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Speaker 1: Today, fed up by finding my boyfriend's spank bank. The update,

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we got we got an update from from

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Speaker 1: that faithful story that we left off on. Let's hear it. So,

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Speaker 1: first little context from op. I wanted to break up

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Speaker 1: with him because I fed up violated his privacy by snooping.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree with his spank bank. A spank bank

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Speaker 2: is a man's private property.

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Speaker 1: That's right. Even if it's not FDIC insured, it's still

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Speaker 1: so locked down, you know what I mean. I agree

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Speaker 1: with the lot of Yeah, it was fed up, way

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Speaker 1: worse than finding old nudies. Kind of like cheating because

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Speaker 1: of the trust thing. I don't know if it's I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't call it cheating, but snooping on the phone is

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Speaker 1: a violation. Yeah, snooping on the phone is not. But

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Speaker 1: also like you should have I don't know, me and

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Speaker 1: my partner, we have open access to each other's phones

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Speaker 1: because there's no worry about. So we talked. I came clean.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I know I violated his trust

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Speaker 1: and I should not have snooped, and I would understand

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Speaker 1: if he didn't want anything to do with me anymore.

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Speaker 1: So I was breaking up with him. Damn it's an

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Speaker 1: interesting way to phrase it. I don't know if I

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Speaker 1: would phrase it like that, but it's just like like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you want to have anything to

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Speaker 1: do with me.

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Speaker 3: And he was waking up with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, anyways, the deed is done at any rate.

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Speaker 1: I told him I'd stay in a hotel or something

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Speaker 1: if he didn't want to be near me after this,

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Speaker 1: but I couldn't allow him to be with me when

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Speaker 1: I'm so.

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Speaker 2: Fed up because like she snooped, So she's like she

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Speaker 2: just feels really bad about snooping.

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Speaker 1: All right, man, she's really taking it to heart here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: He told me I was reaching and he didn't feel

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Speaker 1: like his privacy was violated. He said he had nothing

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Speaker 1: to hide. He knew my capabilities and said he expected

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Speaker 1: it years ago but was surprised that it didn't happen

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Speaker 1: until now.

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Speaker 2: When she when he says capabilities, like in the first post,

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Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, I can work things out on

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Speaker 2: the internet. She likes something like crazy hacker.

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Speaker 1: Yeah maybe she yeah, maybe she's like yeah, some sort

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Speaker 1: of like super super genius. Usually white hat hacker, but

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Speaker 1: this time we turned the other direction.

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Speaker 3: The white turned into black.

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Speaker 1: Bless you, thank you. That's why I didn't just ask him,

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Speaker 1: And I told him that I didn't know. I didn't

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Speaker 1: have an excuse. He asked if I ever felt like

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Speaker 1: he lied, and I told him about a few things. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, I think I think you lied about a

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Speaker 1: thing or two. My friends, He didn't lie. He said

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Speaker 1: he had his spank bank. He's but he was fucking

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Speaker 1: his boss, so who demoted her, like like fucked her over.

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Speaker 2: But it sounds like he was he was doing that

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Speaker 2: before they were together. Oh, it was like a past

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Speaker 2: relationship with an ex boss.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like that's icy because it happened the the

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Speaker 1: the boss, Uh fucked with op during the relationship.

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe during during Oh.

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Speaker 1: It sounded like yeah, like like he was like, oh, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna.

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Speaker 2: Get like it seems at the very least, there was

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Speaker 2: some intentional uh things left out that he didn't come

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Speaker 2: forward with full omission, Yes, thoughtful emissions.

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Speaker 1: I brought up some of my findings and he said

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Speaker 1: he was telling the truth when he said he wasn't

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Speaker 1: into it. He said he lied about his inexperience because

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Speaker 1: he didn't feel like accounted since he wasn't into it.

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Speaker 2: Oh, like like all the sexual partners he had in

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Speaker 2: his spank bank, He's like, oh, like, you know, it

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Speaker 2: doesn't really count because I'm not bro. That's not sexual experience.

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Speaker 2: This seems like a lie.

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Speaker 3: The logic. Yeah, that's a lie, dude, that's a lie. Bro.

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Speaker 2: I mean if you ask, like someone a are you

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Speaker 2: experienced or like, you know what if your partners been

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Speaker 2: in like I feel like, uh like, oh I.

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Speaker 3: Didn't like it, so I even like it, so doesn't count.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. It's like like like you you uh you know,

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Speaker 1: uh you fuck your girl's best friend and it's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I didn't like it. It wasn't it wasn't cheating. It

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Speaker 1: was I wasn't cheating. It was it was chilling, hilarious.

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Speaker 1: He said he didn't want to break up and felt

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Speaker 1: like he could move past it because it wasn't as

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Speaker 1: big of a deal as I have made it. But

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Speaker 1: I couldn't get past it, so then so be it.

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Speaker 2: I feel like, oh, he is way too hard on

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Speaker 2: herself and not hard enough on the boyfriend. Bing go yes, absolutely, bingo,

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Speaker 2: fuck yourself boyfriend, right. He said he didn't know he

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Speaker 2: liked girls like me until he met me and crushed

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Speaker 2: on me the whole time we were friends, even with

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Speaker 2: all of my crazy because of his us only in

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Speaker 2: like white blonde girls before.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, apparently he told me he thought those girls he

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Speaker 1: dated before was what he was supposed to like because

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Speaker 1: of where he grew up.

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Speaker 3: Hmmm, I don't know, man, this.

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Speaker 1: Guy's this guy is getting worse and worse in my house.

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Speaker 1: He says he wasn't settling me because of his reasons

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Speaker 1: that I'm not writing out. Okay, okay. I asked him

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Speaker 1: to I read. I asked him to sit I thought

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Speaker 1: it was I asked him to say all my face, and.

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Speaker 3: It was all better.

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Speaker 1: It was all better. I asked him to sit in

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Speaker 1: on my first therapy session with a new therapist because

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Speaker 1: my old one passed from COVID. Wow, this is a

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Speaker 1: train wreck. Crazy, everything's just going wrong. Brop uh. He

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Speaker 1: said he's thinking about it because it's not his thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's also a little odd to go to someone

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Speaker 2: else's therapy session, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: Ah y, Yeah, I mean I mean if it's in

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Speaker 1: the context of like a couple's thing.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's couples therapy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that is a little bit. Yeah, that's a bit strange,

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Speaker 1: and she's like, hey, come to my personal thing. Let

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Speaker 1: me dish my dirt out. I guess we're not broken up,

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Speaker 1: but only time will tell. You broke up with him? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if that's what you want, then then this is weird.

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Speaker 1: I'm not into it. I'm not into it. There's so

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Speaker 1: many things are going wrong. I still efft up though

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Speaker 1: I'm not dismissing it. I should probably add it here

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Speaker 1: that I e ft up by posting this on effing reddit.

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Speaker 1: No op, no, no, you are not in like you

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Speaker 1: are wrong a little bit, A little bit, not the

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Speaker 1: most far. I mean, by far, you are giving him

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Speaker 1: way too, and he's he's just he's taking advantage of

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Speaker 1: He's like, oh, well, you know, you know, it's like

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Speaker 1: I have to work past it and stuff, but you know,

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Speaker 1: like I'll be okay, like we can still.

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Speaker 3: You know, this is messed up, dude. This is messed up.

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Speaker 1: Not it