WEBVTT - 8 Months Pregnant and Ryan Returns 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.360 This is how men think with Brooks like and Gavin 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:09.840 to grab and I hear radio podcast, welcome to the show. 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.840 You have Ryan here, we have no Brooks nor Gavin. 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:18.520 When the traditional hosts are away, Dmitri, Ryan and Rick 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:22.000 will play we are here boys. I've never seen you 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:24.800 this smiley. I have to, as Brooks would say, I 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:28.040 have these two fine stirs here with me. I'm so 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:30.840 glad we don't have to hear that the dead weight 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.840 is gone, the three finest, the three hosts you all 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:39.479 have been clamoring for our finally here Sands Brooks, Sands Gavin, 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:41.320 and we're gonna have a great time today. Am I right? 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:47.120 So we have a good show today. I have been 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:51.360 summoned here um as a part two to an episode 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.600 we did a few months back. When I gave my 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.200 wife gave birth to our second child. I was in 0:00:57.240 --> 0:01:01.400 a dark, dark state of mind, very st stout. Amy 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:03.800 had told me it was unreasonable stress, but it was 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:09.640 stressed nonetheless. Uh, and I'm in a similarly dark state 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.760 of mind today. So Amy telling you your stress was 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:19.800 unreasonable didn't make your stress go it. Actually it annoys me. Well, 0:01:19.800 --> 0:01:21.959 there are some dark clouds outside, so maybe it's part 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:24.200 of that. I don't know, it could be. Uh, what 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:28.319 are you worried about? What's going on? So I'll tell you. Okay, 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:32.039 this past weekend, so our what what was our newborn 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:35.399 back in October is now four and a half months? Um, 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.319 congratulations than four and a half months and you're still bitching. 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:44.720 That is correct. And here's why, dmitri. So this weekend, Uh, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.760 a week ago, our two year old two and a 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:52.240 half year old started puking. He had some stomach bug. Fine, 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.840 we it was a twenty four hour thing. Luckily he 0:01:54.920 --> 0:01:59.280 got it through a system. All was okay. Three days later, 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:01.960 I myself got sick, then my wife got sick, and 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:05.240 then this weekend. Uh, it all came to a head 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.000 when it had been five days of our four and 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:11.440 a half month year old who had been vomiting every 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:15.160 single day for the past five days, and diarrhea. He 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:19.440 was refusing any liquids whatsoever, was not taking his bottle. 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.760 We were nervous because he was scary. He was dropping weight. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:26.280 He as a result of being severely dehydrated, he had 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.880 no circulation to his hands into his feet, so his 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:34.280 his hands and feet were both purple. Uh. And it 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.079 was getting stressful. So we took him to the pediatrician 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:40.440 and uh. The pediatrician looked at him and said, look, 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:43.000 you know, we need to get fluids in him, Try pedialyite, 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:47.400 try rice water. I'm boiling rice and straining the rice kernels. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:51.120 I'm trying everything. Pediatricians said, Ryan, You're being unreasonable. The 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:56.120 pediatrician actually was like, don't worry, guys. He's not severely 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:59.440 severely dehydrated yet. He's on the way. But if you 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:02.200 look in his eyeballs, they're still moist, so he's not 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.600 it's not dire. And I'm like, well, I don't want 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:08.200 to get to the point where his eyeballs are dry. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:13.519 Stop it exactly. Um. So we on Saturday had to 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:16.400 go to urgent care because he had taken in like 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:20.760 three ounces of liquid in the past forty eight hours, 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:23.440 which is really not good. That was affecting his sleep. 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:26.400 He was not sleeping whatsoever because he was starving, and 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:29.720 he wasn't taking fluids in because presumably his throat was 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.919 hurting and he was puking anytime he took in any 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.280 liquor whatsoever. But what was it. Did he have a virus? 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.320 Is that why he couldn't take into The pediatrician told 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.280 us there was a stomach bug going around l A 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:43.240 and it was such that because it was a virus, 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:46.480 it's not bacterial. You can't give an antibiotic. Uh, there 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:48.520 was nothing you could do. You had to just let 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.360 it run its course. And with the other kids that 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.880 had come in, it had lasted up till two weeks 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:58.120 of every day vomiting and diarrhea. Well, I will say 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:00.840 number one, that sounds horrible. Number two, I hope you 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:02.880 didn't bring any of that here. There was a lot 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:04.960 of Number two. Okay, Well, I don't mean that, I 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:08.200 mean the germs. Um. I will say this. My family 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.120 got hit with the stomach bug. It was twenty four hours, 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:12.840 but it was my oldest she got it, then my 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.880 wife got it, then the next kid. So there was 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:18.160 about thirty six to forty eight hours where I was 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:19.599 the only one that didn't get it. Where I was 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:22.520 I think I threw up once, but it was non 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.600 stop and I slept on the living room floor because 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:27.839 it was the most central location so I could hear. 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.560 I finally got the time of the sound down. Whereas 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:31.920 like they come and tell me, like Dad, I think 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:33.320 I want to be saying who, And I was like, 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:36.159 don't tell me, just go straight to the bathroom. Believe me, 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:38.560 I'll figure it out. But so I slept on the 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:40.000 living room floor. And it was like that scene in 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.360 the Princess Bride when they're in that thing and they 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:44.080 hear the popping sound and they know that the flame's 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:45.840 gonna shoot up. I would hear one of the kids 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:47.920 in the middle of the night, uh, and and I'd 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:49.440 run and I'd grab him and I bring in the 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:51.479 bathroom and I go and I laid back down after 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.720 I got him all cleaned up, and i'd hear from 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:55.600 like the other directions ship and I have to run. 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:59.200 And it was thirty six. I was just NonStop puking. Well, 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.360 and you're the ld person in the out of the 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:03.880 whole family, yet you want to stay away from it 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:05.440 as far as you can because you know that you're 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:06.880 an next in line to get sick. That's the other 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:11.680 reason I slept in the living room. Flora, well, sometimes 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:15.839 on the couch my daughter. My daughter had the same 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:17.880 not really the same thing as long, but it was 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:20.320 like a twenty four hour flu. But basically to your point, 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.440 Dmitri she was sitting on. She was like, my stomach careers, 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:25.160 my stomach is okay, Well let's you know. So we 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:27.800 take her to the bathroom kind of prepare and she's 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:30.680 like she sits down on the toilet and then it 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:34.560 starts barfing down on this floor and I'm like, what 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:38.680 the hell are you doing? Like turn around like and 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:40.880 then it's like, you know, everyone's screaming, and I don't 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:44.719 feel bad for her and how old is the daughter? That? Yeah? 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:48.400 And so my what is challenging for me is like eleven, 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:51.080 you can have you can communicate with her first and foremost, 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.520 but like that didn't work though, But you're not worried 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:57.360 about he doesn't talk to women so well. But but 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:01.000 you're not fearing that she's going to die. And when 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.280 when you have a four month old like that is 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.960 a real genuine thought that we're having, which is like 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.680 he's not taking in any fluids. You go to urgent 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:11.400 care over the weekend and they're looking at you saying, 0:06:11.760 --> 0:06:14.680 if you don't get something down impedially or whatever, which 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:16.719 we had tried at that point for seventy two hours 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:19.400 to no avail. She's saying, he's going to need to 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.520 go to the e er and get an IVY and 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:24.360 with a four month old, it's going to take seven 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.200 pricks minimum to find a vein which is going to 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:31.000 destroy his Okay, hold on, so that's not now we're 0:06:31.000 --> 0:06:34.359 getting to Ryan. That's well, no, that's not what they 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:38.160 said to you. No, with that tone and those statistics, 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:41.080 that's you googling ship. No, that is exactly what she said. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:42.920 They so they said, and by the way, this is 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:46.240 gonna take seven stabs in your son's arms. She didn't 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:48.960 say it in that aggressive tone. She said, look, you 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:52.120 need to you need to just keep trying to force fluids. 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:55.600 I cannot impress upon but it was the drama after this. 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:57.400 Now I'm going back to when you fake your own 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:59.720 death with your doctor. This is that Ryan's coming out. 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.720 She said, I can tell you you need to get 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:05.120 fluids down because if you don't, the next step is 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.160 going to the emergency room. And what's going to happen 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:09.400 there is the only thing they can do for this, 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.000 because he's dehydrated and it's a virus, is they need 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:13.600 to get fluids in him. The only way they'll do 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:16.240 that is through an IVY. Is a wonderful story, but 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.560 is a kid, Okay, he yeah, I mean it's been 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:22.080 seven days. Neither of us have been sleeping like he's 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.160 he's now taking in fluids as of yesterday. He's gotta 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.200 be here. He's gotta be better because you're standing here 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.880 holding a microphone. So I imagine if he wasn't, he 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:31.960 has gotten better as it lets you sticks something up 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:33.880 on the web, you know what where the sun don't 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:38.440 shut off for a four month old. But we need 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:40.520 to get to the point of it all? Is that 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:43.120 tell the story about when you went to o Hi 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:47.080 uh a month or so ago, a month and a 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:50.160 half ago, uh for my birthday. My wife and I decided, 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:52.960 you know what, like happy birthday? Thanks? Oh yeah? Did 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.120 you get my card? That was from both of us? 0:07:56.840 --> 0:08:00.560 I actually gonna bounce back. It's an email. So I've 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.760 heard all the advice from you morons and all the 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:05.920 experts that have come on the show over the course 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.680 of this podcast to tell me all the things I'm 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:09.880 doing wrong and all of the things I need to 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.600 do for my marriage and for our marriage and for 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.640 my happiness and the balance we need to find, which 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.760 is all a complete joke. So what we did was 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.320 we decided, you know what, like, let's heed the advice 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:23.640 of all these people that have been telling us how 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:26.480 we should live our lives. Great, here we go. So, 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:29.840 because we have no family in l A, my father 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:32.640 in law who lives in Colorado flew in for the 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:35.160 weekend and was going to watch our two and a 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:37.240 half year old. We were going to take the baby 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.520 to two and a half hours away and spend two 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.720 nights at this resort and just try to get away. 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.280 The two who said take the baby and that's how 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:49.080 you're gonna feel better, nobody gave that. We we don't 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:52.160 have someone that is able to watch a at the time, 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:55.000 like three and a half month because because you're because 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.000 you're a control freak, you're in Los Angeles. You can 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.959 find someone to watch a baby. Correct in three and 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.800 a half month old? You guys, you continue to like 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:07.160 it's breastfeeding, jackass. I have four kids. Don't tell me. 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:08.319 I don't know what a three and a half month 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:11.120 old is. I don't think you remember. I don't think 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:14.079 that you went away when your baby was three and 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:17.240 a half months. Uh, I think I did. Actually I 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.959 think you can, but what was your thought process? Will 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:22.760 take just the baby, and that will be easier on us. 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:26.839 We my father in law is not going to be 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:30.079 able to watch both of them. Our nanny that we 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.040 have part time could not watch. She has three kids 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:35.839 of her own. She could not take a baby. The 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:39.000 panel will accept that answer. Continue with your story, except 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.520 who gets a nanny that has three kids? She's cutting 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:48.439 up that because yeah, because Amy says, finding nanny's to 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.680 help out her, it's so easy. It's such an easy 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.719 especially now that we're limiting ones to those that have 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:55.559 no kids. Continue with your stories so we can try 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:58.319 to actually help you instead of just being like you're 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:02.160 punching backs. Well, I'll continue if you allow me to. So, 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:06.400 uh so we go away. Can wait till people email 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:09.240 us and instagram US d m U S whatever. How 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:13.000 did the hell and defend me? Message us to give 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:16.520 you some female to defend me and say we are 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:19.720 so sick of hearing Amy, we do want feedback. Occasionally 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:24.120 they say that as well. Continue. Okay, So we we 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.920 decide we're gonna take our the newborn with us, and 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.920 it will be half the amount of kids, and we'll 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.880 be able to kind of like go away and you know, 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.920 he'll take he sleeps for a good portion of the day. 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:42.720 It is it's math. Uh, we don't need to dramatize math. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:48.080 So anyway, we pack up the car and we head 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:53.760 off for the weekend. Now again, it's supposed to be enjoyable, 0:10:54.000 --> 0:10:57.320 and we're going away to this beautiful place. We're gonna relax, 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.800 we're gonna drink wine, we're gonna like hang out by 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:03.760 the pool, do all those great things. Figure it all out. Now, 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:08.800 I will begin by saying, the amount of stuff that 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:11.680 you need to pack with a three and a half 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.679 month old in your car for just two nights, is 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:18.360 it a joke. It's absolutely an embarrassment. So with us, 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:21.800 I mean, I'm talking about hours and hours of packing 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:25.240 up the car before we even leave. So in the car, 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.760 I have to load a pack and play. Six bottles, 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:31.079 the soap to clean the bottles, because you're doing six 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:34.960 bottles a day minimum, a cleaning brush to to clean 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:38.400 out the bottles, a car seat, a stroller with the bassinet, 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:44.800 a car seat stroller adapter, the formula, diapers, aquifer, a thermometer, wipes, 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:48.280 motor and baby biorn, stand up chair, a carrier baby 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:50.319 born for him to sleep on our chest, while we 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:54.120 walk around teething toys, blankets, a noise machine, my my 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.600 baby registry. I didn't have that much sho on. Why 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:59.960 did you need two strollers? I didn't say too stroll 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:01.720 at a stroller with the car thing and a stroller, 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:05.599 one gets a flat tire. Well, sometimes the baby like 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.360 to lay back reclined. Listen, here's the deal. If this 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.960 was your first kid, I would give you. I would 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:13.360 give you some room for for acting like this. This 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.600 is your second kid. The fact that you haven't made 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:18.240 some cuts and and streamlined some stuff that's on you 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:23.720 pal So the first morning that we're there, he wakes 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:27.679 up at four am and is up. So we're awake now, 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:31.080 getting a bottle made, warming the bottle. It's a human 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:36.880 that has to live like yet conflated about God, When 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:38.559 was the last time you woke up at four am? 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:41.959 Sometimes I do. She's more of a go to bed 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.199 for you. I'm kind of so that does putting you 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:46.880 that So that's putting you in a dark place under vacation. 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:49.679 No one. The argument that he's not a human being, 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:51.599 I'm stating a fact. He woke up at four a m. 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.960 So we get up at four am. These are facts. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.480 We get up at four am that my wife starts 0:12:56.559 --> 0:13:00.240 making the bottle and warming the bottle. I then ache 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:02.840 in an espresso machine in the room, each of us 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:06.160 a coffee. And but that sounds fun. It's an adventure 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:08.400 right there. You didn't correct me if I'm wrong. You 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:09.760 didn't go on this thing with a three and a 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:12.199 half month old and think we're gonna sleep till noon. No, 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.840 I didn't. But it's nice. You got up, you made coffee, 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:16.920 So that's an adventure. So we're in the room having 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.520 our coffee. She's feeding the baby. I'm now waiting till 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:23.599 five thirty am when the lobby will put out the 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.880 lobby coffee, which is the good stuff, and I can 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:30.199 walk through the darkness to the lobby to get the 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.280 five thirty am coffee. Does anybody else here think he 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:37.400 makes it hard on himself? Yes, I think I'm not 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:40.160 blaming it all on you. But that's why I was 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:45.640 trying to pick apart some of the stuff by the 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:47.920 bathroom and then to get It's like, then I could 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:49.760 get the good coffee. It's like, sorry, guy, you've got 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:53.040 two kids. Good coffee is out the winter comes. What 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:55.480 are you doing Amy then from four am, Like, what 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:57.960 what are you doing if everything is so great at 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:00.920 four am when the baby's up? Like what do you 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.160 want me to say? How come you didn't take turns 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:04.800 where one of you takes the baby in the other 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.760 one sleeps. You're in one room, like when you're up 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:10.440 and the baby's crying. Like the baby's crying, you're both up, 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.920 that's life. No. I think it's nice that you made 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:15.600 an espresso and you guys so I don't know, watch 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:19.520 something like why why does it automatically a thing? By 0:14:19.520 --> 0:14:21.080 the way, you went for two days. When you get 0:14:21.160 --> 0:14:22.760 up at four am and you're up for the whole day, 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:27.720 that's like you had a week's vacation. You love the 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:32.640 amenities at the hotel. I'm just trying to here. Here's 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:37.200 my point. Maybe if you changed your attitude about it 0:14:37.360 --> 0:14:40.360 a little bit, things could turn because you could be like, 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:44.720 we're up at four it's it. I wasn't never seen 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:48.120 the sun rise. I'm simply I was not miserable. We 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.880 we ultimately, we had a good time and it was 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.440 nice to get away and break. That's not how you 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.040 tease the story. I heard the story was like, well, 0:14:57.080 --> 0:14:58.840 way do you hear what happened in OHI and frankly 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.160 it sounds nice except for missing your two and a 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:02.880 half year old. 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Now I am going to 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:24.160 lose it on one of you in this next segment, 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:27.560 so alright, let me just end buy this amy. Like 0:16:27.800 --> 0:16:29.600 the last two things I want to say are so 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:35.320 we get through the coffee. So yeah, like we get 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.720 through the face of all. It's like, okay, lunch, Like 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:40.520 the place is amazing. It's been like we've been on 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:43.360 the air for how long and we're to lunch exactly. Yeah, 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:46.440 try waking up. We're on the trip with them, so 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:52.920 you and Gavin didn't show up tonight. So you order 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.200 this great lunch by the pool. This like lobster salad 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:59.120 with crab meat and everything, and like you're just praying. 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:02.080 You're at the adult pool and if the kid starts crying, 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:03.640 then one of you has to leave. Whyre you with 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:06.359 the adult pool with a baby. That's the only place 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:09.479 that they serve lunch, the only place they serve lobster role. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.680 Here's the problem. You aren't willing to give up everything 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.720 that you need to make your life special for like 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:17.639 you you want everything to just work together, and it 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:19.639 just doesn't you know what, Maybe you have to go 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:22.080 to a different pool where there's other kids screaming and playing. 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:24.480 Maybe you can't have a lobster rule for lunch, like 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:26.639 you gotta give shut up, man, don't mess with my 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:30.800 lobster role to Maitri. Uh So, like again, you just 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.800 fast forward throughout the day where you're trying to time naps. Okay, 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.439 he's gonna go down at two. I can wear him 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:38.359 on my chest and the baby borna two when we 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:40.359 walk to a winery. And then but when we get there, 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.920 he's gonna need to be fed. So like you're logistically 0:17:44.000 --> 0:17:47.520 planning all those things, and then you're you're like, okay, 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.119 he's gonna go down at six thirties, so we can 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:52.280 get room service. Call that in a five. And then 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.280 you're eating right when he goes down, and you just 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.600 scarf your food down, and you're like, we look at 0:17:57.640 --> 0:17:59.479 each other like do we want to watch something right now? 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:01.679 Like no, because we're gonna have at four am tomorrow, 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.520 Like it's seven now, let's just go to bed, Like 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:07.520 that's the truth. Honestly, I see what you're saying. But 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.680 here here's what I think I think you in your mind, 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:14.000 identify all the things that normally make you happy, right 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:16.840 the lobster roll, they DoPT pool, to this that dinner 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:19.600 ordered it five. All this stuff makes you happy. The 0:18:19.720 --> 0:18:22.040 problem is you're trying to fit it into a space 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:25.800 that doesn't fit it anymore. So you're actually causing yourself 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:28.480 so much anxiety and so much stress. I get that 0:18:28.600 --> 0:18:31.040 you like all these things, but I think you'd be 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:34.800 happier if you some of them, brought some of them 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.960 down and fit them into what works for you. Now. Maybe, 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:38.760 like I said, maybe don't go to the adult pool 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:41.760 with a baby. You probably were clenched for he wound 0:18:42.720 --> 0:18:45.240 I've ever. But the other thing I will say in 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:47.560 Ryan's defense, like or I don't know if it's an 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:51.879 inc but you're in a storm of your life right now. 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:53.200 You have a two and a half year old or 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:54.920 three and a half year old and a four months 0:18:56.280 --> 0:18:58.760 and it's like, I'm surprised you're even going on a 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.080 two day or one night or two night or like 0:19:01.720 --> 0:19:04.280 that's buckled downtime. I don't even know what you probably 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:05.840 don't even know what time it is during the day. 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:08.680 You know, it's like life sucks, and it's like it's 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:11.800 hard in your spot to recognize that because you want 0:19:11.840 --> 0:19:13.120 to have a lobster role and you want to sit 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:15.520 by the little pool. So you're complaining and you're miserable 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:17.680 while you're in that space. But on the other hand, 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:21.280 you're in that space and you should just be accepted 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:23.920 of it. It is. It's it's a crazy time for 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:25.880 you right now, and that's that's maybe that's why I'm 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:27.800 being such a jerk to you right now, is because 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.119 I appreciate that you're trying to figure out how to 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:33.879 make it all work. But what I'm saying is, yes, no, 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:38.560 you're it's a crazy time, but you just stop do this. 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:41.520 We're gonna come back to you because I've got people 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:45.520 coming to help you. In the meantime, we have our 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:49.360 friend Emily who is eight months pregnant and she's been 0:19:49.600 --> 0:19:52.440 listening to and now she's terrified. But she's got some 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:56.960 serious questions that she wants men to answer about being pregnant, 0:19:57.320 --> 0:20:00.960 giving birth, Like we're talking did I poop on the table? Stuff? 0:20:01.560 --> 0:20:03.800 And the first like, let's say three to six months 0:20:03.920 --> 0:20:06.280 right in your wheelhouse, So let's do that, and then 0:20:06.320 --> 0:20:08.560 we're going to come back and help you. Perfect. She 0:20:08.720 --> 0:20:10.960 was seven months pregnant before you started the O hi story. 0:20:11.200 --> 0:20:16.000 Now she's eight. That was actually, can someone make a 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.119 note of that was the first funny thing Dmitri seven 0:20:18.200 --> 0:20:21.120 weeks weeks? You haven't been here in years? Well exactly? 0:20:21.680 --> 0:20:23.280 Can I just start with where I am? And then 0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:27.960 like progressive it? Did? You? Guys ever, just get over 0:20:28.080 --> 0:20:31.120