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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocatesla dot com. Lexi is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for our first day follow up, and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a guy named Daniel. So in a few

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Speaker 1: minutes we'll call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, we need to talk to

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Speaker 1: her about the date. So, Lexie, what's up?

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm doing all right, it's a lot of wondering.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, of course.

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Speaker 1: How long has it been since you heard from Danny Boy?

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Speaker 3: Five days?

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Speaker 4: You're making this so light, you know, she's stressed out.

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Speaker 1: If it goes by Danny Boy or not.

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Speaker 4: But I want to call him right now. I'm sorry, Lexi,

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Speaker 4: this is not a joking matter. When you get ghosted,

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Speaker 4: it's up.

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Speaker 2: It's not fun.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you tell us about your date?

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Speaker 3: So? I guess to start off with he I just

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Speaker 3: really liked him. He was really different from everyone else

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Speaker 3: that I've gone out on dates with. He's he's quietly confident,

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Speaker 3: you know, not too flashy. Uh. He had clean sneakers,

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Speaker 3: good watch. It's like he knows what he's doing really thoughtful,

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Speaker 3: he's beautifully put together, beautifully. He asked really good questions,

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Speaker 3: thoughtful ones, and he actually remembered my answers, so all

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Speaker 3: in all a good package. He seemed grounded, ambitious, and

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Speaker 3: actually steady. And we ended up meeting at a neighborhood

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Speaker 3: bar and there were darts and pool tables around. It

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Speaker 3: was kind of like a casual, flirty vibe area. There

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Speaker 3: was a little lighting, there was jukebox. I really am

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Speaker 3: thinking like this could turn into something. And then we

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Speaker 3: started playing darts and I was really really bad. I

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Speaker 3: shot one and it was nowhere near the board, not

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Speaker 3: even close. I think everything it was like the other

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Speaker 3: end of the room, I'll say so everything. I felt

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Speaker 3: like everything was going in slow motion. So I felt

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Speaker 3: like I heard it just hit the floor and everyone

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Speaker 3: was looking tables nearby, and I, without thinking, I just

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Speaker 3: started going about my dad would have emotionally evistrated me

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Speaker 3: for that, and he looked concerned. He was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: so I panicked, and he I just said, well, no,

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Speaker 3: he was alive. We're close, it's it's fine, and I

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Speaker 3: just laughed it off, but maybe too loudly. I think

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Speaker 3: I snorted at one point, so.

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Speaker 4: You threw a dart across the room, and then you

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Speaker 4: started talking about your dad.

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Speaker 3: I did, I said, I don't have haddy issues. By

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Speaker 3: the way, I'm thinking out right now.

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Speaker 4: Are you telling us or did you tell him that?

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Speaker 3: I told him I don't.

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Speaker 4: Have any daddy issues?

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Speaker 3: And I'm spiralating inside. I think I just killed the vibe.

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Speaker 3: There's yeah, you can't say so. Yeah, that's that's true.

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Speaker 3: And he was really nice about it. He wasn't uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: He just smiled and nodded, and you know, very soon afterwards,

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Speaker 3: we went to the pool table, and I felt like

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Speaker 3: the vibe picked back up from there. Okay, And and

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Speaker 3: then he was being flirtatious again. He was showing me

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Speaker 3: how to hold the cue properly, so there was light touching.

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Speaker 3: We were jobbing around. There's teasing. So he stayed for

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Speaker 3: another round instead of just running away and leaving.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's nice. I mean, we appreciate that. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But I just can't help a wonder if things

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Speaker 3: if it was the dad comment.

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Speaker 1: Lexi is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 1: a dude, named Daniel. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 1: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her

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Speaker 1: and maybe get her a second date. But before we

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Speaker 1: did that, LEXI, why don't you break down your situation

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Speaker 1: again real quick.

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Speaker 3: Basically, I went out of date about five days ago.

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard from him. We went to a bar,

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Speaker 3: a nearby bar, and I think I screwed it up

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Speaker 3: by talking about my daddy issues when I screwed up

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Speaker 3: at playing guards. Real bad.

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Speaker 4: When you put it like that. All right, well, are

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Speaker 4: you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, Mass, speak to Daniel.

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Speaker 4: Please.

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Speaker 1: This is speaking Hey Daniel, how are you? This is

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Speaker 1: a radio show. It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Daniel, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name

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Speaker 4: is Jebel. What's up?

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Speaker 2: But wait? This is really on the radio?

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Speaker 1: Yes it is. Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing you have the way you responded, But.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean I didn't think i'd be on it.

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Speaker 1: But here we are. Yes, from here we are. Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: We always wanted to get you on the show, so

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you're not. Now this feels awkward to me,

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Speaker 1: Daniel calling you today because you know, we do a

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Speaker 1: segment called the First Date follow Up where if you

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Speaker 1: go out on a date with somebody and you end

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Speaker 1: up ghosting them, they can email us to ask you

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Speaker 1: why you're ghosting them. And we got an email about you.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, any idea who it would be?

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna assume it might be Lexi, my most

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Speaker 2: recent date.

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Speaker 1: It is Lexi, your most Yeah, we talked to her.

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Speaker 1: She said she really liked you, but can't figure out

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Speaker 1: why you're ghosting or do you mind telling us?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, no problem. I mean, let me just start

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Speaker 2: off like Lexie. Lexie's great.

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Speaker 4: She was.

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Speaker 2: She was cute, a little bit spastic, which I thought

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Speaker 2: was kind of adorable. She was really funny. She was funny,

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Speaker 2: you know, very very self assured, which I liked. And

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Speaker 2: you know, we had a good time. But there's something

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Speaker 2: she said that just kind of stuck with me and

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Speaker 2: I really, you know, I kind of ruined it for me.

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Speaker 4: What did she say?

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Speaker 2: It rubbed me the wrong way, let's just put it

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Speaker 2: that way. So we were playing pool, you know, and

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Speaker 2: I'm not the best at pool. I'm not the worst,

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Speaker 2: but I had a moment where I completely missed a shot,

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Speaker 2: and yeah, I think she might have been joking, but

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Speaker 2: what she said is it's okay, I don't date winners anyway,

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Speaker 2: and I don't know why, but for some reason that

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Speaker 2: couldn't really shake it the rest of the day. That

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Speaker 2: kind of felt like she called me a loser, which

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Speaker 2: I just missed a shot at at pool, but she

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Speaker 2: kept saying it's a joke. Relax, I'm kidding, but the

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Speaker 2: damage is kind of done. It really kind of felt

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Speaker 2: like weirdly competitive or weirdly kind of a dig. And

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I've had some I've had

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Speaker 2: some bad dating history where people have been kind of

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Speaker 2: not the kindest to me, So I don't know. For

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Speaker 2: some reason, it just it really rubbed me the wrong way.

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Speaker 4: Okay, because she called you a loser.

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Speaker 2: Essentially, well thanks, Yeah, but that is kind of you know,

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Speaker 2: the thing that really made me give It just gave

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Speaker 2: her again. So I've been errinating on the idea it is.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't make you feel kind of takes the wind

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Speaker 2: out of your sales or your confidence if you known

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Speaker 2: a mean.

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Speaker 4: For sure, but you got to feel good now knowing

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Speaker 4: that she doesn't think you're a loser because she wants

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Speaker 2: Well, well, I guess I guess there's that is a

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Speaker 2: light at the end of the tunnel if you got

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Speaker 2: better that way. Uh, you know, I I don't think

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Speaker 2: I'm a loser. I just think for some reason, I

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Speaker 2: just kept replaying that moment in my head. I was like, wow,

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Speaker 2: like that was embarrassing enough, and then she kind of

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Speaker 2: take me while I was down.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And you don't want to take somebody that calls

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Speaker 1: you a loser and kicks you while you're down, Like

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Speaker 1: that was my type most of my life. I don't

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Speaker 1: think that should be your type. But I'm just making

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Speaker 1: sure that's not your type.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not my type. I wouldn't say, but but

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Speaker 2: she is. She's very cute, she's funny. You can't believe

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Speaker 2: she's on Is she on the line right now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Do you remember now how these works? She is she's

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Speaker 1: on the phone and wants to talk to you. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I totally forgot which she is on the line. Isn't

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Speaker 1: she yeah, Okay, Hey, that's the going.

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Speaker 3: Hey, So, I mean that's kind of ridiculous. I mean,

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Speaker 3: it goes to me over that it was obviously a joke.

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Speaker 2: I mean I understand how you meant it, but I

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Speaker 2: couldn't help just replaying that moment in my head. And

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Speaker 2: then I kind of it kind of kicked my confidence

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Speaker 2: to ask you out again, because I didn't know if

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Speaker 2: you really thought that about me. I don't know, like

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Speaker 2: I thought it was like, am I disappointing you already?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I kind of felt like it kind

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Speaker 2: of just planted a seat in my head, and for

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Speaker 2: some reason it's kind of blocked me from being able

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Speaker 2: to reach out to you. So it just hit me

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Speaker 2: the wrong way. I don't know how to explain it

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Speaker 2: other than that it was weird.

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Speaker 3: I honestly I rose people that I like. If I

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Speaker 3: didn't like you, i'd be polite, and honestly, polite would

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Speaker 3: be the real red swag.

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Speaker 4: True.

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Speaker 3: I mean, you lost, you lost that game, you lost

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Speaker 3: that shot. I mean I was just fooling around. I

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Speaker 3: know you're not really a loser, You're just a loser

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Speaker 3: in that moment in time, but I was definitely not

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Speaker 3: submitting feedback on your performance in general as.

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Speaker 4: A whole.

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Speaker 3: And in fact, like I just really liked you. He

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Speaker 3: hate thinking that you went home believing that I was

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Speaker 3: so serious. But Indian losers can become a winner. So

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Speaker 3: we can try this again.

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Speaker 2: Are you saying like you're being mean to me? Is

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Speaker 2: supposed to be a green flag. That's what I'm looking

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Speaker 2: forward to. Is you're going to be putting me down

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Speaker 2: a lot.

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Speaker 4: Good question.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I wrote everybody that I care for you

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Speaker 3: big dummies.

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Speaker 1: Well, hey, Daniel, your big dummy, would you like to

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Speaker 1: go out with LEXI again?

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Speaker 4: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 2: Like this. This, this definitely made me feel kind of

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Speaker 2: like a dummy because I think I got in my

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Speaker 2: head you were pretty great. I had a great time

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Speaker 2: with you. I'm sorry I got a little overly sensitive

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Speaker 2: about that.

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Speaker 4: But.

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, I mean, I do think I like

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Speaker 2: to go on another day with you. I mean, now

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Speaker 2: that how you operate up, I'm sorry, I'll become being

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Speaker 2: less sensitive as a loser.

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Speaker 4: What are you?

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Speaker 2: I think I may have overthought it. Okay, if you,

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Speaker 2: if you, if you care enough to bring us on

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Speaker 2: the radio, I think it's it's definitely worth another shot.

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Speaker 1: A Lexi, congratulations, you got yourself another date.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait for the next date. Where are we

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Speaker 3: going next? You Will's first Date follow up