1 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 1: Hey, what's up everybody, Thanks for being here. If you 2 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 1: have a question for me on this podcast, what I 3 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: do is I answer them. It could be about any subject. 4 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: Uh there's They've really been all over the place, and 5 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: so to email me. Send a message, send your question, 6 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: hopefully about the about a phone's length to podcasts at 7 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. I'll get to those emails, we'll put 8 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: them in the queue, and we'll answer them on here. 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: I don't always have the right answers, and I don't 10 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: have a bunch of notes sitting in front of me. 11 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:41,199 Speaker 1: But what I what I have learned of the of 12 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: the last several years of doing this. My goal really 13 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: is to get you, mister questioner, missus questioner, is to 14 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: get you thinking so that you could answer your own questions. Really, 15 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: I guess I guess I should say that way. My 16 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: goal is not to have a podcast that we go 17 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,680 Speaker 1: for twenty years and just try to exhaust every single 18 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: possible question that I could possibly answer. Really, the goal 19 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: is if you listen consistently, I hope you do. My 20 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: goal is that you go. I'm starting to see how 21 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: Granger gets his answers from I like his answers. Maybe 22 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: you don't like them all. Surely you don't like all 23 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 1: my answers. That would be impossible. We all have different taste. 24 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: But hey, I like a lot of the way Granger 25 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:35,479 Speaker 1: answers questions, and I'm starting to see how he gets 26 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: his answers so that I could I could start answering 27 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: my own questions in that same way. So it's really 28 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: more of of learning how to think, or learning how 29 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: to think through a question. There's really even of these 30 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: questions I always get to are very specific. There's only 31 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: there's only seven to ten actual questions, and everything else 32 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: is just caught in the details of it. Right, So 33 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: let's get to the first one comes from Madison again. 34 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 1: She emailed podcast at grangersmith dot com. And I'm kicking 35 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: off with Madison's question here because this is what I'm 36 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: going to kind of base this little first break on. 37 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: I'll show you what I mean. She asked us, Hey, Granger, 38 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: it maybe that I can't recall from reading my Bible, 39 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: or that it isn't something that is within the Bible 40 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: at all, But how does sports betting align with the 41 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: Christian value system? I have friends within my community church 42 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 1: that partake in sports betting, and more than anything, this 43 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 1: is just a general thought. Is gambling a sin? That's 44 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: your question? God Bless Madison. So yeah, her question is basically, 45 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 1: is gambling a sin? It's in the context of sports betting, 46 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 1: which I don't think there's an argument there that every 47 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: kind of betting, every kind of betting that there is 48 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: is would be under the umbrella of gambling. So you 49 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: don't have to be in a casino pulling a slot 50 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: machine lever for it to be called gambling. You don't 51 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 1: have to be in a back alley playing poker in 52 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 1: some kind of shambly bar for it to be considered gambling. 53 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: It could be just like, oh, and I should say 54 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 1: this too, It doesn't have to be illegal. In fact, 55 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: it would be weird to only consider the sin part 56 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: of gambling if it is a sin. We'll get to 57 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: that if it's illegal or not, Because anything that's illegal 58 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 1: would be considered a sin at some level, because you 59 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: would be going against the authority at some level. We 60 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: think that's a different question. Maybe someone else could ask 61 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: that specifically and we could dive into that, But specifically, 62 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: what I want talking about is legal gambling. Is that 63 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: a sin? And that's basically what Madison's asking. She says, 64 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: there are people in her church that do it, so 65 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: let's think about it. I think we should think about 66 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: it in some ways, like alcohol. You know, it's a 67 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: substance that you could certainly abuse. It's a substance that is, 68 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: if used in the right way, legal, and yet in 69 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: so many other ways it could be devastating to a 70 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: life with gambling. I first, I think, I think my 71 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: first thought I would go to considering it's legal, and 72 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: can consider this too. Maybe never mind, let me start here, 73 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,719 Speaker 1: as you could see, I make this up as I go. Y'all, 74 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: let's let's let's start with make sure Madison that you 75 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: understand that as we judge those Hey look, look, the 76 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 1: Bible doesn't say don't judge period. In the story. The 77 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: Bible says, be careful with your judging, because you'll be 78 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: judged according to the same measure. So there are definitely 79 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: some things that we should judge with with our brothers 80 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: and sisters, we should we should judge them in it like, 81 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:11,719 Speaker 1: don't don't misunderstand that we don't judge. We just like 82 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: turn a blind eye to everything. We have no opinion. 83 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:16,919 Speaker 1: We're just like neutral robots. And we don't care what 84 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: other people do around this. Don't judge. I see that 85 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:24,039 Speaker 1: sometimes on social media it's like, hey, don't judge. Well, 86 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,479 Speaker 1: that's not what the Bible says, that's not what Jesus says. 87 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:30,239 Speaker 1: It's it's it's the idea of don't don't judge unless 88 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: you are willing to be judged according to the same 89 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: measure and a lot of the same measures we want 90 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 1: to be judged by. Okay, so let's start there and say, 91 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: let's be sure that you're you're you're you're not worried 92 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: about the speck in your brother's eye, and you've got 93 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 1: a log in your own eye. Let's make sure we're 94 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:51,160 Speaker 1: removing the log in our own eye. It is or Jesus, 95 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 1: this is Jesus's idea that make sure when we're looking 96 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 1: at other people, like, hey, those guys are those guys 97 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: are gambling, and then you're going home and you're having 98 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:04,159 Speaker 1: it too many glasses of wine at home. You know, Hey, 99 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 1: those guys are gambling. What's wrong with those guys? As 100 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: we're popping too many pain pills, Hey, those guys are gambling. 101 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: As we're addicted to social media, cannot get our heads 102 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 1: out of our screen. We're so addicted to it. Hey, 103 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:21,160 Speaker 1: those guys are gambling, and the list goes on and on. 104 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: Make sure first before we say anything, let's make sure 105 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: we remove the log from our own eye before we 106 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 1: look to anyone else. Okay, now, let's talk about that. 107 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,679 Speaker 1: There's also this aspect that I don't think there's anything 108 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 1: wrong with someone in an innocent way saying, look, I 109 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 1: legitimately like to go and bet on a sports team. 110 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: It's legal, and I use twenty bucks. I like to say, hey, 111 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,719 Speaker 1: I like to bet on the super Bowl every year 112 00:06:54,720 --> 00:07:00,479 Speaker 1: as a tradition. Hypothetically, there's a Super Bowl tradition I 113 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: have in my family. I like to put twenty bucks 114 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: on the team from the west of the Mississippi. I 115 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know why you would do it. 116 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: I personally don't gamble at all, But I'm saying, let's 117 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:16,360 Speaker 1: think about the guy that goes. I like to put 118 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: twenty dollars. It's a tradition I do every year on 119 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: the Super Bowl, and there's no harm in it. I 120 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: budget twenty bucks. You know, it's not like going to 121 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: break the bank or anything. It's legal. I do it 122 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: in a legal way. I do it in a setting 123 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: of camaraderie. People around me, we do it together. Hey, 124 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that, But let's dive into why it 125 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: could be wrong if taken the wrong way, if seen 126 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: the wrong way in the wrong setting. First of all, 127 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 1: gambling in so many ways has an underlying issue of 128 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: a love of money or greed. Right. The Bible speaks 129 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: thoroughly about this. Second, our first Timothy is six ' ten. 130 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: The love of money is the root of all kinds 131 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: of evil. Some people eager for money have wandered from 132 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs or many pangs. 133 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: That's tough, right, and we know this. Some people eager 134 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: for money have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves 135 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: with many griefs. The Bible says that Paul speaking of 136 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: Timothy here in his letter, he's writing a Timothy. But 137 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: I don't think we have to go. I don't know, Paul, 138 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 1: I don't know if I agree with that. All of us, 139 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: non believers, believers, all of us go. Yeah, I see that. 140 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: Let's see that everywhere. What about Proverbs twenty eight twenty 141 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 1: A faithful person will be richly blessed but one eager 142 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: to get rich will not go unpunished. That's interesting. So 143 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 1: many times gambling is that the idea of it itself 144 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: just stems from a desire to quickly gain wealth. And 145 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: trying to quickly gain wealth, that's reflecting a love of money, agreed, 146 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: which the Bible condemns. It's dangerous. It's dangerous for you. 147 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: The other issue I think about is poor stewardship. Poor stewardship. 148 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:24,079 Speaker 1: Now we're called to be faithful stewarts responsible and if 149 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: you're using gambling, not the guy that says I bet 150 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: once a year on the super Bowl for twenty bucks. 151 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:31,360 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that guy, but I'm saying, if 152 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 1: this is something you're into all the time, or the 153 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: people at the community church you're talking about, we would 154 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: have to consider something like Luke sixteen to ten that 155 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: says whoever can be trusted with very little can also 156 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very 157 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:52,320 Speaker 1: little will also be dishonest with much. So if you 158 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will 159 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: trust you with true riches? That's interesting. Once again, this 160 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: is a thing that you don't have to go out 161 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 1: don't believe that. You just look around you go, yeah, 162 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: I get it. Man, If I can't trust you with 163 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 1: a penny, why would I ever trust you with one 164 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:13,640 Speaker 1: hundred bucks. It doesn't You don't have to be reading 165 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: the Bible to just see that played out inner world 166 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: around us. So the Bible is always going to call 167 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: us to be responsible stewards of our resources, knowing that 168 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: God gives us everything. So when you're risking money and 169 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 1: gambling in a careless type setting, this is a way 170 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 1: that could hurt your stewardship and could be better used 171 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: in different ways. I think that's obvious. The other thing 172 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,280 Speaker 1: that gambling kind of brings up in my mind is 173 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:49,280 Speaker 1: a lack of contentment, right, a lack of contentment. Hebrews 174 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: thirteen to five says, keep your lives free from the 175 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: love of money and be content with what you have 176 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: because God has said I will never leave you, I'll 177 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 1: never forsake you. And so so many times you see 178 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: gambling turn into something that is reflecting a discontentment in 179 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: their current situation. It's like, man, I want to sit 180 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:15,680 Speaker 1: at this table a little bit longer, because if I 181 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: can get this and this and this, I'm gonna be happy, 182 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: and that's totally going to contradict what the Bible calls 183 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:32,079 Speaker 1: to be content. Here's an important one I think about two. 184 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: What is the impact of gambling on others? And this 185 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: is including the guy that bets on the Super Bowl 186 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: once a year. This is where I think this is 187 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:44,440 Speaker 1: dangerous for him as well. You become a stumbling box 188 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 1: for others. Philippians two four says, don't look to your 189 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: own interest, but each of you look into the interest 190 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: of others. I'm paraphrasing all these and if someone is 191 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: struggling with gambling, or if they're struggling with any of 192 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:04,559 Speaker 1: the things lack of contentment, poor stewardship, the love of money, 193 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:06,839 Speaker 1: and greed, if anyone around you is struggling with these 194 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: and they see you going, yeah, I like to gamble 195 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:13,320 Speaker 1: once a year on a football game, even if you 196 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: know how to have self control about it, that might 197 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: open the door to someone else that is struggling with 198 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: all of these things I've listed, and that becomes dangerous 199 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: for them, and so you become a stumbling block for them, 200 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:31,840 Speaker 1: and that could just have endless repercussions on their families 201 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:39,439 Speaker 1: and their community. Financial strain, relational conflicts with their spouse. 202 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: And so if we are truly, like the Bible says, 203 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:47,199 Speaker 1: considering others and the well being of others before our 204 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: own desires, or at least equal to that, I think 205 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 1: gambling in many ways could be a stumbling book. And finally, 206 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: I think, probably most importantly, I think we need to 207 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 1: consider this the addictive behavior of gambling itself and what 208 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,959 Speaker 1: it can cause. Even to the guy that says I 209 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: bet once a year on the Super Bowl, there is 210 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 1: a sense, and we see this play out, that gambling 211 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:24,680 Speaker 1: becomes addictive, and there are certainly certain personalities that it's 212 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 1: more addictive too. So maybe I could use myself as 213 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:36,400 Speaker 1: an example when it comes to this stuff. I don't 214 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:41,679 Speaker 1: personally have a super addictive personality, but my brother Tyler does. 215 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: He recognizes that and I recognize it. So that means 216 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 1: Tyler has to be more careful around things that are 217 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: traditionally addictive to other humans. If something has been traditionally 218 00:13:55,840 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 1: addictive to people, Tyler's going to fall into it, not 219 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: due to some extent, but not to the extent of him. 220 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 1: Meaning there's nothing there's nothing good or bad about me 221 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 1: or Tyler in that aspect, except for this, just different personalities, 222 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:13,559 Speaker 1: and so knowing that gambling is one of these things 223 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: that easily can become addictive, we need to consider that 224 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:22,760 Speaker 1: when we're considering if gambling is a sin. One Corinthian 225 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 1: six twelve says, Paul's talking here. I have the right 226 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:30,160 Speaker 1: to say anything you say, but not everything is beneficial. 227 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: I have the right to do anything, but I will 228 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 1: not be mastered by anything. Paul says. I will not 229 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: be mastered by anything. He's saying in another way, I'm 230 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 1: not going to be addicted to something. And that could 231 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 1: be anything. It could be anything in life that masters you. 232 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 1: It could be anxiety, or it could be poorn, It 233 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 1: could be Instagram, or could be sports betting. There's there's 234 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: an endless thing we can go through here. There's endless 235 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: things that you could be mastered by that I could 236 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:10,240 Speaker 1: be mastered by. An addiction to relationships like I'm online 237 00:15:10,320 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 1: dating could be that could master you. Trying to be 238 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 1: a good father, you know, that could be something that 239 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 1: you become obsessive over and you can't stop thinking about it. 240 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: You can't stop working to be a good father. Something 241 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: that has such good intentions could could be something that 242 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: ends up mastering you. So it's not just cigarettes or opioids. 243 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 1: It could be something that inherently is good, but it 244 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 1: becomes a master over you. An obsession, an addiction, and 245 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: gambling is for sure in that category. You don't have 246 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 1: to argue that. No one's gonna argue that whatever it 247 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:52,720 Speaker 1: is about that neurologically it draws certain people in, if 248 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:57,120 Speaker 1: not everyone, at some level, there's just something about it 249 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: that draws you in. And the Bible says don't be 250 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: mastered by anything. And so this also goes to my 251 00:16:06,640 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 1: fourth point, the impact on others. If others could be 252 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:15,120 Speaker 1: more addictive than you to certain things and you're doing 253 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 1: it and you have total self control over it, and 254 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 1: someone else sees you and they say, I want to 255 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 1: do what he's doing or she's doing. I'm gonna try 256 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 1: it out a little bit, and as soon as they do, 257 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: they realize they're addicted, not like the first person was. 258 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 1: That's a problem, and you just cause your brother to stumble. 259 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: So I hope when you hear these things, I hope, 260 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: I hope you can come to it a conclusion. You're 261 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 1: like I said at the beginning, where I don't necessarily 262 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: want to give you an answer as much as I 263 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:47,680 Speaker 1: want to help you think through things, and then when 264 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,400 Speaker 1: you think of all that and you go, yeah, it's 265 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:54,040 Speaker 1: probably not worth it, right, It's probably not worth it. 266 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:58,760 Speaker 1: I personally have played music in so many casinos in 267 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: my life, so many I could never count how many 268 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 1: casinos I've been and how many places in the world 269 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: I've been in some kind of casino atmosphere. I have zero, 270 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: zero desire at all to gamble. I just don't. I 271 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:22,840 Speaker 1: don't like it if I lose twenty dollars at a 272 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:26,359 Speaker 1: blackjack table, I instantly think about what that twenty dollars 273 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 1: could have bought, Like man, that could have been half 274 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:33,360 Speaker 1: of a really, really nice stake, and in my mind 275 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,120 Speaker 1: I can't get over that. I know that there are 276 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: definitely people that do it purely out of entertainment, and 277 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 1: to those people, I say, Okay, consider the things that 278 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 1: I've said here on this podcast, and to the original email, 279 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:56,360 Speaker 1: I say, hey, Madison, let's make sure that you're prepared 280 00:17:56,359 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 1: to be judged on the same Measure'll move on. I 281 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 1: wish y'all could have seen the very first grangersmith dot com. 282 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: It was like two thousand and one, two thousand and two. 283 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:11,199 Speaker 1: I remember it said grangersmith dot com. You go there. 284 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,439 Speaker 1: It has like a little Texas flag, like blowing in 285 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: the wind, but it was like real, real bad quality, 286 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,879 Speaker 1: and it had like my tour dates and a couple 287 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:22,640 Speaker 1: other things. I definitely didn't sell anything. I didn't sell 288 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:24,640 Speaker 1: a T shirt or a hat. That didn't come till 289 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:28,440 Speaker 1: about two thousand and five. And my brother Tyler helped 290 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,040 Speaker 1: me with that. He's been with me every since as 291 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:32,919 Speaker 1: my manager, and we started selling. We noticed quickly that 292 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: selling is pretty hard online because you know, you got 293 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: to have a little icon where they click the credit 294 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 1: card thing, and then you got to figure out a 295 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: back end way that they could get their credit card charged. 296 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: And we just eventually we just gave it all to Shopify. 297 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of businesses do the same. 298 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:51,359 Speaker 1: We are better because it's so easy to sell things 299 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 1: with Shopify. Now, what is Shopify. 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We lost a lot of numbers, we lost 315 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:45,720 Speaker 1: a lot of fans that were impatient with the checkout system, 316 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,880 Speaker 1: and then we went back to Shopify. Hey, if you've 317 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:51,360 Speaker 1: got a small business or a large business, join us 318 00:19:51,400 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: like ten percent of all e commerce platforms in the 319 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: whole US and go to Shopify. Also one hundred and 320 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: seventy five countries around the world. That's because businesses a 321 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 1: around the world use Shopify. If you've got a business 322 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:05,360 Speaker 1: large or small, and you sell things on a website, 323 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:08,480 Speaker 1: listen sign up for a one dollar per month trial 324 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: period at shopify dot com. 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I'll read those notes and I pull 335 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:45,840 Speaker 1: out my phone and I record a video message and 336 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,240 Speaker 1: I say whatever you need me to say to whoever 337 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,160 Speaker 1: you need me to say it too, and I send 338 00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 1: it right back to you. It's super simple. It's a 339 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: great gift for the person that you don't know what 340 00:20:55,119 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: to buy for. Again, go to Cameo c am eo 341 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 1: dot com slash grangers. Next question comes from Jacob once again. 342 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:06,680 Speaker 1: Jacob emailed podcast at grangersmith dot com and you can too. 343 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,040 Speaker 1: Jacob says, Hey, my name is Jacob. I've got a 344 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 1: brief backstory. I met my wife in high school and 345 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 1: we started dating after graduation, and then I shipped off 346 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: to the Air Force BMT. Two months later. We spent 347 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 1: four months four years excuse me long distance. After that, 348 00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:24,560 Speaker 1: I was stationed in Georgia while she was back home 349 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:28,199 Speaker 1: in Ohio going to college, and once she graduated, she 350 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 1: moved down with me. We're currently living in Virginia. We 351 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:35,120 Speaker 1: have a one year old son together, and we are 352 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 1: constantly fighting. I know I'm not perfect. I make mistakes, 353 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 1: but every time I make a mistake, she jumps to 354 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: yelling and screaming at me. I get so defensive and 355 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: it just rises from there. I start to see this 356 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,879 Speaker 1: marriage not working out. But I know that the Bible 357 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: says that divorce is only okay if there's been cheating involved. 358 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: I'm just losing hope in this relationship, and she is too. 359 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:03,480 Speaker 1: We're tired of fighting and we don't want our son 360 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 1: in the middle of it. Any advice prayers would be amazing. 361 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: Thanks yee, Jacob, Jacob, I'm so sorry, brother. I hate 362 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:16,399 Speaker 1: to see this for you, and I know this is 363 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: this is a tough spot. I'm gonna I'm gonna do 364 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 1: some math here. Four years Let's see you date. You 365 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:29,919 Speaker 1: dated in high school four years long distance? Did you 366 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 1: say when you get married. I don't know. I don't know. 367 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:39,119 Speaker 1: I think I'm guessing. We're talking about five years marriage 368 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,199 Speaker 1: here and a one year old son together, constantly fighting. 369 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:47,639 Speaker 1: What I want to talk about here? I could get 370 00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:51,440 Speaker 1: into the to the nitty gritty really of a relationship, 371 00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:54,480 Speaker 1: and I have before on this podcast, and I don't. 372 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: I don't think that's what you're looking for. I think 373 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: you're asking me, Hey, is it okay if I just 374 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: divorce this woman? I think that's basically what you're saying. 375 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,640 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't see that there's a like a 376 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 1: a need or desire to reconcile the relationship. I think 377 00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,200 Speaker 1: you're more or less you're just like, hey, we fight. 378 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:15,960 Speaker 1: I'm tired of it. She's tired of it. I don't 379 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 1: want my son seeing this. I want out. But I 380 00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:23,399 Speaker 1: have one problem, Granger. The Bible says that it's not 381 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,879 Speaker 1: good to get a divorce. So what am I going 382 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: to do? I'm losing hope here. In fact, it sounds 383 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: like Jacob, it sounds like you're saying, if it wasn't 384 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 1: for the Bible, I'd just be out. It's what everyone 385 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:36,800 Speaker 1: else does, right, so the whole world does. It seems 386 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 1: like so what I want to do, Jacob, I think 387 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: this is so important. Instead of instead of me getting 388 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,480 Speaker 1: into the nitty gritty of your relationship, because honestly, I 389 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:52,720 Speaker 1: just don't know that much about it. Besides, you make 390 00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: mistakes and she jumps you. I don't know. I want 391 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: to talk about what it means about being a Christian 392 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 1: and dealing with divorce. I think this is so often 393 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:15,960 Speaker 1: misunderstood and not talked about, but really, traditionally, this is 394 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:17,880 Speaker 1: how it should be, and this is how it has been, 395 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 1: and this is what I want you to think about. 396 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 1: I'm assuming. I'm just assuming, forgive me if I'm wrong. 397 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: I'm assuming you're not in a meaningful relationship with the church, 398 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:39,840 Speaker 1: a good, healthy church that has a proportionate amount of 399 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:46,200 Speaker 1: pastors to the amount of congregates or members or people 400 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: that attend, so that if there were problems in the congregation, 401 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 1: there is a personal relationship with one of the pastors, 402 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: so that you could work through it. And you probably 403 00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 1: know where I'm going with this. My point is it's 404 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 1: it's an amazing thought, and it's biblical, and it's true. 405 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:18,160 Speaker 1: No Christian should deal with divorce alone. And better said, 406 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 1: and more, this punches the gut a little bit more. 407 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 1: To a Christian, divorce is not a private matter. It's crazy, right, 408 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: I mean, that's what we're called to do. And for 409 00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: some reason in our culture, in today's age, divorce, family 410 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 1: problems have become a private matter, something that we just 411 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:49,520 Speaker 1: keep behind closed doors, and it festers and it gets worse. 412 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,560 Speaker 1: Shut the windows, shut the doors, put the kid in 413 00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 1: his room, shut his door, and let's fight it out. 414 00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: And then one day the couple emerges into the community 415 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 1: and says, we're separated, we're now getting a divorce, and 416 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:08,280 Speaker 1: in the community goes, oh, so sorry, yeah, we're you know, 417 00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: we've already followed the papers. That's what that's what we say. 418 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,160 Speaker 1: That's not the way it's supposed to be for Christians. 419 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: And it stings a little bit right when I say 420 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:23,640 Speaker 1: that for a Christian, divorce is not a private matter. Instead, 421 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,879 Speaker 1: it is a community matter. It should be done in 422 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 1: the community of the church, so that you don't have 423 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,120 Speaker 1: to email a podcast and ask about it. You don't 424 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:37,480 Speaker 1: have to email stranger, this former country singer that has 425 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,560 Speaker 1: the podcast and ask him advice. You don't even know him, 426 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 1: He didn't know you, and he didn't know your situation 427 00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:45,680 Speaker 1: and you don't have to think about it. Instead, it's 428 00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:50,360 Speaker 1: done in the community of the church itself. And today 429 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,880 Speaker 1: in this age, we hear that, we go, oh, that's 430 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:58,679 Speaker 1: nobody's business, this is my private issue, but it's not. 431 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 1: You marry in front of the community, right, and everyone 432 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 1: affirms you, in front of your family and your friends, 433 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,880 Speaker 1: and you stand up there and you make your vows 434 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,800 Speaker 1: under God with the preacher, and you say it in 435 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,840 Speaker 1: front of everyone around, so that they could all attest 436 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,359 Speaker 1: and they could affirm your marriage and your love for 437 00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 1: each other. And they say by being there, by being 438 00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: in attendance of the wedding, they say, we will walk 439 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 1: forward through sickness and in health, through happiness, through sadness, 440 00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,719 Speaker 1: through grief. We will be there with you because all 441 00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,360 Speaker 1: that stuff is coming, because you're a human on planet Earth, 442 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:34,840 Speaker 1: all that stuff is coming, and we will walk with 443 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:38,879 Speaker 1: you as a community through that. But then somehow we've 444 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,919 Speaker 1: lost that idea. Later in the marriage, five years in 445 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:44,159 Speaker 1: you have problems and you close all the doors in 446 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,879 Speaker 1: the windows, and it becomes a private matter in the community. 447 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,160 Speaker 1: The church is no longer in it at all, until 448 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,919 Speaker 1: you emerge and you tell everybody. Then we've decided to 449 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:58,159 Speaker 1: get a divorce, and collectively, people don't say it, but 450 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,000 Speaker 1: they think, why didn't you, Why didn't you open up 451 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:04,640 Speaker 1: to us? Why couldn't we have walked you through this? 452 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,240 Speaker 1: Why couldn't we have been the ones to say no, 453 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:12,000 Speaker 1: it's not time for that. We're gonna help you fight through. 454 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,360 Speaker 1: We're gonna walk through this with you. And here's we're 455 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,320 Speaker 1: gonna help you this way. We're gonna help you this way, 456 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 1: and we're gonna tell her to stop that. We're gonna 457 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,199 Speaker 1: tell you to stop it, and we're gonna tell her 458 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 1: to keep doing that. We're gonna tell you to keep 459 00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 1: doing that. But collectively, as a tribe, as a family, 460 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: as a unit, as a community, as a church, which 461 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,879 Speaker 1: literally in its word means gathering, we come together and 462 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: we walk this with you. And then when I start slipping, 463 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,880 Speaker 1: I want you to walk with me and my wife. 464 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 1: And then when there's somethings happened, when your boy, we 465 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: want to step in. We want to help raise your 466 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: boy with you, and something's happening weird with your girl. 467 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 1: We want to step in as a community as a 468 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,120 Speaker 1: church and help you collectively raise this girl. Because we 469 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,920 Speaker 1: have women and old ladies that could help pour into 470 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: your wife as she's wondering how to be a good 471 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 1: mother to a daughter. And we have men and all 472 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:03,960 Speaker 1: men and grandpa's that could help you so you don't 473 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: have to be alone and learning how to raise a boy. 474 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,960 Speaker 1: This is how it's always been done in human culture 475 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: until now. It's everything's private. It's a private matter. Don't 476 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 1: tell anyone. Hush hush, sweep it under the rug. That's 477 00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 1: not the way it should be. It's not the way 478 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 1: God designed it to be. Didn't design marriage to be private, 479 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: which is why we do the ceremony of marriage in public. 480 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 1: So I want to encourage you to think more in 481 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 1: that way that your problems, your marriage problems, your divorce pending, 482 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:47,000 Speaker 1: it's not private. Open it up to the church. Open 483 00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:50,720 Speaker 1: it up starting with your pastor get people to pray 484 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: for you. Get other couples to tell you how they 485 00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,960 Speaker 1: made it through times that were tough, so that you 486 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 1: could have an older couple that goes, yeah, I remember 487 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 1: those days. I remember the one year old at home, 488 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: I remember the father that travels, I remember the wife 489 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,160 Speaker 1: grumbling about it. And this is this is what we did. 490 00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: We had the same problem guys, and this is what 491 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,040 Speaker 1: we did to walk through it. How could we help 492 00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:19,480 Speaker 1: you walk through it as well? Because going through that 493 00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,400 Speaker 1: divorce is not going to fix anything. You know that right, 494 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,120 Speaker 1: look around at culture. Going through the divorce itself. It's 495 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,560 Speaker 1: not gonna fix your own problems. The fact it just 496 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: perpetuates the cycle. You get into another relationship and it 497 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,280 Speaker 1: happens again. You think at first, oh, this is great, 498 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,920 Speaker 1: it feels good. Everything's right now. I finally found the 499 00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:37,800 Speaker 1: right one. It's all I needed was to put the 500 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 1: right puzzle piece in. And then you realize quickly, yeah, 501 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,720 Speaker 1: the same problems start coming up because you're still you 502 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,400 Speaker 1: I don't you don't. You don't have to take my 503 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 1: word for it. You just got to look around and see, 504 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 1: this is what happens in life, this is this is 505 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,480 Speaker 1: what we do. So that's my advice. I'm not digging 506 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,280 Speaker 1: into the problems that you're having. I'm just saying, bring 507 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:02,960 Speaker 1: it to the church, bring it to your pastor walk 508 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 1: through sit there and say what can we do to 509 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,000 Speaker 1: reconcile this. All I want to do is fix this. 510 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 1: It's the best thing for your son, and it's the 511 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:15,239 Speaker 1: best thing for you. And listen, I'm not saying what 512 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 1: I'm not saying. Don't hear me saying, stay together, no 513 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 1: matter what it all costs, stay with this woman. I'm 514 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 1: not saying that. I'm saying. The decision whether or not 515 00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,920 Speaker 1: you should or you shouldn't doesn't have to be all 516 00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:33,920 Speaker 1: left to yourself. It could be done in community, just 517 00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 1: like it was done in the wedding ceremony itself. Next 518 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 1: question comes from Ben, says he Grendarm. My name is Ben. 519 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm a dad to a five month old boy who 520 00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 1: means everything to me, and a husband to a wonderful wife. 521 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: I was raised in the Southern Baptist Church, where my 522 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,000 Speaker 1: dad has been the preacher my whole life. My wife 523 00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:58,440 Speaker 1: was raised Church of Christ and feels firmly about her 524 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 1: Church of Christ. Since we've been married, we've attended the 525 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,880 Speaker 1: Curch Church of Christ because that's where she wanted to go. 526 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 1: But I still feel don't feel totally comfortable as to 527 00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 1: know what side I'm on, and frankly, I don't feel 528 00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 1: like I should be on a side. I just want 529 00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 1: to honor God with my life and follow him. But 530 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,160 Speaker 1: this has caused some heartache in our home, trying to 531 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,880 Speaker 1: decide where we will raise our son and future kids 532 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:28,520 Speaker 1: at church. Any advice for navigating this decision? Things? All, right, Ben, 533 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: interesting right back to back questions. It's interesting First of 534 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:38,640 Speaker 1: all to people outside of this question. I will say 535 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,920 Speaker 1: that having the conversation about how how you'll raise your 536 00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 1: kids and what kind of church you'll go to, things 537 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,040 Speaker 1: like that, those are important things to work out before 538 00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:54,880 Speaker 1: you get married, because in it it's a lot more difficult. 539 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,920 Speaker 1: Outside of it, you could work it out and you 540 00:32:57,960 --> 00:32:59,920 Speaker 1: could go, hey, I don't think we could make this work, 541 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 1: and this might be the end of our relationship because 542 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,400 Speaker 1: of it. Right, So just work it out before. But 543 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,200 Speaker 1: when you're in it like you are been, you can't 544 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:14,160 Speaker 1: help that. Now. My first thought is for context, I 545 00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:17,800 Speaker 1: am a Southern Baptist seminarian and my mother's family is 546 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:21,000 Speaker 1: all Church of Christ. So I in some way I 547 00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 1: have empathy for the situation. I understand, I at least 548 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: understand it to some degree. Not I don't understand your life, 549 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,440 Speaker 1: but I understand the dynamic of Church of Christ and 550 00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 1: Baptist Church Southern Baptist. So as we as we dive 551 00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:41,280 Speaker 1: into this, I want to say, first and foremost, you 552 00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:47,120 Speaker 1: are called biblically to be the spiritual leader of your household. 553 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:51,560 Speaker 1: This is not in some dominating, dominating way, This is 554 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 1: not in some oppressive way. But you are called from 555 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 1: the Bible to lead the family spiritually. And when you don't, 556 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: when you don't step into what you were called to 557 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 1: do as a man, problems happen. And so then you 558 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:09,360 Speaker 1: come to the podcast and you say, look, I have 559 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,080 Speaker 1: a problem, and I want to make sure and that's okay, 560 00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:13,880 Speaker 1: and we'll talk through it, but I want to make 561 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:15,440 Speaker 1: sure before I get into it. I want to make 562 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 1: sure I'm showing you where the problem came from. Like 563 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,560 Speaker 1: here it is Ben, Look this, I want you to 564 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:22,319 Speaker 1: make sure you know where the source of the problem is. 565 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:26,080 Speaker 1: The source of the problem. Is you not stepping into 566 00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 1: the spiritual leader of the household that the Bible has 567 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 1: called you, not granger, not someone on YouTube, but what 568 00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,760 Speaker 1: God has called you to step into as a man, 569 00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,320 Speaker 1: as the spiritual leader of your house saying this is 570 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,080 Speaker 1: where we're going to go to church, this is how 571 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:52,319 Speaker 1: we're gonna pray, this is how we're gonna worship. And 572 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:56,080 Speaker 1: we've already gone down a road here that it feels 573 00:34:56,080 --> 00:35:01,160 Speaker 1: like that's in serious jeopardy, So here we are. I 574 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,719 Speaker 1: also want to point out second thing I want to say. 575 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:05,880 Speaker 1: And I hear this all the time. It's not your fault, 576 00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:09,320 Speaker 1: but the idea of I don't want to pick a side. 577 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,200 Speaker 1: I just want to honor God and mote with my 578 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,359 Speaker 1: life and follow him. That sounds so beautiful, Ben, I'm 579 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,520 Speaker 1: so glad that that's how you feel. And I feel 580 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:20,759 Speaker 1: the same way. But when we start getting into the 581 00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:26,279 Speaker 1: practical outworking of that, I have to say, well, okay, Ben, 582 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,680 Speaker 1: well what does baptism look like? And you say it 583 00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:30,920 Speaker 1: looks like this granger? And I say, well, what is 584 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 1: taking the Lord's Supper look like? And you say it 585 00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,880 Speaker 1: looks like this? And I say what does a band 586 00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:36,920 Speaker 1: in a church look like? And you say this? And 587 00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,879 Speaker 1: I say what does salvation look like? According to you? 588 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,120 Speaker 1: And you say like this. And by the time we 589 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,799 Speaker 1: answer ten or twelve questions, you're in a denomination, you know, 590 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:51,439 Speaker 1: And so you have to understand that, as much as 591 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,560 Speaker 1: it sounds amazing to just I don't want to pick 592 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,560 Speaker 1: a denomination. That's what you're saying when you say side, 593 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:57,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to pick a denomination. I just want 594 00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:01,320 Speaker 1: to follow God. And honor him with my life. I say, wonderful, 595 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:05,520 Speaker 1: that's amazing. But everyone has certain things that have a 596 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:10,160 Speaker 1: proclivity of being in a denomination. If you say I 597 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,480 Speaker 1: don't ever want drums in church, I don't think drums 598 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:16,200 Speaker 1: belong in church, then you've identified something in your personality 599 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:20,000 Speaker 1: that's leaning somewhere. If you say baptism should be total immersion, 600 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 1: or if you say baptism should be sprinkling babies, you've identified, 601 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: either way some aspect of a denomination of people that 602 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:32,480 Speaker 1: you agree with. Now, let me say that there are 603 00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:39,400 Speaker 1: four core fundamental elements pillars that you have to agree with. 604 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,480 Speaker 1: No matter what denomination you believe, you have to believe 605 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 1: four core things. Number one, you have to believe that 606 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:55,880 Speaker 1: God exists as one being and three persons one mind, 607 00:36:56,440 --> 00:37:00,799 Speaker 1: three beings, excuse me be three persons, one being, Father, Son, 608 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:04,600 Speaker 1: Holy Spirit. That is the doctrine of the trinity. That 609 00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,279 Speaker 1: is something we see throughout all sixty six books of 610 00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,240 Speaker 1: the Bible. Over and over we see God has revealed 611 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:18,840 Speaker 1: himself in three persons, one being three different roles, Jesus 612 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,120 Speaker 1: and John seventeen is praying to the Father. He is 613 00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:25,800 Speaker 1: in a submitted submissive role to the Father. Jesus is, 614 00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:29,080 Speaker 1: and Jesus is not the Father, and the Father is 615 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,439 Speaker 1: not the Son, and the Spirit is not either of them. 616 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:36,040 Speaker 1: But all three of them have the same essence. They 617 00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,960 Speaker 1: are the same being. And we see this played out 618 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,080 Speaker 1: in many different ways. In the beginning was the Word, 619 00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,200 Speaker 1: and the word was with God, and the word was God. 620 00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,279 Speaker 1: He was in the beginning with God, so we see. 621 00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:52,600 Speaker 1: And then a few verses later and the Word became flesh. 622 00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:55,000 Speaker 1: We see this played out in so many ways in 623 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,200 Speaker 1: the Bible. We have to understand that the trinity is 624 00:37:57,239 --> 00:38:02,239 Speaker 1: something we do not ever doubt or disagree with, or 625 00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:08,399 Speaker 1: you are not a Christian. Number two, Jesus is fully man, 626 00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:16,319 Speaker 1: fully God, fully man, full divinity, fully human. We have 627 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:20,080 Speaker 1: to understand the aspect of Jesus in his personhood was 628 00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:25,759 Speaker 1: fully man and fully God. Number three, we have to 629 00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:31,239 Speaker 1: we have to agree that you're saved in salvation. You're 630 00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:38,120 Speaker 1: saved by grace through faith, not by works. That is fundamental. 631 00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:43,160 Speaker 1: You're saved by grace and not by works. Ephesians two 632 00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,279 Speaker 1: eight is going to say, for it's by grace. You've 633 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,759 Speaker 1: been saved through faith, and this is not your own doing. 634 00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:51,120 Speaker 1: It's the gift of God, not a result of works, 635 00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:57,520 Speaker 1: so that no man may boast if you disagree with 636 00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 1: that it in any way. If you think that, well 637 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:03,239 Speaker 1: it it also has to do with what you do 638 00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 1: to get into heaven, then you're not a Christian. And then, finally, 639 00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:10,440 Speaker 1: and this doesn't have to be in any kind of order, Finally, 640 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,520 Speaker 1: you have to believe in the inerrancy of the Bible, 641 00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:18,520 Speaker 1: and the Bible alone. The Bible is God breathed, all scriptures, 642 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,880 Speaker 1: breed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, 643 00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,439 Speaker 1: for correction, and for training and righteousness, that the Man 644 00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:25,960 Speaker 1: of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. 645 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:30,400 Speaker 1: The Bible is perfectly inspired by the Holy Spirit. It 646 00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,360 Speaker 1: is God's word, and it is complete, and it's cannon 647 00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:36,520 Speaker 1: that was passed down to us saw sixty six books. 648 00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,520 Speaker 1: Those are the four main pillars. If you disagree with 649 00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:44,680 Speaker 1: any of the four, you're not a Christian. And so 650 00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,640 Speaker 1: whenever we branch off from denominations, we have to understand 651 00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,960 Speaker 1: that it's okay to disagree about drums and church. So 652 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:57,640 Speaker 1: it's okay to disagree about pews or chairs. It's okay, 653 00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:02,160 Speaker 1: although kind of frightening to disagree about worshiping on Saturday 654 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:07,279 Speaker 1: or Sunday, heavily lean on Sunday. And there's a lot 655 00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,200 Speaker 1: of things that would heavily lean on. You know, it's 656 00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,799 Speaker 1: okay to disagree about baptism, sprinkling or total immersion. But 657 00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:20,160 Speaker 1: even though I totally would lean into total submersion. But 658 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,920 Speaker 1: but that doesn't jeopardize your faith as a Christian. It's 659 00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,479 Speaker 1: it's within let me say it this way, it's within 660 00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: the bounds. It's within the boundaries of being a Christian. 661 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,600 Speaker 1: You could there is room to disagree with a lot 662 00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 1: of things, a lot of things, but the four pillars 663 00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:40,000 Speaker 1: you cannot, I'll say more time. The Trinity, the full 664 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:44,120 Speaker 1: humanity and divinity of Christ, the innerancy of Scripture, the 665 00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,719 Speaker 1: Bible being the only revealed word of God and the 666 00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:49,360 Speaker 1: only way we know truly how God has revealed himself 667 00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:54,560 Speaker 1: to us, not through prophets, not through modern revelation, but 668 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:59,439 Speaker 1: only through the Word. And then lastly, salvation is from 669 00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:07,600 Speaker 1: grace by faith alone in Christ. Knowing that, brother, I 670 00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,000 Speaker 1: hurt for you that it's gone this far as you 671 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:17,040 Speaker 1: have literally this is this is what's happened. You've submitted 672 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:23,560 Speaker 1: to your wife to make her happy. You said, I 673 00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:27,120 Speaker 1: did it to make her feel comfortable. I submitted to 674 00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:31,879 Speaker 1: her authority to make her comfy. And now you're going, 675 00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:37,759 Speaker 1: uh oh, I think I'm messed up. So let's let 676 00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,480 Speaker 1: that be known. That's where the problem originated from. And 677 00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,920 Speaker 1: I promise you if it's the other way around, if 678 00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:49,879 Speaker 1: it's done biblically, she's so much happier. She's actually way 679 00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,839 Speaker 1: more comfortable when you step into the role that you're 680 00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:54,799 Speaker 1: called to be, and it allows her to step into 681 00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,200 Speaker 1: the role that she has been called to be, and 682 00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,560 Speaker 1: then both of you are just so much more comfortable. 683 00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:01,760 Speaker 1: We see this played out all around us all the time. 684 00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:07,279 Speaker 1: So I think I could leave it there, and I 685 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:11,640 Speaker 1: think I could say, brother, I wish you the best. 686 00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,440 Speaker 1: And I also would say this, let me finish with this, 687 00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:18,000 Speaker 1: and probably shouldn't say it, but I'll say it because 688 00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,000 Speaker 1: I have experienced a lot of experience with Church of 689 00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:23,920 Speaker 1: Christ with my family. But they will say that they 690 00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:29,120 Speaker 1: are the only church. I've heard Pentecostals say this as well. 691 00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:37,200 Speaker 1: Of course Catholics say it, Church LDS says it. But 692 00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,120 Speaker 1: if you hear people start saying things like this is 693 00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:41,839 Speaker 1: the only church you go to, any other church, it's 694 00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:45,279 Speaker 1: the wrong church. Everyone else is going to hell, but 695 00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,360 Speaker 1: this church. If you hear that, that becomes weird. Remember 696 00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,520 Speaker 1: the four pillars. I told you the four pillars are 697 00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 1: what's going to matter and anything else. If you start 698 00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:56,839 Speaker 1: hearing this is the only church, I start worrying about that. 699 00:42:57,239 --> 00:43:00,719 Speaker 1: And the Church of Christ says that than Baptist Church 700 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:04,960 Speaker 1: does not ever say that. There was no way any 701 00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,200 Speaker 1: of us should be so arrogant to say that we 702 00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:10,640 Speaker 1: have the only right church as long as you're following 703 00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:15,080 Speaker 1: the four pillars, Trinity, divinity, humanity of Christ, an erranty 704 00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:20,439 Speaker 1: of Scripture, and salvation through faith by grace in Christ alone. Okay, 705 00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:23,840 Speaker 1: Well in there, Love you guys. If you have a question, 706 00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:27,440 Speaker 1: email podcast at grangersmith dot com. And I have a 707 00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:29,799 Speaker 1: lot more I could have gotten to today, but I think 708 00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,759 Speaker 1: I hold it. I'll hold it right there and we'll 709 00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,960 Speaker 1: see y'all next Monday. Thanks for joining me on the 710 00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:38,439 Speaker 1: Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You could 711 00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,520 Speaker 1: help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If 712 00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,760 Speaker 1: you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel, hit that little 713 00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:48,239 Speaker 1: like button and notification spell so that you never miss 714 00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:51,320 Speaker 1: anytime I upload a video, Yigi