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Speaker 2: Hello Cheeky's. I just want to say that I'm such

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Speaker 2: your books. You're someone that I look up to and

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Speaker 2: that I love so much, And I'm just wondering, I've

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Speaker 2: draw that you've been through. How do you keep your faith?

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Speaker 2: I know that you always say kund I'm currently going

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Speaker 2: and it's so overwhelming. I've been seeking him, I've been reading,

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Speaker 3: Much, Kisha.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I'm sending you a big, big, big

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Speaker 1: And when I say that, sometimes when I say let

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Speaker 1: If we ask for God's will to be done, then

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Speaker 1: rejection is God's protection. I think what's helped me, And

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Speaker 1: let me tell you, it's not easy. It's not easy

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Speaker 1: because there are times in my life where I have

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Speaker 1: Don't let up, do not don't let that enemy come

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Speaker 1: Believe that, believe it, claim it, Affirm it.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, So our next question comes from an anonymous listener.

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Speaker 5: I just want to say that you're such a beautiful woman.

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Speaker 5: You're inspiring and every time I see you on TV,

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Speaker 5: And my question for you is how did you transition

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Speaker 5: Because you've always been so open about your personal life

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Speaker 1: Mama side, I wish I know your name, but it's okay.

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Speaker 1: First of all, thank you so much for loving me

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Speaker 1: But healing, healing is it You have to heal those things,

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Speaker 6: Teaky's I love your podcast. I love everything you stand for.

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Speaker 6: I love every advice you give all of us. My

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Speaker 1: M Vanessa, this is a good one because I also

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Speaker 1: It's a conversation that needs to be had in the

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Speaker 1: Let her know, Hey, I'm kind of regretting that I

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Speaker 1: got you this job because I feel that you get

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Speaker 1: what happens, our friendship is first. Yes, we'd love to

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Speaker 1: that maybe that's not a friend you want in your life. Perhaps,

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Speaker 3: Talk to her. Do not let another day pass by.

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Speaker 1: You need to do it soon because you're going to

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Speaker 4: We love to hear stories about your mom, Jenny, stories

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Speaker 4: we've never heard before, But why do y'all insist on

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Speaker 4: for example, what type of mother she was and how

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Speaker 1: Mm, Angie, girl, you sound upset, but it's okay. You

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Speaker 1: My mom was also very vocal always that she wasn't

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Speaker 1: So to answer your question, that's that's what it is.

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Speaker 1: It could be about anything, anything and everything, you guys, finances, relationships, health,

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