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Speaker 1: Was a sad story that was.

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Speaker 1: His brother was Bob no Way. His brother was named

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Speaker 3: This girl just got back from her pick a ball lesson.

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Speaker 3: Here we go al Roach twelve oh one, Carissa, Are

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Speaker 2: That's a long time, girl, friend. This is your stand

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Speaker 3: What song was playing when you dance with Mick Jagger? Oh?

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Speaker 3: wearing this outfit, I wonder, Yeah, Nasha Dunny.

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Speaker 1: We has them? I mean, did they? I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Side story here, Shelby. I wish my schools had uniforms.

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Speaker 3: Like no, just the simplicity of a uniform, I'm all

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Speaker 3: All right, y'all, thank you guys for running in. We

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Speaker 1: We will. We're getting closer and closer to the season,

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Speaker 3: We have a running list of things that we talk about.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's going on it for free influencers.

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Speaker 2: We'll do a podcast. How do we get on this?

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Speaker 1: This is insane? We'll talk about it on the Big Show.

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