Speaker 1: Second DA. There's a lot of theories about how to
Speaker 1: find the one when you're dating, but really, at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, a lot of it just comes
Speaker 1: down to being in the right place at the right time,
Speaker 1: Oh for sure. Yeah, that's why Alexis stands outside the
Speaker 1: yacht club every day after work in her tiniest crop top. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you just got to increase those odds that it'll happen
Speaker 1: a lost child. I prefer weekends out there. Well, one
Speaker 1: of our listeners thinks he found the right girl, but
Speaker 1: he took her to the wrong place at the wrong time,
Speaker 1: and that's why Brian's reached out to us for help.
Speaker 1: Hey Brian, how you doing, man? I'm good. How are
Speaker 1: you guys doing? It sounds like you're living with some
Speaker 1: regret on your decision making. Yeah you know, I made
Speaker 1: a right turn down the wrong street. Yeah I've done
Speaker 1: that all right. Well, before we get into your actual date,
Speaker 1: why don't you tell us about the girl that you met.
Speaker 1: What's her name? Her name is Alana. We met on
Speaker 1: a dating app and she is smoking hot. I like that.
Speaker 1: We don't even have to ask about her. What makes
Speaker 1: her so smoking hot? She just has the most beautiful
Speaker 1: lips I've ever seen. They like heart shape, they make
Speaker 1: like a little bow in the corner. She just has
Speaker 1: a beautiful mouth. Her lips. It sounds like Betty Boop
Speaker 1: to me. Okay, but IOUs lips. I often complimented on
Speaker 1: my lips. That's good. Ladies, know how you turn that
Speaker 1: into something about you. It's a special skill that Brian.
Speaker 1: Tell us what you and Alana did for your date.
Speaker 1: We went to a sushi restaurant. We both are a
Speaker 1: huge sushi fans. That's that's a sexy meal. It is.
Speaker 1: It's a great date meal. There's things you can explore,
Speaker 1: and you're simple, you always share. I mean, what was
Speaker 1: your first thought when you saw her for the first time?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how beautiful she was. And she was
Speaker 1: super funny, funny, got all it sounds like a dream,
Speaker 1: so really cool. Where did things start to go wrong
Speaker 1: for you? Well? When we sat down at the table,
Speaker 1: we had a great conversation and I peep over my
Speaker 1: left shoulder and two or three tables down was a
Speaker 1: girl that I ghosted maybe two weeks ago. Oh no, dude,
Speaker 1: what are the chances you ghosted her? It's it's already
Speaker 1: awkward if it's like an axe or someone you want
Speaker 1: to date with. But yeah, disappeared on her. I did
Speaker 1: the Houdini. I definitely did the Huini. So what did
Speaker 1: you do in this situation? I wasn't sure what to do?
Speaker 1: You know. I first I thought about changing tables. You
Speaker 1: know what, I'm saying that we're under the air conditioner
Speaker 1: and it's too cold. But that would have made me
Speaker 1: look weak man that can handle his fare and tie.
Speaker 1: He turns to it, and I was like, hey, can
Speaker 1: I borrow your jacket? Actually, so you didn't do that now?
Speaker 1: And then I thought about going over to the girl,
Speaker 1: and it's moving things over and saying low, no, don't
Speaker 1: do that. That could have been dying on my so
Speaker 1: I left that alone. It could have been a situation
Speaker 1: where the two girls would have fought for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right. They would have kissed it out. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: would have stabbed each other with shop sticks. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: You would have been the victim. Okay, So what did
Speaker 1: you end up deciding to do? Oh? I get the
Speaker 1: best thing a person can do in that situation. I
Speaker 1: hid behind my menu, okay, and hope she wouldn't notice
Speaker 1: the back of my head. I mean, she was looking
Speaker 1: at the back of you right now. We're like sideway,
Speaker 1: so she could catch my profile. So I kind of
Speaker 1: angled it and I kept my head down and really low.
Speaker 1: That looked really hot. You're worried about the air conditioner
Speaker 1: thing making you look a little wimpy. I don't know
Speaker 1: about this. I mean, what was your date thinking, do
Speaker 1: you think? I mean, did she notice? What did you
Speaker 1: tell her? Yeah, she's been looking at me and asked
Speaker 1: if it was a problem, and I just told her,
Speaker 1: you know, I had a little bit of back and
Speaker 1: neck pain. Oh no, that's exactly what a woman wants
Speaker 1: to hear. You sound like an old man's have to
Speaker 1: be cowering over all the time. I mean, do you
Speaker 1: think you should have just been honest and told her
Speaker 1: what was going on? Absolutely not. Yeah, I mean that
Speaker 1: that's not a good look, Like, Hey, that's the girl
Speaker 1: that I just ghosted one week ago. And next anyway,
Speaker 1: how's your sush? Yeah? I was totally flustered, so I
Speaker 1: tried to focus on conversation. Conversation was offward and uh
Speaker 1: after we ordered, you know, I had to drop the menu.
Speaker 1: I couldn't hold it up all night, And sure enough,
Speaker 1: the girl that I ghosted is looking right at me.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, did she say something to you? Did
Speaker 1: she come over? She didn't have to say anything. Her
Speaker 1: eyeballs were shooting daggers. Look at that. You're not even
Speaker 1: worth the anger. That's not a good side. Okay, how
Speaker 1: did you and a wanna leave things? Well? After we
Speaker 1: finished our meal, I invite her out for dessert and
Speaker 1: she's like, nah, I'm good, but let's stay in touch
Speaker 1: with each other. And I'm like, hey, sure, probably for
Speaker 1: the best because your ex girlfriend works at the ice
Speaker 1: cream shop. So but yeah, okay, And how long has
Speaker 1: it been since you've last spoken with Alana? About a
Speaker 1: week and a half two weeks okay? So, and I mean,
Speaker 1: you're not shocked that she's not returning your call, Like
Speaker 1: she just said, let's keep in touch just to be kind. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not surprised. I was rushing the whole time. My
Speaker 1: focus wasn't there. She had to repeat a few couple
Speaker 1: of things she said that totally went up in my head. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is looking like we're trying to get a chance
Speaker 1: at redemption, like a second shot for you. Yeah, distractions
Speaker 1: when we call her and if she answers do you
Speaker 1: want to tell her the truth about what happened at
Speaker 1: the restaurant or do you still want to keep it
Speaker 1: a secret? Hell no, don't tell her the truth out
Speaker 1: the whole night. Oh my god, that's what he wants
Speaker 1: to do. In that case, We're gonna play a song,
Speaker 1: we'll come back, we'll call a lot of for you,
Speaker 1: and we'll keep the lie going when you do. I'm
Speaker 1: not lying. I just never told him what's going on
Speaker 1: in your second date update right after. We all know
Speaker 1: that awkward feeling when you run into somebody from your
Speaker 1: past out in public, something that you have a weird
Speaker 1: history with, whether it's an X that you dumped, or
Speaker 1: a former co worker that you fired, or in my case,
Speaker 1: my old pet snake Ralfie, who I tried to free
Speaker 1: into the woods and then three days later ran into
Speaker 1: him at a pet groomer. Awkward. You know how awkward
Speaker 1: it is when a snake is giving you side eye
Speaker 1: while he's getting blow dried. Uncomfortable. That's what happened to
Speaker 1: one of our did I can't and I that, But
Speaker 1: that's what happened to one of our listeners, Brian, when
Speaker 1: he was out on a date at a restaurant and
Speaker 1: the girl that he just ghosted a week before was
Speaker 1: there sitting at the table right next to them. Oh man.
Speaker 1: And so of course that date didn't end very well
Speaker 1: because of all the tention in the air, and Alana
Speaker 1: is not calling him back afterwards. So we're going to
Speaker 1: try and reach out to her and not explain what happened,
Speaker 1: but at least try and smooth things over and give
Speaker 1: him another chance. Never we're holding the lie here, brookew Wait,
Speaker 1: wasn't I never lied to you guys? Right yet we
Speaker 1: admitted Yeah, what really happened? I just think that if
Speaker 1: if you were to tell her like, hey, I'm so sorry,
Speaker 1: I was distracted there was someone that I used to
Speaker 1: go out with in the restaurant. No, no, no, no, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So what's your what's your reason then, Brian for being
Speaker 1: so weird during dinner, like you were sitting funny, you
Speaker 1: were hiding behind the menu, Like, how do we explain
Speaker 1: that my neck was he was in pain and that's
Speaker 1: why you couldn't concentrate on the date. We can say
Speaker 1: feels better now, that does? That is what a lie is, Brian.
Speaker 1: I just want to establish that that's what I told
Speaker 1: to my pet snake too. When I found him, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, my Siatica. That's why I had to
Speaker 1: let you go. So all right, man, I feel like
Speaker 1: we're ready to call a Lana. Do you feel ready?
Speaker 1: I'm ready? Alight, let agree with our tactics, but we'll
Speaker 1: do it. Here we go. I'm gonna dial a Lana's
Speaker 1: number right now. Hello, Hi, is this Alana? This is her?
Speaker 1: Who am I speaking with? You're speaking with jeff the
Speaker 1: lead host of the award winning morning radio show Brook
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the Morning. That's a lot of hype. Alaa, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: what HIPI radio morning show? Sorry, that's pretty much yeah, okay, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right. We didn't win any awards and not a
Speaker 1: lot of people. So what are you saying? What? I
Speaker 1: just don't You're just kind of like an awkward guy
Speaker 1: with a microphone. Yeah, all right, you're on an awkward
Speaker 1: morning radio show with a super awkward guy. Welcome, Alanna. Okay, Hi,
Speaker 1: what what what is it all about? On this really
Speaker 1: horrible awkward show? We do something called a second date
Speaker 1: update where we help our listeners reconnect with people after
Speaker 1: they've been ghosted. Oh, did my friend Courtney call you?
Speaker 1: What Courtney? I told my friend Courtney about this really
Speaker 1: awkward date I was on like the other week. Did
Speaker 1: you call you about this? Well, we haven't spoken with
Speaker 1: anybody named Courtney, but we did talk to a guy
Speaker 1: named Brian who said that he went out with you
Speaker 1: the other day. Oh wow, okay, yeah, is that the
Speaker 1: star of your awkward date? Yeah? Yeah, front and center,
Speaker 1: that's the guy. Yeah. So we're calling on his behalf
Speaker 1: because he wants to know. Well, well, it's not that
Speaker 1: he wants to know what went wrong. He kind of
Speaker 1: already knows that it wasn't the greatest date on his part.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well, I'm glad he knows that. But he
Speaker 1: had a lot of really nice things to say about you.
Speaker 1: He thought that you were just absolutely beautiful and funny.
Speaker 1: He said, you're really funny and you made him laugh,
Speaker 1: which I think is the best compliment. The lips. Oh
Speaker 1: that's right. I don't know if you get a lot
Speaker 1: of compliments on your lips, but he mentioned they were
Speaker 1: very full and voluptuous. Oh that's so sweet. Okay. What
Speaker 1: was your take on Brian, Like, what did you think
Speaker 1: about him in the beginning? Yeah, no, he like he
Speaker 1: just completely like ignored me. He was not focused on
Speaker 1: the date or anything at all. Like I'm amazed that
Speaker 1: he even noticed my lips or anything physical about me.
Speaker 1: He just like was completely distracted. Well, in his defense,
Speaker 1: he mentioned us that he was a little bit nervous
Speaker 1: and that he was dealing with some neck pain during
Speaker 1: the date. Yeah, that's understandable, Like everybody Overage nineteen has
Speaker 1: neck and back pain, or at least that's what Jeff
Speaker 1: tells himself. Yeah, but you know, he was in pain,
Speaker 1: and so maybe that could help explain why he was
Speaker 1: acting a little weird. Oh yeah, he did say that,
Speaker 1: like his neck and his upper back was hurting, and
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, your neck is probably broken because
Speaker 1: he was checking out this other girl at a table
Speaker 1: like most of the night. Okay, so that's like part
Speaker 1: of it. So you so you noticed him looking at
Speaker 1: someone else? Oh my god? Yeah? Did you ever think
Speaker 1: about calling him on it? I was just like whatever,
Speaker 1: I'll just get through dinner and like call it a night.
Speaker 1: He like wanted to go to dessert. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: live your life. Yeah, are you sure that he was
Speaker 1: checking out another woman? Because he never mentioned anything like
Speaker 1: that to us, really, and he has his neck pain.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was just cooked in a certain way where
Speaker 1: he was facing towards a table with a woman at it,
Speaker 1: That's what I was saying. I don't know, Like he
Speaker 1: kept looking like to this side, at this other table
Speaker 1: with two girls sitting at it, and like they were
Speaker 1: cute girls. Sure, but he wasn't even focused on me.
Speaker 1: It was like he was in another world. I had
Speaker 1: to repeat myself over and over. Nickpeen is distracting. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I could see how you'd be really frustrated with him, though,
Speaker 1: could you think of any like reason other than he
Speaker 1: was checking her out that there could be for him.
Speaker 1: I just think that it's a better alternative to than
Speaker 1: what she thinks right now. Yeah, but that's not the
Speaker 1: plan that I think. Yeah, he heard no sounds crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I wouldn't listen to her. She's like the crazy
Speaker 1: one on the show. She suffers from the most neck
Speaker 1: and back. But maybe there is an explanation for why
Speaker 1: he was behaving so weirdly. And I need to let
Speaker 1: you know that Brian is actually on the other line, Lana,
Speaker 1: and wait what Yeah, right now, he's been listening and
Speaker 1: he feels a lot better today. I feel like his
Speaker 1: neck pain is miraculously gone. Yes, my neck is so
Speaker 1: much better. Hi Alana, um hi Brian, what is this?
Speaker 1: You know? I was wondering if maybe we could do
Speaker 1: like a redo or something like that, and my neck
Speaker 1: waselling me. I mean, sure, I'm glad your neck is
Speaker 1: feeling better, But I also think, like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: if someone just like not a good listener or like
Speaker 1: not willing to pay attention to their date, then I
Speaker 1: don't know why I should give you a second chance.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, is that really what was
Speaker 1: I was in? Oh? Yeah, yeah, Oh come on, Brian, Brian,
Speaker 1: your your friends here on the radio seem to be
Speaker 1: telling another story that maybe there's something else going on. No, no,
Speaker 1: just yeah, yeah, Brook's not a friend of ours. Okay,
Speaker 1: well Brook is my friends. I think the truth isn't
Speaker 1: that bad. I don't know, Brian, you need to tell
Speaker 1: me the truth, Like, what is going on with this date?
Speaker 1: All right? I mean, if we're going to be honest here, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know if you noticed the girl
Speaker 1: sitting maybe a couple of tables away from us. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: we went out on a date. Maybe three weeks ago,
Speaker 1: and um, just one date and I never called her back,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't sure how she was going to respond,
Speaker 1: you know, seeing us there at the restaurant, So it
Speaker 1: made me feel a little nervous and awkward. Wow, so
Speaker 1: you were like hiding from this girl that you ghosted
Speaker 1: on our date. I didn't ghost there necessarily, and I
Speaker 1: wasn't I just didn't want to interact with us. Wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: don't you think a lot of don't you think that's
Speaker 1: way better than him checking out somebody else while he's
Speaker 1: out with you, Like, yeah, he just didn't want anything
Speaker 1: to ruin his night with you. And you know, dating
Speaker 1: is hard and things happen, people get busy, You go
Speaker 1: out one night, I don't know what kind of person
Speaker 1: just like goes someone like that like that, you just
Speaker 1: don't have the courtesy to be like, Okay, things didn't
Speaker 1: work out, right, Well, I don't work out by not
Speaker 1: calling back, I mean, he is saying silence sometimes can
Speaker 1: be very powerful. Honestly, still the best policy, Brook, it
Speaker 1: is having a lot I come on, now, it all
Speaker 1: makes sense. Now, it all clicks right, Like he was nervous,
Speaker 1: he didn't know what to do he didn't want to
Speaker 1: ruin his night with you. I mean, I appreciate him
Speaker 1: being upfront, right, I appreciate your honesty eventually getting drug
Speaker 1: out of you by these people on the radio. But
Speaker 1: I do think that, like you need to be honest
Speaker 1: with the people that you're dating and say like, hey,
Speaker 1: this didn't work out. And obviously she wasn't that upset
Speaker 1: by it. Else she would have approached the table and
Speaker 1: made a scene or said something, you know, like maybe
Speaker 1: she was actually ghosting him too. I have an idea
Speaker 1: where we can make we can make this right on everybody.
Speaker 1: What if Brian called the other girl back. Now it's
Speaker 1: a little bit late to come clean with her, but
Speaker 1: at least he's doing right by her. That is the
Speaker 1: dumbest thing I ever hear. Okay, all right, I'd say, Brian,
Speaker 1: if I ever see you a se restaurant, I will
Speaker 1: be coming up to your table. Dude. Shoot, wow, thanks
Speaker 1: a lot, Brook for everything you did for me. I
Speaker 1: didn't need this. I mean a lot of ghosted you too.
Speaker 1: Ye too late. I thought we were a friend. Brooke
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the morning,