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Speaker 1: All right, it's time for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one today right now. Buggle up

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Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thanking if you subject, I

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Speaker 1: need him to go a little bit longer. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: My husband is a great provider, and what I love

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Speaker 1: most about him is the way he loves the Lord.

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Speaker 1: We dated for three years before we got married, and

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Speaker 1: we've been married for two months. I love him dearly,

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Speaker 1: but we have a problem in the bedroom. When we

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Speaker 1: make love, it's usually a ten to fifteen minute session.

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Speaker 1: We do the pregame stuff and it's wonderful. I hook

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Speaker 1: him up and he hooks me up before we get started,

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Speaker 1: but when it comes to getting it on, he is

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Speaker 1: done way too soon. I have a problem with him

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Speaker 1: finishing too fast and not making sure I'm finished before him.

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Speaker 1: I'm disappointed every time and usually have to finish myself

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Speaker 1: off after he falls asleep. I can't live in this

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Speaker 1: marriage without being satisfied, and I'm not a cheater. I

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Speaker 1: don't want to make him feel bad by telling him

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Speaker 1: that he's not lasting long enough in the bedroom and

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Speaker 1: I'm not pleased with him. I have a lot of

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Speaker 1: tricks to show him, and I want to blow his

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Speaker 1: mind each time like I used to when we first met.

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Speaker 1: I am sure it's one of the things that really

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Speaker 1: attracted him to me. I need your help on this one.

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Speaker 1: Should I just be happy that his pregame activities are

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Speaker 1: on point and get over the fact that he can't

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Speaker 1: last over fifteen minutes. I want to give him subtle hints,

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Speaker 1: but I don't know where to start. What is a

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Speaker 1: normal time frame for sex? Because it could be that

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Speaker 1: I'm asking for way too much. Steve, that last question

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Speaker 1: was for you, please help cool problem. As you directed

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Speaker 1: to I got some fight, all right. No, No, to

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Speaker 1: answer your question, there is not a time limit to

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Speaker 1: making love. I mean it can go as for as

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Speaker 1: much time as you like, or for as little time

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Speaker 1: as you want it. It's it's up to the both

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Speaker 1: of you guys who are involved in in in this situation.

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Speaker 1: You should be happy. UM, I'm glad you're happy with

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Speaker 1: the four play or the pregame activities as you call it. Um,

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Speaker 1: happy you say, but not satisfied. Um. You know clearly

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Speaker 1: there's a problem UM in the bedroom with you guys.

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Speaker 1: You want more and he's giving you. I guess all

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Speaker 1: he has or all he thinks that you want fifteen minutes. Okay,

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Speaker 1: maybe that's all he has to give. UM. You know,

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Speaker 1: maybe you guys should cut down on the pregame activities

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Speaker 1: and and do more on the main attraction. Uh, you're

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Speaker 1: getting you know, you're just getting started and he's finishing

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Speaker 1: up after three years of dating. It seems like you

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Speaker 1: guys would have worked this situation out while you were dating.

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Speaker 1: Because you don't talk. You don't say that you weren't satisfied.

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Speaker 1: When you were dating. You said that you used to

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Speaker 1: blow his mind. So what happened? You got married and

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Speaker 1: now you guys are settling in. You're getting to know

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Speaker 1: each other, You got bills, you realize that you're going

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Speaker 1: to be together till death do us part, and you know,

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Speaker 1: and all those things. So you guys have only been

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Speaker 1: married for two months. You have to get settled in

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Speaker 1: you have to learn each other. You have to learn

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Speaker 1: how to talk to each other. That means finding a

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Speaker 1: way to tell him nicely that you would like him

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Speaker 1: to slow down, take his time, that he's it's happening

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Speaker 1: too fast. Okay, I almost said it, that it's happening

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Speaker 1: too fast. That's what you need to talk to him about.

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Speaker 1: All right. You guys are married for the long haul.

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Speaker 1: You can talk to him. You can teach him. I did.

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Speaker 1: You can teach him, all right, especially if you guys

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Speaker 1: love each other and you say you do, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: you know, come on, I appreciate your answer. Shreyan. Yeah

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Speaker 1: that night, you know, come on, you know talking this

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Speaker 1: is gonna get out what's really happening here? Homeboy, ain't

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Speaker 1: cutting it. It's all to it. You know. It's a

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Speaker 1: ten to fifteen minute session. Now I need to ask

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Speaker 1: you a question. Is this ten to fifteen minutes inclusive

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Speaker 1: of the pre game? You know that's where you say

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Speaker 1: you take care of him and he take care of you.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so, Step, So that's we haven't done

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Speaker 1: this now you want fifteen mot na See, we got

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Speaker 1: a couple things we need to talk about him now.

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Speaker 1: After all this hill fifteen mote. I'm gonna be honest

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Speaker 1: with you. He putting it in because it's fifteen A

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Speaker 1: minute is a hard label. Intensified. I'm talking about back cracking. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about your butt has locked up. What I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about your tricepts. It's pulsing at a point and

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Speaker 1: you damn nil, damn Neil can't stay up no more. Uh,

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Speaker 1: you've obviously spent. You need to count all these minutes

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Speaker 1: or the pre game has to be counted, because you

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Speaker 1: may be in a forty minute session in pre game. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know all this is to you. Take care here,

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Speaker 1: he take care of you. I don't know what they mean.

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Speaker 1: I got a good idea. What I'm hoping it is

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Speaker 1: not about yore out. You will give me up before

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Speaker 1: we skip the rest. I'm gonna go back. You're not

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Speaker 1: in this letter. I'm just saying, we do the pre

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Speaker 1: game stuff and this is wonderful. I hooked him up

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Speaker 1: in here. He booked me up. Well here, everybody hooked up.

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Speaker 1: See we alls hooked up now not so what is

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Speaker 1: we crying for? So let me go of a couple

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Speaker 1: of things. I'm gonna give you a suggestion as to

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Speaker 1: what you do when we come back. I have a

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Speaker 1: series of suggestions for you that you should try so

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Speaker 1: we can get a better grip on this time. Y'all,

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Speaker 1: stay right here. I got the truthfully, all right. We'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three after the hour. We'll get into it when we

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Speaker 1: come back right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject. I need him to

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Speaker 1: go a little bit longer. Yeah, I bet you do.

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Speaker 1: See this woman say shit, got a husband, great provider.

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Speaker 1: Love everything about him, especially the way he loves the Lord.

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Speaker 1: Dated for three years, got married, being married two months.

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Speaker 1: You love him dearly, But we got a problem in

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Speaker 1: the bed room. When we make love is usually of

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Speaker 1: ten to fifteen minute session. Now we do all the

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Speaker 1: pregame stuff and it's wonderful. I hook him up. He

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Speaker 1: hooked me up before we get started. See all is

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Speaker 1: hooking up before you get started. And now after that,

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Speaker 1: I'm finished before him. I'm disappointed every time. And I

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Speaker 1: used to have to finish myself off after he fall asleep.

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Speaker 1: I ain't living this manage without being satisfied. I ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna cheat him. I don't want to make it feel

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Speaker 1: his bed room. I'm not pleased with him though. Now

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Speaker 1: I got some tricks. I want to show him. I

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Speaker 1: want to blow his mind each time, like I used

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Speaker 1: to do. Who we use, I'm show that's one of

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Speaker 1: the things that really attracted him with me. I need

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Speaker 1: to help on this. So should I be happy with

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Speaker 1: the pregame activities because they are on point? And get

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Speaker 1: over the fact that he can't last over fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: I want to give him some hints, but I don't

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Speaker 1: want to know where to start. What's a normal time

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Speaker 1: really ends because I could that I'm asking for too much. Steve,

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Speaker 1: that last question was for you, Are you asking for

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Speaker 1: too much? No, you ain't asking for too much, but

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Speaker 1: you might be too damn much. Well, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what you're in that doing now that

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Speaker 1: it would have had to be a little bit more

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Speaker 1: explicit for me to tell if you know, are you

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Speaker 1: asking too much? But here's what I do know we

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Speaker 1: got a problem because now the group has said that

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Speaker 1: the ten to fifteen minutes that y'all are actually in

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Speaker 1: the act of love making on the what you consider

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Speaker 1: I guess the final final moment is ten to fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: The problem is is that you do the early start,

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Speaker 1: the pre before you get hooked up and he get

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Speaker 1: hooked up. Now I understand that, But now here's the

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Speaker 1: problems you have. Number One, start on your own. Yes,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, Yes, you start your own to wherever you

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Speaker 1: need to be. Open up the chip bag, bus open

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Speaker 1: the snacks, get busy or derbs his own. The next

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Speaker 1: when you close yes, and then he come on end Yeah, baby,

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Speaker 1: I'm good. Come on hair, Harry up, not her read down?

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Speaker 1: See that way when he come in. Now whatever he

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Speaker 1: got left is meaningful him. Can't hit the whistle again.

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Speaker 1: But wait, that's her whistling down because you know she

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Speaker 1: and that she working. She didn't worked that it's about

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Speaker 1: to about to go down. Then uh huh. They get

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Speaker 1: set your clock up. When you get started, you hit

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Speaker 1: like you went longer. Oh man, don't you hit me now. Now,

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Speaker 1: all this is your alternative. If you don't want to

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Speaker 1: and he finishing. Here's a couple of other suggestions. Now

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just say these real quick. You can take

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Speaker 1: up painting. Go down there and sign up for a

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Speaker 1: craft class. Go down there, I think used the old school,

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Speaker 1: just some old school crafts. Makes mans trade, yeah, Michaels. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know. Then start collecting hot wheels. It just go

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Speaker 1: toys that people don't see no more. You know, make

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Speaker 1: a train, you know what I mean. You put some

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Speaker 1: stuff around your house, little trees, little station, little get

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Speaker 1: some little dolls and stuff. Just stuff you can do. Hey,

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Speaker 1: go outside, do some yard work. Good out this shit,

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Speaker 1: going outside and do some yard work. Or here's the

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Speaker 1: other option, the third set. Have you ever thought, sweetie,

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Speaker 1: that you just really really good? Huh? Has that crossed

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Speaker 1: your mind? Yeah? That girl? What you putting on this

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Speaker 1: boy right now? Can't no man take it cause you

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Speaker 1: all that donte wilding people. Yeah, yeah, you just you

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Speaker 1: just throwing knockout blow all right, I'm not no, yeah,

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