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Speaker 3: With dating, people will always like to talk about passion
Speaker 3: and soulmates finding true love. That'd be great, but sometimes
Speaker 3: you don't date for love, that date for food. Oh seriously,
Speaker 3: is there anything more romantic in this world that can
Speaker 3: bond two people together than a good burrito bowl with
Speaker 3: a Kale.
Speaker 1: Smoothie, especially when you're not paying You kind of lost
Speaker 1: me at Kale smoothie.
Speaker 3: I dare to come up with something hotter than tale
Speaker 3: smoothie and burrito.
Speaker 2: Bowls, I mean, very fibrous.
Speaker 3: Apparently that's what happened with one of our listeners, Amanda
Speaker 3: the other day. Amanda claims that she bonded with a
Speaker 3: guy over some delivery food. So, Amanda, welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Hi, thank you.
Speaker 4: It's actually just a Manda.
Speaker 3: Oh just oh. The first day is silent.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. That must be really annoying your entire life.
Speaker 4: It's okay, it's always like conversation starter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's good point.
Speaker 3: All right. I apologize Manda for that atrocious butchering of
Speaker 3: your name. But tell us about the guy that she
Speaker 3: went out with. What's his name?
Speaker 2: His name is Richie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you pronounced that first ar Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, she doesn't find it funny.
Speaker 3: It's okay, that's fine.
Speaker 2: I'm sure you've heard it your whole life. I get it.
Speaker 4: I doing that's funny, Okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we like to have a little bit of fun
Speaker 3: before we get into the details of the date. But
Speaker 3: you met with Richie over delivery food? How did that happen?
Speaker 4: Yeah? So I live in a really big apartment complex
Speaker 4: and when you order food on one of the food apps,
Speaker 4: you go and pick it up downstairs, and then the
Speaker 4: area usually is like a little bit of a hangout,
Speaker 4: kind of becomes like a social gatherings.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I guess people are waiting for their food or that's.
Speaker 3: Just how you get into the building. A lot of
Speaker 3: times I feel like it'd be a bunch of really
Speaker 3: angry people down there waiting for food, all bitter.
Speaker 2: Delivery, glaring at each other.
Speaker 3: That's okay, you met him there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So when I was waiting for my food, he
Speaker 4: was there, and we just kind of started having some
Speaker 4: small talk, and he asked what I ordered, and then
Speaker 4: he was bragging that he got the best tacos and
Speaker 4: then he ended up getting Coco Bell. So I thought
Speaker 4: that was really funny.
Speaker 2: It was Taco Bell. Was it a joke when he
Speaker 2: was saying it or was he being legit?
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 3: Good sense of humor. What do you mean Taco Bell
Speaker 3: is delicious? I don't see the joke in.
Speaker 1: It just doesn't never make sense to him people get
Speaker 1: Taco Bell delivery because you were literally paying three times
Speaker 1: what it would cost in the restaurant. That is like
Speaker 1: the whole point of taco bell is also that it's cheap.
Speaker 2: Usually to state I'm in eating it.
Speaker 1: I can't get to taco be Okay, was this guy sober?
Speaker 4: Yeah, she was sober.
Speaker 3: I think, okay, what happened after that? After you met?
Speaker 4: Well, we ran into each other a couple of other times.
Speaker 4: You know, we know each other a little bit. And
Speaker 4: eventually he was like, I said, of just meeting in
Speaker 4: the lobby, we should go get food.
Speaker 2: That's cute. So he asked you out.
Speaker 4: He did ask me out.
Speaker 2: Did he take you to his favorite taco place? That
Speaker 2: would have been a good move.
Speaker 4: No, we just went to kind of like an American
Speaker 4: cuisine kind of spot that was pretty close.
Speaker 3: And how did that go?
Speaker 4: It was great. We hung out. You know, I really
Speaker 4: liked him. We really got to know each other. It
Speaker 4: was lovely.
Speaker 3: I thought, Okay, what did you guys talk about?
Speaker 4: Like work? Family? He had a cat named Joe.
Speaker 3: And the food was good. It sounds like it all
Speaker 3: sounds normal. Were there any any issues that came up
Speaker 3: during the date.
Speaker 4: No issues that I can really think of. I mean,
Speaker 4: we were talking a lot. So at one point the
Speaker 4: waiter came and cleared our table like before, we were done,
Speaker 4: which is a big pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 2: But so you threw a fork at him?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 4: I just kind of lightly asked him that he didn't
Speaker 4: need to take our main plates because we're still eating,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, how did it end?
Speaker 4: The bill came, he paid I off for devenmo him.
Speaker 4: He turned it down.
Speaker 2: Good offer.
Speaker 1: I feel like you should always offer, even if you
Speaker 1: don't mean it.
Speaker 2: I do fake offer, but I'm never going to Okay.
Speaker 3: And then the guy say, it's like, oh my's not working.
Speaker 5: For everyone.
Speaker 3: Okay, so he covered the whole bill.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he covered the whole bill. Okay. I thought things
Speaker 4: were going really well and I thought he was going
Speaker 4: to kiss me, but then he just hugged me.
Speaker 1: Oh, I mean maybe he got scared.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: It is is so like tough and scary.
Speaker 1: And did you feel like you guys had chemistry?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I really liked him. I don't know,
Speaker 4: maybe he just didn't like me as much as I
Speaker 4: like him.
Speaker 2: Oh, that is a rational thing to say, my friend.
Speaker 3: Kay responsible, and it was.
Speaker 2: It's hard to admit that sometimes.
Speaker 3: So it's kind of weird though, because you live in
Speaker 3: the same building you haven't seen him since that happened,
Speaker 3: Or have you run into him down at the delivery
Speaker 3: food hangout?
Speaker 4: No, I haven't.
Speaker 3: Huh.
Speaker 4: It's a pretty big building, so it's not necessarily going
Speaker 4: to run into someone all the time. But I had
Speaker 4: seen him there pretty frequently before we had hung out,
Speaker 4: and now I haven't seen him at all.
Speaker 2: And he didn't mention like going out of town or anything.
Speaker 3: No, for the day was so bad he moved. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's like, you know what, I'm breaking the leaves. I'm
Speaker 3: out of here. We're going to play a song and
Speaker 3: then we're gonna do the very practical thing and ask
Speaker 3: rich for you if there is a legitimate reason why
Speaker 3: he's not calling you back.
Speaker 4: Okay, sounds good. But also his name is.
Speaker 3: Richie not rich Oh God, did I releast grew up
Speaker 3: both names in one segment? You're good? Yeah, it's a
Speaker 3: skill par for the course for me.
Speaker 1: Here here we go.
Speaker 3: I'm going to quote Amanda, not Amanda, but Aanda without
Speaker 3: that first day because she our second day or today
Speaker 3: she said, quote, I really liked him, but like maybe
Speaker 3: he didn't like me as much as I liked him. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And even though she said, like four times in a
Speaker 3: single sentence. Professor Brooke Fox still gave her a gold
Speaker 3: star for being practical and having a well thought out
Speaker 3: explanation for her ghost.
Speaker 1: There some emotional intelligence right there that she displayed.
Speaker 3: Brook, any other clinical pragmatic commentary you'd like to have
Speaker 3: us document on the podcast for posterity reasons?
Speaker 1: No, but I am taking notes for later, so he
Speaker 1: might put forward next to me and uh, we can
Speaker 1: review it a later time.
Speaker 3: Sounds fun for everybody, all right, yes, why do you
Speaker 3: even give that opportunity? I regret it? So, Uh, Amanda,
Speaker 3: how are you feeling before we call Richie for you?
Speaker 5: Here?
Speaker 3: You're doing okay?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm a little nervous, but I'm interested to hear
Speaker 4: what he has to say.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And have you been like nervous to run into
Speaker 1: him because you know, like when so much time has
Speaker 1: passed and it gets awkward And.
Speaker 4: Yeah, of course, you know, I've kind of guess been
Speaker 4: rehearsing what to say if I run into him.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we all do that in our minds, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah. She totally hasn't been camping out down at the
Speaker 3: bottom of the elevators just like accidentally waiting to put
Speaker 3: like a key into the mailbox hole, just like, oops,
Speaker 3: what are you doing here? That's funny.
Speaker 4: I haven't done anything like that.
Speaker 3: Good, Okay, that's very practical of you. Let's just call
Speaker 3: Richie though and see what he has to say. Here
Speaker 3: we go.
Speaker 2: Oh he got the name.
Speaker 3: Right, Hey, look at you, jeff You remembered something. Oh way,
Speaker 3: you wrote it down? Well, yeah, I practiced it seven
Speaker 3: times before we Here we go. See what Richie has
Speaker 3: to say? Hello, Hello, is this Richie? This is this
Speaker 3: is Jeffrey with a y at the end.
Speaker 2: You would start with a J. I mean you would
Speaker 2: always spell it with his. Some people spell it with
Speaker 2: a G.
Speaker 3: I don't know. Some people get confused on these things. Words,
Speaker 3: words and names we found are very difficult today. So
Speaker 3: there's also to e's. There's also two f's. Hie, Hello Richie.
Speaker 5: Hi, So you're you're Jeffrey from.
Speaker 3: A morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey.
Speaker 5: Oh so, why are you guys telling me?
Speaker 3: Very astute question there, Richie. We're calling because we're trying
Speaker 3: to dig a little bit into your dating life.
Speaker 5: What what are you talking about?
Speaker 2: I think it's a good thing.
Speaker 3: Intrusively Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was brought to us. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean just that, I mean a little bit intrusively,
Speaker 3: but in a nice way. Because one of our listeners
Speaker 3: named Manda went out with you recently and would like
Speaker 3: to go out with you again.
Speaker 5: She'd like to go out with me again.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5: I would give you that idea.
Speaker 3: She literally emailed the show saying I would like to
Speaker 3: see Richie again.
Speaker 2: It was very direct.
Speaker 3: We read between the lines on that one a little bit,
Speaker 3: but we figured out she wants another date.
Speaker 6: I'm just like totally confused right now. I mean, I
Speaker 6: thought that we had a really good time, but I
Speaker 6: don't understand, Like I didn't hear anything from her, so
Speaker 6: I just thought she didn't like me, so I kind
Speaker 6: of moved off.
Speaker 2: Wait wait, she said she tried to get hold of you.
Speaker 2: I thought, did she tell us that or did she
Speaker 2: not tell us that?
Speaker 3: I don't know if I asked that question. That was
Speaker 3: too busy trying to figure out her name.
Speaker 5: Yeah. No, I don't know how she had to contact me, Like,
Speaker 5: I don't know we got a call from her or
Speaker 5: text or anything after the date?
Speaker 1: Wow, did you text or call her though, Richie? I mean,
Speaker 1: maybe she's one of those girls that was just doesn't
Speaker 1: want to be too forward.
Speaker 6: No, I mean usually a girl at least, I mean,
Speaker 6: even though we live in the same building, shull at
Speaker 6: least say hey, I got home safe.
Speaker 5: It was nice to night, you know something, just so
Speaker 5: you know she got into it.
Speaker 3: I mean, do it nothing or even like a thank
Speaker 3: you for dinner and paying for everything.
Speaker 2: Maybe nice and ask if she got home safe? Do
Speaker 2: you guys building, try a little harder.
Speaker 3: I've been stuck in the elevator for a week. It happens,
Speaker 3: so it does not happen.
Speaker 1: So wait, so you liked her, she liked you, and
Speaker 1: neither of you have texted or called each other.
Speaker 6: I guess.
Speaker 5: Weird.
Speaker 2: Okay, well that seems that seems easy.
Speaker 3: It does seem easy because you're in luck, Ritchie. Amanda
Speaker 3: is actually on the other line right now, wanting to
Speaker 3: tell you how much she likes you and wants to
Speaker 3: see you again.
Speaker 5: Amanda, Hey, Richie, Hey, oh this is so strange to
Speaker 5: me right now. I'm totally taken away.
Speaker 4: Well, it's kind of your your perspective on this, because
Speaker 4: I thought that you didn't like me.
Speaker 5: I mean, for her relief and kind of funny, but
Speaker 5: we wasted a lot of time. I guess, yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Mean, I don't know. I guess I was expecting you
Speaker 4: to be a like as good of a communicator as
Speaker 4: you got talked about, like how that was important, and
Speaker 4: then I was kind of confused after.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's just funny, like you guys seem like
Speaker 3: you're both interested in each other so and you just
Speaker 3: didn't realize that it was going on. You were both
Speaker 3: too shy to say it.
Speaker 5: Well, it was from what she just said that she
Speaker 5: thinks I'm a pretty bad communicator.
Speaker 1: Seems like you both are, like we both liked each other,
Speaker 1: and neither one of you reached out.
Speaker 3: That's not what you're saying, right, Amanda, I mean kind
Speaker 3: of well you didn't you didn't communicate with him?
Speaker 4: Well, I mean I did. I was pretty clear that
Speaker 4: I was waiting to hear from him first, that I
Speaker 4: kind of liked the guy taking the initiative first. I
Speaker 4: don't know, I guess I didn't expect so much from Akatharson.
Speaker 2: What what?
Speaker 3: Whoa Where did that come from?
Speaker 5: So now I'm a liar and a bad person because
Speaker 5: they're like cats, right, do not.
Speaker 2: Just in our I don't think you can take that
Speaker 2: one back.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I thought when you were talking to us earlier,
Speaker 3: you said you had he had a cute cat named Joe.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Sure, but I'm just you know, I'm sorry. I didn't
Speaker 4: think that, rittie. I didn't think you're going to be
Speaker 4: so sensitive, So I'm sorry to bring that up.
Speaker 3: Now, he's sensitive.
Speaker 5: I guess being sensitives better than being a total jerk
Speaker 5: to the waiter.
Speaker 2: So what happened with the waiter.
Speaker 5: Out?
Speaker 2: I know, but she said she.
Speaker 4: Asked him, Yeah, what are you trying to say?
Speaker 5: Okay, so when he tried to take your plate the
Speaker 5: other night, you said, in like a harsh tone, you know,
Speaker 5: I'm not done right, Like that's as anarchy as you
Speaker 5: can get a little backhand.
Speaker 4: I feel like I was pretty polite. I wasn't done,
Speaker 4: so I just let the waiter know.
Speaker 3: But it was probably the tone. Yeah are we are
Speaker 3: we forgetting that? You guys both really liked each other
Speaker 3: like two minutes ago.
Speaker 5: I'm just big on like manners and just etiquette and
Speaker 5: there's a polite way to do things, and she just
Speaker 5: did not observe that.
Speaker 3: Are you sure you're not just being defensive right now?
Speaker 3: Because she called you a pathetic overly sensitive cat person.
Speaker 2: She didn't say pathetic.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, well I'm just reading between the lines. But
Speaker 3: we all know what she meant. The words were there,
Speaker 3: they were just unspoken.
Speaker 4: So you're saying that I'm not polite because I offered
Speaker 4: to pay for half of the meal.
Speaker 5: I mean masculating. You got to know that, rightaculated. That's emasculating,
Speaker 5: Like I'm a dude on the first date. What kind
Speaker 5: of dude doesn't pay for the first date?
Speaker 3: Well, true, I'm sorry. In Amanda's defense, you did order
Speaker 3: taco bell, so maybe she just didn't think you had
Speaker 3: the budget.
Speaker 1: For Itanda's defense, it's a polite thing to.
Speaker 3: Do, Yeah, says money bags Brook over there.
Speaker 1: It's nice to offer, you know, even if you don't
Speaker 1: do it, at least you know that you have someone
Speaker 1: who is more of a partner and not someone who
Speaker 1: just wants free stuff.
Speaker 3: Is it rude, like assuming that he can't afford it
Speaker 3: on his own.
Speaker 2: That's not what she was assuming at all.
Speaker 3: This is going to come as a news Flashbrook, But
Speaker 3: not everybody in the world agrees with you on everything.
Speaker 1: Oh that's gonna all of a sudden, And now.
Speaker 3: Are we fighting with each other because I liked you
Speaker 3: before this call started? What's going on?
Speaker 5: Cat guy?
Speaker 2: Is that what I said?
Speaker 5: How dare you?
Speaker 2: And I don't even know?
Speaker 3: How do you disrespect cats? There's nothing wrong with having cats, Brooke, Well, here's.
Speaker 2: Where the show.
Speaker 3: Should you know what? Buy me lunch shed work. I'm
Speaker 3: going to offer to pay for half of it. How
Speaker 3: do you like that? Yeah, I'm sure you would stop.
Speaker 5: Stop.
Speaker 3: Maybe he got the meal ordered right one time instead
Speaker 3: of getting me a burrito bowl like Torty is around
Speaker 3: my burritos. Brook a while, you didn't need the car, Richie?
Speaker 2: And are you still on the phone?
Speaker 3: Come on, Richie, Manda, were doing this or not? We
Speaker 3: send you on a second date. We're gonna pay for it.
Speaker 3: Book's gonna offer to pay for half.
Speaker 2: Yeah, whether you like.
Speaker 5: It or not?
Speaker 3: A look?
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay?
Speaker 3: Well, and like I thought, it was to go out
Speaker 3: of your way to try and help your listeners one time.
Speaker 3: And this is how you get treated going off when
Speaker 3: you offer to pay for their dates and yelled at
Speaker 3: them ilating.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm used.
Speaker 3: To it all right. Well, sorry Amanda and Richie.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I kind of got out of hand there, you know.
Speaker 2: Okay, from you.
Speaker 3: That's offensive to people that don't have hands.
Speaker 2: Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: All right, we've calmed down a little bit. And sometimes
Speaker 3: I'll be honest, I wonder why our listeners keep asking
Speaker 3: for our help. Honestly, they keep on asking us to
Speaker 3: help them. You know what's going to happen.
Speaker 1: Even therapists have their own issues, right, they have to work.
Speaker 3: Through, usually not in front of the clients.
Speaker 2: But you get paid as a therapist. We don't know.
Speaker 3: Some of us on the show get paid more than others,
Speaker 3: and it's a little bit unfair.
Speaker 5: But.
Speaker 2: Pay gap thing.
Speaker 3: We'll admit it got out of hand, but I do
Speaker 3: want everybody to know. Once we got off the air,
Speaker 3: I graciously offered to give both of them restaurant gift cards,
Speaker 3: even if they didn't want to go out with each other,
Speaker 3: just for the trouble, Brooke, what did you offer them?
Speaker 2: You guys like scared them away? I offer them that first?
Speaker 3: Oh did you anyway? I don't know why you'd want to,
Speaker 3: but if you ever want us to help you with
Speaker 3: your love life, you can always email the show and
Speaker 3: maybe no.
Speaker 2: Maybe you end up helping us out in the end.
Speaker 5: Yeah, there you go.
Speaker 3: Actually, maybe we should call another show to help with
Speaker 3: our issues. That's good, that's a good idea. Any Way,
Speaker 3: you can always find the second date updates on our
Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey YouTube. Go check it out, subscribe. Uh,
Speaker 3: that's it.
Speaker 2: That's the end.
Speaker 3: That's the end.