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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is for when you are feeling stressed or

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<v Speaker 1>annoyed about work you have to do, remind yourself that

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<v Speaker 1>you chose this connect with what drew you to the

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<v Speaker 1>work in the first place, to provide renewed motivation or

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<v Speaker 1>at least tolerance for the task at hand. So I

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<v Speaker 1>love writing books, and in particular I love figuring out

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<v Speaker 1>new truths about how people spend their time and how

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<v Speaker 1>we can spend our time to make life more meaningful

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoyable. When I opened the giant box that came

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<v Speaker 1>in the mail a few weeks ago to see the

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<v Speaker 1>first hardcover copies of my latest book, Tranquility by Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>I was just flooded with the realization that, Wow, this

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<v Speaker 1>is what I wanted to be when I was growing up.

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<v Speaker 1>But it turns out that books don't sell themselves. So

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<v Speaker 1>I have spent a reasonable amount of time over the

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<v Speaker 1>past few months figuring out how I can share the

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<v Speaker 1>book with as large an audience as possible. That means

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<v Speaker 1>managing the logistics of various video conference platforms for interviews,

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<v Speaker 1>keeping track of marketing email schedules, and generally getting tired

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<v Speaker 1>of hearing myself talk. So I keep reminding myself, I

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<v Speaker 1>chose this. I get to write books for a living.

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<v Speaker 1>My whole life. I've wanted to be a writer, and

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<v Speaker 1>here I am. People sometimes even pay me to speak

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<v Speaker 1>about the topics in my book. I am very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>for that. It doesn't make getting stuck in O'Hare on

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<v Speaker 1>the way home from a speech anymore enjoyable, but it

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<v Speaker 1>does keep it in perspective. I am guessing if you

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<v Speaker 1>are human, there are parts of your job that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't like, or parts that stress you out. Maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>are a chef at an amazing bakery, which is your

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<v Speaker 1>dream job, and this requires you to be at work

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<v Speaker 1>before dawn every day that you are working. This is

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<v Speaker 1>not your favorite hour of the day. Or maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>are a physician who loves taking care of patience, but

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<v Speaker 1>you find the unpredictability of weekends when you are on

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<v Speaker 1>call incredibly stressful. Or maybe you are a parent who

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<v Speaker 1>is thrilled to be able to care for your kids

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<v Speaker 1>full time, but would it please be possible for your

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<v Speaker 1>two year old not to scream in the car every

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<v Speaker 1>afternoon when you have to wake him up from nap

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<v Speaker 1>to go get your six year old at school. Even

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<v Speaker 1>in a job you love, it is likely that there

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<v Speaker 1>are parts of your job that you don't love. These

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<v Speaker 1>parts are stressful, tedious, inconvenient. When you are feeling annoyed

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<v Speaker 1>by these parts of your job, it can be helpful

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<v Speaker 1>to repeat these words, you chose this, I chose this.

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<v Speaker 1>People get sick on weekends just like they get sick

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<v Speaker 1>during the week People want their pastries at seven am,

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<v Speaker 1>not seven pm, and so early hours are just the

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<v Speaker 1>nature of the baking life. Toddlers are toddlers, and if

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<v Speaker 1>you are a toddler's full time caregiver, you get the

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<v Speaker 1>tantrums along with the snuggles. So best to just keep

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<v Speaker 1>your eye on those snuggles. When you reconnect to what

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<v Speaker 1>you love about your work, it is easier to get

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<v Speaker 1>through the parts of your job that you don't love.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember what drew you to the work in the first place.

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<v Speaker 1>Consider what you are learning from this work and acknowledge

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<v Speaker 1>the impact you are having. Reflect on the future opportunities

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<v Speaker 1>that today's work is opening up for you. Remind yourself

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<v Speaker 1>of what appealed to you in the first place, so

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<v Speaker 1>you can find motivation to bring the work to completion.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, if you realize that your reasons for choosing

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<v Speaker 1>your work are outweighed by its downsides, maybe it's time

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<v Speaker 1>to consider looking for a new job or changing the

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<v Speaker 1>situation in some other way. There's really no shame in

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<v Speaker 1>this at all, but the main idea is to remember

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<v Speaker 1>that you have choices. If you live somewhere that you

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<v Speaker 1>are free to listen to this podcast, then most likely

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<v Speaker 1>you have a lot of control over your life. The

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<v Speaker 1>universe didn't assign you this work. You chose it, so

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<v Speaker 1>stay connected to your motivations for choosing it, or realize

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<v Speaker 1>that you can choose something different. I realized I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do anything more than writing, and so it's

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<v Speaker 1>all good one way or another. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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