her
Speaker 4: current situation is just like what the fuck are you doing?
Speaker 1: Because you know, Danny, Danny, Danny, I actually I don't Danny.
Speaker 1: Actually I actually don't need to hear about this other friend.
Speaker 1: I just am going to tell you this, Like, Danny, listen,
Speaker 1: you can you can have a peaceful life if you
Speaker 1: really want to. Like, it's okay, dude, It's okay, Danny,
Speaker 1: if you if you want to just choose piece, Like
Speaker 1: it's okay, dude, Like you could do it.
Speaker 3: You don't.
Speaker 1: You don't have to feel bad about about uh, just
Speaker 1: fucking picking peace, you know what I mean. I mean
Speaker 1: you're like you're you're like thirty now, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. Like you know, it's not like you're it's
Speaker 1: like you've been like assigned a seat next to this
Speaker 1: person in fucking science class or whatever. Like you can, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can pick and choose like what you want into
Speaker 1: your existence.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I it just sucks because the whole going
Speaker 4: back to like I feel like I'm cursed is because what.
Speaker 1: About the new ga way, what about the other girl?
Speaker 1: What about the new girl? The new girls and you
Speaker 1: are chilling?
Speaker 2: What about her?
Speaker 8: Like were we are chilling, but it's just like her,
Speaker 8: like the decision she's making right now, Like I'm just like,
Speaker 8: what the girl, what the fuck are you doing?
Speaker 4: Like, no, you shouldn't be doing this.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait wit is she? What is she? What?
Speaker 2: What? What?
Speaker 4: So? Like she Okay, So, after like her two months
Speaker 4: of breakdowns, she is like.
Speaker 1: Wait, the new girl, this is the new girl. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: wait the new Wait the new girl and the mentally
Speaker 1: ill girl are the same people.
Speaker 4: No, they're two different people, but they have the same
Speaker 4: fucking name. Okay, yeah, which is really really fucking weird.
Speaker 4: But yeah, with this one, she like she still hasn't
Speaker 4: found a job. She got kicked out of her her
Speaker 4: roommate's place because after her like episode, she like just
Speaker 4: wretched it and they were like, yeah, we can't we
Speaker 4: can't keep you.
Speaker 1: Here, Danny, Danny. Yes, I'm gonna I'm gonna attempt to
Speaker 1: simplify this and I'm just gonna tell you, like, listen, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're you're you're entitled to have peace if that's what
Speaker 1: you so choose, and you you're you're also entitled to
Speaker 1: make your decisions about uh, whether or not the people
Speaker 1: around you are bringing you peace or anguish and you
Speaker 1: can do that without without you know, guilt.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's just is like I know it can keep
Speaker 7: my peace, but it's just like I don't know if
Speaker 7: I want to continue this this friendship currently that I
Speaker 7: have because like pretty much like the Big hickor is.
Speaker 4: She got pregnant and now she's like excited. Oh, like
Speaker 4: I want you guys to throw a baby shower and
Speaker 4: I'm so excited blah blah blah. But it's just so
Speaker 4: hard to supportive with all the crazy ship that she's
Speaker 4: been through literally within like a month.
Speaker 1: I want you guys to throw a baby shower.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like she wants us to throw a baby shower
Speaker 4: for her.
Speaker 1: Well, you don't what do you? What do you hear?
Speaker 1: Fucking assistant.
Speaker 4: Right like we're like we're good friends.
Speaker 1: But no, that's stupid. This this person I that's that slame,
Speaker 1: Like yeah, this you're not her assistant or like her
Speaker 1: boyfriend or like no, I don't, I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: like this.
Speaker 4: I mean I'm not really supportive of of her pregnancy
Speaker 4: because of like all the ship that she that she
Speaker 4: just went through, and then on top of that, like
Speaker 4: she's finishing up school as well, and the current boyfriend
Speaker 4: that she has, like they've literally been dating less less
Speaker 4: than a month and they're already pregnant.
Speaker 8: Yeah, it sounds.
Speaker 1: Like I don't have you. I don't do you know
Speaker 1: you you you keep you keep running into this thing
Speaker 1: where like everyone is like sort of like demanding that
Speaker 1: you be responsible for various things in their life.
Speaker 2: It's just more like.
Speaker 4: I just I just want normal friendship.
Speaker 1: I just know this is not normal, and like you can, and.
Speaker 4: I feel like and I can. I know that I can,
Speaker 4: but like it just feels like I'm cursed because when
Speaker 4: I try to make these sounds, it's like something happens
Speaker 4: or ship hits the fan, and I'm like what the fuck,
Speaker 4: Like why And like me and the new new girl
Speaker 4: that were like still friends. I was telling her about
Speaker 4: this situation and she goes, dude, you just attract like crazy,
Speaker 4: like all the crazy bitches. I'm like, I don't try to, Like,
Speaker 4: I just I just want to be friends with like
Speaker 4: people that I can go shoot the shit with and
Speaker 4: go eat like whatever the fucking just hang out and laugh.
Speaker 4: But it's like all their shit just somehow ends up
Speaker 4: like being a part of my life in like a
Speaker 4: small kind of way.
Speaker 1: Uh, I'm going to tell you the thing that I
Speaker 1: tell like literally everybody on this fucking podcast, which is
Speaker 1: that like you need to join a community of people
Speaker 1: because what you really need are like a bunch of acquaintances,
Speaker 1: and then from those acquaintances, you will naturally select whom
Speaker 1: you become closer with, as opposed to like being locked
Speaker 1: in these like kind of insane like one on one friendships.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I feel like that's that's like part of
Speaker 4: the problem too, with like making friends in your thirties,
Speaker 4: like because like I never really had like close knit
Speaker 4: friends because I was like bullied a lot when I
Speaker 4: was in middle school, and so like it kind of
Speaker 4: made me like it's like be afraid to have friends.
Speaker 4: So like that's why, like I'm very careful with like
Speaker 4: who I want to have in my life. And it
Speaker 4: just feels like when I do feel like I have
Speaker 4: people who I feel like I can trust, like some
Speaker 4: some weird fucking thing always happens and it's like, well, fuck,
Speaker 4: like do I even do I even have a friend?
Speaker 4: Do I even want to continue this friendship? So like
Speaker 4: pretty much why that's what I'm saying, Like I feel
Speaker 4: like I'm fucking cursed because I feel like I can
Speaker 4: never have like a genuine friendship.
Speaker 1: That's not true. I think you just need to look
Speaker 1: in different places. Where did you meet these people?
Speaker 4: Work?
Speaker 1: Okay, what do you do outside of work? I'm about
Speaker 1: to give you the same spiel I give I've given
Speaker 1: eight billion other callers, But like, I think you need
Speaker 1: to I think I think you need to like find
Speaker 1: a community outside of work that you can like regularly
Speaker 1: show up at and that way, like you have acquaintances
Speaker 1: and you know kind of like well leg you can
Speaker 1: kind of use that as like a filter to find
Speaker 1: like well adjusted people.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I mean like I'm slowly talking to people in
Speaker 4: my class and then in right now, like i'd obviously
Speaker 4: like it. I just started this week, so it's like
Speaker 4: I don't want to be like gun ho, like I'm
Speaker 4: just slowly getting to know these people. But I also
Speaker 4: have like a Discord server that I used to like
Speaker 4: be a part of a lot because my ex had
Speaker 4: a computer, so I would always like game with them
Speaker 4: and it was just cool, like it was just.
Speaker 1: Shoot, wait wait wait you said your ex had a computer.
Speaker 4: My ex had a like a full bloom like gaming computer.
Speaker 4: So I like ran a Discord server and I had
Speaker 4: friends that way.
Speaker 1: But like since I thought you I thought you were
Speaker 1: like I thought you were, you were kind of applying
Speaker 1: that like you didn't have Do you have a computer?
Speaker 4: I mean I have a laptop, but that's more for school,
Speaker 4: but not like a full warm.
Speaker 2: Setup a laptops computer.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's not the same. I can't I can't
Speaker 4: gain like the kind of games that they do. Like
Speaker 4: it's yeah, like I want one eventually and like go
Speaker 4: back to like being part of my discords.
Speaker 7: Like I'll still talk to my friends.
Speaker 4: On Discord like here and there, but like I don't know,
Speaker 4: because I don't have like a full Bowne PC setup,
Speaker 4: I don't really have the opportunity to like really hang
Speaker 4: out with them.
Speaker 1: So, Danny, is there anything else you want to say
Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 4: Take care of your mental health and really really pick
Speaker 4: people who you want to help you thrive, not not
Speaker 4: stress you out. Oh and while my boyfriend really loves
Speaker 4: you and.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, like you know that, oh ship, tell him?
Speaker 1: I said, what's up? Tell him? I said, tell him?
Speaker 1: I said, thank you? Wait, is he the one that
Speaker 1: told you about who told who about the show.
Speaker 4: He actually introduced me to you.
Speaker 1: Oh cool, hell yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's been listening to you for years, so he Well,
Speaker 4: I wonder.
Speaker 1: If he'll be jealous that you got to speak to
Speaker 1: me and I and we and I do get to
Speaker 1: speak to him.
Speaker 4: He was winging the fuck out just now, like he's
Speaker 4: super side but like looking the fuck out that actually
Speaker 4: gone on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll talk, Okay, give him a give him a
Speaker 1: pat on the head for me.
Speaker 4: Or something, will do Lyle, Thank you, see you Danny.
Speaker 1: Plus Danny Forever, ten thousand years of Danny. That's very interesting.
Speaker 1: I feel like that call on the previous call, I
Speaker 1: have a lot of like that's so I keep I'm trying,
Speaker 1: I'm drawing. There's a lot of parallels being that call
Speaker 1: in the previous call of just like how involved, like
Speaker 1: especially like in your thirties, like how involved are your
Speaker 1: friends supposed to be in your life? You know, like
Speaker 1: you got like a previous caller's friend like super involved,
Speaker 1: like willingly right, and then you got like this this
Speaker 1: this woman's like friends are trying to get her really
Speaker 1: involved in their life, like kind of like against her will.
Speaker 1: It's interesting. Hello, Hey, what's up, hommy?
Speaker 5: Oh is this lyle?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Who is this?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 5: My name is don Cou's Donku's lovely to hear from you.
Speaker 2: How are you doing?
Speaker 1: Ah, I'm doing okay. It's a lovely day on the
Speaker 1: earth for some people, some people. You know, what's today
Speaker 1: is the worst day of many people's lives, but also
Speaker 1: the best day of many people's lives. There's such an
Speaker 1: infinite amount of everything happening everywhere all at once. But
Speaker 1: if we start thinking about that, we're gonna go insane.
Speaker 1: So let's focus on the thing specifically that is happening
Speaker 1: with you. That is the reason that you called in today.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, no, Well real quick. What I have to
Speaker 5: say about the philosophical question you have proposed to me
Speaker 5: is how often do you think the ratio changes of
Speaker 5: people having the best days and their worst days. I'm
Speaker 5: just ashing, how.
Speaker 1: Often does the ratio change?
Speaker 2: Uh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I think the universe has some
Speaker 1: form of predictable frequency to it where the ratio is
Speaker 1: kind of probably remains the same over time. That's just
Speaker 1: my wild guess.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I feel like at the beginning of the week, everyone's
Speaker 5: life sucks. At the end of the week, everyone's life
Speaker 5: is good and it balances itself out.
Speaker 1: Hit me with your fitting homie.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So I went to a casino to go see a
Speaker 5: comedian performat in South Florida, and I got there a
Speaker 5: little early with some friends, and I brought only one
Speaker 5: hundred dollars with me because I didn't I couldn't bear
Speaker 5: losing more than that, right, And before the show, I
Speaker 5: put fifty down, run it all all the way up
Speaker 5: to like one ten, and then run it all all
Speaker 5: the way down to zero. And it happened in like
Speaker 5: the matter of fifteen minutes. I don't gamble often, and
Speaker 5: I've never even had an experience where it's gone to
Speaker 5: the point where I've trippled my money and then gone
Speaker 5: all the way down to zero. So I felt like
Speaker 5: the sino was out for me. So I was like,
Speaker 5: I'm not going to gamble anymore. I go to the
Speaker 5: comedy show and I have such a great time giggling
Speaker 5: with my friends in which I'm like, I'm gonna put
Speaker 5: these fifty dollars down and I lose everything up to
Speaker 5: my last ten ten.
Speaker 2: Schmacs uh huh.
Speaker 5: And I put ten bucks on a red seven and
Speaker 5: I walked out of there with three hundred and sixty dollars.
Speaker 5: Can't believe they left the lights on after I left
Speaker 5: that place.
Speaker 1: You know what, the lesson is, right, because you brought
Speaker 1: up you brought one hundred dollars in there, and you
Speaker 1: were like, I'm prepared to lose this one hundred dollars,
Speaker 1: and you did correct, but then you put that on
Speaker 1: fifty more right, and then you walked out with three
Speaker 1: hundred dollars. So the lesson is that if you gamble
Speaker 1: and lose all your money, you just keep gambling. You
Speaker 1: just keep going, and you will inevitably be rewarded for that.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 5: Absolutely, you only lose if you quit.
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely. Who's this comedian that you saw?
Speaker 5: I went to go see Starvros Oh cool?
Speaker 2: How could you?
Speaker 1: Oh cool? That's funny that he was playing at a
Speaker 1: at the at the casino. How was he?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 5: It was, it was he was actually so so funny, Like, uh,
Speaker 5: my girlfriend doesn't even like stand with comedy like that
Speaker 5: for real, And I convinced her to do it, and
Speaker 5: she came. She came along with me and me and
Speaker 5: a couple of buddies and uh, as we're watching I've
Speaker 5: never seen her uh laugh so much at just some
Speaker 5: dude on stage talking, and it's like we've done to
Speaker 5: like we've gone to like Don't Tell comedy shows and
Speaker 5: like other different small comedy shows. It was like the
Speaker 5: first theater show that she's ever been to, like's in
Speaker 5: like a real professional do it. Yeah, and uh man,
Speaker 5: we had a great time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's the last person where he's the last person
Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh, I really want to get him
Speaker 1: on this show. Maybe we'll make it happen someday. But well,
Speaker 1: what are you going to spend your three hundred dollars on?
Speaker 1: Or I guess you really need you really netted one
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty, But what are you gonna spend your
Speaker 1: ndred dollars in profit on?
Speaker 5: Oh my one hundred and fifty dollars in profit went
Speaker 5: straight to wah wah Hogy Sandwiches right after, and then
Speaker 5: I put one hundred dollars down onto a Wisdom to
Speaker 5: Youth surgery I'm having in like.
Speaker 2: A week or two.
Speaker 1: Well, don I'm glad, thank you so much for finally
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's always good to hear a positive
Speaker 1: story of perseverance and overcoming adversary on here, so I
Speaker 1: appreciate you sharing of course.
Speaker 5: Also, if you don't mind me just saying my piece
Speaker 5: real quick. I got to see you live in the
Speaker 5: what's it called the Durrau Beach in Provs, Like two
Speaker 5: years years ago. Yeah, and at the end of the
Speaker 5: year I posted my my I guess I think. I
Speaker 5: think it was like twenty twenty four wrapped of like
Speaker 5: a bunch of like just things that I did, and
Speaker 5: meeting you was with a huge highlight and all I
Speaker 5: really remember from the interaction that we had because I
Speaker 5: was a little starstruck that I told you that the
Speaker 5: shrimp that sleeps the current takes them. But I told
Speaker 5: you it in Spanish.
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't remember. I wish I remembered that. I
Speaker 1: really do.
Speaker 5: It's okay you you you're you're a green man traveling
Speaker 5: the green world.
Speaker 2: A lot of green things to see.
Speaker 1: Thanks Tommy. I'll try to make it back. I'll try.
Speaker 1: I don't have any Florida dates this year, but maybe
Speaker 1: I'll try to add one if there's enough demand.
Speaker 5: Well, I hope our cross our paths crossed again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you too, man, you too? Is there anything else
Speaker 1: you want to say? To the folks before we go,
Speaker 1: wash your rice.
Speaker 5: I've I've actually encountered too many people recently where I've
Speaker 5: gone over to their house to have dinner and they
Speaker 5: don't wash their rice. And and I thought that was
Speaker 5: a joke on the internet that people don't wash their rice.
Speaker 5: So my, my big if there's anything to leave off
Speaker 5: of from this call is wash your rice.
Speaker 1: Wash your rice, whatever that means to you, however you
Speaker 1: want to interpret that, wash your rice. Thanks for calling.
Speaker 5: Done, of course, have a great have a great night lyle.
Speaker 1: Take care man bye don forever. Hey, folks, if you're
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