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Speaker 1: I hit one hundred and sixty thousand dollars from my fiance.

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Speaker 2: She just found out.

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Speaker 3: She is not going to be happy. Man.

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Speaker 1: That's not like you know, losing your keys, or like

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Speaker 1: finding twenty bucks in the laundry, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Or losing twenty bucks in the laundry. That is a

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Speaker 3: down payment on a nice house or baby, a house

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Speaker 3: in some places, or a boat, a big boat, a yacht.

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Speaker 2: The question is why. That's what we're here to find out.

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Speaker 3: Let's find out.

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Speaker 1: I recently got engaged in my fiance after two years

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Speaker 1: of dating and told her that we should probably start

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Speaker 1: looking at houses. She told me that we didn't have

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Speaker 1: the money for a deposit on a mortgage, but I

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Speaker 1: personally have a lot of money in savings. It's a

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Speaker 1: little bit more than one hundred and sixty thousand dollars.

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Speaker 3: Shit, man has been financially savvy, more.

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Speaker 2: Bread than a baker.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend was initially just shocked because it's a lot

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Speaker 1: of money for a twenty four year old to have saved.

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Speaker 3: That is correct, twenty four What were you doing right?

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Speaker 3: I know, like we need to step our game up

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Speaker 3: over here with yea bro. After a couple of days,

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Speaker 3: she began to be annoyed at me. She felt like

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Speaker 3: I was hiding this from her. I told her that

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Speaker 3: I didn't hide it from her.

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Speaker 1: I was just raised not to talk about personal finances

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Speaker 1: with anyone other than someone you were married to, and

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Speaker 1: I figured engaged is close enough that I'm now happy

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Speaker 1: to talk about it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he could have waited until the wedding vows were finished,

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Speaker 3: though you're lucky that he told you when you bopped

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Speaker 3: the question.

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Speaker 2: He could have he could have waited until the divorce papers.

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Speaker 3: We're sorry, exactly.

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Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I also said that I had actually used these savings

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Speaker 1: to help her before. I've paid her rent a few

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Speaker 1: times when she couldn't, and paid a couple thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: for her dog to get surgery. She was still quite

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Speaker 1: angry and has been giving me the silent treatment for

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Speaker 1: the past day.

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Speaker 3: He's getting the silent treatment before paying for her rent,

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Speaker 3: her dog surgery, and just for having a bunch of

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Speaker 3: money in the bank, Like isn't that like a happy thing? Like?

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Speaker 3: Oh shit, we are now richer than I thought we were.

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Speaker 1: There's only one solution to this problem, Sam, It is

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Speaker 1: a one hundred and sixty one thousand dollar check with

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Speaker 1: my name on it, and then divorce, give me all

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Speaker 1: your money, and then out divars.

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Speaker 3: We got it, boys, we got the plan.

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Speaker 2: My parents didn't see the problem. Duh.

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Speaker 1: Her parents understand my perspective, but I think I should

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Speaker 1: have told her when we moved in together last year.

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Speaker 1: None of our friends know because I don't feel comfortable

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Speaker 1: talking about it with them. I've already asked her if

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Speaker 1: we can talk about it when she's ready, and she

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Speaker 1: said she'd let me know when she was. I don't

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Speaker 1: think this is relationship ending, but I know she probably

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Speaker 1: wants me to admit that I was wrong. I don't

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Speaker 1: think I've done anything wrong, So I'm asking you, guys,

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Speaker 1: more so out of curiosity for what you think.

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Speaker 3: I don't think he's done anything wrong. He literally told

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Speaker 3: her when we were about to be married, when the

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Speaker 3: finances are combined. I don't understand what's wrong with that.

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Speaker 2: I think that's fine.

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Speaker 1: Also the fact that he paid a couple months of rent,

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Speaker 1: he paid for the dog surgery.

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Speaker 3: What's the deal here? Come on?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we have an update.

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Speaker 3: There's that Josie wi oh that I'll get it.

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Speaker 1: Though it actually an update with some comments commenter, might

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Speaker 1: she be reacting to having previously thought this past generosity

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Speaker 1: were big sacrifices for him, and she's now rethinking these

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Speaker 1: situations and how OP presented them. Okay, Op, my fiance

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Speaker 1: and I have started talking about everything, and I'm reading

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Speaker 1: back over this post myself to see what everyone has said.

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Speaker 1: This comment is actually a big part of where I

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Speaker 1: think our communication broke down. When it came to helping

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Speaker 1: her with things. I always told her it wasn't a

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Speaker 1: it as me downplaying to stop her from worrying. I

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Speaker 1: never directly communicated that I wasn't going to be put

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Speaker 1: out by doing those things, And that's one hundred percent

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Speaker 3: Did she want him to be put out?

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with more communication, but I am still

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Speaker 1: kind of lacking seeing what wrong could have happened from this.

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Speaker 1: You know, like he is more secure than you thought.

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Speaker 1: So oh was she worried he'd become homeless?

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Speaker 3: Tell me if you think this is dumb? In the comments, right,

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Speaker 3: now comment, dumb babe, I wanted you to pay my

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Speaker 3: rent and then you to be homeless after a bit.

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Speaker 3: Now that you're like so financially well off, I don't

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Speaker 3: know if you really love me. That's what it feels like,

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Speaker 2: Kind of, but like maybe it's something I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty confused at this point because I had all

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Speaker 1: the informations on my statements that meant one thing to me,

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Speaker 1: but I entirely failed to consider what it would look

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Speaker 1: like to someone without that information. Another update, My fiance

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Speaker 1: and I have spent the last week talking about this.

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Speaker 1: We started talking about it the day after my post.

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Speaker 1: There was actually a lot to go through because she

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Speaker 2: Okay, now I think we're going to get to the

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Speaker 2: bottom of this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think there's something below the surface that we're

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Speaker 2: I'm detecting something. I feel a nice bert coming on.

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Speaker 3: Let's buppet though.

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Speaker 1: When we started talking, I told her about the post

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Speaker 1: very quickly. She was initially put out by me making

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Speaker 1: something egregiously wrong, and I let her read through it

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Speaker 1: at her own pace that she was more okay with it,

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Speaker 1: though I did warn her that a lot of comments

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Speaker 3: Hey, as reddit does, Reddit got a reddityp After she'd.

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Speaker 1: Read through the post, we looked at a few comments

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Speaker 1: The main thing we talked about from the post was

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Speaker 1: the silent treatment. She was very apologetic and let me

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that was the silent treatment. I thought

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Speaker 1: it was the silent delivery.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly exactly. I thought you would just like understand

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Speaker 3: my body language that everything was okay.

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Speaker 2: Sam. When I say you don't know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: I know what you mean. But we have telepathy.

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Speaker 1: That's true. Now everyone can be telepathic podcast hosts like us.

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Speaker 1: We can't forget that.

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Speaker 3: No, they're not built like us.

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Speaker 2: She said that she.

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Speaker 1: Was just struggling to parse through a lot of thoughts

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Speaker 1: part of where communication broke down was my felippancy when

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Speaker 1: it came to helping her with money Previously, to me,

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Speaker 1: it was showing that I was able to do it

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Speaker 1: without hurting myself financially. To her, it was me trying

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Speaker 1: to stop her from worrying.

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Speaker 3: Bro Man's giving her his money and she's upset about him.

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Speaker 4: What.

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Speaker 3: This is ridiculous. Also, I don't think Opie should be

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Speaker 3: apologizing for any of this. This is ridiculous. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: am annoyed with how Opie's partner thinks she should be treated. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because it's just like, it's like, I want you to

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Speaker 3: give me money. That's like it feels That's what it

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's like OPI goes to Coldstone, gets

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Speaker 1: like a frickin' triple decker, amazing ice cream, brings it home.

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Speaker 2: Hey, honey, you have a great surprise. Here's your favorite treat.

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Speaker 1: And then she's like, but there's no sprinkles, And I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, where's my sprinkles. I'm gonna throw this in the trash.

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Speaker 3: I'm still gonna actually I'm gonna eat it. But I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna make you feel bad about getting it for me, yoicks.

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Speaker 1: Without the information I had, I can definitely see why

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Speaker 3: This is so lame. I hate his response too. It's like, no,

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Speaker 1: I have some thoughts about this I want to share

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Speaker 1: at the end of this update. They were also a

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Speaker 3: Real reason, real reason, insecurity, she's insecure.

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Speaker 1: I reassured her that it wasn't a reflection on her,

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Speaker 2: And done something illegal to get it.

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Speaker 3: Broh Man's you know, thrusting his booty on the street

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Speaker 3: corner for every ounce of cash, getting some OnlyFans money

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Speaker 1: Good gravy, just showing up all his ankles, all of

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Speaker 3: Man is the best boyfriend ever.

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Speaker 2: Coming in with all the good stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's given her like every opportunity and like nicety

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Speaker 1: I reassured her I didn't see us as any different

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Speaker 1: We also decided that couple's therapy would be a good idea,

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Speaker 1: not to repair a relationship because neither of us think

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Speaker 1: it's broken, but to strengthen it and allow us to

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Speaker 1: talk about ways to most effectively communicate with each other.

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Speaker 2: Again, I go back to the ice cream analogy.

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Speaker 1: It's like, remember that you like sprinkles, and I should

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Speaker 3: It says, what it really is is it's born out

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Speaker 1: I was a me, a peasant pushing my orange cart

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Speaker 5: I thought we were both pushing that orange cut turned

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Speaker 2: You were the king and I was the dirty peasant.

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Speaker 3: I think this is just like insecurity showing up. But

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Speaker 3: I would love to know what you guys think. Did

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Speaker 1: I will say it is kind of a weird gray

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Speaker 1: area for dating couples. That was like, Okay, how much

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Speaker 3: I'd like dated a bunch of fresh girls for some reason.

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Speaker 3: And one of the girlfriends that I had said, I'm

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Speaker 3: like her family familial situation came up in terms of

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Speaker 3: and I also don't think it's like super important to know.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not a need to know.

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Speaker 1: It is good to communicate financially going into marriage like

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Speaker 1: basically Opie was doing. But it's uh dating, it's different.

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Speaker 1: But let us know what you think in the comments below.

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Speaker 3: Let us know. Put it down and we'll see it.

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Speaker 3: So this is an episode from deep within the archives.

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Speaker 4: Time for okop rework. My ex and my vet stole

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Speaker 4: my dog. So I'm getting the rather freaking bullies involved. Freeze, Freeze,

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Speaker 4: that's my dog.

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Speaker 1: Give me the puppy, give me it, puppy in a bag.

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Speaker 3: If you put my pup down, I'm putting you down. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'm beyond shocked something like this could happen. Beyond shocked.

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Speaker 3: What's beyond shocked? Electrofat that's right. My ex called the

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Speaker 3: I have the bill of sale, all the original documents,

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Speaker 3: worried about the court case going very far. It's mostly

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Speaker 3: X sounds terrible already, very much.

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Speaker 3: Before I got to my vet appointment, I got a

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Speaker 3: notification email from a microchip registry that my pet had

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Speaker 3: asked why I was getting the cification because I did

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Speaker 3: They weigh the dog, put us in the exam room

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Speaker 3: and said the VET was running a bit behind. But

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Speaker 3: I get a free nail trim with my appointment, so hey,

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Speaker 3: maybe that's why. Not bad Again, should have gone with

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Speaker 3: my gut. But they took him to the back and

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Speaker 3: brought me his leash and told me he was registered

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Speaker 3: as stolen and it has been reunited with his owner. Oh,

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Speaker 3: he's like, betch, this.

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Speaker 5: Is my dog.

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Speaker 1: Like no, no, no, you stole him from me. That's what's

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Speaker 1: been stolen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you are the culprits, they said. The police are

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Speaker 3: outside if I have any questions. Damn, that's bold, that's

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Speaker 3: too much, I said, ma'am. The chip is registered to me.

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Speaker 3: And I have the original bill of sale and all

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Speaker 3: his paperwork. He is, in fact my dog, not my exes.

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Speaker 3: She told me, well, you registered him two days ago,

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Speaker 3: and it was already registered to her before.

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Speaker 2: That, so it's still to him.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if that even well. Op, He says,

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Speaker 3: this is completely untrue, So I assume she's basing this

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Speaker 3: because I paid for the chip and it was not

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Speaker 1: Wow, I'm just shocked that like Op's X could convince

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Speaker 3: Yeah, freaking just.

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Speaker 1: Like he stole the dog and it's like, okay, we

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Speaker 1: won't do any paperwork, It's okay.

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Speaker 3: Crying A crying girl can convince a lot of people

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Speaker 3: a lot of things.

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Speaker 2: This is true.

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Speaker 3: The police, of course, tell me this is a civil

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Speaker 3: matter and they're only here to keep the peace. There's

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Speaker 3: nothing they can do. So essentially the VET did their

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Speaker 3: portion as I plan the case to get my dog back.

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Speaker 3: But is there any action I can take against the

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Speaker 3: VET for intervening this way? Like breaking patient doctor confidentiality

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Speaker 3: or stealing my freaking dog.

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Speaker 1: This, I mean, I'm just also, I'm like, I've had

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Speaker 2: They age in a vet in a crime of stealing, Like, dude,

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Speaker 2: where was this energy?

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Speaker 3: We just i mean props to the vet for forgiven

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Speaker 3: a shit but also given a ship to the wrong person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Literally, it's like do this, Like it sounds like there's

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Speaker 1: the chip, there's the records, like do the most basic

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Speaker 3: But also I feel like this X is like a

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Speaker 3: master liar. Yeah, to be able to get through it,

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Speaker 3: because there's probably some security checks that they had to do,

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Speaker 3: like pretty impressive, honestly secret agent material right here. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: put her in.

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Speaker 1: You you can put the animal in without any pecks,

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Speaker 3: What checks do you need to take out an animal? Though?

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Speaker 1: I mean typically it's like if you brought there, if

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Speaker 1: and then it's like you just give your name and stuff.

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Speaker 1: But they don't ask you for like documents of like

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Speaker 3: So tech. So it sounds like I could just go

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Speaker 3: to the vet and be like, Yo, I'm gonna start

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Speaker 3: crying and like this is my dog.

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Speaker 1: I just pick up a random dog. Well you actually,

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Speaker 1: if you just pick up a random dog, amistry, you could.

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Speaker 2: Just take this dog.

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Speaker 1: That is true, but then it would you would have

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Speaker 1: like a point of like no check the vet, like

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Speaker 1: it was registered under my name. Just literally it's a

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Speaker 1: new our new, newest TikTok channel is just stealing people's

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Speaker 1: tests bringing to the vet.

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Speaker 3: So we have a record record that our name is

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Speaker 3: associated with the dog that we're gonna be called the

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Speaker 3: dog nappers. The dog nappers a such wholesome content. You're

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Speaker 3: welcome everybody coming to a TikTok channel near you.

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Speaker 2: That's all right,