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Speaker 1: This is how men think with Brooks like and Gavin

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Speaker 1: to grab and I hear radio podcast, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: You have Ryan here, we have no Brooks nor Gavin.

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Speaker 1: When the traditional hosts are away, Dmitri, Ryan and Rick

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Speaker 1: will play we are here boys. I've never seen you

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Speaker 1: this smiley. I have to, as Brooks would say, I

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Speaker 1: have these two fine stirs here with me. I'm so

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Speaker 1: glad we don't have to hear that the dead weight

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Speaker 1: is gone, the three finest, the three hosts you all

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Speaker 1: have been clamoring for our finally here Sands Brooks, Sands Gavin,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna have a great time today. Am I right?

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Speaker 1: So we have a good show today. I have been

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Speaker 1: summoned here um as a part two to an episode

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Speaker 1: we did a few months back. When I gave my

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Speaker 1: wife gave birth to our second child. I was in

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Speaker 1: a dark, dark state of mind, very st stout. Amy

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Speaker 1: had told me it was unreasonable stress, but it was

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Speaker 1: stressed nonetheless. Uh, and I'm in a similarly dark state

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Speaker 1: of mind today. So Amy telling you your stress was

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Speaker 1: unreasonable didn't make your stress go it. Actually it annoys me. Well,

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Speaker 1: there are some dark clouds outside, so maybe it's part

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Speaker 1: of that. I don't know, it could be. Uh, what

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Speaker 1: are you worried about? What's going on? So I'll tell you. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this past weekend, so our what what was our newborn

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Speaker 1: congratulations than four and a half months and you're still bitching.

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Speaker 1: That is correct. And here's why, dmitri. So this weekend, Uh,

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Speaker 1: a week ago, our two year old two and a

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Speaker 1: we it was a twenty four hour thing. Luckily he

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Speaker 1: got it through a system. All was okay. Three days later,

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Speaker 1: I myself got sick, then my wife got sick, and

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Speaker 1: then this weekend. Uh, it all came to a head

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Speaker 1: when it had been five days of our four and

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Speaker 1: single day for the past five days, and diarrhea. He

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Speaker 1: We were nervous because he was scary. He was dropping weight.

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Speaker 1: was getting stressful. So we took him to the pediatrician

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Speaker 1: and uh. The pediatrician looked at him and said, look,

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Speaker 1: you know, we need to get fluids in him, Try pedialyite,

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Speaker 1: try rice water. I'm boiling rice and straining the rice kernels.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying everything. Pediatricians said, Ryan, You're being unreasonable. The

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Speaker 1: pediatrician actually was like, don't worry, guys. He's not severely

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Speaker 1: it's not dire. And I'm like, well, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to get to the point where his eyeballs are dry.

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Speaker 1: Stop it exactly. Um. So we on Saturday had to

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Speaker 1: which is really not good. That was affecting his sleep.

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Speaker 1: He was not sleeping whatsoever because he was starving, and

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Speaker 1: he wasn't taking fluids in because presumably his throat was

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Speaker 1: liquor whatsoever. But what was it. Did he have a virus?

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Speaker 1: Is that why he couldn't take into The pediatrician told

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Speaker 1: was nothing you could do. You had to just let

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Speaker 1: of every day vomiting and diarrhea. Well, I will say

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Speaker 1: mean the germs. Um. I will say this. My family

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Speaker 1: got hit with the stomach bug. It was twenty four hours,

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Speaker 1: And it was thirty six. I was just NonStop puking. Well,

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Speaker 1: then it's like, you know, everyone's screaming, and I don't

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Speaker 1: getting to Ryan. That's well, no, that's not what they

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Speaker 1: death with your doctor. This is that Ryan's coming out.

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Speaker 1: half ago, uh for my birthday. My wife and I decided,

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Speaker 1: you know what, like happy birthday? Thanks? Oh yeah? Did

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Speaker 1: you get my card? That was from both of us?

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Speaker 1: I actually gonna bounce back. It's an email. So I've

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Speaker 1: my happiness and the balance we need to find, which

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Speaker 1: up that because yeah, because Amy says, finding nanny's to

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Speaker 1: so sick of hearing Amy, we do want feedback. Occasionally

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Speaker 1: was awesome. That was a little bit of alone time. Yeah,

426
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:42,639
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I did enjoy the pro but

427
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 1: I think, are you asking like now, yeah, but now

428
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 1: it's he got sick over the weekend and I was

429
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,640
Speaker 1: a terrible nurse, and then every little thing I've done

430
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 1: has been like wrong. He's got like a short fuse,

431
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,440
Speaker 1: and I think he's just over me getting my way.

432
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 1: Are you married to Are you Ryan's wife? That's not

433
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 1: I mean it's number one. You should if you're eight

434
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:05,639
Speaker 1: months pregnant, you shouldn't be his nurse. If he's not

435
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 1: feeling well, you far away from him, And I said, sorry, Yeah,

436
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:13,680
Speaker 1: he needs to go quarantine. Himself, and my trip to

437
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:22,400
Speaker 1: China last week was great, though, um, did your poop

438
00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 1: on the table? Everything? I don't want to ask that,

439
00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,280
Speaker 1: but I want to know. Every girl needs to know.

440
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 1: So this comes from that. You hear when you give birth,

441
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,440
Speaker 1: you're pushing and poop comes out. So mine did not.

442
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:36,960
Speaker 1: But I have a friend who she was, my good

443
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 1: buddy of mine. His wife was That's all she was

444
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,879
Speaker 1: terrified about, like anything about the anything about the delivery.

445
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 1: She was like, I just don't want to do that that.

446
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 1: I'm never going to get over if that happens, that happens,

447
00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:48,639
Speaker 1: I can never get over that. So she's in labor

448
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 1: doctors there and all of a sudden, the doctors just

449
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 1: yells still, and she's like, oh my god, and she's

450
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 1: like she's almost good about my buddy's telling she's almost

451
00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,160
Speaker 1: about to cry. He's like, oh my god, I can't

452
00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 1: believe this happened. All of a sudden, the nurses running

453
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 1: over with a stool and the doctor sits down. So

454
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 1: apparently she did not, but I obviously it does happen.

455
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: That was good. That was the second funnal. My wife

456
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 1: had a C section, so I did not experience any

457
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: of that. My wife did not. She did not either.

458
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 1: She did poop on the dining room table. Why don't

459
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 1: you just going what? You know? What? Why don't you

460
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 1: just go in the morning before you got So is

461
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 1: this something you're afraid of? I think every girl is

462
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,240
Speaker 1: afraid of it, I'm sure, but I would be totally

463
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 1: afraid of it. I feel like, in my face if

464
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 1: it happens, just be like that was here when I

465
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 1: got here, and it's the same way you would in

466
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:42,479
Speaker 1: the restaurant, hotel along those lines. Were you guys up

467
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: top watching the berth or did you watch it? I

468
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 1: gotta say I had an uncomfortable so with four, I

469
00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:51,399
Speaker 1: think I've been everywhere, but there was one where I

470
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 1: was not prepared and I was up next to my

471
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 1: wife's head and all of a sudden, the doctor was like, here,

472
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:57,159
Speaker 1: come here and grab her leg and I was like,

473
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm like I had a button down on.

474
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't think I'm prepared for this.

475
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 1: It's like sitting at a Laker game and all of

476
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 1: a sudden they just turned like, come here, you're in

477
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing. So he

478
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 1: had he had me hold up a leg, and I mean,

479
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: I was I saw it all did you? Um? Was

480
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,159
Speaker 1: he doing that because he needed your helper because he

481
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: thought it would be a cool experience To this day,

482
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 1: I don't know. No, he may have just been screwing

483
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,040
Speaker 1: with me and been like this guy is just he's

484
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 1: just standing here with his eyes closed. You should you

485
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: should probably get involved. So I see. Yeah, So, um,

486
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: I've been, I've been all around and um, it's it's fine.

487
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,160
Speaker 1: It's nice. It's nice to see the baby being born,

488
00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 1: but it is it is rough. I mean, there was

489
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 1: one time I thought I saw a jellyfish come flying up,

490
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: but I guess that was a placenta. The placenta on

491
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 1: that Like I was by my wife's head and I

492
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 1: was doing like, you know, blowing in her ear or something. Uh,

493
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 1: And there was no poop that came out on the table,

494
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:54,200
Speaker 1: but the placenta when it came out, I will never

495
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 1: forget it right in life. It was like a jelly fish. See.

496
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 1: It was massive and like purple and red and they

497
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: catch it like a garbage bag and it's like what

498
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: it was like moving like it was alive or something.

499
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: And I was like I had never seen anything in

500
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: my life like that. It was horrifying. It was like

501
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: you think it was your kid At first, No, no, no,

502
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,119
Speaker 1: the kid came out already. But I thought it was

503
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 1: like the kid had a water bed or something in

504
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 1: there and they were getting rid of it. It was

505
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: it was weird, man. And then I'm thinking, like, people

506
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 1: make pills out of this and they bury it, they

507
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: cook it. I was like, take it away. So on

508
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 1: that note, a lot of men, this is real faint

509
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: or vomit during the birth. It is actually common. I

510
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: know a story of a guy who really he started

511
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,479
Speaker 1: to get tunnel vision and started passing out and throwing up.

512
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: Do you do you have anybody like that? I didn't

513
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 1: throw up. But on the second from from my second kid, um,

514
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 1: I hadn't eaten, so I got ridiculed for eating the

515
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 1: first time, even though they said the men have to

516
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: keep their strength up. So the second kid, I didn't eat.

517
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,199
Speaker 1: And then when she was born, she was the only

518
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: one that we didn't find out whether she was a

519
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,959
Speaker 1: boy or a girl. Um, so there was a lot

520
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: happening at that moment, and they were like, it's a girl.

521
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: And then I got a little woozy and I sat

522
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 1: down for a second. They were like, do you want

523
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 1: to cut the cord? And I was like sure, and

524
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: I stood up and I was like, whoa. My knee

525
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 1: started buckle. So they sat me back down and then

526
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 1: it was fine. But the some might think this was

527
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 1: an embarrassing moment. A few minutes later, you know how

528
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:24,880
Speaker 1: they give um. I don't know if you know this, Emily,

529
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: but after you have the baby, they're gonna give you

530
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 1: like a nice cocktail, like a it's like a juice

531
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: like it's like a long island nice tea. It's like

532
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: a long island to say, without the alcohol, it's just

533
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of juices to really give your sugar back.

534
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: So I remember after my daughter, my second daughter was born,

535
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 1: after all that happened, I looked over. They had handed

536
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: me one of these drinks with the bend destraw and

537
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 1: I look over. My wife has one and she's just

538
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: glaring at me, like we both have the recovery cocktail,

539
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: and she's like, what is wrong with your an embarrassment

540
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 1: to this family? So yeah, um, that's helpful. I feel

541
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 1: like my husband might pass out, so embracing myself, they'll

542
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: doesn't he want to have a week's stomach or does

543
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 1: he Like, I don't think he's prepared for what he's

544
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: about to see. We took a birthing class and he

545
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: was more queasy than I was. Yeah, like we were

546
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: both in the corner just kind of fidgeting, but he

547
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 1: was really I was super nervous. My wife had a

548
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: C section and I was in like another little separate

549
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 1: room before they let me go into the clean room

550
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,719
Speaker 1: or the operating room. And I was just in there

551
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: and I was just like sweating, and I was like

552
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 1: breathing hard, you know, like deep breaths, just I could

553
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: go in and be regular. And I went and sat down,

554
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: and I was like, she's like crying and all, you know,

555
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 1: drugged up from the medicine. And I was just like,

556
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: holy what did I walk into here? You know? And

557
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden and there's like a sheet up.

558
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 1: So I was near her head and there was a

559
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,920
Speaker 1: sheet up, and then all of a sudden, the doctor

560
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: was like, you want to see what's going on? And

561
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: I was like sure, So I popped up and I

562
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:49,399
Speaker 1: looked down and it was just like orange, like just

563
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 1: a giant cut orange blood like would you want to?

564
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 1: I thought, that's the point that and then no, because

565
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 1: they were they were going to pull the baby out.

566
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 1: So that's like, we're about to pull her. We're gonna

567
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,159
Speaker 1: pull the baby out, and so I'm looking over and

568
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: then they just start pulling the head out and everything.

569
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: I was like, oh dude, what is that like? And

570
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: then they like to turn around. I was like, it's

571
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 1: a boy, you know. So we got to that point.

572
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: It was really exciting. So have we up? Do you

573
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 1: feel ready to have a baby? Now? The closer I get,

574
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: the more scared. I guess that's take a quick break

575
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 1: because I have a lot more questions. All right, we're

576
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:35,160
Speaker 1: gonna take a quick break. We'll be back. Welcome back

577
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: to how men think. Thank god Brooks and Gavin are

578
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 1: not here. May I remind everyone of that. We have

579
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 1: Emily here with us, who is eight months pregnant. Welcome,

580
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 1: Thank you. Emily's welcome. She's been here. We just talked

581
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: to her. Okay, is this your first baby? That is exciting?

582
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 1: And are you what is worrying you the most? The birthday?

583
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 1: I think the actual physical part of the pushing and

584
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 1: then just exhausted when get home. Yeah, like for years

585
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,680
Speaker 1: and are you. One thing I remember with my wife

586
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 1: is like I think we were trying to go like

587
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: all natural, and then all of a sudden she was

588
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: past her do date. I think it was my son

589
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: was supposed to be born on April twenty, but he

590
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: ended up being born on April or May one. Um.

591
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 1: But she never thought in her mind about having a

592
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: C section, like that was never a question. And then

593
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 1: all of a sudden it was like getting later and later,

594
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: and then finally we went in for the last checkup

595
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 1: on a Friday and they're like Monday morning, eight am,

596
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: come on in doing a C section, and it was

597
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: like whoa. And it was actually, in all honesty, we

598
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: really enjoyed it because we had our second child the

599
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: same way. But we liked it because it was like

600
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 1: we knew when we there was we I guess I

601
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: could say we didn't get to experience that like, oh

602
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: my water broke, I'm at the supermo. How do you

603
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: get the bag? You know, the movie stuff, But um,

604
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 1: we already had everything ready to go. The family was,

605
00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: you know, my parents could fly up, the family was

606
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: in town. It was it was awesome. It was are

607
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: you anxious at all? About the that moment and do

608
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 1: you have a plan in place for when the water breaks?

609
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: They're inducing me. So I'm hoping I make it that

610
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 1: long because then I know I can get my nails done,

611
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: I can get a blow out and look good and

612
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: be prepared. It's it's if it comes to weeks early,

613
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:20,479
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm going to do. So how

614
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 1: did you I'm sure your harold looked great afterwards as well.

615
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: Did you make the call on being induced or did

616
00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: they tell doctor, yeah, got it? My well, our first

617
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:38,400
Speaker 1: we the water broke naturally, and like we had more

618
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: of that moment of like, okay, we gotta go to

619
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: the hospital now. The second, my wife is very Type

620
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: A and so she was like asked our doctor, can

621
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 1: we schedule an induction at the earliest possible time that

622
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: it's safe, so as to plan, like because we have

623
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: to have a family member fly in to watch the

624
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: two year old all that, So we knew, okay, we're

625
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 1: gonna be checking in at like six am on Tuesday,

626
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 1: and like had the backpack ready to go, and it

627
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: was we checked ourselves in. It was so much less stressful.

628
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: It all four of ours were natural. It happened when

629
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 1: it happened well, and I feel like even like our

630
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 1: son was born at ten o'clock in the morning, so

631
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 1: like we had are like it started out as a

632
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: regular day. I mean, you're still up every single two

633
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: hours feeding and as once the child is born. But

634
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: we were It wasn't like we went into the hot

635
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 1: the water broke at nine pm. You're laboring until one am,

636
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: and then the baby is born at three and you're like,

637
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: you're just up you know ship creek to begin with,

638
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 1: right with that, So it was more the baby was born,

639
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 1: we went to our room. We were sort of like

640
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: started the process of the breastfeeding and you know, taking

641
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:52,720
Speaker 1: care of the baby and the nurses and spending the

642
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 1: night and everything, and so we had to stay four nights.

643
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 1: It was at four nights or three nights. I think

644
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: it was three nights four days. Um, so my wife

645
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: could heal because sections twice as long as you're a

646
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: high vacation there you go, do you know what time

647
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,240
Speaker 1: you're gonna be No, not yet. I would the morning

648
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: to me to that point, like Aree, and from a

649
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 1: staffing perspective, you if you begin in the morning, you

650
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: have a new shift of nurses who are fresh, who

651
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: you're the first person that they're dealing with, completely fresh

652
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 1: good night's sleep, as opposed to being like at the

653
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 1: tail end of the first shift and having a change

654
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 1: over and like passing the buck like I want fresh people.

655
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 1: First thing. Heavily stress right now, dude, you're stressing her

656
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 1: out like the first thing in the morning. It's gonna

657
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: be great no matter when what this is exactly. I

658
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: don't know if you've heard the first part of this show. Okay,

659
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: he was talking about all his vacation that he and

660
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 1: his wife went away with the baby and the and

661
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 1: the point was my point that I was trying to

662
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: tell him, was stop stressing about everything. It's better if

663
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 1: it happens now, and if it doesn't happen, then you

664
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 1: canna think, oh my god, it's not happen in the morning.

665
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: That guy Ryan told me it's better in the morning,

666
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: because don't worried. It's gonna be fine. It's gonna be great.

667
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: So yes, maybe morning is great. Just listen, go in

668
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: have the baby. If it happens at night, it happens

669
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: a night, it's going to be great. You're going to

670
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: be so agostatic it's it's amazing, Like, yeah, at the

671
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: end of the day, I won't really know the difference,

672
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: but still leading up to it, it's the anticipation. I'm

673
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 1: kinrying like out, what else is on your mind? What

674
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: are you what else are you worried about? Okay, when

675
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 1: when we get home and I'm going to breastfeed, but

676
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it like I can pump

677
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 1: and have my husband do a bottle. How do you

678
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: guys feel about getting up at night? Because I'm afraid

679
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: that the argument is, well, I have to work tomorrow,

680
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:42,240
Speaker 1: you don't can you do all the nighttime feedings? Which

681
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 1: I think is sort of crap because I will be

682
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: working the next day to just not at an office,

683
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm on maternity leave. But I feel

684
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 1: like you're working with I mean, yeah, no. I when

685
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: my brother when we had our when we started having kids,

686
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,920
Speaker 1: my brother give me some advice and he said, listen,

687
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 1: enjoy that. So when she's breastfeeding and that's all that

688
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: she's doing, enjoy that time because once it shifts to

689
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 1: a bottle, then you're on the clock, and you're on

690
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:11,959
Speaker 1: the clock whenever she needs you to be on the clock.

691
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 1: If there's a bottle, then you'll So I remember with

692
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: the first kid, middle of the night, she'd get up

693
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: and I get up and I, you know, walk around

694
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: the bed and pick up the baby and hand it

695
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 1: and the baby tour and stuff because he had nothing

696
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 1: else going on. But when there's at to Ryan's point,

697
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 1: when there's another kid in the house. So when the

698
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: second kid was around, when she came around, it was like,

699
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: all right, well, I'm not gonna get up because I'm

700
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,960
Speaker 1: gonna have to be fresh in the morning. So you

701
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: know you're gonna shift that around. But yes, if you

702
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 1: have if you're to the point we're using bottles and

703
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: he can feed the baby, then yes, and he and

704
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: I think the other thing is I don't get it

705
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 1: never felt as programmed where you're like, I'm going to

706
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 1: breastfeed and then all of a sudden, you like turn

707
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 1: around and you pivot to the pump machine and you're

708
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 1: you got a stockpile of milk, right Like, it took

709
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 1: my wife a while to get the milk in and

710
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,600
Speaker 1: so we had to actually use some other formula and

711
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 1: then until that got done, and then and it was breastfeeding,

712
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 1: and then we finally got to the point where there

713
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 1: was enough where we could pump and store some and

714
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: then I was on the night feeding. But like you think, like, okay, boom,

715
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: this is how it's gonna work one, two, three, It

716
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: doesn't like naturally like it's just it's different. Yeah to that,

717
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 1: you just got to kind of play the game and

718
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 1: see how it goes. I think what you find out

719
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,720
Speaker 1: is that you finish breastfeeding and then you're like, Okay,

720
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna pump and bank that. But you're like

721
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 1: that's gonna take you another thirty minutes to pump a

722
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 1: bottle's worth when you just want to go to sleep.

723
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: So you're like you get to the point in I

724
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: don't know how far in where you're like, okay, now

725
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: is when I have the bandwidth to like sacrifice sleep

726
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: for pumping. But it's a it's basically just my wife

727
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: felt like she was a cow where she's like, I'm

728
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: just I go from breastfeeding to them pumping, and then

729
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: by the time I finished pumping, it's time to breastfeed again.

730
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,479
Speaker 1: And it's a never ending vicious site. And it also

731
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,399
Speaker 1: depends on how much the baby is eating, because if

732
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: you if you breastfeed and then you pump, you're gonna

733
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: be like, well, all of a sudden, the babies, you know,

734
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: wants to eat again, and you're like, well, I don't

735
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 1: have anymore because I fed and pumped. So then you know,

736
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 1: your husband goes to give the baby the bottle and

737
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: you're like, no, I pumped that bottle so I could

738
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 1: go out to lunch with my friends later. That's my

739
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: stowaway bottle. So then you start to be like no, no,

740
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 1: So it's eventually the baby's gonna stop eating so much

741
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: and you'll be able to stockpile some but until that

742
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 1: point then it's going to be mathematical, mathematical. And to

743
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 1: that end, I would say the benefit to the bottle

744
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,799
Speaker 1: feed as opposed to the breastfeed is that you can

745
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: actually measure the volume intake. Like I became obsessed with like, okay,

746
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 1: how many ounces do they need to be taking in?

747
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 1: When you have a bottle, you can see there are

748
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 1: three or four ounces in this bottle, whereas with your

749
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 1: breast you're like, okay, they were on for ten minutes

750
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 1: on each nipple, how much have they taken? I have

751
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 1: no idea, Like sometimes they're just there. I don't know

752
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: what you call like sucking without taking it in, and

753
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 1: it's it's they're not getting the nutrients they need and

754
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:05,959
Speaker 1: you never really know. It's um. When did you start

755
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 1: to have sex again? When did you want to and

756
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 1: when was appropriate for your wife? Oh? Yes, Tori producer, Tori.

757
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: When did you at what point of pregnancy do you

758
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:20,720
Speaker 1: start feeling weird having sex with your pregnant wife? Fellas,

759
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 1: it's it starts off once she's showing, it starts off.

760
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: You start you get that thought of, well, there's a

761
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 1: kid in there, I can't be in there as well.

762
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,359
Speaker 1: I think it's hot, no, but I think it's total

763
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 1: But then it becomes that. But in the beginning you're

764
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 1: like the old the old joke of I don't want

765
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 1: to like poke it in the head or anything. So

766
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:43,919
Speaker 1: in the beginning it's weird. But then you get past

767
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: that and you and then it does become kind of hot.

768
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: It becomes hot, and I also feel like it. It's

769
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 1: not where you're like, do you stop wanting to have sex?

770
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 1: I think you always wanting to have sex. I mean,

771
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 1: at least I did. And it was like more her

772
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:01,320
Speaker 1: being like okay, like I can't even put my shoes on,

773
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: Like the last thing I'm doing is taking my clothes

774
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,439
Speaker 1: off and having sex. Even though you're like, well, honey,

775
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,839
Speaker 1: you look great. I love it. You know. You don't

776
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 1: try to sell say anything to make her happy. It's

777
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: just like her comfort level. It's less of like us

778
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 1: being like, no, I don't want to have sex because

779
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 1: she's probably and that was the same with me. It's

780
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: like she didn't feel great starting at a certain point

781
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 1: where it's like I'm not going to force the issue,

782
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:26,919
Speaker 1: like she doesn't feel good and she does not want

783
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: to have sex. So and did you have any weird

784
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: like things after the baby was born about having sex again,

785
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 1: like my kid came out of there and now I'm

786
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 1: gonna like put this thing in there. It all depends

787
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: on where it does. It does depend on where you

788
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,240
Speaker 1: were standing during the delivery that I think that alters

789
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: the time for sure. Um yeah, but I think by

790
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: the time she's ready to have sex again, I think

791
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 1: you're past anything that any thoughts that you've had that

792
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:00,040
Speaker 1: made you hesitant. So really it ends up being on

793
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,879
Speaker 1: her clock. I think it's on our clock. And we're

794
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 1: dumb man, and were you just want to have sex

795
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 1: and I mean, we don't really care when and what

796
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: it looked like. We just want to have sex. So

797
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: that's my answer. What about afterwards though, Like I feel

798
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: like on the way up, you're you're having you have

799
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: a belly, and you're sort of supposed to so it's okay.

800
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,240
Speaker 1: But after I have the baby and I'm like deflating,

801
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: I'm not going to feel hot or I don't. But

802
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: that's why we said it's completely on her timetable, because

803
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: I don't think you're gonna want to have sex for

804
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: a little while. You can't for a while. But I'm

805
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: saying after that point, I'm not going to be back

806
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:36,719
Speaker 1: in like tip top shape. But I don't know how

807
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna feel about that is going to be closed. Well,

808
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 1: you're not supposed to have closed. You can always put

809
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: the drapes up. Listen. If having sex with was was

810
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 1: based on when people are in tip top shape, the

811
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: three of us would never have sex. I mean, look

812
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: at us. Such a good point, Dmitri, that is pretty good. God,

813
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 1: as a co host, you're crushing it. Thanks buddy, It's

814
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:03,359
Speaker 1: just an honor to be here. Anything else in your mind,

815
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 1: Emily can ask one more? I do Okay, I said,

816
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 1: I have my husband's turning forty two months after I

817
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 1: give birth, and he's like a big birthday guy. And

818
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: I've sort of set the table. Are you sure your

819
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:22,879
Speaker 1: husband's that Ryan? That is very true. So I've sort

820
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 1: of planned the seed, like, if you want to do something,

821
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 1: you have to let me know now, because once the

822
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 1: baby comes, who knows. You're not gonna be planning a

823
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: boat cruise around the harbor with a new ones to

824
00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: go to Pebble Beach and leave me with a two

825
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 1: month old. And I don't think that that's very cool.

826
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: He wants to have a guys guy. I think you

827
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,279
Speaker 1: might be all right with like get out of here

828
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 1: and have your mom come down. No, I actually think

829
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: he's got two two bachelor parties leading up to that.

830
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think at two months, you're two

831
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,319
Speaker 1: months old, you're going to be like, get out of here,

832
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:56,760
Speaker 1: your mom's gonna come, and you're just gonna my my question.

833
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 1: Was his mindset going to shift because right now it's

834
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 1: all about his birthday being the best birthday of his life.

835
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,839
Speaker 1: I think Amy's wrong in that point. I think yes,

836
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,919
Speaker 1: when he sees the baby and the whether a girl

837
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: or what. He's going to be so ecstatic. He's gonna

838
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: want to be with the baby. You and I do

839
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: remember going to work and then like texting my wife

840
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 1: and be like, what's she doing now? Like the baby.

841
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 1: So he will be a little more tached. He'll still

842
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: want his birthday. But I agree with Amy, I think

843
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: you might be better off to be like, listen, the

844
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: bachelor party. Sorry, he's got to cut out something. Maybe

845
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: the Bachelor parties that. I can't weigh in on that

846
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: because that seems a little too much. But if if

847
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: he wants to go have a forty at Pebble Beach,

848
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: I honestly think you'd be like, get the hell out

849
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 1: of here. It's me and the baby. Maybe you have

850
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:45,399
Speaker 1: a relative come or friend. I can't. But then at

851
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:47,879
Speaker 1: two months, did you hear Ryan's on a road trip

852
00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 1: at two months or a boat trip, a road trip?

853
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: Road trip? You Sorry, I've been blacking out most of

854
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: the times you talk because it's so inane and ridiculous.

855
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: That's who's been leaving those comments. So no, at two months,

856
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 1: like you, you are in the zone where you you

857
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 1: have at that point developed a system that Okay, the

858
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: baby eats x number of ours, like you're feeding on

859
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 1: a clock, you're sleeping on a clock, and getting them

860
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: on the road to do that. You're trying to get

861
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:22,919
Speaker 1: on that clock. And you're not even on that clock.

862
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 1: You're too after two months now you're in you don't

863
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 1: even know what day it is, you don't even know

864
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 1: what's going And you don't want to go to Pebble

865
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: Beach at two months. No, you don't, honestly, and this

866
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: is not us Like doing your husband a solid send

867
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: you don't have to plan a forty I send him

868
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:40,800
Speaker 1: away for the weekend. By the way, at two months,

869
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: you don't want the kid around a bunch of other

870
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 1: people on a road trip, like you're kind of trying

871
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: to insulate them from the outside world. Yeah, you're gonna

872
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 1: get home. You're not going to Pebble Beach to have

873
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 1: scones and sit around. So you're not gonna bring a baby.

874
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: But if I were, if I were him, and I

875
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: feel as if in many ways I am him. Uh,

876
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: we're all of question the the weighing it out going

877
00:43:03,040 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: to Pebble Beach, Like the guilt when I was there

878
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 1: would be so crippling that it would not be enjoyable.

879
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 1: I would be there and and you have given me

880
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: permission to be there, and I'd be like just feeling

881
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: horrible that you're at home alone with the baby, and

882
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: maybe your mom flew in, but like I would have

883
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: to be chicked. I'd call you and tell you it

884
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: would just be miserable. Don't do it. Don't do it alone. Yeah,

885
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 1: I mean that's a huge ya. Don't bring somebody else

886
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 1: in for sure, But do this. It's a bankable moment.

887
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 1: He's gonna feel guilty. You're gonna, I mean, this is

888
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: his forty birthday. Is gonna be a great present for you.

889
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: Welcome back to how men think we are all against Ryan,

890
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 1: and we have Christie here to be against me as well.

891
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,439
Speaker 1: She is our resident dietitian. She is also a mother

892
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 1: of two, and she's here to help. I'm told Christie, welcome,

893
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: Thank you, thanks for having me. We need your help. Okay,

894
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: I'm here right. Ryan needs your help, and we, by

895
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: the way, we did give you the hosting responsibilities. Thank you.

896
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: We're not all against you. Yeah, and also against you

897
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 1: because of that, maybe don't introduce the guests with such snark. No,

898
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 1: thanks for the tip. I'll remember that, so Christie helped I.

899
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: I would say I have a lot of issues. I

900
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:27,240
Speaker 1: think maybe that's an understatement, but one of the things

901
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:31,359
Speaker 1: recently that I'm experiencing is like, we have two kids, Uh,

902
00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 1: like you am the weekends For me, I go through

903
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 1: the entire work week, busy week, busy week. The weekends

904
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: are supposed to be, in my mind, the time to

905
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 1: recharge and go into Monday feeling good. I am more

906
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: exhausted by Sunday night than I am. Like it's there's

907
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:54,879
Speaker 1: no recharging whatsoever because it's full on all weekend long,

908
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: and I don't know how to solve for that. So

909
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: is it sports? That's no. We have a two and

910
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 1: a half year old and a four and a half

911
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 1: month old, so he's basically like my wife has been

912
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 1: taking the four and a half month old and like

913
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: at all feed or two and a half year old

914
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:17,479
Speaker 1: at seven in the morning. He gets up at six

915
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: and I'll take him out to the park at like eight,

916
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: and then I'm out till eleven thirty to get him

917
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 1: home to get lunch ready for I think you said

918
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 1: it a couple episodes ago or a while ago. The

919
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: best way you put it was I bring the older

920
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 1: kid to the park and I run him like a dog,

921
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 1: And all I think is, I can't wait till he

922
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: passes out for a nap, because then I'm getting all

923
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: I am doing. I live my life looking at the

924
00:45:42,160 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 1: clock saying, okay, how many hours till nap? Then it's nap.

925
00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 1: Then you're like, how long is he going to sleep

926
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 1: for this nap? Then he wakes up from that? How

927
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 1: many hours until we get through dinner and bath and

928
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 1: then get to put him down? Well, first of all,

929
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 1: you're not alone. I think every parent feels that exact

930
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:03,279
Speaker 1: same way. But here's what I would suggest. Do you

931
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 1: when he naps? What do you do? I try to

932
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 1: get his dinner, Like I'm trying to get ahead of

933
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 1: the curve to get his dinner ready so that when

934
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:16,760
Speaker 1: he's awake and he's wanting to do go scooter around

935
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: the block and play te ball in the front yard,

936
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 1: Like I don't have time to make his dinner. So

937
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: I'm doing that, trying to help get bottles ready for

938
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 1: with my wife for the four and a half month old,

939
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 1: trying to like pick up all the toys that he

940
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: left all around the house during the time that he

941
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: was awake pre nap like there's a laundry list of

942
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: things trying to do laundry. By the way, when you

943
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:39,879
Speaker 1: have a kid that still naps, you gotta you gotta

944
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: nap because eventually that'll stop it, or just rest like

945
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 1: so you're getting ahead, but then all you're doing is

946
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 1: free got more time to do other stuff. I'll tell you.

947
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 1: Let me tell you what. He doesn't have to go

948
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: around the block all the time. Throw him a toy

949
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 1: in the living room and make a bottle. Here's what

950
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 1: I do the most of the time. I don't take

951
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 1: a nap because my wife I'm trying to give her.

952
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 1: I'm trying to give her some sanity, and she will

953
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: go to yoga. The one thing she gets to do

954
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 1: all day on the weekend, on the Saturday and Sunday

955
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: is at one o'clock go to yoga. She does it

956
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,839
Speaker 1: at one o'clock to help me. Because I've said, having

957
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: both kids at the same time, I want to kill myself.

958
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: I think I'm going to have a panic attack. So

959
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 1: when the two and a half year old goes down

960
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 1: for his nap, I can just have the four and

961
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: a half month old. When she goes to yoga, and

962
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 1: I'll strap him to my chest and literally pace up

963
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: and down my walkway outside because when he's crying, I

964
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: don't want him to wake up, the two and a

965
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:35,359
Speaker 1: half year old to screw my entire freaking day. Wow,

966
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 1: that's loaded. Um, I kind of agree. I Mean, the

967
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:40,800
Speaker 1: bottom line is I hear what you're saying, and I

968
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 1: think it's awesome. What a great husband that you're trying

969
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: to relieve your wife of. You know, give her a break,

970
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: But you also need that for your sanity. You're you're

971
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 1: gonna be a better dad, in a way, better husband.

972
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,839
Speaker 1: So somehow, some way, I mean, I can start way

973
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 1: early and go to a meditation point. But there's something

974
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 1: you have to be able to do for yourself to

975
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 1: kind of decompress, Like you have to be able to

976
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 1: because that what you just described sounds like hell. And

977
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: if that's your weekend, every weekend, you're not gonna be

978
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 1: You're going to fall apart. Here's the challenge. It's one

979
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 1: of the other. So it's like, Okay, take a nap. Well,

980
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 1: I want to also, so my wife will give me

981
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 1: the same time she goes to yoga, Like she'll give

982
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 1: me in the morning time an hour to go work out,

983
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 1: and I'll choose my time to work out, which is

984
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: also good for my sanity, and I'd rather do that

985
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 1: than take a nap. So it's one or the other.

986
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 1: So it's a trade of like, what are you gonna choose.

987
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: I'll choose to work out, otherwise I'm gonna be more

988
00:48:38,120 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 1: miserable than if I don't take a nap. Do you

989
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: take any deep breaths during the day. I know it

990
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 1: sounds like I'm being sarcastic, but to be honest, and

991
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 1: I'm not being a dick. You sound so wounded, like

992
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:56,239
Speaker 1: t take a deep breath? Man Like you're like, You're like,

993
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: if I don't do this one thing, what I'm supposed

994
00:48:58,080 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: to do with this whole thing is going to fall apart.

995
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:02,399
Speaker 1: And it's not true. Agree, Christie, What were you asking

996
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: box breathing? Do you know what box breathing is? You

997
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,839
Speaker 1: should try this? That was we did that during four play.

998
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 1: That's how we got you stick your stick your head

999
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 1: out the bag. My wife says, I'm a great box

1000
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: by okay, one, probably not true to that's not what

1001
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 1: we're talking about. Then for five, hold for six and

1002
00:49:25,719 --> 00:49:29,319
Speaker 1: it's one one thousand two, one thousand three, and then

1003
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 1: you breathe out slowly for eight. Maybe not into the

1004
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 1: mic five six eight is that? But you you have

1005
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 1: to find a way. I agree with you. You're you're

1006
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:44,319
Speaker 1: just running completely on not enough energy, that's for sure.

1007
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: But it's just it's constant. So, I mean, there's not

1008
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 1: a lot of solutions. My biggest solution is going to

1009
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:53,600
Speaker 1: be got to find time to just decompress during the day,

1010
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 1: like you are with the kids, even if you have

1011
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: to set them down like they're the parent guilt thing

1012
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,560
Speaker 1: of giving them a toy and be like, hey, I'm

1013
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 1: gonna just be over here. You don't have to interact

1014
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: with them all the time, like even those little bouncy things.

1015
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: Do you have that for the four month old? Do

1016
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 1: you have any like a little seat that he can

1017
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 1: just chill in for a bit. Yes, okay, But I

1018
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 1: was ridiculed for bringing that to our weekend trip away,

1019
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 1: being told I brought all these unnecessary things, but thank

1020
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 1: you for bringing that up. That's the most important thing

1021
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 1: you could ever bring with you. Ridiculed your wife, know

1022
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: all you morons told me that I brought too much

1023
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: in the car and I didn't need any of you

1024
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: know that you bring. We're talking about bringing two strollers

1025
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: and a pack and playing a back and the stand up.

1026
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 1: The standy thing that Christie is saying is, let's let's

1027
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,880
Speaker 1: clarify the standing thing that twirls around, that huge plastic thing.

1028
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 1: You don't need to bring out your vacations if it's

1029
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: a little tiny bucket thing that you you move with

1030
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 1: your foot while you're it's. Yeah, you pack like your

1031
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 1: favorite china that you like to eat, your lobster, roll

1032
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: on like you went overboard. Oh my gosh, that's so funny.

1033
00:50:56,360 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 1: Any questions, older guy, you have to do it like, Yeah,

1034
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 1: I got a question. Why did you refer to the

1035
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 1: older guy? Maybe why are we in the same graduating class?

1036
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:12,360
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's amazing. I'm sorry, I meant people

1037
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 1: with older children. Rick, what is your question for Christie?

1038
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: I don't really have a question, but but um, I

1039
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 1: do travel quite a bit for work, and so sometimes

1040
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: when I come home, or a lot of times when

1041
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,319
Speaker 1: I come home, it's really challenging for me to kind

1042
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:32,400
Speaker 1: of then put myself back into the family, even with

1043
00:51:32,560 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 1: my wife, but also with my kids. And so she's

1044
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: been dealing. She's been doing stuff, but like I'll come

1045
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:40,399
Speaker 1: home and I probably sound a lot like Ryan, where

1046
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, I mean, why why is that? Why is

1047
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: that over there? Like what you know, like why are

1048
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 1: the why is? Why is aren't the not? Why isn't

1049
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 1: the laundry done? Because that sounds really bad, but like

1050
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 1: why is it the laundry done? Why you've been You've

1051
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 1: been dealing with my kids for the last eight days

1052
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 1: while I've been traveling, you know, like, but it is

1053
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 1: something that's hard for me, and so like re entry

1054
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,000
Speaker 1: is super hard, and even with my kids, it's like

1055
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: I'll come home and I was just on a trip

1056
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: recently and I came home and it literally was the

1057
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: first day and I was feeling good about the re entry.

1058
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 1: I'm like calm, I was nice with everybody. And then

1059
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: my son came home and he's thirteen, and he was like,

1060
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 1: all of a SUDDEN'M like, hey, you gotta you know,

1061
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:23,840
Speaker 1: you gotta clean up your room. And it was like

1062
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 1: I started kind of bossing him around, Like what I

1063
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 1: not bossing, I'm just telling him to do stuff right

1064
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 1: like I would normally do. And he's the first thing

1065
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:33,320
Speaker 1: you said to him, Now when you know, no no,

1066
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 1: is that not the definition of bossing? Confused? I gave him,

1067
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 1: I gave him a hug and was like, hey, clean

1068
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,799
Speaker 1: up your room. No no, But he was like, Dad,

1069
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 1: every time you you're away, you come home and you

1070
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 1: think you own the place. And I was kind and

1071
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 1: it hurts by the way, you are kind of his

1072
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 1: boss too, and you do own the place. That kind

1073
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 1: of go through my head. Yeah, And so it's hard

1074
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:02,399
Speaker 1: because I'm trying to ballo where yes, I'm also trying

1075
00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:04,359
Speaker 1: to pick up the slack of where my wife maybe

1076
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: left off, where it's like, hey, I'm coming in to

1077
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: try to help you. Now his rooms like a mess,

1078
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 1: and now I'll buckle down on it and get it

1079
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 1: done for you, and I'll start helping him. Well, he's

1080
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: got to do it. That's good because totally backfired. There's

1081
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,080
Speaker 1: nothing worse than coming in and being like the kid's

1082
00:53:18,120 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 1: best friend after the wife kept it together for eight

1083
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: days or whatever, because then she's like, then you come

1084
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: in and you're the Yeah, exactly, and she's the disciplinarian.

1085
00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 1: It's good on you for trying to do that. See,

1086
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: my thought was and looked by any by no means

1087
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 1: my a parenting expert. So let's just get that clear.

1088
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have a ten year old and a twelve

1089
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 1: year old. But what I would say in that moment,

1090
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 1: because he's clearly telling you something right when he's like, Dad,

1091
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: what do you think you're doing? I don't know at

1092
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,719
Speaker 1: what point it went from warming up like hey, how

1093
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:50,239
Speaker 1: is the week? How did you know? Like that kind

1094
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:53,359
Speaker 1: of thing into clean your room? But I would think

1095
00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:56,719
Speaker 1: that if there was some good like communication, like let's

1096
00:53:56,719 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: sit down and I want to hear about that game

1097
00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:01,560
Speaker 1: or what happened in school, like really warming up to

1098
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 1: him and connecting first, and then be like, hey, buddy,

1099
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:08,480
Speaker 1: I just noticed, would you know, instead of yeah, like

1100
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 1: a little bit softer versus kind of I think he

1101
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:12,879
Speaker 1: probably feels like you haven't even been here all week.

1102
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,319
Speaker 1: Now you're coming in and just telling me to claim

1103
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:18,399
Speaker 1: my real dad. Well well, and I mean, I don't

1104
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 1: know if exactly how it went down, but I'm just like,

1105
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: and the other thing is it's coming back from an

1106
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 1: international trip, like I didn't sleep the whole way home

1107
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:30,279
Speaker 1: or get travel international. You're a big deal. No no, no, no,

1108
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: not at all, not at all. But I'm exhausted as well,

1109
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 1: so it's hard to come in and then like you know,

1110
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm and then I come in and that that interaction happens,

1111
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,279
Speaker 1: and then I might go sleep by nine o'clock. By

1112
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 1: the way, I don't think. I just feel like kind

1113
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 1: of a dead beat dad. But as long as you're

1114
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:48,440
Speaker 1: not coming in and yelling at him, in my opinion,

1115
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 1: like just because you were gone for a couple of

1116
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:52,439
Speaker 1: days doesn't mean you don't come back in the same

1117
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:54,360
Speaker 1: role as to where you left. So there should be

1118
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,000
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with telling your kids to clean up. And

1119
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: just because you haven't been around like you were going

1120
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: for a few days, if you're coming in freeman at him,

1121
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 1: that's a different story. No, and I wasn't. Here's the

1122
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:05,239
Speaker 1: other thing, which is maybe a little bit layer deeper,

1123
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:09,839
Speaker 1: where I feel like my wife is giving during that time,

1124
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:11,920
Speaker 1: is like sure, you guys want ice cream, Let's go

1125
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:14,240
Speaker 1: get ice cream. Yeah, sure, you don't need to do homework,

1126
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 1: you know, And so like I'm coming in even with

1127
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 1: that layer of like anxiety or whatever you want to

1128
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 1: call it. That's what I said back, And I'm like, well,

1129
00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 1: it's easy for you because your mom gives you everything

1130
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:29,719
Speaker 1: when I'm gone, you know, and so then it's like, wait,

1131
00:55:29,760 --> 00:55:33,799
Speaker 1: did I just come out Ryan? You're off the hook, dude.

1132
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: That's more of a this is more of a marriage

1133
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: type of problem, because that would be that would be

1134
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:44,440
Speaker 1: a real big issue. Have you too talked about that?

1135
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 1: Like they don't speak this year? She says, since I've

1136
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:53,479
Speaker 1: gone back from my trip, she said, let's talk about

1137
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,879
Speaker 1: it over ice cream, And no, we haven't quite talked

1138
00:55:56,880 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 1: about you because that is really difficult if there is that,

1139
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 1: you know, where she's kind of doing everything and catering

1140
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: and not really setting down some boundaries and rules, and

1141
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: then you're coming in and trying to set some when

1142
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: you haven't been home. That that's going to make it

1143
00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:12,840
Speaker 1: real for sure. But I mean, I don't know do

1144
00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: you when you come back though, in terms of just

1145
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:17,640
Speaker 1: that connection and when you're gone, do you FaceTime with

1146
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: the kids? Like what's the interaction while you're away? Yeah,

1147
00:56:20,000 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 1: I know that's a great question. I do FaceTime with him.

1148
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: I did call him a lot more than I normally

1149
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 1: did on this particular trip, um, just for I don't

1150
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 1: I think I was a little bit gone longer than

1151
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:31,960
Speaker 1: I normally am um, But yeah, I was communicating a

1152
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 1: lot more and checking in a lot more and that

1153
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:39,320
Speaker 1: was good good, and those conversations go, well, they're very great, Okay, okay, awesome.

1154
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 1: So was it just this one time that he's like, Dad,

1155
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 1: you think you're coming or is this kind of a

1156
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:45,800
Speaker 1: pattern where you come back from a trip and it

1157
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 1: is sort of this like the Dad, I mean, I'm

1158
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 1: kind of getting into it and surgeon it's a pattern,

1159
00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 1: but it's also I think like my behavior pattern where

1160
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 1: I'm coming in, I'm tired, I'm exhausted from a trip

1161
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 1: to travel, things aren't I'm super overly anal and so

1162
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 1: things aren't totally exactly how I like it, and so

1163
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 1: that I'm like, I start getting stressed and well that

1164
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:11,880
Speaker 1: may be something you and then I'm taking it out

1165
00:57:11,920 --> 00:57:13,839
Speaker 1: on you might have to let go of though. That's

1166
00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: the other part two of like you come in and

1167
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: everything is not like then you're already you're exhausted, and

1168
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 1: you're annoyed by the fact that things aren't the way

1169
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:24,400
Speaker 1: you left it. That kind of stuff might just have

1170
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:27,600
Speaker 1: to by the way, we kind of felt that today.

1171
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 1: We kind of felt that way, like you came in

1172
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 1: like you owned this place, and that's why we're like,

1173
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 1: you know what, give the lead, Mike Ryan, because Rick's

1174
00:57:33,040 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 1: acting like he owns a place he isn't like where

1175
00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:37,520
Speaker 1: everything is. And yeah, some of the small stuff you

1176
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 1: just gotta like you know what I mean. But you

1177
00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: sound like a great doubt dad. Honestly you really do.

1178
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 1: Not a great husband, but a great dad. The marriage

1179
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 1: could use some work, but the parent. The good news

1180
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 1: is his wife is a big fan of the podcast

1181
00:57:50,840 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 1: and she'll listen to this all and she'll she'll be

1182
00:57:53,120 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: so appreciative that you that you've already had the conversation

1183
00:57:59,080 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 1: before we go. Yeah, I need you all to do something.

1184
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: We need you three to go home and talk to

1185
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 1: your wives because they are going to host the show.

1186
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:15,480
Speaker 1: My wife left me. I've already talked to Rick's wife.

1187
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: She's in. Can you guys ask your wives because we

1188
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 1: are going for Mother's Day which is coming up soon,

1189
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 1: we would like them to take over. So can you

1190
00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 1: get back to us on that. Sure, I'll see what

1191
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:27,240
Speaker 1: I can text her right now. Oh, she said no,

1192
00:58:29,280 --> 00:58:32,200
Speaker 1: so it's a Mother's Day episode or it's on Mother's

1193
00:58:32,280 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: Day because I have a separate thing about Mother's Day,

1194
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 1: Like is that really a holiday? Hey? Control free don't. Hey,

1195
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: you're not our for her for what? Like for fathers,

1196
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 1: do you want to be with your family? Or it's

1197
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:47,240
Speaker 1: do you want to be by yourself? Like do you

1198
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 1: want that's a great question, Like for Father's Day? Do

1199
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 1: you want to be sent away for it's Father's Day.

1200
00:58:52,280 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go play golf with all my buddies and

1201
00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:56,640
Speaker 1: get hammered. I can't be half and half. I think

1202
00:58:56,960 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 1: I would want exactly No. I would want to do

1203
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 1: something with the family, like do brunch, have like a

1204
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:06,000
Speaker 1: nice brunch or something like that, and then I want

1205
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 1: you to send me to a spa for the next

1206
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 1: couple of hours. So I would I would prefer to

1207
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 1: a married people the people in the world that really

1208
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:19,200
Speaker 1: don't care to spend time with their significant other, Like

1209
00:59:19,440 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 1: wouldn't you want to maybe just have a babysitter for

1210
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: the kids and then you go out with just your husband?

1211
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no. See, married people don't like switch time

1212
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 1: spend time with Like yeah, I'm kind of like I'd

1213
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 1: rather be with the kids and Kurt versus just me

1214
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 1: and Kurt. I don't know, I don't get a nast

1215
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 1: We will continue all these topics, but next week is sex,

1216
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 1: So everybody, everybody, go home and have sex. We gotta

1217
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 1: talk about sounds like my marriage. Alright, Hey, Rick, Ryan,

1218
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 1: go home and have sex so we can talk about

1219
00:59:53,200 --> 01:00:00,240
Speaker 1: it next week. Be ready, guys, because next week is juicy. Wait, Ian,

1220
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 1: can you do the sign off since Brooks isn't here. Yeah,

1221
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:06,440
Speaker 1: I'm trying to harness myner Brooks. Uh, this has been

1222
01:00:06,440 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 1: a great episode. Thank you, and remember to care for

1223
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 1: one another, love one another, touch one another, and you

1224
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 1: hold one real quick. We miss something, Christie. How can

1225
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:18,520
Speaker 1: people find you if they want to get in touch

1226
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:21,400
Speaker 1: with you? And Uh, she's not great at she's not,

1227
01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:26,000
Speaker 1: but Brooks always says, that's always and nice. Thanks for

1228
01:00:26,120 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 1: thinking of me, by the way, that's very kind. You

1229
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:30,240
Speaker 1: have an Instagram. He rolled his eyes after he asked

1230
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: the question. It's just not an Instagram business Instagram. Let's

1231
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:36,480
Speaker 1: wrap it up. She's she's she's old. I would say

1232
01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 1: Cam Sports Nutrition dot Com. Too complicated. All right, that's

1233
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:43,919
Speaker 1: see you next week. We'll see you next week. Tell

1234
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:46,440
Speaker 1: all your friends to download this episode. We want more

1235
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 1: listens than any of the ones that Brooks has hosted. Okay,

1236
01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:55,680
Speaker 1: tell your friends subscribe, unsubscribe, resubscribe, unsubscribe, and resubscribe. Okay,

1237
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:58,440
Speaker 1: we need Brooks out. Goodbye everybody,